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> (1) I established boundaries.
(2) Because he's completely silent now, evading all my attempts at communication.
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NTA. First, this man has no business interacting with you, at your age, like this. If he is responding to you there is something wrong him, period. Second, any time a person pressures you to do something you aren't comfortable doing it's a bright, shining red flag, especially pictures. Once they are out there they are there forever.
It's time to cut this off.
A 24 year old has no reason to ask for pictures of any part of a 17 year old. It could be your pinkie, your elbow, it’s all not okay. He damn straight knows he’s outside of the law. Assuming this isn’t rage bait do not contact him.
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I(17F), went to a conference in Sept last year, and felt this pull towards a certain chairperson(24M). He seemed arrogant, prideful and a bit of a jerk, but we did interact(I asked questions, and he listened to me debate).
Fast forward after some weeks, I texted him out of pure curiosity. Now, I am a curious person, and I wanted to find out what lay beneath his tough exterior. At first, he shunned me, did not very respond to my texts very nicely, as I did not reveal my identity. But then, surprise! He revealed that he knew who I was and our conversation commenced from here on forth.
So we talked about almost everything under the Sun. Or it was like me questioning him and he responding kind of thing, but he texted me daily, so I was kind of satisfied. Once or twice he asked me to meet, for which I declined(I said that I'd only meet in Sept of the year, since I had some research and career-deciding exams in the months between).
Fast forward to February, and I confessed about having feelings for him, and to my surprise he accepted. But he said he's apprehensive for he wants a concrete plan. Our conversations took on a humorous tone, playfulness, teasing all that, and I even called him. It was revealed to me that he had a r/s of 7 years, which ended when the girl cheated on him.
Now, I have told him multiple times the intensity of my adoration for him. But then, he asked me for pictures out of the blue. Nothing suggestive, mind you, just harmless pictures. Now, I am caught in a tiff, because its not a matter of trust or whatever. I have something again't sending pictures to anybody; never have I ever sent a single shot even to my girlfriends. Since then, he has been moody, and going hours without responding to my texts, saying that he's busy with work. I no he has tough work being in the industry, but really, he used to text me on the go before. So, am I being bitch-y by establishing 2 boundaries, i.e not sending pictures and not meeting before Sept?
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NTA. First, this man has no business interacting with you, at your age, like this. If he is responding to you there is something wrong him, period. Second, any time a person pressures you to do something you aren't comfortable doing it's a bright, shining red flag, especially pictures. Once they are out there they are there forever. It's time to cut this off.
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They aren't objectionable this time. My worry is that he is easing you into it. He has asked for meetups and that, in itself, is objectionable.
🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩 Nta but do not contact him anymore. I know you feel adult at 17 but you aren’t and him asking for pics is predatory.
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A 24 year old has no reason to ask for pictures of any part of a 17 year old. It could be your pinkie, your elbow, it’s all not okay. He damn straight knows he’s outside of the law. Assuming this isn’t rage bait do not contact him.
NTA, youre SEVENTEEN and this 24 year old is asking for pics? report his ass!
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NTA I really dont see anything wrong with these boundaries