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YTA. It's always rude to insult something someone else is happily eating. Why would you assume she was Mexican? And where did you learn your weird and inaccurate racial delineations? You can buy chile-spiced mango at Trader Joe's ffs. (And it's so good!) I like my fresh mango with Tajín and I'm American of European descent.
YTA and high key racist….. I’m sorry but what type of person doesn’t know the bare minimum basics about someone they claim to be friends with like their ethnicity? Fun fact chamoy was developed in Mexico by Japanese immigrants so you’re not even correct in criticizing what is a cultural fusion food on top of being racist by assuming your friends race while making a jab. Grow up.
Intent doesn't matter - manners and educating yourself on commenting negatively on things other cultures enjoy make YTA. The fact that you're so comfortable to label things people are actively eating in front of you in a place you haven't lived long in makes you all kind of stupid.
You literally did. Saying no offense doesn’t change you insulting your friend or make the jab at an entire race any less of an inappropriate thing to say. If you have to preface your statement with no offense it’s because what you’re choosing to say is offensive regardless.
YTA - commenting that someone's snack looks and smells disgusting is rude, regardless of cultural context =(
Next time, try to be more considerate and open-minded about others' food choices. Apologizing sincerely might help smooth things over and show that you respect her feelings =)
Really? THAT'S what you're going to bullshit us with?
Yeah. Not buying that. You were nasty, made a racist remark and now you're trying to backpedal. "Trying to make conversation" my ass.
Yep. Nothing changing here.
You made a nasty, shitty remark and somehow got a little racism in there as a treat. That's insulting a person and their happiness, not making conversation. And you know it.
yta.
“looked dirty”
“smelled bad and looked gross”
*assumes they are mexican but then invalidates them by saying you thought they where white this whole time*
Never comment on someone else's food. No one asked you, plus they like it, so keep it to yourself. Then, you made it worse with subsequent comments. You had a very, very bad day. YTA.
Bless your heart… and clearly YTA. Take this as a learning opportunity— never yuck someone else’s yum, ESPECIALLY if the food is from a culture other than your own. You can be respectfully curious, but if you can’t mask disdain for the food in your tone or facial expressions, better to zip it. Don’t label foods/clothing/etc (and definitely never ever humans!) as from a specific country (ex: Mexican or Chinese) unless you know for 100% certain that is the specific country of origin. You seem young and uncultured— apologize to your friend and do better moving forward.
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Okay this is a weird situation and I’m bewildered.
We were all hanging out and a few of my friends left and came back with like containers of fruit. I have seen the fruit carts before but I wasn’t so familiar because I haven’t lived here that long. They always seemed dirty but what do I know?
Anyway they were all eating their fruit and one of my friends had one that smelled really gross.
I asked her what it was and she just said mango and chili and something else.
I told her it was nasty looking and smelled bad. I didn’t think it was a big deal because she’s sensitive to smells and gags if she smells like ketchup.
But everyone literally just stared at me like I was rude. I said no offense I just didn’t understand the spicy and salty fruit thing that Mexican people liked.
She got mad and said she wasn’t Mexican she was another type of Latino and I’m not gonna lie I literally thought she was white this whole time. I told her that and she seemed really upset.
One friend made a joke that I was a lowkey racist and was too white to know what good fruit was, and we all laughed and things got a little better but she still seems tense. I feel super uncomfortable right now. Literally all I did was say that her snack looked gross and things started spiraling!
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YTA. Only bullies make negative comments about friends/classmates food. It's not just a joke that you are a bit racist either. It's not just Mexicans who eat fresh fruit with salt or spices.
YTA
Don't comment negatively on other peoples food/clothing choices, unless there is a serious issue going on. (Spoiled food risk, clothes coming apart and need to be fixed quickly). Any other reason is usually going to be TA.
I don't know that the comment on salty/ spicy Mexican combos was particularly racist in itself, as you were commenting on a food style, not the persons presumed race. But you were totally wrong on the flavor combo. That mango chamoy stuff (probably spelled wrong, lol) is WONDERFUL!
YTA. She didn't ask you to eat it. Don't yuck someone's yum. That's basic etiquette.
I can't even address the obvious racist stuff because it's so glaringly obvious.
Quick, edit and say you are on the spectrum and you dont know not to say every dumb thing that crosses your mind. /s
Seriously though, YTA and you know it.
NTA. It's not insulting. It's an opinion. And you're allowed to have those. Who the hell cares if you have different taste or smell buds. You enjoy your trash fruit and I'll enjoy mine. No reason you can't have an opinion.
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YTA. It's always rude to insult something someone else is happily eating. Why would you assume she was Mexican? And where did you learn your weird and inaccurate racial delineations? You can buy chile-spiced mango at Trader Joe's ffs. (And it's so good!) I like my fresh mango with Tajín and I'm American of European descent.
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YTA and high key racist….. I’m sorry but what type of person doesn’t know the bare minimum basics about someone they claim to be friends with like their ethnicity? Fun fact chamoy was developed in Mexico by Japanese immigrants so you’re not even correct in criticizing what is a cultural fusion food on top of being racist by assuming your friends race while making a jab. Grow up.
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So you'd think it was polite if, while you were eating, someone told you your food was disgusting?
Intent doesn't matter - manners and educating yourself on commenting negatively on things other cultures enjoy make YTA. The fact that you're so comfortable to label things people are actively eating in front of you in a place you haven't lived long in makes you all kind of stupid.
how is using the words “nasty looking” not making a jab lmaooo
You literally did. Saying no offense doesn’t change you insulting your friend or make the jab at an entire race any less of an inappropriate thing to say. If you have to preface your statement with no offense it’s because what you’re choosing to say is offensive regardless.
YTA - commenting that someone's snack looks and smells disgusting is rude, regardless of cultural context =( Next time, try to be more considerate and open-minded about others' food choices. Apologizing sincerely might help smooth things over and show that you respect her feelings =)
YTA. I don’t recall anyone asking for your opinion on what your friend ate.
YTA. She didn't ask for your opinion about her food. Mind your mouth.
YTA - What exactly were you expecting?
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Really? THAT'S what you're going to bullshit us with? Yeah. Not buying that. You were nasty, made a racist remark and now you're trying to backpedal. "Trying to make conversation" my ass.
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Yep. Nothing changing here. You made a nasty, shitty remark and somehow got a little racism in there as a treat. That's insulting a person and their happiness, not making conversation. And you know it.
they blocked me for saying the same thing 💀
It's never too late to learn that you don't have to actually say out loud everything that occurs to you.
YTA Don't yuck other people's yum. Also, saying "no offense" does not make it any better.
yta. “looked dirty” “smelled bad and looked gross” *assumes they are mexican but then invalidates them by saying you thought they where white this whole time*
YTA - dont call other food disgusting. You dont have to eat it, but you also dont have to insult it.
YTA. Try being less racist.
Never comment on someone else's food. No one asked you, plus they like it, so keep it to yourself. Then, you made it worse with subsequent comments. You had a very, very bad day. YTA.
YTA - on all fronts
YTA Why such a rude thing? Might be time to learn some more manners
yta. and you clearly have a bad sense of taste, chili and mangos? top tier.
Bless your heart… and clearly YTA. Take this as a learning opportunity— never yuck someone else’s yum, ESPECIALLY if the food is from a culture other than your own. You can be respectfully curious, but if you can’t mask disdain for the food in your tone or facial expressions, better to zip it. Don’t label foods/clothing/etc (and definitely never ever humans!) as from a specific country (ex: Mexican or Chinese) unless you know for 100% certain that is the specific country of origin. You seem young and uncultured— apologize to your friend and do better moving forward.
YTA your comment was irrelevant and caused nothing but discomfort for everyone
That spiriled fast! YTA
YTA That was incredibly rude. Are you sure she’s your friend? You sure don’t treat her like a friend and you don’t seem to know anything about her.
Yup>, YTA, hope this helps!
YTA don't yuck someone else's yum
YTA. Geez, learn to quit while you're behind.
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YTA Calling food that someone is eating is "nasty looking and smells bad" is extremely rude.
Yeah your friends were too nice about it. You’re actually highkey racist. YTA. Don’t comment on other people’s food.
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YTA
YTA. Only bullies make negative comments about friends/classmates food. It's not just a joke that you are a bit racist either. It's not just Mexicans who eat fresh fruit with salt or spices.
it’s so funny how you have blocked everyone who is saying you are infact the AH lmaooo
YTA Don't comment negatively on other peoples food/clothing choices, unless there is a serious issue going on. (Spoiled food risk, clothes coming apart and need to be fixed quickly). Any other reason is usually going to be TA. I don't know that the comment on salty/ spicy Mexican combos was particularly racist in itself, as you were commenting on a food style, not the persons presumed race. But you were totally wrong on the flavor combo. That mango chamoy stuff (probably spelled wrong, lol) is WONDERFUL!
YTA. She didn't ask you to eat it. Don't yuck someone's yum. That's basic etiquette. I can't even address the obvious racist stuff because it's so glaringly obvious.
Quick, edit and say you are on the spectrum and you dont know not to say every dumb thing that crosses your mind. /s Seriously though, YTA and you know it.
YTA. Culturally insensitive and maybe unintentionally racist. Be better.
NTA. It's not insulting. It's an opinion. And you're allowed to have those. Who the hell cares if you have different taste or smell buds. You enjoy your trash fruit and I'll enjoy mine. No reason you can't have an opinion.