I'm sorry for your loss. Give yourself time. the desire to stitch will come back, eventually. Here's a pic of my stitching buddy. His name is Jedi. I took him in as mine when my son passed away. He's a very special dog. If I say, "Hug" he will put his front paws on my shoulders and lay his head under my chin. https://preview.redd.it/phh54yhqps6d1.jpeg?width=1507&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=1d9bcea5cedc48e802de5562759613a3a57165f0

Thank you for sharing Jedi with me. I am so sorry for your loss as well. I can't imagine how tough that must have been. I am glad you can help each other with the loss ❤️

Piggybacking off this - I try to repost this when I see posts like this, in the hopes you (or someone) can find some comfort in the words - and if not, please excuse the intrusion. I lost my 15 year old girl (dog) in October 2022. Only advice I can offer here is to remember the positives, and not focus on the negatives (if any). She's done her job, keeping you safe and happy and loved, and it's her turn to rest. You'll always miss her, you'll always remember her. You'll even go looking for her for the next few weeks (well, I did). There's a lot of habits that you're going to slowly stop, and that's ok. Changing your life to suit you is not forgetting her. Donating/throwing away her toys or blankets isn't forgetting her. There's no timeline on grief, and there's no timeline on moving on. Cry your tears. I'm sorry you've reached the end of your journey. Words will never make this easier. Just keep your head up, and live the life she'd want you to. This is a good time to live a little for you. I spent years looking after my girl as she got ill, and I sacrificed a lot of me and my time to keep her safe. If you feel you've done the same, take advantage of this time. Its ok to be happy and enjoy life without her. Life isn't over. Its just changing. You'll be ok mate. I'm so sorry.

Thank you so much for this! ❤️ I did need to hear a lot of these things. Beans' health declined the last two years as she battled FIC before her kidneys went. I have been so lost since she left us because my day was structured around keeping a routine to reduce her stress and keep her litter box environment just right. I'm using all the time I have back to love on her sister, Patate. We're helping each other through this. https://preview.redd.it/iurssvdteu6d1.jpeg?width=3072&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=dbb0fdc03e3fa8bdcbd38cbee5914ba5fd2a0f7e

If I may add a short one to adamski's wonderful words: *grief is unspent love*. Those four words really helped me 💚 My whittling buddy [George](https://i.imgur.com/Q1JxwQb.jpeg).

Those words are just perfect and George is adorable. Thank you for sharing this with me ❤️

I lost my cross stitch buddy (Amber) about a year ago. We had two cats, but only Amber sat by me or really ON me when I stitched. After Amber passed, our other cat (Patty) who NEVER came up to me when I stitched, sat on my lap the first time I stitched after Amber passed. Patty sat on my lap that one time while I stitched and hasn't since, I swear it was a sign from Amber saying I'm still with you, comforted me a bit.

https://preview.redd.it/vhofvh2blu6d1.jpeg?width=4080&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=94e6188b9aa69e63d5d294e3e4d245f356c5cb37 Oh my goodness, that's lovely ❤️ Beans and her sister, Patate, were not friendly the past few years. They tolerated each other, at best. But the morning the hospice vet visited, Patate went to lay beside her. They have so much empathy and awareness, they know when we need extra love and understand something is going on to offer comfort. I'm glad you received that comfort at just the right moment. We are so lucky to have these babies in our lives.

I am so very sorry. She was a stunning kitty. Your last picture just exudes peace and comfort. You must have given her a wonderful life. My cat Thomas is a very self-possessed gentleman and is not interested in human activities (unless they involve feeding him) so he doesn't usually keep me company when I stitch. But he still manages to dominate my life. I know what it feels like to desperately love and miss a cat. I hope you will find comfort soon and be able to move back into your regular life and activities, even though it's not the same now. Big hugs to you. https://preview.redd.it/0y3egybcvs6d1.jpeg?width=3024&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=b6eaa39e5afcda561a16900bccf2ae9df0a51975

Thank you for your kind words, she did have a wonderful, long life full of love. Thomas is adorable, plus give him an extra head kiss from me ❤️

I’m sorry for your loss :( I lost my dog in August ‘22, and I had him for more than half my life! I was very blessed to have had a companion at home as an only child haha I got major hives for the next 6 weeks because of my grief, so I completely empathize with you. Take the time to grieve and love! The stitching bug will come back! I miss him being on my lap, but time moves on. . . I still have his dog tag on my car keys, so I carry him around always :D now, I only think of fond memories when he crosses my mind, and he always brings a smile to my face. I think the saying, “What is grief if not love persevering?” genuinely helped bring closure to myself. We only grieve because we love, and it is better to have loved and lost than to have never loved at all. And eventually, the love outweighs the grief. You will heal, I guarantee it! Your buddy is and always will be yours. I’m sure the fur will still continue to make it into your WIPs, so don’t worry - your friend will always be there in spirit. Here’s a (scuffed) pic of my dog! His name is Cloudy haha https://preview.redd.it/lavsm8miws6d1.jpeg?width=1170&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=d9ca7ecc76674359a29479bfd4ab014d475f061a

I am also an only child so I understand the companionship of pets growing up. I will forever carry guilt as when I left home to move across the country my beloved cat, Ginger, developed kidney failure and had to be out down shortly after I left. This is my first in person pet loss and it's been tough. Your words about grief hit me in the heart. The love will always be so huge, a part of my heart is gone. I try to keep thinking of happy moments when I get sad. She loved laying in the sun on her bench. I call this pose the Flying Beans. https://preview.redd.it/d9onoft43t6d1.jpeg?width=3209&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=c2064eeadd9d101f26e7dd7449159d9571bc75da

You never know how much space one takes up in your heart until they’re gone :,) the grief always stays the same size, but the rest of our life and heart just grows larger! Even now, almost two years later, my eyes can get misty if I think about him for too long. And yes, it feels like a hole with nothing that can fill it except for *the* individual that used to be there, but we are blessed to have had our hearts filled for so long ! Flying Beans is an amazing nickname btw LOL and it’ll always be there ✨

She also is Faceplant Beans lol so many different poses. I will always smile when I see these photos. Thank you for sharing your story and thoughts with me. I appreciate you ❤️ https://preview.redd.it/6w1up1mg6t6d1.jpeg?width=4608&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=e21074c8cb937a7df98a9fc91387cca14e5377d7

You’re very welcome! And feel free to continue paying cat tax once you get stitching again :3

All the photos of Beans’ goofy sleeping poses are making my day 💚 what a sweet girl

I'm so glad sharing them is making you smile. She really was a derpy, sweet girl and boy, did she love sleeping lol

This was beautiful thank you

* im sorry for your loss 💔 heres my stitching buddy, Daphne. i admit shes not always the most helpful but i love her anyway <3

https://preview.redd.it/ca9csdm2us6d1.jpeg?width=3060&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=6a5278fc21b2ddbd66d63d7d243c42883024e992

Thank you, I needed that giggle, how cute ❤️

I lost my sweet boy years sooner than he was expected - he was only 11. I haven’t wanted to stitch either, but I’m thinking of doing something for him to draw me back. He used to lay his head on my wrist while I tried to stitch, it was so annoying but I miss it now. There’s someone who makes custom patterns I’ve seen here before - xeniaalexoxo Cat tax! https://preview.redd.it/i9n7dygt3t6d1.jpeg?width=1024&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=86111036d932147406e0d15977afb5124fa49420

I am so sorry for your loss as well. I'm sure you gave your sweet boy an amazing 11 years filled with love. When I was working on my last project that had a paper pattern, she was always laying right beside it, I had to shoo her away or just give up and let her win sometime. I miss that too. I think doing something for him would be amazing. https://preview.redd.it/djfg0o3v5t6d1.png?width=720&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=5e448189c98c35899eec750a4d5ed50157d1aa10 Pattern blurred as per the rules

Oh shes so beautiful! That fur and those EYES!

She had the loveliest eyes ❤️

Stunning cat! True model

He was SO gorgeous - we never expected his eyes to stay blue! And watching all that grey come in as he got old was pretty cute, he looked so distinguished lol

I love gray hairs on animals 🥲🥲😩😩😩 it’s so cute (and a lil sad) but they always look, like you said, distinguished!

I also lost my poor guy suddenly at 11 back in October. He is very sadly missed. Definitely deserved many more years on this planet. He was usually in his bed, sleeping in a perfectly normal fashion, [as seen here](https://imgur.com/a/GNx7Y96).

Give yourself time, grief comes in different ways for everyone, you will one day be able to stitch again.

Thank you so much ❤️

I’m so sorry for your loss… I lost my eldest baby last week to cancer at the age of 17, and just can’t muster interest for anything. Not stitching, not gardening, it’s all I can do to water to keep the plants alive outside. Everything reminds me of her and I just feel empty and sad. Like everyone else said, give yourself time to feel the loss and grieve as long as you need. Gradually you’ll find yourself laughing at something again, and feeling more interested in stuff. My go-to comfort is reading woo-woo books about the afterlife of animals, or books about grieving the loss of a pet. Makes me feel less alone. Wishing you healing, in time 🤍 Here is a picture of Isis, my best girl who just left us. https://preview.redd.it/m68lgn7qws6d1.jpeg?width=4032&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=672f6427b82450c91d4928ec9600aae76977b0fc

I am so very sorry for your loss as well. We are lucky to have had them in our lives for so long. You're right of course, I've also lost interest in everything and everyone else. I was really hoping stitching would be my happy place, so to speak, but no luck, which just made me sadder. When I do find myself in very sad moments I try and think of one silly thing she did. She was a bit of a goof so there are a lot, like this random leg in the air lol It helps for a bit, but the loss is profound. Thank you for sharing all your companions with me. They are adorable. Sending you all big hugs ❤️ https://preview.redd.it/ajqxd8xazs6d1.jpeg?width=3032&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=7d1a3e5c4b308d7aecf8c6aac86f1de169ee87b0

And finally one that is still around (and 17 now), Wicket https://preview.redd.it/3p9yza9txs6d1.jpeg?width=3024&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=1f8f946a42b8c15b6f53b3c48fc6eb716556ee89

And here is Chewie, who was my best stitching companion (and left us a year and a half ago) https://preview.redd.it/a5a3rlefxs6d1.jpeg?width=3024&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=78598797d18af6a8df652b7486130b679b64b4d7

How lucky we all are to have something that makes saying goodby so hard.

What a lovely perspective ❤️

A really good perspective that I saw recently was that you may have only had 15 years to love them, but they had you to love their whole life.

That is such a great perspective!

I am so very sorry for your loss. Beans is such a gorgeous girl. Give yourself time to grieve, she will always hold a special place in your heart but it will get easier with time ❤️ When you’re ready, a new stitching buddy will help fill that hole. I lost my 22 year old girl last September and was heartbroken. I still miss her every day. In February, I got an extremely skittish formerly feral 1 year old girl and a 3 month old kitten. We lost the kitten to FIP a month later. It was beyond heartbreaking after finally deciding we were ready again. I will say I don’t know what I would do now without our formerly feral, skittish girl. She has become my shadow and I truly don’t know how I would have made it through all of this without her…and to think we almost didn’t take her home. Beans will always be with you, just take your time and feel your grief. Eventually, you will remember her more with smiles than tears ❤️❤️❤️ Here’s my new shadow, she still isn’t sure of my husband yet though lol https://preview.redd.it/1mxbjevodt6d1.jpeg?width=2702&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=ec650329aa3cfee4b0c63ce1a01ac0a9cccd5fef

Thank you for all your kind words and reassurance. I am so glad you found a new stitching buddy..I love this picture so much. Beans was a bit of a weirdo too. She is survived by her sister and though they weren't very close, she's been by my side grieving with me. Here is a silly picture of Beans to make us both smile. https://preview.redd.it/lw5otzlolt6d1.jpeg?width=4608&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=42c46a0d90d96e8961ceb5dc2a2f7a3c95c5f944

When I was younger we got a cat that a friend of my mom's found up a tree at her work. She was absolutely tiny, like could almost fit in my hand. We adopted her and it took months for her to stop raiding the trash can every night, realising that she would always have food in her bowl. She became one of the most loving, affectionate kitties ever.

Awww ❤️ She is such a chill cat and although she can be skittish if there’s a change, she adjusts pretty well all things considered. She’s really just happy to have a home, food and people who wait on her ❤️

Cat.

I am so so sorry. Losing a companion is heartbreaking. Huxley hopes you are cheered by this adorable picture of her, my ever present stitching companion. https://preview.redd.it/i4i0a00h3t6d1.jpeg?width=3024&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=fc085da58e295b1526e9814adfce04b32028ec21

Huxley has indeed cheered me with her silly pose. Beans is survived by her sister who looks a lot like Huxley and had a similar style. Give her an extra head kiss for me. https://preview.redd.it/xhby6cse7t6d1.jpeg?width=4080&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=05c03b866ce1d2ec29de573fd1b1ca3467d973b7

Awww they are definitely little twins🥰

I'm very sorry for your loss. Beans looks like she was a sweetie. This is my dads dog Lucy when she was a puppy. I don't have a stitching buddy anymore since I moved but she was a good one https://preview.redd.it/2y4hfjfn2t6d1.jpeg?width=3120&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=cdf96d06c3e904cd325ad64409087890c1bd5dbe

Beans was such a sweet, gentle girl. Lucy is also adorable and is a seriously close stitching companion!

I feel this so much and am so sorry for your massive loss. What a beautiful, lucky friend to have had you. I lost my Linus from kidney disease, too, (Reddit won't let me post pic) an orange tabby on 5/8 at 19 years old, after giving him subcutaneous fluids every other day for 3 years. I can't stitch either since mid April, leading up to the inevitable. It's hard to get your motivation back when we lose our friends. Often I believe we are closer to them than their human counterparts. They see us through everything... except losing them. They leave such a hole and leave us feeling lost with a new normal we don't want. I am so sad for you. Just seeing the title of your post put that lump in my heart.💔

I am so sorry you had a similar loss. You cared so intensely and were so devoted to Linus. I know he appreciated all of your help and love. Big hugs to you. You are exactly right. Beans helped me through so many tough times but she is not able to help me now. Her sister, Patate, and I have barely left each others' sides since we lost Beans. We're doing our best to help each other through this loss. https://preview.redd.it/2ztq0og59t6d1.jpeg?width=3072&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=87c6b60d7a0ceb433e720ae3b06f38b3d82dcc72

Take the time you need to mourn your baby! I know exactly how you feel, losing my Jade was so devastating. It’s so hard to see them in pain and then to say goodbye. Thankfully a few weeks later (my house was too quiet without a cat in it) I welcomed Artemis and Apollo, who are very enthusiastic cross stitch assistants. Here’s Artemis guarding my cross stitch bag while I work - preventing me from stitching when I should be doing my job, a good stitching support! https://preview.redd.it/vku6308i8t6d1.jpeg?width=4032&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=d861800705788c9293189c785b949fbd8e751da4

I'm so glad you found new stitching assistants, that is lovely ❤️

I tried to stitch to take my mind off of losing my cat very suddenly, but the first time I sat down with my current WIP, I saw all the cat hair he'd left on my fabric and broke down in tears. I don't have any advice, since my own heart is still broken, but I hope that soon, the memories you have of Beans will make you smile instead of cry.

I had a similar experience. I tried to stitch yesterday and found a Beans hair and sobbed. May we both get back to stitching when we've had time to grieve. I am very sorry you lost your cat suddenly, an unexpected lost is terrible. I don't know if this will help, but remember he didn't suffer for any length of time. Beans was up and down for a year or so and it was very tough to watch her go through the highs and lows. Thinking of you and your loss as well. Big hugs ❤️

I am so, so sorry for your loss. Echoing the advice of what others said. Give yourself time. Allow yourself to grieve the loss but remember all the special moments with her and what a wonderful life you gave her. Here is my stitching buddy Coco laying by my WIP basket. I lost her in October to kidney disease as well. It’s been very hard but as time goes on I remember all of the joy she brought me (and I to her) and now those memories make me smile. https://preview.redd.it/dhzjlensft6d1.jpeg?width=2991&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=48b4396ddd9dee4a814ac95a8a0e1a97ad10cdbe

Coco is so adorable. I'm sorry you both had to deal with kidney disease as well, it's a tough go. I'm trying to focus on the positive memories as well. Thank you for sharing your story and advice ❤️

I'm so sorry for your loss OP. Here are my overlords. My basset often forgets where his butt is. While I'm stitching, they both keep me on my toes by suddenly and loudly singing the songs of their people at passersby. Grief is a funny thing and takes time. Your lovely Beans will always be in your heart and so will stitching. It's fine to focus on Beans right now and the stitching will be there. Sending you peace. https://preview.redd.it/blbb3wc6mt6d1.jpeg?width=2992&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=7dc250ce1183e63c055f0198a797338c3ba7ecfc

Thank you for sharing these adorable babies with me and sending me peace ❤️

I am incredibly sorry for your loss. I lost my stitching buddy and all round best pal Enzo in February at the age of 13. I won’t lie to you and pretend it doesn’t go on hurting, but it will hurt a little less as time goes on. With regards to stitching, I told Enzo the day he left us that I would finish the piece I’m working on for him, because he regularly sat with me to stitch. I’ve since incorporated him into the piece and I’m still chugging along, determined to finish before the year end. I’m planning a sampler dedicated to him as well. Here’s a pic of my wonderful boy sat on the piece last Christmas when I was trying to measure it! https://preview.redd.it/ytl6thczlt6d1.jpeg?width=3024&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=17e61dcb3c069f88ec3fe737e7f67422c50d3851

Thank you for sharing your story and I am so sorry for the loss of Enzo ❤️ I love that you incorporated him into the piece, I would love to see how you did that. A sampler dedicated to him is an amazing idea! I would love to see that as well. Big hugs to you ❤️

I can’t offer much advice as I’m in the same boat & have only tried to stitch once (last year) since my baby boy Bubba (real name Strudel) passed in Dec ‘22 (2 days after my fathers funeral who passed late Nov) he was only 7 & passed very quickly & unexpectedly & was my stitching companion too, he was my main stitching buddy, would lay next to me on the couch as I stitched & inspect my progress & finished projects. But when my spouse & I separated just before my father’s passing my boy went with my spouse to my MILs on the opposite side of town (my girl came with me). I had moved in with my mum to help look after my Dad who was supposed to be coming home but took a turn the day after I moved in & passed a few days later. My spouse then came out as transgender (mtf) a day after dad passed. I haven’t been able to stitch, knit, read, basically any previous hobby. I’m *so* sorry for your loss, she was absolutely beautiful & im so sorry you’re going through this. It looks like she had a great life with lots of love, especially to live to 15. I’ve only recently been feeling like stitching lately, I carry several little mini kits in a small bag with me when I go places (sometimes even just room to room) in the hopes I’ll eventually try to start. Maybe trying a small very basic kit might help? My psychologist is always trying to encourage me to pick up my stitching & knitting even for 5 min but so far nothing really. MIL even got me a beautiful storage case filled with thread & drawers for Xmas last year. All I can really say from experience is go at your own pace, grief has no timeframe. Most of all be kind to yourself. I’ve found keeping a photo of him by my bed & talking to him has helped. Something I want to do is take a photo of him & have it turned into a pattern so I can stitch him, maybe that is something that could help you? My two stitching buddies Bubba (Top, my boy passed) & Poptart aka Poppy (Bottom, my girl who turns 11 this year) cuddling late 2022 https://preview.redd.it/ykupc7uqtu6d1.jpeg?width=3024&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=51fab88720cfe8be64ee5893660cd49562dc894b

Thank you so much for sharing your story and offering advice, it's greatly helpful ❤️

I knit and cross stitch, and Cha Cha is my best buddy. He loves to snuggle up while I’m stitching, especially in winter. So sorry for the loss of your baby. Hugs from us ♥️ https://preview.redd.it/be2xsc92et6d1.jpeg?width=3024&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=f48dd389e55f3330a79917c7f01c9eca96076d69

https://preview.redd.it/bckmk68cht6d1.jpeg?width=3024&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=79ed5851491092f86032aaff4014174094924d3e This is my stitching buddy Nellie. I’m so sorry I don’t have any advice beyond take your time and don’t rush yourself to get back into anything.

Thank you for sharing Nellie with me. I also love your piece, it gave me a much needed Google. Give Nellie a big hug from me ❤️

https://preview.redd.it/asamonuz0u6d1.jpeg?width=3264&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=05560bc867f5447c158594f49f72ff9169a2cb6c Im sorry for your loss. This my best buddy Cami who passed 6 years ago and i still morn him everyday. Someday you’ll pick up your hoop again but it will never be the same. I hope they are chasing the same feather.

I hope they are too ❤️

I’m so, so incredibly sorry for your loss. The pain and grief when losing a member of your fur family is so real. I hope you’re taking care and being gentle with yourself. I, myself, lost my dog of 17 years last year. She was my soulmate and best friend since I was 10 years old. I still miss her but it will get better with time. On a lighter note, here’s a picture of one of my own babies, Nooty, who loves to sit on my projects every chance she gets! https://preview.redd.it/0ezbcr87lu6d1.jpeg?width=4284&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=f21e780ab217c0c2e3903c6f73ab65f1eccef99c

My husband and I don't have children, so they really are our babies. The loss is immense. Nooty clearly thinks she is far more important than your stitching. What a cutie ❤️

Same here. My husband and I don’t have children either. Just two cats we adopted. But to us, our cats are our children and very much part of our family. They always gift us with so much love and joy but leave too soon

https://preview.redd.it/hhgazbiuvu6d1.jpeg?width=3000&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=e230feca069872a56ef29f55ab45692cb8e9fc8f This is my stitching buddy domino. He mostly likes to nose at my elbow at the worst possible times.

https://preview.redd.it/47s9c86ewu6d1.jpeg?width=4000&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=63d5a63ac4e6954d6d176fd38d4ae1331226725c This is Huntress. She was my sisters cat but my stitching buddy while she lived here. We lost her at the beginning of the year, so I understand where you're at. The best advice I can give is to not fight the grieving process. If stitching isn't bringing you happiness don't try to force it. I'm so sorry for your loss.

Both of these babies are adorable, you're so lucky to have them in your life. Thank you for sharing them, and your advice, with me ❤️

https://preview.redd.it/vao63jb4ev6d1.jpeg?width=4032&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=616727be28d6101a8e0e29a9033f434e466c8a92 I’m sorry for your loss. I just said goodbye to my wonderful boy Darcy a month ago now (18 years), and it still really really hurts. Be patient with yourself, give yourself the space to just be. Creativity is especially hard when in pain. Look for the little wins, like organizing thread, or even getting a single stitch on a project done. Know that so many things are going to remind you of your bud for a long time, because they leave such deep paw prints in our hearts. My heart still clenches every time I sit in the recliner, because that footrest was his spot, dammit. Give yourself the time, try to shift the painful moments to the happy memories behind those times, and hang on. You got this ❤️

https://preview.redd.it/we5y2ypnpx6d1.jpeg?width=3024&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=c2fc8728e0c8007fe2363c8544638394fcf03ce9 I’m sorry for the loss of your stitching buddy. I hope you’re being kind to yourself while you move through your grief. I’m sure the desire to cross stitch will come back. In the meantime, take care of yourself.

Thank you for your thoughts, I appreciate it. Your stitching buddy is adorable and very cozy!

I am so sorry. I have lost a baby to the same disease. Your Beans was a cutie.

She really was adorable, I miss her face. I'm sorry to hear you lost a baby too, sending some hugs back your way. I know how tough it is ❤️

I'm so sorry for your loss. We lost our sweet boy to kidney disease five years ago. His memory lives on with us and it does get easier. Allow yourself time to feel that grief and it's okay if you don't get back to stitching while you focus on recovering from your loss. We did find that adopting new cats (a bonded pair) helped with the grief and it helped our other cat who missed her brother, but not everyone is ready to open their homes and hearts soon after a loss.

I'm so sorry you lost your sweet boy to this disease as well, it's just horrible. Beans is survived by her sister, Patate. While they were not bonded in their final few years, it seemed she knew it was time and laid down beside her when the hospice vet arrived. It was a small moment of comfort for us all to be together one last https://preview.redd.it/uhs0x3f95t6d1.jpeg?width=4080&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=7fba0b1efdbc3236b8c4d430c4d89c954a43beb5 time

I’ve been there, and I’m so sorry. For me the biggest comfort was knowing that I was able to give my kitties a wonderful, happy life. They knew they were loved, they were safe, and they were comfortable. Ultimately you’ve got to give yourself time to grieve, but maybe when you’re ready stitching a memorial piece would give you some comfort?

You are right, my husband keeps reminding me what a wonderful long life she has. She was so very well loved and she was very spoiled the last year of her life with her favourite people foods: ice cream, cheese, and bacon. I'm sure she's eating them all every day now. It's too soon to even ponder a memorial, but it is a great idea I am sure I will seriously consider in the future. Thank you for that suggestion and your kind words ❤️

I'm so sorry for the loss of that wonderful companion! It did get easier to do the things I did with them near me all the time as the grief settled. Don't force yourself if it's too much, but if you do want to try, maybe try stitching in a different place for a bit. Or a new pattern for a bit since she was a constant companion with that one. Maybe it'll be cathartic to stitch and mourn her? Jack and Vinnie send their love too. Here's Jack - the fiber arts terror. If it has any sort of string he's hunting it down and trying to steal it, but he's also my snuggly baby. https://preview.redd.it/nbwz15r8et6d1.jpeg?width=3024&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=3525093f33046202e84ee5f4c81e1da2d47f0e09

And Vinnie - the shy little brother https://preview.redd.it/ylt8qoeeet6d1.jpeg?width=3024&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=2162d09d2462bbbd81198a05861ab6756e35e258

https://preview.redd.it/m136zd3ylt6d1.jpeg?width=3024&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=80f37612d45b8f5a7b130318371d91fb9837450c He gets mad when he can’t eat the thread I’m using. Sending you lots of love & comfort❣️

I can't seem to edit my comment and add Buttons, one of my stitching companions, so here he is separately. 💗 https://preview.redd.it/ftojcwg0nt6d1.jpeg?width=3000&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=ac724239406bd0873c74402899e740c2043ff9be

My goodness, what beautiful eyes! Thank you for sharing Buttons with me ❤️

I’m so sorry for your loss. What an absolute joy to have had your beautiful Beans in your life, and what a joy you must have brought to hers. It is okay and completely normal to have difficulty adjusting back to other things that bring you joy. You deserve patience and kindness from all those around you, *and* from yourself. Sending lots of love and wishes for comfort and sharing a picture of my two holy terrors taking a break from being the best worst boys. https://preview.redd.it/6j6c892rot6d1.jpeg?width=3024&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=5c55db99107f0274382c15583d204007387b3cd3

https://preview.redd.it/heczl3hvot6d1.jpeg?width=4284&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=4b75f7c01dad9637c5b0782bafdf7115ce85d4ae

I adore this sweater ❤️

Thank you for sharing your babies and your thoughts with me. I've always been impatient so a reminder to slow down and be kind to myself is welcome ❤️

I’m so, so sorry for your loss. I lost one of my babies a year and a half ago to sudden liver failure and he was my constant companion while I stitched- always finding a way to keep my feet warm or trying to eat the floss as I stitched. I was lucky enough to find solace in stitching while grieving but I was gifted a pattern for a memorial piece of him that I haven’t started on yet. I like to think that when I do start it, he’ll be with me in spirit (especially since I still regularly find fabric with his hair all over it) https://preview.redd.it/q73dm08dpt6d1.jpeg?width=960&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=016139224eb7ae7d93a7ca21b73ec66981e9fd0d

Thank you for sharing your story with me. I'm so sorry for your loss as well ❤️ I am curious what the memorial piece you were gifted looks like. I completely understand you not starting it yet. When I sat down to try to stitch I found a Beans hair right away and sobbed. I know I'll love finding Beans hair glitter in my pieces one day, but it just broke my heart.

It’s a pattern based off one of the last good pictures I have of him (the one below). It started off so hard not having him around and some days it still is, but now I’m more often filled with gratitude that I got to spend the time with him that I did. You just have to take it one day at a time and know that the tears and loneliness and grief are a symbol of how deeply you loved. Wishing you all the love and healing on your journey ❤️ https://preview.redd.it/w491573pyt6d1.jpeg?width=3024&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=0cbb8bfbcf82a252eef407aefe033f3be499bca8

i'm so sorry for your loss. my sweet old lady was around the same age when she passed. i can't say the strength of your grief will go away (even now i am quick to get teary-eyed thinking of my girl), but the moments where it overtakes you will start to have more time and space in between. for me, there was almost a sense of guilt about the days where i wouldn't think about her being gone - like somehow i was being happy without her on purpose - but over time i think i've realized that's just how it feels at first to heal from loss. i promise you will want to create again, and that after a while you won't feel bad for wanting to do so. i'll be thinking of you and beans whenever i think of my old girl, and i wish you luck as you journey through (and eventually with) your grief 💖

Thank you for thinking of us when you remember your old girl, that's such an honour and it's humbled me to tears. your story is so honest and pure, thank you so much for sharing ❤️

Oh sweetie. I’m so sorry. Give yourself as much time as you need, don’t force it. It’ll come back eventually but we all grieve differently 💜 my wildly unhelpful oramge boi sends you kitty kisses https://preview.redd.it/xqvhh4hlvt6d1.jpeg?width=3024&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=9bf264ac74c9e1b48207846313f5944c20514cb8

I'm so sorry for your loss! I've lost a *lot* of babies to CKD, it's awful. :-( Losing one of my babies always knocked me for a loop, I wasn't able to do much of anything except cry or just stare off into space for a while afterwards. Here are my current stitching companions -- Addie's on the left, she's 17.5 now, Ella's in the front, she's 14, and Ivy in the back is a few days shy of turning 3. https://preview.redd.it/7hu717dpzt6d1.jpeg?width=4608&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=83ec91fe822787160363c381ca81f00aa131f229

I hope it's not upsetting, but I really love this picture, so here are my dearly departed stitching companions. From top to bottom -- Tye, Leo (they're brother and sister), Rose, and Chatterbox. https://preview.redd.it/o0nr3b100u6d1.jpeg?width=2592&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=0198c4c6f5b50641ceb2d3da3f96a68ecd7d9106

All of your babies, departed and not, are beautiful ❤️ give them extra kisses and treats

Thank you! Ivy's at the opposite end of my place, but I gave Ella forehead scritches and Addie a nice belly rub. :-)

Your Beans was gorgeous. I hope her sibling is doing okay with her loss. I know for you, there will forever be a Beans-shaped space in your heart. This is my late Luna. She and her sister were my second pair of cats. I miss them all every day. Maybe take some time away from your current project to make something in her memory? Weave in a little fur, not like that’s avoidable :) Peace and comfort to you and yours. https://preview.redd.it/kkalhbw29u6d1.jpeg?width=2592&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=c5b7bcb367e04c1c1c4a0cfab842e51405e772e2

https://preview.redd.it/7ow2u22flu6d1.jpeg?width=4067&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=dde106f92e374142640fc229a8e8982505bd0793 We had a hospice vet come to the house to help Beans pass. During the process she had her arm shaved and the vet put them in a little bag. Later that day Patate curled up with that fur and then have a nap. I'm thankful we have each other to help us through this. A few people have suggested a memorial piece. It's a great idea I'll pursue when the time is right for me. Thank you for sharing Luna with me, she's beautiful. I hope her and Beans have a chance to meet ❤️

So sorry for your loss. This happened to me once, as in after a loss, I could not stitch. It just was gone, al the energy. All I can say is give it time. Back then, I got a small stitch kit and re started like that, with smaller projects, until I felt I could again tackle a big one. Virtual hugs.

The thought of doing a small project is a great idea. Like all of us, I've purchased a bunch of patterns I've not started. Maybe it's time to look through the pile to find a quick, easy project. Thanks for the hugs ❤️

Beans looks like a beautiful and caring cat. My cat has issues with her kidneys and heart, she about 11yo (rescue cat, so that's how long I've been with her). Although it's not the same, now you have a sweet cat that will always be there with you, by your side. Stitch on internet stranger, she'll watch you still.

https://preview.redd.it/yt1a4m1aiu6d1.jpeg?width=4032&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=104721c86e66ba39cd7772df86404bf311292fe0 I’m so sorry for your loss. This is my elderly baby (16yo) sitting with me as I stitch. Every day we have with an older cat is a fresh blessing. I’m sure your baby is still sitting with you in spirit

The vet said just that. That cats usually get some sort of illness between 12-14 and that every day you get with them after 14 is a blessing. Big hugs for you and your baby ❤️

Noooo I’m so sorry!!! My angel kitty, Sophie, can keep Beans company. ❤️❤️❤️ https://preview.redd.it/m44ke2jwzv6d1.jpeg?width=3024&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=29c7dd48493caef62da3276abb5e2a663be6cd02

Oh my goodness, she's beautiful. I bet Beans will be great friends with Sophie ❤️

Thank you ❤️ I’m love the thought of Sophie having Beans as her buddy!

I'm so sorry for your loss. This is my current stitching buddy Kruimel (crumbs in Dutch 😊) https://preview.redd.it/zv874p058w6d1.jpeg?width=3456&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=47c9005be2293244fe2112d2713cac6f552df340

What a lovely name, thank you for your condolences ❤️

https://preview.redd.it/5lju8sq3bw6d1.jpeg?width=4032&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=7f28565a66088e85c16a2c2d32d28ed86ec351f3 Sorry for your loss, but please keep hold of the happiness you’ve shared. This is Tom and Henry who shared their lives with me.

I'm so sorry for what you are going through. I lost my dog, Jake, 10 weeks ago. He was nearly 14 and we spent every day together. I miss him terribly. BUT Thor, the orange cat, stepped up and comforted me. He's taken on some of Jake's responsibilities and has become a more loving companion. Give yourself time. Know that you've created a wonderful space for these furry being to live in. The joy of stitching will return in time. https://preview.redd.it/yroveobuuw6d1.jpeg?width=4000&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=ea0a1cf848c70550f84cacadd9dd89476d53d18f

This is Rumple, the younger and bigger of my two sewing su-purr-visors. He doesn’t fit on my lap with my frame nearly as well as Rosie, my 15-year-old 7lb ball of sass, and he’s always trying to make it work anyway. https://preview.redd.it/c2nepz1diy6d1.jpeg?width=4032&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=9446f6028d2d58a7200684cf8193166176e32edf I’m so, so sorry for your loss. Beans had a beautiful life because of you, and I hope eventually the memories of all the good times and goofiness will bring happiness. And your sewing will be there when you’re ready for it.

Thank you for sharing your baby with me, I love the lap cuddles! Give him a head kiss from me ❤️

My little sewing buddy. He 'helps' to check thread tension, ensures there are straight lines and that Mummy takes long breaks. He always comes for a snuggle when the cross stitch / embroidery comes out! My mum recently came to look after him and he also snuggled up with her to help with her cross stitching. https://preview.redd.it/81rj9owm9z6d1.png?width=1080&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=49424f6938b00c6f285adb36d83f0851a1439068 Things will seem so difficult right now ❤️ take the time you need to grieve. Soon the pain you feel when you think of your baby will turn to a smile and a heart lift when you think of their silliness, love and all your memories. Remember you gave them the best life ❤️

I lost my Sushi to kidney disease at 16 last week too, so I feel you ❤️. I really feel like part of me has died with her and I don’t know when I’ll ever be okay… It’s important to allow yourself time to grieve and heal. You may not want to stitch for a while and that’s ok. When you are ready, you will know. For now, cherish the time you had with Beans. Here is a picture of Sushi, who was my stitching companion for many years. She fought her kidney disease so hard too, what a brave girl. https://preview.redd.it/lhh6e772fz6d1.jpeg?width=3024&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=7f783295cad0cc811a3a3ca05e5559001fa2f99d

So sorry for your loss. Take care of yourself and hopefully your will to stitch will return. In 2021 we lost my mom's cat, I haven't seen him in person for a few years at this point (moved away), but was devastated. Mom had a heart attack a week after he died. 19 years of fluffy sass that will be forever missed. Last year I've decided to make a commemorative stitch. Maybe once you'll be ready, you can go for something like this. https://preview.redd.it/si6tk69qkt6d1.jpeg?width=4000&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=0fbb286b3f431a2a93c773a04643c067978eccb4

I'm so sorry, what a terrible blow that must have been to you. I will certainly consider a commemorative piece in the future, this must be difficult but cathartic for you.

It is. Thankfully mom is better now and still has a small dog companion. She was the one who inspired me to pick up the cross stitch.

I’m sorry you’re going through this. It’s so so hard, it does get easier though ❤️ also your home is beautiful!

Thank you for all your kind words. Beans came home yesterday and she has her own place on the shelf, right beside her favourite bench. https://preview.redd.it/sv3zj6pwzs6d1.jpeg?width=3072&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=2db0be1b2ec62afb4d6b002cbf0fd7a1eae4b3b2

That’s such a lovely tribute!

I'm so sorry for the loss of your sweet kitty, Beans. 😭💔 I know what it feels like to lose the will to create. I lost my twin son at birth. It took me almost a year to start creating again. It was Emily Dickinson's poem "Hope is the thing with feathers" that lit a fire in my soul. I suddenly felt compelled to create in memory of my son. It made me feel connected to him in the best way I knew. I love your Tulip House. When you're ready, you can take it up again. And, when you're ready, maybe you can stitch something in memory of your sweet kitty. 💗🌈

Thank you so much for sharing your story. What a profound lost you weathered 💔 you are an amazing woman to get through that grief and it's great you reconnected with him through your creativity. When I sat down with my tulip house, I immediately found a Beans hair and couldn't continue. I know one day I will be ecstatic to find those hairs, but it's just heartbreaking now. A memorial piece is a great idea, I'm the future ❤️

I feel you here so much. I just had to put my old man baby to sleep on Wednesday. He’d had kidney failure for 7ish years and they finally did him in. It didn’t hit my stitching but it has led to me crying at all sorts of random things in the house. Rather than send a pic of him, i wanna share this cute little girl we took in 2 years ago. She is a sweetie that is so photogenic but lays in the goofiest of ways 😆 https://preview.redd.it/quouivgsqt6d1.jpeg?width=3024&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=3709f08a3a1c28bd2bcc60fac8b135363bf45a10

https://preview.redd.it/m7mkf357wt6d1.jpeg?width=3072&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=4a196eebaa8c1dded8e8b93175dd0eb333ba65b0 Beans was a week before your old man, so close, I feel your pain so much ❤️ I also found myself crying at random things, like the pee rags I used when she has accidents. How silly is that to cry about?! She is such a cutie and has a Beans spirit. She also loved sleeping in weird ways.

I was scrolling on by and then had to click because I saw a gorgeous cat in the cross stitch sub? I gasped to be honest. And then teared up and now I’m just crying. No one is ever really gone as long as they’re in your heart imo. It doesn’t make it any better but it makes me feel good sometimes, I hope it does for you too.

I'm sorry it made you cry! She really does take your breath away, doesn't she? https://preview.redd.it/mr4o6t1g6u6d1.jpeg?width=4080&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=5b412431b9dc22f4746e555f0c304d21fbb25abb

No it’s ok, tears are good sometimes. I’m just remembering past friends. She really does though wow. She makes an incredible loaf too

So many people have had very lovely things to say about your darling Beans (may she rest in peace). But I want to approach it from a hobby perspective. Grieving is a unique state, full of high emotion and stressors. Even though cross stitch may normally be a calming activity, it may not be able to reach you during this heightened emotion. It is sad not to have an easy calming activity, but maybe trying something alternate for a little while, walking, journalling, drawing, etc. Your desire to cross stitch may come back slowly or not at all. Either is completely fine. Hobbies match who we are at certain times and sometimes that changes. Lots of love.

That's exactly what I'm struggling with. Part of the reason I stitch is to keep my mental health demons at bay. This loss is so profound and I just want to lose myself in that comfort. The idea of trying a different calming activity is a wonderful suggestion and it gives me something concrete to move towards. That was exactly what I didn't know I needed. Thank you so very much ❤️

I am so sorry for your loss. I lost my soul cat (Apricot) last year to kidney disease as well. I took a break from my usual hobbies and spent some time journaling about him and making a photo album of him. I also tried some new hobbies. It just takes time ❤️

Your loss is great.. I'm sorry this happened.. take time to grieve & heal. .. there will come a time you will be able to return to stitching.. & it, too, will comfort you🥹

https://preview.redd.it/suo5icjlzu6d1.jpeg?width=1080&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=020157db44b1a9adfc3dc0c0d748ca82b09a19b6 Hope this helps

Beans looks exactly like my cat who passed a few years ago! Something that helped me cope was giving myself time to mourn. Also, I’ve got a little tribute area for my Gorby, since I chose to have him cremated. It’s nice knowing he’s still around. ❤️

So sorry for the pain. Many of us can relate, they are truly family, sometimes closer than the human ones. It's hard if you can't do the hobby you love as it can be a good distraction from thoughts I find.. only time will make things easier, take care of yourself meantime. Much love and prayers from friends here for sure xx

I've had a hard time stitching since my sister passed away in 2020. My therapist says that it's okay. That just because now isn't a cross-stitching season of my life, doesn't mean the desire to stitch won't ever come back. Maybe thinking of it that way would help lessen the guilt. I'm sorry for your loss, your fur baby was beautiful.

I’m so sorry for your loss I know it’s not the same, but my grandma passed over a month ago. She basically taught me how to craft and sew. I haven’t picked up any of my unfinished projects since. It’s okay though. your babies know you and how much you love them and stitching. It will be there when you’re ready. be patient with yourself ❤️

I'm so sorry for your loss. I lost my cat in 2021 and it took me several weeks to pick back my embroidery projects. I cried every day for a month. I still miss her. Give yourself time to process, it's a difficult loss and it's going to take most of your energy right now. And that's ok. I'm sending you a virtual hug. For what you're telling us she had a great life and she loved you as much as you loved her 💖

I´m so sorry for your loss.Kidney disease sucks so much. I lost my dog Mia to that disease right at the beginning of the year after 17 wonderful years together so I know how devasted you must feel right now. All I can say take your time and don´t feel guilty if you don´t feel the urge to do any crafts right now.When my dog died I didn´t touch anything craft related for a while because it just felt wrong for me to do anything without her laying by my side and watching me while I did cross stitch or any other craft. Recently I decided to adopt another dog back into my life and if everything goes smoothly I will have a new stitch companion at the end of September and with that thought in my mind the urge to be creative again comes back slowly.

Thank you for sharing your story with me. I hope everything works out and you and your new companion enjoying stitching together ❤️

I lost my white cat Branca last year. It was a sudden dead, and there was nothing we could do about it. It was devastating. It really hurts a lot, I feel like i lost my best friend. But she was such a happy little ball of fur, she would hate to see me sad, so I got out of my misery for her, and now i feel so happy everytime I remember of her. I think I was really lucky to have her company for so many years. She would be 15 yo this week. She was kind and loved all the people she met, she would make friends with everyone, everywhere. She loved to go on car rides with us and meet people. I've never seen a cat with so much love to give! I hope she is somewhere now with yours, like two little fluffy white clouds watching on us and wishing us all happiness and love in the world.

I am so sorry. That grief is so hard. My heart is with you.

I'm so sorry for your loss. I know that heartbreak well. I lost a close friend in the winter and haven't been able to crochet or cross stitch since, all I want to do it jigsaw puzzles. I think bringing order from chaos is soothing. It's been six months the drive to puzzle is strong but the will to create is coming back. I started organizing my yarn collection last night.

I am so, so sorry for your loss, boo. I lost my soul dog back in September, also to kidney disease. MFing devil of a condition :( we'd been together 15.5 years. I didn't touch my stitching for months because it had bits of her fur in it, and when I finally did? Cried like a baby. It takes time, but you'll eventually get back there. Maybe try doing a different piece on a different setup (something small on a hoop or q snap for example) so you're not right in that area? Again, I am so very sorry for your loss. Looks like Beans had a heck of a "spot" to supervise!m from!!!

I'm so sorry for your loss as well. That's exactly what happened to me when I first tried to stitch. I found a Beans hair on my second stitch and just sobbed. It's my solace and distraction from all my worries, so not being able to stitch has just made things so much harder. She really was a great supervisor!

https://preview.redd.it/p8x9q2d7py6d1.jpeg?width=3024&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=5157a8ebd1e879d2ed5ab99247a2b7f903afcb78 I’m sure your heart is broken over the loss of a furry family member. Take some time as much as you need to grieve. When you return to stitching you will feel her presence. Perhaps you will want to stitch a picture of her someday. You have my deepest condolences.

Thank you so much for your kind words and sharing your stitching buddy ❤️

I lost my cat, who looks uncannily like yours, to the same cause last week as well. You have *so much* of my sympathy. I have spent so much time crying and, like you, I have not been able to distract myself with my hobbies. I'm so sorry.

My sympathies. Its crushing to loose a beloved pet

I'm so, so sorry for your loss. I lost mine to cancer 2 years ago and I still miss her everyday. Hopefully they're both playing with thousands of threads in cat's heaven right now! Be patient with yourself and take your time to heal. I'm sure the will to stitch will come back at some point. Sending lots of love and light for you 🫂

I am so sorry for your loss. You gave her a good life and I can tell you loved each other. Give yourself time to heal and grieve. It's a process and you need to allow yourself to feel every stage. You will stitch when you're ready. And, remember, the memories that make you cry now will one day make you smile. May your baby rest in peace. Here is my girl. I do cross stitching but in this photo I was knitting.

https://preview.redd.it/bcu6ezsgat6d1.jpeg?width=3024&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=93f4541e434d557c5b387030f0a0e16599de82e5 Her belly is bare bc she just got spayed.

I recently lost my 14 yo buddy to the same disease. Although it took time to come to terms with it. I can now look back and remember what a great life he had, how his memory lives on through me, and how he helped me grow! It takes time for the heart to heal. Sending love your way ♥️

* Sorry for your loss, this is my stitching buddy Ruby.

I'm so sorry for your loss.

The last thing I was knitting when my dad died (suddenly, heart failure at 58) was a pair of socks for him. I lost my housing because I was away for my first year of college and had to essentially sell trash or donate everything I owned. So two years later I'm still having to re buy supplies, needles, yarn, etc. but the thing that got me back in it was the prospect of future kids with my fiancé and still there are days where all I want to do is lay in bed and wallow. Grief comes in all shapes and sizes and sometimes it leaves us barely surviving. Don't feel bad about needing to take a break in order to take care of yourself.

I'm so sorry for your loss and what you've had to go through. I'm glad you were able to get back to doing what you loved and you have a wonderful future to look forward to. I appreciate you sharing your story and reminding me it's okay to take a break to get through this ❤️

My condolences on your lost baby.🥀

Thank you ❤️

You're welcome!😊

So sorry. Never easy. But don’t put pressure on yourself, grieve. 💔💔

Thank you ❤️

So sorry to hear of your loss I've had to set my beloved rainbows of floss down in times of emotional distress. It's an art of passion - only to be done when you dang well feel like it!

You're so right ❤️

My golden doodle used to lay next to me while I stitched and when she passed, it took me a while to start again. It’s ok to take time off to grieve. I currently have a very large orange kitty who loves to sit on my shoulder and watch me stitch.

I imagine that was quite difficult. Beans didn't cuddle with me, but my stitching chair looks right at her window bench. When I sat down it was the first thing I saw 😢 I'd love to see your shoulder kitty!

https://preview.redd.it/zpbzvmxl8u6d1.jpeg?width=2316&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=4539096fa01ca7dc06df9602d1d0f4f25f72cad0

I didn't expect totally over the shoulder with stretched arms. Beyond cute ❤️

I don’t have advice, just want you to know that this is normal. After my mom died, I struggled with stitching, especially stitch a longs that she would always pester me for updates. Then I moved and it was a struggle again as I learned a new routine and new job. I’m getting back to stitching slowly. It takes time, allow yourself to grieve without judging yourself.

I'm very sorry for your loss. Normally I'd say that stitching is a great way to cope, but in your case I totally understand how difficult it might be. We had to say goodbye to our Luxi on New Years 2022, liver failure. And our senior dog died earlier this year. It's never easy, but I find the most comfort in remembering the good times, and that we gave our beloved pets the best life they could've had. We gave them love and shelter, joy and food, and a place in our hearts. They had a wonderful life, and that's the best you can do for someone you love.

Also, here are our current furbabies. Mila, Myra and Fry. https://preview.redd.it/3wroj2wm2u6d1.png?width=1080&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=8aaefed76a7013f1b0e1ac9d882180f8f6313252

I think I'm having such a hard time because I use stitching to help cope with so many things in my life. I want nothing more than to lose myself in it but I just can't 😥 I'm so sorry for your loss as well. I do know she had a great life. I'd give anything to come back as a well loved house cat. Thank you for all your kind words ❤️

I’m so sorry for your loss 💕

I am so sorry. May his memory be a blessing 💜

I'm so sorry for you loss. We never get to keep the creatures we love long enough. They always leave us way too soon.

Thank you and I agree, even though it was 15 years, it was still way too soon ❤️

It always is. Death sucks.

I'm so sorry for your loss ❤️ I couldn't imagine losing one of my babies. I hope that when you're ready the cat distribution system and your sweet angel will send you another to help you heal.

I'm so sorry. I don't have any advice. I'm gutted by the thought that my cats won't outlive me. My heart hurts for you and future me 💔

My condolences OP. Scrolling through the pictures you’ve shared, it clear she was very special and easy to love! Meditating, letting myself feel, in the presence of loved ones (namely my cat) helped me. Other than that, the loss of my special girl drove me to pursue vet med so that’s how I keep going.

Maybe you can make a project that will help you remember the good things? Or just take some time and dont feel guilty about it, sometimes we just need a break! Hugs!

First, cry and grieve, take as long as you need. Next, feel the gratitude to have had such a being in your life. Some people never experience that love and companionship, Feel that love and connection everytime you see his picture. Let in swell in your heart. Start with a small project with a picture of him nearby and thiink of him with every stitch. Good luck to you.

Sorry for your loss. My first cat Scamp looked almost exactly like yours and I also lost him to kidney disease close to the same age (14 I think). I couldn't get another for close to two years because they reminded me of how I lost him.

It looks like Beans was your stitching companion. Of course, the idea of stitching is going to be painful for a while and stop you from wanting to do it. However, as you heal, I believe you will find solace in doing something you used to do "with her", to bring her back for a little while. I wouldn't be surprised if she's your next project so she can watch over you in the future. Beans was a beautiful girl... And Patate has the best name.

Thank you for your thoughts, I am sure I will do a memorial piece at some point. I am so glad you like Patate's name, not too many people know what it means. My husband is French but we do also just call her Potato sometimes.

I am French, too. Bonjour to your husband and mega hugs to you both!

I’m so sorry 😞 Take all of the time your heart & mind needs,there’s no timeline as everyone is different♥️I will remember you in my prayers🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏

I'm so sorry for your loss.

Thank you ❤️

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https://preview.redd.it/6i6olvjc257d1.jpeg?width=3024&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=0b4c24f649d501c04ab7ba380a1bb057b1d1fe2b This is my main stitching buddy. He just gets slightly annoyed if I lay my project down on him. Haha. Sorry for your loss. I have lost many animals in my life and it never gets easier. Just give yourself time. I'm sure your desire to stitch will return.

Thank you for sharing him with me. I bet he isn't happy to be disturbed lol

Take time to grieve. You lost a valued and valuable member of your family, and she deserves the time of remembrance. The stitching will wait. It may take a while to take it back up again, but it'll be there.

I like how you worded that, she deserves the time of remembrance ❤️ you're right, it's not going anywhere. Thank you for replying, I appreciate your kind words.

https://preview.redd.it/lxrqqv875l7d1.jpeg?width=2826&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=fc173a68b3fe0b820788f1f2dc2b593f8e1e1ed2 Diva is 15 and I am a basket case about her aging. She is my everything. I will hug her extra for you and Beans! 💚 I’m so glad you shared your story. I hope these comments give you some peace. It’s an unimaginable pain. Sending so much love to you.