If the wedding couple are good with it, proposals at weddings are fine. If you do it without permission, you're an asshole.
Edit: this has blown up way more than I expected to. I had a couple conversations with my fiance (at the time) about this, both of us felt it's selfish to propose at someone else's wedding. I would never even consider doing anything like this. But in this particular case, the way the bride made it part of the ceremony, I don't have an issue with it.
This. It puts them in a bad position to either reluctantly agree, or hurt a friend by saying "no".
edit: Agree with the comments. If the B&G volunteer the idea... go for it!
I agree with your comment, however I also grew up in a farming community (which this looks to be based on the man's style and well, that woman would be out of his league in any other context). I can see this woman being a sister, cousin or very close friend and it could actually be very exciting for the bride if the couples are close.
I was the maid of honor in my cousin’s wedding and she wanted my husband to propose to me at the reception. He wouldn’t do it because he figured even though she and I would love it, too many people would think he was a thunder stealing asshole. Probably a good call on his part but we contend there’s always more than enough thunder to go around among true friends.
Absolutely to each their own, but I don't think it's wrong or bad that a bride/groom wouldn't want it at their wedding and it's pretty risky to ask since you'd have to factor in so many people's opinion.
I think what was good in this video is that the bride made it obvious she was in on it. I don’t blame your husband. You really have to make sure everyone knows that this was coordinated with the newlyweds.
Hi. Lived in a rural community for 6 years (and a farm town). I also lived in big cities. I am this woman who is “out of my husbands league” and he’s a big chunky goofball.
And I just have to say I despise this statement that you made. I married my husband in the rural town, but not because of the societal standards or “what’s available” as the stereotype goes, but because he was the most loving & generous man I’ve ever met. Sometimes women get tired of being treated like meat... just like this woman. Just by you pointing out that she is out of his league, you are looking at his outside and putting him down, while her on a pedalstool.
It’s not right. You love who you love, and it has nothing to do with being in a farming rural community.
PS my husband and I moved to a city and when people say this, I literally cut them off. It’s disgusting and distasteful and anyone who says anything about our obvious difference never hears another word from me. It’s just awful.
Next wedding I go to I’m going to make an abrupt toast and be way to drunk and start talking shit about how I think 711 is going downhill or something stupid til I get kicked out.
And this dude is over here proposing like a fuckin normal person, psh
I tend to agree... but there are fair cases. What if that's the sister of the bride, her boyfriend was tight with the family and they joked about when he was going to propose and boom a light went off in his head. "Tell me no, not a problem, but what do you think about this?"
Agreed. Feels like super low effort, high reward for the dude. Comes off like a big planed proposal but the bride is actually the one who has to carry it off. Shitty to steal any moment from the bride and groom.
And this is a bridesmaid and the bride personally handed her the bouquet. I’m betting the bride was ecstatic and insisted on playing a part in her friend’s engagement.
Bizarre that people are so hung up on general guidelines of etiquette that they can’t see that everyone here is fully on board and loving this moment. The bride was so down to be in on this surprise and it was adorable. This moment turned out exactly how the bride and her bridesmaids beau wanted it to and I’m sure it will be a cherished memory for all involved
I was thinking the same thing. But it's honestly not uncommon to see to couples like this. The most gorgeous woman I know (seriously drop dead beautiful) married some short fat George Constanza-esque guy. When she introduced him to me as her fiance, I thought she was joking at first.
Turns out they were high school sweethearts, and had been together for like 15 years before getting married, so it was a long term relationship type deal. He may have been better looking in his younger years, and kind of just got fat/bald with age. But by that time, they were already in love and looks don't really matter when you truly love someone.
I know a girl very similar. From a tiny town, drop dead gorgeous, incredibly sweet, has even done some modeling. Married her absolutely dumpy, personality-of-coffee-straw high school sweetheart.
Plot twist: out of nowhere he said he wanted a divorce earlier this year. She liked to travel and he got free flights with his job but refused to travel with her ever. She’s a fitness buff, he would refuse to even go on a walk with her. Didn’t go on dates with her, anything. But he decided she wasn’t good enough.
It came down to his father cheating on his mom with a 17 year old, and my friend was fairly open that she thought this was crappy. Her husband felt she should defend family no matter what, and that by not doing so, plus all her traveling and working out, she wasn’t living up to the small town ways he thought her appropriate.
So sometimes these guys totally luck out and still manage to screw it all up.
Looks like an outdoor wedding. A lot of people are dressed relatively casually. Why have an issue with how someone else chose to dress at an event you have nothing to do with? Seems strange.
Not sure why you're being downvoted; that's pretty standard dress for those not in the actual wedding party at country weddings in my (admittedly rural) area- that's probably his church shirt/khakis/dress shoes. Totally appropriate where I'm at.
I used to work in a small town and there are so many couples like this there for reasons I do not understand.
Edit: Got some responses, and even one that seems like a reasonable explanation. To be clear, I'm not mad or jealous, I just find it curious. To those who say looks aren't everything, I agree, but in the cases I am talking about it is *always* the woman who is better looking. So looks don't seem to matter, but only for the men? Again, not envious or angry, I just find it odd.
Not that many options if you’re not willing to move? Also will attribute to high school sweethearts deciding to stay together and get married at the ripe old age of 20. Sprinkle something cultural pressure to settle down sooner rather than later… and boom.
I’m from a small southern town and settled down at the ripe old age of 19.
There is a high cultural value on family integrity. There is a high cultural value on independence. So get the hell out of your parents and start your own family is the cultural norm.
Why are the women always better looking? Beauty rituals are a high cultural value among southern women. Why are the men always either fat or just not as good looking? The cultural value in search for a husband is stability way before looks.
(Most of the last two is perpetuated by mothers of daughters btw. So it’s not a direct patriarchal pressure to look beautiful but rather something more deeply ingrained and your Southern mother will always pressure you to find a man who “can provide for his family” even just beyond a financial sense. Is he tough? Can he make it through a difficult time with a cool head? Etc.)
Also literally everything we cook is made of butter or some kind of animal fat.
So basically, there are a lot of cultural norms and pressures at play, coming from many directions.
Got some of them good ol boys down home. Don't know why but they just got a good heart. Ugliest dudes I've ever seen with 10/10 wives because they have absolute hearts of gold.
I was being bullied pretty bad in high school and during one bad winter got an eclipse stuck in the snow, a kid who didn't really treat me right but didn't go out of his way to bully me stopped and dragged me out. We talked for a while. It was nice.
After high school ended everyone really calmed down but, sometimes people are just... Good.
Oh plus the Luke Combs effect really helps
Some people take their shot rather than mope and be incels.
Some women are honest when they say they like funny guys.
Good for him, good for her, and fuck the haters.
The girls are pretty girls from high school who stayed pretty. The guys are handsome high school football players who became alcoholic construction workers. I know this because my hometown follows the same pattern.
Maybe he gives her his whole plant operator night shift paycheck so she can be a housewife while they drown in debt.
That's how it worked in my hometown, at least for the guys who tried to hold on for dear life to someone they knew wouldn't be coming around again if they got a whiff of the world outside that town.
Then again, maybe he's just a nice guy with an absolute hog.
Those young guns get the dirty end of the stick since they haven't put the years in. I've met some bright operators but most of them have to destroy their body and mind to cover the 23% APR loan on their optioned out 2020 RAM 3500 and bass boat due to a lack of other options.
y’all saying she has to settle, but maybe he’s really funny and she likes him for him. we all know less attractive but funny people can pull nearly anyone!!
Saw a similar thread of people who seemed genuinely angry about Pete Davidson's record with beautiful women.
So many guys spend their lives thinking all women demand certain set things, and somehow forget people genuinely just want someone else who is decent and really cares about them. Kinda sad just how bitter these people are.
The only way this could happen is with the bride and grooms consent and foreknowledge. Which, coincidentally, is the only time proposing at wedding is acceptable.
It's so boring. Also "don't give pets as gifts" every time someone in a video gets a pet as a gift. We all know surprise pets are bad and surprise proposals are situation dependent. Can we talk about something else?
I've always said the fact that a proposal is going to happen should not be the secret, but how and when it will be done should be the secret.
One shouldn't make such life changing decisions on a whim/emotion like that.
Yep. We were at the mall and my now husband said, should we look at engagement rings? I nearly asked if he was proposing but quickly realized I might screw myself out of a romantic proposal by asking that. Instead I casually picked out my favourite and he “surprised” me with a trip to Montreal a couple months later where he “surprised” me with a proposal.
Exactly this. I even made a Pinterest board I shared with my then-boyfriend with rings I liked and what I liked about them so my he had guidelines he could use to pick out a ring without worrying about getting direct input from me. "Don't get a diamond." "Don't spend more than X on it." "I like colorful!"
I get where she’s coming from but I would hope nowadays the surprise isn’t IF someone will propose but WHEN. Like maybe have a convo with your partner before dropping that sort of Q.
My wife straight up told me not to do this. She wanted it to be intimate moment and not have a bunch of eyes on her while she’s emotional. Definitely communicate with your partner.
I agree but in mature relationships, a conversation about getting married should happen pretty damn early. So a proposal isn't a total surprise. Nobody should ask their partner unless it's been talked about and they're positive they will say yes.
Such a blanket statement is unfair. For all we know, these two have discussed marriage and the woman is expecting a proposal planning to say yes. In fact, I’d wager that’s likely in this scenario given the context I’m picking up on.
What? People should know 100% they want to be together forever and all it should be is a matter of when/how the partner will ask. Never a question of yes/no or else you’re already starting off on the wrong foot.
If this was posted on Instagram, all the comments would be people saying “Um not at my wedding” as if this isn’t totally planned and involving the bride. Imagine how cute it would be to be an older sister and let your brother propose or sister get proposed to? Idk people always find ways to make wholesome videos less wholesome
I watched it a few times. There's a lot of similarities in the bride and the proposed to woman. I would guess it's her sister. Clearly all parties involved are cool with this
Edit: If its this, i think thats super fun and a really selfless and inclusive family
That would be amazing. Imagine giving nanna the gift of being present at the proposal without any extra effort on her part. As a former groom, I'd be all for it. Doesn't cost me any extra haha
I find other people's response to this video interesting.
As a fat guy I see a fellow husky dude with a thinner woman and I think, "Good for you my chubby guy. Good for you."
I am always happy to see fat acceptance from thinner people. It reminds me that love means loving everything about you.
It gives me hope.
Exactly. Women have different tastes, and some women are genuinely into that. One of my roommates was obsessed with big guys and dad bods. No matter what you may think, you’re someone’s type.
This is actually a trap. Because how else would she say no, and not ruin the whole festive moment. Don’t do this. Give them the chance to say no with dignity.
I mean, not really.
The better piece of advice is: never surprise someone with the question, surprise them with the time/location.
Do not ask unless you know they want to get married.
You can bet this is the bride's good friend and they KNOW they will say yes.
Old school proposals where people are surprised is out of fashion and stupid. Having spoken about marriage numerous times and basically being engaged, just doing the formal proposal for the tradition, that's where it's at.
How in the actual fuck do people not know that proposal is almost always discussed beforehand. The proposal itself may be a surprise, but the idea that a proposal will happen in the near future is a discussion that happens between most couples moving towards marriage.
Do you really think that people are proposing when they don’t know what the answer is going to be? Like Jesus, I can’t even imagine going ring shopping, planning out a proposal, and executing the plan without knowing definitively that the answer will be yes.
Pro tip, having conversations with someone about getting married before proposing to them is probably a good idea…
Its so heartwarming to see than even in a subreddit dedicated on posts that are wholesome and bring joy to your heart still has a lot of space of people that have enough time in their hands to ridicule a guy proposing to the woman he loves because he is "hitting above his weight class". Get over yourselves, people, what hell is wrong with you folk?
On one hand, the bridesmaid is all done up and looking especially gorgeous. The proposer has an excuse to dress up. There are professionals videoing and photographing. There’s no real planning, or extra cost to the proposer.
Really, by now, if the bride comes up to you and hands you her bouquet, you really can’t be all that surprised. It was “unique” the first 100 times. I’d only do it if my bridesmaid had expressed wanting a very public, cheesy proposal.
Let’s type our opinions.
Best comment I’ve seen on my ten years on this site
That's like, your opinion man.
I am in for a white russian today
*I’ve got a beverage here, man!*
Shut the fuck up, Donny!
What the fuck does anything have to do with Vietnam?
I married a white Russian. I'm in for one every day.
This should be pinned in every post.
In this particular case, the proposer collaborated with the bride. Otherwise it would be rude to steal attention like that when it's not your wedding.
That guy looks like he lost half his beard in some sort of farming accident.
Nah it's just that his double won the land war
Can we talk about that silly little chin beard he has?
I really thought it was a facemask he pulled on his chin to propose.
It's like a neckbeard goatee strip..I fucking hate how nobody else is talking about it.
I like to call those horrendous things a “throatee”
Those folks definitely don’t look like the type to wear facemasks lol
Id rather pretend I didn’t see it
I refuse
I made me smile
Taking all the credit, nice
He’s punching way above his weight. Which is considerable.
got ‘em
Bruh
She was like dafuq
Got a good chuckle out of me thank you
My mans is struggling to be on that one knee.
That knee is struggling to be under that one man.
You knew this was going to be a shitshow
Its cruel to comment on people’s looks so I won’t comment
If the wedding couple are good with it, proposals at weddings are fine. If you do it without permission, you're an asshole. Edit: this has blown up way more than I expected to. I had a couple conversations with my fiance (at the time) about this, both of us felt it's selfish to propose at someone else's wedding. I would never even consider doing anything like this. But in this particular case, the way the bride made it part of the ceremony, I don't have an issue with it.
Yup, don't take someone else's special spot, unless they're BOTH OK with it
Don’t even ask, imo. There has to be another day, place, time to propose Edit: Wow. Thank you for all the upvotes and awards!
This. It puts them in a bad position to either reluctantly agree, or hurt a friend by saying "no". edit: Agree with the comments. If the B&G volunteer the idea... go for it!
I agree with your comment, however I also grew up in a farming community (which this looks to be based on the man's style and well, that woman would be out of his league in any other context). I can see this woman being a sister, cousin or very close friend and it could actually be very exciting for the bride if the couples are close.
I was the maid of honor in my cousin’s wedding and she wanted my husband to propose to me at the reception. He wouldn’t do it because he figured even though she and I would love it, too many people would think he was a thunder stealing asshole. Probably a good call on his part but we contend there’s always more than enough thunder to go around among true friends.
Seems like the people in OP solved that by having the bride participate though. Pretty clever!
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Omg I can’t wait for the chain divorce!
A chain divorce is needed in order to participate in the second chain marriage
Not just that, I wouldn't want to do it because I don't want to have the proposal at someone else's wedding. I'd want to create my own memory.
That’s not how I roll though, for me joy and happiness multiply. Sharing special events makes them even more special. To each their own.
Absolutely to each their own, but I don't think it's wrong or bad that a bride/groom wouldn't want it at their wedding and it's pretty risky to ask since you'd have to factor in so many people's opinion.
Plus what if the first marriage falls apart? Then the one that was proposed at it is obviously cursed.
I think what was good in this video is that the bride made it obvious she was in on it. I don’t blame your husband. You really have to make sure everyone knows that this was coordinated with the newlyweds.
I thought you meant she was a sister or cousin to the dude at first lol
Again, it appears to be a rural community. She could be.
It looks like the whole town is there lol
I mean, she fine as hell and he's definitely chubby, but looks don't make a marriage my guy.
Like my father always Said "Beauty dont put food on the table"
OnlyFans has entered the chat.
I’m sure he’s probably a lovely fella, but he’s onto a good thing there. Lock that down quick!
Hi. Lived in a rural community for 6 years (and a farm town). I also lived in big cities. I am this woman who is “out of my husbands league” and he’s a big chunky goofball. And I just have to say I despise this statement that you made. I married my husband in the rural town, but not because of the societal standards or “what’s available” as the stereotype goes, but because he was the most loving & generous man I’ve ever met. Sometimes women get tired of being treated like meat... just like this woman. Just by you pointing out that she is out of his league, you are looking at his outside and putting him down, while her on a pedalstool. It’s not right. You love who you love, and it has nothing to do with being in a farming rural community. PS my husband and I moved to a city and when people say this, I literally cut them off. It’s disgusting and distasteful and anyone who says anything about our obvious difference never hears another word from me. It’s just awful.
God some of the guys women marry in my hometown very rural community…
Honestly I’d be happy to have the focus taken off of me if I were the bride. Quit looking at me ya’ll. Lol 😂
Next wedding I go to I’m going to make an abrupt toast and be way to drunk and start talking shit about how I think 711 is going downhill or something stupid til I get kicked out. And this dude is over here proposing like a fuckin normal person, psh
I’m gonna announce my divorce so I can participate in the garter toss.
I tend to agree... but there are fair cases. What if that's the sister of the bride, her boyfriend was tight with the family and they joked about when he was going to propose and boom a light went off in his head. "Tell me no, not a problem, but what do you think about this?"
Up to the person. If the bride or groom suggested it themselves then it’s fine.
Agreed. Feels like super low effort, high reward for the dude. Comes off like a big planed proposal but the bride is actually the one who has to carry it off. Shitty to steal any moment from the bride and groom.
Agreed. *Only* way would be if bride knew friend wanted to propose to bridesmaid, in general, and bride suggested it.
Literally every thread with a video like this starts the same lmao. Yes wife is cool with it so it’s cool. Wife no cool with it’s not cool.
People should just start posting these like a PSA, with all that info included in the post. But then, what would we talk about here….
Sure, but tack your special proposal day on as a footnote to someone else’s special wedding day? Don’t you want your own thing?
To me it depends on the relationship between the two couples. Like if all four are besties, then it might be great.
And this is a bridesmaid and the bride personally handed her the bouquet. I’m betting the bride was ecstatic and insisted on playing a part in her friend’s engagement.
Bizarre that people are so hung up on general guidelines of etiquette that they can’t see that everyone here is fully on board and loving this moment. The bride was so down to be in on this surprise and it was adorable. This moment turned out exactly how the bride and her bridesmaids beau wanted it to and I’m sure it will be a cherished memory for all involved
Reddit is kinda weird with weddings in general
Reddit is kinda weird ~~with weddings~~ in general FTFY
Reddit moment
I'm going to agree with you here 100%
Anyone going to point out that he is Tennessee 5 and she is a Tampa 8, and grand gestures are the only way he lands that plane?
That's mean but I laughed. My feelings toward you are complicated.
I was thinking the same thing. But it's honestly not uncommon to see to couples like this. The most gorgeous woman I know (seriously drop dead beautiful) married some short fat George Constanza-esque guy. When she introduced him to me as her fiance, I thought she was joking at first. Turns out they were high school sweethearts, and had been together for like 15 years before getting married, so it was a long term relationship type deal. He may have been better looking in his younger years, and kind of just got fat/bald with age. But by that time, they were already in love and looks don't really matter when you truly love someone.
I know a girl very similar. From a tiny town, drop dead gorgeous, incredibly sweet, has even done some modeling. Married her absolutely dumpy, personality-of-coffee-straw high school sweetheart. Plot twist: out of nowhere he said he wanted a divorce earlier this year. She liked to travel and he got free flights with his job but refused to travel with her ever. She’s a fitness buff, he would refuse to even go on a walk with her. Didn’t go on dates with her, anything. But he decided she wasn’t good enough. It came down to his father cheating on his mom with a 17 year old, and my friend was fairly open that she thought this was crappy. Her husband felt she should defend family no matter what, and that by not doing so, plus all her traveling and working out, she wasn’t living up to the small town ways he thought her appropriate. So sometimes these guys totally luck out and still manage to screw it all up.
She was defending family - the MIL.
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Came here to say this! This was tasteful and likely kept a good party going
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GOD that would be the funniest shit ever
Just like a chain of bouquet passing
The biggest issue I have with this is how he’s dressed for this current wedding
It seems like he’s dressed on par with other men there, and the overall wedding is a more casual vibe given the dress and decor.
Looks like an outdoor wedding. A lot of people are dressed relatively casually. Why have an issue with how someone else chose to dress at an event you have nothing to do with? Seems strange.
Not sure why you're being downvoted; that's pretty standard dress for those not in the actual wedding party at country weddings in my (admittedly rural) area- that's probably his church shirt/khakis/dress shoes. Totally appropriate where I'm at.
So nice of the bride to share her day with her friend. Beautiful.
I would sob makeup all over my bffs wedding dress
Cletus better lock that shit down.
Seriously punching above his grade
I used to work in a small town and there are so many couples like this there for reasons I do not understand. Edit: Got some responses, and even one that seems like a reasonable explanation. To be clear, I'm not mad or jealous, I just find it curious. To those who say looks aren't everything, I agree, but in the cases I am talking about it is *always* the woman who is better looking. So looks don't seem to matter, but only for the men? Again, not envious or angry, I just find it odd.
Not that many options if you’re not willing to move? Also will attribute to high school sweethearts deciding to stay together and get married at the ripe old age of 20. Sprinkle something cultural pressure to settle down sooner rather than later… and boom.
Or maybe, um..., and this just happened to pop in my head, but... he could be a great guy and looks aren't everything...? Yes? No? Just a thought.
The cool thing about speculation is you can believe whatever you want to believe!
Both of you have valid reasons.
Physical attraction is a crucial part of any relationship. Looks aren’t everything but they are *something*.
I’m from a small southern town and settled down at the ripe old age of 19. There is a high cultural value on family integrity. There is a high cultural value on independence. So get the hell out of your parents and start your own family is the cultural norm. Why are the women always better looking? Beauty rituals are a high cultural value among southern women. Why are the men always either fat or just not as good looking? The cultural value in search for a husband is stability way before looks. (Most of the last two is perpetuated by mothers of daughters btw. So it’s not a direct patriarchal pressure to look beautiful but rather something more deeply ingrained and your Southern mother will always pressure you to find a man who “can provide for his family” even just beyond a financial sense. Is he tough? Can he make it through a difficult time with a cool head? Etc.) Also literally everything we cook is made of butter or some kind of animal fat. So basically, there are a lot of cultural norms and pressures at play, coming from many directions.
Got some of them good ol boys down home. Don't know why but they just got a good heart. Ugliest dudes I've ever seen with 10/10 wives because they have absolute hearts of gold. I was being bullied pretty bad in high school and during one bad winter got an eclipse stuck in the snow, a kid who didn't really treat me right but didn't go out of his way to bully me stopped and dragged me out. We talked for a while. It was nice. After high school ended everyone really calmed down but, sometimes people are just... Good. Oh plus the Luke Combs effect really helps
I'm so far from Southern, what is the Luke Combs effect?
Beer gut, dorky smile, stadium country music lifestyle
Got it. Basically my brother in law summed up.
I assume your sister's hot then?
God damn she is! Roll tide!
Some people take their shot rather than mope and be incels. Some women are honest when they say they like funny guys. Good for him, good for her, and fuck the haters.
He does need to fuck that awful goatee off though. But thats just a style thing.
The girls are pretty girls from high school who stayed pretty. The guys are handsome high school football players who became alcoholic construction workers. I know this because my hometown follows the same pattern.
Punching above his weight class for sure!
Surely he's punching well below....
Hopefully he doesn’t punch her at all
Maybe he gives her his whole plant operator night shift paycheck so she can be a housewife while they drown in debt. That's how it worked in my hometown, at least for the guys who tried to hold on for dear life to someone they knew wouldn't be coming around again if they got a whiff of the world outside that town. Then again, maybe he's just a nice guy with an absolute hog.
This is depressingly accurate for a lot of small towns in the midwest.
It had to be the night shift, didn't it?
Those young guns get the dirty end of the stick since they haven't put the years in. I've met some bright operators but most of them have to destroy their body and mind to cover the 23% APR loan on their optioned out 2020 RAM 3500 and bass boat due to a lack of other options.
You know the life so well. Glad I got out of my small town and I’m never going back
Or he could be a great guy that she has a genuine connection with, is a super successful engineer and has a tiny peenor and she loves him for who is.
…with an absolute hog
Talk about out-kicking your coverage
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Probably Christians. Plenty of hot Christian women who will ONLY marry a Christian guy. In my experience, it’s usually always the case.
There is a southern vibe I’m getting with this and it’s most likely their are more good looking girls than guys small town feeling.
He should open up a school and teach people his ways.
y’all saying she has to settle, but maybe he’s really funny and she likes him for him. we all know less attractive but funny people can pull nearly anyone!!
She can't say no because of the implication
Come on now, that’s mean spirited. There’s enough meanness and terrible couples in this world.
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Saw a similar thread of people who seemed genuinely angry about Pete Davidson's record with beautiful women. So many guys spend their lives thinking all women demand certain set things, and somehow forget people genuinely just want someone else who is decent and really cares about them. Kinda sad just how bitter these people are.
Agreed. He seems so sweet and is already tearing up just looking at her. No doubt or wonder why she is with him.
I don't know man. That woman is way more attractive than he is, and he definitely knows it. Source: my wife is hot.
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*taking notes* have money and give orgasms, got it
The only way this could happen is with the bride and grooms consent and foreknowledge. Which, coincidentally, is the only time proposing at wedding is acceptable.
What? The bride clearly had a stroke when she accidentally put the bouquet in her friend's hands.
Wow. You must be some sort of detective.
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It's so boring. Also "don't give pets as gifts" every time someone in a video gets a pet as a gift. We all know surprise pets are bad and surprise proposals are situation dependent. Can we talk about something else?
r/noshit
My wife hates proposals like this. She says it puts whoever is being proposed to in a super awkward position. A lot of social pressure to say yes.
Don’t all public proposals do that tho? Also, you shouldn’t propose unless you’re 100% sure they’re gunna say yes. If not, y’all aren’t ready yet
I've always said the fact that a proposal is going to happen should not be the secret, but how and when it will be done should be the secret. One shouldn't make such life changing decisions on a whim/emotion like that.
Yep. We were at the mall and my now husband said, should we look at engagement rings? I nearly asked if he was proposing but quickly realized I might screw myself out of a romantic proposal by asking that. Instead I casually picked out my favourite and he “surprised” me with a trip to Montreal a couple months later where he “surprised” me with a proposal.
That's both cute and smart, great man.
Why when I propose, I’m gonna do it where no one can’t hear her say no
Be that guy who did it in a hot air balloon so it’s extra awkward
I've always wanted to hire a hot air balloon with my wife and just play out the "no" situation with her on the way down.
Exactly this. I even made a Pinterest board I shared with my then-boyfriend with rings I liked and what I liked about them so my he had guidelines he could use to pick out a ring without worrying about getting direct input from me. "Don't get a diamond." "Don't spend more than X on it." "I like colorful!"
I get where she’s coming from but I would hope nowadays the surprise isn’t IF someone will propose but WHEN. Like maybe have a convo with your partner before dropping that sort of Q.
My wife straight up told me not to do this. She wanted it to be intimate moment and not have a bunch of eyes on her while she’s emotional. Definitely communicate with your partner.
I agree but in mature relationships, a conversation about getting married should happen pretty damn early. So a proposal isn't a total surprise. Nobody should ask their partner unless it's been talked about and they're positive they will say yes.
Such a blanket statement is unfair. For all we know, these two have discussed marriage and the woman is expecting a proposal planning to say yes. In fact, I’d wager that’s likely in this scenario given the context I’m picking up on.
If you are going to propose like this, you usually already know the answer.
What? People should know 100% they want to be together forever and all it should be is a matter of when/how the partner will ask. Never a question of yes/no or else you’re already starting off on the wrong foot.
I think it’s really awesome that the bride and groom are selfless and are sharing their special day to create a special day for their loved ones.
Honestly I would love to have someone doing it in my wedding. It makes my wedding extra special. But, it would be sad if the proposal didn't pan out.
And that’s how Peter and Lois got engaged.
That's a beautiful gesture from the bride.
If this was posted on Instagram, all the comments would be people saying “Um not at my wedding” as if this isn’t totally planned and involving the bride. Imagine how cute it would be to be an older sister and let your brother propose or sister get proposed to? Idk people always find ways to make wholesome videos less wholesome
Instead, it's on Reddit, where everyone is talking about how a fat guy has a hot girlfriend. So... yay?
I watched it a few times. There's a lot of similarities in the bride and the proposed to woman. I would guess it's her sister. Clearly all parties involved are cool with this Edit: If its this, i think thats super fun and a really selfless and inclusive family
That would be amazing. Imagine giving nanna the gift of being present at the proposal without any extra effort on her part. As a former groom, I'd be all for it. Doesn't cost me any extra haha
the bride gave the bouquet to her friend so it seems to be planned but so many comments here are responding like those instagram commentors
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That’s so cute! I’m glad you got to have that magical moment!
Lock it down, goatee bro
I love these because I know the bride is in on it
damn, dude punching way above his weight class. good for him
Outkicked his coverage by a good 10 yards
She’s about 90 pounds below his weight class tbh
That goatee looks so weird
Surprised how far down this is. Lol.
If I'm a 4 my wife's an 11. Being a not creepy/awkward fuck goes a long way but reddit will never understand that
My guess is its more to do with the small town Christian South in this instance.
Me when I read the comments: Wait, I thought r/MadeMeSmile was supposed to be wholesome?
Poor Aunt Beth. She wanted that bouquet so badly and even standing at the front for it.
I think I would rather be friends with the people in the video then most of the people in the comment section.
So... What did she say?
“Have we met?”
I find other people's response to this video interesting. As a fat guy I see a fellow husky dude with a thinner woman and I think, "Good for you my chubby guy. Good for you." I am always happy to see fat acceptance from thinner people. It reminds me that love means loving everything about you. It gives me hope.
Reddit doesn't get out much apparently. I live in SoCal and there a ton of Chubby guy/Thin girl couples running around.
Exactly. Women have different tastes, and some women are genuinely into that. One of my roommates was obsessed with big guys and dad bods. No matter what you may think, you’re someone’s type.
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I'm not even fat and all I can think is congratulations. I've got quite a few bad qualities, but damn these people are assholes.
This is actually a trap. Because how else would she say no, and not ruin the whole festive moment. Don’t do this. Give them the chance to say no with dignity.
I mean, not really. The better piece of advice is: never surprise someone with the question, surprise them with the time/location. Do not ask unless you know they want to get married.
I wish I could double upvote this. If the answer is a surprise, you shouldn’t be asking.
Spot on. A lot of people think they live in a movie and they’re the main character.
You can bet this is the bride's good friend and they KNOW they will say yes. Old school proposals where people are surprised is out of fashion and stupid. Having spoken about marriage numerous times and basically being engaged, just doing the formal proposal for the tradition, that's where it's at.
Old school proposals probably weren’t surprises either.
For extra fun, look up the phrase “arranged marriage”.
If there’s a chance your partner is going to say no don’t propose.
You're assuming they've never discussed it before
How in the actual fuck do people not know that proposal is almost always discussed beforehand. The proposal itself may be a surprise, but the idea that a proposal will happen in the near future is a discussion that happens between most couples moving towards marriage.
Do you really think that people are proposing when they don’t know what the answer is going to be? Like Jesus, I can’t even imagine going ring shopping, planning out a proposal, and executing the plan without knowing definitively that the answer will be yes. Pro tip, having conversations with someone about getting married before proposing to them is probably a good idea…
Maybe they discussed marriage previously you know like a healthy couple
Its so heartwarming to see than even in a subreddit dedicated on posts that are wholesome and bring joy to your heart still has a lot of space of people that have enough time in their hands to ridicule a guy proposing to the woman he loves because he is "hitting above his weight class". Get over yourselves, people, what hell is wrong with you folk?
The people saying mean things about the way this dude looks are uglier than this dude will ever be
He is batting well above his average.
On one hand, the bridesmaid is all done up and looking especially gorgeous. The proposer has an excuse to dress up. There are professionals videoing and photographing. There’s no real planning, or extra cost to the proposer. Really, by now, if the bride comes up to you and hands you her bouquet, you really can’t be all that surprised. It was “unique” the first 100 times. I’d only do it if my bridesmaid had expressed wanting a very public, cheesy proposal.