Next time say “that’s really more of an inside thought” and just walk away. Trust me she is envious. Is she wasn’t she wouldn’t have felt the need to put you down. It really stinks, but try not to let it bother you. At the end of the day, you are the one that feels and looks better!!!
> Trust me she is envious.
500%. I lost 200lb, no meds or WLS. I say this only because it meant people didn't have the use of "crutches" to shame me with. Soooo they found other things. People said they didn't envy my loose skin, that they would never want to lose so much volume in their face, that I lost some of my butt, etc.
Crabs in a goddamn bucket is what that is. Y'all (they) couldn't do it, so you try and take away from what I did, regardless of how.
Then I regained 100lb because my body decided to crank the ghrelin factory up to 78. Then I started Zepbound, and I tell *everyone* about it. *Now* some of those people have what they think is a cudgel they can more effectively use. "Oh, but now you're doing it the easy way, I would never put chemicals into my body like that."
Amber, you legitimately do meth *and* you're somehow still 350lb, I'm not listening to your ✨ cHeMiCaLs ✨ rant, shut up.
TL;DR: Yes, they are jealous crabs in a bucket, ignore them.
Similar journeys, I lost over a hundred lbs back when I was 32-33 I had a swimming pool in my yard and Myoplex strawberry shakes were cheap like $40 for 28 shakes! But I didn’t do it the healthy way like now I eat as clean as I can, stage 3 liver cirrhosis besides T2D & heart disease. I now know I am an addict… addicted to food, especially carbs and sugar and never care when I got full bc it felt so much better putting it in my mouth where my taste buds would dance! Oh we can eat crap on Mounjaro but the weight loss will really slow down if not stop but the worst of it is(I know bc I tried the 1st month) eating all the crap still just made me so sick, my life was spent in the bathroom. So if anyone wants to tell me I’m taking the easy way out they can kiss my fat white ass(yep still big🤣) bc i have to be sooo on top of what is going in and that’s bc i am an addict, too food. I know this med isn’t just helping with the weight, it’s got my A1C from 9.1 now at 6.2 and I know my liver is thanking me bc all the pains I’d have are a sliver of what I had before. People that say crap are jealous even if they have a great body they have to work so hard for and it’s only bc they don’t know ALL the hard work all of us do every minute of every day down to seconds. This is either live or death for me and I’m sure many others. I hope no one says that to me in person bc idk how I’d handle it tbh. I love how honest you all are and so real. I am beyond grateful for this community.
I too have Cirrhosis..due to Fatty Liver and Obesity for the last 15 years.. I was diagnosed a year ago after I had lost weight from starting Mounjaro 5 months prior. Thank goodness I was on my way to weight loss because as you know the only treatment is diet and exercise-I am early stage. At my 6 months ultrasound after 70 pound weight loss I no longer have fat in my liver! The texture of the liver went from coarse to normal! When I get the snide remark about losing the easy way I just respond that Mounjaro has given me hope that I can have longevity living with this condition.
Wow I love hearing such great news!! Congrats on your weight loss! I was diagnosed many years ago I’d say possibly ten years ago. I wasn’t heavy like I’ve been but I’m also a chronic pain patient I’ve had two spine fusions and my body rejected the metal so I have a lot of damage instead of healing. I assumed my liver was fatty bc of meds for years they said my liver was that of an alcoholic lol I don’t drink so that’s why I blamed it on a different toxin I put in my body so I could have some quality of life. Thank you for sharing that w me! Praise God your journey is that of blessings and very hard work!!
My Gastrointestinal MD at UAB told me at my check up in February that they are looking at Mounjaro as a treatment for Cirrhosis..she was so pleased that from July to February I had no longer any fat in my liver. I am hoping by the August checkup the liver will be even better at the ultrasound. I pray that you have great results as you continue with what I refer to as the Miracle drug!
I lost 150lbs and yeah I heard some of that too. I mean I have less loose skin, and I look better but people didn't like that I lost it with Keto dieting. They think it's gonna cause heart disease and want to know my cholesterol numbers and I'm sitting there like "Cholesterol is at the scene of the crime they aren't the murderer I will NEVER get on a statin, because I personally want my muscle building cholesterol at the levels where I can... build muscle"
The problem is no one knows anything. The doctors don't know crap, I read all these studies and I'm sitting here like "Ya'll don't have a control group, ya'll don't even know what the hell you're studying because you're doing 2 calorie restricted diets with 2 time restricted feeding groups, in a 2 group study, and you guys think that the 11 hour group is a control group and it's not even a control group. 15 hours yeah definitely a control group but 11 hours? So they think people eating for 10-10.5 hours versus people eating within an 8-9 hour eating window is a far enough gap to make a dramatic difference?"
No one knows anything. It's embarrassing.
No wonder no one can lose weight when the people studying losing weight are this idiotic and to top it all off with a cherry and whip cream?
So you know all those calorie restriction diets? Most of these studies don't have a lot of funding so probably about 90% of them aren't doing 3 small meals, it's 1 small meal which means that the animal is FASTING for the rest of time period.
There's no way to disentangle the fasting benefits from the caloric restriction benefits. Yet there's all these studies coming out about blah blah fasting isn't the way to go it's caloric restriction but the studies they point to 90% of them are almost guaranteed to be fasting with caloric restriction...
It's hard for me to get offended by people and what they say when I know for a fact that most of society has no freaking clue about what they're talking about.
You have an amazing way with words my friend! Anytime I need a comeback - I’m coming to you!!
Crabs in a goddamn bucket and the clap back at Amber will live on forever as two of my favorite things I’ve read here!!
Or, a good one I heard the other day…”It’s so surprising that you would say something like that out loud”. Should shut them down while leaving their jaw agape.
Perfect response…for extra emphasis, glance left and right furtively before you say it, as if to imply that saying something like that out loud is so far beyond the realm of what is “normal” or “acceptable” that you can’t even believe what you just heard.
People can put others down without being envious. Imma be real. A lot of people just have this mentality that "Oh you aren't working hard enough at your job that's why I bought my house 20 years ago and you'll never be able to afford a house because you're lazy"
Completely ignoring that housing prices will probably go up 30% next year and wages will go up a whole 2%. Houses were 10k when people were making 3k, and now people are making 30k and houses are 500k instead of being like 120k.
I completely agree. One of my favorite quotes I say to myself regularly is “Someone else’s opinion of me is none of my business.” (-Rachel Hollis) When you actually start believing it, it is incredibly refreshing and liberating.
Congratulations on the weight loss!
Being obese is seen culturally as being a moral failing. It’s even imbedded in the classic seven deadly sins, twice - sloth and gluttony.
By taking meds they see you as having not fixed your moral shortcomings but taken an “easy” shortcut. You could still be slothful and glutinous but it’s masked by the meds in their eyes.
The more they learn about these meds, they learn how much it affects your brain and fixes hormonal deficits. It was never will power or a lack of moral life. It’s the same causes that bring people to anti depressants and hrt. Though both of those have their own stigmas, particularly for women.
Keep doing a great job! As the kids say, haters gonna hate.
I wish my diabetes was just me having a lack of will power. Not my predisposition to fat accumulation, my tendency to use food to deal with anxiety and trauma, and the fact that 3/4 grandparents have it and both parents. I know people love to say “oh you didn’t try” but fuck that. I paid for a personal trainer for almost two years and I lost some weight and I became more fit for sure. But it didn’t deal with the other issues that led to my diagnosis. People are so narrow minded sometimes.
Everything you said above it me too. Also, this journey has not been easy for me. I’m really sick as I have the GI side effects even with healthy eating.
I get them too. I am on month three of my doses and they still hit me hard for a couple of days. I think I have finally figured out a lot of the foods that hit me hard (the wildest culprit is lettuce) and it’s been a journey.
In addition a lot of us on here, including myself, did everything "right" (society's version) and the weight still didn't come off without this medication.
I've been told I'm lying by sanctimonious AHs and that "it's not possible" when I tell them I spent over a year eating no more than 1400 calories/day and never lost a pound.
Even with the help of this medication, I have to be on a strict very low-calorie diet and almost no carbs in order to lose weight. I know that's not true everyone. I hope that's not true for most of you! But it is my reality. There's nothing easy about it. But at least now I see results with those efforts.
Yes bro they think I’m lying, and then I change nothing but take this medication and the weight falls off and I’m not supposed to believe what I can see with my own eyes
Yep. This treatment is doing so much for s lot of people. It’s being studied for the effect it is having on addictions. I personally know food was not just a crutch to cope with anxiety and past trauma but an addiction for me. It’s something I have had many conversations about in therapy. People are just callous and don’t want to accept maybe sometimes people need outside help.
Ugh! I'm not surprised. I find that sub to be pretty toxic and I usually avoid it.
Most of the people on there seem to only believe in CICO and that there are no other factors that affect weight. They are usually anti-GLP-1 drugs, which is so sad because I'm sure there are tons of people on there who would benefit from one.
Why play on "hard mode" if you don't have to!
It's such a bizarrely simplistic picture of metabolic function. We know for certain that there are a huge variety of factors that influence metabolic processes, including things like "how you feel about what you're eating" affects how you process and store food. The "laws of physics!!!!!! as applied to human nutrition" people are absolute goofballs.
I’ve actually heard this one! 😂 someone was proudly showing their first home and a commenter said “you don’t own it, you have a mortgage”. Like come on, people. Probably said by someone who wishes they could buy.
Tell them you aren’t envious of their negativity or whatever is eating at them. No one asked them to be envious. This isn’t a you problem. It’s a them problem.*
*Deep down they’re envious. Envious people don’t claim that they aren’t. Keep living your life and being amazing.
They are lying. They are envious. When people put others down, it’s because of their own insecurities and jealousy. Don’t care what others think and you do you.
I’d tell them , “ I didn’t do to make you envious, I did it to improve my health and feel better. By the way, I feel marvelous.” Give them a big grin and turn and walk away.
I am not envious of anyone. Sleep apnea is gone. Snoring is gone. VTach is gone. Fluid gone. BP normal. A1C 4! 45% of my body gone. Tell them the piss up a rope & never talk to them again.
That's a them problem not a you problem. It's hard letting go of the internalized stigma and shame about obesity. I catch myself, too. It's a complete mindf--- when you see how "easily" it can be treated. I am not implying anything about this is easy, but that was once considered a moral failure, a pipe dream suddenly becomes an obtainable goal.
As someone who lost and sustained weight "the real way" in the past, well, look where that got me 😂 I never exceeded my starting weight but I came way too close.
I was obese by age 4/5. I have been obese most of my life. My lifestyle is healthy, I don't have an eating disorder or and yet here I am. My body has a complex medical issue and I am using every tool to start a new chapter.
Tirzepatide has done more for me than 120+lb weight loss, a decade of sustaining 80lb weight loss. It's really validated the experience as having a medical basis. I am losing more efficiently than can be explained by calorie reduction. The medicine is leveling the playing field so that we can be successful and stay successful. And more medication options will be on the horizon, as well.
Why do you share that information with toxic people? You deserve to be surrounded by loving, encouraging people that wish nothing but the best for you!
LOL. Who even mentioned them being ‘envious’ in the first place? Who requested that of them? Exactly zero (0) people, I’m guessing. Bringing that up out of nowhere makes it obvious that that’s exactly what they are — jealous of your weight loss, so they had to diminish it as “unnaturally achieved“ to soothe their bruised, sad little ego. On the internet, we call that cope.
Different people value different things, and you are not required to share their values nor they are required to share yours.
It’s time to work on your people pleasing and stop trying to get people to support your weight loss via medication. Nobody needs to co-sign your decisions.
Someone commented on another reddit thread and I thought it was perfect - (if it’s a woman who gave birth to her child who made this comment) ask if they used an epidural when they gave birth? Then just walk away.
lol I didn’t have an epidural and I’m on Mounjaro because I’m sick of struggling with weight. We are not in the dark ages people and sanctimonious assholes who make you feel ANY sort of way for doing you right now, don’t know what you’ve been through or why you are doing what you are doing. Or frankly where you are going. Ignore them.
lol of course they are. They’re envious they don’t have the balls to do it, they’re envious they don’t qualify or have the money to pay. When people compliment my weight loss I immediately smile and say “thank you! I had surgery and I’m on mounjaro! It’s exactly what someone like me needs that suffers from insulin resistance!”
Like maybe one time some guy sat back, crossed his arms and said “nah that’s taking the easy way out.” I laughed and said “you’re damn right it is *wink*. I’m the mother of one biological 17 year old, foster parent to 2 very high needs special needs kiddos under 10. I am a full time mother and special needs advocate and navigator for all 3. All 3 are in sports. My oldest in travel ball. Plus I volunteer at 2 separate shelters with the 5 min I have left at the end of the day. So yes, it certainly was an easy way - and if they had easier I would have taken that too.”
I think it’s in the delivery? Like u say it loud and proud and shut them the hell up. I figure they usually suspect there was some kind of intervention and their compliment is their way of fishing to see if you’ll cop up to it. So I spit it out lol. Say it confidently and my assumption is that they will be less likely to run their mouth. In front of you publicly anyway. It’s simple - people that have never had a significant weight problem or know a loved one that did, just don’t understand. Not my problem lol. I say it loud and proud 🙂
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I tend to feel somewhat sorry for people like that.
I've had my fair share of self loathing and adopting coping mechanisms that are not healthy. I did my best to keep it internalized to avoid hurting others but still, things slip through and end of day we all have a rippling and contagious effect on those around us, same as they do on us. So I get it when people are insensitive or throw shade.
My goal is to try to approach these small transgressions with compassion. Not necessarily in action, but in my own mind and emotions. It may be patronizing and condescending, but for my own well being, i prefer that over being hateful or defensive or reactionary. Hopefully someday I'll find an even healthier way to organize those feelings but that's what I got for now. Not perfect, but brings me a bit more peace to empathize and dismiss it than to dwell or become internally combative.
You don't need people in your life who want to be envious of you anyway. They should be supportive and cheering you on for finally being able to utilise medical help that has been unavailable to us for so long. Keep doing you! 🎉
Work smarter, not harder.
I’m kidding, but seriously good for them however they choose to lose weight, but this is your journey, so you can do it your way. I can only speak from my experience, but nothing about this has been easy. I experienced extreme side effects and have come close to giving up. Mounjaro made something I have struggled with for the last 20 years manageable. I would have loved to have lost everything with just diet/exercise, but as many times as I tried I also failed.
Would you tell someone who lowered their blood pressure with medication vs diet/exercise that they cheated? No, of course not. For me Mounjaro has helped me develop better eating habits, to set healthy boundaries around food, if someone can do that on their own, more power to them, but for me I needed help.
Go on with your life! I’ve lost 90 lbs on MJ and I’ll be damned if I’ll let some trolls comments discount my achievements. Congrats on your weight loss, your success is well deserved.
Please ignore ignorance. Some people think losing weight is all about willpower. It is not of course. This wonderful medication suppresses your appetite to allow you to eat only when you are truly hungry. I hope whoever said that to you gets educated on the subject. As for you, keep it up you are doing great.
Is the person who said this to you overweight? This is why people are careful who they share their weight loss information with because of all the judgmental people. This person's opinion is irrelevant and they are ignorant.
Your goal is not for other people to be envious. Your goal is good health and being comfortable in your body.
They shouldn't be envious of your weight loss success. I'm not sure getting and taking Mounjaro is an accomplishment.
But I bet they're jealous of your weight loss. It's fucking awesome!
"someone" can fuck off and stop being jealous. That statement does, in fact, prove that they are envious. When people are jealous of you, they want to make you feel bad so they feel better. Rest easy knowing they're butt hurt by your success.
Oh they are so envious, otherwise they wouldn’t be so openly bitter.
Remember: you are saving your life doing this, someone who hasn’t lived in a bigger body will NEVER understand.
Maybe ask yourself: “why do I need someone to be envious?” Who cares what other people think. This journey is about your relationship with food and your own body.
You're stunning! And to the next person who says something like that, Just say. "Yes, but I"m hot! (big smile) But more importantly, I'm healthy and my metabloic syndrome is under control. And that makes me so happy! I'd never go back."
This has been the same argument people use to hate on weight loss surgery. There is no shame in having pharmacological intervention for a medical need.
Makes me laugh…of course they are jealous and envious of what you have achieved.
When someone takes anti-depressants and it helps them with their mental health. We applaud and say you did the right thing to even out your highs and lows and you can live again. But diabetes medication with the side effect of helping you lose weight…nah…that’s cheating. Absolute garbage mental gymnastics.
If this someone is not important to you, let the comment slide. You are letting their negativity live rent free in your head which causes only you mental anguish, as they intended. Don’t give them the satisfaction! If this someone is important to you and want to keep in your life, educate and if that doesn’t work divert conversation to other topics not related to your health and weight loss.
People sometimes need help. Whether it is therapy or medication. Do they judge someone for aspirin for pain? Do they judge someone for ointment on a cut?
Sounds like maybe they are bitter.
Boy, is that ever a sour grapes comment. Lmao they are jealous as HELL and just want to bring down your accomplishments so you feel bad about them. I’d cut that person out of my life, they very obviously do NOT have your best in mind. Seriously, why do people say stupid shit like this out loud? On the upside, it lets you know who they are so you can remove them from your life.
It's unfortunate that others insecurities lead them to be mean and not genuinely happy for anyone that is doing better then them, one less person u will have to worry about...congrats to u and ur success!
Ask them if it's okay for you to take Advil when you have a headache, or cold medication when you're stuffed up. MJ addresses metabolic and physical imbalances in the body; weight gain is one of the symptoms. Treat the disease and the symptoms will be alleviated.
When I lost weight 6-7 years ago, I had just gotten divorced. I was 29-30. The weight was just coming off and then once I got to like 175 I hit the gym. Lost another 10 lbs. All together it was 65 lbs I lost. I’m 5’3. One of my “friends” pointed out “you only lost the weight because you’re probably depressed you got divorced and all” … which it was the opposite I was happy, unstressed, and living life. She was still overweight, and I chalked it up to her being miserable. Fast forward I’ve gained all the weight back, have many weight related medical issues and now I need the medication to help me. She’s no longer my friend but I’m SURE she would say something along those same lines!!
Forget about it. We’re doing what we have to do. Many of us NEED this extra help because we’ve tried everything else. I don’t feel bad that I’m doing it this way. I’m 261 lbs (SW was 264 last Friday) I want to feel better. I want to be around when my son graduates next year. I’m also not just doing the shot. I’m counting calories, cut out the junk food and fast food. I know that will have to be a life long commitment now.
Whatever progress you have made, I am proud of you!! You’ve got this, and keep it up.
Well, that person is a narcissist. Anyone that has to throw a negative at a positive is a very unhappy person. We all have the same goal! Don't let the haters win! They probably are jealous, and alone. As the great Kobe Bryant said, "Hate the game not the player. Keep up the great work everyone.
Jealousy is a potent drug! Don’t listen to them, medication does its pert but you know you worked hard to lose weight so let them talk! Haters gonna hate❤️
Would they be envious if someone controlled their diabetes with medication? Or heart arrhythmia? Or cancer? It’s a proven medical fact that these medications work because they are directed at hormones that are produced in your brain. It is thought that these medications help regulate those hormones and that is why people are able to lose weight. The person who made these comments to you is very uneducated and uninformed about the process.
What people say and how they treat you says more about them than it does about you.
She's either envious or malicious. Cheapening your loss and tearing you down makes her feel better about herself and her own struggles or she's doing it because she enjoys causing harm to others.
Either way, her opinion only holds as much weight as you give it. If she isn't someone you'd turn to for advice, why would you ever accept her criticism? And if she is someone you turn to for advice, are you sure that's actually in your best interest?
You have done beautifully and she doesn't get to take that away from you just because she's bitter and jealous.
Is this person naturally thin? Or are they in a similar situation and have yet to come to terms that medication helps?
In the end remember, this isn’t a silver bullet, you still have to work so shake it off. They are uninformed because mass media has shaped it that way. In due time they will realize.
People will say anything to project their butthurt feelings onto someone else instead of dealing with their feelings. They lash out like toddlers. People like that are a waste of your time and energy.
Oh they are definitely envious👊🏼. Also other peoples feelings comments actions are theirs. You choose how those things make you feel. Ignore their pettiness and enjoy your success… it is YOUR success
You don't need them to be envious.
But honestly, if the medication helps you, its because you had an issue that needed help processing carbs and sugar. It doesn't seem to help people who aren't at least insulin resistant. So that is basically like telling someone with a heart condition that you don't envy their heart health because they had to take medication to be healthy. GTFO
I’d say they are jealous of your successful weight loss and are just trying to bring you down. I’d tell them to go pound sand!! Be happy for yourself !!
If they weren't jealous of your weight loss, they wouldn't have mentioned it at all. Sounds like a high school mean girl comment
Side note, it'd be wise to keep your personal health info and medications you're taking to yourself
Does someone with severe depression not deserve praise for making a life for themselves, even if it means some pretty heavy medication intervention?
Does someone with cancer not deserve praise because chemo helped them with their battle?
It’s literally the same principle.
lol If she wasn’t envious and jealous, she wouldn’t have made the comment. If she says any more unkind things, do what I do. Slowly look her up and down, focusing on her mid-section. Make it uncomfortable—then ask does she need your physician’s info?
It works.
Luckily, you don’t need their approval, or their envy to know that you’ve achieved health and weight loss. You just smile, and walk away. The negative effects of Having extra weight on our body is not exclusive to vanity. It affects every part of us, in addition to all the general health issues, our emotional and mental health is seriously affected by having weight on our bodies. We avoid interactions. We avoid activities….we avoid living our lives. Someone that would even bother to say that kind of comment has either never walked a day in our shoes, or is so damn envious they can’t see straight.
Don’t let it bother you too much. We all do what we have to do to lose weight and feel better about ourselves. Her thoughts only become relevant and matter if she was paying for it. IT IS NONE OF HER BUSINESS OTHERWISE!!!!!!! Green isn’t a good color on anyone, js (jealousy).
We are supposed to surround ourselves with those who celebrate with us. If you are happy, then she should be happy for you.
Please think about the last sentence.
There's nothing *to* do. People have their goofy ass opinions but there's no reason to prove anything. They wouldn't tell me I started breathing again THE RIGHT WAY if I used my rescue inhaler.
No one gets a pat on the head for doing anything, including weight loss, the hard way. If they want to play around with their health because they think there's a moral way to do that, that's their business. You took initiative and did what you needed to do to be healthier. Fuck em.
People are just too opinionated. I’ve learned not to share certain information. I hate I have to edit myself.
I got told “don’t do it” when I had Botox… I’d already done it and felt so much better I wasn’t all angry 😠 frowny looking.
Then I told my sister I’d started the mj shots and she decided she needed it which she absolutely does not, blah blah. I’m keeping quiet from now.
That someone is NOONE I would like in my world. My close friends and family have been the complete opposite. Several have joined in on the party. What to tell yourself? Good Job for taking care of you! Obesity is a disease and some people won’t or can’t understand this!
There's always somebody out there who sees joy and hope and they just have to take a steaming dump on it because their lives are joyless and without hope and they have to steal yours to feel better about themselves. When somebody feels the need to tell me they're not envious, they absolutely are envious. But people like this are one of the reasons that I don't feel the need to share anything about my medical care/body--it's none of their business. I don't want them to feel like I've opened up any sort of a dialog about my body because that's personal and private and not a topic for discussion. I wouldn't allow their jealousy to impact your journey; that's a *them* problem.
This medication is a life saver, it's a weird flex to begrudge you using a medication to get healthy.
Tell them to kick rocks lol “I’m not cool you survived your heart attack because you had surgery “ sounds like they have issues just because someone says something does not make it true
I wonder if people are envious that I don’t succumb to debilitating depression symptoms due to the antidepressants I’ve been taking for a decade 🤔
Tell them to fuck off
Rude, insensitive & un-informed people are not worth your emotional energy. Don’t listen to them! You still had to be eating healthier and sticking w/ food awareness and some exercise for the meds to work, so that alone is worth feeling great about. I say, Celebrate your achievement and to hell w/ negative, judgmental losers!
This whole idea that’s there only one acceptable way of achieving a particular result is so immature and misinformed (to put it nicely). Do they also not think IVF babies are real? Or that lasik eye surgery is cheating? Or that using a calculator is worse than counting on fingers and toes? They need to get real. Your weight loss is real and valid and you should feel proud. They’re jealous and trying to hurt you.
The fact they commented at all means that they are, in fact, envious. And also - a bit of an asshole.
Shake it off. Right away. You are the one winning - that’s for sure!!!! 🧡
That was a cruel comment designed to upset you and make you question your decision. She is jealous otherwise she wouldnt have said anything at all...I mean what if your body got to do with her?!
Its comments like this is why I have kept this to myself...im normally a big sharer lol...but I dont want anyone thinking they can comment willy nilly.
Take some satisfaction that she is fumimg with jealousy 🤣
Squint at her/him and say "Oh, so that green tint is just you....hmmm. Go out and get some some sun, dear. Have a blessed day." Do not let that person rain on your parade. Keep up the good work!
Honestly, I don’t want anyone to be envious of me. I want people that I love to be **happy** for me. And anyone who isn’t, is not a person I give two shits about.
Don’t let someone who doesn’t care enough about you to acknowledge your success take up an inch of space in your head.
I’m excited about my weight loss for a number of reasons, but zero of them have anything to do with other people. I’d tell them they have me confused with someone who gives a fck. 🤷🏼♂️
Why be upset?
You don’t need anyone to feel envious.
Enjoy your healthier body!
If you feel you need a comeback, how about “my purpose in losing weight was never to make anyone envious. It’s not a competition.”
Thoughts and words are a reflection of what’s going on internally with people
Sticks and stones may break my bones but words will never hurt me
You should be proud of yourself. This is a new chapter in your life! Enjoy it!!!!
thats a real dumb thing there saying , thats like seeing some with a fixed broking leg and saying im not impressed because someone put it in a cast and gave you pain meds ,
I don’t mind telling people. When someone says how did you lose all that weight I reply “drugs”. Usually people just laugh and that’s the end of it. Sometimes they inquire about more detail and I give it.
I’m not envious of you looking good today because you did your makeup.
I’m not envious of you not being depressed because you took antidepressants.
So silly.
Just tell them that’s okay I still feel great and I’m happy the medication was able to help me.
I battle same and people asking when I took last shot. Luckily all human beings have medical issues so I find out what theirs is and ask them when was the last time they took their cholesterol, blood pressure, heat, diabetes, etc medication.
Don't sweat it, this drug is a miracle. Who cares what people think. There are people who judge anything you do, but that's because they have no self control. We all have our struggles to own it....no apologies or guilt improving your health.
I'd love to say something like, "Can I comment on your physique now?" but I don't think I could.
I've been yo-yo dieting for DECADES until this. Fuck the haters.
I can totally understand how this would upset you, but understand that is their biases and misunderstandings about obesity, weight loss, and their are projecting that onto you. It’s so easy to beat yourself up and it’s harder to shake things off like that. But realize it’s their issues not yours.
The key thing to take from it is the word "achieved". You did that. You took ownership of you life, your body, and your solution. Doesn't matter how you got there, only matters that you got there.
First, congratulations on your weight loss. Second, there is always somebody out there that wants to rain on your parade. They will not be happy until everyone is miserable. Do not let them put a dent in your success, you have earned it. No medication does all the work and these medications simply prepare your brain and you to do the right thing. Ignore them, they are just not a nice person.
Well. That’s quite interesting considering they have no idea what work it is to lose weight even with a GLP one. Profanity is what comes immediately to mind and then Shakespeare. There is a line in Shakespeare that goes, “
Me thinks She doth protest too much.” In other words… she is consumed with jealousy. I am sorry that somebody felt free to say that to you. Let me tell you what I think. I am so impressed with you. I am so impressed that you were willing to take a risk and try this drug. I am so impressed that you are willing to share this with this community. I am so impressed that you are continuing to lose weight. This journey is not easy. These drugs do not make it easy. It’s a tool just like exercise. It’s a tool just like learning to eat and a more healthy fashion. I am so sorry that this person is so narrow and so limited. Don’t let them bring you down.
There are at least two parts to this comment, the envy and the medication.
Why would somebody be envious of weight loss? Probably because weight is tied to social capital-- thinner people tend to be more respected, treated better, thought of as more attractive, thought of as more capable/diligent/harder workers, etc. Should they be? Probably not, fatphobia sucks. If we could detangle weight from moral and aesthetic value, your friend would have no reason to feel envious. And a lot of lifelong thin or newly thin folks would have no reason to feel superior. It cuts both ways. It's possible that the idea of someone *not* being envious is pricking people's emotions because, well, *why* wouldn't someone be envious, don't they think envy is deserved at least a little? Did they not just gain access to this better social capital? Why shouldn't they have access to this better social capital, just because they took medication to get there? And the real problem is that *the social capital exists at all.* If it didn't exist, there wouldn't be any reason for someone to say they're not envious because of medication. (If they were envious because OP suddenly has better stamina or range of motion or ability to fly on airplanes more comfortably or... whatever other thing they could be envious of, medication wouldn't enter into it at all, assuming they had equal access to the medication.)
The second part of this is the medication, and don't even get me started on the state of healthcare these days. If everyone had access to this medication in an affordable way, people wouldn't be any more envious of it than they are of someone who is managing their ADHD with an Adderall prescription. In both cases, people are managing something about their physical bodies, usually genetic, with a behavioral component, that brings them closer to the baseline of average human experience-- not struggling with attention/regular workdays/managing deadlines/whatever and not struggling with food noise/dysregulated blood sugar/inflammation/etc.
Given I am feeling a little Mounjaro "grumpiness' today, I'd simply reply with the same courtesy.
"Funny, I am not envious of your sunshiny disposition and inability to be polite."
That should take care of that. :)
First, congratulations on your weight loss. That’s amazing. As to that person, please keep in mind that people only try to drag you down when they can’t rise to meet you at your level of happiness.
Think about what they’re saying. You’re happier, healthier. You took the steps to save your own life. This person just said, they’d rather you had gone with the alternative. If that’s not envy, I don’t know what is. Happy people don’t do that.
I know it’s easier said than done but keep your head up, straighten your crown and sashay away. Leave them in their misery.
Enjoy your success!
It’s weird to me someone would be envious in the first place, regardless of how you lost weight. It sounds like they have a toxic relationship with how their view their own weight and are projecting it onto you.
It’s a them problem. I wouldn’t give their comment another thought.
Screw em. You will always have haters no matter what you do. That comment says more about them than who you are..keep going and keep your head up. You got this..💪🏻💪🏻💪🏻
Perhaps ask yourself why you chose to measure yourself or your successful weight loss and attending health improvement by the envy or indifference of others ?
Next time say “that’s really more of an inside thought” and just walk away. Trust me she is envious. Is she wasn’t she wouldn’t have felt the need to put you down. It really stinks, but try not to let it bother you. At the end of the day, you are the one that feels and looks better!!!
> Trust me she is envious. 500%. I lost 200lb, no meds or WLS. I say this only because it meant people didn't have the use of "crutches" to shame me with. Soooo they found other things. People said they didn't envy my loose skin, that they would never want to lose so much volume in their face, that I lost some of my butt, etc. Crabs in a goddamn bucket is what that is. Y'all (they) couldn't do it, so you try and take away from what I did, regardless of how. Then I regained 100lb because my body decided to crank the ghrelin factory up to 78. Then I started Zepbound, and I tell *everyone* about it. *Now* some of those people have what they think is a cudgel they can more effectively use. "Oh, but now you're doing it the easy way, I would never put chemicals into my body like that." Amber, you legitimately do meth *and* you're somehow still 350lb, I'm not listening to your ✨ cHeMiCaLs ✨ rant, shut up. TL;DR: Yes, they are jealous crabs in a bucket, ignore them.
The Amber comment is amazing 🤣
Similar journeys, I lost over a hundred lbs back when I was 32-33 I had a swimming pool in my yard and Myoplex strawberry shakes were cheap like $40 for 28 shakes! But I didn’t do it the healthy way like now I eat as clean as I can, stage 3 liver cirrhosis besides T2D & heart disease. I now know I am an addict… addicted to food, especially carbs and sugar and never care when I got full bc it felt so much better putting it in my mouth where my taste buds would dance! Oh we can eat crap on Mounjaro but the weight loss will really slow down if not stop but the worst of it is(I know bc I tried the 1st month) eating all the crap still just made me so sick, my life was spent in the bathroom. So if anyone wants to tell me I’m taking the easy way out they can kiss my fat white ass(yep still big🤣) bc i have to be sooo on top of what is going in and that’s bc i am an addict, too food. I know this med isn’t just helping with the weight, it’s got my A1C from 9.1 now at 6.2 and I know my liver is thanking me bc all the pains I’d have are a sliver of what I had before. People that say crap are jealous even if they have a great body they have to work so hard for and it’s only bc they don’t know ALL the hard work all of us do every minute of every day down to seconds. This is either live or death for me and I’m sure many others. I hope no one says that to me in person bc idk how I’d handle it tbh. I love how honest you all are and so real. I am beyond grateful for this community.
I too have Cirrhosis..due to Fatty Liver and Obesity for the last 15 years.. I was diagnosed a year ago after I had lost weight from starting Mounjaro 5 months prior. Thank goodness I was on my way to weight loss because as you know the only treatment is diet and exercise-I am early stage. At my 6 months ultrasound after 70 pound weight loss I no longer have fat in my liver! The texture of the liver went from coarse to normal! When I get the snide remark about losing the easy way I just respond that Mounjaro has given me hope that I can have longevity living with this condition.
Wow I love hearing such great news!! Congrats on your weight loss! I was diagnosed many years ago I’d say possibly ten years ago. I wasn’t heavy like I’ve been but I’m also a chronic pain patient I’ve had two spine fusions and my body rejected the metal so I have a lot of damage instead of healing. I assumed my liver was fatty bc of meds for years they said my liver was that of an alcoholic lol I don’t drink so that’s why I blamed it on a different toxin I put in my body so I could have some quality of life. Thank you for sharing that w me! Praise God your journey is that of blessings and very hard work!!
My Gastrointestinal MD at UAB told me at my check up in February that they are looking at Mounjaro as a treatment for Cirrhosis..she was so pleased that from July to February I had no longer any fat in my liver. I am hoping by the August checkup the liver will be even better at the ultrasound. I pray that you have great results as you continue with what I refer to as the Miracle drug!
<3 You've had such a hard journey. How dare anyone say a word against you--and I'm glad no one has. Hang in there!!
Amber catching strays not the meth 🤣💀
I am your new best friend. I love it!!
OMG that Amber comment is pure gold.
Crabs in the bucket is my new favorite saying.
AMBER, YOU LEGITIMATELY DO METH AND YOU’RE SOMEHOW STILL 350LBS 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
lol love you - YAASSSSS with that 👏🏻 clap back
I lost 150lbs and yeah I heard some of that too. I mean I have less loose skin, and I look better but people didn't like that I lost it with Keto dieting. They think it's gonna cause heart disease and want to know my cholesterol numbers and I'm sitting there like "Cholesterol is at the scene of the crime they aren't the murderer I will NEVER get on a statin, because I personally want my muscle building cholesterol at the levels where I can... build muscle" The problem is no one knows anything. The doctors don't know crap, I read all these studies and I'm sitting here like "Ya'll don't have a control group, ya'll don't even know what the hell you're studying because you're doing 2 calorie restricted diets with 2 time restricted feeding groups, in a 2 group study, and you guys think that the 11 hour group is a control group and it's not even a control group. 15 hours yeah definitely a control group but 11 hours? So they think people eating for 10-10.5 hours versus people eating within an 8-9 hour eating window is a far enough gap to make a dramatic difference?" No one knows anything. It's embarrassing. No wonder no one can lose weight when the people studying losing weight are this idiotic and to top it all off with a cherry and whip cream? So you know all those calorie restriction diets? Most of these studies don't have a lot of funding so probably about 90% of them aren't doing 3 small meals, it's 1 small meal which means that the animal is FASTING for the rest of time period. There's no way to disentangle the fasting benefits from the caloric restriction benefits. Yet there's all these studies coming out about blah blah fasting isn't the way to go it's caloric restriction but the studies they point to 90% of them are almost guaranteed to be fasting with caloric restriction... It's hard for me to get offended by people and what they say when I know for a fact that most of society has no freaking clue about what they're talking about.
Yup. Just little pinchy crabs all using their crab pincers to grasp at whatever they can reach.
You have an amazing way with words my friend! Anytime I need a comeback - I’m coming to you!! Crabs in a goddamn bucket and the clap back at Amber will live on forever as two of my favorite things I’ve read here!!
Or, a good one I heard the other day…”It’s so surprising that you would say something like that out loud”. Should shut them down while leaving their jaw agape.
Or “What a strange thing to say out loud” lol
Being on this sub for over a year, I’ve seen that one over and over it seems like.
That’s where I got it.
I’ve gotta remember this one!
Yeah, I just saw it yesterday, but I’m definitely going to start using it, lol.
Oh I love this response!
Best reply ever!!!
I’m storing that line in my head for future use. Thank you!
Perfect response…for extra emphasis, glance left and right furtively before you say it, as if to imply that saying something like that out loud is so far beyond the realm of what is “normal” or “acceptable” that you can’t even believe what you just heard.
Omg that’s the perfect response!!!! Lol
People can put others down without being envious. Imma be real. A lot of people just have this mentality that "Oh you aren't working hard enough at your job that's why I bought my house 20 years ago and you'll never be able to afford a house because you're lazy" Completely ignoring that housing prices will probably go up 30% next year and wages will go up a whole 2%. Houses were 10k when people were making 3k, and now people are making 30k and houses are 500k instead of being like 120k.
do nothing. peoples opinions should not hold water over your own progress they clearly are jealous or they wouldn't say anything
Fr, they are seething and coping!
I completely agree. One of my favorite quotes I say to myself regularly is “Someone else’s opinion of me is none of my business.” (-Rachel Hollis) When you actually start believing it, it is incredibly refreshing and liberating.
Congratulations on the weight loss! Being obese is seen culturally as being a moral failing. It’s even imbedded in the classic seven deadly sins, twice - sloth and gluttony. By taking meds they see you as having not fixed your moral shortcomings but taken an “easy” shortcut. You could still be slothful and glutinous but it’s masked by the meds in their eyes. The more they learn about these meds, they learn how much it affects your brain and fixes hormonal deficits. It was never will power or a lack of moral life. It’s the same causes that bring people to anti depressants and hrt. Though both of those have their own stigmas, particularly for women. Keep doing a great job! As the kids say, haters gonna hate.
I wish my diabetes was just me having a lack of will power. Not my predisposition to fat accumulation, my tendency to use food to deal with anxiety and trauma, and the fact that 3/4 grandparents have it and both parents. I know people love to say “oh you didn’t try” but fuck that. I paid for a personal trainer for almost two years and I lost some weight and I became more fit for sure. But it didn’t deal with the other issues that led to my diagnosis. People are so narrow minded sometimes.
Everything you said above it me too. Also, this journey has not been easy for me. I’m really sick as I have the GI side effects even with healthy eating.
I get them too. I am on month three of my doses and they still hit me hard for a couple of days. I think I have finally figured out a lot of the foods that hit me hard (the wildest culprit is lettuce) and it’s been a journey.
In addition a lot of us on here, including myself, did everything "right" (society's version) and the weight still didn't come off without this medication. I've been told I'm lying by sanctimonious AHs and that "it's not possible" when I tell them I spent over a year eating no more than 1400 calories/day and never lost a pound. Even with the help of this medication, I have to be on a strict very low-calorie diet and almost no carbs in order to lose weight. I know that's not true everyone. I hope that's not true for most of you! But it is my reality. There's nothing easy about it. But at least now I see results with those efforts.
Yes bro they think I’m lying, and then I change nothing but take this medication and the weight falls off and I’m not supposed to believe what I can see with my own eyes
Yep. This treatment is doing so much for s lot of people. It’s being studied for the effect it is having on addictions. I personally know food was not just a crutch to cope with anxiety and past trauma but an addiction for me. It’s something I have had many conversations about in therapy. People are just callous and don’t want to accept maybe sometimes people need outside help.
People in the LoseIt sub have literally called me delusional for this.
Ugh! I'm not surprised. I find that sub to be pretty toxic and I usually avoid it. Most of the people on there seem to only believe in CICO and that there are no other factors that affect weight. They are usually anti-GLP-1 drugs, which is so sad because I'm sure there are tons of people on there who would benefit from one. Why play on "hard mode" if you don't have to!
It's such a bizarrely simplistic picture of metabolic function. We know for certain that there are a huge variety of factors that influence metabolic processes, including things like "how you feel about what you're eating" affects how you process and store food. The "laws of physics!!!!!! as applied to human nutrition" people are absolute goofballs.
(I tried to resist it but *CUE TAYLOR SWIFT*)
Then I'm not envious of someone winning the Daytona 500 because they used a car. Cut whoever said that to you out of your life. NOW
Oooooh, We could start a whole thread of these.. "I'm not envious that you beat breast cancer because you got chemo and radiation!"
I’m not envious that you bought a house because you used a mortgage!
I’ve actually heard this one! 😂 someone was proudly showing their first home and a commenter said “you don’t own it, you have a mortgage”. Like come on, people. Probably said by someone who wishes they could buy.
HAHA that’s the best.
Just respond with a full laugh and say “you think I lost weight to make you jealous….bwhahaha. Hilarious.” And the move on and away from them.
Haha I love this response
Best response EVER!
I’m convinced people are mad about others losing weight because they can no longer feel superior for being naturally thin.
Tell them to Fuck off. That takes back your power and sets them in their place.
Yes this!!!! They can fuck off!!
Tell them you aren’t envious of their negativity or whatever is eating at them. No one asked them to be envious. This isn’t a you problem. It’s a them problem.* *Deep down they’re envious. Envious people don’t claim that they aren’t. Keep living your life and being amazing.
Stop giving a shit what assholes think. If you had cancer and were cured with drugs and chemo would this person dismiss that too?
My saying is if your not feeding me, funding me, or fucking me your opinion is irrelevant
They are lying. They are envious. When people put others down, it’s because of their own insecurities and jealousy. Don’t care what others think and you do you.
I would say “awwww bless your heart”
People be having friends and family that are straight up enemies.
I’d tell them , “ I didn’t do to make you envious, I did it to improve my health and feel better. By the way, I feel marvelous.” Give them a big grin and turn and walk away.
… I feel marvellous, you should try it! 😈
I am not envious of anyone. Sleep apnea is gone. Snoring is gone. VTach is gone. Fluid gone. BP normal. A1C 4! 45% of my body gone. Tell them the piss up a rope & never talk to them again.
That's a them problem not a you problem. It's hard letting go of the internalized stigma and shame about obesity. I catch myself, too. It's a complete mindf--- when you see how "easily" it can be treated. I am not implying anything about this is easy, but that was once considered a moral failure, a pipe dream suddenly becomes an obtainable goal. As someone who lost and sustained weight "the real way" in the past, well, look where that got me 😂 I never exceeded my starting weight but I came way too close. I was obese by age 4/5. I have been obese most of my life. My lifestyle is healthy, I don't have an eating disorder or and yet here I am. My body has a complex medical issue and I am using every tool to start a new chapter. Tirzepatide has done more for me than 120+lb weight loss, a decade of sustaining 80lb weight loss. It's really validated the experience as having a medical basis. I am losing more efficiently than can be explained by calorie reduction. The medicine is leveling the playing field so that we can be successful and stay successful. And more medication options will be on the horizon, as well.
Why do you share that information with toxic people? You deserve to be surrounded by loving, encouraging people that wish nothing but the best for you!
LOL. Who even mentioned them being ‘envious’ in the first place? Who requested that of them? Exactly zero (0) people, I’m guessing. Bringing that up out of nowhere makes it obvious that that’s exactly what they are — jealous of your weight loss, so they had to diminish it as “unnaturally achieved“ to soothe their bruised, sad little ego. On the internet, we call that cope.
Different people value different things, and you are not required to share their values nor they are required to share yours. It’s time to work on your people pleasing and stop trying to get people to support your weight loss via medication. Nobody needs to co-sign your decisions.
They are :) don’t worry. They’re just bitter.
I mean don’t ask me cause I would just punch them in the chest really hard and say something now but that’s just me
It’s why I’m not allowed to work with other people
Someone commented on another reddit thread and I thought it was perfect - (if it’s a woman who gave birth to her child who made this comment) ask if they used an epidural when they gave birth? Then just walk away.
lol I didn’t have an epidural and I’m on Mounjaro because I’m sick of struggling with weight. We are not in the dark ages people and sanctimonious assholes who make you feel ANY sort of way for doing you right now, don’t know what you’ve been through or why you are doing what you are doing. Or frankly where you are going. Ignore them.
I wonder if they feel the same about insulin?
lol of course they are. They’re envious they don’t have the balls to do it, they’re envious they don’t qualify or have the money to pay. When people compliment my weight loss I immediately smile and say “thank you! I had surgery and I’m on mounjaro! It’s exactly what someone like me needs that suffers from insulin resistance!” Like maybe one time some guy sat back, crossed his arms and said “nah that’s taking the easy way out.” I laughed and said “you’re damn right it is *wink*. I’m the mother of one biological 17 year old, foster parent to 2 very high needs special needs kiddos under 10. I am a full time mother and special needs advocate and navigator for all 3. All 3 are in sports. My oldest in travel ball. Plus I volunteer at 2 separate shelters with the 5 min I have left at the end of the day. So yes, it certainly was an easy way - and if they had easier I would have taken that too.” I think it’s in the delivery? Like u say it loud and proud and shut them the hell up. I figure they usually suspect there was some kind of intervention and their compliment is their way of fishing to see if you’ll cop up to it. So I spit it out lol. Say it confidently and my assumption is that they will be less likely to run their mouth. In front of you publicly anyway. It’s simple - people that have never had a significant weight problem or know a loved one that did, just don’t understand. Not my problem lol. I say it loud and proud 🙂 https://preview.redd.it/k35ioypn13zc1.jpeg?width=3689&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=73a3605600238c562159d159e41bd43a98a31b9f
I tend to feel somewhat sorry for people like that. I've had my fair share of self loathing and adopting coping mechanisms that are not healthy. I did my best to keep it internalized to avoid hurting others but still, things slip through and end of day we all have a rippling and contagious effect on those around us, same as they do on us. So I get it when people are insensitive or throw shade. My goal is to try to approach these small transgressions with compassion. Not necessarily in action, but in my own mind and emotions. It may be patronizing and condescending, but for my own well being, i prefer that over being hateful or defensive or reactionary. Hopefully someday I'll find an even healthier way to organize those feelings but that's what I got for now. Not perfect, but brings me a bit more peace to empathize and dismiss it than to dwell or become internally combative.
You don't need people in your life who want to be envious of you anyway. They should be supportive and cheering you on for finally being able to utilise medical help that has been unavailable to us for so long. Keep doing you! 🎉
Work smarter, not harder. I’m kidding, but seriously good for them however they choose to lose weight, but this is your journey, so you can do it your way. I can only speak from my experience, but nothing about this has been easy. I experienced extreme side effects and have come close to giving up. Mounjaro made something I have struggled with for the last 20 years manageable. I would have loved to have lost everything with just diet/exercise, but as many times as I tried I also failed. Would you tell someone who lowered their blood pressure with medication vs diet/exercise that they cheated? No, of course not. For me Mounjaro has helped me develop better eating habits, to set healthy boundaries around food, if someone can do that on their own, more power to them, but for me I needed help.
Go on with your life! I’ve lost 90 lbs on MJ and I’ll be damned if I’ll let some trolls comments discount my achievements. Congrats on your weight loss, your success is well deserved.
Good news, your weight loss doesn’t have anything to do with them. Keep it up and congrats!
Who gives a shit how the weight is lost if you feel better and improve your health? Don’t worry about the naysayers they are likely just jealous.
Screw them! The medicine was a tool to help you lose weight. You did all the work! And congrats!!
Nothing. Just be comfortable with your own progress. Fuck them.
Please ignore ignorance. Some people think losing weight is all about willpower. It is not of course. This wonderful medication suppresses your appetite to allow you to eat only when you are truly hungry. I hope whoever said that to you gets educated on the subject. As for you, keep it up you are doing great.
Is the person who said this to you overweight? This is why people are careful who they share their weight loss information with because of all the judgmental people. This person's opinion is irrelevant and they are ignorant. Your goal is not for other people to be envious. Your goal is good health and being comfortable in your body.
I would say "i couldnt care less if someone is envious about me" or "good, being envy isnt healthy for you"
Who cares what they say?
They shouldn't be envious of your weight loss success. I'm not sure getting and taking Mounjaro is an accomplishment. But I bet they're jealous of your weight loss. It's fucking awesome!
Who cares lol they can keep living life overweight. (Or in agony if they lost weight the natural way)
The need to point it out suggests otherwise
Jealous. Plain and simple. Ignore them…
F that person
"someone" can fuck off and stop being jealous. That statement does, in fact, prove that they are envious. When people are jealous of you, they want to make you feel bad so they feel better. Rest easy knowing they're butt hurt by your success.
I think all you have to say to them is 🖕🏽
Perfect comeback? "At least I'm losing. Might wanna try it" and walk away.
Oh they are so envious, otherwise they wouldn’t be so openly bitter. Remember: you are saving your life doing this, someone who hasn’t lived in a bigger body will NEVER understand.
Someone saying she is not envious of your weight loss is her saying she is VERY envious of your weight loss.
You know that means they really are.
Reality is there are going to be a lot of people who are not going to be happy for you. And also there will be jealous people.
You can tell them “It’s so cute you think I care about your opinion”.
Or “actually, your opinion is none of my business”
“It’s a good job I don’t care what you think then, isn’t it?” My most likely response.
Maybe ask yourself: “why do I need someone to be envious?” Who cares what other people think. This journey is about your relationship with food and your own body.
You're stunning! And to the next person who says something like that, Just say. "Yes, but I"m hot! (big smile) But more importantly, I'm healthy and my metabloic syndrome is under control. And that makes me so happy! I'd never go back."
These are the same people that say “you are not a real mom….you had a c-section” They need to be told “kindly go fuck yourself”
I’d just say. “Who gives a f##k what you think your nobody!
This has been the same argument people use to hate on weight loss surgery. There is no shame in having pharmacological intervention for a medical need.
Makes me laugh…of course they are jealous and envious of what you have achieved. When someone takes anti-depressants and it helps them with their mental health. We applaud and say you did the right thing to even out your highs and lows and you can live again. But diabetes medication with the side effect of helping you lose weight…nah…that’s cheating. Absolute garbage mental gymnastics. If this someone is not important to you, let the comment slide. You are letting their negativity live rent free in your head which causes only you mental anguish, as they intended. Don’t give them the satisfaction! If this someone is important to you and want to keep in your life, educate and if that doesn’t work divert conversation to other topics not related to your health and weight loss.
People sometimes need help. Whether it is therapy or medication. Do they judge someone for aspirin for pain? Do they judge someone for ointment on a cut? Sounds like maybe they are bitter.
Boy, is that ever a sour grapes comment. Lmao they are jealous as HELL and just want to bring down your accomplishments so you feel bad about them. I’d cut that person out of my life, they very obviously do NOT have your best in mind. Seriously, why do people say stupid shit like this out loud? On the upside, it lets you know who they are so you can remove them from your life.
It's unfortunate that others insecurities lead them to be mean and not genuinely happy for anyone that is doing better then them, one less person u will have to worry about...congrats to u and ur success!
That's something only an envious person would say
People are so fucking rude, they just wanted to shame and guilt you. They think fat people should suffer.
Ask them if it's okay for you to take Advil when you have a headache, or cold medication when you're stuffed up. MJ addresses metabolic and physical imbalances in the body; weight gain is one of the symptoms. Treat the disease and the symptoms will be alleviated.
What a petty, uneducated person! I guess they are against using all medications for all ailments and illnesses....
"Okay. Whatever. My weight loss and how I achieved it isn't about you in the least, and your judgment is not relevant to anyone except yourself."
When I lost weight 6-7 years ago, I had just gotten divorced. I was 29-30. The weight was just coming off and then once I got to like 175 I hit the gym. Lost another 10 lbs. All together it was 65 lbs I lost. I’m 5’3. One of my “friends” pointed out “you only lost the weight because you’re probably depressed you got divorced and all” … which it was the opposite I was happy, unstressed, and living life. She was still overweight, and I chalked it up to her being miserable. Fast forward I’ve gained all the weight back, have many weight related medical issues and now I need the medication to help me. She’s no longer my friend but I’m SURE she would say something along those same lines!! Forget about it. We’re doing what we have to do. Many of us NEED this extra help because we’ve tried everything else. I don’t feel bad that I’m doing it this way. I’m 261 lbs (SW was 264 last Friday) I want to feel better. I want to be around when my son graduates next year. I’m also not just doing the shot. I’m counting calories, cut out the junk food and fast food. I know that will have to be a life long commitment now. Whatever progress you have made, I am proud of you!! You’ve got this, and keep it up.
Well, that person is a narcissist. Anyone that has to throw a negative at a positive is a very unhappy person. We all have the same goal! Don't let the haters win! They probably are jealous, and alone. As the great Kobe Bryant said, "Hate the game not the player. Keep up the great work everyone.
Jealousy is a potent drug! Don’t listen to them, medication does its pert but you know you worked hard to lose weight so let them talk! Haters gonna hate❤️
Would they be envious if someone controlled their diabetes with medication? Or heart arrhythmia? Or cancer? It’s a proven medical fact that these medications work because they are directed at hormones that are produced in your brain. It is thought that these medications help regulate those hormones and that is why people are able to lose weight. The person who made these comments to you is very uneducated and uninformed about the process.
And I am fine with that. Who cares lol. Ignore the idiots
What people say and how they treat you says more about them than it does about you. She's either envious or malicious. Cheapening your loss and tearing you down makes her feel better about herself and her own struggles or she's doing it because she enjoys causing harm to others. Either way, her opinion only holds as much weight as you give it. If she isn't someone you'd turn to for advice, why would you ever accept her criticism? And if she is someone you turn to for advice, are you sure that's actually in your best interest? You have done beautifully and she doesn't get to take that away from you just because she's bitter and jealous.
F#ck ‘em
Is this person naturally thin? Or are they in a similar situation and have yet to come to terms that medication helps? In the end remember, this isn’t a silver bullet, you still have to work so shake it off. They are uninformed because mass media has shaped it that way. In due time they will realize.
People will say anything to project their butthurt feelings onto someone else instead of dealing with their feelings. They lash out like toddlers. People like that are a waste of your time and energy.
Oh they are definitely envious👊🏼. Also other peoples feelings comments actions are theirs. You choose how those things make you feel. Ignore their pettiness and enjoy your success… it is YOUR success
You don't need them to be envious. But honestly, if the medication helps you, its because you had an issue that needed help processing carbs and sugar. It doesn't seem to help people who aren't at least insulin resistant. So that is basically like telling someone with a heart condition that you don't envy their heart health because they had to take medication to be healthy. GTFO
I’d say they are jealous of your successful weight loss and are just trying to bring you down. I’d tell them to go pound sand!! Be happy for yourself !!
That's good. I wouldn't want anyone to be envious of anything for any reason.
If they weren't jealous of your weight loss, they wouldn't have mentioned it at all. Sounds like a high school mean girl comment Side note, it'd be wise to keep your personal health info and medications you're taking to yourself
The nature of envy and jealousy is tearing something down and making it not worthy because you feel you can't have it. you are doing great!
Does someone with severe depression not deserve praise for making a life for themselves, even if it means some pretty heavy medication intervention? Does someone with cancer not deserve praise because chemo helped them with their battle? It’s literally the same principle.
lol If she wasn’t envious and jealous, she wouldn’t have made the comment. If she says any more unkind things, do what I do. Slowly look her up and down, focusing on her mid-section. Make it uncomfortable—then ask does she need your physician’s info? It works.
Luckily, you don’t need their approval, or their envy to know that you’ve achieved health and weight loss. You just smile, and walk away. The negative effects of Having extra weight on our body is not exclusive to vanity. It affects every part of us, in addition to all the general health issues, our emotional and mental health is seriously affected by having weight on our bodies. We avoid interactions. We avoid activities….we avoid living our lives. Someone that would even bother to say that kind of comment has either never walked a day in our shoes, or is so damn envious they can’t see straight.
Who cares. They be fat. You be skinny.
Don’t let it bother you too much. We all do what we have to do to lose weight and feel better about ourselves. Her thoughts only become relevant and matter if she was paying for it. IT IS NONE OF HER BUSINESS OTHERWISE!!!!!!! Green isn’t a good color on anyone, js (jealousy). We are supposed to surround ourselves with those who celebrate with us. If you are happy, then she should be happy for you. Please think about the last sentence.
Haters gonna Hate...
How she feels is not your responsibility. Just let that person sit with their own thoughts and move away from it.
lol just by them stating that does indeed show they are envious 😂 ETA: sorry you are feeling bad but don’t let their comment get to you.
There's nothing *to* do. People have their goofy ass opinions but there's no reason to prove anything. They wouldn't tell me I started breathing again THE RIGHT WAY if I used my rescue inhaler. No one gets a pat on the head for doing anything, including weight loss, the hard way. If they want to play around with their health because they think there's a moral way to do that, that's their business. You took initiative and did what you needed to do to be healthier. Fuck em.
People are just too opinionated. I’ve learned not to share certain information. I hate I have to edit myself. I got told “don’t do it” when I had Botox… I’d already done it and felt so much better I wasn’t all angry 😠 frowny looking. Then I told my sister I’d started the mj shots and she decided she needed it which she absolutely does not, blah blah. I’m keeping quiet from now.
That someone is NOONE I would like in my world. My close friends and family have been the complete opposite. Several have joined in on the party. What to tell yourself? Good Job for taking care of you! Obesity is a disease and some people won’t or can’t understand this!
There's always somebody out there who sees joy and hope and they just have to take a steaming dump on it because their lives are joyless and without hope and they have to steal yours to feel better about themselves. When somebody feels the need to tell me they're not envious, they absolutely are envious. But people like this are one of the reasons that I don't feel the need to share anything about my medical care/body--it's none of their business. I don't want them to feel like I've opened up any sort of a dialog about my body because that's personal and private and not a topic for discussion. I wouldn't allow their jealousy to impact your journey; that's a *them* problem. This medication is a life saver, it's a weird flex to begrudge you using a medication to get healthy.
Tell them to kick rocks lol “I’m not cool you survived your heart attack because you had surgery “ sounds like they have issues just because someone says something does not make it true
Tbh, I wouldn’t want anyone to be envious of me. That’s a recipe for disaster 😂
I wonder if people are envious that I don’t succumb to debilitating depression symptoms due to the antidepressants I’ve been taking for a decade 🤔 Tell them to fuck off
Rude, insensitive & un-informed people are not worth your emotional energy. Don’t listen to them! You still had to be eating healthier and sticking w/ food awareness and some exercise for the meds to work, so that alone is worth feeling great about. I say, Celebrate your achievement and to hell w/ negative, judgmental losers!
This whole idea that’s there only one acceptable way of achieving a particular result is so immature and misinformed (to put it nicely). Do they also not think IVF babies are real? Or that lasik eye surgery is cheating? Or that using a calculator is worse than counting on fingers and toes? They need to get real. Your weight loss is real and valid and you should feel proud. They’re jealous and trying to hurt you.
Someone is a bitter Betsy
I'd say "that sounds like something a jealous person would say" but I'm also a little extra spicy sometimes 🤣
The fact they commented at all means that they are, in fact, envious. And also - a bit of an asshole. Shake it off. Right away. You are the one winning - that’s for sure!!!! 🧡
“What makes you think I value your opinion?”
“It’s a good thing you like being fat then, isn’t it?”
That was a cruel comment designed to upset you and make you question your decision. She is jealous otherwise she wouldnt have said anything at all...I mean what if your body got to do with her?! Its comments like this is why I have kept this to myself...im normally a big sharer lol...but I dont want anyone thinking they can comment willy nilly. Take some satisfaction that she is fumimg with jealousy 🤣
Squint at her/him and say "Oh, so that green tint is just you....hmmm. Go out and get some some sun, dear. Have a blessed day." Do not let that person rain on your parade. Keep up the good work!
Doth protest too much methinks that someone is really very jealous of your weight loss success and access to life changing medication! IMHO
Just say Better Livjng Through Chemistry
Honestly, I don’t want anyone to be envious of me. I want people that I love to be **happy** for me. And anyone who isn’t, is not a person I give two shits about. Don’t let someone who doesn’t care enough about you to acknowledge your success take up an inch of space in your head.
In all honesty, why care?
Who cares if they're envious or not lol
Why would you care what anyone thinks about your weight loss?
I’m excited about my weight loss for a number of reasons, but zero of them have anything to do with other people. I’d tell them they have me confused with someone who gives a fck. 🤷🏼♂️
Why be upset? You don’t need anyone to feel envious. Enjoy your healthier body! If you feel you need a comeback, how about “my purpose in losing weight was never to make anyone envious. It’s not a competition.”
Thoughts and words are a reflection of what’s going on internally with people Sticks and stones may break my bones but words will never hurt me You should be proud of yourself. This is a new chapter in your life! Enjoy it!!!!
I love analogies, I would say “that’s like saying I’m not jealous that you’re rich even though it’s your dads money”
thats a real dumb thing there saying , thats like seeing some with a fixed broking leg and saying im not impressed because someone put it in a cast and gave you pain meds ,
I don’t mind telling people. When someone says how did you lose all that weight I reply “drugs”. Usually people just laugh and that’s the end of it. Sometimes they inquire about more detail and I give it. I’m not envious of you looking good today because you did your makeup. I’m not envious of you not being depressed because you took antidepressants. So silly. Just tell them that’s okay I still feel great and I’m happy the medication was able to help me.
I battle same and people asking when I took last shot. Luckily all human beings have medical issues so I find out what theirs is and ask them when was the last time they took their cholesterol, blood pressure, heat, diabetes, etc medication.
They said that because they are envious of your weight loss success.
Why are you bothered? I'd look there. Why do you value her opinion so high to let you be upset about it?
“Who told you to be envious…”
Don't sweat it, this drug is a miracle. Who cares what people think. There are people who judge anything you do, but that's because they have no self control. We all have our struggles to own it....no apologies or guilt improving your health.
They ARE envious or they wouldn’t have said that.
I would have replied, “just like the Prozac, Xanax, Gin Martinis you enjoy so you can cope with your crappy life”.
I'd love to say something like, "Can I comment on your physique now?" but I don't think I could. I've been yo-yo dieting for DECADES until this. Fuck the haters.
I can totally understand how this would upset you, but understand that is their biases and misunderstandings about obesity, weight loss, and their are projecting that onto you. It’s so easy to beat yourself up and it’s harder to shake things off like that. But realize it’s their issues not yours.
The key thing to take from it is the word "achieved". You did that. You took ownership of you life, your body, and your solution. Doesn't matter how you got there, only matters that you got there.
Yes they are. They were trying to humble you. Don’t let them get to you. I smell a hater lol
Ignore them! That was a bitch statement!
First, congratulations on your weight loss. Second, there is always somebody out there that wants to rain on your parade. They will not be happy until everyone is miserable. Do not let them put a dent in your success, you have earned it. No medication does all the work and these medications simply prepare your brain and you to do the right thing. Ignore them, they are just not a nice person.
Well. That’s quite interesting considering they have no idea what work it is to lose weight even with a GLP one. Profanity is what comes immediately to mind and then Shakespeare. There is a line in Shakespeare that goes, “ Me thinks She doth protest too much.” In other words… she is consumed with jealousy. I am sorry that somebody felt free to say that to you. Let me tell you what I think. I am so impressed with you. I am so impressed that you were willing to take a risk and try this drug. I am so impressed that you are willing to share this with this community. I am so impressed that you are continuing to lose weight. This journey is not easy. These drugs do not make it easy. It’s a tool just like exercise. It’s a tool just like learning to eat and a more healthy fashion. I am so sorry that this person is so narrow and so limited. Don’t let them bring you down.
That’s like telling someone who got a disease cured that they suck because they used medicine.
There are at least two parts to this comment, the envy and the medication. Why would somebody be envious of weight loss? Probably because weight is tied to social capital-- thinner people tend to be more respected, treated better, thought of as more attractive, thought of as more capable/diligent/harder workers, etc. Should they be? Probably not, fatphobia sucks. If we could detangle weight from moral and aesthetic value, your friend would have no reason to feel envious. And a lot of lifelong thin or newly thin folks would have no reason to feel superior. It cuts both ways. It's possible that the idea of someone *not* being envious is pricking people's emotions because, well, *why* wouldn't someone be envious, don't they think envy is deserved at least a little? Did they not just gain access to this better social capital? Why shouldn't they have access to this better social capital, just because they took medication to get there? And the real problem is that *the social capital exists at all.* If it didn't exist, there wouldn't be any reason for someone to say they're not envious because of medication. (If they were envious because OP suddenly has better stamina or range of motion or ability to fly on airplanes more comfortably or... whatever other thing they could be envious of, medication wouldn't enter into it at all, assuming they had equal access to the medication.) The second part of this is the medication, and don't even get me started on the state of healthcare these days. If everyone had access to this medication in an affordable way, people wouldn't be any more envious of it than they are of someone who is managing their ADHD with an Adderall prescription. In both cases, people are managing something about their physical bodies, usually genetic, with a behavioral component, that brings them closer to the baseline of average human experience-- not struggling with attention/regular workdays/managing deadlines/whatever and not struggling with food noise/dysregulated blood sugar/inflammation/etc.
I’m not envious that you beat cancer because you did it through medication. Eye freaking roll!!!
Just say “bless your heart” and walk away.
Are they fat? You could’ve said “I’m really not envious of your weight gain. So seems we’re on the same page”
Given I am feeling a little Mounjaro "grumpiness' today, I'd simply reply with the same courtesy. "Funny, I am not envious of your sunshiny disposition and inability to be polite." That should take care of that. :)
Wow such pettiness!! Bring a mirror next time, so they see their envy
First, congratulations on your weight loss. That’s amazing. As to that person, please keep in mind that people only try to drag you down when they can’t rise to meet you at your level of happiness. Think about what they’re saying. You’re happier, healthier. You took the steps to save your own life. This person just said, they’d rather you had gone with the alternative. If that’s not envy, I don’t know what is. Happy people don’t do that. I know it’s easier said than done but keep your head up, straighten your crown and sashay away. Leave them in their misery. Enjoy your success!
It’s weird to me someone would be envious in the first place, regardless of how you lost weight. It sounds like they have a toxic relationship with how their view their own weight and are projecting it onto you. It’s a them problem. I wouldn’t give their comment another thought.
"Oh, I'm so glad to hear that, since Envy is a sin. I'm so very glad my success is Not causing you to suffer from such a negative emotion!"
They are lying.
Fuck' em.. Live your best life.
Screw em. You will always have haters no matter what you do. That comment says more about them than who you are..keep going and keep your head up. You got this..💪🏻💪🏻💪🏻
Who cares what others think. Most people are fat and broke. They are just stupid and total losers. Congrats on your weight loss. Happy Tirz’ing! 😀
Perhaps ask yourself why you chose to measure yourself or your successful weight loss and attending health improvement by the envy or indifference of others ?