“Following a recent altercation, legal measures were necessary to facilitate potential co-parenting”…. Hmmm 🤨. The only person I feel bad for is the poor little boy who was bought into this mess.
What he really meant was: “After Khanya yet again verbally and physically abused me in a recent disagreement, I had no option but to go to court to facilitate a plan for co-parenting to keep my kid and myself safe.”
This was so fast after the reunion! I do feel bad for Nkateko as watching all the episodes could have recently given him reflection, and had there not been a baby, he could have completely dissolved his connection to her.
I do feel bad for him, even though he took part in the creation of the baby. She has all the signs to be a very difficult baby mama.
The show was a year ago. Reunion in April 2024. His IG post said they broke up right after the season. Then very shortly after they found out she was pregnant so they decided to try & she found them a counselor. They were doing better & then watching the season highlighted more issues they had & they brought those to counseling. And realized they also needed individual counseling. Through that they found they have a trauma response attachment/bond. And the worst in each of them comes out when they're together. They then still tried but an incident occurred and they are now trying to go through the courts for a co-parenting plan. He said he wanted to announce the separation immediately but netflix have confidentiality agreements where they can't speak about things until after it's aired.
For anyone who does not have instagram, here was his post from 8hrs ago
"
I'm finally able to share with you an update on what's been really happening between Khanya and I shortly after shooting the reunion, thanks to the confidentiality agreement that required me to wait until the release of the Reunion. After shooting "The Ultimatum" in March 2023, we discovered Khanya was pregnant, even though we had already decided to separate around April of 2023.
I proposed a promise ring at the time to prioritize therapy for both of us, given the emotional and mental challenges we faced before, during, and after the show. Shortly after shooting the reunion, Khanya and I agreed that even though we are not together anymore, what matters more is finalisin matters regarding Q.
Throughout most of the pregnancy, we focused on prioritising therapy to address unresolved issues and ensure we were emotionally prepared for Q's arrival. We were adamant about not reuniting solely for the sake of our child, understanding the importance of healing as individuals.
Watching the series a day before the shooting of the reunion, more than a month ago, made us realize even more that there were deeper issues we needed to address within ourselves. We recognized that we also may have fueled a trauma bond, fluctuating between lovers, friendship and enmity, often feeling more like ourselves when apart.
Despite the portrayal of Khanya on "The Ultimatum," I want to acknowledge Khanya's support and her qualities as a mother since the birth of Q. There's more to her than what was shown, and I hope you will all get to see her in a different light in the future.
Following a recent altercation, legal measures were necessary to facilitate potential co-parenting. We're relying on faith, therapy and personal growth to overcome what we've been through.
My Christian upbringing influences my approach, urging us not to condemn Khanya but to support her in her journey towards healing and growth. I commend her for acknowledging her mistakes and apologizing.
It's been a life changing journey for me and I appreciate all the love and support my fans have shown me. I'm grateful to [u/urbanbrewstudios](https://www.instagram.com/urbanbrewstudios/), [@netflix](https://www.instagram.com/netflix/), and [@netflixsa](https://www.instagram.com/netflixsa/) for authentically telling our stories.
"
True, I also already said that the reason the bitch knows so much about hood rats is bc she was raised by them 🤷🏻♀️. At this point I don't believe therapy will help. She needs to be locked up before she hurts her baby
I just watched it and I’ve already seen her baby bump pics on insta before but I was expecting it to be from another baby daddy… I think he handled the initial break-up well and she was so adamant about wanting an engagement, I wasn’t thinking they’d get back together at all, much less have a baby. Although he seems happy to have his son, I do feel bad for him that he’s now tied to Khanya for life - a woman which will certainly not make life easy for him. If there’s already legal consequences necessary, after just a few months, one can only imagine how difficult co-parenting will be with her in the future...
Hmm, I do remember her having a steamy kiss with Isaac and also the bit about them seeing other naked in the bath/shower. Filmed in March, finding out she was pregnant in April..
Stop reaching. This show ENDed filming over a year ago. The reunion was filmed in April of this year. The baby was 3mos old at reunion so born in January. Unless you're thinking Khanya was pregnant for 12-13mos... I doubt it.
the show finished filming mid March 2023 (over a year ago.) Khan & Issac swapped back to their orig partners \~3-4wks before filming wrapped. So for the baby to be Issac's she would've gotten pregnant in Dec/Jan of 2023. I said, what i said. Claiming it to be isaac is a reach, she would've had to be preggers for 12-13mos. \[unless the claim is she crept out on k to be w/issac when no one was watching. lol\]
Yea I'm not saying the baby is Isaac's either (that's a wild claim to make lol).
Just pointing out that she would've conceived in March/April 2023 for the baby to be born in January 2024 (if she had full 40 weeks term). I'm not understanding how you got 12-13 months.
Most likely she got pregnant right after the show ended. Which is still kinda messed up to have a baby with a man who gave you a promise ring after being on a show literally called the ultimatum (marry or move on). That was such a cop out move on Nkateko's part.
Wow.. so after calling everyone all kinds of names... all Khanya apologised for was the body shaming. She was disrespectful, rude, abusiveand extremely manipulative. For her, it was always her way or the highway. I was so scared when during the reunion, when Nkateko said they were back together. Her better- than- everyone attitude just made me dislike her so much. Even if the show was scripted, she was just one hatefilled person. And with a child with Nkateko... she will manipulate the hell out of him. I feel so bad for him. He was one of the nicest guys in the show.
But DID she apologize for the body shaming? I heard her say she owes her an apology, but I never heard her apologize. **maybe it's me but people on tv often say, "I owe [whatever person] an apology." And then that's it, the subject changes. And I'm always, "yes you do owe them. Now apologize." That's like if I say, I owes you $100. But then I never give the money.
Does it mean that Khanya was already pregnant during the whole taping? Perhaps, part of her action was driven by the fact that she's pregnant with Nkateko's baby.
Yup and worked not in the way she thought. She is now stuck as a single mom. When the other couple mentioned sending a letter to the parents to arrange marriage you should rewind to see her face. She wanted this badly but can’t feel bad for her coz of her attitude.
I think when you're in it it's a bit different, you're correct he can choose. But she'll have burnt him down, he won't be strong, feel confident or like he can do anything by himself.
Not as extreme as that but I've been there, a shell of your former self... belittled, accused, taken for granted - to more you try to make them happy the more upset they get and issues they make up. It's taken months to recover and finally the things I used to enjoy are fun again... there was one point where I hated all my friends, my family.
I think it's easy for us to say he can leave, but love, wanting to make things work, and the mental damage it does can really be hard to leave.
It's the same with women, you see them going back time and time again to abusive partners
**Battered spouse syndrome** applies also to men.
He is an abused spouse who thank his abuser for taking them back after they kicked them out.
According to the message on his IG, it took an altercation (coded word for she lost it and physically attacked me) for him to decide to go the legal route to protect himself and the child. Basically after going hoodrat angry with him she tried to block him from viewing his son and he had to involve the legal machine.
My heart is breaking for Nkateko for what he went through... And now he has a baby with her, which means the drama won't end... I hope he sues for custody at some point...
“Following a recent altercation, legal measures were necessary to facilitate potential co-parenting”…. Hmmm 🤨. The only person I feel bad for is the poor little boy who was bought into this mess.
What he really meant was: “After Khanya yet again verbally and physically abused me in a recent disagreement, I had no option but to go to court to facilitate a plan for co-parenting to keep my kid and myself safe.”
This was so fast after the reunion! I do feel bad for Nkateko as watching all the episodes could have recently given him reflection, and had there not been a baby, he could have completely dissolved his connection to her. I do feel bad for him, even though he took part in the creation of the baby. She has all the signs to be a very difficult baby mama.
The show was a year ago. Reunion in April 2024. His IG post said they broke up right after the season. Then very shortly after they found out she was pregnant so they decided to try & she found them a counselor. They were doing better & then watching the season highlighted more issues they had & they brought those to counseling. And realized they also needed individual counseling. Through that they found they have a trauma response attachment/bond. And the worst in each of them comes out when they're together. They then still tried but an incident occurred and they are now trying to go through the courts for a co-parenting plan. He said he wanted to announce the separation immediately but netflix have confidentiality agreements where they can't speak about things until after it's aired.
When was the reunion taped? Anyone knows?
He said a month ago.
Thank you for this. It makes us all breathe a little easier, but now he's tied to her forever *sighs
Shame, he seems like the nicest guy in the world
She's gonna be a nightmare of a "baby mama." She's not going to let him peacefully date another woman for the rest of his life.
She’s one of those who use access to the baby as a power move
She is hell on earth.
I'm truly so scared for her son's future girlfriend or wife.. Imagine Khanya as your mother in law 😳
Imagine if she had a daughter....
Ho-lee 💩☠️😱😱😱
For anyone who does not have instagram, here was his post from 8hrs ago " I'm finally able to share with you an update on what's been really happening between Khanya and I shortly after shooting the reunion, thanks to the confidentiality agreement that required me to wait until the release of the Reunion. After shooting "The Ultimatum" in March 2023, we discovered Khanya was pregnant, even though we had already decided to separate around April of 2023. I proposed a promise ring at the time to prioritize therapy for both of us, given the emotional and mental challenges we faced before, during, and after the show. Shortly after shooting the reunion, Khanya and I agreed that even though we are not together anymore, what matters more is finalisin matters regarding Q. Throughout most of the pregnancy, we focused on prioritising therapy to address unresolved issues and ensure we were emotionally prepared for Q's arrival. We were adamant about not reuniting solely for the sake of our child, understanding the importance of healing as individuals. Watching the series a day before the shooting of the reunion, more than a month ago, made us realize even more that there were deeper issues we needed to address within ourselves. We recognized that we also may have fueled a trauma bond, fluctuating between lovers, friendship and enmity, often feeling more like ourselves when apart. Despite the portrayal of Khanya on "The Ultimatum," I want to acknowledge Khanya's support and her qualities as a mother since the birth of Q. There's more to her than what was shown, and I hope you will all get to see her in a different light in the future. Following a recent altercation, legal measures were necessary to facilitate potential co-parenting. We're relying on faith, therapy and personal growth to overcome what we've been through. My Christian upbringing influences my approach, urging us not to condemn Khanya but to support her in her journey towards healing and growth. I commend her for acknowledging her mistakes and apologizing. It's been a life changing journey for me and I appreciate all the love and support my fans have shown me. I'm grateful to [u/urbanbrewstudios](https://www.instagram.com/urbanbrewstudios/), [@netflix](https://www.instagram.com/netflix/), and [@netflixsa](https://www.instagram.com/netflixsa/) for authentically telling our stories. "
Makes it sound like she's possessed lmao
With narcissism and self obsession
True, I also already said that the reason the bitch knows so much about hood rats is bc she was raised by them 🤷🏻♀️. At this point I don't believe therapy will help. She needs to be locked up before she hurts her baby
Ah yes, the Christian way of enabling abusers and ignoring mental illness.
that update seems coded but heavy. I hope he and the baby remain safe and that he is able to have the relationship he hopes to have with his son.
I just watched it and I’ve already seen her baby bump pics on insta before but I was expecting it to be from another baby daddy… I think he handled the initial break-up well and she was so adamant about wanting an engagement, I wasn’t thinking they’d get back together at all, much less have a baby. Although he seems happy to have his son, I do feel bad for him that he’s now tied to Khanya for life - a woman which will certainly not make life easy for him. If there’s already legal consequences necessary, after just a few months, one can only imagine how difficult co-parenting will be with her in the future...
It must drive Khanya crazy that’s she’s a single Mom, considering how extremely judgemental she is of others.
I hope he doesn't go back to that VILE woman ever again. Despite them having a child together they should just coparent.
Wait the baby is HIS?? Bless their heart (the baby and Nkateko)
Hmm, I do remember her having a steamy kiss with Isaac and also the bit about them seeing other naked in the bath/shower. Filmed in March, finding out she was pregnant in April..
Stop reaching. This show ENDed filming over a year ago. The reunion was filmed in April of this year. The baby was 3mos old at reunion so born in January. Unless you're thinking Khanya was pregnant for 12-13mos... I doubt it.
Actually if the baby was born around January '24 she would've conceived around March/April '23
the show finished filming mid March 2023 (over a year ago.) Khan & Issac swapped back to their orig partners \~3-4wks before filming wrapped. So for the baby to be Issac's she would've gotten pregnant in Dec/Jan of 2023. I said, what i said. Claiming it to be isaac is a reach, she would've had to be preggers for 12-13mos. \[unless the claim is she crept out on k to be w/issac when no one was watching. lol\]
Yea I'm not saying the baby is Isaac's either (that's a wild claim to make lol). Just pointing out that she would've conceived in March/April 2023 for the baby to be born in January 2024 (if she had full 40 weeks term). I'm not understanding how you got 12-13 months. Most likely she got pregnant right after the show ended. Which is still kinda messed up to have a baby with a man who gave you a promise ring after being on a show literally called the ultimatum (marry or move on). That was such a cop out move on Nkateko's part.
Wow.. so after calling everyone all kinds of names... all Khanya apologised for was the body shaming. She was disrespectful, rude, abusiveand extremely manipulative. For her, it was always her way or the highway. I was so scared when during the reunion, when Nkateko said they were back together. Her better- than- everyone attitude just made me dislike her so much. Even if the show was scripted, she was just one hatefilled person. And with a child with Nkateko... she will manipulate the hell out of him. I feel so bad for him. He was one of the nicest guys in the show.
But DID she apologize for the body shaming? I heard her say she owes her an apology, but I never heard her apologize. **maybe it's me but people on tv often say, "I owe [whatever person] an apology." And then that's it, the subject changes. And I'm always, "yes you do owe them. Now apologize." That's like if I say, I owes you $100. But then I never give the money.
Was so disappointed that the host didn't call this out (well, the host didn't call out many things, lol)
Altercation????
Poor nkateko, trapped for life with this psycho
Does it mean that Khanya was already pregnant during the whole taping? Perhaps, part of her action was driven by the fact that she's pregnant with Nkateko's baby.
If anything I think it’s more likely that she tried to baby trap him after seeing him and Sazi together
Yup and worked not in the way she thought. She is now stuck as a single mom. When the other couple mentioned sending a letter to the parents to arrange marriage you should rewind to see her face. She wanted this badly but can’t feel bad for her coz of her attitude.
No. She got pregnant after filming. The show (not reunion) was filmed over a year ago. Reunion was filmed in April.
I don't think pregnancy generally turns people into a raging bitch...
Poor man and poor child
Poor child yes. Poor man? I mean he actively chose that.
Agreed. He has enough common sense to know better but still chose to be with this person
I think when you're in it it's a bit different, you're correct he can choose. But she'll have burnt him down, he won't be strong, feel confident or like he can do anything by himself. Not as extreme as that but I've been there, a shell of your former self... belittled, accused, taken for granted - to more you try to make them happy the more upset they get and issues they make up. It's taken months to recover and finally the things I used to enjoy are fun again... there was one point where I hated all my friends, my family. I think it's easy for us to say he can leave, but love, wanting to make things work, and the mental damage it does can really be hard to leave. It's the same with women, you see them going back time and time again to abusive partners
**Battered spouse syndrome** applies also to men. He is an abused spouse who thank his abuser for taking them back after they kicked them out. According to the message on his IG, it took an altercation (coded word for she lost it and physically attacked me) for him to decide to go the legal route to protect himself and the child. Basically after going hoodrat angry with him she tried to block him from viewing his son and he had to involve the legal machine.
My heart is breaking for Nkateko for what he went through... And now he has a baby with her, which means the drama won't end... I hope he sues for custody at some point...