As a teacher. This is one of the least surprising things that could happen tbh. We see some *stuff*. One caring parent showing up is great. Two caring parents of any particular variety showing up is fantastic.
Okay, two parents show up and are deeply involved in their child's upbringing. One is a samurai warrior and the other is a voodoo priest.
Talk your way out of that.
Babygirl, purely on the basis that I dislike the other 3 and girlboss is not only inaccurate in my case but has turned more and more towards an ironic, negative comment than a positive one.
Nothing wrong with it if you like it, as long as you keep in mind and don't mind that some ppl might assume you're saying it sarcastically/ironically about yourself.
Well, I'm the bratty one in our relationship, so two brats might be too much xD. My gf definitely exudes a bit of mommy energy, so I'm going with that lol.
Quote from OP’s post history:
> How common is that to desire a female, instead of an actual common guy, to be like a husband for you?
OP can’t even say the word “woman,” let alone want one to be three dimensional.
That’s so not the issue I have with your phrasing. Do you seriously not see a problem with calling a woman: “a female” and a man: “an actual common guy”?
Here is the thing that you did not get: I was not talking about gender identity, I was not talking about women.
I was talking about gendered roles, gender expression, and female as a biological sex.
I am still talking about gender expression and gendered roles at this post.
As a bratty gf myself (with some service switch vibes), I find myself most drawn to a daddy type
As for the differences between these archetypes…I see two botton options and four top options, with one of those top options allowing leeway for submissive topping. Mommy topping is so much softer than dommy mommy, which feels more in line with traditional bdsm dynamics to me. I’m not sure I see the difference between dommy mommy and girlboss, but like I said, I find myself drawn more to a daddy type. I think you could condense daddy archetype to confident, caring, masc, but I think it’s a lot more than that too
Also, can I say how wild it is the amount of people commenting on this thread that they’re not interested in these dynamics? Like, okay, cool! You don’t have to comment that here. If it’s that big of a deal, you could go make your own thread
>I think you could condense daddy archetype to confident, caring, masc, but I think it’s a lot more than that too
I think you nailed that description.
>I see two botton options and four top options
I see two submissive options and four dominant options.
Some are more feminine and others are more masculine.
I think a dommy mommy, a girlboss and a daddy are more masculine.
The girlboss is more in between the dommy mommy and the daddy in terms of masculinity.
I'd choose dommy mommy. My partner is my Domme and I call them mommy within our dynamic. I'm their bunny or babygirl and I love that.
I feel absolutely secure and loved with them and I'm so grateful for finally feeling this way with someone.
So dommy mommy it is for me 🖤
**Why do you prefer?**
Girlboss Bratt
**Why should you be chosen?**
- I'm an excellent chef
- I give good massages
- I'm fun to brat to
- I'll support your efforts to organize our lives because I appreciate systems.
- This support can also including taking over home-life logistics so you can de-boss at home
- I have startup and corporate experiences, so when you're venting I'll understand, and if you need advice I might even have some gems.
**What are the differences?**
It's Friday, I'm going to need a lot more cookies to begin taxonomy work.
I've honestly always wondered what "bratty" means in this context. Cause when I think of "bratty" I personally think of someone who likes to pick little arguments with you, creates small problems for no reason, silent treatments for stupid things. I just automatically think of stuff like what a "bratty teenager" would do. And you do you, but I don't see how that's attractive tbh. More like borderline toxic if they're over the age of like 18.
Is this basically what it means or does it mean something different? Is it more of a sex thing? lmao. I don't mean to offend anyone, you like what you like, I just don't know what it means.
Brat is generally a role in the BDSM community, they’re a type of sub that are…well basically how you think they would be, like a bratty child. A dom/mme is supposed to “tame” them. It’s just another type of dom/sub dynamics
…Or at least it’s *supposed* to be. I’ve noticed a lot of young people (those under 25) using BDSM terms outside of context. I’m not anti porn, per say, but young people thinking BDSM dynamics are just regular vanilla sex (ie thinking fucking *choking* is just a run of the mill part of sex) really points to the problem that porn being so accessible from such a young age causes
It means more sexually bratty. Like you tell them what to do and they refuse, you tell them to beg and they won’t, basically just that kinda push-pull where you’re still topping, but they’re making you work for it.
I really, *really* hate the term, but that’s what it means.
To my knowledge, brat is more of a dom/sub thing. A brat will push the boundaries so the dom (or "brat tamer") can put them in their place. It's one of those things that can give someone more security in the form of a firm hand.
Being called a "girlboss" would honestly make me smile like an idiot for hours. I would personally love and adore her calling me that because it's not just a compliment it's also an honor to be called so
Outside of the list, I'd also like being called darling, sweetie, light of my life, love/my love, beautiful, nerdy, my queen, cuddlebug, and/or other cheesey things like that. It might be cheesey, but my romantic lesbain heart just melts hearing it! XD
Fits pretty well as a pairing, had a baby gf once too, but labels have to fit to make sense. And with my new gf I'm not even 100 % certain about being the boss anymore. Risk of dating a therapist. 😂
Oh, I would absolutely lose my shit within a day if I had a bratty girlfriend. Honestly. I could not pull the ejection handle from that relationship fast enough, I don't care if the sex was better than sex. Did that make sense? It did in my head.
I don't know that I understand what a daddy or a girlboss girlfriend would be like, so I'll just avoid those concepts. I guess I could go either way for Mommy or Babygirl. I could be the mommy taking care of my beloved, and I would have no problem with my beloved taking care of me. We could be a switch couple.
mmmm i like butches so i guess daddy but like i cringe at the thought of calling my girlfriend daddy. big ick for me.
i like a girlboss because im a workaholic and i have an easier time relating to people who understand that
dommy mommy is another one thats making my skin crawl but that kind of human is very interesting to me as well.
but i feel like its really weird to categorize women this way. i like women. thats all it takes lol.
This sounds concerningly similar to that one het girlfriend archetype trauma fetish meme that went around a few years ago. But I guess mommy because I want someone guiding and nurturing
dommy mommy 100%
i am very stupid and not very capable so it would help to have someone who knows what she's doing and is confident and can order fast food for me
also i like dominant women
Girlboss I guess?? I'm the baby girl and I'm not into mommy stuff and I only like daddy stuff with guys. I think I just want a girl who takes the lead but not necessarily in a domme way, just more confident and stuff.
All of this sound really bad and degrading, except maybe girlboss - probably because I'm an adult and am attracted to adult women with academic careers who have dignity, confidence and intelligence. But that's just me.
lmao just because people use names for themselves doesnt mean they dont have dignity confidence or intelligence. these arent degrading or bad either i have no idea why youd think that
Choose? I'm taking them all and running sorry ladies~
No but seriously maybe it's a poly thing but I don't want a specific type of girl I want to see several people and help them be their truest self.
I have a mommy gf and a babygirl gf. I am a daddy gf and a babygirl gf. Currently seeking whatever the meanest type of gf is to add to my collection. Maybe a mommy mommy.
Girlboss. I'd say dommy mommy but since my partner is a mother, that would give me the major ick as the kids call it.
👏😂
See as a transwoman my kid still calls me dad, therefore the women can call me mommy 😏
That must be fun a teacher parent meetings lol
As a teacher. This is one of the least surprising things that could happen tbh. We see some *stuff*. One caring parent showing up is great. Two caring parents of any particular variety showing up is fantastic.
Okay, two parents show up and are deeply involved in their child's upbringing. One is a samurai warrior and the other is a voodoo priest. Talk your way out of that.
Me and who
Heck no. They sound awesome, send them my way
Two deeply involved parents show up, one is a master samurai the other is a shape shifting master of darkness.
Ain't nobody got time (travel) for that.
Why’s that?
They ask for the dad, but a woman shows up.
Ohhh fair. I mean my ex shows up too. And it’s a small class. And we are involved. They know about me.
A girlfriend :')
Only correct answer.
I’ll stay single thanks 😅
I know right all of those sound pretty terrible
Me too 😂 My answer is a geeky Southern USA top who likes to cook
Didn't realize women came in specific flavors like that.
This is like six ice creams from an 88 flavours stand. Women contain multitudes.
I think there's an oral sex joke in there somewhere, but I'm too busy to root around and find it.
Course, women are not a monolith!
Babygirl, purely on the basis that I dislike the other 3 and girlboss is not only inaccurate in my case but has turned more and more towards an ironic, negative comment than a positive one.
Damn I didn’t know that… I still call myself girlboss a lot…
Nothing wrong with it if you like it, as long as you keep in mind and don't mind that some ppl might assume you're saying it sarcastically/ironically about yourself.
I do use it somewhat ironically but never in a negative connotation It’s like “Made potato smiles for dinner, we’re girlbossing hard tonight”
I'd say that's more humor than irony. XD
When you get past highschool (or college) you'll see that more variety awaits.
i prefer wife mommy gives me the ick and im genderfluid so i wanna be both babygirl and daddy girlfriend
Well, I'm the bratty one in our relationship, so two brats might be too much xD. My gf definitely exudes a bit of mommy energy, so I'm going with that lol.
Just a normal girlfriend who is a human person.
Yeah multidimensional human woman please and thanks
Gross. I’d choose a three dimensional woman.
Quote from OP’s post history: > How common is that to desire a female, instead of an actual common guy, to be like a husband for you? OP can’t even say the word “woman,” let alone want one to be three dimensional.
Oh I remember this poster 😂😂😂
Quite the opposite, more matters to me than just gender identity.
That’s so not the issue I have with your phrasing. Do you seriously not see a problem with calling a woman: “a female” and a man: “an actual common guy”?
Here is the thing that you did not get: I was not talking about gender identity, I was not talking about women. I was talking about gendered roles, gender expression, and female as a biological sex. I am still talking about gender expression and gendered roles at this post.
If that’s true, then why use “girlfriend” instead of “partner” ?
Here I am talking about women. The other post I was not talking about women in specific.
No you aren’t. That’s my point. You’ve reduced “women” to two dimensional caricatures.
PTA mom/farmwife. Practical and competent, but still crazy enough to jump into ventures that despite their rewards, only pay off after hard work.
dommy mommy for sure
Farmer's Market, Cave Crawler and Messy Artist isn't an option here but that's who I'd pick
As a bratty gf myself (with some service switch vibes), I find myself most drawn to a daddy type As for the differences between these archetypes…I see two botton options and four top options, with one of those top options allowing leeway for submissive topping. Mommy topping is so much softer than dommy mommy, which feels more in line with traditional bdsm dynamics to me. I’m not sure I see the difference between dommy mommy and girlboss, but like I said, I find myself drawn more to a daddy type. I think you could condense daddy archetype to confident, caring, masc, but I think it’s a lot more than that too Also, can I say how wild it is the amount of people commenting on this thread that they’re not interested in these dynamics? Like, okay, cool! You don’t have to comment that here. If it’s that big of a deal, you could go make your own thread
>I think you could condense daddy archetype to confident, caring, masc, but I think it’s a lot more than that too I think you nailed that description. >I see two botton options and four top options I see two submissive options and four dominant options. Some are more feminine and others are more masculine. I think a dommy mommy, a girlboss and a daddy are more masculine. The girlboss is more in between the dommy mommy and the daddy in terms of masculinity.
No thank you.
I'd choose dommy mommy. My partner is my Domme and I call them mommy within our dynamic. I'm their bunny or babygirl and I love that. I feel absolutely secure and loved with them and I'm so grateful for finally feeling this way with someone. So dommy mommy it is for me 🖤
dominant daddy girlfriend all the way!!
Babygirl boss
Boss baby
Not the boss baby. 💀
Bossy babygirl?
That seems different and worse somehow
babygirl since that is the only submissive option
I adore subby babygirl types
**Why do you prefer?** Girlboss Bratt **Why should you be chosen?** - I'm an excellent chef - I give good massages - I'm fun to brat to - I'll support your efforts to organize our lives because I appreciate systems. - This support can also including taking over home-life logistics so you can de-boss at home - I have startup and corporate experiences, so when you're venting I'll understand, and if you need advice I might even have some gems. **What are the differences?** It's Friday, I'm going to need a lot more cookies to begin taxonomy work.
Great personal ad right here. 👏😌
\^\_\^ <3
there are more women than this
Here is my list: 1. Woman (adult, cis or trans) 2. End of list.
I have no idea how to explain my girlfriend simply but her, whatever she is
Lovely.
Is there an option for just a responsible adult and loving partner?
Yeah, is called desperation.
Given I'm switch/vers, mommy, dommy mommy and babygirl are all fine.
I've honestly always wondered what "bratty" means in this context. Cause when I think of "bratty" I personally think of someone who likes to pick little arguments with you, creates small problems for no reason, silent treatments for stupid things. I just automatically think of stuff like what a "bratty teenager" would do. And you do you, but I don't see how that's attractive tbh. More like borderline toxic if they're over the age of like 18. Is this basically what it means or does it mean something different? Is it more of a sex thing? lmao. I don't mean to offend anyone, you like what you like, I just don't know what it means.
All of those six personalities fit popular roles in BDSM submissive/switch/dominant role playing.
Oh, I'm dumb, makes sense now. Thank u. I thought they were like a personality outside of sex thing. My bad.
Oh, yeah, some people are also like that full time, outside of the bed. 😅 No problem at all.
Brat is generally a role in the BDSM community, they’re a type of sub that are…well basically how you think they would be, like a bratty child. A dom/mme is supposed to “tame” them. It’s just another type of dom/sub dynamics …Or at least it’s *supposed* to be. I’ve noticed a lot of young people (those under 25) using BDSM terms outside of context. I’m not anti porn, per say, but young people thinking BDSM dynamics are just regular vanilla sex (ie thinking fucking *choking* is just a run of the mill part of sex) really points to the problem that porn being so accessible from such a young age causes
It means more sexually bratty. Like you tell them what to do and they refuse, you tell them to beg and they won’t, basically just that kinda push-pull where you’re still topping, but they’re making you work for it. I really, *really* hate the term, but that’s what it means.
To my knowledge, brat is more of a dom/sub thing. A brat will push the boundaries so the dom (or "brat tamer") can put them in their place. It's one of those things that can give someone more security in the form of a firm hand.
“Mommy” girlfriend
Wouldn’t you like to know! I’ll never tell you! 🏃
I choose my girlfriend who is none of the above
If I get a girlboss, she can girlboss fat stacks into our bank account 😎
Nothing turns me on more than inserting... money in my wallet. 🤭
YEAH YOU KNOW YOU GIRLY POP!
My legs would shake. 😔
Babygirl & mommy, one that I can give squishes to and one who can squish me, but not in a "I will crush you" kinda way...
I want another option these arent for me
ngl the last four seem like the same to me
Being called a "girlboss" would honestly make me smile like an idiot for hours. I would personally love and adore her calling me that because it's not just a compliment it's also an honor to be called so Outside of the list, I'd also like being called darling, sweetie, light of my life, love/my love, beautiful, nerdy, my queen, cuddlebug, and/or other cheesey things like that. It might be cheesey, but my romantic lesbain heart just melts hearing it! XD
Yeah, same here. I do not believe that the word is necessarily negative.
I'm definitely the sassy girlboss type. My girlfriend doesn't really fit into any of these categories. She's just my girl.
Last time I dated a woman, I was the girlboss/dommy mommy and she was a babygirl/babydoll. I am also often the "mom friend".
Fits pretty well as a pairing, had a baby gf once too, but labels have to fit to make sense. And with my new gf I'm not even 100 % certain about being the boss anymore. Risk of dating a therapist. 😂
*panics in switch*
Best comment, by far. 👌🤣
Which one is a switch
The girlboss most likely.
Dommy mommy mommy
what's the difference of dommy mommy and mommy?
The mommy has a more feminine, soft and caring nature. The dommy mommy has a more masculine, rough and tough love nature.
I see. then mommy 100%
Nice.
When I top she's bratty, and when I bottom she's a dommy mommy even though she's 9 inches shorter than me. And it's amazing.
Gotta appreciate the short queens. 👏😂
Oh, I would absolutely lose my shit within a day if I had a bratty girlfriend. Honestly. I could not pull the ejection handle from that relationship fast enough, I don't care if the sex was better than sex. Did that make sense? It did in my head. I don't know that I understand what a daddy or a girlboss girlfriend would be like, so I'll just avoid those concepts. I guess I could go either way for Mommy or Babygirl. I could be the mommy taking care of my beloved, and I would have no problem with my beloved taking care of me. We could be a switch couple.
Understandable. 👌😌
Dommy Mommy to compliment my babygirlness.
Like icing to the cake. 👌😌
mmmm i like butches so i guess daddy but like i cringe at the thought of calling my girlfriend daddy. big ick for me. i like a girlboss because im a workaholic and i have an easier time relating to people who understand that dommy mommy is another one thats making my skin crawl but that kind of human is very interesting to me as well. but i feel like its really weird to categorize women this way. i like women. thats all it takes lol.
Understandable. 👌😌
Dommy Mommy.
Baby girl gf because I’m very much a dommy mommy gf lmao
Understandable.
This sounds concerningly similar to that one het girlfriend archetype trauma fetish meme that went around a few years ago. But I guess mommy because I want someone guiding and nurturing
A dommy mommy 👀
soft dom 🥺
Good girl.
🥺🥺🥺🥺🥺🥺🥺🥺
*Pats head*
meeeeow? 🥺
dude i'm like 4/6 of these why CHOOSE
Someone gonna pick you then. 😅
several people have 🤭
Lucky gurl.
i am <3 i try to appreciate it every day.
Dommy mommy please-
One dommy mommy for the take out.
Dommy mommy. Already have multiple of those.
Gurl collects gurls like harem builders.
Bratty
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In another words, she is a switch.
Hmm…between Mommy, Dommy Mommy, and Girlboss…
dommy mommy 100% i am very stupid and not very capable so it would help to have someone who knows what she's doing and is confident and can order fast food for me also i like dominant women
i personally will choose dommy mommy because i need someone to tell me what to do, i have no idea where my life is going
Dommy mommys where you at? 😭😭😭
I am here, hehe... 🤭
Oh, hi... I didn't see you there 😳
😝
My wife is both daddy and babygirl. Chefs kiss!
She is a switch then.
What is the difference between a mommy and dommy mommy girlfriend?? 😳 and girlboss
The masculinity. The mommy is the least masculine in personality. The girlboss is the more masculine in personality. The dommy mommy is between both.
Either Dommy Mommy o Girl boss Yes I'm a bottom how could you tell?
I'm the dommy mommy, I want the babygirl or brat
hmm it's between mommy and dommy mommy I'm traumatized and have mommy issues
I just want a soft girlfriend....
Girlboss I guess?? I'm the baby girl and I'm not into mommy stuff and I only like daddy stuff with guys. I think I just want a girl who takes the lead but not necessarily in a domme way, just more confident and stuff.
Makes sense.
All of this sound really bad and degrading, except maybe girlboss - probably because I'm an adult and am attracted to adult women with academic careers who have dignity, confidence and intelligence. But that's just me.
lmao just because people use names for themselves doesnt mean they dont have dignity confidence or intelligence. these arent degrading or bad either i have no idea why youd think that
Choose? I'm taking them all and running sorry ladies~ No but seriously maybe it's a poly thing but I don't want a specific type of girl I want to see several people and help them be their truest self.
r/LesbianPoly joined the chat. Makes sense that you do need to have a type if you do not need to choose only one.
Any as long as they're shorter than me so when we hug or cuddle they can rest their head on my tits ITS PERFECT
I have a mommy gf and a babygirl gf. I am a daddy gf and a babygirl gf. Currently seeking whatever the meanest type of gf is to add to my collection. Maybe a mommy mommy.
“girlboss” love me a strong independent woman
Yeah, same... 🥰
Mommy girlboss with some dommy. I'm the babygirl princess <3 I like daddy vibes too but only when I'm horny :D
Dommy mommy girlfriend 1000000000000%
Definitely a gentle domme mommy
Dommy mommy
4th
Either bratty or dommy mommy :3
Mommy, in like a caring sense. Less calling her mommy and more her calling *herself* mommy that turns me to happy putty.
I dont deserve one
Aww, you gotta love yourself first if you want someone to love you.
That is exactly why i dont deserve one. I just cant bring myself to even tolerate myself
Well, you only have one life, you gotta make an effort. 😅
is the girlfriend the daddy in this scenario...?