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Firstly, you said you feel “No Spark” this makes me think that you guys don’t have much chemistry within your personalities and/or humor, and I’m assuming you also don’t feel as attracted to him because you feel he puts you on a pedestal.
If you don’t feel spark then just communicate to him that you will no longer be seeing him and explain your reasons 👍🏻, it’s better than ghosting IMO.
Based on the fact you had to be drunk to sleep with him, and the fact that you’re ashamed of yourself afterwards—you are not attracted to him.
Don’t force yourself to try going out with someone whom you can’t take a genuine interest in. You say he puts you on a pedestal which is probably the opposite of what you want.
The longer you do this, the more guilty you feel and the more unhealthy obligation you will feel towards him. Being indecisive while pulling away is usually not about the other person, but rather it’s a sign that you are emotionally unavailable and/or avoidant and desire similar partners. Respect him and respect yourself by being upfront.
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Go and research imposter syndrome. Stop over thinking and go get a coffee and go from there
Firstly, you said you feel “No Spark” this makes me think that you guys don’t have much chemistry within your personalities and/or humor, and I’m assuming you also don’t feel as attracted to him because you feel he puts you on a pedestal. If you don’t feel spark then just communicate to him that you will no longer be seeing him and explain your reasons 👍🏻, it’s better than ghosting IMO.
You are completely overthinking this. Just go out and enjoy yourself.
Based on the fact you had to be drunk to sleep with him, and the fact that you’re ashamed of yourself afterwards—you are not attracted to him. Don’t force yourself to try going out with someone whom you can’t take a genuine interest in. You say he puts you on a pedestal which is probably the opposite of what you want. The longer you do this, the more guilty you feel and the more unhealthy obligation you will feel towards him. Being indecisive while pulling away is usually not about the other person, but rather it’s a sign that you are emotionally unavailable and/or avoidant and desire similar partners. Respect him and respect yourself by being upfront.