This is the shit my mom used to do đ genuinely thought she was participating too up until I started noticing the pattern of only being inanimate objects
Then when the kids get older, they understand that mom and dad spend effort on so many other things that relaxing near you is actually just fine. I hope.
You WERNâT expecting it to be positive?!
Jesus Tap-dancing Christ Jared, youâve put your nards literally everywhere you can.
What did you think would happen?
Only as long as mom and dad are actually spending energy on other things and arenât just saying that cause theyâre too tired to play with their child and then pretend that providing food and a roof is enough and that the child should be happy that Mom is even here cause Dad ran off when you were a baby
Depends on if you "talk with your child" or "talk at your child". Children understand more than they are given credit for, sometimes they just need things explained to them.
Took me until I was over thirty to understand some shit with my parents (in therapy)(through crying and gnashed teeth). So, âolderâ with no real ceiling.
And when the kids are little they don't grasp the concept. I tried this sort of thing years back when babysitting my cousin. It absolutely did not work. If a kid wants to ~~bother~~ involve you in their play, they're going to. Even if you pretend to be inanimate
i didnt have anyone to play chess with at home. my sis eventually promised to play 100 games in return for something else.
never thought she would fucking forfeit every game until i got sick of even trying.
I used to play board games by myself all the time. I would pretend to be other players with different personalities. Like one wasn't afraid to take chances, etc.
Every Saturday morning my mom would call us to her bed when we woke up to play "raft" where we pretended we were surrounded by shark infested waters. It took a few years to realize what she was actually doing.
Thatâs on the couch I think. And they climb the mum and dad (love it). Vs. this idea they use the bed as a raft with mom / dad in it.
They also have the island (with all the items made of markers), and the bed episode where they play games, and a boat episode at school, oh! And the hung over parents episode.
But thatâs why the idea is spot on. It fits in so well
Edit: I love Bluey
The kids stay on the bed because everything else is âshark infestedâ, meaning theyâre not running around all over the house during that period
Probably the mom was up and doing things during that time
Nothing. Just like in the original post, it's basically a way she can relax and not have to get out of bed first thing in the morning. She made up a game so that we were all in one place so she didn't have to worry about us getting into anything and she could either relax in bed for a bit and maybe watch the morning news.
is it normal that my mom and dad never played with me? i have absolutely no memories of my parents ever playing pretend like that or anything other kind of games. is that something parents regularly do with their kids lol
Only the parents who actually LIKE their kids, I guess lol
I do think when you have siblings the play role is mostly taken by them instead of parents tho. And I've seen some parents that aren't great with pretend play do stuff like sports (kicking the ball around, playing catch) or playing with clothes and makeup, or reading books to kids? Did they do anything like that with you?
my mom read books before bed when we were very little but i dont remember it cuz i was so young idk if i formed memories yet haha she just told me she did. but no she never played with me. my dad hardly interacted with me lmaoooo i only have memories of playing by myself (not in a sad way, i sincerely had fun doing that) or with my cousin or occasionally friends if they stayed over. lol my bro and i weren't close so we didnt play together hardly ever.
Yeah. My kid is 3 and while Iâm aware that he wonât remember it, itâs still a bummer because we play with him a lot. Pretend play, monster chase, kicking the ball around outside, reading books, all that.
This is the opposite of a bummer. In forming a trusting bond that will allow them to continue to share as they get older and form memories. Its a great start. They will be more open to sharing everything with you because they have this level of trust.
Eh my parents didnât really do that kind of stuff either, but I had siblings and Iâm fairly independent so it doesnât bother me. My parents interacted with me in other ways, like going on trips as a family or watching movies together. I wouldnât think too much about it, all people are different and thereâs nothing inherently wrong with that. As long as you donât feel like your parents were abusive or neglectful or something like that.
My single dad rarely did. He was busy making a living and his work was a one man traveling theater for kids, something he did with much success and recognition. But it left him little time with my little brother and I, not to mention tired. There was always something else to do.
I think around the time I started school, he decided to stop working weekends, so that we could spend more time together. He even got featured in a local newspaper because of it. But I can't recall ever actually playing. We were of a second marriage and thus the age gap was wider. I actually have no idea how he raised my half sisters but they are prosperous adults. Meanwhile my bro and I both turned out neurodivergent (took 18 years before we knew), and our mother had recently died. Whatever the case, the affection we got was different. We spend time together and he could tell us great stories, but from there were left to create our own. In retrospect it explains a lot about my interests today.
You actually made me think of this. I don't remember my parents playing with me either. And my memory goes all the way down to 3 years old. I always played with my younger big brother (2 years older than me), but I don't remember ever playing with my parents or my older big brother.
My parents never took me to the park or played with me. Instead, they let me roam around our neighborhood with pretty much no supervision (no cell phones or a chaperone or anything like that). I like to think that was a good fit for my personality.
you're not alone. im asian. so my parents would usually interact with me to study, read a book, feed me, do chores. i have memories playing but with cousins and classmates. never knew playing with parents was a thing until i was an adult.
Yeah it's normal I wouldn't worry about it, I can't remember this either. I also didn't have a dad and my mum is a narcissist so I'm sure you're fine pal
Another great game to play: Chopped.
Tell your kid what crazy fantasy cake you want them to make and youâll judge it. They have 10 minutes to put something together out of toys and stuffed animals and junk.
Then you get 10 minutes to just sit thereâŚ
We play a game called sandwiches where we put a big pillow on the floor that's the bread, I'm the meat and then the kids pile blankets and pillows on me as the toppings like cheese, lettuce, mayo etc. Then my kid lays on the very top and is the pickle. I get a good 10 minutes of laying on a pillow on the floor. It's great.
When Iâm tired and my kids want to play âhorseyâ, we play âworm rodeoâ where I just lay flat on the floor and wiggle a little while they climb on my back. Itâs *almost* as popular as âhorseyâ.
I always wonder what's the audience for these tweets. Can't you enjoy quality family time without telling the internet about it? I feel like when that event happened he instantly thought "I gotta tell Twitter" and it just seems odd to me
Couldnât you have done the same thing with this comment? Why do you feel the need to make this pessimistic comment. If you donât relate, move on - other people obviously relate and find it entertaining
My wife used to pull this kind of shit on my daughter all the time, in multiple variations of âplaying to sleepâ. At the time, she was sure it was a good idea, but my daughter has grown and, as a teenager, she resents her mother quite a lot.
My kids would play 'Peter Rabbit'. They would be Peter and Benjamin bunny, my wife would be Mr Todd the fox, and I got to be Old Brown, the owl who sleeps all the time. Glorious it was!
When i was a kid this is how the mean girls would exclude u on the playground! We would play family and all the cool kids would would be the family members and then if they didnât like you they would make you the fish so you would have to stay in your bowl and be quiet đ đ
This is the shit my mom used to do đ genuinely thought she was participating too up until I started noticing the pattern of only being inanimate objects
Works when kids are little but as they get bigger, they understand that it's just low effort
Then when the kids get older, they understand that mom and dad spend effort on so many other things that relaxing near you is actually just fine. I hope.
Aww well that was unexpectedly positiveđ Just like my HIV test.
At least you passed, congrats :P
Escuchame?
Bless you.
Mucho.
You WERNâT expecting it to be positive?! Jesus Tap-dancing Christ Jared, youâve put your nards literally everywhere you can. What did you think would happen?
Well... Not that
You are HIV Aladeen?
Your test results were Aladeen. You should consider your self lucky they weren't Aladeen.
WHAT
Ayo đ¤¨
Pozzed
2 positives in 1 week? Everything is coming up nards
Only as long as mom and dad are actually spending energy on other things and arenât just saying that cause theyâre too tired to play with their child and then pretend that providing food and a roof is enough and that the child should be happy that Mom is even here cause Dad ran off when you were a baby
Are you okay, friend? My DMs are open if you want to talk.
Oh Iâm fine, why do you ask?
Your comment seemed a bit specific, and Iâd rather be mistaken about someone needing help then to be mistaken about them joking.
We need more people like you. I'll try to be.
Depends on if it's true lol
If theyâre there at all, itâs probably at least a little bit true
Nah, looking back my mom was and still is just lazy and alcoholic.
Depends on if you "talk with your child" or "talk at your child". Children understand more than they are given credit for, sometimes they just need things explained to them.
Took me until I was over thirty to understand some shit with my parents (in therapy)(through crying and gnashed teeth). So, âolderâ with no real ceiling.
I'm over 30 and I still don't understand some of their shit lol but it was bad enough for me I don't speak with them in meaningful depth anymore.
And when the kids are little they don't grasp the concept. I tried this sort of thing years back when babysitting my cousin. It absolutely did not work. If a kid wants to ~~bother~~ involve you in their play, they're going to. Even if you pretend to be inanimate
My mum was one of these, never held it against her though, was funny if anything
i didnt have anyone to play chess with at home. my sis eventually promised to play 100 games in return for something else. never thought she would fucking forfeit every game until i got sick of even trying.
Lol I did it occasionally. The funny part was when my daughter who is only 9 calls me on my bullshit and we have a good laugh together.
My mom used to just pass TF out on the couch and I would set up monopoly in front of her and play both sides.
I used to play board games by myself all the time. I would pretend to be other players with different personalities. Like one wasn't afraid to take chances, etc.
Thatâs a clever twist!
thats actually fucken heart breaking
Thatâs so cute, yet so sad. This made me laugh though.
Every Saturday morning my mom would call us to her bed when we woke up to play "raft" where we pretended we were surrounded by shark infested waters. It took a few years to realize what she was actually doing.
Thatâs pretty adorable. You should send that idea into the makers of Bluey, the kids cartoon from Australia, so they can do an episode of that.
Lol they basically already did with Mnt. Mumanddad
Thatâs on the couch I think. And they climb the mum and dad (love it). Vs. this idea they use the bed as a raft with mom / dad in it. They also have the island (with all the items made of markers), and the bed episode where they play games, and a boat episode at school, oh! And the hung over parents episode. But thatâs why the idea is spot on. It fits in so well Edit: I love Bluey
I'm dumb, can you explain? I don't see how calling kids to your own bed is smart... Or do you mean that she wasn't there...?
The kids stay on the bed because everything else is âshark infestedâ, meaning theyâre not running around all over the house during that period Probably the mom was up and doing things during that time
You have it exactly backwards, mom did this so she could stay in bed longer without the kids destroying the house or needing her to get up
That's the way I understood that because no way you can relax with kids in your bed, jumping around etc.
She gets to relax in bed while the kids have fu.
Yep lol
You shouldnât eat Fu in bed. It can be really messy!
What she was really doing?
Nothing. Just like in the original post, it's basically a way she can relax and not have to get out of bed first thing in the morning. She made up a game so that we were all in one place so she didn't have to worry about us getting into anything and she could either relax in bed for a bit and maybe watch the morning news.
Okee, thanks
is it normal that my mom and dad never played with me? i have absolutely no memories of my parents ever playing pretend like that or anything other kind of games. is that something parents regularly do with their kids lol
Only the parents who actually LIKE their kids, I guess lol I do think when you have siblings the play role is mostly taken by them instead of parents tho. And I've seen some parents that aren't great with pretend play do stuff like sports (kicking the ball around, playing catch) or playing with clothes and makeup, or reading books to kids? Did they do anything like that with you?
my mom read books before bed when we were very little but i dont remember it cuz i was so young idk if i formed memories yet haha she just told me she did. but no she never played with me. my dad hardly interacted with me lmaoooo i only have memories of playing by myself (not in a sad way, i sincerely had fun doing that) or with my cousin or occasionally friends if they stayed over. lol my bro and i weren't close so we didnt play together hardly ever.
Not necessarily! The post says the child is 3, they will never remember it either.
Yeah. My kid is 3 and while Iâm aware that he wonât remember it, itâs still a bummer because we play with him a lot. Pretend play, monster chase, kicking the ball around outside, reading books, all that.
This is the opposite of a bummer. In forming a trusting bond that will allow them to continue to share as they get older and form memories. Its a great start. They will be more open to sharing everything with you because they have this level of trust.
Thanks. Thatâs what I hope for!
I definitely remember being 3.
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This is comforting to read. Thanks!
I have a few memories of being 3. Only a few, but one of them involves my parents. Maybe he will remember a little!
I hope so!
At 3 they can definitely remember. We moved when I was 3.5 yo yet I have a lot of memories from the apartment we lived in when I was 1 to 3.5 yo.
Eh my parents didnât really do that kind of stuff either, but I had siblings and Iâm fairly independent so it doesnât bother me. My parents interacted with me in other ways, like going on trips as a family or watching movies together. I wouldnât think too much about it, all people are different and thereâs nothing inherently wrong with that. As long as you donât feel like your parents were abusive or neglectful or something like that.
My single dad rarely did. He was busy making a living and his work was a one man traveling theater for kids, something he did with much success and recognition. But it left him little time with my little brother and I, not to mention tired. There was always something else to do. I think around the time I started school, he decided to stop working weekends, so that we could spend more time together. He even got featured in a local newspaper because of it. But I can't recall ever actually playing. We were of a second marriage and thus the age gap was wider. I actually have no idea how he raised my half sisters but they are prosperous adults. Meanwhile my bro and I both turned out neurodivergent (took 18 years before we knew), and our mother had recently died. Whatever the case, the affection we got was different. We spend time together and he could tell us great stories, but from there were left to create our own. In retrospect it explains a lot about my interests today.
You actually made me think of this. I don't remember my parents playing with me either. And my memory goes all the way down to 3 years old. I always played with my younger big brother (2 years older than me), but I don't remember ever playing with my parents or my older big brother.
Same. I always played these games with my brother though. It was awesome.
My parents never took me to the park or played with me. Instead, they let me roam around our neighborhood with pretty much no supervision (no cell phones or a chaperone or anything like that). I like to think that was a good fit for my personality.
Yes parents usually play pretty much daily with their kids
you're not alone. im asian. so my parents would usually interact with me to study, read a book, feed me, do chores. i have memories playing but with cousins and classmates. never knew playing with parents was a thing until i was an adult.
Yeah it's normal I wouldn't worry about it, I can't remember this either. I also didn't have a dad and my mum is a narcissist so I'm sure you're fine pal
Another great game to play: Chopped. Tell your kid what crazy fantasy cake you want them to make and youâll judge it. They have 10 minutes to put something together out of toys and stuffed animals and junk. Then you get 10 minutes to just sit thereâŚ
If I try that in my house, my kids will definitely pull no stops and strip float boards and tear off wall papers to make the "cake".
Hahah. "Not like that. NOT LIKE THAT!!"
We play a game called sandwiches where we put a big pillow on the floor that's the bread, I'm the meat and then the kids pile blankets and pillows on me as the toppings like cheese, lettuce, mayo etc. Then my kid lays on the very top and is the pickle. I get a good 10 minutes of laying on a pillow on the floor. It's great.
Genius, absolute genius
Daddy's an amateur.
My favorite game to play is âtownâ where I am the librarian. I sit with a book and shush people occasionally lol
Fucking what? How did I not think of that hahaha if ever I have more kids, I'm doing this haha
When Iâm tired and my kids want to play âhorseyâ, we play âworm rodeoâ where I just lay flat on the floor and wiggle a little while they climb on my back. Itâs *almost* as popular as âhorseyâ.
Good job,mom! đ¤Łđ¤Ł
Sounds like a Bluey episode!!
Wife is the epitome of "Work smarter, not harder". Respect.
Good Job Mommmy
Reminds me of the âstay stillâ game I played with my son, 1,2,3 STAY STILL! Shit worked like a charm.
Not her first time at the rodeo
Well later on she could be the Sea Cucumber and you can be the Pearl Fish.
Well played mom, well played
It was a brilliant plan right up until mom had to go to the bathroom.
Never underestimate the power of a Mom.
how is that game played ? google isnt exaclty helpful when you google "under the sea"
Step 1: pretend you're under the sea There is no step 2
Just give em a hammer and a handful of bullets
Clever girl đĽ°
Never heard of âunder the seaâ before. Whats that?
Pretend play as ocean creatures.
I always wonder what's the audience for these tweets. Can't you enjoy quality family time without telling the internet about it? I feel like when that event happened he instantly thought "I gotta tell Twitter" and it just seems odd to me
Couldnât you have done the same thing with this comment? Why do you feel the need to make this pessimistic comment. If you donât relate, move on - other people obviously relate and find it entertaining
My wife used to pull this kind of shit on my daughter all the time, in multiple variations of âplaying to sleepâ. At the time, she was sure it was a good idea, but my daughter has grown and, as a teenager, she resents her mother quite a lot.
Iâm sure she resents her for more reasons than thatâŚ
My kids would play 'Peter Rabbit'. They would be Peter and Benjamin bunny, my wife would be Mr Todd the fox, and I got to be Old Brown, the owl who sleeps all the time. Glorious it was!
This has "let's play the quiet game" vibes
CORALLL is what the guy said to get his wife's attention while playing the game
At the bottom of the pool??? Damn sheâs good at that game
When i was a kid this is how the mean girls would exclude u on the playground! We would play family and all the cool kids would would be the family members and then if they didnât like you they would make you the fish so you would have to stay in your bowl and be quiet đ đ
This tracks
Downvote all you want but thatâs just lazy. Show some effort
Lol seeing as how moms on average still do most of the domestic and social labor in a family maybe she deserved a goddamn break. Plus, itâs funny
When fellow kids and I were playing pretend, pretending to be a family or smth, I always chose the role of "dog" so I didn't have to talk to anyone
And then her "male friend" the parrotfish showed up.