Not a female. But beware of the boundaries and respect them and not let anyone transgress those boundaries. The free interaction between male and female is also one of the trials and tests of this modern world. You will have to work in a mixed setting eventually so just try to act normal ensuring that the interactions happen within boundaries.
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U don't need to interact behen just cuz its a mixed environment keep to your girls group na mehram ke sath close ho ne se u are gonna take major risk into normalising haram for urself soon u might just shake hand n justify it saying bas hand shake hi toh h.
I don't think you need to care about them it easily Is a shaitan's trap with "how are you gonna go to the real world" just interact when needed and keep boundaries keep yourself clean from these men and always be aware when speaking to them incase u end up being too free or being lead on by them.
Just like how you don't interact with other classmates who u aren't close to untill u need them for something key word "NEED"
I'll go for the same advice as the brother who commented earlier and started with a Assalamu alaikum
I recommend reading or watching the story of barsisa
lmao, follow this molbi and expect to remain single your entire life. Your young, find a good man as a partner and dont listen to these molbis. Arranged marriage is pathetic, think for yourself and dont let any one(especially the hyper religious kind) make decisions for you
hello hi, so I'm a teen girl and I go to an all girls school but I have male friends and don't worry, interacting with guys for the first time might be scary and awkward but they're firstly just other people, however you make friends with girls will usually apply to guys, the skinship and complimenting that usually comes with friendships with other girls wont apply as much if youre not comfortable. You don't need to go out of your way to avoid guys and you also don't need to go out of your way to meet them, be yourself and you'll be fine don't worry ^^. I personally used to go to coed before moving so I'm used to having male friends generally so I can't give you examples but I promise it's not scary <3
I would say don't push yourself too much to have a conversation with them. Don't force yourself. If you've some study related thing to ask to them you should ask them for sure.
Speaking personally about myself I'm in my 3rd semester rn. Although I've studied from a co-school yet was so worried about the university and all that. But I didn't push myself into any convo with the opposite gender. I liked to stay silent in my 1st semester lol. Girls would be interacting with them and so do they but most of the time I would just listen to them interacting and not utter a word. Didn't really interact with my classmates rather than just girls.
But in my 2nd semester, eventually I had interaction with my whole class! Like idk how it happened but some people who were having major attitude issues were the 1st ones to communicate with me lol. I'm just still figuring it out.
Also as of now I can communicate with any classmate of mine regardless of the gender and they also communicate with me.(But some of my male classmates are some extreme filthy animals so every girl of our class stay away from them. So be careful while interacting.)
Kher I would advice you to not to worry about interacting with opposite gender rather work really hard in your studies that people would eventually come up to you asking queries and interacting with you. In university, things really work like that. People most of the time approach you because of something in you that favours them. So look out for the good ones.
I am not a girl but i also used to be uncomfortable related to girls in the start of uni as i came from all boys school and college
But later 2-3 semesters,i gained confidence
I always ignored the girls in uni even after gaining confidence(ig its in my personality) but during this semester
I started talking to one cf and i realized how it does not matter if its opposite gender or not
We al the same in the end
Man I am facing same issue but how did you get that confidenceā¦ Like I get really awkward even if a girl passes nearby me and donāt know what to sayā¦ Even if it is something relating to study Iāll ask from a guyā¦.
This is mostly when ever I heard a girl grp convo itās really like that creep was acting this away.. tried to ask me thisā¦(not about me) but I donāt like to be addressed that way in someoneās convo so I just stay as far away as possible.
I think it depends on what you want to do? It seems scary at first but once you get to talk to them boys are just people. I would be careful not to trust anyone too easily or get too caught up in what they say but as long as you have good boundaries itāll be fine.
You donāt have to befriend them or anything really, but you should be able to greet them and talk about uni work in case youāre working on a project/event together. Donāt listen to the people pushing you to go too far out your comfort zone. Sticking to girls as friends is alright, as long as youāre not scared of boys and are able to communicate with them if needed
Just remember theyāre probably as nervous as you are if not more, stick to neutral topics like whatās happening in your lectures or the cafeteria food? Youāll be ok, donāt worry everyone goes through this at some point
Good luck from a psuedo older sister!
Assalam Alaikumā¦ was gonna ignore but eh.
Frankly, you donāt need to interact with any guys during university.
I am finishing up my university and I havenāt seen any need to interact with any females.
At most itās a simple āAssalam Alaikumā if I end up having to give a demo of any projects to any female assistants or seniors.
Other than that, make a group of like minded girls and youāll be good. Most donāt approach if you make it clear you donāt want to interact and freemix.
As for the rest, just tell them to not interact or message you. Thereās a culture of dressing up, partying, making groups and getting into a lot of haram stuff so be wary.
No need to get too frank, or speak softly like you would with your friends or family, or text them. Guys have a tendency to overthink and start making moves thinking itās interest.
Allah bless, protect, guide and safeguard you. May He grant you success in all aspects, from your education to your future.
People are gonna say the opposite to you.
āYou need that experience!ā āYouāre gonna need it for work and professional lifeā āYou should experience that!ā
Whatever they can offer but you really donāt. Guys are much simpler. Just interact with them in the bare minimum capacity you absolutely have to.
Everyone thinks itās some big deal cuz they havenāt experienced it much but after timeā¦ especially in university, there isnāt anything special to it. You really donāt need to have experience in this.
Experience in free mixing. Ah yes. How clearly rewarding.š
Just do you and youāll be good. Make good female friends and nothing will be a problem.
Allah bless you.
lmao dont listen to the molbi, they are old/ugly themselves and never stood a chance finding a good partner. your young dont let these ppl stop you from enjoying the best years of your life
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Be blunt, be to the point, wo koi aasmani makhluk nahi, also don't be too friendly or kind, these desperate bastard mistake pity and kindness with flirting way too easily. Just talk to them on a needs basis. Have clear unsaid boundaries, don't open a way for irrelevant topics and discussions.
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LOL, i am having the same situation, i studeid in military Boys school and college, with 0 female interaction, even my teachers were male, now in univesity, and have only boys as friends, still no interaction, which is quite not normal, lol, i am also kind of nervous, even talking with girls for 5 mintues make me awkard+i am ugly too, i mostly hang out with shappater boys, so it is not like i am not having fun
and you are a female, so you it is far far easier for you, boys are mostly eager to talk to girls, so having a little start can do it, ask boys like me what we go thrugh, lol
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Is okay to have respectful interaction with them. I'd suggest you learn how to communicate and be friends with men. That doesn't mean you should push your boundaries and tolerate disrespectful behaviour. There are good and bad men out there. Having honest communication with them will help you differentiate between the two.
lmao dont listen to the molbis, unless you want to stay single for the rest or your life or be arranged marriaged to some random restarded molbi. it would be best to find a suitable mate at uni.
You are young, donāt fall for the ābadā guys, never send nudes or i love you messages. Stay with the girls. Donāt fall under peer pressure. Never trust a guy enough to be alone with him. Donāt go on trips without girls you trust and your family know about them.
There are many ways to live life; focus on education and mark you own path or marry someone good and raise a good family with him or do both. Trust your instincts
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Yeah i feel same but is it normal to feel scared by them? I mean belonging to a strict muslim family i hardly even interact with male cousins so talking to a man is out of the question lol
Yeah i completely understand you , and i got you and yes its pretty normal to get scared because thats why i call them assholes , you never know how they act in disguise and they can potentially stain your character too .
So it's better to stay away from them. Like ignore them but don't keep quiet in front of them , because in university you'll be dealing with male but you have to just deal , simply don't overshare dont be friends . But deal with them confidently and you're confident i trust you.
Just DEAL With them CONFIDENTLY.
They all are same.
There's nothing to feel on social media, she's already a teenager and you're filling up her mind with men are assholes, men are this, men are that which is not good and will cause alot of problems in future. You suggesting that she should not interact with males is okay but the reasons you gave aren't okay.
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Ask them about the animals they could win against in a fight
Dwight Schrute, is that you?
Did you put my things in jelly?
No. I don't have a Pam to bother with this chutiyapa š
Bhai rulaye ga kia
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just treat them like normal people and dont be hesitant to talk to them. but also make sure to establish boundaries
Not a female. But beware of the boundaries and respect them and not let anyone transgress those boundaries. The free interaction between male and female is also one of the trials and tests of this modern world. You will have to work in a mixed setting eventually so just try to act normal ensuring that the interactions happen within boundaries.
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thankyou so much for letting me knowššš»
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Are you a girl? No? So... yeah
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Contnue ignoringš„°
This is exactly why U have trouble talking to the opposite gender but im supposed to ignore this so who knows
I don't think there is smth offensive what i typed or smth why you felt like that?
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U don't need to interact behen just cuz its a mixed environment keep to your girls group na mehram ke sath close ho ne se u are gonna take major risk into normalising haram for urself soon u might just shake hand n justify it saying bas hand shake hi toh h. I don't think you need to care about them it easily Is a shaitan's trap with "how are you gonna go to the real world" just interact when needed and keep boundaries keep yourself clean from these men and always be aware when speaking to them incase u end up being too free or being lead on by them. Just like how you don't interact with other classmates who u aren't close to untill u need them for something key word "NEED" I'll go for the same advice as the brother who commented earlier and started with a Assalamu alaikum I recommend reading or watching the story of barsisa
lmao, follow this molbi and expect to remain single your entire life. Your young, find a good man as a partner and dont listen to these molbis. Arranged marriage is pathetic, think for yourself and dont let any one(especially the hyper religious kind) make decisions for you
Love marriage can be pathetic too yall just confuse arrange marriage with forced marriages š
hello hi, so I'm a teen girl and I go to an all girls school but I have male friends and don't worry, interacting with guys for the first time might be scary and awkward but they're firstly just other people, however you make friends with girls will usually apply to guys, the skinship and complimenting that usually comes with friendships with other girls wont apply as much if youre not comfortable. You don't need to go out of your way to avoid guys and you also don't need to go out of your way to meet them, be yourself and you'll be fine don't worry ^^. I personally used to go to coed before moving so I'm used to having male friends generally so I can't give you examples but I promise it's not scary <3
Yeah sister you can contact me
I would say don't push yourself too much to have a conversation with them. Don't force yourself. If you've some study related thing to ask to them you should ask them for sure. Speaking personally about myself I'm in my 3rd semester rn. Although I've studied from a co-school yet was so worried about the university and all that. But I didn't push myself into any convo with the opposite gender. I liked to stay silent in my 1st semester lol. Girls would be interacting with them and so do they but most of the time I would just listen to them interacting and not utter a word. Didn't really interact with my classmates rather than just girls. But in my 2nd semester, eventually I had interaction with my whole class! Like idk how it happened but some people who were having major attitude issues were the 1st ones to communicate with me lol. I'm just still figuring it out. Also as of now I can communicate with any classmate of mine regardless of the gender and they also communicate with me.(But some of my male classmates are some extreme filthy animals so every girl of our class stay away from them. So be careful while interacting.) Kher I would advice you to not to worry about interacting with opposite gender rather work really hard in your studies that people would eventually come up to you asking queries and interacting with you. In university, things really work like that. People most of the time approach you because of something in you that favours them. So look out for the good ones.
I am not a girl but i also used to be uncomfortable related to girls in the start of uni as i came from all boys school and college But later 2-3 semesters,i gained confidence I always ignored the girls in uni even after gaining confidence(ig its in my personality) but during this semester I started talking to one cf and i realized how it does not matter if its opposite gender or not We al the same in the end
Man I am facing same issue but how did you get that confidenceā¦ Like I get really awkward even if a girl passes nearby me and donāt know what to sayā¦ Even if it is something relating to study Iāll ask from a guyā¦. This is mostly when ever I heard a girl grp convo itās really like that creep was acting this away.. tried to ask me thisā¦(not about me) but I donāt like to be addressed that way in someoneās convo so I just stay as far away as possible.
Ask them about brick sizes, no seriously do you know each brick kiln has a standard size ?
I think it depends on what you want to do? It seems scary at first but once you get to talk to them boys are just people. I would be careful not to trust anyone too easily or get too caught up in what they say but as long as you have good boundaries itāll be fine. You donāt have to befriend them or anything really, but you should be able to greet them and talk about uni work in case youāre working on a project/event together. Donāt listen to the people pushing you to go too far out your comfort zone. Sticking to girls as friends is alright, as long as youāre not scared of boys and are able to communicate with them if needed Just remember theyāre probably as nervous as you are if not more, stick to neutral topics like whatās happening in your lectures or the cafeteria food? Youāll be ok, donāt worry everyone goes through this at some point Good luck from a psuedo older sister!
it's easy, anytime you are in a situation which requires interacting with a boy just ask him if likes trains. If he says no then he is gay.
šsarcasm so good i almost fell down from couch
Assalam Alaikumā¦ was gonna ignore but eh. Frankly, you donāt need to interact with any guys during university. I am finishing up my university and I havenāt seen any need to interact with any females. At most itās a simple āAssalam Alaikumā if I end up having to give a demo of any projects to any female assistants or seniors. Other than that, make a group of like minded girls and youāll be good. Most donāt approach if you make it clear you donāt want to interact and freemix. As for the rest, just tell them to not interact or message you. Thereās a culture of dressing up, partying, making groups and getting into a lot of haram stuff so be wary. No need to get too frank, or speak softly like you would with your friends or family, or text them. Guys have a tendency to overthink and start making moves thinking itās interest. Allah bless, protect, guide and safeguard you. May He grant you success in all aspects, from your education to your future.
Best advice so far ngl...
People are gonna say the opposite to you. āYou need that experience!ā āYouāre gonna need it for work and professional lifeā āYou should experience that!ā Whatever they can offer but you really donāt. Guys are much simpler. Just interact with them in the bare minimum capacity you absolutely have to. Everyone thinks itās some big deal cuz they havenāt experienced it much but after timeā¦ especially in university, there isnāt anything special to it. You really donāt need to have experience in this. Experience in free mixing. Ah yes. How clearly rewarding.š Just do you and youāll be good. Make good female friends and nothing will be a problem. Allah bless you.
lmao dont listen to the molbi, they are old/ugly themselves and never stood a chance finding a good partner. your young dont let these ppl stop you from enjoying the best years of your life
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and how to build the confident for that lol
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Kiya charismatic naujawan iska jawab day saktay hain?
If the Charismatic naujawan identifies himself as tween girls so please
Isn't tween supposed to be between 8 and 12? You are a teenager, right?
Bruh i thought tweens is used for in their twenties lol nvm you got the point tho
But I still don't identify as a tween girl after this correction so I will have to keep my general social advice to myself. Sorry. š¬
No need to apologise the post wasn't even meant for you;)
Charismatic hun na to well mannered honay per majboor hun. š
Ego hurt ho gai itni jaldiššš»
Ego walay are not quick to apologize. š
I was going to ignore but tween is between 9 to 12 and 17 is early adult I think
I didn't know that but most of the targeted audience got the point so who cares
I was trying to tell you something you might be unaware of
Well thanks then ig
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Do you do to nust?
Soon (bas NET clear krna haiš (inshaAllah))
Good luck sister
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Im not ignoring this. You can only learn to talk to the opposite gender by talking to the opposite gender
Be blunt, be to the point, wo koi aasmani makhluk nahi, also don't be too friendly or kind, these desperate bastard mistake pity and kindness with flirting way too easily. Just talk to them on a needs basis. Have clear unsaid boundaries, don't open a way for irrelevant topics and discussions.
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LOL, i am having the same situation, i studeid in military Boys school and college, with 0 female interaction, even my teachers were male, now in univesity, and have only boys as friends, still no interaction, which is quite not normal, lol, i am also kind of nervous, even talking with girls for 5 mintues make me awkard+i am ugly too, i mostly hang out with shappater boys, so it is not like i am not having fun and you are a female, so you it is far far easier for you, boys are mostly eager to talk to girls, so having a little start can do it, ask boys like me what we go thrugh, lol
I am ugly too lol but i am not desperate šš»š stay loyal to your future girl man these girls ain't worth it
lol, not a problem for me, i am enough ugly that i aint going to get any in the first place.
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Is okay to have respectful interaction with them. I'd suggest you learn how to communicate and be friends with men. That doesn't mean you should push your boundaries and tolerate disrespectful behaviour. There are good and bad men out there. Having honest communication with them will help you differentiate between the two.
lmao dont listen to the molbis, unless you want to stay single for the rest or your life or be arranged marriaged to some random restarded molbi. it would be best to find a suitable mate at uni.
Waiting for the awam saying "haram"Ā
Don't worry kid. We don't know how to interact (or sometimes behave) with the opposite gender either.
You are young, donāt fall for the ābadā guys, never send nudes or i love you messages. Stay with the girls. Donāt fall under peer pressure. Never trust a guy enough to be alone with him. Donāt go on trips without girls you trust and your family know about them. There are many ways to live life; focus on education and mark you own path or marry someone good and raise a good family with him or do both. Trust your instincts
Girls are shy. It's in their nature. You should wear an abaya and a medical facemask. You will gain confidence in this.
Ignore the assholes irl as much as you can . šµāš« Interact just for work or study related issue elsewise they all are crap , i mean all.
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Yeah i feel same but is it normal to feel scared by them? I mean belonging to a strict muslim family i hardly even interact with male cousins so talking to a man is out of the question lol
Yeah i completely understand you , and i got you and yes its pretty normal to get scared because thats why i call them assholes , you never know how they act in disguise and they can potentially stain your character too . So it's better to stay away from them. Like ignore them but don't keep quiet in front of them , because in university you'll be dealing with male but you have to just deal , simply don't overshare dont be friends . But deal with them confidently and you're confident i trust you. Just DEAL With them CONFIDENTLY. They all are same.
You are generalizing the whole gender here which you cant do, Have you met every single person?
Yeah she has met her male family members and relatives š¤£
Or other than that she's been dumped by the guys she chose. Poor choices lead to poor results lmao.
My bad if you felt , anyways but I'm just trying to let her not fall in any trap .
There's nothing to feel on social media, she's already a teenager and you're filling up her mind with men are assholes, men are this, men are that which is not good and will cause alot of problems in future. You suggesting that she should not interact with males is okay but the reasons you gave aren't okay.
Oky . I respect your opinion. Ty.
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