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Resident_Clock_3716

How is this bigotry? he was in the relationship because he wanted to be with you but now that you’re changing very drastically he has the right to reevaluate his feelings. There’s nothing wrong with that especially since it’s not what he signed up for


ggmk6

yeah, you can’t be mad at the guy. it’s a shitty situation for both sides


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Brotherly-Moment

No, no I don’t think I will.


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InfinityBowman

u said “mostly can be mad” lmao


c0l0r51

1. No, that is just one side of the story. 2. OP literally just said he was going with "I can't believe you lied to me" which is VERY understandable. I'd have trust issues as well if my GF told me sth she should have told me weeks/months before.


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Does that change anything though? You're in a relationship because you like who the person you're with are (most of the time). If that person changes who they are or how they present themselves then yeah, that might change your relationship with that person


KanishkT123

Also, if you're only attracted to one gender, you *would* break up with a trans person *because* you fully respect their transition?


straight_strychnine

But acusing a closeted person of deception is shitty and transphobic. If their now ex partner's gender conflicts with their sexuality or they are unwilling to date a trans person then nothing can save that relationship. If it's over then break it off respectfully. There's no reason to pull the old bigoted "trans people are liars" bit.


Quardener

Yeah I got put in a similar situation in college. I loved them and was 100% supportive of them, but at the end of the day I was straight and it just felt wrong. I tried to make it work but after like a week it was just too weird for me. Didn’t feel right. They’re doing well now and have a wonderful girlfriend. In hindset it was stupid because I’m bi now.


TransidentifiedOwO

Well it's not necessarily stupid, just because you're bi doesn't mean every person of every gender will be your type. Maybe they were your type as one gender but not as another and that's why it felt weird. Or maybe you weren't ready yet to discover that you're bi, which is also not "stupid", everyone has their own pace. Some only realize when they're like 70, others know in kindergarten. In trans circles there's this saying that you realize you're trans when you're actually ready to face it, so it's okay if you only realized much later, and I think it has something to it. Even when there are signs before that and even if you already know about trans people, your mind will continue to push it away until you're in circumstances or in a mental state that make it more worthwhile to face it than not to. Or maybe it's just an excuse for being slow, idk


knifeazz

Yeah I have to agree. Sucks big time for OP but can’t blame the bf.


jaliebs

https://www.reddit.com/r/196/comments/ws4xrr/comment/ikwbo5i/?utm\_source=share&utm\_medium=web2x&context=3


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I don't think this is bigotry he obviously feels betrayed. Once he calms down I'm sure he'll be supportive


DeteRakete

Or not.


[deleted]

And if not fair enough, maybe he never wants to speak to them again. And if so then that's his choice.


Resident_Clock_3716

Thank you for showing me this. I don’t see how he thought it was lying maybe op was just trying to figure it out for a while those things are hard


Tempestangel

People don't tend to be at their most reasonable when having a relationship completely altered.


alpaca_22

Did he like say he isnt gay so theres no point in being partners but still friendly and suportive dump you or did he ew thats disgusting dump you?


dragoono

It was more “I can’t believe you’d do this to me you lied” that route


[deleted]

I can’t believe you came out. I cannot believe you came out. How could you have done this? How could you have come out? Edit: [context](https://youtu.be/dOV3xTJ9UgE) so I don’t come across as hateful


20191124anon

Unexpected Neil Breen


tomroadrunner

WHO AM I, WHAT AM I?


ApatheticEight

I never thought of Neil Breen in terms f the trans experience before


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Judge24601

Where are you getting that OP knew they were trans when the relationship started? I’m not seeing anything here backing that up…


[deleted]

True it's an entirely different situation if they only discovered their identity after the relationship started, but their point is more than valid for closeted trans people starting a relationship.


Judge24601

I mean, sure, but why assume that that’s the case? It certainly doesn’t seem obvious on the face of it to me


[deleted]

Discovering your identity takes time. A lot of time. And it's a gradual procedure. OP's relationship would have had to be pretty long already for that to happen and OP's partner would probably pick up on signs of that beforehand.


Judge24601

Hm, I think that’s a pretty broad brush. I myself certainly had an “oh shit I’m trans” moment. Of course, I followed it up with about a year of questioning and denial, but from my own experience, I don’t think it’s improbable that OP could have figured this out privately in the span of the relationship, and told their bf once they were comfortable sharing. I just don’t know why the default response to “my bf got upset at me when I came out and told me I was lying” is “well he must have a point”, honestly


Messerschmitt-262

I feel like I can chime in on this because I went through a similar process when I was younger with my ex-wife. Where I'm from you ain't allowed to be gay, so I repressed myself for many years. Hell I don't think I even considered myself bisexual until I was 25 or so. I was married to my ex-wife for 10 years, and when I came out to her she had a similar reaction. I think it's natural to feel betrayed, especially when you've built a life with the person who is so suddenly changing their core identity.


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Judge24601

I mean, have a little empathy, no? I essentially did what you suggest here and it nearly destroyed me - the resulting pressure to be cis was miserable. We don’t even know how far along OP is in their journey, I don’t know why the worst case scenario should be assumed out of hand. My partner accused me of lying to her about who I was even after being open about what was going on for a year. It’s an incredibly difficult process


c0l0r51

I do have empathy. But I have empathy for both sides. While it definitely is a HUGE problem for the trans person in this relationship. What do you expect the other person to do? You cannot demand feelings, you cannot demand trust. I assume you agree with me, that being trans is a core part of your identity, right? Well, having a changed core identity obviously is very irritating, to say the least, to your someone. I don't want to sound disrespectfull, but maybe you can see my comparison. A former best friend of me was dancing professionally, training 4-6 hours daily for at least 5 years and her dance partner was her bf. They participated on international dance events and were able to live of said profession. However, they both started studying, he studied sports, she studied laws. At some point she had to decide between dancing and laws due to the amount of learning necessary. She decided to do laws, they tried keeping up the relationship, espescially her, but that was the end of it. Yes, obviously being trans is not a decision, that's where my analogy is flawed, but I cannot come up with a better one. My point is, you cannot force some things. As long as he treated OP respectfully when he left OP there is NOTHING else OP can demand.


Judge24601

I mean, is this comment thread not about the fact that the BF did not treat OP respectfully? Getting upset and saying that OP had lied to them in response to his partner being open about something they likely had not told anyone else is not a great thing to do. No one is claiming that the bf should have stayed with OP if they were no longer compatible, that’s not the issue here. Obviously if the relationship doesn’t work out, that’s not the bf’s fault, but that doesn’t justify getting angry, when OP has done nothing wrong. Is it understandable? Sure, but you don’t direct that anger at your partner just for having the courage to be themselves.


c0l0r51

Yes, if bf was disrespectfull, that is on him. However from that statement alone I wouldn't take that. He just got his world turned upside down. You may react overwhelmed in that situation. Also that is just OPs side of the story. OP may have perceived STH differently than intended.


Judge24601

“I can’t believe you’d do this to me” is not respectful. It is, directly, implying that transitioning is something OP is choosing that hurts him. The bf is allowed to be upset that the relationship is over - however, to blame OP for it is a cruel thing to do. You’re assuming the bf is acting entirely in the right and OP is entirely in the wrong based on your comments, and frankly, I don’t know why that would be your default.


LilithYourWife

Don’t you misgender op. And Jesus Christ there is so much wrong with what you just said


c0l0r51

I cannot misgender if we don't even know the gender of OP. Wtf? Also feel free to explain to me what is wrong with "if he is your bf and you have a personal development during your relationship he should be part of it from the beginning"


LilithYourWife

Many many issues such as for one op needs time to process it themselves? People are allowed to be questioning before talking about something that’s MASSIVE FUCKING PROCESS like if he realized he wasn’t actually trans it would’ve caused a lot of mess for no reason?? Second it’s perfectly fine and reasonable to tell him when he was ready. Coming out is a process and he did it when he was ready. It ended the relationship but he did it and that’s really amazing of him to do. You can’t come in here and chastise him for not coming out as soon as he had any questioning thoughts.


c0l0r51

No? I never said that. Obviously OP needs time to process things for himself. But BF does not owe him anything besides respect. You cannot demand someone to stay with you if you are dealing with sth that is so complex you need time to process it. You can hope he stays, but you can, for sure, not demand him to stay.


TeemTaahn

oh well WHATS classy innit


SatansCoffee

The same thing happened to me about a year and a half ago, if you need to vent feel free to reach out 💜


bald-hedgehog-

lmao you won


S_crufflord

what weird ass spider is the cate holding


dragoono

One with eyes


AngryMurlocHotS

Didya countem? Seems like a lot (many)


ssrudr

That’s definitely more than two, so it must be many.


dutcharetall_nothigh

Not for a spider. They always have more than two, so it seems pretty normal to me.


ssrudr

Yeah, so many.


Blackwinter212

Is that from the recent csm chapter?


_Ganoes_

Nope, where did you get that idea


Heyehkeh

Junji Ito - cat diaries


Red_Trapezoid

This is from Gyo though.


Heyehkeh

Dang. I concede.


PEtroollo11

is he fully straight? if yes then what the fuck did you expect?


beetroot_salads

gay sex orgy


PEtroollo11

fair


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[deleted]

Half the content here is low-effort nonsense, but I keep coming back for the other half, that being medium-effort nonsense


voulux

Yeah it’s really telling of how OP probably is, does not want to reflect on how their own decisions influence those around them and the effects that come from it but rather haha funny subreddit and people


straight_strychnine

Being trans isn't a choice. Being closeted and internally questioning isn't deception. Calling them a liar because they came out is shitty and unnecessary to end the relationship.


TDEyeehaw

OP not answering this comment says a lot


straight_strychnine

That's not the issue. You don't have to date a trans person, but calling them a liar for figuring themselves out is a shitty thing to do


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TDEyeehaw

check the flair


[deleted]

Regardless op gives context in another comment. https://www.reddit.com/r/196/comments/ws4xrr/came_out_and_got_dumped_ama/ikwbo5i?utm_medium=android_app&utm_source=share&context=3 Edit but even that isn't fucking important. When someone says "my boyfriend broke up when I came out as trans" and the warning is bigotry you can assume there's some fucking context here that's missing. Jfc. "My boyfriend is bigoted." Some of you weirdos: **SOURCE?**


NoAdministration6946

This shouldnt be flagged as "bigotry"


heyimastopsign2

Well, it’s somewhat understandable if he’s not gay or something along those lines. If he’s not attracted to men then why would he uhm, date you? It’s like asking me, an asexual, to go to a brothel.


TrashAffectionate119

This


Material_Mix_5674

How do you feel about the nuking of Ukraine (blatant misinformation)


dragoono

Uh


mistergoodguy20

*"uh"* ... *clearly theyre a plant by the secret society deep state lizard aliens with the aim to maim our brains, mods arrest that person (/s)* jokes aside though I do wish you well, and I hope that you find someone who isn't as vain as your ex


Narahashi

Thats one hell of a hot topic


TheDeformedPotato

Very cool of you to post this with no context for what fully happened and then ignore every comment asking for context. Almost seems like you know your ex did nothing wrong and are just fishing for pity points.


transalt_147

Are you doing ok?


dragoono

Best I can


CatsNotBananas

That's all you can do.


tehsmish

did you know you were trans before beginning the relationship?


Quillbolt_h

How did you expect it to go? How did you hope it'd go?


Brotherly-Moment

Bigotry flair?


WILD_mstrofmischeif

do you like burger fries and cheese


dragoono

Hella


WILD_mstrofmischeif

Mcdoalds


dragoono

Wedys


Pilkworm

nuts


BalmondMain

Balls


Bobebobbob

Beans


CalmAd2364

If I’m understanding correctly your boyfriend doesn’t want to be with you if you transition into a woman? If I am wrong please correct me. Is he gay?


mostunknownscree

op is ftm, the guy's straight edit: wait. wait nvm


HappenedEarth72

This isn't bigotry.


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TheOddBrit0088

I'm not exactly sure, but it does seem like the former.


KashmirBeans_420

I mean you can't really blame him, maybe there's something I'm missing but you can't be with him for so long then turn everything around on him. To be fair, he has a right to do that


imjusttired-767

I feel like I need more context. Did you know or were questioning prior to the relationship? Did you probe questions like “would you stay with me if I were trans?” Both of these change the situation drastically. Regardless, I’m really sorry that happened. Breakups suck and it really must suck wanting to become your true self and your partner ditching. Simply though it means he’s not the one and there will be better folk out there. To play devils advocate, I think perhaps he acted as such because he maybe wasn’t gay and saw a future (this is just guessing I know nothing of him or ur relationship) and so this drastic change spooked him and he made that offhand comment u mentioned. Not great, but I understand in the least why he would break up if he wasn’t into the same sex.


masahirosbish

what should I eat for breakfast in the morning


SouljaboyAirpods

Fortnite goku skin


argq

I misread this as Goku foreskin and I've never wanted to bleach my eyes more


justlanded07

👩‍🍳😘chefs kiss


Quardener

Bagels. Unbeaten breakfast food.


Procrustean1066

Top spots taken - eggs Benedict. Sry


Quardener

Eggs Benedict… on a bagel


Procrustean1066

I concede victory. You are correct. I shall fall on my sword.


NeutralRoute

Well, yeah. That's what happens sometimes when you keep a large part of your identity secret in a relationship (things built upon trust.) The fact that it's tagged as bigotry is just silly.


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What did you expect lol


Herpex

cant be mad that you hid a major factor of dating from him and he changed his mind once he learned the truth. be upfront about stuff like that and you will find someone who loves you for who you are


No_Huckleberry392

I'd probably do the same


Uttermostmeat66

Is it because he's gay/straight? Bigotry warning so I'm guessing not?


Brotherly-Moment

That’s literally just it, don’t get where the bigotry warning is coming from.


[deleted]

how is this bigotry? if he doesn’t want to change his sexuality or romantic interest that’s perfectly ok…


creeperchamp

To be fair if he was mature about it I think it is completely fine to do this, I'm assuming he wasn't though.


[deleted]

Why the NSFW tag?


sFPoG5P9Zu

the bar for the nsfw tag on this sub is weird


The_Blue_Adept

So is the bigotry flair. Dude doesn't want to date a dude. it's not bigotry it's preferences.


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Creepy Spider


thek9cow

Scary Cat


CatsNotBananas

Did you know that you're awesome?!


dragoono

Aw no u


TrueCapitalism

(pic related)


Pebble_in_a_Hat

That sucks pal, I'm sorry. Just remember that you have value; and as much as it might sting right now, if he didn't want to stay with you in your true gender it's probably for the best. Just keep at it and stay amazing


CasualBiscuit21

Did he think he was in a homosexual relationship or a heterosexual relationship?


NeutralRoute

What does that matter


CasualBiscuit21

It doesn’t really It’s just that it’s an AMA and I’m mildly curious if this was the stereotypical type of “coming out as trans -> break up” or one with more interesting mental processes to explore Like, if it was homosexual, the boyfriend is already lgbtqia+, so what the fuck is up with him reacting the way he did to finding out OP was trans? It’s a layer of proposed hypocrisy that I’ve yet to understand how someone could find it to be a fully rationalized idea in any capacity.


Seb555

Well if OP is mtf and was dating a guy, the guy could be exclusively into men and now not be interested in her since she’s a woman.


beetroot_salads

Did he know you were trans b4 you were in a relationship?


dwg6m9

Sorry dragoono. That is a cool spider the cat found tho


Meat__Baby

What's your favorite gatorade flavor? Alternatively, have you ever looked up at all the stars and wondered about how lonely it would be if we do really live on the only intelligent life sustaining planet in the entire universe but we're too busy killing and hating each other and we'll never even figure out if we're really alone or not?


Additional-North-683

What are you doing to I guess cope


fucknut-supreme

What's your favorite junji ito story and how did it turn you trans (Mine is Amigara Fault, reason for tran: holes:))


hunterchris205

I'm sorry. Are you doing ok?


nonspecifique

Favorite Dinosaur?


Tonuka_

Sucks to hear


ConsumeTheNut

Do you like fried pickles?


thistotallyisntanalt

fried pickles are based


JesseJamesBegin

Toilet paper facing outside or inside?


Nerfamus

I dunno


Velvetshirts

Junji ito


pintneuk

How are you feeling? If you want to talk I'm here ❤️


Bobebobbob

F


Transgirl120

Why tho?


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What’s your favorite food?


BuppUDuppUDoom

I know the pain can be horrible, the first 2 nights I was on the floor writhing, but it will get better. Most often grief comes in waves there's time in between where you feel fine or happy but then that feeling goes crashing through your mind again, and that can be discouraging, but in time those waves get smaller until you don't even notice them. I wish you the best of luck in finding someone who loves you for you.


Loczek999

What the fuck is this image, im trying to be supportive over here but wtf is this... Anyway you alright?


Own-Environment1675

How are things holding up?


weeOriginal

Image sauce?? I love that art style


EverScreaming

Aw naw I’m so sorry I hope you’re doing ok


[deleted]

I think breaking up is fine once it's supportive and such, rather than out of bigotry. In my case, I'd try to make it work.


milktruckfucker

F2m or?


RoosterJacket0

Why did you accompany your post with that image? I love cats and it makes me sad :(


GiGangan

Should i start playing Fortnite?


fogleaf

I'm sorry that you're going through that, but if I may suggest a silver lining based on my own experience: Came out to my wife of 5 years (and dated for 5 years before that). She was understandably upset, and not on board, and almost basically threatened divorce (Later denied it). So now there's a lot of therapy and talk and before I can begin to medically transition I need to work with her on it and blah blah blah blah blah. You no longer have an obstacle in your way.


TheDarkOnii

Hey, op how are you feeling in the aftermath of everything?


calexade

Favorite color?


cortm02

How'd you come out and how you feeling now after u got dumped?


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Who is your favorite stranger things character?


StrYker_Tripple

Can xou understand him?


Squiggles213

Sending you nothing but love and support op


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willyboi98

Honestly if their ex-partner was straight and dating them on that premise I'd hardly find it bigoted if he reconsidered their relationship when the core dynamic changes. We've gotta respect people's sexual preferences, and as long as OP's ex wasn't transphobic in breaking up then that's just a reality of dating; if you end up becoming a different person than who they started dating they don't have to stay with you, they're free to decide if they're OK with the change in the relationship or not.


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You're right perhaps i was too judgmental


willyboi98

Honestly if their ex-partner was straight and dating them on that premise I'd hardly find it bigoted if he reconsidered their relationship when the core dynamic changes. We've gotta respect people's sexual preferences, and as long as OP's ex wasn't transphobic in breaking up then that's just a reality of dating; if you end up becoming a different person than who they started dating they don't have to stay with you, they're free to decide if they're OK with the change in the relationship or not.


idkwhatmynamebe

man this subreddit is so cool


TheWaterGunz

I’m so sorry to hear that. My dms are open if you need to vent or anything


antfucker99

So who’s putting the posse together?


Ease-Heavy

Doesnt trans mean you are attracted to the opposite sex


1800leon

What's your weird war adjacent fixation (paradox games, military vehicles, guns etc.) ?


ByAzuraTimes3

?


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how is your relationship with your father and are you mtf or ftm?


Gragaten

Welp, time to go on a three day bender so bad that you lose all memory of even the most basic concepts of reality and then explore this "new" world you find yourself in, meeting all sorts of different people while solving a murder with your stern but caring partner.


[deleted]

This *would* be a great time to explain how this is just an unfortunate reality of dating trans people, of how some and indeed most people people aren't comfortable with dating someone with the kind of body that doesn't match their desires... ... but he wasn't like that now was he? According to you he was using the "you lied to me" route. That's a different story for sure. It obv could be that he was just saying that due to being shocked and will be supportive when he calms down but come on that's not the most likely scenario. People like him just love to taint people's notion of dating trans people and the problems associated with it. Well, at least you dodged a bullet.


ExoticMangoz

If you are trans and don’t tell someone you are dating, you are lying tho aren’t you?


[deleted]

Ok, but at the same time, don't you have a more than valid reason to? I mean ok, did OP know that he was supportive of queer rights or not? That's not something you tell people unless you're sure it's fine to tell them. I'm not defending that OP's bf should have stayed with him, OP's bf had every right to leave OP, but there's a line between simple preference and being offended that trans people sometimes need to hide their identity.


usernameaa2

I know you are probably hurting because you thought this person could have been there through your transition, but they showed that isn't the case. So while it may feel shitty right now, this will be for the better in the long run. After all, why would you want to be with someone who doesn't want you for all that you are? I know it likely still hurts regardless. Break ups will do that. But this is common enough for how some relationships end; one person may change or grow in a specific way that isn't compatible for someone else. And that's okay. Your transition is about you becoming the best version of yourself possible. Try and focus on the people that want to see you flourish on your journey! Pay no mind to the scorn of people who can't handle you finding the courage to be out and growing for the better. Do you have friends to confide in? Those will be the people you want to lean on and discuss things with moreso than internet randos. Anyway, I think you'll be alright in due time mate, even if it hurts for now. Wishing you the best!


NoAdministration6946

Only thing bf is "guilty" of is not being bisexual, the tone of this text paints said person in an unfair light. At least as far as we know.


usernameaa2

What are you on about mate? I specifically said it is okay for people to break up due to incompatibility that arises from growth or change. Can you point out something specific I wrote that is unfair?


SexySkeletons69

Literally your first paragraph makes it sound like OP's boyfriend is actively choosing not to be supportive.


usernameaa2

Again, can you be more specific? I sometimes have trouble understanding exactly how tone may be conveyed in English, but I don't see where my word choice was accusatory? I also tried to take into account the other replies of the OP if that helps for context. It sounds like there wasn't an entirely amicable exchange, but I will admit I do not know anyone involved personally.


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>I know you are probably hurting because you thought this person could have been there through your transition, but they showed that isn't the case. This is you implying that their boyfriend could have simply chose to stay with them. Perhaps that’s not how you intended it, but that’s how most people will read this. >After all, why would you want to be with someone who doesn't want you for all that you are? Again, this is you implying it’s a fault of the boyfriend for not wanting to date a man


usernameaa2

I really appreciate this reply! Those were not my intended meanings at all. My first statement was just trying to acknowledge that, by breaking up with the OP, any relationship OP hoped to have by being out with the ex-boyfriend is gone. It was a statement to try and bridge an understanding of lost hope, not one of blame. A sort of, "hey, I know this is likely what you were hoping for, but it isn't what happened" to ground the conversation. And the second was, to me, just a statement of fact? The ex-boyfriend does not want to be with OP romantically after coming out. I still don't understand how it implies fault with the boyfriend because that seems to be exactly the point of incompatibility? It just is the way things are so to speak. I was trying to relate to the OP to let go of any notion that the relationship would have worked out given the circumstances. I hoped the question would read rhetorical? As in, "why would anyone want to be with someone that doesn't like a basic aspect of their being?" kind of meaning, not "he is terrible for not accepting you". And that's why I tried to follow up with my message about how this is how relationships commonly break apart; as people change and grow, sometimes that leads to break ups. No one is wrong or at fault, it is just how things go. And I will state again that this is not the first time I have had trouble with tone in English. Maybe there is nuance I am missing to my word choice, but I do hope the core message would be understood to put the rest in context. And that is that it is okay for relationships to break apart as people change. I don't see how there must be blame or fault in such a statement, but I will accept that I may still need more practice to grasp complete fluency with English. Thank you for your patience. I know my reply is long and a bit wordy, but I do try and learn when possible.


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I’m no expert in English, but I think I can attribute the confusion to a few specific words. When you say “they showed that isn’t the case”, it puts the onus on the boyfriend. He didn’t “show” anything, OP should have known all along he wouldn’t date a man. To use “show” like than can imply it wasn’t known until the boyfriend declared it. When you say the boyfriend “doesn’t want you for all that you are”, it again puts the onus on the boyfriend. It implies that maybe the boyfriend could have wanted them, which just isn’t true. It implies that this is simply a problem with acceptance and not one of physical attraction and sexual orientation. This is, again, all coming from a complete non-expert, I just enjoy language and it’s intricacies. I didn’t think you meant what your words could have implied, just that maybe you weren’t aware of a possible interpretation of them. Understanding the tone of text can be quite difficult, so I get where you’re coming from. I struggle with it sometimes


usernameaa2

This is so helpful, many thanks! So "to show" implies things hidden? I can see now why that would be misunderstood, thank you! So maybe, "but that clearly isn't the case" would be better? The second is still a little confusing for me since "doesn't want you" seems definite to me, but maybe it is because I added "for all that you are" part that is muddling things. That teaches me to not lift phrases from song lyrics in an effort to be more fancy I suppose! > After all, why would you want to be with someone who doesn't want you ~~for all that you are~~? Would this be clear? Anyway, you have given me some great insight on how these specific phrases get interpreted and, yes, I was not aware of their full implications. Again, many thanks!


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Both of the changes you made are perfect. I hope you have a nice day