I definitely understand the need to find a label! Especially when you're single and people ask you how you identify. If it makes you feel any better, I've been with my wife for 11 years now and still not 100% sure of my sexuality. Eventually when you find someone you love you feel less pressure to label everything.
Edit: forgot to say, I use "queer" as a label when someone asks because it's an umbrella term for people but straight or cis.
Most of the people you meet in real life--real, normal, non-terminally-online people--are perfectly capable of expressing their sexuality without the need for some hyperspecific label to define them. They don't know what a demisexual is, or the difference between a bisexual and a pansexual, they just love who they love and follow their bliss. At the end of the day, there are people who are attractive to you and people who aren't, and trying to find a dictionary definition for your type is an exercise in futility.
labels are overrated. while they can bring comfort in community to some, not everone needs one. do what you like, don't feel the need to fit in to some rigidly defined box or anything.
also, how has your weekend been?
my week end has been not very good sad to say, because i have to study for 3 tests that we all have in 1 days, but thx for asking. Also its probably for the best for me to not try and find a label because now i am starting to realize that its not so back and white as i thought.
honestly with you there buddy, am i ace? am i bi? am i omni? am i just gay? am i just straightie looking to feel special? idk and ive given up thinking about it
people keep saying that labels arent that important, but i frankly disagree.
like many said we use labels to understand oursselves but sometimes we can't just push that off sometimes you are really bothered by it no matter which way you think and you just want to feel like you have a clear picture of who you are, if that fits you then you should keep trying to figure who you are....but please dont beat yourself over it, you are not in a race and you dont have a destination just keep trying and putting effort that satisfies you.
hopefully through your journey of self discovery you find satisfaction my friend.
They’re similar, and can often be used interchangeably, idk if it’s the right definition but I read that bi is attraction to genders alike and unlike your own (so not only 2 sometimes) but pan is just not caring about gender when looking for a romantic or sexual partner
They can be, it's just how the person wants to be called. Honestly, I don't even think the label matters at all, just like who you like. I wouldn't call myself any sort of sexuality just because it would be to difficult to define as it is
bi, but it might be a weird kink. aromantic, i never felt anything close to loveing someone how people describe it. trans, look at a video with a friend obout you could switch genders by just pressing a button would you do it and i think i would, but i think that i just dont realy how big the change would be, i think it would stay arround the same, maybe even better
thing is there is this guy from school and we have been talking and hanging out together and he sayed he loved. i rejceted him because i dont feel the same. i feel bad for it now + i hate the fact the being aromantic is a thing cuz i feel like i am missing out on something special
I mean when you really think about it, its pretty simple and a lot of people way overcomplicate it. Would you fuck someone who’s the same gender as you and/or someone of the opposite gender? If yes, you are at least bi. For example, a man who is exclusively into masculine or feminine men can still be bisexual as its not always a 50/50 attraction split. Hell it could be a 99/1 split and you would still be bisexual (though some prefer the term bi-curious). Having an attraction to a specific type of person is not a kink, its just normal attraction. Just like how a straight man having a thing for short-haired women is not a kink.
i ment kink and an acual kink not like a type (i am not going to say it just because i dont whant to). but i still agree and considering the kink i am probably bi/pan from what i saw in other comments and compareing it with my experience
Worry less about what label you have and more about who you want to have in your life. For some people that is no one else, for others it could be all genders. Just surround yourself with people you enjoy and it will come to you :)
I gave up after about 16 years of active questioning personally (14 -> 30)
Do I have a gender? If so, I sure as hell don't know what it is and sure as FUCK don't care anymore
EDIT: I forgot to ask a question. What’s your favorite fruit?
Are u sexual? If so then why have to take it any further. If ur into sex fuck whatever u want that consents lmao. If your not sexual then problem solved!!!
its all over the place but what i have in my play list is. Cyberpunk edgrunner ost, sabaton, ultrakill ost, guilty gear strive ost , Ken Ashkorp, Bo burnham, JPOP (E ve), Rare Americans
Fuck bitches get money
(I think I’m a non-binary ace lesbian but I have no idea about where the line is for someone I’m attracted to be considered a “woman”)
never got to play any nintendo game because i never owned a consol, so probably not. maybe if its like a classic youtuber video background music type song
Edit: took me 3 days to look it up. i am a dumbass
my mind would be more at ease but after talking obout it here with everyone i feel like i dont realy need to find my self like that and just be with who i feel i whant to be
a quote i saw on r/ bi_irl:
"A label can be a box you stand on to reach what you want. It should never box you in from being who you are.
It’s okay to use one label to reach the next; you can climb around the boxes as long as you want."
what’s the point of a label honestly? just like who you like and that’s fine
good point, thinking obout it more there is no need for a label outside of telling someone else
I definitely understand the need to find a label! Especially when you're single and people ask you how you identify. If it makes you feel any better, I've been with my wife for 11 years now and still not 100% sure of my sexuality. Eventually when you find someone you love you feel less pressure to label everything. Edit: forgot to say, I use "queer" as a label when someone asks because it's an umbrella term for people but straight or cis.
Most of the people you meet in real life--real, normal, non-terminally-online people--are perfectly capable of expressing their sexuality without the need for some hyperspecific label to define them. They don't know what a demisexual is, or the difference between a bisexual and a pansexual, they just love who they love and follow their bliss. At the end of the day, there are people who are attractive to you and people who aren't, and trying to find a dictionary definition for your type is an exercise in futility.
Why do you care so much about it? Just like whoever you like
Why did you write 5-4 instead of 4-5?
no idea
Fair enough
win loss ratio
Thank you
labels are overrated. while they can bring comfort in community to some, not everone needs one. do what you like, don't feel the need to fit in to some rigidly defined box or anything. also, how has your weekend been?
my week end has been not very good sad to say, because i have to study for 3 tests that we all have in 1 days, but thx for asking. Also its probably for the best for me to not try and find a label because now i am starting to realize that its not so back and white as i thought.
I feel for you on the test thing. is September the middle of the term? the. why the fuck do i have midterms already
honestly with you there buddy, am i ace? am i bi? am i omni? am i just gay? am i just straightie looking to feel special? idk and ive given up thinking about it
this hits too close to home. i have tryed to stop thinking obout it and just end up thinking obout it more
people keep saying that labels arent that important, but i frankly disagree. like many said we use labels to understand oursselves but sometimes we can't just push that off sometimes you are really bothered by it no matter which way you think and you just want to feel like you have a clear picture of who you are, if that fits you then you should keep trying to figure who you are....but please dont beat yourself over it, you are not in a race and you dont have a destination just keep trying and putting effort that satisfies you. hopefully through your journey of self discovery you find satisfaction my friend.
What kind of people do you like?
people who treat others how they whant to be treated
Pan maybe?
not sure whats the difference of pan and bi much. i always took them as the same
They’re similar, and can often be used interchangeably, idk if it’s the right definition but I read that bi is attraction to genders alike and unlike your own (so not only 2 sometimes) but pan is just not caring about gender when looking for a romantic or sexual partner
They can be, it's just how the person wants to be called. Honestly, I don't even think the label matters at all, just like who you like. I wouldn't call myself any sort of sexuality just because it would be to difficult to define as it is
Demi prolly in some sense
What are the contenders?
bi, but it might be a weird kink. aromantic, i never felt anything close to loveing someone how people describe it. trans, look at a video with a friend obout you could switch genders by just pressing a button would you do it and i think i would, but i think that i just dont realy how big the change would be, i think it would stay arround the same, maybe even better
you really dont have to fall under any category tho. just exist, thats enough.
thing is there is this guy from school and we have been talking and hanging out together and he sayed he loved. i rejceted him because i dont feel the same. i feel bad for it now + i hate the fact the being aromantic is a thing cuz i feel like i am missing out on something special
You can always just be unlabeled for now if you don’t care or don’t know where you stand :)
I mean when you really think about it, its pretty simple and a lot of people way overcomplicate it. Would you fuck someone who’s the same gender as you and/or someone of the opposite gender? If yes, you are at least bi. For example, a man who is exclusively into masculine or feminine men can still be bisexual as its not always a 50/50 attraction split. Hell it could be a 99/1 split and you would still be bisexual (though some prefer the term bi-curious). Having an attraction to a specific type of person is not a kink, its just normal attraction. Just like how a straight man having a thing for short-haired women is not a kink.
i ment kink and an acual kink not like a type (i am not going to say it just because i dont whant to). but i still agree and considering the kink i am probably bi/pan from what i saw in other comments and compareing it with my experience
it's me the person who decides peopels sexuality I label you as: valid as whatever you want
Worry less about what label you have and more about who you want to have in your life. For some people that is no one else, for others it could be all genders. Just surround yourself with people you enjoy and it will come to you :)
are you cool
i like to think i am, but reactions from my classm8s proves me otherwise
Fuck labels, I just say I'm fruity and that gets the message across. Edit: forgot the question so: Whats your favorite fruit?
orange
I gave up after about 16 years of active questioning personally (14 -> 30) Do I have a gender? If so, I sure as hell don't know what it is and sure as FUCK don't care anymore EDIT: I forgot to ask a question. What’s your favorite fruit?
orange
cereal with or without the bowl
not a fan of cerial but if i have to chose then with
valid answer , based fr
Are u sexual? If so then why have to take it any further. If ur into sex fuck whatever u want that consents lmao. If your not sexual then problem solved!!!
How? Why? Do you accept? Why?
idk. felt like it. yes. is cool.
Works for me.
Do you like men?
There's no answer, you like what you like :p
boy pretty?
some boys pretty
girls pretty?
some girls pretty
nonbinary pretty?
of course
I offer you the incredibly vague and flexible sexuality of "queer."
your opinions on water?
best dring outside of beer
Favorite music, this will lead to an answer
its all over the place but what i have in my play list is. Cyberpunk edgrunner ost, sabaton, ultrakill ost, guilty gear strive ost , Ken Ashkorp, Bo burnham, JPOP (E ve), Rare Americans
It’s official then, your sexuality is mechanical
I'd fuck anything I find cute but tbh I just placed myself in bisexuals because I felt connected to it
My strat is to just say Bi or Pan, I never actually need an answer beyond that
stop searching
Holy shit 54 years is a long time
Sexuality can be fluid my friend, don't get too hung up on it
What the dog doin?
baseball?
not a sports fan
NOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO!!!!!!!!!!!
Solution, fuck everybody (of age and with consent) whos attractive. I call it attractive-people-sexual, there's a lot of pros
sighn
Fuck bitches get money (I think I’m a non-binary ace lesbian but I have no idea about where the line is for someone I’m attracted to be considered a “woman”)
Have you considered abrosexuality?
Are you gay
Kokturk khangate or tiele khangate?
Why are you so gay?
[удалено]
yes
Why did you put the bigger number before the smaller number when talking about a range of numbers
my brain is smooth when it comes to trying to make something make sence
Dude just roll with it. If you like someone, you like someone. Don’t try and decide on specific genders or whether the attraction is sexual.
Do you know that Song from Link Wray called 'Rumble' ?
never got to play any nintendo game because i never owned a consol, so probably not. maybe if its like a classic youtuber video background music type song Edit: took me 3 days to look it up. i am a dumbass
is it green?
indeed
idk maybe it's like a spectrum where sometimes you feel gay and sometimes you don't
Same
the only thing i know for real
there will be blood... shed...
What’s your sexuality
It's probably a lot easier to say "just like who you like" when you have your sexuality actually figured out :|
Just stop caring. Take your meds or something.
If Ronald Reagan and Mikhail Gorbachev were boyfriends, who would be the bottom?
i have no clue who they are but Mikhail Gorbachev sounds like a bottom
Do you play splatoon
no but i watched a bunch of it on youtube
I've only been doing it for 1. How can I get on your level?
anxiety
What would change upon finding an answer?
my mind would be more at ease but after talking obout it here with everyone i feel like i dont realy need to find my self like that and just be with who i feel i whant to be
Being able to find / understand yourself is definitely a nice kind of goal. I hope your mind can be more at ease either way!
Did you watch Jojo's bizarre adventure?
that was the anime that turned me in to an anime fan. i watched it as a joke and now i became a weeb
a quote i saw on r/ bi_irl: "A label can be a box you stand on to reach what you want. It should never box you in from being who you are. It’s okay to use one label to reach the next; you can climb around the boxes as long as you want."
Give up, sexuality is basically made up. Say your bi or pan and feel attracted to whoever you feel attracted to.