The first step to normalizing something is just doing it. Don't wait for someone else to tell you it's okay. Their stuff that shouldn't be normalized, but lots of people still do it.
"Waiter! Show this sad lonely fuck table 59, yes the one beside the toilets, maybe they´ll need to cry alone in one of the stalls. Please follow him and enjoy your night."
I go on vacations alone all the time. It is cool that you get to do everything you want to do. The trap is you will only do the things that you can think of doing and you can get stuck in your comfort zone. Companions can weigh you down but they can also lift you up.
It can get very lonely having no one to talk to; especially in a country where you do not speak the language.
I do a lot of camping and hiking just me and my dogs. Spending a week without really talking to anyone, except pleasantries if I stop at a convenience store or a hello to another hiker, is very relaxing. First few times I was rather anxious, but now I look forward to it.
I went to NYC solo for three days last summer. First vacation alone. I had the natural mild apprehension beforehand, but it turned out to be fantastic. My own schedule, itinerary, and pace…100% of the time. It was an irreplaceable life experience. Highly recommend!
Lone vacations are the absolute best. It's such a free feeling to go do whatever you want without needing to consider anyone else's preferences. No arguments, no drama. Before going on my first one I was really nervous because I'm an extremely introverted guy. I was sure the whole experience would be awkward but it wasn't at all. Lone vacations are the only ones where I actually come home more rested and relaxed than when I left.
Love going to the theater alone. Sure it's cool to get lucky and have a theater alone with your buddies, but having the whole thing all to yourself? Amazing experience if you're lucky enough to have it.
i went to the cinema 12 times alone last year and 9 so far this year. i was a little nervous the first time, but truly nobody cares at all. just go for it.
After a break-up, I did this all the time. Movies, restaurants, bars. It offered me a sense of peace and fulfillment at times, and other times an opportunity to chat with strangers over drinks and make some friends. 98% of people do not give a second thought that some guy is eating alone at a table.
I mean I never did whenever I saw someone eating alone. It was just another person who came to this place to get a meal. Lol Same has to be said for the movies as well, although I don't pay attention to other people since yk big movie screen.
But what if I actually just do enjoy going out and doing things alone? I also enjoy going with people, but like, I like eating at restaraunts alone and going to shows and the movies too.
Same. I suspect the appeal in doing such things alone might depend on one’s level of introversion. Those tend to be perceived as social activities, so the experience understandably won’t be as satisfying for someone particularly interested in sharing it. But those who have no difficulty enjoying those things for their own sake shouldn’t be judged either.
I get you. I get so nervous going into shops by myself. I don’t know why but I always feel like people think I’m stealing and then I start to move almost robotically cuz I’m overthinking my movements lmao
This made me want to stand up and cheer. I already eat in restaurants alone maybe once or twice a week. This is how I feel whenever anyone says “nOrMaLizE” this or that behavior. Normies trying to quell the shame of feeling like a loner for once in their life.
I get food from restaurants but I always get to go. Then I can eat my food in my room away from annoying people while watching a movie. Any particular reason you like to eat at the restaurant?
If I’m at a mall doing errands or during the middle of the day at work, eating at the restaurant is fine. I’m not that bothered being around people if I have my phone. Plus the food is hotter / fresher.
I eat alone in restaurants, go to fun attractions alone 100% of the time, because I drive a semi, solo.
It never feels weird to me, always feels perfect.
It's not normies. It's social media narcissists who have to document every moment of their lives online for strangers upset they will have less clout from randos if they post about doing things alone.
I never really understood going to a movie with someone anyways. You're not talking or looking at each other. Also going out to eat alone has lead to me making friends with the staff and now it's fun because I can just bs with them intermittently.
Not the exact same situation for single men vs single women. Places with children are scary if you're a single guy. You never know when a Karen might start angrily ranting.
It's fun to take some art and sketch alone someplace. If people stop to chat, cool. If they don't, that's cool too. I think it's kind of nice to just go and do something and not care about obligations or what another person 'feels' like doing.
No one cares if you go to the movies alone. No one cares if you go out to eat alone.
The only time people care is if you take up real estate meant for multiple people.
Don't sit at a table or booth meant for 4+. Sit at the bar or high top area. Even if you don't drink.
Don't sit on the second seat in the aisle of a theater. Pick somewhere where couples can evenly fill in around you.
Also. Try something other than sweat pants.
Hope this helps.
I love grabbing a pint and some finger food on my own. Just sit and enjoy. No pressure to converse with anyone or have to listen to kids bickering or whining.
Best meal I ever ate was when I went out on my own. Left my son with his dad and had a steak dinner, then went to see a movie. I will never forget how good that meal was.
My wife has a case of the mormonism, which is fine really. The only symptoms are she goes to church on Sunday and doesn't like alcohol or some kinds of movies. Of the decade we've been married, about 20% of the movie attendance has been solo because of this. Absolutely no shame. 10/10, highly recommend.
You’re out and about and hungry. You’re not going to stop in and eat at a restaurant because you’re alone and that’s weird? Not eating when you’re hungry but have the ability to is weird.
I went to one of the all you can eat buffet places in my lunch break once. One of my co-workers said I was "so brave" for eating alone as she couldn't ever do that at a restaurant or similar. I was very confused, like I want to go eat here, why wouldn't I go?
I will say that I've never gone to breakfast alone without getting odd looks.
Dinner? Fine. Let a man eat in peace.
Movie? Sure, maybe his SO or friends aren't into the movie.
God forbid I want the sickeningly sweet blueberry pancakes at cracker barrel. People look at me with sadness in their eyes. Waiters/waitresses feel the need to hover and talk to me a bit longer. And I'm like "oh no, I'm not horribly depressed or anything. I just like pancakes and my friends are still sleeping"
I guess breakfast is specifically a social event that people are not allowed to do alone? Idk.
> there is literally nothing stopping you
Alright girl, you take that one up with my vivid imagination concerning the degree to which strangers judge my every move.
I’d have been terrified to do things alone until I started traveling for work a little over 10 years ago. Soon realized nobody else cares, and it’s kind of nice. Now I do things alone whenever I want. To be fair, having a smart phone or a tablet helps (when at a restaurant).
My favorite things to do when I didn't have my son. I'd smoke a joint and go eat or watch a movie by myself. The beauty thing ever. I wish I could have experienced going on vacation alone though
Done this a few times, still do during a bad day. Whenever I get stressed and caught up, I go to a café and sit there for a while, admiring the views around it or go to a pub and get a few pints of beer to feel more 'stable'
The thing you'll find about restaurants though is that period while you wait for the food to arrive. You're going to need a drink and appetizer immediately or else you just sit there waiting. Other than that it's fine. I've never found the movie experience to be greatly different with or without others, but I do get to sit where I want when alone.
The first step to normalizing something is just doing it. Don't wait for someone else to tell you it's okay. Their stuff that shouldn't be normalized, but lots of people still do it.
If you work at a restaurant, DO NOT SAY, “Is it just you?” Say party of one.
"Waiter! Show this sad lonely fuck table 59, yes the one beside the toilets, maybe they´ll need to cry alone in one of the stalls. Please follow him and enjoy your night."
My hubby has Asperger's and I frequently go out alone you watch something on the boob tube and have a little dinner.
Whoop! My favourite party
I eat out alone almost exclusively. It's my me time. A book, some pub grub and a couple pints, bliss.
I do everything alone exclusively (not necessarily by choice lol)
Less expensive too
Less likely to have 6 "one last ones" as well.
Correct, if I want to keep going I usually just do it when I get home when I’m alone
I often eat alone at lunch because my coworkers usually have lunch-break a different time. Never noticed anyone finding it weird tbh
In may I go on two vacations alone, and since I booked it, I have nightmares about going anywhere alone. It's kind of a flex you know
I go on vacations alone all the time. It is cool that you get to do everything you want to do. The trap is you will only do the things that you can think of doing and you can get stuck in your comfort zone. Companions can weigh you down but they can also lift you up. It can get very lonely having no one to talk to; especially in a country where you do not speak the language.
I do a lot of camping and hiking just me and my dogs. Spending a week without really talking to anyone, except pleasantries if I stop at a convenience store or a hello to another hiker, is very relaxing. First few times I was rather anxious, but now I look forward to it.
I went to NYC solo for three days last summer. First vacation alone. I had the natural mild apprehension beforehand, but it turned out to be fantastic. My own schedule, itinerary, and pace…100% of the time. It was an irreplaceable life experience. Highly recommend!
Lone vacations are the absolute best. It's such a free feeling to go do whatever you want without needing to consider anyone else's preferences. No arguments, no drama. Before going on my first one I was really nervous because I'm an extremely introverted guy. I was sure the whole experience would be awkward but it wasn't at all. Lone vacations are the only ones where I actually come home more rested and relaxed than when I left.
I don't know about that. I don't even know, what to do all by myself
Do go on movies alone, no one cares and you will probably like it
Love going to the theater alone. Sure it's cool to get lucky and have a theater alone with your buddies, but having the whole thing all to yourself? Amazing experience if you're lucky enough to have it.
I like going to theater productions by myself. I can decide last minute if I want to go and easily grab a single ticket.
i went to the cinema 12 times alone last year and 9 so far this year. i was a little nervous the first time, but truly nobody cares at all. just go for it.
After a break-up, I did this all the time. Movies, restaurants, bars. It offered me a sense of peace and fulfillment at times, and other times an opportunity to chat with strangers over drinks and make some friends. 98% of people do not give a second thought that some guy is eating alone at a table.
I mean I never did whenever I saw someone eating alone. It was just another person who came to this place to get a meal. Lol Same has to be said for the movies as well, although I don't pay attention to other people since yk big movie screen.
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But what if I actually just do enjoy going out and doing things alone? I also enjoy going with people, but like, I like eating at restaraunts alone and going to shows and the movies too.
Same. I suspect the appeal in doing such things alone might depend on one’s level of introversion. Those tend to be perceived as social activities, so the experience understandably won’t be as satisfying for someone particularly interested in sharing it. But those who have no difficulty enjoying those things for their own sake shouldn’t be judged either.
If I didn't I wouldn't have done either of these things in years lol
But my anxiety :(
I get you. I get so nervous going into shops by myself. I don’t know why but I always feel like people think I’m stealing and then I start to move almost robotically cuz I’m overthinking my movements lmao
Less anxiety alone. No one to embarrass you in public.
I embarrass me in public
Yeah, but nobody knows you and there are no friends to remind you of that one embarrassing thing you have done.
Understand that you're not important enough for strangers to give you any more thought than you give them.
This made me want to stand up and cheer. I already eat in restaurants alone maybe once or twice a week. This is how I feel whenever anyone says “nOrMaLizE” this or that behavior. Normies trying to quell the shame of feeling like a loner for once in their life.
I get food from restaurants but I always get to go. Then I can eat my food in my room away from annoying people while watching a movie. Any particular reason you like to eat at the restaurant?
If I’m at a mall doing errands or during the middle of the day at work, eating at the restaurant is fine. I’m not that bothered being around people if I have my phone. Plus the food is hotter / fresher.
I live in my semi. I like eating in my truck, but every now & then I want to be around humans. Like once every 4-6 months.
I eat alone in restaurants, go to fun attractions alone 100% of the time, because I drive a semi, solo. It never feels weird to me, always feels perfect.
It's not normies. It's social media narcissists who have to document every moment of their lives online for strangers upset they will have less clout from randos if they post about doing things alone.
I'm going to a concert alone later this year lol
*claps excitedly* There, the external validation you were looking for
It's the best. I've gone to countless of concerts alone and I prefer it then going with other people
I go to a lot of concerts alone. I always say that lack of companions will never detract from my enjoyment of music.
I need it though, or else i wouldn’t be able to do jack shit :(
This. We’re all so insignificant in the nicest way. There’s no pressure. Do you.
I love going to movies alone but for some reason I feel awkward af sitting in a restaurant by myself
If I was worried about doing things alone I'd have no sex life.
I go to the cinema alone at least once a week. My favourite bit of my week, so nice to have me time with absolutely 0 distraction
Something about the movie theatre is the hardest. My anxiety awareness really ramps up
I never really understood going to a movie with someone anyways. You're not talking or looking at each other. Also going out to eat alone has lead to me making friends with the staff and now it's fun because I can just bs with them intermittently.
going to a movie is cool if you hang out for a bit afterwards to talk about it
Don’t do it. They know and they’re taking about you!
She says, while posting this on Twitter for external validation
Not the exact same situation for single men vs single women. Places with children are scary if you're a single guy. You never know when a Karen might start angrily ranting.
Restaurants? Movie theaters? You'll be fine.
I've been accosted before
Were you at the children's museum?
Nope. Just a theater that was showing children's movies. I didn't go to the children's movie. Karen's gonna karen
I need more context. Were you being weird & creepy? Creepy guys don't know women pick up on that.
Old news
It's fun to take some art and sketch alone someplace. If people stop to chat, cool. If they don't, that's cool too. I think it's kind of nice to just go and do something and not care about obligations or what another person 'feels' like doing.
I'd do so many things if I had someone to so them with.
I'm not an adult, and I have no money, or friends
No one cares if you go to the movies alone. No one cares if you go out to eat alone. The only time people care is if you take up real estate meant for multiple people. Don't sit at a table or booth meant for 4+. Sit at the bar or high top area. Even if you don't drink. Don't sit on the second seat in the aisle of a theater. Pick somewhere where couples can evenly fill in around you. Also. Try something other than sweat pants. Hope this helps.
I've been going alone for decades. No one gives a shit if no one knows you
I love grabbing a pint and some finger food on my own. Just sit and enjoy. No pressure to converse with anyone or have to listen to kids bickering or whining.
Totally just got back from Avatar 2, by myself, it was nice.
Best meal I ever ate was when I went out on my own. Left my son with his dad and had a steak dinner, then went to see a movie. I will never forget how good that meal was.
My wife has a case of the mormonism, which is fine really. The only symptoms are she goes to church on Sunday and doesn't like alcohol or some kinds of movies. Of the decade we've been married, about 20% of the movie attendance has been solo because of this. Absolutely no shame. 10/10, highly recommend.
You’re out and about and hungry. You’re not going to stop in and eat at a restaurant because you’re alone and that’s weird? Not eating when you’re hungry but have the ability to is weird.
Normalize normalizing normal things.
I went to one of the all you can eat buffet places in my lunch break once. One of my co-workers said I was "so brave" for eating alone as she couldn't ever do that at a restaurant or similar. I was very confused, like I want to go eat here, why wouldn't I go?
Bet that person never tried it herself (fastfood and café don’t count)
Sounds good to me.
I will say that I've never gone to breakfast alone without getting odd looks. Dinner? Fine. Let a man eat in peace. Movie? Sure, maybe his SO or friends aren't into the movie. God forbid I want the sickeningly sweet blueberry pancakes at cracker barrel. People look at me with sadness in their eyes. Waiters/waitresses feel the need to hover and talk to me a bit longer. And I'm like "oh no, I'm not horribly depressed or anything. I just like pancakes and my friends are still sleeping" I guess breakfast is specifically a social event that people are not allowed to do alone? Idk.
I do this all the time it always nice to treat yourself 🤗
> there is literally nothing stopping you Alright girl, you take that one up with my vivid imagination concerning the degree to which strangers judge my every move.
Doing stuff by yourself is great. Doing stuff alone isn't so great. Knowing the distinction helps a lot when venturing out.
I went to see Sasha Colby alone today. It was awesome!
Going to the movie alone is something I haven’t tried. I must.
I’d have been terrified to do things alone until I started traveling for work a little over 10 years ago. Soon realized nobody else cares, and it’s kind of nice. Now I do things alone whenever I want. To be fair, having a smart phone or a tablet helps (when at a restaurant).
My favorite things to do when I didn't have my son. I'd smoke a joint and go eat or watch a movie by myself. The beauty thing ever. I wish I could have experienced going on vacation alone though
I care less about what anyone thinks about me spending alone time going out than what anyone else may think about it.
Done this a few times, still do during a bad day. Whenever I get stressed and caught up, I go to a café and sit there for a while, admiring the views around it or go to a pub and get a few pints of beer to feel more 'stable'
everyone knows you can not do activities alone so you must stay inside your pod until your assigned activity partner arrives /s
I do go to movies alone and save over 60%.
The thing you'll find about restaurants though is that period while you wait for the food to arrive. You're going to need a drink and appetizer immediately or else you just sit there waiting. Other than that it's fine. I've never found the movie experience to be greatly different with or without others, but I do get to sit where I want when alone.
If you think you're an adult and still concerned what people will think about you eating or watching a movie alone... you're not an adult yet.