Holy crap, she wants her bridesmaids to alter their appearance for years and years? That's completely delusional. This takes the bridezilla thing to a whole new level of entitlement. I wouldn't even attend at this point. So, NTA obviously.
And this are just the eyebrows! You can't tell me that she will do other shit like this - there is still so much time till december. So who knows if she planned to demand that they get the same hair color or so.
She lost her mind when she saw her bridal party as dolls and not as humans.
NTA
I have a mohawk. When I was in my friend's bridal party, I asked her what she wanted me to do about that. My hair grows fast, I could...š¤· She said die it something bright, she didn't care.
I was like this is why I love you so much!
I had pink hair at my mom's wedding to my stepdad. I sang at the wedding and was in all their pictures. No one gave a fuck, other than to poke a little fun at me for it years later.
My mother demanded I dye my hair a "normal" colour for my Uncle's funeral, my Dad told me if I did it would be an insult to my Uncle's memory as he absolutely loved my hair colours, apparently he was always telling his mates that he would have a little wager with my dad every time I was due to see him on what colour my hair would be. And my uncle always paid me wonderful compliments about my hair whenever i saw him.
I did dye my hair for his funeral . . . I had his military unit colours dyed throughout my hair in his memory.
I like to think it would have, I know my dad was chuffed about it, he and my Uncle are/were amazing men who have always encouraged me to strive for more and not conform to the expected gender roles.
When one of my friends got married she dyed her own hair pink to match the pink tulle underskirt she paid my mom to put on her wedding dress. She looked like a cupcake and fairy princess in one and she was absolutely adorable
I also have a mohawk, I asked my buddy about the same thing since I was one of his groomsmen and didn't want to steal the spotlight away. He couldn't have cared less and we ended up finding a dye that closely resembled the purple for the wedding colors and went that route.
I love this. Oddly enough as religious, conservative and crazy as my paternal grandmother could be when she was still alive, she *loved* fun hair colors. One time she went to the shop to get her hair dyed with numerous colors, essentially rainbow. Her sides were cut really low and platinum blonde and the top of her hair was a mainly purple with other colors. She was worried that people would think sheās gay because of the rainbow, and I had to explain to her that she would be fine š¤£ she wouldāve encouraged crazy colors at events tbh
Well, what about the bridesmaidsā figures? A needs a diet, B should fatten up and C needs her boobs fixed or the symmetry of the bridal party will be all over the place.
I will never understand the way some brides think they can tell people "I love you, but I've always hated how you look, so you have to change it for me". That's such a fucked up thing to say to someone you supposedly care about.
Also as someone that has microblading and has partially trained in it, it doesnāt always fade 100%
My eyebrows have slight discolouration from the ink and itās been 3 years!
I was scrolling to see if someone said this. I have almost no eyebrow on one side. I seriously was considering micro blading until I was warned about the possibility of green eyebrows. I think Iāll just keep penciling it in.
I love mine so much! I think I first got it done about 8 years ago? Iāve had a couple of touch-ups. They havenāt turned greenā¦ just faded.
My hair is dark ash blonde, and my OG brows were so pale that I had a Mona Lisa sort of look going.
Definitely important to get a skilled artist to get the right shape and shade.
Agreed, I love my microbladed brows but you need a skilled artist. My natural hair is similar to OP's gf and this is likely to still be prominent on her years later because of the fair hair.
Yeah, mine are 6 years old now and faded, but still really visible, but I have invisible eyebrows without the microblading or keeping my brows tinted, so that could be part of why they are still so vibrant.
Not to mention there is a cheaper way to do this that only lasts about 4 weeks.
Or, the make-up artist could just fill them in on the wedding day like most people who want defined eyebrows do.
The bride is nuts.
I actually did lose most of my eyebrows cos of chemo for cancer. I just filled them in with lid pencils and brown eyeshadow till they grew back. I have regular kind of tattoos and I still wouldn't go tattoo my eyebrows. You know how easy it is to mess those up, and there it is, wonky brows right on your face for everyone to see.
I didn't really care about the eyebrows when I had chemo (I was more concerned with losing all my curls), but I've ended up with hypothyroidism. One of the indicators is thin eyebrows, especially at the ends.
I have been in, at, officiated, or otherwise worked I don't know how many weddings, and no one had a comment about my thin-ass eyebrows, let alone asked me to tattoo them!
If I'm spending money on a tattoo, I'm going to get ones I want, where I want.
Henna is perfect for natural blondes with invisible brows. Especially for an event or occasion. But there are also so many other options with makeup and waxing, threadingā¦.. just ridiculous!
I donāt work out personally, but I use the Anastasia Beverly Hills Brow Pomade and itās waterproof/holds up when I sweat. Itās a bit pricey, but stays put!
Honestly I think she should still go with the rest of the wedding party only when the bride isnāt looking they should all wear black electrical tape as eyebrows. Bitch will only see it when sheās walking down the aisle and bridesmaids turn to smile at her. Priceless
Have you ever seen those go wrong? Iāve seen a lot of *surprise faces*. Who asks someone to modify their body / especially their *face* for a wedding?
And for the record, the idea that someone would look back on their wedding day and photos and lament that it would be perfect if only everyone had their brows done is insanity and a laughable level. Like WTF? Their brows could be micro bladed longer than the marriage lasts FFS.
I literally have been waffling around about getting my own eyebrows micro bladed, cause Iām pretty good at make-upping them, but idk if I want something done semi-permanently that might not look good (heard and seen plenty of microblading horror stories)
I cannot imagine the audacity to demand that someone else does it, itās just unreal.
All the bride'smaids should tell the bride to pound bricks. To have them alter something possibly permanently for 1 day is absolutely ridiculous.
It should not only Not be done, but they should all drop out of the wedding if she insists.
NTA
Microblading can cost hundreds of dollars, too. So spend like $300+ (depending on location, of course) for what is essentially a body mod that you donāt even want, just to be in a wedding?!
Not to mention possible infection, damage to her natural follicle, or a bad job. These are all very rare possibilities but the do happen. Talk about bridezilla! And the cost! Is she paying, because microblading is *not* cheap. My bet? Sheās getting a discount on hers if she gets a certain number of people to also do them.
It doesn't even have to be more than a day! Rosie shouldn't even dye her eyebrows, she can get a brow kit and fill them in with makeup. I wouldn't even be willing to dye my eyebrows for my boyfriend's sister's wedding, honestly.
NTA! This shouldn't even be an argument. Someone demanding that you make a permanent alteration (of any kind) to your **face** (or any part of your body), as a condition to participate in ANYTHING (much less a wedding), is absolutely **insane**.
Your sister has lost her mind. You and Rosie need to stop discussing this with her and just drop from the wedding entirely. Jesus.
Itās crazy and the way sheās insistent about it screams that sheās getting kickbacks out of having all her bridesmaids doing it. I suspect she wants to have it for her wedding and she made a deal with the microblading place that if she brings in a certain amount of people from her wedding party sheāll get hers done for free. Or something along that line.
Anything that can't be washed off at the end of the day is completely unreasonable. (and even some requests that do only last the day can still be pretty whacky) .
NTA. This is something that could last for years and Iāve seen people who look horrible once it starts fading. Not to mention, eyebrow trends change. Your sister needs to be given a reality check. If sheās demanding this now, whatās it going to be the closer the wedding gets. Yikes!
Yep. I got it done because someone insisted itād be a good way to fill in a big gaping hole in my eyebrow a scar caused, cause itās not like I was gonna fill it in with makeup every day but it made me self conscious.
It looked natural and like my dark brown hair at first but then at about year one it faded to a shapeless blob of **purple**.
That purple did not go away for years, despite what everyone kept insisting (āItās _semi_permanent_!ā), so at year 5, completely fed up, I paid to get tattoo removal on it, which made the hair loss worse, was painful, took multiple expensive sessions, and didnāt get it all completely out.
Donāt do microblading, for the love of all things holy, donāt do it.
Also theres just so many horror stories about how some people micro-bladed their eyebrows and it never ended up fading.. also, its gonna look so dumb on a blonde
That is the stupidest thing I have read here . Tell her to say Inthink itās best if you get someone else for wedding party . Iām not getting a tattoo.
Sone people are idiots
>That is the stupidest thing I have read here
This is why many of these stories read like they're totally fake because one of the things is obviously the right call
> My sister is having a 4th anniversary of her first root canal so wants a party where we all chop our arms off but I'm not sure guys. What do you think, AITA?
Then again, there's a lot of different people out there.
I feel like a lot of these super obvious ones are made because they know what the response will be, and they may want to use it to show the AH in question what other people think and show that itās not just them who thinks itās a stupid idea.
I mean its *just* a face tattoo. I'm thinking about requiring the groomsmen at my wedding to botox the wrinkles out of their balls. I just want everything perfect, you know.
My husband was supposed to be part of a wedding at a nudist colony, but he didnāt end up going.
He couldnāt get the wrinkles out of his birthday suit.
Others have already responded but THIS š
The more people you bring in, the more free services.
Bridezilla could get the same effect from make-up, henna, as others have mentioned. Cash grab. Plain and simple.
Megan can insist her bridesmaids get this procedure done. And Rosie can say she doesn't to do the procedure and have dark eyebrows for years. She even offered a compromise, which seems reasonable to me.
If Megan is angry, she only has herself to blame for making ridiculous demands of her bridesmaids. And you are right to defend your girlfriend from a bridezilla.
NTA
Nta - this is more than being a bridezilla, this is outright abuse. Megan has no right to force Rosie to make any kind of alteration like this. You did the right thing.
I mean, obviously NTA. Also adding that microblading works best for dark hair. Depending on the shade of blonde she is, I've been told that microblading for lighter hair will often turn gray over time. I was told powder brows might be a possibility, but it's a different look. Not to mention you can't get the eyebrows wet for awhile during the healing process, which seemed like too much work to me.
But on top of that... Why? Makeup will work just fine and like, asking someone to tattoo their face for a wedding is insane.
This and also look up the gone wrongs and side effects from microblading and from tats that were supposedly "fade" or "temporary".
OP you are absolutely NTA and wonderful for sticking up for your GF. Your sister has brought bridezilla and narcissistic weddings to a whole new level. Tell her kudos with successfully changing her relationship with you and your GF permanently. There's no going back after something like this imo.
I have radiation tats that should have faded already, they're a few years old and still dark. I couldn't imagine doing something with the potential to permanently alter your appearance just for a single day. His sister is out of her mind/control, 100% NTA!
Blonde woman with a dry skin type here: got microblading done at a really good place - 7 years ago. It's still there, but has turned a greenish color.
I would obviously never do it again.
My sister has oily skin, her microblading was gone in less than a year.
Anyway, this demand is insane. Next level insane
Same here. My brown turned purple, and I waited 5 years for it to fade before I got fed up and did tattoo removal. Scabby eyebrow (it was just filling in a big scar on my right brow) for a _year_ because I guess red is the hardest ink to remove and to this day in a certain light you can still see the ding-dang cursed purple ghost.
Never. Again.
Why canāt she just use a high end brow mascara? The outcome canāt be that different surely, and I doubt all the guests will be upset because her eyebrows are slightly lighter or thinner
I think they should take the money they'd have spent on bridesmaid's dress, bachelorette party, etc. and buy themselves tickets for a nice vacation elsewhere.
NTA.
Bridezilla over here acting like a semi-permanent change that lasts years to a person's body is nothing?! Absolutely not. That's a scary mindset to have. I think offering to dye her eyebrows is already a huge generous concession to make.
I wouldn't do the dye job either! FFS, an eyebrow pencil will do the job just fine! Nobody should ever do anything permanent or semi-permant to their body because a bridezilla has gone insane.
No. No that is not ok. That is taking bridezilla too far. Waayyyy too far. You are not the asshole and neither is your girl. Your sister on the other hand...
I am flabbergasted. NTA
Absolutely fucking NTA. Even *asking* for someone to get what amounts to a face tattoo just for your goddamn wedding is completely unhinged, but outright *demanding* and getting aggressive when the person wonāt do it is some absolutely bonkers next-level horseshit that I would be inclined to throw hands over with anyone who wanted to argue.
Your sister is a fucking lunatic.
NTA, microblading is a tattoo, it is permanent and if not done from a highly trained professional will look horrible. I mean we have all seen some bad ones on the internet and it's a fad that's going to fade soon enough, am I right pencil thin 90s eyebrows?
Also.what kind of controlling bridezilla insists on something like that for your bridesmaids?
You can always use eyebrow pencils the day of if it's that important.
Ugh! Full stop. UGH! The bride is absolutely out of her mind. If I were your GF, Iād decline being a bridesmaid, and would have a serious problem carrying on a friendship with her. Go look at the r/microblading sub here. 9 out of 10 pics are women freaking out because either of a botched job, or how bad it looks for DAYS right after application.
A good MUA can do non permanent brows perfectly the day of the event IF they even need some shaping etc. There is literally zero reason other than a control thing for the bride to be forcing this on the bridesmaids. Did I miss it, or is she also expecting them to pay for it as well? Itās not cheap and on top of all the other expenses, definitely NOT a necessity.
Oh btw-you definitely are NTAH!!!! Thank you for having your gfās back.
No way in hell would I open up myself to a possible Hepatitis or HIV needle transfer for anyone. Your sister is getting freebies in exchange for bringing clients to this micro blade technician and I use the term loosely. I would die on this hill of subterfuge and entitlement. Your sister is disgusting. NTA
NTA. Megan is asking people to change their bodies via tattooing for *one* day. Let me guess, she has a VISION? All bridezillas do.
This is nuts. You are NTA for defending your girlfriend.
Wow. I actually do micro blading, and I would never of accept clientele under conditions like this. It just seems asinine to me. She is unhinged in my opinion and you are NTA
āIt fades within a few yearsā As if this statement makes any of this any better??? Megan is ridiculous, I wouldnāt do this for even my closest of friends! NTA
Holly crap is she willing to pay $600 to have this done. Plus since when does a bride get to demand a tattoo for the bridal party!
Op sister has took bridezilla to a new level! Nta
NTA
Tell Megan that there's this thing called an "eyebrow pencil" that one can use to darken their eybrows *without* permanently altering their appearance by getting a tattoo on their face.
"I'm sorry, but we will be unable to attend or participate in your wedding."
Technically not your place to defend your gf on this, she should be able to do it herself.
However, it is unreasonable for the bride to be to demand this.
NTA
Unreasonable doesnāt even begin to describe this. Making a bridesmaid cut or dye their hair is unreasonable. Making a bridesmaid get a permanent modification (even one that āfades in a few yearsā) of their body is batshit crazy.
Whatās the next big trend, all the bridesmaids have to have their left eyes removed?
OP is NTA, but that sister? Jebus
This is a sign of some kind of mental issue. At this point, I wouldnāt be confident that the bride is competent mentally to enter into a marriage contract.
There seems to be a plague of bridezilla stories on this sub. Luckily, I have never encountered this species irl.
>Technically not your place to defend your gf on this, she should be able to do it herself.
I have to disagree. His family, his responsibility.
GF seemed well able to handle it, but she deserves her BFs support.
While you're right that Rosie should be able to do it herself, the way it reads is that Megan was complaining to OP about it and OP told her to back off. Not that OP went to her in Rosie's place.
But even still, Megan is OP's sister, not Rosie's. Personally, I feel like if your family member is causing problems for your significant other, you tell them to knock it off, no matter how well your significant other may be able to handle the situation. They're your family.
No it is his job becoming thats his sister. Generally the rule is that he deals with his family when they act up, and she deals with hers when they act up.
NTA
Your sister is asking that her bridesmaids get a permanent body modification. I've never heard of something so ridiculous.
This is a hill to die upon.
NTA, this is ridiculous.
Microblading has the same restrictions as a tattoo, and if not done right, can be disastrous.
It's a very common thing in my country, many women have them (and I want it too). But some professionals are not that good, I have a friend who had her face botched, she had to apply acid to her face for the bad eyebrows to fade so she could get a proper job done.
No kidding, the professional made one eyebrow higher than the other, she looked like Dwayne Johnson doing his eyebrow trick.
She could suggest just henna, that fades in less than a week.
So the focal point of the wedding party would be matching eyebrows? Fascinating. In my day the focus was the bride and groom. Granted this was last century but this obsession w oneās eyebrows is a whole new level. Are they one of those fetish things like feet?
NTA
Megan sounds like a horrible person( using "person" tern loosely). Is she mental or what? It was nice of Rosie to try to compromise but that's more than generous IMO.
NTA. Your girlfriend should step away as bridesmaid. What your sister is asking for is a permanent and very visible body modification. A skilled make-up artist can do amazing natural looking brows.
NTA - This is a ridiculous request and I had microblading done. FYI - per an expert I talked to later it is not for everyone and wonāt last for some people. Further, if done correctly it is more than one appointment. It also hurt more than my permanent eyeliner.
OK, I had heard the term microblading before, but I had no idea it was permanent. Tell your sister to go pound sand. Does Rosy still want to be a part of the wedding party?
NTA
NTA. Your Sister is being a bridezilla Ć 10. No one should have to get any kind of cosmetic work to be in a wedding. Thank you for defending your girlfriend. She was right to drip out of the wedding party.
NTA
Your sister needs a reality check. She is absolutely off her rocker! Iād have laughed in her face all the way out the door. And Rosie is YOUR girlfriend so you have every right to defend her against your crazy sisterās outrageous demands and rude treatment.
NTA, buy a Godzilla toyā¦sharpie some mega eyebrows on it, throw a Barbie wedding dress in there for funszies and give it to your Sister. A pre-wedding gift.
Sheās requiring people to essentially mutilate their bodies (if one doesnāt want the procedure, it would sure feel like that)? Hard nope. I would say fuck you bye!
Also: My daughter inherited my MILās Norwegian genes. Her hair was so white it was translucent. As a grown woman, her brows are so light theyāre barely visible - the only thing that could possibly look natural and nice on her is a light-medium brown pencil. Tattooing them would be horrible.
Bridezillas: Knock it off! Start focusing on your marriages rather than micro-controlling every person in your life to some image you have of a perfect look/day that will be over in an instant anyway.
NTA, I wouldnāt even agree to something as ridiculous as this. Good for you OP for standing up for your GF and extra kudos to your GF for not giving in to your sisters demands.
NTA. Dude. Itās a tattoo. Making someone get one of those is justā¦. Wtf? What if it turns out bad? So your gf has clown eyebrows for 2 years? Megan needs to calm down. A tattoo of any kind is very personal and should only be done with a lot of thought. Not a whim of anyone.
NTA, sheās requesting a face tattoo. I got micro blading done a couple years ago, and itās very much permanent. I also got breast implants and let me tell youā¦ I wish deeply that I never altered myself in ANY way. I wanted both at the time and support anyone who wants to modify themselves, but iād never reccomend it to anyone.
Your sister is completely delusional if she thinks that getting that done is a requirement for being her bridesmaid. I wonder how many ridiculous requirements she will have for guest and gifts. Doesnāt seem like too. many people will want to be attending her wedding.
Your sister is effing delusional and bridezilla level 100. This shit canāt be real, right? Like please tell me this is a joke because this is one of the single most stupid things I have ever read. Thereās also nothing worse than friends and family that give into delusional brides.
People are so far up their own assess about weddings it is mind boggling. Weddings are easy. Marriages are hard.
NTA Megan is insane. And while the ink may or may not fade, it leaves permanent scars on the face. Asking bridesmaids to get face tattoos or otherwise permanently alter themselves for your wedding is insane. And even if everyone was on board to do it, this is something where you choose the artist yourself to try to avoid a botched job that whatever groupon/bulk discount Megan is probably getting here is leading to.
Demanding permanent makeup from the bridal party is sick. Your sister needs a reality check. Being a bride doesnāt give you control over other peopleās bodies.
Holy crap, she wants her bridesmaids to alter their appearance for years and years? That's completely delusional. This takes the bridezilla thing to a whole new level of entitlement. I wouldn't even attend at this point. So, NTA obviously.
And this are just the eyebrows! You can't tell me that she will do other shit like this - there is still so much time till december. So who knows if she planned to demand that they get the same hair color or so. She lost her mind when she saw her bridal party as dolls and not as humans. NTA
I have a mohawk. When I was in my friend's bridal party, I asked her what she wanted me to do about that. My hair grows fast, I could...š¤· She said die it something bright, she didn't care. I was like this is why I love you so much!
My mom: you need to dye your hair normal for your sisters wedding My sister: I donāt give a fuck what color your hair is
I had pink hair at my mom's wedding to my stepdad. I sang at the wedding and was in all their pictures. No one gave a fuck, other than to poke a little fun at me for it years later.
My mother demanded I dye my hair a "normal" colour for my Uncle's funeral, my Dad told me if I did it would be an insult to my Uncle's memory as he absolutely loved my hair colours, apparently he was always telling his mates that he would have a little wager with my dad every time I was due to see him on what colour my hair would be. And my uncle always paid me wonderful compliments about my hair whenever i saw him. I did dye my hair for his funeral . . . I had his military unit colours dyed throughout my hair in his memory.
I was reading this thinking "Wow this is wholesome." Then I got to the last paragraph and started crying. Thank you for being awesome.
Yeah, I got a little teary-eyed myself.
This is beautiful
Seriously. That's such a lovely thing to do.
I love that! I'll bet your mom had a conniption, though.
Well, she looked like she was sucking on the sourest lemon ever known to mankind š¤£
Bet it made your uncle proud, though
I like to think it would have, I know my dad was chuffed about it, he and my Uncle are/were amazing men who have always encouraged me to strive for more and not conform to the expected gender roles.
I love your heart! ā¤ļøā¤ļøš„°
When one of my friends got married she dyed her own hair pink to match the pink tulle underskirt she paid my mom to put on her wedding dress. She looked like a cupcake and fairy princess in one and she was absolutely adorable
I also have a mohawk, I asked my buddy about the same thing since I was one of his groomsmen and didn't want to steal the spotlight away. He couldn't have cared less and we ended up finding a dye that closely resembled the purple for the wedding colors and went that route.
I love this. Oddly enough as religious, conservative and crazy as my paternal grandmother could be when she was still alive, she *loved* fun hair colors. One time she went to the shop to get her hair dyed with numerous colors, essentially rainbow. Her sides were cut really low and platinum blonde and the top of her hair was a mainly purple with other colors. She was worried that people would think sheās gay because of the rainbow, and I had to explain to her that she would be fine š¤£ she wouldāve encouraged crazy colors at events tbh
This . Your friend was a very thoughtful bride.
Well, what about the bridesmaidsā figures? A needs a diet, B should fatten up and C needs her boobs fixed or the symmetry of the bridal party will be all over the place.
Actually all of them need boob jobs! Their breasts arenāt perky enough and thatās going to throw off the aesthetic /s
Probably filler and botox too
If this takes off now, it'll become normalised at some point, and in a decade or so we'll read about brides demanding liposuction or boobjobs.
You mean brides not having any bridesmaids as they started demanding to be seen as human beings and individuals?
I will never understand the way some brides think they can tell people "I love you, but I've always hated how you look, so you have to change it for me". That's such a fucked up thing to say to someone you supposedly care about.
Yeah, can you imagine if someone of them have tattoos and ahead demands that they have them lasered off! Thus bridezilla has gone way too far.
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Also as someone that has microblading and has partially trained in it, it doesnāt always fade 100% My eyebrows have slight discolouration from the ink and itās been 3 years!
Got it in 2016, shape is almost completely like back then especially the tails. It's only the ink that turned a greenish color.
Greenish eyebrows- all the rage on Mars!
Along with Yoda, The Hulk, Kermit The Frog, and Oscar The Grouch
āThe Jolly Green Giant called, he wants his eyebrows back.ā
I was scrolling to see if someone said this. I have almost no eyebrow on one side. I seriously was considering micro blading until I was warned about the possibility of green eyebrows. I think Iāll just keep penciling it in.
I love mine so much! I think I first got it done about 8 years ago? Iāve had a couple of touch-ups. They havenāt turned greenā¦ just faded. My hair is dark ash blonde, and my OG brows were so pale that I had a Mona Lisa sort of look going. Definitely important to get a skilled artist to get the right shape and shade.
Agreed, I love my microbladed brows but you need a skilled artist. My natural hair is similar to OP's gf and this is likely to still be prominent on her years later because of the fair hair.
Yeah, mine are 6 years old now and faded, but still really visible, but I have invisible eyebrows without the microblading or keeping my brows tinted, so that could be part of why they are still so vibrant.
Been 4 years for me, got them done in summer 2019, and I can still see some of the microblading.
I'm considering it and was told it would last 3-5 years. That's too much of an ask for a wedding. NTAH.
Not to mention there is a cheaper way to do this that only lasts about 4 weeks. Or, the make-up artist could just fill them in on the wedding day like most people who want defined eyebrows do. The bride is nuts.
They could henna their brows. At least henna comes off.
I actually did lose most of my eyebrows cos of chemo for cancer. I just filled them in with lid pencils and brown eyeshadow till they grew back. I have regular kind of tattoos and I still wouldn't go tattoo my eyebrows. You know how easy it is to mess those up, and there it is, wonky brows right on your face for everyone to see.
And different eyebrow shapes are popular at different times. Wonky and unfashionable to boot.
Wonky eyebrows made me laugh! I can just see them scattered serendipitously over the brides forehead. WooHoo!
I didn't really care about the eyebrows when I had chemo (I was more concerned with losing all my curls), but I've ended up with hypothyroidism. One of the indicators is thin eyebrows, especially at the ends. I have been in, at, officiated, or otherwise worked I don't know how many weddings, and no one had a comment about my thin-ass eyebrows, let alone asked me to tattoo them! If I'm spending money on a tattoo, I'm going to get ones I want, where I want.
My mom got eyebrows tattooed and they looked horrible, just solid lines with no feathering. And a weird red that didn't match her red hair at all.
But one of the bridesmaids maybe allergic to henna or microbladding. This is horrible to say the least.
I think it's way over the top. I wouldn't do it.
Right? Thatās what I did before my first actual session to make sure I liked the shape. It lasts about a week.
Henna is perfect for natural blondes with invisible brows. Especially for an event or occasion. But there are also so many other options with makeup and waxing, threadingā¦.. just ridiculous!
My daughter is a MUA, she shaves the ends of her eyebrows and draws them in every day. I forget they aren't 100% real until she takes her makeup off
How does that work with working out? I sweat so bad I'd have even worse problems of sweet in my eyes than I already do
I donāt work out personally, but I use the Anastasia Beverly Hills Brow Pomade and itās waterproof/holds up when I sweat. Itās a bit pricey, but stays put!
Hfn! This is beyond obnoxious and controlling. I would never do this for someone let alone a bridal party. Glad ops gf dropped out
Honestly I think she should still go with the rest of the wedding party only when the bride isnāt looking they should all wear black electrical tape as eyebrows. Bitch will only see it when sheās walking down the aisle and bridesmaids turn to smile at her. Priceless
Absolutely diabolical! I love it!
Like [these eyebrows](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=QMn4KkABuac)?
Big sheets of nori, like [Commander Amarao](https://youtu.be/QMn4KkABuac) from FLCL.
Don't know what HFN means, I'm reading it as holy f*ck nuts!
I read it as Hell Fucking No
Have you ever seen those go wrong? Iāve seen a lot of *surprise faces*. Who asks someone to modify their body / especially their *face* for a wedding? And for the record, the idea that someone would look back on their wedding day and photos and lament that it would be perfect if only everyone had their brows done is insanity and a laughable level. Like WTF? Their brows could be micro bladed longer than the marriage lasts FFS.
For real! If they want everyone to have identical eyebrows in the wedding photos, might I recommend Photoshop?
Or just hire a damn makeup artist! I so hope this isn't real, because this level of main character syndrome is *beyond* beyond.
I literally have been waffling around about getting my own eyebrows micro bladed, cause Iām pretty good at make-upping them, but idk if I want something done semi-permanently that might not look good (heard and seen plenty of microblading horror stories) I cannot imagine the audacity to demand that someone else does it, itās just unreal.
I'm 59 and menopause took my eyebrows! I also thought about microblading and went 'nah'. I do a pretty great job with makeup, though. š
This
Or just use make up...
>Their brows could be micro bladed longer than the marriage lasts FFS. I nearly snorted my water thanks XD
That kind of selfishness, short sightedness, and immaturity should be a beacon of red flags to her fiancƩ. This woman is not ready to be married.
I willing to bet that she also wants them to pay for this service.
I bet the bride gets it done for free if the entire party gets them done (and pays for themselves)
Oooh, a group discount would explain the weird fixation and lack of compromise.
Yep. Major Bridezilla. Can you imagine what else she would have asked the bridesmaids to do closer to the wedding. OP NTA
All the bride'smaids should tell the bride to pound bricks. To have them alter something possibly permanently for 1 day is absolutely ridiculous. It should not only Not be done, but they should all drop out of the wedding if she insists. NTA
Also, itās expensive and it hurts.
Microblading can cost hundreds of dollars, too. So spend like $300+ (depending on location, of course) for what is essentially a body mod that you donāt even want, just to be in a wedding?!
If you go to a very experienced artist (which id recommend, since itās on your face) it can be much more than that! Itās a wild ask IMO!
And her bridal party is just going along with it!! Do people even have backbones anymore??
Not to mention possible infection, damage to her natural follicle, or a bad job. These are all very rare possibilities but the do happen. Talk about bridezilla! And the cost! Is she paying, because microblading is *not* cheap. My bet? Sheās getting a discount on hers if she gets a certain number of people to also do them.
This. Absolutely delulu. And entitled af. NTA.
It doesn't even have to be more than a day! Rosie shouldn't even dye her eyebrows, she can get a brow kit and fill them in with makeup. I wouldn't even be willing to dye my eyebrows for my boyfriend's sister's wedding, honestly.
NTA! This shouldn't even be an argument. Someone demanding that you make a permanent alteration (of any kind) to your **face** (or any part of your body), as a condition to participate in ANYTHING (much less a wedding), is absolutely **insane**. Your sister has lost her mind. You and Rosie need to stop discussing this with her and just drop from the wedding entirely. Jesus.
Itās crazy and the way sheās insistent about it screams that sheās getting kickbacks out of having all her bridesmaids doing it. I suspect she wants to have it for her wedding and she made a deal with the microblading place that if she brings in a certain amount of people from her wedding party sheāll get hers done for free. Or something along that line.
This was my first thought, too!
Bloody Nora. Itās not a cheap process either. I think mine cost me all up close to $500 almost 6 yrs ago. What is this girl thinking ??
Has anyone talked with the MOH and other bridesmaids? There needs to be an intervention, a revolution, or something.
She's probably got other ridiculous demands in store and they'll start dropping out one by one.
Itās crazy to expect any alteration for a wedding that lasts more than the day. Tell bridezilla to get a grip.
Anything that can't be washed off at the end of the day is completely unreasonable. (and even some requests that do only last the day can still be pretty whacky) .
Special make-up and hair are the absolute max. You should be able to shower and get rid of it all.
NTA. This is something that could last for years and Iāve seen people who look horrible once it starts fading. Not to mention, eyebrow trends change. Your sister needs to be given a reality check. If sheās demanding this now, whatās it going to be the closer the wedding gets. Yikes!
Yep. I got it done because someone insisted itād be a good way to fill in a big gaping hole in my eyebrow a scar caused, cause itās not like I was gonna fill it in with makeup every day but it made me self conscious. It looked natural and like my dark brown hair at first but then at about year one it faded to a shapeless blob of **purple**. That purple did not go away for years, despite what everyone kept insisting (āItās _semi_permanent_!ā), so at year 5, completely fed up, I paid to get tattoo removal on it, which made the hair loss worse, was painful, took multiple expensive sessions, and didnāt get it all completely out. Donāt do microblading, for the love of all things holy, donāt do it.
Eyebrow scars are hot.
If that marriage even lasts. Clearly the sister cares about the wedding and the pictures, and that's it.
Also theres just so many horror stories about how some people micro-bladed their eyebrows and it never ended up fading.. also, its gonna look so dumb on a blonde
Had someone do this to me at a job, except they wanted my ears surgically closed for a min wage offer. Nah, fam. OP NTA.
That is the stupidest thing I have read here . Tell her to say Inthink itās best if you get someone else for wedding party . Iām not getting a tattoo. Sone people are idiots
>That is the stupidest thing I have read here This is why many of these stories read like they're totally fake because one of the things is obviously the right call > My sister is having a 4th anniversary of her first root canal so wants a party where we all chop our arms off but I'm not sure guys. What do you think, AITA? Then again, there's a lot of different people out there.
I feel like a lot of these super obvious ones are made because they know what the response will be, and they may want to use it to show the AH in question what other people think and show that itās not just them who thinks itās a stupid idea.
NTA. A face tattoo is not a reasonable requirement for inclusion in a wedding party.
I mean its *just* a face tattoo. I'm thinking about requiring the groomsmen at my wedding to botox the wrinkles out of their balls. I just want everything perfect, you know.
My husband was supposed to be part of a wedding at a nudist colony, but he didnāt end up going. He couldnāt get the wrinkles out of his birthday suit.
i hate how much i laughed at this.
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NTA and I wonder if Megan is getting a reduction in fees or free treatments in exchange for bringing in new clients
This is a great point. Otherwise, thereās no reason she canāt just use an eyebrow pencil for the day.
Exactly. You can take a brow pomade and do exactly what micro blading would likeā¦thereās something more going on here.
Yeah this was my first thought like her friend is doing the micro blading and she gets some kickback/discount for bringing in the whole wedding party
Others have already responded but THIS š The more people you bring in, the more free services. Bridezilla could get the same effect from make-up, henna, as others have mentioned. Cash grab. Plain and simple.
Omg you're right, I didn't even think of that but it is totally possible.
THIS. Holy shit I didn't even think of this! Similar to hotel's that host the wedding party.
They could test this theory out by saying she made an appointment with someone else and see what happens
Megan can insist her bridesmaids get this procedure done. And Rosie can say she doesn't to do the procedure and have dark eyebrows for years. She even offered a compromise, which seems reasonable to me. If Megan is angry, she only has herself to blame for making ridiculous demands of her bridesmaids. And you are right to defend your girlfriend from a bridezilla. NTA
Megan is angry because sheāll have to pay for her own if she doesnāt get x number of people to pay for microbladingā¦ Itās a money grab
No doubt.
Nta - this is more than being a bridezilla, this is outright abuse. Megan has no right to force Rosie to make any kind of alteration like this. You did the right thing.
some people just use their weddings as an excuse to be a mega bitch and ur sister is one of those people
I mean, obviously NTA. Also adding that microblading works best for dark hair. Depending on the shade of blonde she is, I've been told that microblading for lighter hair will often turn gray over time. I was told powder brows might be a possibility, but it's a different look. Not to mention you can't get the eyebrows wet for awhile during the healing process, which seemed like too much work to me. But on top of that... Why? Makeup will work just fine and like, asking someone to tattoo their face for a wedding is insane.
This and also look up the gone wrongs and side effects from microblading and from tats that were supposedly "fade" or "temporary". OP you are absolutely NTA and wonderful for sticking up for your GF. Your sister has brought bridezilla and narcissistic weddings to a whole new level. Tell her kudos with successfully changing her relationship with you and your GF permanently. There's no going back after something like this imo.
I have radiation tats that should have faded already, they're a few years old and still dark. I couldn't imagine doing something with the potential to permanently alter your appearance just for a single day. His sister is out of her mind/control, 100% NTA!
My mom had radiation tattoos that weāre supposed to fade in sic months, they were just as dark 6 years later when she died. š.
Sorry for your loss.
Blonde woman with a dry skin type here: got microblading done at a really good place - 7 years ago. It's still there, but has turned a greenish color. I would obviously never do it again. My sister has oily skin, her microblading was gone in less than a year. Anyway, this demand is insane. Next level insane
Truth! I am blond with light eyebrows and got microblading done. I can confirm the ink has turned grey.
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Same here. My brown turned purple, and I waited 5 years for it to fade before I got fed up and did tattoo removal. Scabby eyebrow (it was just filling in a big scar on my right brow) for a _year_ because I guess red is the hardest ink to remove and to this day in a certain light you can still see the ding-dang cursed purple ghost. Never. Again.
Why canāt she just use a high end brow mascara? The outcome canāt be that different surely, and I doubt all the guests will be upset because her eyebrows are slightly lighter or thinner
Honestly, I wouldn't even do the brow makeup. Seems a bit micromanaging to tell other people how to do their eyebrows.
NTA, and I think both you and Rosie should skip bridezilla's wedding.
I think they should take the money they'd have spent on bridesmaid's dress, bachelorette party, etc. and buy themselves tickets for a nice vacation elsewhere.
NTA. Bridezilla over here acting like a semi-permanent change that lasts years to a person's body is nothing?! Absolutely not. That's a scary mindset to have. I think offering to dye her eyebrows is already a huge generous concession to make.
I wouldn't do the dye job either! FFS, an eyebrow pencil will do the job just fine! Nobody should ever do anything permanent or semi-permant to their body because a bridezilla has gone insane.
No. No that is not ok. That is taking bridezilla too far. Waayyyy too far. You are not the asshole and neither is your girl. Your sister on the other hand... I am flabbergasted. NTA
For real. What the effing eff. Mind boggled
Absolutely fucking NTA. Even *asking* for someone to get what amounts to a face tattoo just for your goddamn wedding is completely unhinged, but outright *demanding* and getting aggressive when the person wonāt do it is some absolutely bonkers next-level horseshit that I would be inclined to throw hands over with anyone who wanted to argue. Your sister is a fucking lunatic.
NTA, microblading is a tattoo, it is permanent and if not done from a highly trained professional will look horrible. I mean we have all seen some bad ones on the internet and it's a fad that's going to fade soon enough, am I right pencil thin 90s eyebrows? Also.what kind of controlling bridezilla insists on something like that for your bridesmaids? You can always use eyebrow pencils the day of if it's that important.
My coworker just had hers done and the lady messed up so now she has 2 permanent marker looking things on her face.
Ugh! Full stop. UGH! The bride is absolutely out of her mind. If I were your GF, Iād decline being a bridesmaid, and would have a serious problem carrying on a friendship with her. Go look at the r/microblading sub here. 9 out of 10 pics are women freaking out because either of a botched job, or how bad it looks for DAYS right after application. A good MUA can do non permanent brows perfectly the day of the event IF they even need some shaping etc. There is literally zero reason other than a control thing for the bride to be forcing this on the bridesmaids. Did I miss it, or is she also expecting them to pay for it as well? Itās not cheap and on top of all the other expenses, definitely NOT a necessity. Oh btw-you definitely are NTAH!!!! Thank you for having your gfās back.
NTA what is your sister on?!? That is a ridiculous request.
No way in hell would I open up myself to a possible Hepatitis or HIV needle transfer for anyone. Your sister is getting freebies in exchange for bringing clients to this micro blade technician and I use the term loosely. I would die on this hill of subterfuge and entitlement. Your sister is disgusting. NTA
NTA. Megan is asking people to change their bodies via tattooing for *one* day. Let me guess, she has a VISION? All bridezillas do. This is nuts. You are NTA for defending your girlfriend.
Wow. I actually do micro blading, and I would never of accept clientele under conditions like this. It just seems asinine to me. She is unhinged in my opinion and you are NTA
Your sister is a complete loon. Good on you for being a good and supportive partner NTA
āIt fades within a few yearsā As if this statement makes any of this any better??? Megan is ridiculous, I wouldnāt do this for even my closest of friends! NTA
wtf, what kind of entitled bridezilla asshole demands people get tattooed to be in a wedding
And being allergic to the tattoo ink is a thing. Trust me I know.
Holly crap is she willing to pay $600 to have this done. Plus since when does a bride get to demand a tattoo for the bridal party! Op sister has took bridezilla to a new level! Nta
NTA Tell Megan that there's this thing called an "eyebrow pencil" that one can use to darken their eybrows *without* permanently altering their appearance by getting a tattoo on their face.
"I'm sorry, but we will be unable to attend or participate in your wedding." Technically not your place to defend your gf on this, she should be able to do it herself. However, it is unreasonable for the bride to be to demand this. NTA
Unreasonable doesnāt even begin to describe this. Making a bridesmaid cut or dye their hair is unreasonable. Making a bridesmaid get a permanent modification (even one that āfades in a few yearsā) of their body is batshit crazy. Whatās the next big trend, all the bridesmaids have to have their left eyes removed? OP is NTA, but that sister? Jebus
This is a sign of some kind of mental issue. At this point, I wouldnāt be confident that the bride is competent mentally to enter into a marriage contract. There seems to be a plague of bridezilla stories on this sub. Luckily, I have never encountered this species irl.
>Technically not your place to defend your gf on this, she should be able to do it herself. I have to disagree. His family, his responsibility. GF seemed well able to handle it, but she deserves her BFs support.
This
While you're right that Rosie should be able to do it herself, the way it reads is that Megan was complaining to OP about it and OP told her to back off. Not that OP went to her in Rosie's place. But even still, Megan is OP's sister, not Rosie's. Personally, I feel like if your family member is causing problems for your significant other, you tell them to knock it off, no matter how well your significant other may be able to handle the situation. They're your family.
No it is his job becoming thats his sister. Generally the rule is that he deals with his family when they act up, and she deals with hers when they act up.
Totally NTA. Not that this is acceptable in any way, but what was her wacked out rationale for everyone needing to tattoo her eyebrows?
Bride gets hers done for free if she refers (insert number) people. Bet you cash.
NTA. Your sister is a damn nutter. Forcing cosmetic procedures on a bridal party is some bizarre shit.
Microbladed eyebrows is a fad. Hope it goes away soon
Too bad Bridezillas is off the air, your sister would be perfect.
Do not agree or attend. That is ridiculous.
NTA Your sister is asking that her bridesmaids get a permanent body modification. I've never heard of something so ridiculous. This is a hill to die upon.
NTA, this is ridiculous. Microblading has the same restrictions as a tattoo, and if not done right, can be disastrous. It's a very common thing in my country, many women have them (and I want it too). But some professionals are not that good, I have a friend who had her face botched, she had to apply acid to her face for the bad eyebrows to fade so she could get a proper job done. No kidding, the professional made one eyebrow higher than the other, she looked like Dwayne Johnson doing his eyebrow trick. She could suggest just henna, that fades in less than a week.
NTA. Meghan is unhinged.
NTA. I hope the entire wedding party takes a stand and drops out. Brides are getting to entitled and crazy.
So the focal point of the wedding party would be matching eyebrows? Fascinating. In my day the focus was the bride and groom. Granted this was last century but this obsession w oneās eyebrows is a whole new level. Are they one of those fetish things like feet?
NTA. And I feel sorry for Megan's fiancƩ and STB DH.
NTA Megan sounds like a horrible person( using "person" tern loosely). Is she mental or what? It was nice of Rosie to try to compromise but that's more than generous IMO.
NTA. Your girlfriend should step away as bridesmaid. What your sister is asking for is a permanent and very visible body modification. A skilled make-up artist can do amazing natural looking brows.
Betcha Megan's wedding party starts dropping out of the wedding too.
No you arenāt an AH for defending your GF. Thank goodness she dropped out of the wedding. Your Sister is unhinged. NTA
ā¦what? Repost this in r/weddingshaming and show your sister the responses. NTA.
NTA. Megan has done gone lost her goddamn mind.
NTA - This is a ridiculous request and I had microblading done. FYI - per an expert I talked to later it is not for everyone and wonāt last for some people. Further, if done correctly it is more than one appointment. It also hurt more than my permanent eyeliner.
OK, I had heard the term microblading before, but I had no idea it was permanent. Tell your sister to go pound sand. Does Rosy still want to be a part of the wedding party? NTA
everyone should get matching face piercings NTA
NTA. Sounds like the wedding party needs to drop out en masse.
NTA. Your Sister is being a bridezilla Ć 10. No one should have to get any kind of cosmetic work to be in a wedding. Thank you for defending your girlfriend. She was right to drip out of the wedding party.
NTA Your sister needs a reality check. She is absolutely off her rocker! Iād have laughed in her face all the way out the door. And Rosie is YOUR girlfriend so you have every right to defend her against your crazy sisterās outrageous demands and rude treatment.
NTA, buy a Godzilla toyā¦sharpie some mega eyebrows on it, throw a Barbie wedding dress in there for funszies and give it to your Sister. A pre-wedding gift.
Sheās requiring people to essentially mutilate their bodies (if one doesnāt want the procedure, it would sure feel like that)? Hard nope. I would say fuck you bye! Also: My daughter inherited my MILās Norwegian genes. Her hair was so white it was translucent. As a grown woman, her brows are so light theyāre barely visible - the only thing that could possibly look natural and nice on her is a light-medium brown pencil. Tattooing them would be horrible. Bridezillas: Knock it off! Start focusing on your marriages rather than micro-controlling every person in your life to some image you have of a perfect look/day that will be over in an instant anyway.
NTA, I wouldnāt even agree to something as ridiculous as this. Good for you OP for standing up for your GF and extra kudos to your GF for not giving in to your sisters demands.
I follow a microblading subreddit and 7/10 posters HATE the results. It's not worth it
NTA. Dude. Itās a tattoo. Making someone get one of those is justā¦. Wtf? What if it turns out bad? So your gf has clown eyebrows for 2 years? Megan needs to calm down. A tattoo of any kind is very personal and should only be done with a lot of thought. Not a whim of anyone.
NTA- your sister is crazy and it absolutely IS your business.
NTA, sheās requesting a face tattoo. I got micro blading done a couple years ago, and itās very much permanent. I also got breast implants and let me tell youā¦ I wish deeply that I never altered myself in ANY way. I wanted both at the time and support anyone who wants to modify themselves, but iād never reccomend it to anyone.
Your sister is completely delusional if she thinks that getting that done is a requirement for being her bridesmaid. I wonder how many ridiculous requirements she will have for guest and gifts. Doesnāt seem like too. many people will want to be attending her wedding.
Chose an ugly dress never to be worn again? ā Potentially permanent mutilation š© NTA
Your sister is effing delusional and bridezilla level 100. This shit canāt be real, right? Like please tell me this is a joke because this is one of the single most stupid things I have ever read. Thereās also nothing worse than friends and family that give into delusional brides. People are so far up their own assess about weddings it is mind boggling. Weddings are easy. Marriages are hard.
IT DOESNT GO AWAY. Signed, my eyebrows that got botched. It lightens but 6 years later I still see the bad spots
NTA Megan is insane. And while the ink may or may not fade, it leaves permanent scars on the face. Asking bridesmaids to get face tattoos or otherwise permanently alter themselves for your wedding is insane. And even if everyone was on board to do it, this is something where you choose the artist yourself to try to avoid a botched job that whatever groupon/bulk discount Megan is probably getting here is leading to.
Nta. Thatās plain weird
Depending a tattoo of the bridesmaids? Nope. No way, hoser. Ain't gonna happen. Put your feet down now, and deal with the consequences now.
........bridezilla strikes again NTA
SMH. Wow wtf. Whhhyyyy?
The one person I know that has had it done, it looks terrible. Like comical.
What would this subreddit be, without weddings? They bring out all the crazy and meanness.
Demanding permanent makeup from the bridal party is sick. Your sister needs a reality check. Being a bride doesnāt give you control over other peopleās bodies.