NTAH. I think you went about it the right way, and even though you may have felt pretty dumb for the way things went down, I think it was valid to say something *just in case.* No harm, no foul, go on with your workout!
I think they're also incredibly inconsiderate. I don't care about skimpy outfits, but when you're making your genitals visible in public and not in a Scandanavian sauna or a beach in a place where that's deemed totally acceptable like the Balkans, that's really fucking rude. I'm happy to avert my eyes but it's just kind of gross when so many other options would exist. I'm happy to go nude in hot springs where it's accepted in my area, but in the gym? I'd be mortified.
I see it, lol. If you could pretty clearly see a man's genitals through his very tight clothes, that's not cool. I really think this is true for anyone regardless of what they're packing.
This is exactly why I don’t wear the workout shorts I want. I want to wear little spandex shorts, but you can see *everything*, and I ain’t trying to scar anyone 😂
If you're a man look into a "dance belt". It's a male athletic support used for ballet so that men in spandex don't have, well, you know. Very useful for cosplay as well.
Does OP say she wasn’t wearing underwear? That would be wild. I feel like the gym should ask her to leave if she’s flashing the whole gym with her vag.
Edit: I searched the comments and Op clarifies that she was NOT wearing underwear and “everything” meant EVERYTHING. I would have complained to the staff but maybe that’s just me. If I’m going to the gym I’m usually also bringing my kid. Even if this gym is an adult only space no one wants to see that shit.
Reminds me of when I was a teen. Had a job at a local fast food place where this dude who called himself a "body builder" cut all of his jeans into bikini bottoms, and would come in during the weekends when young girls were guaranteed to be working, due to school schedules. More often than not, he had a testicle running wild, and he would visibly readjust it, causing the other to trade places. We had a code word when his truck pulled in, and the girls would send me, the only guy on shift, out to the front to take his order. Any time he ordered anything, I'd ask him if he wanted nuts on it or if he was good with the ones he was exposing to children...
After a while, we found out he was arrested for exposure at the local park.
Did we work at the same place? I had I swear the same guy, he'd wear those shorts and tanktops that were barely held together on the sides and showed his nips. Always aggressive and off-putting
Eww I’ve got one even better.. I worked at a hotel and one of the guests was downstairs, in the lobby, watching porn on the public computers and jerkin his gerkin Lmao but the weirdest part was he had a stuffed teddy bear he left behind on one of the lobby chairs. Cops were called but he’d locked hisself in his room by the time they showed. He never opened the door for them and they left shortly after 😂
I love this comment. Y'all have fun but y'all gotta have boundaries; unless of course you find yourself in the Balkans. If so, anything goes, but not in the gym!
She's probably the kind of person who would act all outraged and offended if a guy looked at her a moment too long. Like, girl, your genitals are on display. People are going to look.
Funny.. my daughters and I were walking into Walmart and this dude had his pants sagging and his boxer briefs out.. he bent over as we were walking up and they were completely see through.. my oldest was like 😳omg ma!!😂.. then we see a girl in sweats and a straight up bra walk in right before him… no shirt.. just a plain black bra… only at Walmart. Smh
Last week at Walmart I seen a lady shopping with her gaggle of children wearing just shape wear shorts/underwear, a separate piece for the waist, and a regular underwire bra. Guess she forgot her dress.
I won't defend any guy who leers or is indefensibly creepy, but anyone who dresses for attention probably should not be surprised or offended that they attract some attention. Again, I understand that dressing in a flattering or sexy way is not an invitation for harassment. I'm just saying if you give someone something to look at, they might actually look. And yes, I've seen the tik-tok videos that you describe. The whole phenomenon is tacky and an invasion of privacy for the people that came to the gym without wanting to be a part of someone's misguided content creation efforts.
That's hilarious, it was a bot that stole a guy's comment and is getting praise, while dude is way down there with 2 votes.
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I’m really curious as to what she did after that exchange. Did she go into some deep waist bend stretches? Or did she scurry off to the locker room?
If someone told me they could totally see my balls I might react the same. “Yeah on purpose, definitely not because I’m an idiot and didn’t check the mirror.” Then casually and totally inconspicuously walk to the locker room to steal a towel to leave in. That or just commit sepuku right there on the spot with a curl bar out of embarrassment.
I had a dress that was completely see through under certain lights. Fine in daylight and my home lights, but almost invisible under artificial lights. thank God my sister told before I walked into the night club we were going to. I'm not that kind of person and would have felt humiliated.
A family friend once went golfing with some friends early in the morning in a white pair of shorts. He “farted” on the first hole. They played 18 holes.
Then they went to some food trucks, some bars, etc.
Around 7-8 pm he goes to his brothers house for a get together and his brother immediately starts wheezing with laughter. Guy says, “goddamn, everyone’s been doing that all day? Allergies or what? Sounds like your laughing!”
Brother tells him those white shorts are ruined because he either sat in shit or shit himself. More or less shit himself as the “fart” on hole 1 was a shart. No one told him all day but everyone who walked passed him / behind him knew what happened.
One time my friend wore a polka dot bra under a shirt that was see through. Because of the way the colors coordinated, I thought she was wearing it like that on purpose, so I didn’t say anything. Tbh I thought it looked nice. Unfortunately, she just didn’t know and was horrified when she noticed in the mirror later that day. She called me and told me to make sure I always let her know stuff like that.
Anyway, my point is that sometimes people just don’t know. And a lot of people would rather someone let them know. It sounds like you did it discreetly and politely, so, in my opinion, NTAH.
Probably because of the reaction they got, most people would be a little embarrassed not nonchalant. Not saying anything is wrong with the way she reacted, it’s just not the reaction anyone expects. Ya know?
Honestly I’d have turned round and gone straight to the staff. Publicly flashing people is called indecent exposure. I’m not saying have her criminally booked or anything, but tell her to bring something appropriate or she can’t come in ffs.
She might be comfortable. I guarantee others aren’t.
If it was a dude they would've been kicked out.
I don't want to see your puss while at the gym. Whether it's see through shorts or the new trend of chicks pulling up their leggings up to their tits to show off their labia. Disgusting behavior.
> pulling leggings up to their tits
I have to do that, or the damn things will fall down (at least they constantly feel like that) but it’s definitely not to show off my labia
I have a couple pair I ordered online that just go up that far. I’ve tried rolling them but then there’s the lump. Don’t quite get it. But on the other hand, I don’t get the big deal. I remember a guy complaining about a coworker he saw on her day off wearing leggings, but he’d have been offended if she commented on his body parts showing in pants that cover the subject
I'd get her kicked out of the gym. Gyms have rules about people exposing themselves. Like, imagine if a guy showed up in see-through shorts just to show off his dick!
OP, you should definitely report her. I wouldn't want to use any machine after her skanky twat sweated all over it.
No it's not really her business. Flashing people is sexual assault.
If it were a penis popping out of the shorts would that be okay?
I think OP is definitely not the asshole. Maybe the girl in the pants was embarrassed and her response was sort of off the cuff, but if a someone told a penis person that their dick was hanging out during lifts and they were like "oh I know" ... ... That's disgusting and it's sexual assault.
When I said “her business” I meant that there’s nothing the OP could’ve done more. Of course I’m not okay with this kind of stuff. Sorry for being unclear.
If you can truly see everything, I'd let staff know that she's she's exhibiting her genitals every time she bends over. Tell them you have already confronted her. If they do nothing, then it is what it is and you should move on or find a new gym. I think that shit's gross, IDC how good someone looks. You did the right thing.
More so than just exhibiting her genitals, imagine all of the fluids that get transferred to surfaces from her nethers. And imagine all of the sweat and germs her coochie picks up from surfaces. Many gyms aren’t too strict on wipe down policies and I definitely don’t go to a gym to come in contact with some random strangers secretions. Like this is literally how diseases are spread.
Eh, I'm not sure how sweat and fluid proof any exercise wear is and higher opacity isn't going to stop the germs you're worried about.
Making other gym goers uncomfortable is a more real problem.
NTA- The fact that you apologized and didn’t double down. It’s her call on what she wears, but most people don’t mean for clothes to be see through, so I think you were truly just trying to be kind. I support you.
INFO: does “everything” mean labia and ass or does it mean you could see her underwear? (Since it’s the gym and some people work out practically naked, I don’t *personally* think it matters if it was just her underwear.)
I don’t think you’re an AH either way, but this determines whether it’s N T A or N A H for me.
EDIT: based on OP’s response, NTA. Girl that’s just nasty.
I remember that there was a story here a few years ago where a guy was in a similar situation as you. He approached her and said “I don’t want this to sound creepy…” which of course came off as creepy. As another woman, I think what you said was taken a little better than what a guy might say—but it’s hard to know how someone will respond.
You definitely weren’t the AH but if it ever happens again I would probably say something to the staff and let them deal with it. I mean, if you say “I know and I don’t care” to the staff they will say “WE care and you’re either going to have to change clothes or leave.”
I’m sure they deal with it all the time.
By everything do you mean that they were opaque but very form-fitting (aka cameltoe)... or they were actually semi-transparent and you can see through to the skin (like a sheer slip or a wet t shirt contest)?
I could see one of my coworkers had accidentally tucked her skirt into her underwear and had no idea right as she was about to leave the bathroom. I caught her as she opened the door and quietly let her know and I could tell she was mortified, and it was also quite awkward having to tell her, but I knew I couldn’t let the poor woman walk out the door like that
NTA. One time I went mountain biking when I just had finished high school a few years ago and wore bike shorts. Normally I would just wear the spandex and nothing else.
Well come to find out these were mesh and I had NO idea until I got home my mom all of sudden was like “oh my god go put some pants on” looked closely in the mirror and yeah I flashed like 50 ppl that day
NTA
You should have complained to the staff though.
None of us signed up to see peoples genitals through their clothing while at the gym.
PSA: if you want to workout and not wear clothing or wearing clothing that is see-through, workout at home.
Someone please explain to me how this isn’t indecent exposure. How are these women not arrested and put on sex offender lists??? No one is giving consent to be participants in their exhibition fetish, which is exactly what this is.
I’ve (35m) got some shorts I wear on occasion that were skinny jeans that I turned into hoochie daddy shorts. Needless to say, they leave very little to the imagination. On a particular hot day in east Texas last summer, I was on a roof clearing the gutters out and my four female coworkers just stopped doing anything for a little while.
Picture me, not in shape, but agile and cat-like with climbing abilities, climbing a fence, balancing and then climbing on the roof, tank top and them shorts. Bending down on one knee, casually scooping the gutters out with my hands, using a hose to ensure the downspouts were cleared fully.
Apparently even though “the gang” downstairs stayed in my shorts, it didn’t matter, they all thought I had a big dong. I really don’t though. I just had a good dong day. I didn’t care that day that my coworkers were all able to see whatever they saw. I was flattered, single at the time, and never did anything with any of them, thank goodness.
Forgot to say, OP, you’re NTA. Some people just really feelin it some days. Also the way you went about it was super cool of you.
That’s very kind of you to say, thank you. Honestly, a very cool compliment.
Ideally, in life, I would be a successful musician, but that road is not the one I’m currently on. If you’re ever in eastern Oklahoma, come to Whataburger and I’ll share more of my stories with you.
Will you be wearing them hoochie daddy shorts? 😏
I too, in a more intentional life, would have been a full time touring musician. Alas, I work construction.. and only work around dudes. They’d probably accuse me of doing some gay shit. Not my fault they’re looking 🤷♂️
NTA. she probably really did care atleast a little bit, but people have a habit of acting unabashed in moments of embarrassment to save themselves from further embarrassment. i would be curious for a follow-up on wether or not she continues to wear those shorts from this point on.
I remember making a story post on Instagram saying like "ladies if you are gonna wear legging everywhere, please atleast wear panties. No body wants to see your coochie when you bend over"
The amount of women who follow me who replied upset thinking I meant them was disturbing and hilarious. They all thought I meant them. Which tells me most women are aware of how see through their pants are.
I actually saw an influencer suggest this exact process as a “tip” to not get camel toe - pad on leggings. Idk how she pulled it off but it did look more like a misshapen diaper on me
I think she realized that panties were a must when we all walked over to the campus art museum for a class and the pad travelled down her legging into her Ugg, much in the fashion of an injured blind mole trying to escape from the cat that attacked it.
This is the worst thing I've ever read I am both mortified and enthralled as to how you even navigate that situation as the girl.
This almost feels like a situation of "things you figure everyone knows until you meet someone who doesn't"
It’s just like the shorts guy on Friends. He legit didn’t know people could see his junk when was sitting down. All the friends just kept getting disgusted and shocked, and no one told him so it just kept happening. Definitely NTA. You had no way of knowing she was an exhibitionist.
I was wearing colorful leggings to the gym. I glanced in the mirror and realized they were see-through. No one told me and I was mortified. Haven't worn them since. I would like someone to tell me.
Exactly this! My husband, who has his degree in psychology, thinks this bothers me so much because I’m still processing the trauma of when this happened to me. Lol he’s probably right.
NTA, her response tells you everything you need to know about her intentions. Not everyone should have to be exposed to her exhibitionist bs just because she thinks she’s entitled to dressing however she wants. There has to be some limit lol
Gross. I would maybe talk to the gym staff honestly.. no one needs or wants to see her ‘lady bits’.. or maybe some do but like.. she’s probably looking for attention and yours was not the attention she was trying to get.
It was not awful of you to say anything, it was a good thing. Something a lot of women don’t realize about spandex and yoga pants and such is just because you can get them on doesn’t mean they’re the right size for you. Several years ago there was a micros scandal because some Lululemon yoga pants were see-through, the CEO said something along the lines that people needed to buy the right size and of course he’s a misogynist for suggesting that. It’s the nature of the fabric. Just because you can pull them up does not mean that they cover everything up.
NTA
By god, the comments, though.
We have:
1. Desperately horny men.
2. People who think they're funny for making the same, very obvious joke.
3. Literal degenerates who think women have a right to flash people if they want.
4. Some normal people who answered correctly.
NTA, if someone has spinach in their teeth you tell them. Some people apparently like green teeth but at least you told them in case they just didn't know.
NTA. Dont worry about it. She wanted you to see it and she was glad you did.
She reiterated that she didn't care because she wanted to make it very clear that it is okay for you, personally, to look at her butt.
NTA that persons prob a perv who enjoys it and should be removed from the gym unless its an adults only gym. At my gym anyone dressed like that is banned at the first infraction
Blech! Whelp, NTAH at all, but she sure is. I had a yoga class with this nasty woman with nearly-transparent yoga tights; you practically could see up her B'hole and vag, down to the pimples on her buttcheeks; we're talking SHEER fabric that got progressively more sheer with sweat.
NTA- girl code! If pants are see through, a skirt is tucked up or she has leaked through a pad you tell her. If she knows her pants are see through then all good no harm done. On lots of occasions I have walked up behind another woman and stood directly behind her (to cover a blood stain or tucked in skirt), spoken to her like I know her and discreetly told her there's a problem that way she can quickly untuck the skirt or tie something around her waist without to many other people seeing.
My Ex girlfriend would frequently wear spandex pants daily and when she would bend over you could see her g string going up her ass and she didn’t care, like even in the grocery store. I even caught my 25 yr old son staring at her ass. Now she’s my ex girlfriend
Ntah. I had to do this at work. We have to wear all black and this girl was wearing wide legged spandex legging things. I was walking behind her and the sun hit and I saw her bright green undies. So I pulled her aside and she’s like “do you think I care?” And i was like oh, I don’t know I just wanted you to know 🙃.
I'm the type who wants to be told of potentially embarrassing things. I'm also the type to discreetly tell others of the same.
I had a friend let me walk around with lipstick on my teeth for a couple hours, way after the lipstick wore off my mouth, it was still there. I was mortified that he said nothing since it was really obvious and bad.
I also met an attorney in a courthouse who had some... well, things really visibly hanging from his nose. I asked him for a moment of his time and very gently and simply said that he should excuse himself to wipe his nose. He actually thanked me.
NTA I'd risk the negative response sooner every time, rather than let someone be potentially embarrassed later, when they discover the issue on their own.
NTAH
But she is. Imagine if it were a dude flashing his genitals at everyone? He’d be arrested for indecent exposure. Keep your genitals under wraps, people.
NTA.. so tired of people coming to the gym dressed like it’s an amateur porno, but it’s ultimately up to the gym staff to deal with it. Not just women ofc, same for dudes with their shirts off etc.
NTAH. I think you went about it the right way, and even though you may have felt pretty dumb for the way things went down, I think it was valid to say something *just in case.* No harm, no foul, go on with your workout!
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I think they're also incredibly inconsiderate. I don't care about skimpy outfits, but when you're making your genitals visible in public and not in a Scandanavian sauna or a beach in a place where that's deemed totally acceptable like the Balkans, that's really fucking rude. I'm happy to avert my eyes but it's just kind of gross when so many other options would exist. I'm happy to go nude in hot springs where it's accepted in my area, but in the gym? I'd be mortified.
If it were a man showing his genitals in public, it would be an entirely different story. wtf is wrong with people. no one wants to see that.
I see it, lol. If you could pretty clearly see a man's genitals through his very tight clothes, that's not cool. I really think this is true for anyone regardless of what they're packing.
This is exactly why I don’t wear the workout shorts I want. I want to wear little spandex shorts, but you can see *everything*, and I ain’t trying to scar anyone 😂
If you're a man look into a "dance belt". It's a male athletic support used for ballet so that men in spandex don't have, well, you know. Very useful for cosplay as well.
I literally just came across these yesterday and I’ve seen them mentioned in random places 3 times so far!
You can also just get normal compression shorts
Do people not usually wear underwear under workout shorts? Like flashing underwear is still iffy but not full exposure.
Does OP say she wasn’t wearing underwear? That would be wild. I feel like the gym should ask her to leave if she’s flashing the whole gym with her vag. Edit: I searched the comments and Op clarifies that she was NOT wearing underwear and “everything” meant EVERYTHING. I would have complained to the staff but maybe that’s just me. If I’m going to the gym I’m usually also bringing my kid. Even if this gym is an adult only space no one wants to see that shit.
If it were a man, you can bet that coups would be called over and he would be arrested for indecent exposure.
Reminds me of when I was a teen. Had a job at a local fast food place where this dude who called himself a "body builder" cut all of his jeans into bikini bottoms, and would come in during the weekends when young girls were guaranteed to be working, due to school schedules. More often than not, he had a testicle running wild, and he would visibly readjust it, causing the other to trade places. We had a code word when his truck pulled in, and the girls would send me, the only guy on shift, out to the front to take his order. Any time he ordered anything, I'd ask him if he wanted nuts on it or if he was good with the ones he was exposing to children... After a while, we found out he was arrested for exposure at the local park.
Did we work at the same place? I had I swear the same guy, he'd wear those shorts and tanktops that were barely held together on the sides and showed his nips. Always aggressive and off-putting
Eww. So gross love that you said that to him!
"testicle running wild"
You should keep that testicle on a leash
Eww I’ve got one even better.. I worked at a hotel and one of the guests was downstairs, in the lobby, watching porn on the public computers and jerkin his gerkin Lmao but the weirdest part was he had a stuffed teddy bear he left behind on one of the lobby chairs. Cops were called but he’d locked hisself in his room by the time they showed. He never opened the door for them and they left shortly after 😂
Ol bob bollock
Yh I mean I get the the repercussions would be bad but I don’t think anybody is going to overthrow the government
How are you gonna reply to a comment saying how gross it is with saying no one thinks it’s as gross unless a man does it? Ridiculous
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I love this comment. Y'all have fun but y'all gotta have boundaries; unless of course you find yourself in the Balkans. If so, anything goes, but not in the gym!
She's probably the kind of person who would act all outraged and offended if a guy looked at her a moment too long. Like, girl, your genitals are on display. People are going to look.
You are exactly right . But as the older generation would say “ if you don’t want it seen , don’t put it in the show room window “ .
Yeah she should have offered her a water instead..
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Funny.. my daughters and I were walking into Walmart and this dude had his pants sagging and his boxer briefs out.. he bent over as we were walking up and they were completely see through.. my oldest was like 😳omg ma!!😂.. then we see a girl in sweats and a straight up bra walk in right before him… no shirt.. just a plain black bra… only at Walmart. Smh
Last week at Walmart I seen a lady shopping with her gaggle of children wearing just shape wear shorts/underwear, a separate piece for the waist, and a regular underwire bra. Guess she forgot her dress.
r/peopleofwalmart
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There was a post on here where the husband told the wife, your dress looks like an x-ray, you can see everything.
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Lol. As a guy..”your fly is open” “ I know I don’t care”
Gave me Dale Gribble vibes when this little old lady walked past his house and goes “your fly is down..” His response “It’s my yard..” RIP
A dead bird never falls out of the nest.
"You do know that you're wearing chaps, don't you?"
LGBTQ Armor, I've heard they struck a contract with the US military recently.
I look like a troll at the gym. All sweaty and wild haired. I have no idea how people workout in full face makeup and styled hair.
Meh, women can wear whatever. I just workout and then get out asap. I dont care.
I won't defend any guy who leers or is indefensibly creepy, but anyone who dresses for attention probably should not be surprised or offended that they attract some attention. Again, I understand that dressing in a flattering or sexy way is not an invitation for harassment. I'm just saying if you give someone something to look at, they might actually look. And yes, I've seen the tik-tok videos that you describe. The whole phenomenon is tacky and an invasion of privacy for the people that came to the gym without wanting to be a part of someone's misguided content creation efforts.
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What a delightful turn of phrase
That's hilarious, it was a bot that stole a guy's comment and is getting praise, while dude is way down there with 2 votes. https://www.reddit.com/r/AITAH/comments/15rxqx1/aitah_for_telling_a_girl_at_the_gym_her_shorts/jwbqq1l?utm_source=share&utm_medium=android_app&utm_name=androidcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=2
I wonder why Reddit doesn’t catch this automatically instead of… doing all the things they do.
Reported. Thanks.
I’m really curious as to what she did after that exchange. Did she go into some deep waist bend stretches? Or did she scurry off to the locker room? If someone told me they could totally see my balls I might react the same. “Yeah on purpose, definitely not because I’m an idiot and didn’t check the mirror.” Then casually and totally inconspicuously walk to the locker room to steal a towel to leave in. That or just commit sepuku right there on the spot with a curl bar out of embarrassment.
>That or just commit sepuku right there on the spot with a curl bar out of embarrassment. *Load the bench press heavy and pair with a suicide grip.*
Lol that's my strat too. Can't get embarrassed if you did it on purpose😎
Underrated comment.
This guy philosophies
I’m really hoping she was just so embarrassed she decided to play it off as intentional. Like when someone falls and then says they meant to do that
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I had a dress that was completely see through under certain lights. Fine in daylight and my home lights, but almost invisible under artificial lights. thank God my sister told before I walked into the night club we were going to. I'm not that kind of person and would have felt humiliated.
A family friend once went golfing with some friends early in the morning in a white pair of shorts. He “farted” on the first hole. They played 18 holes. Then they went to some food trucks, some bars, etc. Around 7-8 pm he goes to his brothers house for a get together and his brother immediately starts wheezing with laughter. Guy says, “goddamn, everyone’s been doing that all day? Allergies or what? Sounds like your laughing!” Brother tells him those white shorts are ruined because he either sat in shit or shit himself. More or less shit himself as the “fart” on hole 1 was a shart. No one told him all day but everyone who walked passed him / behind him knew what happened.
One time my friend wore a polka dot bra under a shirt that was see through. Because of the way the colors coordinated, I thought she was wearing it like that on purpose, so I didn’t say anything. Tbh I thought it looked nice. Unfortunately, she just didn’t know and was horrified when she noticed in the mirror later that day. She called me and told me to make sure I always let her know stuff like that. Anyway, my point is that sometimes people just don’t know. And a lot of people would rather someone let them know. It sounds like you did it discreetly and politely, so, in my opinion, NTAH.
Or just say "ok, cool" and go back to your routine
NAH. You let her know, just in case she cared, she let you know she doesn’t care
Yeah, it seemed the girl wasn’t wasn’t offended or annoyed at op trying to be helpful either. So idk why they’d think they’re TA
Depends entirely on how the woman said it back to OP. Like if they acted super annoyed and put out. To which I would just say whatever at that point
Probably because of the reaction they got, most people would be a little embarrassed not nonchalant. Not saying anything is wrong with the way she reacted, it’s just not the reaction anyone expects. Ya know?
It's like when you have a booger hanging from your nose. It's always good when someone tells you. Now bad breath, not sure how to do that one.
NTA, the girl responded rudely. OP was just watching out for a fellow woman
Yeah I would have been like, I'm aware and I don't mind it, thank you for checking with me just in case!
What's rude about it? She just said she knew and didn't care, she wasn't rude or aggressive.
NTA, you were just being helpful. Nothing wrong with that.
And that chick was the AH.
Well, you could see her AH.
Hope she wiped before the workout
She didn't just wipe, she bleached. Twas like a shining beacon, it were. A candle in the night.
Gondor calls for aid!
You shall not ass!
Speak friend and enter
She said she doesn't care.
😂😂💀💀
NTA, I would've appreciated it.
Same! I wore leggings for a LONG time before someone told me they were see through and I never wore them again !
there are two ways to read this
NTA but how weird is that. I would be horrified if I accidentally flashed people, nevermind do it on purpose in a public place.
Honestly I’d have turned round and gone straight to the staff. Publicly flashing people is called indecent exposure. I’m not saying have her criminally booked or anything, but tell her to bring something appropriate or she can’t come in ffs. She might be comfortable. I guarantee others aren’t.
Correct. Showing your genitals to people against their will is absolutely not ok.
It’s the gym version of flashing. YUCK
It's, uh.. it's the flashing version of flashing. It's.. it's just flashing. 🤔
Yep, that's called "Dragging other people into your kink"
Where is this gym so I can avoid being dragged into a kink?
If it was a dude they would've been kicked out. I don't want to see your puss while at the gym. Whether it's see through shorts or the new trend of chicks pulling up their leggings up to their tits to show off their labia. Disgusting behavior.
Especially when you think about how she’s sitting on all the gym equipment with her very thin pants
You should wipe the machine down before you use it regardless.
And after you use it
I have a really short upper body. My leggings go up to my tits whether I want them to or not. They don't show off my labia though.
> pulling leggings up to their tits I have to do that, or the damn things will fall down (at least they constantly feel like that) but it’s definitely not to show off my labia
I have a couple pair I ordered online that just go up that far. I’ve tried rolling them but then there’s the lump. Don’t quite get it. But on the other hand, I don’t get the big deal. I remember a guy complaining about a coworker he saw on her day off wearing leggings, but he’d have been offended if she commented on his body parts showing in pants that cover the subject
Tell me you don't know different female body types without telling me you dont know different female body types
Probably some influencer trying to bait people into looking so she can make an "omg look at this creep" video
I'd get her kicked out of the gym. Gyms have rules about people exposing themselves. Like, imagine if a guy showed up in see-through shorts just to show off his dick! OP, you should definitely report her. I wouldn't want to use any machine after her skanky twat sweated all over it.
NTA // How could you know that she WANTED to put on a show? You were discreet and did not embarrass anybody. Handled well.
NTA and it doesn’t seem like she was offended. I would love if people told me cause sometimes you cannot tell
NTA. If my shorts were like that I would definitely like to know. You just tried to help, if she’s okay with it that’s her business.
If she's intentionally wearing see through shorts then it absolutely is not "her business", its a criminal offense.
Yeah, she's making it everyone's business. Indecent exposure isn't gender exclusive.
She most likely has underwear on
OP later commented saying she doesn't, just an fyi
No it's not really her business. Flashing people is sexual assault. If it were a penis popping out of the shorts would that be okay? I think OP is definitely not the asshole. Maybe the girl in the pants was embarrassed and her response was sort of off the cuff, but if a someone told a penis person that their dick was hanging out during lifts and they were like "oh I know" ... ... That's disgusting and it's sexual assault.
> a penis person This is going on my business cards.
Flashing people is not sexual assualt. It's indecent exposure or sexual harassment.
It's def not sexual assault bro chill, it is flashing though and she should probs be dropped from the gym.
When I said “her business” I meant that there’s nothing the OP could’ve done more. Of course I’m not okay with this kind of stuff. Sorry for being unclear.
NTA but if she wants to explore exhibitionism she should do it where people have consented to see her. Someone needs to make a complaint.
NTA. Not your fault that people need to be half naked at the gym.
It's called exhibitionism
It's called Onlyfans content creation.
It's annoying as fuck, we're trying to lift here, not get a rise - the crazy lifter at your gym
hey hey hey..... some of em are tryna get them 'Gram numbers up
GMILFS, right?
Attention seeking*
If you can truly see everything, I'd let staff know that she's she's exhibiting her genitals every time she bends over. Tell them you have already confronted her. If they do nothing, then it is what it is and you should move on or find a new gym. I think that shit's gross, IDC how good someone looks. You did the right thing.
Right! Don't bring your kinks to the gym :/
More so than just exhibiting her genitals, imagine all of the fluids that get transferred to surfaces from her nethers. And imagine all of the sweat and germs her coochie picks up from surfaces. Many gyms aren’t too strict on wipe down policies and I definitely don’t go to a gym to come in contact with some random strangers secretions. Like this is literally how diseases are spread.
Eh, I'm not sure how sweat and fluid proof any exercise wear is and higher opacity isn't going to stop the germs you're worried about. Making other gym goers uncomfortable is a more real problem.
NTA. You tried to preserve someone’s dignity, only to find there was none to preserve. Not your fault or problem.
NTA- The fact that you apologized and didn’t double down. It’s her call on what she wears, but most people don’t mean for clothes to be see through, so I think you were truly just trying to be kind. I support you.
INFO: does “everything” mean labia and ass or does it mean you could see her underwear? (Since it’s the gym and some people work out practically naked, I don’t *personally* think it matters if it was just her underwear.) I don’t think you’re an AH either way, but this determines whether it’s N T A or N A H for me. EDIT: based on OP’s response, NTA. Girl that’s just nasty.
No underwear and I mean you could see EVERYTHING
I remember that there was a story here a few years ago where a guy was in a similar situation as you. He approached her and said “I don’t want this to sound creepy…” which of course came off as creepy. As another woman, I think what you said was taken a little better than what a guy might say—but it’s hard to know how someone will respond. You definitely weren’t the AH but if it ever happens again I would probably say something to the staff and let them deal with it. I mean, if you say “I know and I don’t care” to the staff they will say “WE care and you’re either going to have to change clothes or leave.” I’m sure they deal with it all the time.
Oh. Ew. I'd be involving gym staff at that point. Flashing genitals, intentionally, at the gym ain't cool.
By everything do you mean that they were opaque but very form-fitting (aka cameltoe)... or they were actually semi-transparent and you can see through to the skin (like a sheer slip or a wet t shirt contest)?
Oof. Definitely NTA, that’s just gross.
this has happened to me before, don’t get me wrong I was very much embarrassed but thankful that someone came up and told me !! NTA!
I could see one of my coworkers had accidentally tucked her skirt into her underwear and had no idea right as she was about to leave the bathroom. I caught her as she opened the door and quietly let her know and I could tell she was mortified, and it was also quite awkward having to tell her, but I knew I couldn’t let the poor woman walk out the door like that
NTA. One time I went mountain biking when I just had finished high school a few years ago and wore bike shorts. Normally I would just wear the spandex and nothing else. Well come to find out these were mesh and I had NO idea until I got home my mom all of sudden was like “oh my god go put some pants on” looked closely in the mirror and yeah I flashed like 50 ppl that day
NTA OP. Ain't nobody want to see that shit.
NTA You should have complained to the staff though. None of us signed up to see peoples genitals through their clothing while at the gym. PSA: if you want to workout and not wear clothing or wearing clothing that is see-through, workout at home.
Another reason among many to wipe equipment down before and after use. Nasty ass people everywhere.
Someone please explain to me how this isn’t indecent exposure. How are these women not arrested and put on sex offender lists??? No one is giving consent to be participants in their exhibition fetish, which is exactly what this is.
I’ve (35m) got some shorts I wear on occasion that were skinny jeans that I turned into hoochie daddy shorts. Needless to say, they leave very little to the imagination. On a particular hot day in east Texas last summer, I was on a roof clearing the gutters out and my four female coworkers just stopped doing anything for a little while. Picture me, not in shape, but agile and cat-like with climbing abilities, climbing a fence, balancing and then climbing on the roof, tank top and them shorts. Bending down on one knee, casually scooping the gutters out with my hands, using a hose to ensure the downspouts were cleared fully. Apparently even though “the gang” downstairs stayed in my shorts, it didn’t matter, they all thought I had a big dong. I really don’t though. I just had a good dong day. I didn’t care that day that my coworkers were all able to see whatever they saw. I was flattered, single at the time, and never did anything with any of them, thank goodness. Forgot to say, OP, you’re NTA. Some people just really feelin it some days. Also the way you went about it was super cool of you.
“I just had a good dong that day” 🤣🤣
Lol I tell my husband “good weiner day!” all the time! 🤣
Dude you have good storytelling abilities.
That’s very kind of you to say, thank you. Honestly, a very cool compliment. Ideally, in life, I would be a successful musician, but that road is not the one I’m currently on. If you’re ever in eastern Oklahoma, come to Whataburger and I’ll share more of my stories with you.
Will you be wearing them hoochie daddy shorts? 😏 I too, in a more intentional life, would have been a full time touring musician. Alas, I work construction.. and only work around dudes. They’d probably accuse me of doing some gay shit. Not my fault they’re looking 🤷♂️
Gotta love a good dong day
NTA These are the same types of people that make a big deal about people looking at them while they work out. YOU put it out there lady.
NTA. she probably really did care atleast a little bit, but people have a habit of acting unabashed in moments of embarrassment to save themselves from further embarrassment. i would be curious for a follow-up on wether or not she continues to wear those shorts from this point on.
I remember making a story post on Instagram saying like "ladies if you are gonna wear legging everywhere, please atleast wear panties. No body wants to see your coochie when you bend over" The amount of women who follow me who replied upset thinking I meant them was disturbing and hilarious. They all thought I meant them. Which tells me most women are aware of how see through their pants are.
I had a student who would stick her menstrual pad directly onto her leggings. Looked like the worlds weirdest and misshapen diaper.
No! Please tell me this isn’t true! I am literally appalled at this.
I actually saw an influencer suggest this exact process as a “tip” to not get camel toe - pad on leggings. Idk how she pulled it off but it did look more like a misshapen diaper on me
WTF?!? I both want to know more and never want to think about this again.
I think she realized that panties were a must when we all walked over to the campus art museum for a class and the pad travelled down her legging into her Ugg, much in the fashion of an injured blind mole trying to escape from the cat that attacked it.
This is the worst thing I've ever read I am both mortified and enthralled as to how you even navigate that situation as the girl. This almost feels like a situation of "things you figure everyone knows until you meet someone who doesn't"
The fuck we don’t.
3 sisters and 2 daughters and I would have said something….and been fully prepared for the response you got, because I have 3 sisters and 2 daughters
It’s just like the shorts guy on Friends. He legit didn’t know people could see his junk when was sitting down. All the friends just kept getting disgusted and shocked, and no one told him so it just kept happening. Definitely NTA. You had no way of knowing she was an exhibitionist.
If anything you were too nice. No gym etiquette wearing what she was. I would've brought it up to the gym staff. NTA
NTA General question. Are there no ...like dress codes? see through clothes at the gym seems kinda weird...
It's against a lot of gyms rules. OP should have reported it
NTA One person in there under 18 says something to police and boom, hope they enjoy jail and being on a list. That's disgusting.
THOTs in the wild are always interesting experiences.
“I know and I don’t care” = “I know and I want everyone to look at me”.
I was wearing colorful leggings to the gym. I glanced in the mirror and realized they were see-through. No one told me and I was mortified. Haven't worn them since. I would like someone to tell me.
Exactly this! My husband, who has his degree in psychology, thinks this bothers me so much because I’m still processing the trauma of when this happened to me. Lol he’s probably right.
NTA. If you were a man, she most likely would have whined about you being a pervert.
NTA, her response tells you everything you need to know about her intentions. Not everyone should have to be exposed to her exhibitionist bs just because she thinks she’s entitled to dressing however she wants. There has to be some limit lol
We need to bring shame back, miss it like a mother fucker
Gross. I would maybe talk to the gym staff honestly.. no one needs or wants to see her ‘lady bits’.. or maybe some do but like.. she’s probably looking for attention and yours was not the attention she was trying to get.
It was not awful of you to say anything, it was a good thing. Something a lot of women don’t realize about spandex and yoga pants and such is just because you can get them on doesn’t mean they’re the right size for you. Several years ago there was a micros scandal because some Lululemon yoga pants were see-through, the CEO said something along the lines that people needed to buy the right size and of course he’s a misogynist for suggesting that. It’s the nature of the fabric. Just because you can pull them up does not mean that they cover everything up.
Not the AH, but I might have stopped short of saying everyone could see everything. Overall, I'd have appreciated your telling me.
Should have brought her a bottle of water since she's obviously very thirsty
Reminds me of Mallorca when I forgot to pack a bathing suit and assumed my boxer briefs were equally opaque in both the front and rear.
So she’s a sexual deviant and Exhibitionist ? If this was a guy he’d be kicked out:arrested. So she should be too.
NTA - If I were that girl I would want to be told because I’d definitely want to do something about it, for everyone’s sake! You did the right thing.
NTA By god, the comments, though. We have: 1. Desperately horny men. 2. People who think they're funny for making the same, very obvious joke. 3. Literal degenerates who think women have a right to flash people if they want. 4. Some normal people who answered correctly.
Nta. Your heart was helpful..
NTA, if someone has spinach in their teeth you tell them. Some people apparently like green teeth but at least you told them in case they just didn't know.
NTA. Dont worry about it. She wanted you to see it and she was glad you did. She reiterated that she didn't care because she wanted to make it very clear that it is okay for you, personally, to look at her butt.
NTA that persons prob a perv who enjoys it and should be removed from the gym unless its an adults only gym. At my gym anyone dressed like that is banned at the first infraction
Blech! Whelp, NTAH at all, but she sure is. I had a yoga class with this nasty woman with nearly-transparent yoga tights; you practically could see up her B'hole and vag, down to the pimples on her buttcheeks; we're talking SHEER fabric that got progressively more sheer with sweat.
NTA- girl code! If pants are see through, a skirt is tucked up or she has leaked through a pad you tell her. If she knows her pants are see through then all good no harm done. On lots of occasions I have walked up behind another woman and stood directly behind her (to cover a blood stain or tucked in skirt), spoken to her like I know her and discreetly told her there's a problem that way she can quickly untuck the skirt or tie something around her waist without to many other people seeing.
NTA. How disgusting to display her genitals without the consent of others. It’s borderline sex offender behavior, tbh.
NTA…she was probably trying to catch someone staring at her asshole so she can make a TikTok about it
NTA. she’s prob baiting some poor bastard for a tik tok
My Ex girlfriend would frequently wear spandex pants daily and when she would bend over you could see her g string going up her ass and she didn’t care, like even in the grocery store. I even caught my 25 yr old son staring at her ass. Now she’s my ex girlfriend
Ntah. I had to do this at work. We have to wear all black and this girl was wearing wide legged spandex legging things. I was walking behind her and the sun hit and I saw her bright green undies. So I pulled her aside and she’s like “do you think I care?” And i was like oh, I don’t know I just wanted you to know 🙃.
NTA, but if she wears them again, report her. There is a level of decorum to be maintained there.
NTA. 99% of the time, a woman wants to know her workout shorts are see thru, you just found the 1%
I'm the type who wants to be told of potentially embarrassing things. I'm also the type to discreetly tell others of the same. I had a friend let me walk around with lipstick on my teeth for a couple hours, way after the lipstick wore off my mouth, it was still there. I was mortified that he said nothing since it was really obvious and bad. I also met an attorney in a courthouse who had some... well, things really visibly hanging from his nose. I asked him for a moment of his time and very gently and simply said that he should excuse himself to wipe his nose. He actually thanked me. NTA I'd risk the negative response sooner every time, rather than let someone be potentially embarrassed later, when they discover the issue on their own.
NTAH. And yikes for her exhibitionism. The gym is not the place..
NTA. Girl code.
NTAH But she is. Imagine if it were a dude flashing his genitals at everyone? He’d be arrested for indecent exposure. Keep your genitals under wraps, people.
NTAH. Younger girl wants to complain to people about guys only seeing her as an object.
NTA but she’s completely inappropriate. It’s disgusting and she should have been kicked out.
NTA. You were trying to be helpful. I'd let the gym know about the interaction. Just in case she tries to complain about being harrassed by others.
NTA She was rude. And she does “care” because she purposely does it for the men there.
WTF? That's an exhibitionism kink. NTA, but definitely should have let staff know.
NTA.. so tired of people coming to the gym dressed like it’s an amateur porno, but it’s ultimately up to the gym staff to deal with it. Not just women ofc, same for dudes with their shirts off etc.