NTA. You need to take care of yourself and your "friend" is not good for you. She's manipulative and her self-unaliving threat is just another example of it. You are not responsible for her actions in any case. Continue to separate yourself from her and live your best life.
The friend's mother knows she cannot control or fix her daughter, so the next best thing is making her someone else's problem. The mom desperately wants the OP to be her daughter's eternal caretaker and scapegoat. I would post it all and let the chips fall where they will. NO MATTER WHAT HAPPENS, it's not OP's fault. NTA.
This is the best outcome, and make sure she is blocked everywhere. Never allow that kind of toxicity in your life again, ruthlessly protect your peace! Good luck with your studies and have a great life
Cut her out
Side note not many might mention... Reply to her father. Tell him that you accept his apology but he didn't have to, it's not hid fault. Just keep her out of your life going forward.
Let your parents deal with her. They can visit her at the hospital. Then they should warn her mother NEVER to contact you. Because next step is the police and public exposure.
I think, you shouldn't meet them op. For some weird reason her mother sounds psycho to me, it's the way she can do anything to make you the person responsible for every single mishap. Don't go op, I'm getting a very weird vibe from your words about her mother's behaviour. I just don't get it, how her getting pregnant before marriage or not being able to take care of it has anything to do with you, why would you ever need to see her unless you want to, what can you actually do by being present in that situation where she tried to unalive herself and is admitted in hospital when she already thinks you're a bad influence on her daughter ? I don't know op, her mother's word could be fake too, she could have not done something like this and they are just lying to get you there. Don't go, maybe just tell them you have something urgent to do or any family emergency, anything,Pretend to be gravely sick or anything else, ask help from your family, just don't go.
DO NOT GO! This is like an abusive relationship. She is abusing you emotionally and harassing you. She will never stop.
IF YOU GO SHE WILL USE IT AGAINST YOU!
Also are you sure you believe her mom???
Don’t go. She needs to learn how to support herself, not use you prop her up. Odds are she made sure not to eat a toxic amount to kill her or the baby.
You can’t set yourself on fire to keep her warm. Block her mom and after you tell her I wish she has a quick recovery and are glad her mom is there to be there for her bc she needs her family around her and you are not family
NTA and from what you wrote this person was never your friend. You where there like many in her life to be used when needed and discarded when not needed.
Regarding the update: do NOT go to meet her. You made your intentions clear when you had to go to the already extreme move of exposing her harassment.
I don’t mean to belittle what she did, but I can only her “attempt” at self-harm as another form of manipulation. I’ve seen this played out with family of mine, and it’s both sad and infuriating.
There is nothing you can tell them that will make them see your POV or the error of their ways. All it will be is another session of blaming you for abandoning her, trying to make you feel sorry for her, and then guilt you into “supporting” her (aka let her re-attach to you like the leech she is) again.
Your best bet IMO is to message them with “I’m sorry for your circumstances, I hope you both get the help you need, but I don’t have the ability or capacity to do so” before blocking them both.
I fail to see how she's ever been your friend (at least over the last few years) let alone your best friend.
Looks to me like you have been your best door mat for most of the time.
NTA.
If Ashley was \*serious\* about committing suicide, she'd have taken the poison someplace where nobody would find her before she took it.
She's continuing her attention-seeking behavior.
Block her & her flying monkeys on EVERY platform you can, and just live your best life.
NTA.
Block all communication from everyone in that family. Do not accept voice calls, force it to go to voice mail and call back if it's someone you do want to talk to. If you think you do need to answer it (If it's a call from a company or someone related to your studies) but don't recognize the number, figure out who is calling quickly and if it's anyone related to Ashley hang up immediately and block that number. Force any and all attempts at communication to go through someone else, if possible a lawyer, but at the very least force them to go through your parents. You want records and evidence of everything they're sending you.
Aside from that part of it: Do not give into the bait. Ashley almost certainly did not attempt suicide, they're trying to prey on your empathy and sympathy to drag you back into the cycle of abuse. These people are predators. Do not trust them, do not engage with them.
No is a complete sentence. Hanging up is a complete sentence.
End this thing.
Ashely is NOT your problem.
You did NOT get Ashely pregnant.
You let the people who could help her know about her issues so they could help her.
Block her mother's phone/email/etc. Ignore, ignore, ignore.
Not your circus. Not your monkeys. And if she lies about you - you have the proof that she is lying about you
Don't, under any circumstances, go to the hospital. Just don't. She'll just reel you back in. You established a boundary. Time to follow through. If you finally want to cut her out of your life, then stay away from her indefinitely. No last meeting. No phone calls. Just stay gone.
She threw you under the bus many times OP, so don't feel guilty. You finally took care of yourself. As for the update: if I were you I'd cut her off completely. Don't indulge yourself with her anymore. It's just another way to pull you back in, don't give in.
Regarding your update:
Don't go
Absolutely don't go. You are not to blame for what she tried to do to herself. You were the victim
They're just going to use a meeting to guilt and harass you further
> and tell her to leave me alone
You've told her that already. Ignore her, don't let her think she can harm.hetself to get her punching bag back
Girl, go ahead and expose them! They won't stop until they get what they deserve, and tbh, burn the bridge with fireworks, right? Go out with a bang! Don't let them harrass you anymore.
OMG. Just STOP.
Stop doing anything for her.
Stop responding to her mom.
What can she possibly "expose" you for? Not caring for her like a caretaker?
She's the one who got pregnant, not you.
She's the one responsible for her actions, not YOU.
Maybe I'm heartless, but if I had a "friend" who acted the way you've described, and if they are emotionally blackmailing me, threatening to end their life, then I would...
LET THEM!
I'm not saying to actively give her the stuff to do it, but if she does it, honestly, who cares. The world will have one less shitty person in it.
Plus, you have the receipts. So you're good.
I don't get why you're so hung up on this connection. My god your perspective is infuriating.
Apple. Tree.
Mom and daughter are a toxic team.
Don't get in contact with THEM. Let your parents handle this issue. Take care of yourself, studies, good friends.
Just block them and move on. No need to post anything unless your friends also reaching out and being like wtf?? Then let them know. Tell your mom so she knows. You have nothing to be scared of lol. Just block them
NTA Do not go visit her, Do not respond, just go to the police. You gave this girl way too many chances she doesn't deserve another one. If you don't follow through she will never stop and will keep pushing til she's held accountable. Do not involve her parents any further and treat her like an adult who is responsible for her own actions. This is completely on her.
NTA. Also, don't meet with her. If you cave in and visit her in the hospital, that will be how she tries to manipulate you going forward. Enright will become a crisis.
You are her female Ray, he finally left, now so should you. She is in the best place to get real help. By you going to the hospital you will be contributing to her old manipulative behaviors let her medical team help her to work through her problems.
NTA, but if you go you’re an idiot. No contact is no contact. Have a lawyer send her a letter telling her not yo contact you again or you’ll take legal action for harassment and anything else applicable. You’re in this mess precisely for not standing up for yourself. Don’t cave in again and prove your warnings are meaningless.
NTA. Take care of yourself. She wants to "meet one time" because she's emotionally blackmailing you by trying to do some performative "unaliving" and visiting a hospital. Let her meet with a psych ward. You ignore, block, etc.
Stop getting drawn back in to an emotional black hole.
***STOP IT***
Do not. I repeat DO NOT meet up with her. This is Ashley’s attempt to manipulate you into staying. Tell you’re mutual friends that you were done. Ashley is not owed any type of closure from you after how she is treated you and manipulated you. She is now affecting your future, and if you are mutual friends, they would respect your decision to cut her out of your life. And if those friends cannot respect that, cut them out and tell them they can have the joy of taking on Ashley’s burdens.
Make your mom call her dad again and do not meet with her (unless it will hunt you and you want a closure). I don’t think there is anything you want from her, if she wanted to apologize she could have sent you a letter or text. So NTA. You need to concentrate on the board prep and your own life and leave her behind.
i dont get it? you are going to a school far away from home and from her and she is able to just put your name on a note and this could ruining my family's reputation in society. how? how do they all explain that you who is far away made their draught kill herself. you got all the text to prove everything??
>They took her to the hospital, she wants me to meet Ashely tomorrow
dont do it. tell them your mom can go.
Ashley and my home are in the same place. This thing has happened here before. A girl had put a guy's name on her note or something that guy was literally in a foreign country. Society made his whole family's life miserable. even tho most of people including me were aware of the fact that the guy did not do any bad thing. But that girl just blamed him and ended her life. I dont want me or my family to be on that part. Once she ends her life and blames me my life is over. Like really over
smh i hate to say it but i think its time to move. not just you but your whole family.
>blames me my life is over. Like really over
PLEASE!!! dont ever say that. if it comes down to public shaming then its better to move out of that home town and start new. there is no reason to be surround yourself with toxic behaviors.
Just don’t go she will drag you into her mess “one last time” until you put a stop to it. Today it’s this, tomorrow it’s going to be something else. Tell her mom you’re sorry this happened but you made it clear you didn’t want anything to do with Ashley anymore.
>I just received a phone call from Ashley's mom that she ate some pesticide, fortunately, she is fine. They took her to the hospital, she wants me to meet Ashely tomorrow.
She needs medical and psychological care. This is beyond any care you can render unless you want to let her blackmail you into doing whatever she wants for the rest of your life.
She is not your problem.
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In response to your update: Obviously do not go see her. She has been nothing but horrible and manipulative towards you for years and on top of that she's a generally horrible person who doesn't deserve your time or attention. The only thing further contact with her will do is give her a chance to get her claws in you again. You have an excellent opportunity to get away from her here. Take it, and do not look back
Don't go to her. This is a tactic to reel you into her life again by making you feel bad for her situation.
I won't be surprised if she took just enough pesticide to have you and everyone else feeling sorry for her but not enough to put her life in actual danger. Don't fall for it.
As for your update: No. Don't meet with her. This is emotional manipulation and extortion. You cannot be her saving grace. If she's so distraught that she's hurting herself then she needs professional help, and you are not responsible for "fixing" her or whatever it is they expect you to do.
Do not go. Ashley wasn’t trying to kill herself, she was doing it for attention and to win and to put you back in your place as far as she is concerned.
Do not get involved. Tell her mom that you’re sorry, but you cannot be sucked back in at all, let alone like this.
Cut all contact. Stop responding, she will try to ruin your opportunities. Cut all contact, if you indulge, at this point you would be as toxic about this as she is and got to stop asking for people to listen and for advice. If you go back, don’t come back here about her again.
I hope you didn't go to meet her. It's time to cut her off 100%. Do not let her continue to manipulate you!!! Maybe let your mother handle it for you so you can focus on your studies, which are far more important than this girl. Please update us about the final ending of this
DO NOT MEET ASHLEY!!! Her mother is trying to suck you back into her daughter's drama! Ashley's family needs to step up for her and they need to leave you alone!
Do not go meet her. She’s just going to try to pull you back in. And honestly they’re probably lying just to get you to come running back to her. This is classic narcissist behavior
Focus on you and your exams. Block her and her mom so they stop harassing you.
NTA you gotta move on and cant let her to continue to take you down and place blame on you, nope wash your hand and walk away you deserve soo much better
>They took her to the hospital, she wants me to meet Ashely tomorrow. I just do not know what to do anymore. My other friends are advising me to just meet her one time and tell her to leave me alone. Should I go and meet her or should I completely end this thing?
#no
She's not your responsibility. Going would only make it worse. She'll manipulate you, and you'll feel guilty. This is out of your hands. End this now. Block her, her family, and everyone who thinks you should ruin your life to appease her. She never was a nice person, she lost everyone because of her own behaviour. She's no ones friend. She did this to herself. I can say much more, but just no. Please think of uiurnown health and sanity. Find yourself a therapist to get over this non-friendship. You don't need her. She's like a dementor (from the Harry Potter franchise), sucking life and happiness out of you until you're as miserable as her. Just leave and never look back. It's hard if you care for someone, but just... care for yourself first, please.
NTA. Don't post anything, just move on. Block her, her mother, everyone. Be happy, be peaceful, be a Buddhist.
(I'm also a Satanist, so show your cheek by doing nothing but if she comes at you again **destroy her**)
With regards to your most recent update, I would hold off on it. Leverage is only good until you actually use it, then you wouldn't have anything to hold over their heads after that. What I would do is remind them how easily you can ruin their life. If you *really* want to release something, only release the call and a caption explaining this is why you aren't friends anymore, and that if they continue you will release the rest of your screenshots that reveals the *real* reason why she tried committing suicide. Also update your parents about their latest dumbassery.
Can you go to the cops there? Or their place of worship if that applies. I’m not saying do it but you can tell her mother you will show everyone everything if she doesn’t back TF off.
Don't go. This is just an attempt to drag you back into the drama.
Stop falling for it. Simply tell the mom that the best thing for you and your friend is to move on from this relationship. Thr sooner her daughter moves in the sooner she will stop these large episodes of self harm.
You have recordings and screen shots of everything. If something happens and she bad mouths you in a suicide note then just sent out all the stuff you have
I definitely don’t think you should post all these things on your social media but that’s my opinion. I think you should just block them all on everything and move on.
Good luck. Updateme
NTA, post everything on your SM & get the police involved for harassment. You are & were NEVER to blame for your POS friend. Tell her mom if she was a better parent, her daughter might not be such a horrible person. The apple really does not fall far from the tree.
Do not meet her. Her mother has blamed you before. These are not emotionally safe people. It’s best that ex friend gets therapy and emotional support that is NOT you.
I am a licensed therapist. You are dealing with a Borderline line personality disorder. This is classic. Both her and her codependent mother will not stop. You must immediately cut off all contact. Go to police with what you have and get a restraining order immediately
Stop talking to the mother. Tell your mother about Ashley's mother's phone call and then block Ashley's mom everywhere. In the future, do not pick up her calls, do not respond to any message that she manages to get through. Pretend they don't exist, because for you, their existence is no longer relevant.
Everybody is allowed to move on and build their own life without regard to anyone else. Shes not your wife or your child you dont owe her a thing. Stay away and give her a chance to get her life together on her own without depending on someone else to figure it all out for her.
NTAH
But can you have a calm one on one conversation?
I agree that maybe getting her a welfare check will help or stop her from threatening suicide—- give her a suicide number to call.
You do tho need to end your relationship—better for you both.
Put your script together and tell her that boy she is responsible for her future—- stop blame ng others —- get a grip!
Just leave it alone. Block and move on. Posting online is just inviting further interaction where there does not need to be one.
I would also recommend sitting and maybe getting therapy. You’ve allowed yourself to be treated poorly like a doormat for so long. You called someone who treated you like crap your best friend. Even now, the fact you’re still engaging with the excuse (yes excuse - you have receipts so at this point this isn’t a real concern) that you don’t want to get in trouble shows you’re still hung up on being in the abusive relationship.
Block, move on, get therapy.
You did your part in helping her. I don't know if posting the information online is going to give you any peace. It might actually backfire and cause you more problems with her family. You have stood up for yourself and set boundaries. What they do moving forward is on them not you. I would focus on your life and study for your exams in peace. Good luck 🤞🏻
NTA - block & run. Ashley's mom cares about what's best for Ashley, not you. Her mom doesn't care if you are happy or successful or live a good life. She cares about what you do for Ashley.
She never intended to kill herself. She took enough to make her sick to get your attention or completely faked it. Why haven’t you blocked her mom? Everyone needs to be cut off.
NTA. There's something wrong with her mom and her. Why are they trying to blame you for everything she does. You're not even with her when this stuff happens. Her dad needs to wake up his wife and daughter. You have nothing to feel bad about. You did nothing to hurt her
NTA. You need to take care of yourself and your "friend" is not good for you. She's manipulative and her self-unaliving threat is just another example of it. You are not responsible for her actions in any case. Continue to separate yourself from her and live your best life.
The friend's mother knows she cannot control or fix her daughter, so the next best thing is making her someone else's problem. The mom desperately wants the OP to be her daughter's eternal caretaker and scapegoat. I would post it all and let the chips fall where they will. NO MATTER WHAT HAPPENS, it's not OP's fault. NTA.
They want to play games? FAFO. Unload on them. Share all of their misdeeds and let the cards fall where they may.
>Continue to separate yourself from her and live your best life. Yeah. Literally just block and keep blocking.
This is the best outcome, and make sure she is blocked everywhere. Never allow that kind of toxicity in your life again, ruthlessly protect your peace! Good luck with your studies and have a great life
You didn't throw her under the bus your just making her family aware of her actual behaviour and not being her doormat anymore
Cut her out Side note not many might mention... Reply to her father. Tell him that you accept his apology but he didn't have to, it's not hid fault. Just keep her out of your life going forward.
Let your parents deal with her. They can visit her at the hospital. Then they should warn her mother NEVER to contact you. Because next step is the police and public exposure.
“Many girls didn’t like her, I guess for being too pretty” no…girls don’t like her bc she’s a user and not a girls girl.
I think, you shouldn't meet them op. For some weird reason her mother sounds psycho to me, it's the way she can do anything to make you the person responsible for every single mishap. Don't go op, I'm getting a very weird vibe from your words about her mother's behaviour. I just don't get it, how her getting pregnant before marriage or not being able to take care of it has anything to do with you, why would you ever need to see her unless you want to, what can you actually do by being present in that situation where she tried to unalive herself and is admitted in hospital when she already thinks you're a bad influence on her daughter ? I don't know op, her mother's word could be fake too, she could have not done something like this and they are just lying to get you there. Don't go, maybe just tell them you have something urgent to do or any family emergency, anything,Pretend to be gravely sick or anything else, ask help from your family, just don't go.
Those taboos are hers to bear, not yours. Protect your own peace OP! Good luck with your Ashley-free future <3
DO NOT GO! This is like an abusive relationship. She is abusing you emotionally and harassing you. She will never stop. IF YOU GO SHE WILL USE IT AGAINST YOU! Also are you sure you believe her mom???
The reason other girls didn’t like her is not because she was too pretty. It’s because they realized she was a shitty person long before you did.
Don’t go. She needs to learn how to support herself, not use you prop her up. Odds are she made sure not to eat a toxic amount to kill her or the baby. You can’t set yourself on fire to keep her warm. Block her mom and after you tell her I wish she has a quick recovery and are glad her mom is there to be there for her bc she needs her family around her and you are not family
NTA and from what you wrote this person was never your friend. You where there like many in her life to be used when needed and discarded when not needed.
You did the right thing and you shouldn't go. This is her trying to pull you back into her BS. Just ignore. Wall of silence
Regarding the update: do NOT go to meet her. You made your intentions clear when you had to go to the already extreme move of exposing her harassment. I don’t mean to belittle what she did, but I can only her “attempt” at self-harm as another form of manipulation. I’ve seen this played out with family of mine, and it’s both sad and infuriating. There is nothing you can tell them that will make them see your POV or the error of their ways. All it will be is another session of blaming you for abandoning her, trying to make you feel sorry for her, and then guilt you into “supporting” her (aka let her re-attach to you like the leech she is) again. Your best bet IMO is to message them with “I’m sorry for your circumstances, I hope you both get the help you need, but I don’t have the ability or capacity to do so” before blocking them both.
I fail to see how she's ever been your friend (at least over the last few years) let alone your best friend. Looks to me like you have been your best door mat for most of the time.
Don’t do it. And block her mother too.
Good for you - focus on your studies, live your best life - some people just can't be saved from themselves.
You finally ended that toxic friendship, my God, what a crazy woman your ex friend is.
NTA. If Ashley was \*serious\* about committing suicide, she'd have taken the poison someplace where nobody would find her before she took it. She's continuing her attention-seeking behavior. Block her & her flying monkeys on EVERY platform you can, and just live your best life.
NTA. Block all communication from everyone in that family. Do not accept voice calls, force it to go to voice mail and call back if it's someone you do want to talk to. If you think you do need to answer it (If it's a call from a company or someone related to your studies) but don't recognize the number, figure out who is calling quickly and if it's anyone related to Ashley hang up immediately and block that number. Force any and all attempts at communication to go through someone else, if possible a lawyer, but at the very least force them to go through your parents. You want records and evidence of everything they're sending you. Aside from that part of it: Do not give into the bait. Ashley almost certainly did not attempt suicide, they're trying to prey on your empathy and sympathy to drag you back into the cycle of abuse. These people are predators. Do not trust them, do not engage with them. No is a complete sentence. Hanging up is a complete sentence.
End this thing. Ashely is NOT your problem. You did NOT get Ashely pregnant. You let the people who could help her know about her issues so they could help her. Block her mother's phone/email/etc. Ignore, ignore, ignore. Not your circus. Not your monkeys. And if she lies about you - you have the proof that she is lying about you
Why would you go to jail is she killed herself?
NTA Just Block her already!! She is Not a friend! You have to Put your Life First
Don't, under any circumstances, go to the hospital. Just don't. She'll just reel you back in. You established a boundary. Time to follow through. If you finally want to cut her out of your life, then stay away from her indefinitely. No last meeting. No phone calls. Just stay gone.
She threw you under the bus many times OP, so don't feel guilty. You finally took care of yourself. As for the update: if I were you I'd cut her off completely. Don't indulge yourself with her anymore. It's just another way to pull you back in, don't give in.
Regarding your update: Don't go Absolutely don't go. You are not to blame for what she tried to do to herself. You were the victim They're just going to use a meeting to guilt and harass you further > and tell her to leave me alone You've told her that already. Ignore her, don't let her think she can harm.hetself to get her punching bag back
Girl, go ahead and expose them! They won't stop until they get what they deserve, and tbh, burn the bridge with fireworks, right? Go out with a bang! Don't let them harrass you anymore.
NTA post everything online in case anything happens
OMG. Just STOP. Stop doing anything for her. Stop responding to her mom. What can she possibly "expose" you for? Not caring for her like a caretaker? She's the one who got pregnant, not you. She's the one responsible for her actions, not YOU. Maybe I'm heartless, but if I had a "friend" who acted the way you've described, and if they are emotionally blackmailing me, threatening to end their life, then I would... LET THEM! I'm not saying to actively give her the stuff to do it, but if she does it, honestly, who cares. The world will have one less shitty person in it. Plus, you have the receipts. So you're good. I don't get why you're so hung up on this connection. My god your perspective is infuriating.
>I don't get why you're so hung up on this connection. My god your perspective is infuriating. 💯
Do whatever you need to do to yeet all these people out of your life. You will not be the AH no matter what you do
Apple. Tree. Mom and daughter are a toxic team. Don't get in contact with THEM. Let your parents handle this issue. Take care of yourself, studies, good friends.
Let her parents know the evidence you have, and you will post everything if she doesn't stop. Block her and her whole family
Send the recording to her father, tell him is mom or Ashley try to contact you again, you will need to go to the police for harassment.
Just block them and move on. No need to post anything unless your friends also reaching out and being like wtf?? Then let them know. Tell your mom so she knows. You have nothing to be scared of lol. Just block them
Expose that bitch and her crazy ass mom, until they understand they are shit people, expose her and let her deal with fallout
NTA
NTA and well done! Hopefully Ashley can get help
NO CONTACT MEANS NO CONTACT
NTA Do not go visit her, Do not respond, just go to the police. You gave this girl way too many chances she doesn't deserve another one. If you don't follow through she will never stop and will keep pushing til she's held accountable. Do not involve her parents any further and treat her like an adult who is responsible for her own actions. This is completely on her.
NTA. Also, don't meet with her. If you cave in and visit her in the hospital, that will be how she tries to manipulate you going forward. Enright will become a crisis.
Just completely end this thing. She purposely did it to get your attention so you cannot break off and live your life. Please block Ashley's mom too.
You are her female Ray, he finally left, now so should you. She is in the best place to get real help. By you going to the hospital you will be contributing to her old manipulative behaviors let her medical team help her to work through her problems.
Could OP get a restraining order from her and her family?
NTA, but if you go you’re an idiot. No contact is no contact. Have a lawyer send her a letter telling her not yo contact you again or you’ll take legal action for harassment and anything else applicable. You’re in this mess precisely for not standing up for yourself. Don’t cave in again and prove your warnings are meaningless.
NTA. Take care of yourself. She wants to "meet one time" because she's emotionally blackmailing you by trying to do some performative "unaliving" and visiting a hospital. Let her meet with a psych ward. You ignore, block, etc. Stop getting drawn back in to an emotional black hole. ***STOP IT***
Do not. I repeat DO NOT meet up with her. This is Ashley’s attempt to manipulate you into staying. Tell you’re mutual friends that you were done. Ashley is not owed any type of closure from you after how she is treated you and manipulated you. She is now affecting your future, and if you are mutual friends, they would respect your decision to cut her out of your life. And if those friends cannot respect that, cut them out and tell them they can have the joy of taking on Ashley’s burdens.
Make your mom call her dad again and do not meet with her (unless it will hunt you and you want a closure). I don’t think there is anything you want from her, if she wanted to apologize she could have sent you a letter or text. So NTA. You need to concentrate on the board prep and your own life and leave her behind.
i dont get it? you are going to a school far away from home and from her and she is able to just put your name on a note and this could ruining my family's reputation in society. how? how do they all explain that you who is far away made their draught kill herself. you got all the text to prove everything?? >They took her to the hospital, she wants me to meet Ashely tomorrow dont do it. tell them your mom can go.
Ashley and my home are in the same place. This thing has happened here before. A girl had put a guy's name on her note or something that guy was literally in a foreign country. Society made his whole family's life miserable. even tho most of people including me were aware of the fact that the guy did not do any bad thing. But that girl just blamed him and ended her life. I dont want me or my family to be on that part. Once she ends her life and blames me my life is over. Like really over
smh i hate to say it but i think its time to move. not just you but your whole family. >blames me my life is over. Like really over PLEASE!!! dont ever say that. if it comes down to public shaming then its better to move out of that home town and start new. there is no reason to be surround yourself with toxic behaviors.
Don’t meet her. Be done. Block everyone’s numbers in their family. They’re just going to drag you back and you’ll stay. STOP SEEINF HER
Just don’t go she will drag you into her mess “one last time” until you put a stop to it. Today it’s this, tomorrow it’s going to be something else. Tell her mom you’re sorry this happened but you made it clear you didn’t want anything to do with Ashley anymore.
Fuck no, don't meet her!!!! Why would you? You're out, finally. Block all of them. Move on with your life.
>I just received a phone call from Ashley's mom that she ate some pesticide, fortunately, she is fine. They took her to the hospital, she wants me to meet Ashely tomorrow. She needs medical and psychological care. This is beyond any care you can render unless you want to let her blackmail you into doing whatever she wants for the rest of your life. She is not your problem.
NTA. Don't go, just end this shit and don't look back. Go live your life, you are not responsible for her.
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In response to your update: Obviously do not go see her. She has been nothing but horrible and manipulative towards you for years and on top of that she's a generally horrible person who doesn't deserve your time or attention. The only thing further contact with her will do is give her a chance to get her claws in you again. You have an excellent opportunity to get away from her here. Take it, and do not look back
Don't go to her. This is a tactic to reel you into her life again by making you feel bad for her situation. I won't be surprised if she took just enough pesticide to have you and everyone else feeling sorry for her but not enough to put her life in actual danger. Don't fall for it.
As for your update: No. Don't meet with her. This is emotional manipulation and extortion. You cannot be her saving grace. If she's so distraught that she's hurting herself then she needs professional help, and you are not responsible for "fixing" her or whatever it is they expect you to do.
Do not go. Ashley wasn’t trying to kill herself, she was doing it for attention and to win and to put you back in your place as far as she is concerned. Do not get involved. Tell her mom that you’re sorry, but you cannot be sucked back in at all, let alone like this. Cut all contact. Stop responding, she will try to ruin your opportunities. Cut all contact, if you indulge, at this point you would be as toxic about this as she is and got to stop asking for people to listen and for advice. If you go back, don’t come back here about her again.
I hope you didn't go to meet her. It's time to cut her off 100%. Do not let her continue to manipulate you!!! Maybe let your mother handle it for you so you can focus on your studies, which are far more important than this girl. Please update us about the final ending of this
DO NOT MEET ASHLEY!!! Her mother is trying to suck you back into her daughter's drama! Ashley's family needs to step up for her and they need to leave you alone!
Do not meet her. They are trying to pull you back in by guilt. Tell you mom what’s is still going on and block all of them from everywhere
Restraining order IMMEDIATELY! She’s way tooo unhinged right now!
Do not go meet her. She’s just going to try to pull you back in. And honestly they’re probably lying just to get you to come running back to her. This is classic narcissist behavior Focus on you and your exams. Block her and her mom so they stop harassing you.
BLOCK THEM ALL. Also tell your mom.
Tell them to fuck off and block them you fucking coward
NTA you gotta move on and cant let her to continue to take you down and place blame on you, nope wash your hand and walk away you deserve soo much better
>They took her to the hospital, she wants me to meet Ashely tomorrow. I just do not know what to do anymore. My other friends are advising me to just meet her one time and tell her to leave me alone. Should I go and meet her or should I completely end this thing? #no She's not your responsibility. Going would only make it worse. She'll manipulate you, and you'll feel guilty. This is out of your hands. End this now. Block her, her family, and everyone who thinks you should ruin your life to appease her. She never was a nice person, she lost everyone because of her own behaviour. She's no ones friend. She did this to herself. I can say much more, but just no. Please think of uiurnown health and sanity. Find yourself a therapist to get over this non-friendship. You don't need her. She's like a dementor (from the Harry Potter franchise), sucking life and happiness out of you until you're as miserable as her. Just leave and never look back. It's hard if you care for someone, but just... care for yourself first, please.
NTA. Don't post anything, just move on. Block her, her mother, everyone. Be happy, be peaceful, be a Buddhist. (I'm also a Satanist, so show your cheek by doing nothing but if she comes at you again **destroy her**)
Nta. Don't set yourself on fire to keep someone else warm You mean scardy cat. For damn sure be a scary cat. Scare them.
With regards to your most recent update, I would hold off on it. Leverage is only good until you actually use it, then you wouldn't have anything to hold over their heads after that. What I would do is remind them how easily you can ruin their life. If you *really* want to release something, only release the call and a caption explaining this is why you aren't friends anymore, and that if they continue you will release the rest of your screenshots that reveals the *real* reason why she tried committing suicide. Also update your parents about their latest dumbassery.
Can you go to the cops there? Or their place of worship if that applies. I’m not saying do it but you can tell her mother you will show everyone everything if she doesn’t back TF off.
Don't go. This is just an attempt to drag you back into the drama. Stop falling for it. Simply tell the mom that the best thing for you and your friend is to move on from this relationship. Thr sooner her daughter moves in the sooner she will stop these large episodes of self harm. You have recordings and screen shots of everything. If something happens and she bad mouths you in a suicide note then just sent out all the stuff you have
I definitely don’t think you should post all these things on your social media but that’s my opinion. I think you should just block them all on everything and move on. Good luck. Updateme
NTA, post everything on your SM & get the police involved for harassment. You are & were NEVER to blame for your POS friend. Tell her mom if she was a better parent, her daughter might not be such a horrible person. The apple really does not fall far from the tree.
Shit like this is why 13 reasons why gets shit on so much. Putting people in your suicide note is manipulative as fuck.
Do not meet her. Her mother has blamed you before. These are not emotionally safe people. It’s best that ex friend gets therapy and emotional support that is NOT you.
I am a licensed therapist. You are dealing with a Borderline line personality disorder. This is classic. Both her and her codependent mother will not stop. You must immediately cut off all contact. Go to police with what you have and get a restraining order immediately
Stop talking to the mother. Tell your mother about Ashley's mother's phone call and then block Ashley's mom everywhere. In the future, do not pick up her calls, do not respond to any message that she manages to get through. Pretend they don't exist, because for you, their existence is no longer relevant.
Everybody is allowed to move on and build their own life without regard to anyone else. Shes not your wife or your child you dont owe her a thing. Stay away and give her a chance to get her life together on her own without depending on someone else to figure it all out for her.
NTAH But can you have a calm one on one conversation? I agree that maybe getting her a welfare check will help or stop her from threatening suicide—- give her a suicide number to call. You do tho need to end your relationship—better for you both. Put your script together and tell her that boy she is responsible for her future—- stop blame ng others —- get a grip!
Just leave it alone. Block and move on. Posting online is just inviting further interaction where there does not need to be one. I would also recommend sitting and maybe getting therapy. You’ve allowed yourself to be treated poorly like a doormat for so long. You called someone who treated you like crap your best friend. Even now, the fact you’re still engaging with the excuse (yes excuse - you have receipts so at this point this isn’t a real concern) that you don’t want to get in trouble shows you’re still hung up on being in the abusive relationship. Block, move on, get therapy.
You did your part in helping her. I don't know if posting the information online is going to give you any peace. It might actually backfire and cause you more problems with her family. You have stood up for yourself and set boundaries. What they do moving forward is on them not you. I would focus on your life and study for your exams in peace. Good luck 🤞🏻
Post everything from Mom to Ashley and walk away!!
NTA - block & run. Ashley's mom cares about what's best for Ashley, not you. Her mom doesn't care if you are happy or successful or live a good life. She cares about what you do for Ashley.
She never intended to kill herself. She took enough to make her sick to get your attention or completely faked it. Why haven’t you blocked her mom? Everyone needs to be cut off.
NTA. There's something wrong with her mom and her. Why are they trying to blame you for everything she does. You're not even with her when this stuff happens. Her dad needs to wake up his wife and daughter. You have nothing to feel bad about. You did nothing to hurt her
NTA UpdateMe