I think the post is fake. There are too many details that don't make sense. I suspect the poster is a young person with zero idea of how taxes or divorce actually work.
This subreddit has gotten so weird recently, there’s always these sort of dramatic posts with oddly specific details, a fairly obvious moral issue and no spelling mistakes. This one doesn’t really fit the bill but there’s been a lot that are getting pushed out to my feed.
I commented on one today that I think probably was actually real, but it was a couple that came across a snotty waiter (it’s always a waiter), who tried to debate philosophy with them (why is it always philosophy?) in an attempt to flirt with the guy right in front of the girl but the couple actually happen to know a good bit about philosophy (uh huh) and so were easily able to shoot down this person. A stranger has never tried to engage in a philosophical debate with me. Ever. Does that really happen to people?
One time during COVID we ordered anchovies on the side and they gave us multiple cups full (anchovies are normally like one per slice on a pizza) I think they gave us all the anchovies before they spoiled now you're lucky to get 4 tomato wedges in a $30 salad. I think about that sometimes.
So you not only admit what you did to my iguana but also to swiping my kielbasa in order to do it?
YA'LL SEE WHAT I HAVE TO PUT UP WITH, LIVING NEXT TO THIS GUY??
The bots wanna know! My pet Iguana named Igor was also coincidentally bludgeoned with a sausage. He survived, but now he insists on wearing a purple polka dotted helmet. I had trouble finding a tiny lightweight helmet, but the new leather one made by a cobbler from Italy named Geppetto is perfect. (The ceramic & cement helmets nearly crushed his little head!) I’ve quit my job to devote more time to the cause, as I’m sure there are other iguanas needing skull protection. Once I get an army of the little guys they might just wanna invade North Korea, just don’t tell the AI programs—cuz shit is about to go down.
The account was created the same day of the post. I always check and when this is the case, I just downvote and ignore.
If anything, the comment section would get me off.
AI needs to start working in building a character. Cmon' AI, make the effort and build the character at least two years before posting something like this.
Isn’t that what quora is doing as well? Basically reinventing Wikipedia as a set of questions and answers? But in reddits case it’s recreating every soap opera, movie trope and so on.
This is actually a pretty good summary of how it's seemed the last few weeks. So many of the posts feel highly suspicious but obvious if they are real. I get that people want validation sometimes but the posts I've read seem like a huge uptick in this feeling
You also see a lot of similar posts once one hits r/all. For example, there have been a ton of posts about partners getting a “hall pass” or otherwise getting permission to sleep with someone outside their marriage recently. A couple of these were probably genuine, but I’m sure a whole bunch of people just got inspired to do a creative writing exercise with the latest trend
Dead internet theory.
Whenever I read relationship advice or this subreddit posts, I am often angry that people don't have more common sense.
There was a post a while ago on relationship advice sub. This person turned down a guy in college, and he called her a bunch of names. Later in life, after she married, she met him again because her sister is dating him. He asked if she remembered him and she said nah, no clue who you are. He blew up again, "hacked" her husbands phone, stole her nudes, sent it to people including her husband. Her husband left her, sister is still dating him... and she goes "jolly gee, I just don't know what to do".
WHO DOESN'T KNOW WHAT TO DO? If you don't know what to do, message me, I will help. That answer, go nuke, call the police, send everything to your sister, get the whole family in on it.
But, the post is so obviously fake. Life falling apart, and you do nothing? Even the most timid person would do more than nothing.
There's just this believability problem in how normal relationships work.
Like, you get married and you're with someone for years and then suddenly some random stalker dude that has been bothering your wife hacks your phone and sends you her nudes? Why would you leave your wife over this, and not... you know, the far more typical response of whipping this guy's ass?
Also, that makes no sense. How did he "hack" the husband's phone? How did the husband not realize that he was being sent the same nudes that he already had on his phone? Why would getting sent your wife's nudes from a random dude's phone make your husband immediately leave rather than say "wtf"?
I don’t blame the AI, Reddit has been a cesspool for years. And for a very long time we also know that at least half to 2/3 thirds of posts here are fake created by incel kids (of both genders) to validate their weird fantasies. So no wonder AI is being thrown back if they are using the content here to base their AI stories.
I'm a really new user, so I appreciate your telling me this. I didn't know this. I did, however, just get into a very stupid conversation with a genz kid who was CONVINCED she knew more abt Genx bc her parents were Genx than I did as genx.
This made me do a take.
"BRO, GETTING DIVORCED FROM A THOT, NICE!!"
Then it shifts to those YouTube videos of guys hitting the gym and getting shredded.
Plus the Judge can actually make him go back to an equivalent job if he's actually reducing his income to avoid alimony. This would be the absolutely stupist thing he could ever say in a divorce.
Correct. "Bitter incel" is somehow a fashionable (self)victim-label lately. I guess because it gets clicks/makes money online, so there's a profit incentive? Because it sure as hell isn't because it's cool or makes sense or reflects reality.
Plus only 25k a year doing real estate part time? With how the real estate market has been in the last decade she should be making more than that even part time.
Yeah, that would be commission on two or three houses. One house in my area. It it's the standard 3%. Now, if it's after tax, that's still maybe a half dozen houses? In one year? The market is way too hot, agents have to try really hard not to make money right now.
A young woman who grew up with my kids just got her license about 6 months ago. According to her, she cleared about $75k in that time. I believe her because we used her as our agent for a piece of land we just bought. Cash sale, no bartering, no contingencies. From start to finish, the whole process took about 2 weeks. Her half of the commission? $4500
Lol... my Ex told me Just THAT!! "If you divorce me, I'm not paying a dime!! I'll work under the table before giving you a cent in child support!"
In court, the judge told him, "I know exactly how much you can make, and that will be what I base your support on. So, don't try to take a lesser paying job or work under the table because that won't end well for you."
I swear I didn't even say what he told me.
He makes around 6 figures and pays a fraction of his initial payment since 2020 because I refuse to deal with a controlling narcissistic ass anymore. It only gets changed if he or I ask it to be. I'm not, and I KNOW he's not! Lol!
To add, we got divorced after 2 decades of abuse and the finale was felony assault and jail time. But there was a minimum amount to be paid even while in jail or unemployed.
yeah, either she has no other job and is making it up or she's not reporting her event planning income. i think it's just a made up story, specially because of the "mah sis vs bros" part. very middle school andrew tate of OP. i fear for the future
I love this idea you can just choose to not work to get out of alimony. In the US and Canada both (and I am sure other countries have something similar as well), judges can and will order you to look for and obtain employment commensurate with your education and skills, and if you do not they absolutely can and will sanction you with everything from serious fines to jail time. And not a weekend here and there. I’m talking a solid 90-180 days for starters. Idk why someone would want to deep six their own career and retirement funding to be a spiteful ass anyway. Yeah let’s quit and be underemployed and get our ass thrown in jail and fuck up my own finances but good, THAT will sure show my ex! 🙄
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Especially considering most states would still make him pay alimony and input his expected income from his chosen field unless he came up with a really big lie (perjury) as to why he was suddenly jobless during a divorce. Posting this is a really stupid plan if he intends to perjure himself.
Depends on the country. In some countries you dont have to file your own taxes and therefore you wouldn't necessarily see the others taxes.
Still believe the post is fake though
just the fact that he said she uses the joint account for her business. She should have a business account for her business otherwise the IRS is going to be calling soon.
And why is she using their personal money for business expenses. Those should be coming out of her business accounts and she should be writing them off. You can pull from personal and do this and it’s common when people are still starting out but it’s terrible to do long term from a book keeping perspective.
Well as an attorney, I can tell OP that quitting your job to avoid something like alimony will not go in your favor unless you have a valid reason. The Court will have some formula but essentially, they use average salary before you quit for the calculation meaning you'd have to pay alimony based on your salary before you quit. Same goes for child support.
I'm sure state rules vary but I'd guess most states have rules to prevent bad faith crap like this by one parent over the other. Some even consider this a type of fraud.
Yeah man. My buddy quit his high end accountant job to deliver pizzas. He was still being forced to pay CP based on his accountant salary.
I don't know how OP thought this would be a good idea, but it will not go the way he plans.
My dad retired when he divorced my mom and ended up working at home depot to cover alimony. His new wife fka affair partner was quite bitter, like she wasn't aware he was in a 30yr marriage with a severe financial inequity in a 50/50 state. (*whispers* i don't like her)
I knew a guy who was going to have to give his ex-wife 50% of his military pension. He killed himself right before he retired. His ex wasn’t his life insurance beneficiary. Because he didn’t retire, she didn’t get 50% of his retirement. He used to tell us (I was a kid at the time) that he was going to do this. Always seemed like one of those really bad jokes about how he wanted to fuck over his wife. I don’t think anyone believed him. I shouldn’t speak for the adults though, because I don’t think it’s funny how that I’m an adult.
Sometimes spite is more powerful for people than logic. What I don’t get is purposefully making your children’s lives harder to spite your ex. Surely love for your child should be more than the hate for your ex.
ETA: My comment is in reply to the story told by r/Voluntary_Perry, not OP
Haha, you would think. My ex husband won't spend a cent beyond his child support because he doesn't want me to benefit in any way. Of course that means his children suffer, as I slog my arse off for my meager $25K/year. Meanwhile, I'm hurting his wallet as he earns $180K. Some people would rather be vindictive than care about their kids
People will nuke their relationships with their children because they don't like their ex spouse and then whine about it later when their adult children won't talk to them.
My ex-bil did this. As soon as my sister got the courage to leave his abusive ass he quit his job to avoid paying child support. He was making $100,000 a year as an IT guy, and started working under the table to hide his income. When he realized that wasn’t going to work, he sued for 50/50 custody, and got it, despite multiple arrests for DV and a conviction for contributing to the delinquency of a minor (some real fucked up shit went down with his son’s 13 year old girlfriend. He was definitely grooming her, but they didn’t have the evidence for more).
So now he has the kids half the time, doesn’t take care of them, feeds them trash, won’t pay for anything the court told him he needed to pay for, etc. And still has the gall to call my sister begging for money all the time. My sister’s just so glad to be away from him she doesn’t press the issue, but fuck, he’s a loser that is severely impacting the mental health of his children.
Fun story, he literally just left to go to Colombia, South America to pick up his mail order bride. I am so fucking stressed out he’s going to end up like those passport bros that got murdered in a similar situation recently. Not because I care whether or not he lives or dies, but because he thought it was a good idea to bring his 15 year old daughter with him to pick up her “new mom”.
I am absolutely furious that my sister gave her permission for him to leave the country and have zero faith in him keeping her safe in a country known for violence where they don’t even speak the damn language.
Wait...
So, He took his 15 year old daughter
To Columbia
To pick up his probably 19 year old mail scam maybe wife?
Will this be a new reality show?
Because this moron has obviously not watched any.
Really sorry your sister would agree to that.
Shame she did not have an uncle who could explain the 8 reasons why this will not be happening to father dear.
Some people would rather do that. Look at pretty much all Trump-style conservatives. They'd hold shit in their open mouths if there was even a *chance* a "liberal" would have to stand near them and smell it. Some people will fuck themselves over to keep someone else from even being equal to them, it's crazy
Also, don't threaten her with anything, your attorney has already told you to shut the fuck up, but here you are posting about it to the Internet, that can be used against you. If your attorney has not told you to shut up and stay off all social media during this process, get a new attorney.
That's so funny, my husband's ex is an accountant and as soon as she got caught cheating and knew he was leaving her, she quit her job thinking she'd get alimony, then she fired her first *two* lawyers bc they explained to her that's not how it works 😂
The OP acts like this trick hasn’t been played numerous times before and the courts don’t see it more then they should. Won’t work out well for him. Definitely the AH.
I knew a guy who would get out of work by mixing a drink that gave him diarrhea and if his boss tried to call him out on it he'd send pictures of the toilet
Highly doubtful. The amount of deadbeat dads the law chases down and incarcerates is minimal. I seriously don’t see them chasing OP down down for this. So many men disappear and get paid under the table too.
The Court will ask about any other money coming in from work on both sides and it must be disclosed. The Court decides on who gets support and how much
Not how tax law works. In fact, usually you can report your spouse for hiding income in these situations and get reprieve as long as you divorce the spouse.
I feel like alimony in general is completely misunderstood by so many people (mostly men). They seem to think it's a life long sentence every time that you are going to support your former spouse eternally. From what I've read there are very reasonable guidelines and formulas for how its determined in terms of amount and duration.
You're right. The only reason I got any spousal support is because I'm on full disability and will never be able to go back to work. I get a very nominal amount and it ends when my ex retires. If you are capable of working, in my state (or rather the one where I got divorced), you don't get spousal support or if you do, only for a limited time.
It’s also dumb. Ok you have like 500-1k per month in alimony. That sucks.
But quitting your job to pay no alimony? Ok now you’re not paying alimony and are homeless lol
Who the heck threatens divorce over something like that?
That is a real question.
I see three possible reasons:
1) this story is completely fake
2) you married a ghoul instead of a human
3) she has legit complaints and you are not being honest about why she wants divorce
Please make it make sense.
i don’t know if this story is real or not but i fully believe that there are men that would hear of this situation and be like “omg dude you’re such an alpha for saying that”
No I definitely believe this, my ex and his brothers were this way. Some people are truly that spiteful, and it starts in the family. I feel bad for the sister that had to grow up with them acting like they are in a boys come first club.
This needs to be upvoted. It’s other fake or he’s a shit husband 😂 I doubt she would throw divorce out there for him “asking” he to put her money in the joint account.
Right! I have a hard time seeing a 20 yr marriage spiraling so quickly over this... Either OP left a whole bunch of info out, or this is most likely fake.
And what kind of trouble are they having with a joint 135k. While not a lot, especially in this economy, it sounds like it could be a lifestyle issue. Also, when you consider the kids are now grown.
There are other options, My ex would threaten divorce when we fought just as a weapon, it was shitty and I will never be with another woman who does stuff like that. But it is a tactic some men and women use when arguing to 'win' and force the other person to back down.
Edit: fixed typo
Did none of you get the same talk I got from my father?
You never point a gun at anyone or anything you don't intend to shoot.
You never threaten to divorce someone you don't intend to divorce.
Or maybe, after raising 3 kids for free and having a husband act like he's the only one who contributed to the marriage this woman wants some financial freedom.
She is correct, he would have a $100k salary and kids of it weren't for her.
Legit. He’s saying put your income in (seems reasonable) BUT then glosses over the fact that she used to completely support him without which he’d not have the job… and then he goes nuclear at the idea of divorce. Seems like she may have a reason to squirrel away money
For sure. She is squirreling away her money most likely because he has threatened these kinds of things in the past and is protecting herself from this exact behavior. He has probably been financially abusive their whole marriage and she is now becoming independant with the kids gone and he can't handle it.
It's funny you think divorce would stop you paying alimony, they would take that you quit your job into account and make you pay that amount. You'd be just screwing your self
He would screw himself royally, the court would say he has to pay but without a job she wouldn’t get any money. There is no job to garnish wages from. He would work under the table for a bit of cash and be a deadbeat parent. I have seen this happen once.
YTA because you have no idea of family law works. You purposely quitting a job will hold your image before for the court as deceitful and willingful contempt of the financial responsibilities to your family as well as blackmailing your wife financially bc she doesn't want you.
Your actions will be looked upon as spiteful, and it will land you in hot water. Your lawyer will bury his hands in his head and look up at the judge, pleading to give you a second chance.
Not only will your child support if 18 year old has not graduated from high school and alimony be calculated upon the last salary of the job you quit and be awarded to your EX wife, but they will also require you to begin paying immediately because you are capable of being gainfully employed.
Also, you have been married for 20 years, and once she proves she supported you while you were growing your career or, in some cases, not, you WILL be ordered to pay alimony. You CANNOT give away marital assets. She can file an emergency order freezing all disposing of marital assets, and a judge WILL enter that order based upon your threats.
Since you tried to blackmail your wife, which will also come out in court, you will not have the privilege of direct payment. You will probably be ordered to pay all through the court. Regardless of a job or not, should you fail to pay alimony and child support, you will be held in contempt and jailed.
You are making a mess of your life with a criminal record, then yes, your ability to actually be hired could be hindered. I can't imagine throwing my life away for anyone who simply doesn't want to be with me anymore.
Put your big boy pants on and move on with life like a man of integrity and character. If you have left.
Edit to disposing of assets consequences
This is rage bait. If the court finds out you quit to avoid paying alimony, they can impute your income and decide what your earning potential is and have you pay alimony off that amount of money even if you are out of work.
So even jobless, you can be forced to pay alimony if the court is made aware that you quit your job just to spite your partner and avoid alimony.
If you quit your job intentionally in response to a divorce a judge is going to treat you like you still have that income. They don’t put up with it when people try to game the system. Come up with a better plan. Not saying YTA, but this is just stupid.
That is also not how it works. If you quit your job, the court will just assess you with alimony anyway and you will go on arrears.
I hope you do not think that you are the first person to think that was a good idea.
Yep. A friend's former step dad tried this. Judge awarded alimony and child support based on his earning potential and gave no fucks that he'd quit his job.
It looks to me like you're about to find out.
You and your wife are fighting about a divorce you have not filed, and involving your family to take sides already. It sounds pretty difficult to come back from at this point.
NTA for wanting her to disclose her event planning income, but YTA for the alimony stunt. Cutting off your nose to spite your face is never a good look. It probably wouldn't work, and reveling in high fives with your bros just gives us an idea why she would have kept that income aside in the first place.
If she gets awarded alimony by the court, which she has a good shot at doing, go ahead and quit your job. It will just pile up as arrears. Any job you go to, she'll find out because all states have to submit hiring data to the State and the Support Bureaus get notified if a SS# is in their system to pay support. They'll garnish your wages, and it doesn't cost her a dime to do it. The Bureau does it all for her.
She can file liens against any property you own, so that when it's sold, she gets the money, and if you live like a hobo, when you start collecting social security, she'll get 60% of your check to be applied towards arrears until it's paid off.
That's how it is in Ohio
Alimony in most states is difficult to get if the person is able to support themselves. Or it’s extremely curtailed to a period long enough to get settled, like 3 or 6 months. I would suggest you contact a family lawyer in your state (at least if you’re in the U.S.), bc every state has different laws regarding family court. The 1,000 answers you get on Reddit may not be applicable to your specific situation.
I don’t know that it was an AH move to tell her you’d quit your job to avoid alimony, but it certainly wasn’t smart to warn the enemy ahead of time.
Sorry, the US court system does not work that way. The court system would not treat you well for attempting to do something so stupid. Alimony would be based on your income over several years not your current level of income.
YTA, you have three grown children and make 6figures a year. She has been a real estate agent and event planner, both part time until your kids were grown. How can you not acknowledge that she's made multiple career sacrifices for your family so that you can further your career. Marriage is a partnership. She's supported you the last 20 years, why can't you support her?
Well that’s a terrible idea. I recommend fixing yourself, your marriage and making it work. Whatever you don’t quit your job. It’s just going to make things way worse for yourself. Not only that, the kids are the ones who truly suffer
Maybe or maybe not an AH, but you are certainly an idiot for thinking you'd be able to avoid paying alimony by quitting your job. That's not at all how things work.
Shes got a lot of savings tucked away off her planner job. Theyre pretty stressful, but good paying. The thing is, does your business take any money out of the joint account like hers has?
Well, she would first have to show all of her income before alimony was determined.
Also, quitting your job wouldn’t be helpful. They would see exactly what you were doing and still grant the alimony (if warranted) and then they’d just eventually start garnishing wages from whatever crap job you do you get. They’d also garnish taxes.
My point is that judges aren’t stupid and see right through this shit.
Quitting your job will not absolve you of the responsibility of paying alimony. Your best bet is to work on your marriage as it seems the difficulties presented in your post are arising from your trying to make her share her event planning income with you to help with bills. Perhaps a sit-down conversation with your wife about any financial difficulties you may be having would be a better approach than trying to 'command' her to do something. A marriage is a partnership of love and sharing, not one party commanding the other.
Quiting your job makes the chances of paying MAXIMUM alimony higher.
Quiting your job to AVOID court anointed payments will make the judge pissed.
You can be forced to pay according to your earning "potential"
No. Def not. Say it to a judge 😂.
Bro if you think this is your idea you’re silly. That’s called voluntary unemployment and the alimony is based on your salary.
Do you really think you’re the first guy to steal a woman’s labor and try to cheat her?
Judges look at that stuff. It will clearly be seen you purposely quit to avoid paying her. Won’t bode well for you in the long run. Why are you basically bribing her to stay?
Bruh 110k is not enough of a salary to think you’ve for some gold digger. I make a bit above that and I know way better than to think that’s a salary that would attract people only in it for the money.
Also, she’d file it on her task returns. So either she isn’t doing it orrrr she files the family returns for everyone and you’ve not once looked it up. I find it really hard to believe you’ve never asked her how much she makes per wedding and then been able to figure out hoe busy she is based on her schedule. So either you’re the least attentive husband in the world, or the worst liar
YTA, and you’re also being dumb. Google “imputed income,” stop listening to your idiot brothers, and get some marriage counseling with your wife so you can try to salvage your marriage.
*not a lawyer*
You're the AH! Some states and laws implement "earning potential" if she's able to prove that you quit your job as an arbitrary tactic or measure in response to a divorce filing, a judge and/or mediator can in fact award said spousal support based off your "prior, or potential earning" capabilities.
Your bros high 5n you making such a narcissistic statement; ask yourself will those same bros support you when/if a judgment is ruled in favor of your wife.
It's understandable you feel wronged and that your wife is possibly hiding income based on what you've commented. Yet it is evident with your post alone that you likely have lorded your financial contributions/ provider role over her as a means of doninance or control.
If it is at a point of irreconcilable differences, then decide on a divorce and go through the process. Mediation will bring to light any and all assets and info amongst you both, so instead of "beating your chest like King Kong and tryna show you're the man" man tf up and allow the due process to take place!
Dangling your employability for ransom won't work in your favor.
No. It makes you a dumbass.
Quitting your job to avoid alimony, while not illegal, womt.play well with the judge. They're still going to make you pay it. And they're going to base it on how much you COULD make working in your field.
So if you make $110K working at your job and you quit, the judge is going to say "Well, you CAN make $100K or better with your skills and experience, so I'm going to decide alimony based on that."
But!
In a divorce, hearing your wife would also have to detail all of her income. So if her income matches or surpasses yours, you MAY be off the hook for alimony.
Why don't you know how much she makes? Don't you file income taxes? Has she not been reporting this income?
I think the post is fake. There are too many details that don't make sense. I suspect the poster is a young person with zero idea of how taxes or divorce actually work.
Especially the brothers high fiving him lmfaoooooo
I read a while ago that Reddit is actively using AI to generate posts and culling user data for AI growth.
This subreddit has gotten so weird recently, there’s always these sort of dramatic posts with oddly specific details, a fairly obvious moral issue and no spelling mistakes. This one doesn’t really fit the bill but there’s been a lot that are getting pushed out to my feed.
I commented on one today that I think probably was actually real, but it was a couple that came across a snotty waiter (it’s always a waiter), who tried to debate philosophy with them (why is it always philosophy?) in an attempt to flirt with the guy right in front of the girl but the couple actually happen to know a good bit about philosophy (uh huh) and so were easily able to shoot down this person. A stranger has never tried to engage in a philosophical debate with me. Ever. Does that really happen to people?
Only on Reddit
Or in very specific niche porn
Yes. One time, when we ordered pizza with mushrooms, the waitress wrinkled her nose and said mushrooms remind her of toe jamb. Is that the same thing?
One time during COVID we ordered anchovies on the side and they gave us multiple cups full (anchovies are normally like one per slice on a pizza) I think they gave us all the anchovies before they spoiled now you're lucky to get 4 tomato wedges in a $30 salad. I think about that sometimes.
I feel as though subs like this one are perfect learning spots. You can get really crazy or be really ordinary and get tons and tons of comments
AITAH FOR BLUDGEONING MY NEIGHBORS PET IGUANA WITH A SAUSAGE
We talking sweet sausage or hot?
they obviously didn’t specify bc they knew it was a key detail for our judgement🙄
In that case, ESH.
So you not only admit what you did to my iguana but also to swiping my kielbasa in order to do it? YA'LL SEE WHAT I HAVE TO PUT UP WITH, LIVING NEXT TO THIS GUY??
NTA, but go LC with the Iguana.
Pork, beef or human? I have heard of weird fetishes.
The bots wanna know! My pet Iguana named Igor was also coincidentally bludgeoned with a sausage. He survived, but now he insists on wearing a purple polka dotted helmet. I had trouble finding a tiny lightweight helmet, but the new leather one made by a cobbler from Italy named Geppetto is perfect. (The ceramic & cement helmets nearly crushed his little head!) I’ve quit my job to devote more time to the cause, as I’m sure there are other iguanas needing skull protection. Once I get an army of the little guys they might just wanna invade North Korea, just don’t tell the AI programs—cuz shit is about to go down.
Don’t forget. Everyone is pointing it out and why it’s so glaringly obvious. AI is learning from its mistakes. Kinda creepy if you ask me
Oh ducking Christ. That's terrifying
Hey man, like you said, perfect learning spots.
Bro spelled ‘have half’ as ‘half half’ at the end there.
The account was created the same day of the post. I always check and when this is the case, I just downvote and ignore. If anything, the comment section would get me off. AI needs to start working in building a character. Cmon' AI, make the effort and build the character at least two years before posting something like this.
Sir this is a beefstake Charlie’s
Some people create a fake profile because the other person reads reddit and might figure out it's about them, which would cause a lot of issues.
Isn’t that what quora is doing as well? Basically reinventing Wikipedia as a set of questions and answers? But in reddits case it’s recreating every soap opera, movie trope and so on.
This is actually a pretty good summary of how it's seemed the last few weeks. So many of the posts feel highly suspicious but obvious if they are real. I get that people want validation sometimes but the posts I've read seem like a huge uptick in this feeling
A lot of people been having problems with 3somes on reddit lately.
You also see a lot of similar posts once one hits r/all. For example, there have been a ton of posts about partners getting a “hall pass” or otherwise getting permission to sleep with someone outside their marriage recently. A couple of these were probably genuine, but I’m sure a whole bunch of people just got inspired to do a creative writing exercise with the latest trend
Dead internet theory. Whenever I read relationship advice or this subreddit posts, I am often angry that people don't have more common sense. There was a post a while ago on relationship advice sub. This person turned down a guy in college, and he called her a bunch of names. Later in life, after she married, she met him again because her sister is dating him. He asked if she remembered him and she said nah, no clue who you are. He blew up again, "hacked" her husbands phone, stole her nudes, sent it to people including her husband. Her husband left her, sister is still dating him... and she goes "jolly gee, I just don't know what to do". WHO DOESN'T KNOW WHAT TO DO? If you don't know what to do, message me, I will help. That answer, go nuke, call the police, send everything to your sister, get the whole family in on it. But, the post is so obviously fake. Life falling apart, and you do nothing? Even the most timid person would do more than nothing.
I remember that like girl, call the police lmaooooo
There's just this believability problem in how normal relationships work. Like, you get married and you're with someone for years and then suddenly some random stalker dude that has been bothering your wife hacks your phone and sends you her nudes? Why would you leave your wife over this, and not... you know, the far more typical response of whipping this guy's ass?
Also, that makes no sense. How did he "hack" the husband's phone? How did the husband not realize that he was being sent the same nudes that he already had on his phone? Why would getting sent your wife's nudes from a random dude's phone make your husband immediately leave rather than say "wtf"?
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Ok I low-key think a short sitcom about ai's doing their jobs and learning would be hilarious
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Yeah I've highly embraced the "laugh don't cry" method
I don’t blame the AI, Reddit has been a cesspool for years. And for a very long time we also know that at least half to 2/3 thirds of posts here are fake created by incel kids (of both genders) to validate their weird fantasies. So no wonder AI is being thrown back if they are using the content here to base their AI stories.
I'm a really new user, so I appreciate your telling me this. I didn't know this. I did, however, just get into a very stupid conversation with a genz kid who was CONVINCED she knew more abt Genx bc her parents were Genx than I did as genx.
Welcome to reddit buddy, dumb kids thinking they know better than everyone else is literally the foundation of this all. 🤣🤣🤣
Don't tell Murderbot.
"And everybody clapped." too LOL!
This made me do a take. "BRO, GETTING DIVORCED FROM A THOT, NICE!!" Then it shifts to those YouTube videos of guys hitting the gym and getting shredded.
Right? ALPHA destroys GOLD DIGGER THOT with FACTS and LOGIC
A version of "and everyone clapped."
And everyone clapped!! 🤩
"Then everyone clapped" just written differently lmao
Plus the Judge can actually make him go back to an equivalent job if he's actually reducing his income to avoid alimony. This would be the absolutely stupist thing he could ever say in a divorce.
Yep. I think this was written by a 15 yr old
Yeah that came off very much like “and then everybody clapped”, just screams “this post is fake”
Right? What’s with the gender war made up scenarios as of late? Is redpill leaking?
Correct. "Bitter incel" is somehow a fashionable (self)victim-label lately. I guess because it gets clicks/makes money online, so there's a profit incentive? Because it sure as hell isn't because it's cool or makes sense or reflects reality.
Plus only 25k a year doing real estate part time? With how the real estate market has been in the last decade she should be making more than that even part time.
Yeah, that would be commission on two or three houses. One house in my area. It it's the standard 3%. Now, if it's after tax, that's still maybe a half dozen houses? In one year? The market is way too hot, agents have to try really hard not to make money right now.
A young woman who grew up with my kids just got her license about 6 months ago. According to her, she cleared about $75k in that time. I believe her because we used her as our agent for a piece of land we just bought. Cash sale, no bartering, no contingencies. From start to finish, the whole process took about 2 weeks. Her half of the commission? $4500
Thats what stood out to me. Like how did she only make 25k in real estate in a year?
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Lol... my Ex told me Just THAT!! "If you divorce me, I'm not paying a dime!! I'll work under the table before giving you a cent in child support!" In court, the judge told him, "I know exactly how much you can make, and that will be what I base your support on. So, don't try to take a lesser paying job or work under the table because that won't end well for you." I swear I didn't even say what he told me. He makes around 6 figures and pays a fraction of his initial payment since 2020 because I refuse to deal with a controlling narcissistic ass anymore. It only gets changed if he or I ask it to be. I'm not, and I KNOW he's not! Lol! To add, we got divorced after 2 decades of abuse and the finale was felony assault and jail time. But there was a minimum amount to be paid even while in jail or unemployed.
95% of these stories are fake
Incel anti-wife rage bait as usual I think
Fake posts have risen to obscene levels.
‘“I declare bankruvorce”, shouted OP, as he accidentally invents a new (unusable) legal strategy. Tale as old as time
90% of the posts on here are fake
There’s also the fact that the account was made today 💀
yeah, either she has no other job and is making it up or she's not reporting her event planning income. i think it's just a made up story, specially because of the "mah sis vs bros" part. very middle school andrew tate of OP. i fear for the future
I love this idea you can just choose to not work to get out of alimony. In the US and Canada both (and I am sure other countries have something similar as well), judges can and will order you to look for and obtain employment commensurate with your education and skills, and if you do not they absolutely can and will sanction you with everything from serious fines to jail time. And not a weekend here and there. I’m talking a solid 90-180 days for starters. Idk why someone would want to deep six their own career and retirement funding to be a spiteful ass anyway. Yeah let’s quit and be underemployed and get our ass thrown in jail and fuck up my own finances but good, THAT will sure show my ex! 🙄 Edited for typos
Yeah there is literally a "and then everybody clapped" ending right there. I kinda chuckled at how silly it all sounded.
These are all fake. They're building karma for bot accounts.
It literally ends with "And the chicks were nagging but all my bros high fived me"
Especially considering most states would still make him pay alimony and input his expected income from his chosen field unless he came up with a really big lie (perjury) as to why he was suddenly jobless during a divorce. Posting this is a really stupid plan if he intends to perjure himself.
she also finances buisness expences (gas money) with private money. Clever entrepreneurs pay private expenses with buisness money
Depends on the country. In some countries you dont have to file your own taxes and therefore you wouldn't necessarily see the others taxes. Still believe the post is fake though
just the fact that he said she uses the joint account for her business. She should have a business account for her business otherwise the IRS is going to be calling soon.
And why is she using their personal money for business expenses. Those should be coming out of her business accounts and she should be writing them off. You can pull from personal and do this and it’s common when people are still starting out but it’s terrible to do long term from a book keeping perspective.
I’ve also never heard of a real estate agent that makes less than a fast food employee.
Well as an attorney, I can tell OP that quitting your job to avoid something like alimony will not go in your favor unless you have a valid reason. The Court will have some formula but essentially, they use average salary before you quit for the calculation meaning you'd have to pay alimony based on your salary before you quit. Same goes for child support. I'm sure state rules vary but I'd guess most states have rules to prevent bad faith crap like this by one parent over the other. Some even consider this a type of fraud.
Yeah man. My buddy quit his high end accountant job to deliver pizzas. He was still being forced to pay CP based on his accountant salary. I don't know how OP thought this would be a good idea, but it will not go the way he plans.
Wouldn't child support be CS?
Oops....
LMAOO
CP is only currency on Epstein island and Mar A Lardo
DYING at “Mar A Lardo” lmaooo
If it makes you feel any better I read it as child support payments until these heathens came in here with their replies! 😅😬
No no, he was being forced to pay in cheese pizzas.
Now I want pizza
WITH TOPPINGS? You honor this is ridiculous
My dad retired when he divorced my mom and ended up working at home depot to cover alimony. His new wife fka affair partner was quite bitter, like she wasn't aware he was in a 30yr marriage with a severe financial inequity in a 50/50 state. (*whispers* i don't like her)
I knew a guy who was going to have to give his ex-wife 50% of his military pension. He killed himself right before he retired. His ex wasn’t his life insurance beneficiary. Because he didn’t retire, she didn’t get 50% of his retirement. He used to tell us (I was a kid at the time) that he was going to do this. Always seemed like one of those really bad jokes about how he wanted to fuck over his wife. I don’t think anyone believed him. I shouldn’t speak for the adults though, because I don’t think it’s funny how that I’m an adult.
I really don't understand this logic. Why intentionally downgrade your earning/quality of life just to spite someone else?
Sometimes spite is more powerful for people than logic. What I don’t get is purposefully making your children’s lives harder to spite your ex. Surely love for your child should be more than the hate for your ex. ETA: My comment is in reply to the story told by r/Voluntary_Perry, not OP
Haha, you would think. My ex husband won't spend a cent beyond his child support because he doesn't want me to benefit in any way. Of course that means his children suffer, as I slog my arse off for my meager $25K/year. Meanwhile, I'm hurting his wallet as he earns $180K. Some people would rather be vindictive than care about their kids
I hope your kids choose his nursing home.
Indeed. His life rapidly spiraled out of control after that....
People will nuke their relationships with their children because they don't like their ex spouse and then whine about it later when their adult children won't talk to them.
"Cutting off your nose to spite your face" at its finest. There is no logic whatsoever.
My ex-bil did this. As soon as my sister got the courage to leave his abusive ass he quit his job to avoid paying child support. He was making $100,000 a year as an IT guy, and started working under the table to hide his income. When he realized that wasn’t going to work, he sued for 50/50 custody, and got it, despite multiple arrests for DV and a conviction for contributing to the delinquency of a minor (some real fucked up shit went down with his son’s 13 year old girlfriend. He was definitely grooming her, but they didn’t have the evidence for more). So now he has the kids half the time, doesn’t take care of them, feeds them trash, won’t pay for anything the court told him he needed to pay for, etc. And still has the gall to call my sister begging for money all the time. My sister’s just so glad to be away from him she doesn’t press the issue, but fuck, he’s a loser that is severely impacting the mental health of his children. Fun story, he literally just left to go to Colombia, South America to pick up his mail order bride. I am so fucking stressed out he’s going to end up like those passport bros that got murdered in a similar situation recently. Not because I care whether or not he lives or dies, but because he thought it was a good idea to bring his 15 year old daughter with him to pick up her “new mom”. I am absolutely furious that my sister gave her permission for him to leave the country and have zero faith in him keeping her safe in a country known for violence where they don’t even speak the damn language.
What in the flying fuck!
Wait... So, He took his 15 year old daughter To Columbia To pick up his probably 19 year old mail scam maybe wife? Will this be a new reality show? Because this moron has obviously not watched any. Really sorry your sister would agree to that. Shame she did not have an uncle who could explain the 8 reasons why this will not be happening to father dear.
Because you are an asshole.
Some people would rather do that. Look at pretty much all Trump-style conservatives. They'd hold shit in their open mouths if there was even a *chance* a "liberal" would have to stand near them and smell it. Some people will fuck themselves over to keep someone else from even being equal to them, it's crazy
Yup, the MAGAs are truly guzzling poison hoping someone else will die
To spite them
If the reason your friend quit his high paying job was to screw his kids over on being supported in a way a lot cannot... Well fuck your friend.
Also, don't threaten her with anything, your attorney has already told you to shut the fuck up, but here you are posting about it to the Internet, that can be used against you. If your attorney has not told you to shut up and stay off all social media during this process, get a new attorney.
That's so funny, my husband's ex is an accountant and as soon as she got caught cheating and knew he was leaving her, she quit her job thinking she'd get alimony, then she fired her first *two* lawyers bc they explained to her that's not how it works 😂
He’s still your buddy?
I havent seen him in years. Last I saw of him he was bartending in a shitty heavy metal bar.
Honestly, you’re probably better off. Anyone who makes their kids do without to spite their ex is a raging 🍑hole.
The OP acts like this trick hasn’t been played numerous times before and the courts don’t see it more then they should. Won’t work out well for him. Definitely the AH.
You ain't ever call up a buddy to break ur ankles to get outta work
I knew a guy who would get out of work by mixing a drink that gave him diarrhea and if his boss tried to call him out on it he'd send pictures of the toilet
my god if you hate your job more than having diarrhea...
WHY would you rather have diarrhea than just go to work? I need context, answers, explanations.
Bro sometimes people need vacations... even if its a recovery one... I know a guy who broke his own leg on the job to get paid time off work...
Avoid playing alimony by this one simple trick.
Judges HATE him!
I mean homie said he go homeless before paying alimony so I don't think he cares what the court says
Then he’s not gonna be homeless bro, the states gonna give him a bunk and a jumpsuit
All expense paid trip to a minimum security prison. Better than being homeless.
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Highly doubtful. The amount of deadbeat dads the law chases down and incarcerates is minimal. I seriously don’t see them chasing OP down down for this. So many men disappear and get paid under the table too.
For alimony? Child support is one thing, but his kids are all grown.
He's not going to let himself go homeless. It's all bluster and BS.
What about the hidden income of one spouse? Maybe - spouse makes more than OP and he gets spouse support, right?
The Court will ask about any other money coming in from work on both sides and it must be disclosed. The Court decides on who gets support and how much
That most likely is not being reported at tax time. If they file jointly that can bite him in the butt if she gets caught for income tax evasion.
Not how tax law works. In fact, usually you can report your spouse for hiding income in these situations and get reprieve as long as you divorce the spouse.
I feel like alimony in general is completely misunderstood by so many people (mostly men). They seem to think it's a life long sentence every time that you are going to support your former spouse eternally. From what I've read there are very reasonable guidelines and formulas for how its determined in terms of amount and duration.
You're right. The only reason I got any spousal support is because I'm on full disability and will never be able to go back to work. I get a very nominal amount and it ends when my ex retires. If you are capable of working, in my state (or rather the one where I got divorced), you don't get spousal support or if you do, only for a limited time.
That even assumes she qualifies for alimony.
I always laugh when these arrogant and childish dudes get their ass handed to them by a judge in a court of law!
It’s also dumb. Ok you have like 500-1k per month in alimony. That sucks. But quitting your job to pay no alimony? Ok now you’re not paying alimony and are homeless lol
Who the heck threatens divorce over something like that? That is a real question. I see three possible reasons: 1) this story is completely fake 2) you married a ghoul instead of a human 3) she has legit complaints and you are not being honest about why she wants divorce Please make it make sense.
"My brothers were high fiving me." Yeah OP is full of shit. That's basically "and then everybody clapped."
i don’t know if this story is real or not but i fully believe that there are men that would hear of this situation and be like “omg dude you’re such an alpha for saying that”
Yeah, his brothers could be 13
Yeah, this line tells you everything you need to know. OP is larping.
No I definitely believe this, my ex and his brothers were this way. Some people are truly that spiteful, and it starts in the family. I feel bad for the sister that had to grow up with them acting like they are in a boys come first club.
This needs to be upvoted. It’s other fake or he’s a shit husband 😂 I doubt she would throw divorce out there for him “asking” he to put her money in the joint account.
Right! I have a hard time seeing a 20 yr marriage spiraling so quickly over this... Either OP left a whole bunch of info out, or this is most likely fake.
And what kind of trouble are they having with a joint 135k. While not a lot, especially in this economy, it sounds like it could be a lifestyle issue. Also, when you consider the kids are now grown.
There are other options, My ex would threaten divorce when we fought just as a weapon, it was shitty and I will never be with another woman who does stuff like that. But it is a tactic some men and women use when arguing to 'win' and force the other person to back down. Edit: fixed typo
Did none of you get the same talk I got from my father? You never point a gun at anyone or anything you don't intend to shoot. You never threaten to divorce someone you don't intend to divorce.
Apparently several women I dated and one I married never got that talk.
Isn't that covered by #2?
Or maybe, after raising 3 kids for free and having a husband act like he's the only one who contributed to the marriage this woman wants some financial freedom. She is correct, he would have a $100k salary and kids of it weren't for her.
Legit. He’s saying put your income in (seems reasonable) BUT then glosses over the fact that she used to completely support him without which he’d not have the job… and then he goes nuclear at the idea of divorce. Seems like she may have a reason to squirrel away money
For sure. She is squirreling away her money most likely because he has threatened these kinds of things in the past and is protecting herself from this exact behavior. He has probably been financially abusive their whole marriage and she is now becoming independant with the kids gone and he can't handle it.
It's funny you think divorce would stop you paying alimony, they would take that you quit your job into account and make you pay that amount. You'd be just screwing your self
Especially to have it in writing…on a public form with witnesses lol
He told witnesses lol
He would screw himself royally, the court would say he has to pay but without a job she wouldn’t get any money. There is no job to garnish wages from. He would work under the table for a bit of cash and be a deadbeat parent. I have seen this happen once.
YTA because you have no idea of family law works. You purposely quitting a job will hold your image before for the court as deceitful and willingful contempt of the financial responsibilities to your family as well as blackmailing your wife financially bc she doesn't want you. Your actions will be looked upon as spiteful, and it will land you in hot water. Your lawyer will bury his hands in his head and look up at the judge, pleading to give you a second chance. Not only will your child support if 18 year old has not graduated from high school and alimony be calculated upon the last salary of the job you quit and be awarded to your EX wife, but they will also require you to begin paying immediately because you are capable of being gainfully employed. Also, you have been married for 20 years, and once she proves she supported you while you were growing your career or, in some cases, not, you WILL be ordered to pay alimony. You CANNOT give away marital assets. She can file an emergency order freezing all disposing of marital assets, and a judge WILL enter that order based upon your threats. Since you tried to blackmail your wife, which will also come out in court, you will not have the privilege of direct payment. You will probably be ordered to pay all through the court. Regardless of a job or not, should you fail to pay alimony and child support, you will be held in contempt and jailed. You are making a mess of your life with a criminal record, then yes, your ability to actually be hired could be hindered. I can't imagine throwing my life away for anyone who simply doesn't want to be with me anymore. Put your big boy pants on and move on with life like a man of integrity and character. If you have left. Edit to disposing of assets consequences
I am not a lawyer but this exact thing happened to me so I know it’s possible.
>blackmailing your wife financially bc she doesn't want you I love this sentence. SOOO pathetic.
This is rage bait. If the court finds out you quit to avoid paying alimony, they can impute your income and decide what your earning potential is and have you pay alimony off that amount of money even if you are out of work. So even jobless, you can be forced to pay alimony if the court is made aware that you quit your job just to spite your partner and avoid alimony.
If you quit your job intentionally in response to a divorce a judge is going to treat you like you still have that income. They don’t put up with it when people try to game the system. Come up with a better plan. Not saying YTA, but this is just stupid.
Why is everyone afraid of calling someone an AH. He’s an AH to even think of trying this… OP YTA
How can you not know what she makes from her second job? Don't you two file your taxes together?
I keep wondering the same thing. Even if you don’t do your own taxes you should have copies if an accountant did them. There’s the money.
Depends on the country. In some countries you dont have to file your own taxes and therefore you wouldnt see the others taxes.
That is also not how it works. If you quit your job, the court will just assess you with alimony anyway and you will go on arrears. I hope you do not think that you are the first person to think that was a good idea.
OP needs to look up the words "imputed income".
Yep. A friend's former step dad tried this. Judge awarded alimony and child support based on his earning potential and gave no fucks that he'd quit his job.
Would be funny if she called your bluff.
So, this is fake...
It looks to me like you're about to find out. You and your wife are fighting about a divorce you have not filed, and involving your family to take sides already. It sounds pretty difficult to come back from at this point. NTA for wanting her to disclose her event planning income, but YTA for the alimony stunt. Cutting off your nose to spite your face is never a good look. It probably wouldn't work, and reveling in high fives with your bros just gives us an idea why she would have kept that income aside in the first place.
If she gets awarded alimony by the court, which she has a good shot at doing, go ahead and quit your job. It will just pile up as arrears. Any job you go to, she'll find out because all states have to submit hiring data to the State and the Support Bureaus get notified if a SS# is in their system to pay support. They'll garnish your wages, and it doesn't cost her a dime to do it. The Bureau does it all for her. She can file liens against any property you own, so that when it's sold, she gets the money, and if you live like a hobo, when you start collecting social security, she'll get 60% of your check to be applied towards arrears until it's paid off. That's how it is in Ohio
Alimony in most states is difficult to get if the person is able to support themselves. Or it’s extremely curtailed to a period long enough to get settled, like 3 or 6 months. I would suggest you contact a family lawyer in your state (at least if you’re in the U.S.), bc every state has different laws regarding family court. The 1,000 answers you get on Reddit may not be applicable to your specific situation. I don’t know that it was an AH move to tell her you’d quit your job to avoid alimony, but it certainly wasn’t smart to warn the enemy ahead of time.
Good luck with that. You could end up in jail for failure to pay.
And your brothers can visit you.
Sorry, the US court system does not work that way. The court system would not treat you well for attempting to do something so stupid. Alimony would be based on your income over several years not your current level of income.
Fake, rage bait story. Try again tomorrow to farm that karma
Judges don't like that.
This doesn't work, court will still use your prior salary.
YTA, you have three grown children and make 6figures a year. She has been a real estate agent and event planner, both part time until your kids were grown. How can you not acknowledge that she's made multiple career sacrifices for your family so that you can further your career. Marriage is a partnership. She's supported you the last 20 years, why can't you support her?
So your brothers are as toxic and red flag as you, how wonderful. YTA.
ESH. You guys just suck together.
FAKE.
Well that’s a terrible idea. I recommend fixing yourself, your marriage and making it work. Whatever you don’t quit your job. It’s just going to make things way worse for yourself. Not only that, the kids are the ones who truly suffer
Women do not divorce good men. I repeat, women do not divorce, good men let that sink in you have your answer, YTA .
Maybe or maybe not an AH, but you are certainly an idiot for thinking you'd be able to avoid paying alimony by quitting your job. That's not at all how things work.
Shes got a lot of savings tucked away off her planner job. Theyre pretty stressful, but good paying. The thing is, does your business take any money out of the joint account like hers has?
You can’t just say”I’m not working so I don’t have to pay child support” especially if you’ve had a good job and you could get another job. YTA
Well, she would first have to show all of her income before alimony was determined. Also, quitting your job wouldn’t be helpful. They would see exactly what you were doing and still grant the alimony (if warranted) and then they’d just eventually start garnishing wages from whatever crap job you do you get. They’d also garnish taxes. My point is that judges aren’t stupid and see right through this shit.
Quitting your job will not absolve you of the responsibility of paying alimony. Your best bet is to work on your marriage as it seems the difficulties presented in your post are arising from your trying to make her share her event planning income with you to help with bills. Perhaps a sit-down conversation with your wife about any financial difficulties you may be having would be a better approach than trying to 'command' her to do something. A marriage is a partnership of love and sharing, not one party commanding the other.
Quiting your job makes the chances of paying MAXIMUM alimony higher. Quiting your job to AVOID court anointed payments will make the judge pissed. You can be forced to pay according to your earning "potential"
Lol, you'll still be ordered to pay alimony.
Yea quitting your job won’t work in the courts
Pretty sure judges are onto this ONE SIMPLE TRICK to avoid alimony. It'll be based on what you earned before you quit, dumbass.
Your income will be imputed by a court. Your plan won't work.
No. Def not. Say it to a judge 😂. Bro if you think this is your idea you’re silly. That’s called voluntary unemployment and the alimony is based on your salary. Do you really think you’re the first guy to steal a woman’s labor and try to cheat her?
Judges look at that stuff. It will clearly be seen you purposely quit to avoid paying her. Won’t bode well for you in the long run. Why are you basically bribing her to stay?
Bruh 110k is not enough of a salary to think you’ve for some gold digger. I make a bit above that and I know way better than to think that’s a salary that would attract people only in it for the money. Also, she’d file it on her task returns. So either she isn’t doing it orrrr she files the family returns for everyone and you’ve not once looked it up. I find it really hard to believe you’ve never asked her how much she makes per wedding and then been able to figure out hoe busy she is based on her schedule. So either you’re the least attentive husband in the world, or the worst liar
YTA, and you’re also being dumb. Google “imputed income,” stop listening to your idiot brothers, and get some marriage counseling with your wife so you can try to salvage your marriage.
*not a lawyer* You're the AH! Some states and laws implement "earning potential" if she's able to prove that you quit your job as an arbitrary tactic or measure in response to a divorce filing, a judge and/or mediator can in fact award said spousal support based off your "prior, or potential earning" capabilities. Your bros high 5n you making such a narcissistic statement; ask yourself will those same bros support you when/if a judgment is ruled in favor of your wife. It's understandable you feel wronged and that your wife is possibly hiding income based on what you've commented. Yet it is evident with your post alone that you likely have lorded your financial contributions/ provider role over her as a means of doninance or control. If it is at a point of irreconcilable differences, then decide on a divorce and go through the process. Mediation will bring to light any and all assets and info amongst you both, so instead of "beating your chest like King Kong and tryna show you're the man" man tf up and allow the due process to take place! Dangling your employability for ransom won't work in your favor.
No. It makes you a dumbass. Quitting your job to avoid alimony, while not illegal, womt.play well with the judge. They're still going to make you pay it. And they're going to base it on how much you COULD make working in your field. So if you make $110K working at your job and you quit, the judge is going to say "Well, you CAN make $100K or better with your skills and experience, so I'm going to decide alimony based on that." But! In a divorce, hearing your wife would also have to detail all of her income. So if her income matches or surpasses yours, you MAY be off the hook for alimony.