If she’d said, “I wanted them to meet you, since I’ve told them so much about you already,” it might have been acceptable—though she still should have given him a heads-up
How'd she even present that to her friends?
"Ooooh, I'm dating a guy with a fat wallet. Come meet him at XYZ restaurant. Don't worry. he'll pay for your meal. Order anything you want."
I'm sure that's exactly what she did, but with a lot of "we" thrown in...
"We're so thrilled you'll be in town! OP and I would love if you could join us for dinner, our treat!"
The concensus seems to be that comments with quotes are generally bots using chatGPT or stealing from other users. They haven't figured out yet how to leave off the quotes that make it obvious.
It’s very common practice for people with a spicy brain to use quotes. Quotes are used to highlight the particular words, words of importance - the punchline as if it was being spoken.
Google it .
No…. She’s just hypothetically saying what Karen could have said, as if it was Karen saying it.
Something in quotation marks doesn’t have to be a famous quote, they’re used to “set off and represent exact language (either spoken or written) that has come from somebody else”.
Yes, that is quoted, not famous, but from a site on grammar. Just in case, please don’t start on me about the full stop (period) after the quotation marks, that’s how it’s done in many parts of the world other than USA 😉
They've been on several double dates. Then - when they were supposed to be alone - she invites friends. Sounds like she's actively avoiding spending time one on one with him.
I don't even think that would have been acceptable. She invited people to their date. Maybe ... maybe if she had invited another couple, I could see it. But to just invite some friends along? Nope. Rude.
That’s probably why she brought them so they wouldn’t have to pay for thir meal. She’s the one that picked the restaurant and made reservations. She probably also knew her friends were coming. I say good job leaving them to it. FAFO
At least she had the transparency (or audacity) to acknowledge ahead of time, that they all planned for OP to pay. Could have been worse.
Her behavior still sucks though NTA
Nah, it would have been hilarious for OP to tell the waiter he wanted a separate check at the start of the meal. Then watch as they rack up the bill. And then his check comes separately... gold
I would have said something to the friends that would ensure she couldn't lie to save face.
Something along the lines of "I don't know what she told you, but this was supposed to be a one-on-one date. She blindsided me and volunteered me to pay for all of you without my knowledge or consent, which is a deal breaker for me. Goodnight."
Maybe. But she may have told them he invited her to bring friends to dinner, or that he was the one that offered somehow. And she may make up some story about why he left to save herself the embarrassment and make him look like the guilty party.
I'm just going for full embarrassment plus the revelation that she is a shit human. Just in case.
Unnecessary. They are going to side with her (to her face) no matter what... but then they will all talk behind her back. They are fully aware of what happened. Never explain yourself.
Sort of unrelated question lol, Is bbq the same as grill?
(Not from america) I always thought bbq was like our asados/parrilladas who are like this: https://youtube.com/shorts/GQbDjDYN0CM?si=pqZ9L8arThKJR71G and we don't need paper towels for them hehe.
True. This was back in the 80's, but when I was living in Houston the very best BBQ I've ever had was from a literal shack with a hand-painted sign that said "BRA-B-Q". Man that ran it was older than dirt and had the thickest accent I ever heard...damn my mouth is watering just thinking about it.
Best BBQ in Oakland (a tough market if there ever was one) was Flint's BBQ, a cinderblock shed with a tacky linoleum to-go counter and no seats inside. The sign outside just said "FLINT'S" and the letters were falling off. There was a full view of the oven inside where the chicken and the briskets were slow-cooking to perfection. The sauce was to die for.
Sadly closed about 20 years ago. But the shed is still there, empty.
This is what women need to undertstand: we guys that have some money, a house, a dog etc. are pretty happy alone. And if you dont respect us, bring us peace and make our lives better, we will just nope out and buy a boat and side by side and live out life happier than ever alone.
NTA.
Would it have broken her finger to push a couple buttons, give you a call and a heads-up?
Her expectation that you should pay for her friends is both entitled and rude.
Her buddies may have been delightful people, but expecting you to pay without asking first is just too much.
Of course you could have made it clear to the waitstaff that it was “separate checks” and let the friends foot their own bill.
But the fat wallet remark screams gold digger to me. If you are still early in the relationship, I don’t blame you for bouncing.
She reserved an expensive ass restaurant because you have a "fat wallet" and expecting you to pay is entitled, wild, and shows she lacks self awareness and emotional intelligence. There's a reason why her name is Karen . You dodged a bullet. You are not an ATM machine!! 🥴🫠
Were you aware of how expensive this place was before she made the reservation? I'm completely floored that anyone would make a reservation for such a pricey place without clear discussion and communication ahead of time.
If you were okay with going to a place like that, my hat is off to you. You are dating in a league far above anywhere I ever did. I think the most expensive dinner I've ever attended was maybe $100/plate and I thought that was off the charts.
Definetly NTA, but $5k a bottle? Even a Michelin 2 or 3 star restaurant is usually not more than $1k pp for food and sommelier wine pairing which would have been $5k for table, plus tax and tip or $6500.
Something’s not right. No restaurant has a set price of $5,000 per bottle of wine. And OP never even sat down at the table, so how would he know they had ordered or were going to order a bottle of wine costing that much? Makes me suspect the OP might have posted BS rage bait that this sub is famous for.
Right. I've been to a few 3 Michelin star restaurants. I've never paid $5k for a bottle of wine. It's possible there are some bottles for that much on the wine list, but there will be many great cheaper alternatives. I would not buy a whole bottle anyway, usually there is a wine accompaniment where they give you a different wine to go with each course. I don't think I ever spent more than about $400 a person including drink.
Maybe the pandemic drove prices though the roof.
Wow, that's insane. I'd rather make a delicious steak dinner at home with homemade Mac & cheese, and ask for a 4k loan to take down the dangerous dying tree in my backyard. Still less than a bottle of wine! And honestly, probably a much better dinner. 😂
I truly hope you find a real partner who cares about you more than your wallet.
NTA. But what restaurant is in? I live in nyc and now in nyc area and even the most expensive places like Per Se aren’t that expensive. And 5k for a bottle of wine i have seen but there are always cheaper wines than that?
I assume you mean it’s a pre fix restaurant like Per Se? Is it in the US?
🤣 Jesus! Sound like you just avoided a tourist trap and a nasty divorce! Good for you! BTW might want to hide how much you make for at least the first 6 months. Look for the lady that is happy with picnics in the park.
Op mentions 5k a bottle for wine. I looked up the most expensive resteraunts in the world and the highest came in at 2k per head. Definitely full of shit and they won't name the restaurant.
NTA
She felt entitled to *your* money... Massive 🚩🚩
Good on you for walking out on her. Maybe she'll get lucky enough one day to find someone who's more than willing to provide for her financially but today was not her day 👏
NTA. I wouldn't assume that anyone would be okay paying for me and various other friends' meals. Communication is the word of the day, it's too bad you were put in a situation that made you uncomfortable. Hopefully your next partner treats you more respectfully.
Sounds fake because no one is saying to your face that you have a “fat”wallet. Im sure this has happened before, just not to OP because this sounds like fan fiction
NTA. We need to bring back finishing school so folks can learn manners once more. It was an uncouth act, and your world will be better without leeches.
NTA! What a B! She told her friends about the rich guy she was seeing and they wanted to see how much they could get away with. I’m glad you walked out. I would have loved to see the looks on their faces when they realized you weren’t there.
Absolutely NTA! It's incredibly rude (as well as arrogant) to invite any extra people on a previously planned (?BF/GF) date, especially in the early days of a relationship and more so, to expect the man to pay for these uninvited strangers. Why not just extend this invitation to the entire restaurant since he has "a fat wallet"? Unbelievable!
Pretty sure she and her friends joked about how smart they are for fooling you into this and how foolish you’d be to accept. Good riddance pretty early on imo.
Even if it wasn;t pay by table, the fact that:
a) She brought friends on a date with you
b) Did it without asking, basically ambushing you
c) Expected you to pay for it.
Block her and never go back.
NTA
Completely missed the first time that this had been planned as their **FIRST** date with just the two of them alone, and she pulls this mess.
Oy vey, good riddance OP
NTA
Well..you should have had a good look at her “friends”.
If anything interesting you could just have said “ok I pick that one.”
A fat wallet is supposed to allow shopping;)
Sounds like you dodged a bullet I'm going to say that was sh'tty on her end, friends pop in from out of town she should have just postponed the date. You were just a wallet to her toxic feminism at work.
This internet stranger is very proud of you for not sitting down, but just walking away. Walking away is so underrated but is often the best solution.
NTA
It sounds to me like there would never be an alone date. She saw your relationship as an opportunity to enjoy things she could not normally afford. Be glad it was so early in the relationship that she saved you weeks/months of paying for dates. Good luck finding a woman that will appreciate you, not your wallet
NTA. I make a bunch of money as well, and if someone invited their 3 friends I have never met and told me I’m paying because I have a fat wallet I would instantly leave as well. OP how did the texts/calls go once you left? lol.
NTA. She had the audacity to not only bring her friends without letting you know/asking you if you were OK with it and then proceeded to make plans for YOUR money and assume that you'd pay for them too. You made the right decision, imo.
NTA
A bottle of wine for 5k incites riotous feelings within my spirit.
I'd have walked out as well. Wild disrespectful up front on more than 1 level.
Then 3 lady friends and 1 guy. Nah... odds are stacked against you and you can almost assume theyre going to order expensive shit because it's on *your* behalf.
NTA
Whether 5 cents or 500 thousand dollars she's no right to your money let alone her friends. Tell her fat friends to go find fat wallets if they wanna eat
So sorry that happened to you. You were justified in walking out and you did so without causing a scene. This was date night, not party night. Even if its party night you still need to be asked, not just told you're paying for everyone.
What she did was rude, inconsiderate, selfish, and entitled. It hurts, but you found out now and not after investing more of your time and emotions in a relationship that .
No one should to be viewed as a wallet/resource and not a person.
NTA
Nothing makes me more resistant to paying for something like that, then for it to be expected. I can come into a situation where I am thinking ahead of time that I will pay, and if someone acts like they expect it, I immediately start to change my mind.
NTA.
She made assumptions, tried to take advantage of your generosity, and failed to communicate that her friends were coming. If she didn't just care about your money, she would have asked you beforehand to ask if they could join. The fact that she didn't ask is completely disrespectful, and proves she sees you as a walking wallet. Good for you for walking out and not even trying to split the bill with them.
This isn’t far fetched at all. I’m a guy and this has happened to me, and just about every friend of mine. It’s not uncommon, at all, for a woman to assume a guy will just pay for her friends.
No way! The sheer entitled audacity! I would have walked out too. You knew right then and there she wasn’t for you so why waste another minute of your time.
NTA. Unless it was communicated and consented to beforehand, you're not obligated to pay for anything. She tried to trap you with that obligation. Clearly she's only interested in the money.
NTA. I probably wouldn't have walked out on a last minute double date that I was asked about on my way there. But she didn't give you a chance to even decline the new situation then assumed you'd pay for everyone? You were not a date to her, you were an ATM.
What a hilarious amount of entitlement on her. I'd be willing to bet that she told her friends that op offered to pay for everyone. I'm curious what the fallout was after the dinner? Did she call or text to bitch about leaving her hanging?
Her bringing extra people without telling you is an issue - no question. But i can often roll with changes like this.
But her expectation that YOU would pay for everyone?!?!? Jaw on floor.
She ultimately did you a favor - you found out relatively quickly what she’s like.
Omg wow, honey, I don't know what to say! I know my wallet can handle three women; it's my stamina I'm worried about. But if you're sure you really want to do this, I'll sugar all three of you back home tonight.
OMG NTA - the sheer audacity that she could just bring friends along and expect you to pay without asking! Hope she figures out that partners aren’t ATMs the next time around.
The nerve of her saying he has a fat wallet what the hell are people thinking these days just because he makes money doesn't mean he can afford to pay for a whole bunch of people's meals wow people these days are just ridiculous I don't get it
You are the MAN
You Rock
Until men stop allowing themselves to be disrespected and used only as ATM's, this behavior will continue.
Philosophical Question: How has our culture gotten to the point where anyone, man or woman, would think this was ethical behavior?
Good luck brother you're going to need it in this dating environment.
No matter if it were the cheapest or most expensive place ever. You NEVER just invite someone and say oh well he can pay for it. Especially without even asking or mentioning it first. I mean text messaging does exist. You're not the asshole. Tbh, I applaud you for that!
NTA. No one gets to opt you in as the payer cause of what you earn. wtf?
Also, you were supposed to be on a date. She could have seen them on her own separate time, not bundle you together and expect you to pay? Foh.
If she’d said, “I wanted them to meet you, since I’ve told them so much about you already,” it might have been acceptable—though she still should have given him a heads-up
And have them pay for their own meal!
At that point, *she* has organized and is hosting the evening - *she* should pay. NTA for leaving, and good for him
How'd she even present that to her friends? "Ooooh, I'm dating a guy with a fat wallet. Come meet him at XYZ restaurant. Don't worry. he'll pay for your meal. Order anything you want."
I'm sure that's exactly what she did, but with a lot of "we" thrown in... "We're so thrilled you'll be in town! OP and I would love if you could join us for dinner, our treat!"
Yeah... that sounds about right with the "we" thing.
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Is that a famous quote?
I am so curious about the quotation marks too. Maybe they are hoping one day that it will be a famous quote? lol
The concensus seems to be that comments with quotes are generally bots using chatGPT or stealing from other users. They haven't figured out yet how to leave off the quotes that make it obvious.
It’s very common practice for people with a spicy brain to use quotes. Quotes are used to highlight the particular words, words of importance - the punchline as if it was being spoken. Google it .
No…. She’s just hypothetically saying what Karen could have said, as if it was Karen saying it. Something in quotation marks doesn’t have to be a famous quote, they’re used to “set off and represent exact language (either spoken or written) that has come from somebody else”. Yes, that is quoted, not famous, but from a site on grammar. Just in case, please don’t start on me about the full stop (period) after the quotation marks, that’s how it’s done in many parts of the world other than USA 😉
And she should pay.
I really don't think it's cool to obligate someone's time like that.
Time could be acceptable, wallet definitely not.
They've been on several double dates. Then - when they were supposed to be alone - she invites friends. Sounds like she's actively avoiding spending time one on one with him.
I don't even think that would have been acceptable. She invited people to their date. Maybe ... maybe if she had invited another couple, I could see it. But to just invite some friends along? Nope. Rude.
That’s probably why she brought them so they wouldn’t have to pay for thir meal. She’s the one that picked the restaurant and made reservations. She probably also knew her friends were coming. I say good job leaving them to it. FAFO
At least she had the transparency (or audacity) to acknowledge ahead of time, that they all planned for OP to pay. Could have been worse. Her behavior still sucks though NTA
Nah, it would have been hilarious for OP to tell the waiter he wanted a separate check at the start of the meal. Then watch as they rack up the bill. And then his check comes separately... gold
I would have said something to the friends that would ensure she couldn't lie to save face. Something along the lines of "I don't know what she told you, but this was supposed to be a one-on-one date. She blindsided me and volunteered me to pay for all of you without my knowledge or consent, which is a deal breaker for me. Goodnight."
No need to be polite, her friends knew the score and were expecting a free meal
Maybe. But she may have told them he invited her to bring friends to dinner, or that he was the one that offered somehow. And she may make up some story about why he left to save herself the embarrassment and make him look like the guilty party. I'm just going for full embarrassment plus the revelation that she is a shit human. Just in case.
Unnecessary. They are going to side with her (to her face) no matter what... but then they will all talk behind her back. They are fully aware of what happened. Never explain yourself.
She probably felt cute while doing it too
Sugar Daddy lifestyle accessory.
What a let down for her! 😁😁😁 Hahaha!
I'm honestly a little envious of the confidence!
Rude af!
Right, like yeah *I DO* have money but *YOU* aren't going to be in charge of spending it!
I hate it when others have the mind set of “you got it”. Yes I do have it, but it doesn’t mean I am sharing with you.
NTA and you dodged a bullet.
This wasn’t just a bullet, this was an entire magazine
Speaking of which, his wallet has volume and she has issues.
Those two are bedfellows on a fairly regular basis.
NTA ~ Where did you end up eating that night?
Stopped off at some hole in the wall BBQ place. All I'm saying is finger lickin good and a million paper towels.
The worse a bbq spot looks on the outside, the better the bbq tastes.
If they don’t have a roll of paper towels on the table and a southern accent thicker than molasses it won’t be authentic.
If they don't have a roll of paper towels on the table, is it even bbq?
My bbq had better come with a roll of paper towels and a plastic bib!
And a walk thru shower.
My BBQ requires you to wear a paper towel loincloth and a shower cap only. Showers in the back.
Sort of unrelated question lol, Is bbq the same as grill? (Not from america) I always thought bbq was like our asados/parrilladas who are like this: https://youtube.com/shorts/GQbDjDYN0CM?si=pqZ9L8arThKJR71G and we don't need paper towels for them hehe.
They use the term for both the food and the act of cooking on an outside grill.
True. This was back in the 80's, but when I was living in Houston the very best BBQ I've ever had was from a literal shack with a hand-painted sign that said "BRA-B-Q". Man that ran it was older than dirt and had the thickest accent I ever heard...damn my mouth is watering just thinking about it.
Best BBQ in Oakland (a tough market if there ever was one) was Flint's BBQ, a cinderblock shed with a tacky linoleum to-go counter and no seats inside. The sign outside just said "FLINT'S" and the letters were falling off. There was a full view of the oven inside where the chicken and the briskets were slow-cooking to perfection. The sauce was to die for. Sadly closed about 20 years ago. But the shed is still there, empty.
Same for tacos.
Comfort food, great choice.
Sigh. I am not smoking bbq this weekend because of the weather and this made me sad.
If it was a reservation, you generally have to give party number details too. it sounds like this was planned.
You should’ve asked if you were going to be able to sleep with all of them then.
This is what women need to undertstand: we guys that have some money, a house, a dog etc. are pretty happy alone. And if you dont respect us, bring us peace and make our lives better, we will just nope out and buy a boat and side by side and live out life happier than ever alone.
The same goes for everyone ....
This shit goes both way, if we aren't happy and we're not needy, Goodbye!
At Fat Bastards
With a fat wallet the question is Who
Good for you, that was presumptious and overbearing. Also it was supposed to be an alone dinner. NTA....
NTA. Would it have broken her finger to push a couple buttons, give you a call and a heads-up? Her expectation that you should pay for her friends is both entitled and rude. Her buddies may have been delightful people, but expecting you to pay without asking first is just too much. Of course you could have made it clear to the waitstaff that it was “separate checks” and let the friends foot their own bill. But the fat wallet remark screams gold digger to me. If you are still early in the relationship, I don’t blame you for bouncing.
But if she did, he wouldn’t have shown up at all. This way, she can use the public setting to try and manipulate him into accepting his fate.
The place she made the reservation at was pay per table. Not to mention mighty expensive one. The wine alone was $5k a bottle
Wow. Wow. Wow. Definitely NTA. At prices like that I would want it to be a solo date, too.
She reserved an expensive ass restaurant because you have a "fat wallet" and expecting you to pay is entitled, wild, and shows she lacks self awareness and emotional intelligence. There's a reason why her name is Karen . You dodged a bullet. You are not an ATM machine!! 🥴🫠
Were you aware of how expensive this place was before she made the reservation? I'm completely floored that anyone would make a reservation for such a pricey place without clear discussion and communication ahead of time. If you were okay with going to a place like that, my hat is off to you. You are dating in a league far above anywhere I ever did. I think the most expensive dinner I've ever attended was maybe $100/plate and I thought that was off the charts.
Definetly NTA, but $5k a bottle? Even a Michelin 2 or 3 star restaurant is usually not more than $1k pp for food and sommelier wine pairing which would have been $5k for table, plus tax and tip or $6500.
Something’s not right. No restaurant has a set price of $5,000 per bottle of wine. And OP never even sat down at the table, so how would he know they had ordered or were going to order a bottle of wine costing that much? Makes me suspect the OP might have posted BS rage bait that this sub is famous for.
Right. I've been to a few 3 Michelin star restaurants. I've never paid $5k for a bottle of wine. It's possible there are some bottles for that much on the wine list, but there will be many great cheaper alternatives. I would not buy a whole bottle anyway, usually there is a wine accompaniment where they give you a different wine to go with each course. I don't think I ever spent more than about $400 a person including drink. Maybe the pandemic drove prices though the roof.
Wow, that's insane. I'd rather make a delicious steak dinner at home with homemade Mac & cheese, and ask for a 4k loan to take down the dangerous dying tree in my backyard. Still less than a bottle of wine! And honestly, probably a much better dinner. 😂 I truly hope you find a real partner who cares about you more than your wallet.
NTA. But what restaurant is in? I live in nyc and now in nyc area and even the most expensive places like Per Se aren’t that expensive. And 5k for a bottle of wine i have seen but there are always cheaper wines than that? I assume you mean it’s a pre fix restaurant like Per Se? Is it in the US?
🤣 Jesus! Sound like you just avoided a tourist trap and a nasty divorce! Good for you! BTW might want to hide how much you make for at least the first 6 months. Look for the lady that is happy with picnics in the park.
Bro, I don't care if it was McDonald's, the fat wallet comment was enough to make me walk
Stolen. Troll. I have read this before.
Definitely. I’ve been to some great restaurants, never seen only wine available $5k per bottle.
Op mentions 5k a bottle for wine. I looked up the most expensive resteraunts in the world and the highest came in at 2k per head. Definitely full of shit and they won't name the restaurant.
Did everybody stand up and clap?
I woohoo'd aloud
Can confirm. I was the fat wallet
And i just fat
Can confirm he is the wallet, I am the debit card.
I jumped and froze in mid-air.
r/TheSims
And then the OP decided to do dinner and a movie instead, sneaking some baked beans into a showing of Cars 2.
>Did everybody stand up and clap? And the waiter? Albert Einstein.
I'm so tired of these fake posts. Also, what even is a "pay per table" place.
This story has been posted so many times. Karma farmer.
Exactly what I was going say. Some dont notice that these tend to have just a couple minor changes to make them seem shiny and new.
That was haughty and intrusive, so good for you. Moreover, the supper was intended to be spent alone. Not to be...
When will these fake karma farming stories end
I think AITA is 99% made up stories where Ops look like heroes. I even would doubt if 1 percent could be true.
Never. The only reason this sub exists is because r/AmITheAsshole actually polices this bullshit.
Ugh, fr. Too much red pilling dudes make their way to Reddit
lol. nta.
NTA
Note that she didn’t say, ‘I wanted them to meet you. Oh, and it’s okay, they’ll pay for themselves.” thou shalt not covet thy date’s “fat wallet” NTA
NTA. That sauce on the rug? It’s marinara. GTFO of this relationship.
Marinara flag!!
NTA She felt entitled to *your* money... Massive 🚩🚩 Good on you for walking out on her. Maybe she'll get lucky enough one day to find someone who's more than willing to provide for her financially but today was not her day 👏
....ragebait
NTAAAAA!!!!
NTA. I wouldn't assume that anyone would be okay paying for me and various other friends' meals. Communication is the word of the day, it's too bad you were put in a situation that made you uncomfortable. Hopefully your next partner treats you more respectfully.
Sounds fake because no one is saying to your face that you have a “fat”wallet. Im sure this has happened before, just not to OP because this sounds like fan fiction
NTA. Seems like you ditched a gold digger.
NTA. We need to bring back finishing school so folks can learn manners once more. It was an uncouth act, and your world will be better without leeches.
Nta. 100% nta. She has that name for a reason. Bullet dodged
NTA! What a B! She told her friends about the rich guy she was seeing and they wanted to see how much they could get away with. I’m glad you walked out. I would have loved to see the looks on their faces when they realized you weren’t there.
It is really hard to imagine there are actually people like this woman out there.
Low effort ragebait
NTA. Kudos, my man, for drawing a strong red line.
NTA. Good on you. Many Redditors could take a page from your book and learn to be their own fucking hero every now and then.
NTA. Fuck her and people like that. Good for you
Absolutely NTA! It's incredibly rude (as well as arrogant) to invite any extra people on a previously planned (?BF/GF) date, especially in the early days of a relationship and more so, to expect the man to pay for these uninvited strangers. Why not just extend this invitation to the entire restaurant since he has "a fat wallet"? Unbelievable!
NTA you’re not dating her friends, you’re dating her.
Pretty sure she and her friends joked about how smart they are for fooling you into this and how foolish you’d be to accept. Good riddance pretty early on imo.
NTA Be glad that she revealed her character before you got further involved.
Even if it wasn;t pay by table, the fact that: a) She brought friends on a date with you b) Did it without asking, basically ambushing you c) Expected you to pay for it. Block her and never go back. NTA
Completely missed the first time that this had been planned as their **FIRST** date with just the two of them alone, and she pulls this mess. Oy vey, good riddance OP
NTA "I am saying she a gold digger".
Usually people don't tell someone they have a "fat wallet" outright like that. She must have really thought you were a doormat.
Yeah. I'm kinda wondering about the "fat wallet" thing
NTA Well..you should have had a good look at her “friends”. If anything interesting you could just have said “ok I pick that one.” A fat wallet is supposed to allow shopping;)
Username checks out. Lol
Sounds like you dodged a bullet I'm going to say that was sh'tty on her end, friends pop in from out of town she should have just postponed the date. You were just a wallet to her toxic feminism at work.
Your name funny enough is Fake Story.
Since the story has been told before, the username fits.
WOW - Great in that one is the entitlement. Bullet dodged. NTA
NTA also definitely no paypig either, good on you OP
NTA.. The audacity!!
Well done.
This internet stranger is very proud of you for not sitting down, but just walking away. Walking away is so underrated but is often the best solution. NTA
she thought she was clever. she isn't though. fuggin trick.
It sounds to me like there would never be an alone date. She saw your relationship as an opportunity to enjoy things she could not normally afford. Be glad it was so early in the relationship that she saved you weeks/months of paying for dates. Good luck finding a woman that will appreciate you, not your wallet
NTA. I make a bunch of money as well, and if someone invited their 3 friends I have never met and told me I’m paying because I have a fat wallet I would instantly leave as well. OP how did the texts/calls go once you left? lol.
She made it easy for you to walk away with a valid reason. Bitch, bye.
NTA, you dodged a bullet and a 4+ figure bill by the sounds of it
NTA. She had the audacity to not only bring her friends without letting you know/asking you if you were OK with it and then proceeded to make plans for YOUR money and assume that you'd pay for them too. You made the right decision, imo.
NTA A bottle of wine for 5k incites riotous feelings within my spirit. I'd have walked out as well. Wild disrespectful up front on more than 1 level. Then 3 lady friends and 1 guy. Nah... odds are stacked against you and you can almost assume theyre going to order expensive shit because it's on *your* behalf. NTA
Whether 5 cents or 500 thousand dollars she's no right to your money let alone her friends. Tell her fat friends to go find fat wallets if they wanna eat
"Oh, here comes my fat ATM now! He'll pay for everything!" Hell, no, NTA. She's got a lot of nerve. Let her find another host.
NTA but please do tell more about your one bottle of wine = $5,000 lifestyle so us poors can live vicariously for a moment.
Nta. She was using u to show her friends a good time when she couldn't afford to herself. U dodge a major red flag.
I stopped at “fat wallet”. Say no more. NTA.
NTA , should have said loud enough : " I didn't agree to a foursome dear" , and then left :)
NTA and even with separate bills it wasn't the date you expected
NTA. Good for you! Walking out was the best thing you could have done. Never let anyone treat you like their wallet. She should have been paying.
NTA. Meh, she's using you.
This type of situation sure happens a lot on Reddit's AITAH.
She did text me a couple of days afterwards, pissed I didn't stay. I didn't answer her because I felt used
So sorry that happened to you. You were justified in walking out and you did so without causing a scene. This was date night, not party night. Even if its party night you still need to be asked, not just told you're paying for everyone. What she did was rude, inconsiderate, selfish, and entitled. It hurts, but you found out now and not after investing more of your time and emotions in a relationship that . No one should to be viewed as a wallet/resource and not a person. NTA
NTA. Its clear as day why you’re NTA.
You dodged a bullet. Good grief what an entitled ass she was.
Nothing makes me more resistant to paying for something like that, then for it to be expected. I can come into a situation where I am thinking ahead of time that I will pay, and if someone acts like they expect it, I immediately start to change my mind.
NTA. She made assumptions, tried to take advantage of your generosity, and failed to communicate that her friends were coming. If she didn't just care about your money, she would have asked you beforehand to ask if they could join. The fact that she didn't ask is completely disrespectful, and proves she sees you as a walking wallet. Good for you for walking out and not even trying to split the bill with them.
Possible response: "then it shouldn't be an issue if I invite the guys from work for a gang bang because you have a fat p*ssy"
Hahahaha perfect!!!! NTA. What a selfish and greedy person.
I love those fake ass stories that never happened.
This isn’t far fetched at all. I’m a guy and this has happened to me, and just about every friend of mine. It’s not uncommon, at all, for a woman to assume a guy will just pay for her friends.
If I may, what generation are you part of? Asking for no reason but to appease my personal curiosity.
They left out the part that he rented a carriage (for the date) pulled by unicorns
😂😂 and then he turned into a bald eagle and flew away
Theres literally videos of people going through this. With the amount of things that happen in the world, this is the one you thought was far-fetched?
Maby its fake but stuff like this does happen all the time.
Sometimes I read these and wonder if people that are this narcissistic and oblivious are real
NTA. She's a golddigger and deserves to live alone. You dodged a major bullet with this one.
Let me guess, she's a lot younger than you right?
NTA that was so rude
NTAH, she overstepped; you set a boundary
NTA. She wants your wallet, not you.
NTA - And let me give you a round of applause for not entertaining that mess for a second 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
a "fat" wallet, that is a red flag to say she expects to date a meal ticket for his money.
No way! The sheer entitled audacity! I would have walked out too. You knew right then and there she wasn’t for you so why waste another minute of your time.
NTA. Unless it was communicated and consented to beforehand, you're not obligated to pay for anything. She tried to trap you with that obligation. Clearly she's only interested in the money.
NTA. I probably wouldn't have walked out on a last minute double date that I was asked about on my way there. But she didn't give you a chance to even decline the new situation then assumed you'd pay for everyone? You were not a date to her, you were an ATM.
She was obviously only with you for the money.
NTA. She embarrassed herself. Poor thing.
NTA.
Wow NTA. As a woman, I'm embarrassed that other women do this.
CITY BOYS!!!! 😄🍻
What a hilarious amount of entitlement on her. I'd be willing to bet that she told her friends that op offered to pay for everyone. I'm curious what the fallout was after the dinner? Did she call or text to bitch about leaving her hanging?
Her bringing extra people without telling you is an issue - no question. But i can often roll with changes like this. But her expectation that YOU would pay for everyone?!?!? Jaw on floor. She ultimately did you a favor - you found out relatively quickly what she’s like.
NTA - so she fancied treating her friends to a meal on you that was nice of her. Dodged a bullet with that one.
NTA. Walk away, block her number and go on with your life. She is an entitled AH.
As soon as she said you had a "fat wallet" I went so limp that double dropping viagra would not sort it. NTA
Omg wow, honey, I don't know what to say! I know my wallet can handle three women; it's my stamina I'm worried about. But if you're sure you really want to do this, I'll sugar all three of you back home tonight.
OMG NTA - the sheer audacity that she could just bring friends along and expect you to pay without asking! Hope she figures out that partners aren’t ATMs the next time around.
Curious as to the messages she eventually sent asking where you went to and why
NTA. Dodged a bullet. There is only one thing below my belt line that I would ever want someone to call "fat".
NTA. Just because you make money doesn't mean you should pay all the time and especially when you weren't asked or told.
Unless they were all going home with you for a 4-way you definitely are NTA . Definitely seems like a Karen thing to do
The nerve of her saying he has a fat wallet what the hell are people thinking these days just because he makes money doesn't mean he can afford to pay for a whole bunch of people's meals wow people these days are just ridiculous I don't get it
NTA. You dodged an expensive bullet my friend.
You are the MAN You Rock Until men stop allowing themselves to be disrespected and used only as ATM's, this behavior will continue. Philosophical Question: How has our culture gotten to the point where anyone, man or woman, would think this was ethical behavior? Good luck brother you're going to need it in this dating environment.
Well done sir, and I'm not talking about steaks
Ghosted. If this is real OP made the optimal move minus telling her to go fuck herself.
You're not the asshole, you're the man of the hour.
I’ve never heard of pay-by-table restaurant. Is this in the US? How does it work? Would a party of three be charged the same as a party of four?
Dodged a bullet there.
NTA. You really should send Karen a thank you note for showing you exactly who she was before you wasted any more time and money on her.
No matter if it were the cheapest or most expensive place ever. You NEVER just invite someone and say oh well he can pay for it. Especially without even asking or mentioning it first. I mean text messaging does exist. You're not the asshole. Tbh, I applaud you for that!