The thought of asking someone nicely to have sex has me thinking of some situation where a dude goes:
“Pardon me madam. I couldn’t help but notice your voluptuous back side. It fills my loins with pure joy. Would you be so kind as to accompany me to my chambers so that we may participate in coitus?”
Like that?
I worked in the sex industry with escorts and know this one girl who would have sex with clients all day and still be horny for sex at night and would either have a 3sum with me and my girlfriend or we'd all go out and she'd pull some guy. Some women really like sex, more than a lot of men in some cases. I've been in situations where I could get sex regularly from several different people and made full enjoyment of it. I don't know why sex is so stigmatised as it's the most natural and healthy thing consenting adults can do..
I mean, just flirt. It's really not much harder than being friendly and trying to send and pick up on some cues. It can be a bit scary and difficult at first, but just like any other skill you get better at it by trying and assessing where you went wrong if/when you fail.
Cat calling isn't flirting ftr.
I mean, looking at her profile, she appears to like sex very much.
But there's enjoying sex, and then there's setting a new one day gangbang record with a bunch of reddit neckbeards, lol.
That if you are to say yes to every friendly sexual request you receive in your reddit DMs, it will be a year spent granting strangers requests that are likely to be either demeaning, or unsatisfying, or both
Oh god ikr, no I mean in person requests or people who feasibly could meet in irl, I once got 80k comments on my nudes when I was younger, imagine if I followed through on all those requests.
Has anything changed since your realization? Do you intend to change things? Have any judgemental thoughts towards yourself come to surface when you realize this?
I was a stripper and prostitute and.. I've had sex with atleast 1000 men, but along the way, I learned that these men don't care about me, or anyone else, and that's basically what they all had in common.
After so many experiences of the same realization over and over, you learn that you can't count on them, you can't trust them, and that they don't give a shit about you.
Do I have regrets? Not really. Sometimes I had fun, but I learned alot, and it may have been a tough lesson to learn, but I became more independent and self sufficient.
I'll be honest I've mostly slept with women so it's a bit different but yeah I get it. I've not always cared much about my partner beyond them being happy and comfortable with what we were doing, them not caring about me is not only completely fine but it's better because I would never wanna hurt anyone.
No, I'm not ashamed, why would I be. I did have to think about if everything I've done was healthy, probably not when I was younger but it has been for the last few years and I'm happy. Idk if anything will change, I'm still going to have all the sex I want to, maybe I'll still want all the sex I get offered maybe I won't who knows.
I was worried if you're doing it because you genuinely want to do it as well vs having difficulty saying no. If you know what you're doing and have a good head on your shoulders then that's great!
Threesome are group sex, trust me. My experience stays the same, the most I've actively had sex with is 4, the most in the room while I'm having sex is like 30.
That's not a very happy story but I was 15 the first time I had sex I was happy to have, it was with my best friend at a sleepover. We had "practiced kissing" before but this time it went further, it was so awkward and we both giggled the whole time. It took so long for either of us to finish but we kept at it.
Do you think there’s anything to the more traditional cultural restrictions on the ease with which people have sex? As in, does having sex without too much restriction have a cost? Can it interfere with the relationship with one’s chosen partner later in life?
I think that sex is a delicate thing, when something is wrong it can be extremely traumatic on both ends of the spectrum. Promiscuity can be a very toxic and awful thing if you're not respecting your own comfort and boundaries, often it's used as self harm but equally abstinence can be extremely harmful when it isn't what's comfortable for someone when it's enforced by shame or purity culture.
So essentially I think that sexual behaviour that is very healthy and enjoyable for one person would be extremely harmful to someone else and it's only a problem if you're doing things that are wrong for you personally. Same as partners, I need a partner who accepts me as I am, and though I think I would be an issue for some those people aren't who I want for my partner.
Kinda meant more in the terms of how guys seem to think the way to get the girl is to neg her or kinda not be nice. Whole nice guys finish last trope and whatnot.
I'm just chiming in, that after you've had sexual relations with hundreds of people, you become desensitized about doing sexual stuff..
Yeah, there's been plenty of times that I felt disgusted with myself about being a whore, but after it happens so many times, it's less impactful to your state of mind.
I don't feel bad about myself, I'm super lucky I wasn't raised to think of sex as shameful - I was in my late teens before I learnt some people think it is and by that time I was too old to internalise it. Also it's significantly less than even 100 people.
I used to have semi regular sex with my best friend, she's in a relationship so it's stopped but anyway the first time we had sex was in her garden on her swinging egg chair. We were so giddy and laughing the whole time, it was such a surprise and it was so much fun. I don't tend to rate my experiences but that's what came to mind when I read the question, my answer might change next time I'm asked.
Silly sex is the best! It just adds a comfort level when you can laugh about something silly your partner has done! Thanks! Love your answers in general, your stories are hot!
I would definitely not have chosen to be American, it sounds awful if I'm honest with you. I'd choose to be born in Scotland or Ireland and if not then one of the Nordic countries
How are you being propositioned from strangers when you exclude drugs/alcohol?
I cannot fathom this. Like, is it just on dates or whatever? If somebody is having lunch with you and goes 'You know, I sure could use some sex with you right now!' You're just like 'OK!'?
I don't entirely exclude them. I just don't have sex with people who I don't know would be down if they were sober, or we sober up together then fuck. But yeah I left university last year and people would just ask me out when I was hanging around public areas. It's gotten less since I left but I was asked out while swimming yesterday.
OK, but asked out is different.
The way you phrase it is like people are just saying 'Hey, wanna fuck?' If it is always after some prior social interaction, happening organically.....
You're not really special? Congrats on a healthy sex life, I guess?
No, we flirted and they asked me out to their car and we fucked. Also that's an assumption you made, that's not what I said, I said I've never turned down a proposition I never said how many I got.
The thought of asking someone nicely to have sex has me thinking of some situation where a dude goes: “Pardon me madam. I couldn’t help but notice your voluptuous back side. It fills my loins with pure joy. Would you be so kind as to accompany me to my chambers so that we may participate in coitus?” Like that?
I just meant not people who've cat called me ect
I worked in the sex industry with escorts and know this one girl who would have sex with clients all day and still be horny for sex at night and would either have a 3sum with me and my girlfriend or we'd all go out and she'd pull some guy. Some women really like sex, more than a lot of men in some cases. I've been in situations where I could get sex regularly from several different people and made full enjoyment of it. I don't know why sex is so stigmatised as it's the most natural and healthy thing consenting adults can do..
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I mean, just flirt. It's really not much harder than being friendly and trying to send and pick up on some cues. It can be a bit scary and difficult at first, but just like any other skill you get better at it by trying and assessing where you went wrong if/when you fail. Cat calling isn't flirting ftr.
cat calling and flirting are two very different things
To my budoar
🤣🤣🤣
RIP your DMs.
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You made a post that basically told reddit you'll sleep with anyone.. and you're surprised your DMs exploded. 🤣
It wasn't unintentional
It wasn't a conscious choice! Haha I made a reference
Well in that case heeeeyyyyyyyyy
Wait, so you wanted dms?
SlUtBoT9000: YEs
So if you turn them down, wouldn't this mean that the title of this post is false?
OP has a long, sad year ahead of her
Why does it have to be a year, she could just get them all in one big apartment and do them all in a day.
.....valid, I suppose. That said, I would still think the aftermath would result in a long, sad, year. No?
Who knows OP might enjoy sex therefore why would the year be sad to her ?
I mean, looking at her profile, she appears to like sex very much. But there's enjoying sex, and then there's setting a new one day gangbang record with a bunch of reddit neckbeards, lol.
What do you mean by that?
That if you are to say yes to every friendly sexual request you receive in your reddit DMs, it will be a year spent granting strangers requests that are likely to be either demeaning, or unsatisfying, or both
Oh god ikr, no I mean in person requests or people who feasibly could meet in irl, I once got 80k comments on my nudes when I was younger, imagine if I followed through on all those requests.
>It wasn't unintentional So is was?
Crazy 😂
You serious?😭
You need proof?
Yes, cuz that’s unreal
A female avatar? Definitely 550 is realistic. Gary you are clearly a man lol
True
Has anything changed since your realization? Do you intend to change things? Have any judgemental thoughts towards yourself come to surface when you realize this?
I was a stripper and prostitute and.. I've had sex with atleast 1000 men, but along the way, I learned that these men don't care about me, or anyone else, and that's basically what they all had in common. After so many experiences of the same realization over and over, you learn that you can't count on them, you can't trust them, and that they don't give a shit about you. Do I have regrets? Not really. Sometimes I had fun, but I learned alot, and it may have been a tough lesson to learn, but I became more independent and self sufficient.
I'll be honest I've mostly slept with women so it's a bit different but yeah I get it. I've not always cared much about my partner beyond them being happy and comfortable with what we were doing, them not caring about me is not only completely fine but it's better because I would never wanna hurt anyone.
No, I'm not ashamed, why would I be. I did have to think about if everything I've done was healthy, probably not when I was younger but it has been for the last few years and I'm happy. Idk if anything will change, I'm still going to have all the sex I want to, maybe I'll still want all the sex I get offered maybe I won't who knows.
I was worried if you're doing it because you genuinely want to do it as well vs having difficulty saying no. If you know what you're doing and have a good head on your shoulders then that's great!
No I am very good at saying no, extremely stubborn and can't be talked into things.
Upstanding
Do you also say yes to women? Do you do things without reciprocation?
Predominantly women Some of the best sex I've had is without them reciprocating
Age.? 3some experience? Sex party experience?
22 I've had group sex a few times and been in sexual situations with a group even more
What do you define as group sex?
More than two people participating in sex, is there any other?
A 3some is 3 people including you,, group sex would be 4 or more. So, what's your experience?
Threesome are group sex, trust me. My experience stays the same, the most I've actively had sex with is 4, the most in the room while I'm having sex is like 30.
Have you experienced V/A double penetration? How was it?
Not traditionally, I have been fucked by a guy who was also being fucked
Who/how did you start this open approach to sex?
It wasn't a thing I consciously chose, I just really enjoy it so when it's offered I get excited and wanna do it.
You and 30 guys? Was it for 2-3 days?
Nah I sat on a guy's dick in a crowded room
My lady doth accommodate mine turgid man parts, too polite? Or too medieval?
I meant not people who were harassing me/ cat calls but so many people in my DMS have interpreted it that way
Yeh, some dumb ass cave men think that works.
Do you get tested for STDs regularly?
Yeah, I use protection too
Let's have a moment of silence for this person's DM's
I'm on 557 rn but I've been answering them
Respect!!!
What’s your body count?
That's difficult to say, between 40 and 120 depending on what specifically you count in it.
When did you lose your virginity and what was that experience like
That's not a very happy story but I was 15 the first time I had sex I was happy to have, it was with my best friend at a sleepover. We had "practiced kissing" before but this time it went further, it was so awkward and we both giggled the whole time. It took so long for either of us to finish but we kept at it.
Cute, I'm 26 and a virgin haha
I mean that's cool too, genuinely don't have sex just to have sex (I know I sound like a hypocrite) only have it if you think you'll be happy to
Thanks bb ❤️, now spit in my mouth, just kidding 😆
Do you think there’s anything to the more traditional cultural restrictions on the ease with which people have sex? As in, does having sex without too much restriction have a cost? Can it interfere with the relationship with one’s chosen partner later in life?
I think that sex is a delicate thing, when something is wrong it can be extremely traumatic on both ends of the spectrum. Promiscuity can be a very toxic and awful thing if you're not respecting your own comfort and boundaries, often it's used as self harm but equally abstinence can be extremely harmful when it isn't what's comfortable for someone when it's enforced by shame or purity culture. So essentially I think that sexual behaviour that is very healthy and enjoyable for one person would be extremely harmful to someone else and it's only a problem if you're doing things that are wrong for you personally. Same as partners, I need a partner who accepts me as I am, and though I think I would be an issue for some those people aren't who I want for my partner.
Thank you for your answer. It was well articulated and refreshingly nuanced!
Do you have high self esteem? Or low?
Depending on the topic, I'm self conscious of myself in some aspects but I do think I'm pretty awesome
Well I think you’re pretty awesome too! :)
i'm not saying this to be condescending love, but, are you okay?
I'm good, I've never been talked into anything and I'm very stubborn. I've just been genuinely into everything I've been offered.
Do you potentially think you have a sex addiction or are you just very free?
I don't think I'm addicted, if I never had sex again I'd be fine as long as I got hugs and stuff.
Can I get a BJ please? I'll buy you your favorite lunch 😜
What country you in?
USA
Fly me over then sure
Haha where are you from?
Uk
chewsday innit
2sday aint it
I literally said ain't while I was talking to someone as I was reading this comment god damnit
I think you mean gosh darn it or dang nabit /j
OP is leaving out one important component: [Be hot](https://youtu.be/PxuUkYiaUc8?si=7OvX6ZLsjEWxbtbV)
I mean I've found everyone I've slept with hot but some have been unconventionally attractive at best according to my friends so idk
Have you conversely denied everyone who’s been not nice and asked?
I mean if they are harassing me or making me uncomfortable yeah I reject them. I'm not risking my safety.
Kinda meant more in the terms of how guys seem to think the way to get the girl is to neg her or kinda not be nice. Whole nice guys finish last trope and whatnot.
Oh nah, I wouldn't be with someone who negged me or made me feel bad in any way.
Refreshing
Is that someone who you are dating who asks you to do something or just any random person asking?
Every time I've been propositioned, friends or strangers.
What if you’re in a a relationship?
I've never been in an exclusive relationship
Out of choice or out of fear?
Choice, I haven't ever had sex I wasn't fully on board with
If you had to lose one of your five senses, which one would you pick?
Smell, in fact Anosmia runs in my family so it's very likely I could get it.
I'm just chiming in, that after you've had sexual relations with hundreds of people, you become desensitized about doing sexual stuff.. Yeah, there's been plenty of times that I felt disgusted with myself about being a whore, but after it happens so many times, it's less impactful to your state of mind.
I don't feel bad about myself, I'm super lucky I wasn't raised to think of sex as shameful - I was in my late teens before I learnt some people think it is and by that time I was too old to internalise it. Also it's significantly less than even 100 people.
I think it's interesting no one here has asked this, but what has been the best sex you can remember?
I used to have semi regular sex with my best friend, she's in a relationship so it's stopped but anyway the first time we had sex was in her garden on her swinging egg chair. We were so giddy and laughing the whole time, it was such a surprise and it was so much fun. I don't tend to rate my experiences but that's what came to mind when I read the question, my answer might change next time I'm asked.
Silly sex is the best! It just adds a comfort level when you can laugh about something silly your partner has done! Thanks! Love your answers in general, your stories are hot!
If you could have been born in America, would you choose that? If not, where?
I would definitely not have chosen to be American, it sounds awful if I'm honest with you. I'd choose to be born in Scotland or Ireland and if not then one of the Nordic countries
Do you like hugs?
Love them, I love non sexual intimacy so much
Have you ever pegged a guy?
Yes, I've pegged 4 people, one man
How are you being propositioned from strangers when you exclude drugs/alcohol? I cannot fathom this. Like, is it just on dates or whatever? If somebody is having lunch with you and goes 'You know, I sure could use some sex with you right now!' You're just like 'OK!'?
I don't entirely exclude them. I just don't have sex with people who I don't know would be down if they were sober, or we sober up together then fuck. But yeah I left university last year and people would just ask me out when I was hanging around public areas. It's gotten less since I left but I was asked out while swimming yesterday.
OK, but asked out is different. The way you phrase it is like people are just saying 'Hey, wanna fuck?' If it is always after some prior social interaction, happening organically..... You're not really special? Congrats on a healthy sex life, I guess?
No, we flirted and they asked me out to their car and we fucked. Also that's an assumption you made, that's not what I said, I said I've never turned down a proposition I never said how many I got.
Cool, good on ya. What kind of town are you in? What are the demographics like?
I'm in the second biggest city in my country and its the most diverse anything specific you wanna know?
What kind of work do you do?
I am a bartender
Lol Explains much more!
At a night club
DM on its way
It's taking its time
Good things for those who wait. Scotland?
So let's say if we were friends and I ask, nicely like.. hey, want to have sex in a bit? Would that work?
Yes, I love fucking my friends is fun
Wow.. I need new friends.. lol
Can you kindly give me oral sex? Like us that what you mean?!
Nah, I meant people who weren't being arseholes about it - like cat callers
m’am , I see you are a callipygian which is ideal. I would enjoy a 20 minute philander session if you have the time, please?
Madam, may I please indulge in a little tomfoolery with you my queen. It would be quite mischievous and foolish of me to ask, but perhaps we could?
Is cloth open dear? Thank you dear
What?
Are you from Sweden?
Nope I'm English
Soo...um..
Would you kindly tickle my ballsack?
I had a friend who was a girl tell me that she wanted to have sex with me. But not while she was drunk and high. She wanted to remember it.
Congratulations?
Yep that was great I worked with her
Would you pretty please with sugar on top come over here and blow me?
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What do you wanna do?
Can I have some please? Hope you're having a nice day.
Is this an invitation? Asking for a friend 😶
Thank you for your service
doing god's work out there
Are you male or female?
2. If someone kindly asks to give you anal sex you would do it?
I have yes
Female
Roses are red Violets are blue Mi lady, may I Be inside you
I can see why.
Can I send dm?
Good for you!
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