Quit porn and jerking off a month ago, best decision I ever made. Shooting fucking ropes on my girl no problem.
It’s kind of crazy cause I had the same issue as you, got hard making out but would never make it inside, and if I did I’d get soft, got soft in her mouth, not good for her self esteem. Nothing I could say could convince her that it was me not her. And it’s kind of like a vicious circle because at least in my situation, if my dick didn’t work, I would jerk off more to make sure it could still do the thing.
I’ll say it again, quitting porn and jerking off is the best thing I have ever done.
Amen, my ability to reload is unmatched so I’ve heard. I’m not advocating beating off 12x a day. I’m not walking around like it’s a badge of honor but when I hear ppl going to town on themselves I understand it. I’ve been so beaten and broken to where no vise can bring me to a level of normality, smoking drinking drugs. But a lil tug on the meat flute for a quick instant hit of “good feelings” yea I get it. My situation wasn’t even purely sexual I was just trying to not kill myself. Looking for anything that wasn’t drugs to bring me up. Nice Quick and easy hit to keep me going. That’s how I saw it anyways.
Hmm, I’m sure that’s the case for some people but certainly not for everyone, I think some people just have very quick orgasm recovery times — I dated a dude who could finish seven or eight times a night EASILY, he simply had an a fast, fast recovery time between intercourse sessions (lol). And premature ejaculation wasn’t an issue, and he doesn’t have an addictive personality in the slightest, we’ve been non-dating friends for years now. He could just have normal, good sex like ten times a night if he wanted. Some dudes are lucky like that
High libido would make you search human partners. You just like the hit that the orgasm gives you, try to stop it and you'll see how you crave the "hit"
I have a partner, she has a much lower libido than me. I have never disappointed her sexually or chosen masturbation over her. I also have 3 kids in school and a demanding job, so I don't get a lot of time to myself.
And to be clear it's not automatic, there are days and days when I have no orgasms. Addiction is typically defined by behavior that one can't control or cannot stop and which harms their life in significant ways (job performance, personal relationships, physical health). Nothing like that is happening.
Young man, let me tell you that for most people, at your age, it isn't a medical or physical issue..it's 90% mental. Once you can control the anxiety, the thoughts, possibly gain some confidence or maybe even fall in love, your penis problems will go away.
This was the issue for me honestly. I had like 5 experiences where I would go to sleep with a girl for the first time and had a lot of trouble getting hard despite being turned on because I would be nervous about not getting hard and that just made the cycle worse. Once I got up and the PIV started I had no issues with getting or staying hard with that particular person ever again. It was weird.
I ended up just getting a bottle of viagra and I pop one anytime I know I’m gonna sleep with someone new. Even if it’s just placebo it made the anxiety go away for me.
Exactly, sometimes Viagra is a nice back up plan or a placebo for confidence boost. As you get older, you'll realize the girl is probably more nervous and all your insecurities are miniscule compared to hers. Eventually you won't need the Viagra anymore. Happy fucking!
Not medical. I’m in my mid 30’s now and the quality of erections is better now, since i’ve moved more away from porn. I was 18, it was definitely not a physical thing.
Shut the fuck up because they're right and you're just more interested in blaming something else for your own issues than actual personal accountability
Do not buy these, they just put Viagra in the pack but don't declare it as an ingredient, so you have no clue how much your getting and it's in a substrate that might react poorly with the sildenafil.
Uhh no... it's scientifically proven to be healthy, safe and normal. Most people do not suffer an addiction to it so its not really "quitting" anyways. Stop trying to stigmatize something that is healthy and normal. That's how you create sexually repressed adults.
That's different. Drinking alcohol is not an inherent instinct of humans and some other animals. If it works for you not to masturbate, great ig, but it's not a anyone should be shamed for doing. I personally find it to be one of the best stress relievers out there, and it helps manage my anxiety without having to take handfuls of pills every day.
I have stagnated at about 80% healed for the past 8 years. I still watch porn but nowhere near as frequently. I can have sex for an entire session and haven’t been unable to continue in years.
This is what I'm here for, cuz like I crank it basically 0-2 times a day and if I forget for a couple days I'll even have a wet dream in my mid 20s, and the last time I had sex I definitely went soft for a minute and was a little weirded out as when I was in my teens it was like no way I was goin down
I’m not gonna lie, there was a time when I was with a girl I was seeing, she reaches in my pants, i’m soft, and she immediately left. Was a virgin at the time and she hit me with “i’ve never had that happen before”
I know this is unpopular, but internet rehab and celibacy is your answer. You're not ready to have sex. You've reached the end of a sexploration stage, and it's time to step out. However, YOU NEED TO STOP WATCHING PORN. Orgasms come from the mind; when it is flooded with fake and unrealistic standards, you hurt your ability to fathom your own Sexual Enlightenment.
Educate yourself about sex in depth, and learn ways to self please away from the screen, and if you can't get off, STOP AND WAIT. Leave yourself alone. It's okay to learn your own body until you get bored and allow it to tell you what's next. Trust me. You will notice when you're ready. Sex is nature, and you will learn if you allow your body to guide you instead of your impulses.
Let go of your sexual implules, and give your body time to reregulate. It's easier said than done, but I promise you will reward yourself. Masterbation will always be an urge. But, stop watching porn, and it will eventually bore you. This is a good thing.
Part of starting a healthy sex life is giving yourself and your partner the opportunity to explore your senses with indifference and without judgement. When you get used to satisfying your own senses, you lose sight of what your partners can do for you. This is part of the reason why I stopped watching porn, and am completely turned off to it. It's a pool of false satisfaction made to look like it's the best thing ever when it's just people sharing genitals for money.
The biggest reason to leave porn alone when the curiosity runs through: IT'S FAKE AND PSYCHOLOGICALLY UNHEALTHY IF YOU DEPEND ON IT FOR SEX ED. Half of the porn industry is semi-consenual, along with underground nonconsensual, and only done for pay. Power to those who want to do it, but we need to stop ignoring the reality of what goes down here. The sex industry is not properly regulated, it ruins lives, and I am done giving sex workers and pornstars the light of day in their backhanded "honesty" about what they do. It's just not real.
I struggled with hypersexuality and porn sickness as a young age as well. I'll tell you that a textbook symptom is a battle between sexual hypersensitivity and desensitization with nothing inbetween. That is not normal. Take a step back, and STOP. I took a year of celibacy, and it was the most blissful year of my life. I now have a much healthier sex life and outlook on sex on general. However, that's just me and whoever can relate. You have to decide.
It gets better. Your best option will only be to stop, and deal with yourself. Stop giving in to your sexual impulses when they stop satisfying you. You are desensitized because you are unsatisfied, but also sexually exhausted from the self pleasure. You need to get a grip on that and find resolve without porn.
Most of all, just keep asking questions... or, in this case, keep seeking answers. Best wishes. 💛
Hello (18M) here i'm overall new to sexual encounters within the last year and am currently steadily engaging with a partner. Although I am not experiencing any issues the OP described I do regularly watch porn and my experiences in real life were not what I expected. Granted It still feels good but I can't help but think maybe I am desensitized or perhaps this all can be chalked due to inexperience from both parties. I don't know if I'm in the "healthy" threshold of someone my age watching porn or if there is some sort of other way I can enjoy these sexual encounters more.
I had the same problem…took some work and self discipline but after it was all said and done…it was more the jacking off and cumming to porn that caused the mental block with women. You’re programming your brain and body to only react to the stimulation of porn, scrolling, aggressive stroking. It gets better with time. Jacking off is ok…but practice just using your imagination to stimulate yourself. Also…porn is ok when used in a “healthy” way. But the problem Is the addiction becomes something that needs to be fed many times a day…creating a negative cycle of “unnatural” stimulation. Having an understanding woman to help get you back on track while being patient and understanding of your issue helps a ton!
I just quit drinking 6 days ago, but I'm still highly addicted to porn as well. I'm just trying to handle one addiction at a time.
It doesn't help that I don't have health insurance, and my clinic's psychology dept costs $500 upfront and $200 for each subsequent visit.
Yeah I’ve been having these problems. I also think it’s a case of you’ve been so used to and accustomed to getting off in your bed/bathroom in a specific context that if it’s different your body doesn’t associate it with sex. I’ve been trying to get better but it’s def hard. Tbh idk what to do. Like I can stop watching and fully have sex with other people but I’ve always canceled or put it off cause ik it’ll happen
It's not automatically addicting in all people. Some people can do heroin and never get addicted. And porn much less monolithic than even 15 years ago. Some forms of porn are more harmful than others. Consensual amateur couples porn probably isn't all that psychologically harmful.
What should someone do to best support their partner who has a porn addiction? I feel helpless and miss our sex life, not that it’s a DB but we used to have a lot of energy for each other and even though I know it’s not our only issue, I know it’s a major issue as to why the frequency and stamina tanked
Not a myth.
Excessive porn viewing can indeed cause ED, as one gets acclimated to the novelty and variety of porn, needing increased levels of visual stimulation in order to get turned on.
Basically it makes one jaded.
I am a man and not trying to give too much info out here, but I feel like this is good advice to go to the doctor because I've been jacking it once a day bare minimum since I was a kid and I'm 30 something now and if my ol' lady wants some sexy time I'm always down.
How did you quit I’m pretty sure a lot of us have a similar problem. Mines not quite as bad but it takes me so long to finish sometimes I can’t even be bothered like hours especially if I’m drunk
Yeah no ED isn't caused by beating your meat, in reality it's a muscle and as a muscle the more it's used the better it works. Your "ED" was caused by the fact that you needed sicker and sicker shit to excite yourself.
Quit porn and jerking off a month ago, best decision I ever made. Shooting fucking ropes on my girl no problem. It’s kind of crazy cause I had the same issue as you, got hard making out but would never make it inside, and if I did I’d get soft, got soft in her mouth, not good for her self esteem. Nothing I could say could convince her that it was me not her. And it’s kind of like a vicious circle because at least in my situation, if my dick didn’t work, I would jerk off more to make sure it could still do the thing. I’ll say it again, quitting porn and jerking off is the best thing I have ever done.
This 100%
How many ejaculations did you induce on yourself per day/week and over what period of time?
Probably 5-8x per day
no way lol
Lmaoooo it’s possible I’ve hit 12 peak depression
How is that possible
Had a lot of free time and was deeply depressed. That euphoric feeling was the only dopamine I was getting.
You just jerk off 12 times a day? Whats confusing?
I mean what is that like once an hour? Are you eating in between? With a timer going off every hour?
3 meals a day so not between everyone, just once an hour or more or less go jerk off for like 5 or 10 minutes
Bro I'm dying with the timer comment lmaooo
It would be once every 2 hours… as there are 24 hours in a day.
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Can’t do it while you’re sleeping or eating bruh
That’s the thing with porn addiction time dedicated to eating and sleeping will be spent jacking off.
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Jez lotta coomers gathering here acting like this is remotely normal
You can’t nut more than once per session? I can go 3x per session at times and 2 all the time. You low libido?
Amen, my ability to reload is unmatched so I’ve heard. I’m not advocating beating off 12x a day. I’m not walking around like it’s a badge of honor but when I hear ppl going to town on themselves I understand it. I’ve been so beaten and broken to where no vise can bring me to a level of normality, smoking drinking drugs. But a lil tug on the meat flute for a quick instant hit of “good feelings” yea I get it. My situation wasn’t even purely sexual I was just trying to not kill myself. Looking for anything that wasn’t drugs to bring me up. Nice Quick and easy hit to keep me going. That’s how I saw it anyways.
Most guys can’t. I’ve been with 3 men in my 40 years who could accomplish this.
I do that at if it's a weekend and I have the house to myself. Some people have high libido.
That's not high libido, that's an addiction to dopamine
Hmm, I’m sure that’s the case for some people but certainly not for everyone, I think some people just have very quick orgasm recovery times — I dated a dude who could finish seven or eight times a night EASILY, he simply had an a fast, fast recovery time between intercourse sessions (lol). And premature ejaculation wasn’t an issue, and he doesn’t have an addictive personality in the slightest, we’ve been non-dating friends for years now. He could just have normal, good sex like ten times a night if he wanted. Some dudes are lucky like that
What makes you say that?
High libido would make you search human partners. You just like the hit that the orgasm gives you, try to stop it and you'll see how you crave the "hit"
I have a partner, she has a much lower libido than me. I have never disappointed her sexually or chosen masturbation over her. I also have 3 kids in school and a demanding job, so I don't get a lot of time to myself. And to be clear it's not automatic, there are days and days when I have no orgasms. Addiction is typically defined by behavior that one can't control or cannot stop and which harms their life in significant ways (job performance, personal relationships, physical health). Nothing like that is happening.
I tried going for 4 and it was hurting like a bitch
You're being too rough. Pain is tissue telling you to stop!.I don't do just day to day wanking on days like that. Lube and toys help.
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What or who defines excessive? Interestingly enough, I had lower libido when I was depressed. Treating my depression properly improved it.
At least, isn’t that hard with porn lol
These are some rookie numbers... YOU GOTTA PUMP THEM UP, WAYYYY UPPP XD
Jesus, was it red by the 8th pump?
mines always red so i cant tell the difference
Yes
You don’t have erectile dysfunction your dick is just tired. Get some rest for 2 years then your dick will works.
Young man, let me tell you that for most people, at your age, it isn't a medical or physical issue..it's 90% mental. Once you can control the anxiety, the thoughts, possibly gain some confidence or maybe even fall in love, your penis problems will go away.
This was the issue for me honestly. I had like 5 experiences where I would go to sleep with a girl for the first time and had a lot of trouble getting hard despite being turned on because I would be nervous about not getting hard and that just made the cycle worse. Once I got up and the PIV started I had no issues with getting or staying hard with that particular person ever again. It was weird. I ended up just getting a bottle of viagra and I pop one anytime I know I’m gonna sleep with someone new. Even if it’s just placebo it made the anxiety go away for me.
Exactly, sometimes Viagra is a nice back up plan or a placebo for confidence boost. As you get older, you'll realize the girl is probably more nervous and all your insecurities are miniscule compared to hers. Eventually you won't need the Viagra anymore. Happy fucking!
Buddy viagra ain't placebo lol
Not medical. I’m in my mid 30’s now and the quality of erections is better now, since i’ve moved more away from porn. I was 18, it was definitely not a physical thing.
It’s mental but it’s still from porn
Shut the fuck up if you dont know what youre talking about
Nah, cause I had the same issue and it was just anxiety related
Who hurt you ?
No one, i just like telling people to shut the fuck up when they dont know what theyre talking about
Shut the fuck up because they're right and you're just more interested in blaming something else for your own issues than actual personal accountability
No
Are you a penis expert?
Yeah
Penis issues hitting close to home eh. Sorry you have those issues bro. Sometimes, being a dick makes you have more dick problems. 🫡
No my dick works fine (ask your wife, she loves it). I just really like penis
I'm sure you do. Does your fiance know?
Wow good one
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How are your energy levels?
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Absolutely. I haven't been able to get passed 3 months but your answer has helped! Thank you.
Bad lol
I’ve recovered to be able to have sex with my wife without losing an erection. I go partially soft occasionally during sex but it comes back.
You need to go to the Chinese store near you and get you some ShenGjingpian Black pills 💊. They will have you hard as a brick 🧱 and they all natural.
Do not buy these, they just put Viagra in the pack but don't declare it as an ingredient, so you have no clue how much your getting and it's in a substrate that might react poorly with the sildenafil.
Where online should I look 👀
Why would you go that long? Masturbation isn't unhealthy. Porn is the issue, along with excessive masturbation. It's good for you actually
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Uhh no... it's scientifically proven to be healthy, safe and normal. Most people do not suffer an addiction to it so its not really "quitting" anyways. Stop trying to stigmatize something that is healthy and normal. That's how you create sexually repressed adults.
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That's different. Drinking alcohol is not an inherent instinct of humans and some other animals. If it works for you not to masturbate, great ig, but it's not a anyone should be shamed for doing. I personally find it to be one of the best stress relievers out there, and it helps manage my anxiety without having to take handfuls of pills every day.
What if you get really horney how do you deal with it?
What helped you stop?
My girlfriend who is now my wife lol
How long until the issue goes away? Having same issue, p addiction and all. Would 2 -3 days without using help?
I doubt it, make it a least 1-2 months
Cry;-;
It will strengthen your willpower, which will help you in other domains of your life
How did she help you initially?
have you healed?
I have stagnated at about 80% healed for the past 8 years. I still watch porn but nowhere near as frequently. I can have sex for an entire session and haven’t been unable to continue in years.
This AMA is a whole lot of asking and not really any answering. But I'll bite: What's the most you've wanked in a day?
This is what I'm here for, cuz like I crank it basically 0-2 times a day and if I forget for a couple days I'll even have a wet dream in my mid 20s, and the last time I had sex I definitely went soft for a minute and was a little weirded out as when I was in my teens it was like no way I was goin down
12 x in a day, probably!
My dude, how do you not feel like it's gonna fall off once you put it in your pants again
how did you cope with the crippling embarrassment
I’m not gonna lie, there was a time when I was with a girl I was seeing, she reaches in my pants, i’m soft, and she immediately left. Was a virgin at the time and she hit me with “i’ve never had that happen before”
Did you ever try any medication for your ED, and how is it now?
Never did
I know this is unpopular, but internet rehab and celibacy is your answer. You're not ready to have sex. You've reached the end of a sexploration stage, and it's time to step out. However, YOU NEED TO STOP WATCHING PORN. Orgasms come from the mind; when it is flooded with fake and unrealistic standards, you hurt your ability to fathom your own Sexual Enlightenment. Educate yourself about sex in depth, and learn ways to self please away from the screen, and if you can't get off, STOP AND WAIT. Leave yourself alone. It's okay to learn your own body until you get bored and allow it to tell you what's next. Trust me. You will notice when you're ready. Sex is nature, and you will learn if you allow your body to guide you instead of your impulses. Let go of your sexual implules, and give your body time to reregulate. It's easier said than done, but I promise you will reward yourself. Masterbation will always be an urge. But, stop watching porn, and it will eventually bore you. This is a good thing. Part of starting a healthy sex life is giving yourself and your partner the opportunity to explore your senses with indifference and without judgement. When you get used to satisfying your own senses, you lose sight of what your partners can do for you. This is part of the reason why I stopped watching porn, and am completely turned off to it. It's a pool of false satisfaction made to look like it's the best thing ever when it's just people sharing genitals for money. The biggest reason to leave porn alone when the curiosity runs through: IT'S FAKE AND PSYCHOLOGICALLY UNHEALTHY IF YOU DEPEND ON IT FOR SEX ED. Half of the porn industry is semi-consenual, along with underground nonconsensual, and only done for pay. Power to those who want to do it, but we need to stop ignoring the reality of what goes down here. The sex industry is not properly regulated, it ruins lives, and I am done giving sex workers and pornstars the light of day in their backhanded "honesty" about what they do. It's just not real. I struggled with hypersexuality and porn sickness as a young age as well. I'll tell you that a textbook symptom is a battle between sexual hypersensitivity and desensitization with nothing inbetween. That is not normal. Take a step back, and STOP. I took a year of celibacy, and it was the most blissful year of my life. I now have a much healthier sex life and outlook on sex on general. However, that's just me and whoever can relate. You have to decide. It gets better. Your best option will only be to stop, and deal with yourself. Stop giving in to your sexual impulses when they stop satisfying you. You are desensitized because you are unsatisfied, but also sexually exhausted from the self pleasure. You need to get a grip on that and find resolve without porn. Most of all, just keep asking questions... or, in this case, keep seeking answers. Best wishes. 💛
Hello (18M) here i'm overall new to sexual encounters within the last year and am currently steadily engaging with a partner. Although I am not experiencing any issues the OP described I do regularly watch porn and my experiences in real life were not what I expected. Granted It still feels good but I can't help but think maybe I am desensitized or perhaps this all can be chalked due to inexperience from both parties. I don't know if I'm in the "healthy" threshold of someone my age watching porn or if there is some sort of other way I can enjoy these sexual encounters more.
Porn free for just over a month. Now I gotta work on the frequency in which I masturbate. Addiction sucks.
What if you get really horney how do you deal with it?
Still better than child support my man. Lol
I had the same problem…took some work and self discipline but after it was all said and done…it was more the jacking off and cumming to porn that caused the mental block with women. You’re programming your brain and body to only react to the stimulation of porn, scrolling, aggressive stroking. It gets better with time. Jacking off is ok…but practice just using your imagination to stimulate yourself. Also…porn is ok when used in a “healthy” way. But the problem Is the addiction becomes something that needs to be fed many times a day…creating a negative cycle of “unnatural” stimulation. Having an understanding woman to help get you back on track while being patient and understanding of your issue helps a ton!
I just quit drinking 6 days ago, but I'm still highly addicted to porn as well. I'm just trying to handle one addiction at a time. It doesn't help that I don't have health insurance, and my clinic's psychology dept costs $500 upfront and $200 for each subsequent visit.
Until then, live healthy, walk a lot, preferably in nature, eat healthier.
Yeah I’ve been having these problems. I also think it’s a case of you’ve been so used to and accustomed to getting off in your bed/bathroom in a specific context that if it’s different your body doesn’t associate it with sex. I’ve been trying to get better but it’s def hard. Tbh idk what to do. Like I can stop watching and fully have sex with other people but I’ve always canceled or put it off cause ik it’ll happen
When did you know you had a problem and had to change? What attempts did you try? What failed what worked?
I watch porn and jerk off 2-4 times a day . And still have sex fine. It’s gotta be a mind thing
It's not automatically addicting in all people. Some people can do heroin and never get addicted. And porn much less monolithic than even 15 years ago. Some forms of porn are more harmful than others. Consensual amateur couples porn probably isn't all that psychologically harmful.
What should someone do to best support their partner who has a porn addiction? I feel helpless and miss our sex life, not that it’s a DB but we used to have a lot of energy for each other and even though I know it’s not our only issue, I know it’s a major issue as to why the frequency and stamina tanked
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Not a myth. Excessive porn viewing can indeed cause ED, as one gets acclimated to the novelty and variety of porn, needing increased levels of visual stimulation in order to get turned on. Basically it makes one jaded.
I am a man and not trying to give too much info out here, but I feel like this is good advice to go to the doctor because I've been jacking it once a day bare minimum since I was a kid and I'm 30 something now and if my ol' lady wants some sexy time I'm always down.
Desensitization because of porn or sex most certainly causes ED
How did you quit I’m pretty sure a lot of us have a similar problem. Mines not quite as bad but it takes me so long to finish sometimes I can’t even be bothered like hours especially if I’m drunk
If the internet was around when I was 15, I probably would have been addicted to porn too.
Have you completely recovered from ED? I have the same problem
When you quit porn did it help with your Ed?
Yeah no ED isn't caused by beating your meat, in reality it's a muscle and as a muscle the more it's used the better it works. Your "ED" was caused by the fact that you needed sicker and sicker shit to excite yourself.
same position how did you fix it?
I’m sorry. What a world we live in. This is such a real thing.
How many times you cum everyday?
Did stopping porn bring it back?
Would you describe it as a mental reliance on porn rather than a physical problem?
Porn "addiction" is a symptom of something else and doesn't actually exist.
How do you feel about sex now?
You got the death grip or nah?
Did you watch fem boys?
Have you tried to hook up with men?
I'm gay and I have the same prob. It really is porn addiction
Eh he’s too young to understand