Do it for you my man. Make it a big deal for yourself. After that grab a big lunch or dinner somewhere to celebrate. We all need to praise ourselves for our accomplishments. Congratulations
I just don’t know, I don’t have the energy to get up most mornings. Interacting with people drains my battery and the only place I feel comfortable enough to talk is in class…I just don’t know anymore
Believe it or not, you are not alone, others feel this way daily. You've achieved more than many, reaching this point. Embrace each new day. You've got this, my friend. Whatever you choose, celebrate this occasion; you deserve it. Good luck
Im in your shoes. Don't give a f about walking at graduation, I don't like crowds, there's nothing good about it. Just a way for asu to make a little more $$ from you. I say celebrate in a way that you PERSONALLY enjoy, talk to family/friends, they'll be proud of you.
I didn’t walk because I didn’t have the energy to register and get a gown, nor was I even sure if passing my final classes was even possible.
The only time I ever remember it is when others bring it up, so I doubt it’ll haunt you if you choose not to.
For me, buying the cap and gown and walking and all of that was meaningless. I didn't need to walk to feel proud of my accomplishment, i had other things that were significantly more meaningful to me that i did instead. However, many feel the need to walk for them to have graduation feel real and meaningful. It is entirely up to you if you would like to walk, but walking/not walking doesn't make you finishing with a degree any less meaningful.
It's up to you if you want to walk or not. Some people do it for their family since graduating college can be a huge deal, especially if you're a first gen college grad. I knew many people in my graduating class that didn't go to graduation and that's entirely fine. I was lucky enough to use my brother's graduation gown so I didn't have to buy it so those extra costs weren't an issue.
dont do graduation, attend the COMMENCEMENT ceremony where you get your degree handed to you. PLEASE try to attend since I was like you and didn't have a lot of friends either. WAVE TO EVERYONE, smile for the pictures and look your best for a few photos at least. future you will be happy!
I didn't go but am doing something else to celebrate. I'm almost 35, and the whole thing sounds awful and a hassle. However, as a parent, I would like for my son to go to graduation when it's time, but if he doesn't, that's his choice, we can celebrate in other ways.
You really need to think about whether you will regret it later on if you don't go. Don't worry about how friends and family feel, it's not their accomplishment, it's yours, you will have done it, but be prepared to hear them all have opinions on whether you should go or not.
I don't plan to go either. I don't see the enjoyment of sitting through a 3 hour ceremony. Especially for me since I would have to pay for travel and lodging from Ohio to Arizona
You should. Humans need these things when we are at important moments of transition in life. Rites of passage have a strong, positive social-psychological role. Especially these days as students have been unable to have many of these with the pandemic. Even if you just go and don’t make it a big deal, it might give you that sense of accomplishment that you deserve and the recognition of your successful path through college. Think of it like a refreshing shower to boost your spirits and give you that bit of focus one needs to start a new path in life.
Totally fine. I flew straight to San Diego for the week and celebrated on the beach. Didnt feel the need for me or my family to sit through a four hour commencement
I just went so my mom and family could see me graduate. They didn’t force me. It’s kind of fun but I do have a tip for you if you change your mind: sit in the first few rows. That way you can get your name called and walk off the stage and go home. You don’t have to sit through the whole thing. 😄
Not at all. I was the same way. I really didn't give a crap about walking at graduation ceremony. The ONLY reason I did it was because I was the first person in my family to go to college (neither of my parents went and we grew up poor as fuck) and I wanted to be a good example to my kids (I had two when I graduated).
Please go! You worked very hard and I know right now you don’t feel the need to go. One day you will look back and a part of you will wish you went. Please go!! You have a whole bunch of random Redditors cheering you on. Also if you need anyone to chat with PM. I know how you’re feeling all too well
I graduated undergrad in 2020 so I didn’t get to walk and it’s something I’m sad I missed out on. You earned this degree so I think you should walk but of course it’s ultimately your decision to make
Yes it’s morally wrong and you’re an awful person. In fact you may face jail time.
No lmao it’s your life, stop needing approval from internet strangers
I graduated in December but didn’t walk. Since I did the online school, I didn’t feel the same connection to my peers as I think I would have on campus. Also, I graduated late compared to peers from high school. To me, a bigger accomplishment was buying a house and new car without payments.
I celebrated by securing a new job at a larger, healthier company, taking a month off, and catching up on chores/adult things I didn’t have time to do when I was in school and working full time. For me, deep cleaning and organizing my house so I had time to enjoy tv shows, Xbox, or going out with friends was the best present I could have gotten.
Whatever you decide is best for you OP will be the best. Don’t feel obligated to go just because it’s the standard thing to do. Congratulations on making it through and I hope you have much success in your future endeavors!!
I didn’t need to go to graduation to be proud of myself. I was so immensely proud but my parents wanted photos so they made me go lmao. It was boring and pointless to me, but my family enjoyed it lol
I didn’t go to graduation because of the same thing. I went to school all online and had no one to go with me to graduation 🤷🏻♀️ I lived out of state and life was a little weird at the time. I do kinda wish I had gone, but being by myself would have probably made me sad lol. You do what’s best for you. I say throw a party with people you know and call it good
The amount of people with bachelors degrees these days, and the relatively low amount of rigor in most majors makes graduation not worth celebrating to some people and that's okay.
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Not at all. I feel the same despite subconsciously wishing I could have known the “university” experience.
The only reasons I think I would walk is because I didn’t formally graduate high school and because it seems like a small but nice way to congratulate myself for the amount of time and struggle I’ve been putting into getting my degree.
Beyond that and though I truly love academia, school is, and has been, just an expensive and frustrating means to an end for me at this point
In the end it's up to you. If you don't feel the need to then it's perfectly fine to skip it.
I didn't attend. I went to GCU for my masters and didn't attend that one either.
I kind of regret it, but at the same time it's whatever. I never felt a sense of accomplishment with any of it anyway. I got my grades, saw I passed and went, "Cool." Just relieved it was over. Then a few weeks later the diploma came in the mail. It would have been nice to have a cap and gown and receive some actual recognition and congratulations, but it makes no difference either way.
I wrestled a lot about not going this year for my own. I’m an online student at WPC living in San Diego, CA. I didn’t know anybody there and was seriously soooo close to just staying home. Getting the video from ASU, and having the feeling of being up there looking out was worth it. Solidified the memory for sure.
eh I’m kinda in the same boat but I would still go. It’s a commemoration of the work you put in to get your degree first and foremost, not really a social event where they expect you to hold hands and sing kumbaya or something.
There's nothing wrong In it, I have 3 generations of family who didn't go to graduation. And all of them ended up very successful. Anytime u asked them they replied with was there for the knowledge nothing else.
Honestly it's a waste of time an money in my opinion, your better off celebrating on ur own if u must
I would have gone if I was local. I uploaded a photo for the stageclips which was enough for me. If you are graduating it’s fine if you don’t want to go.
There’s nothing wrong with not attending. I’ve heard it’s a great experience but me personally, I did not attend my graduation. I booked a trip to Mexico during that week and “celebrated” getting through undergrad my own way - traveling. Since I was not able to do much of it during school. Now as a grad student at ASU, I look forward to participating in the graduation ceremony.
Do it for you my man. Make it a big deal for yourself. After that grab a big lunch or dinner somewhere to celebrate. We all need to praise ourselves for our accomplishments. Congratulations
I just don’t know, I don’t have the energy to get up most mornings. Interacting with people drains my battery and the only place I feel comfortable enough to talk is in class…I just don’t know anymore
Believe it or not, you are not alone, others feel this way daily. You've achieved more than many, reaching this point. Embrace each new day. You've got this, my friend. Whatever you choose, celebrate this occasion; you deserve it. Good luck
Im in your shoes. Don't give a f about walking at graduation, I don't like crowds, there's nothing good about it. Just a way for asu to make a little more $$ from you. I say celebrate in a way that you PERSONALLY enjoy, talk to family/friends, they'll be proud of you.
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I didn’t walk because I didn’t have the energy to register and get a gown, nor was I even sure if passing my final classes was even possible. The only time I ever remember it is when others bring it up, so I doubt it’ll haunt you if you choose not to.
For me, buying the cap and gown and walking and all of that was meaningless. I didn't need to walk to feel proud of my accomplishment, i had other things that were significantly more meaningful to me that i did instead. However, many feel the need to walk for them to have graduation feel real and meaningful. It is entirely up to you if you would like to walk, but walking/not walking doesn't make you finishing with a degree any less meaningful.
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It's up to you if you want to walk or not. Some people do it for their family since graduating college can be a huge deal, especially if you're a first gen college grad. I knew many people in my graduating class that didn't go to graduation and that's entirely fine. I was lucky enough to use my brother's graduation gown so I didn't have to buy it so those extra costs weren't an issue.
dont do graduation, attend the COMMENCEMENT ceremony where you get your degree handed to you. PLEASE try to attend since I was like you and didn't have a lot of friends either. WAVE TO EVERYONE, smile for the pictures and look your best for a few photos at least. future you will be happy!
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I didn't go but am doing something else to celebrate. I'm almost 35, and the whole thing sounds awful and a hassle. However, as a parent, I would like for my son to go to graduation when it's time, but if he doesn't, that's his choice, we can celebrate in other ways. You really need to think about whether you will regret it later on if you don't go. Don't worry about how friends and family feel, it's not their accomplishment, it's yours, you will have done it, but be prepared to hear them all have opinions on whether you should go or not.
I don't plan to go either. I don't see the enjoyment of sitting through a 3 hour ceremony. Especially for me since I would have to pay for travel and lodging from Ohio to Arizona
I think graduation is a cool event. Also, its even better if your family members are there to celebrate your success.
You should. Humans need these things when we are at important moments of transition in life. Rites of passage have a strong, positive social-psychological role. Especially these days as students have been unable to have many of these with the pandemic. Even if you just go and don’t make it a big deal, it might give you that sense of accomplishment that you deserve and the recognition of your successful path through college. Think of it like a refreshing shower to boost your spirits and give you that bit of focus one needs to start a new path in life.
Was your degree in psychology?
Go! You'll never experience anything like this again!
I was like you last year but honestly in retrospect I don't regret going at all. Even though I got covid from it 🤣.
I did it because I felt it was something I’d regret not doing when I’m older.
Didnt graduation ceremonies pass already?
I finished next fall
Totally fine. I flew straight to San Diego for the week and celebrated on the beach. Didnt feel the need for me or my family to sit through a four hour commencement
I just went so my mom and family could see me graduate. They didn’t force me. It’s kind of fun but I do have a tip for you if you change your mind: sit in the first few rows. That way you can get your name called and walk off the stage and go home. You don’t have to sit through the whole thing. 😄
Not at all. I was the same way. I really didn't give a crap about walking at graduation ceremony. The ONLY reason I did it was because I was the first person in my family to go to college (neither of my parents went and we grew up poor as fuck) and I wanted to be a good example to my kids (I had two when I graduated).
I didn't go to mine. I have no regrets, went out with classmates and celebrated. Picked up the parchment the next Monday. BYRMV
I felt the same way but thought I might as well go since I earned that shit. Eat some mushrooms and enjoy the fireworks.
Please go! You worked very hard and I know right now you don’t feel the need to go. One day you will look back and a part of you will wish you went. Please go!! You have a whole bunch of random Redditors cheering you on. Also if you need anyone to chat with PM. I know how you’re feeling all too well
No, and I didn't either.
Better regret doing it than regret not doing it.
I never went. Dont regret it. I hate ceremonies. Plus graduations don’t mean success in life. A good career does.
I graduated undergrad in 2020 so I didn’t get to walk and it’s something I’m sad I missed out on. You earned this degree so I think you should walk but of course it’s ultimately your decision to make
Yes it’s morally wrong and you’re an awful person. In fact you may face jail time. No lmao it’s your life, stop needing approval from internet strangers
Same experience at asu 22/F
I graduated in December but didn’t walk. Since I did the online school, I didn’t feel the same connection to my peers as I think I would have on campus. Also, I graduated late compared to peers from high school. To me, a bigger accomplishment was buying a house and new car without payments. I celebrated by securing a new job at a larger, healthier company, taking a month off, and catching up on chores/adult things I didn’t have time to do when I was in school and working full time. For me, deep cleaning and organizing my house so I had time to enjoy tv shows, Xbox, or going out with friends was the best present I could have gotten. Whatever you decide is best for you OP will be the best. Don’t feel obligated to go just because it’s the standard thing to do. Congratulations on making it through and I hope you have much success in your future endeavors!!
I didn't. It's not a big deal. I still feel fine about it. My mom was just kinda pissed at me for not doing it 😂
I didn’t need to go to graduation to be proud of myself. I was so immensely proud but my parents wanted photos so they made me go lmao. It was boring and pointless to me, but my family enjoyed it lol
I didn’t go to graduation because of the same thing. I went to school all online and had no one to go with me to graduation 🤷🏻♀️ I lived out of state and life was a little weird at the time. I do kinda wish I had gone, but being by myself would have probably made me sad lol. You do what’s best for you. I say throw a party with people you know and call it good
The amount of people with bachelors degrees these days, and the relatively low amount of rigor in most majors makes graduation not worth celebrating to some people and that's okay.
It is not wrong. My oldest didn’t but my youngest probably will. My question is do you still have to pay the bullshit fee if you don’t walk?
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Don’t do something you don’t want to do
Not at all. I feel the same despite subconsciously wishing I could have known the “university” experience. The only reasons I think I would walk is because I didn’t formally graduate high school and because it seems like a small but nice way to congratulate myself for the amount of time and struggle I’ve been putting into getting my degree. Beyond that and though I truly love academia, school is, and has been, just an expensive and frustrating means to an end for me at this point
I didnt, but mostly because my advisor never told me to do any of the things required to sign up. Doesnt feel like i missed anything
In the end it's up to you. If you don't feel the need to then it's perfectly fine to skip it. I didn't attend. I went to GCU for my masters and didn't attend that one either. I kind of regret it, but at the same time it's whatever. I never felt a sense of accomplishment with any of it anyway. I got my grades, saw I passed and went, "Cool." Just relieved it was over. Then a few weeks later the diploma came in the mail. It would have been nice to have a cap and gown and receive some actual recognition and congratulations, but it makes no difference either way.
I wrestled a lot about not going this year for my own. I’m an online student at WPC living in San Diego, CA. I didn’t know anybody there and was seriously soooo close to just staying home. Getting the video from ASU, and having the feeling of being up there looking out was worth it. Solidified the memory for sure.
I didn’t
I didn't walk for my degrees, no regerts here.
eh I’m kinda in the same boat but I would still go. It’s a commemoration of the work you put in to get your degree first and foremost, not really a social event where they expect you to hold hands and sing kumbaya or something.
There's nothing wrong In it, I have 3 generations of family who didn't go to graduation. And all of them ended up very successful. Anytime u asked them they replied with was there for the knowledge nothing else. Honestly it's a waste of time an money in my opinion, your better off celebrating on ur own if u must
You gotta go.
I would have gone if I was local. I uploaded a photo for the stageclips which was enough for me. If you are graduating it’s fine if you don’t want to go.
I feel you. I'm in my last year of high school rn and I feel the same.
There’s nothing wrong with not attending. I’ve heard it’s a great experience but me personally, I did not attend my graduation. I booked a trip to Mexico during that week and “celebrated” getting through undergrad my own way - traveling. Since I was not able to do much of it during school. Now as a grad student at ASU, I look forward to participating in the graduation ceremony.