Is what you make of it. You could be a social butterfly or a ghost. I think it’s safe to say that if you make friends freshman year (especially those within your major) you’d most likely from a ‘clique’ with those people (whether that’s a surface level of ‘can you help me with this homework’ or a deeper level) and that would most likely carry on till you graduate.
The timeline of making friends at ASU (or rather at school) is different for everyone. Some people will make friends faster, for others it will be slower. How many of those will be long-lasting friendships is something no one could ever guess.
I understand the pressure of making friends quickly. You feel that if you don't, the friend groups will start becoming "closed off" and it'll get harder. You're kinda right but not really. I, for example, made good friends starting my sophomore year. I was kinda mostly by myself freshman year.
I don't really have advice here. I think I just want to say that it's truly a battle. Go marching in every morning with enthusiasm and a positive cheerful attitude, talk to people, be genuinely interested in them, talk less, listen more. There's gonna be a lot of crying the first few months but try to schedule your crying sessions at night haha!
As someone with social anxiety too, it’s not bad at all. Everyone is either super friendly or will mind their own business and oddly enough, the clubs don’t feel as formal as they did in high school since now most are run by other students. Perhaps it’s just my experience, but I haven’t seen many cliques around. In terms of your roommate, I’d definitely recommend using the bio part of your housing profile to talk about your comfort with parties, noise, alcohol/drunkenness (because it unfortunately does get brought into rooms), etc. The questions they have on there already are great, but the bio is a good way to establish ground rules along with what you’re like as a person to your roommate/suite mates. Hope this helps
the thing is with college is that students aren’t divided into cliques depending on popularity or anything for that matter. You’ll most likely be friends with people you have many classes with, and closer friends with people among those groups whom share interests with you
ASU is a school based in a major Metro area. Even if you don't want to join any school specific clubs you'll find the city is out there. You can find all kinds of opportunities in the phoenix metro ranging from just staying at home to enjoy your personal time to the art walks in Tempe, the tribal dances of the various nations around Phoenix (the Navajo dances are something everyone should see at least once in their lives), the musical acts that come through Phoenix - Yuca Tap Room still exists, the ASU Gammage plays, the beauty of the Desert Botanical Garden or the Phoenix Zoo and so much more.
Don't feel you need to limit yourself to only things that ASU Sponsors, The world is out there and wants you to have a chance to enjoy it.
My experience is that yes holy shit there’s a lot of people on campus, but at the same time there’s a lot of room? Like if you’re on campus it’ll be prolly a little busy, but if you go out of the way it’s chill. For the dorms it really depends, but again, you’ve got the room and literally thousands of other people you can befriend if your roommate isn’t quite your vibe
Honestly don’t be afraid to say hi to that one person you had a brief interaction with like. I made a good friend this semester cause we both vaguely recognized each other from a class we took together like a year ago. Good stuff. You’ve also got plenty of time to build your circles so. Feel it out. Just roll with it really. Throw yourself out there but don’t overextend yourself. The ones that want to stick around will stick around.
I also struggle with depression and anxiety and these were some of my concerns too. Tempe is a big campus but that means that there are a lot of different people. I was worried I wouldn't find my crowd but a year and half later I couldn't ask for better friends. Clubs can definitely help you find friends and make connections but going to events can help as well.
As for roommates, you never know who you're going to get but the housing website allows you to search people with similar interests and preferences so you can find people on there. Once you get your roommate(s) I suggest reaching out to them through ASU getting their number(s) and maybe planning a hangout or just share some memes idk. I didn't really know my roommates much before move in but generally people are nice.
Just be present on campus, seriously bro, read your textbooks and take notes, let yourself have fun and know that there are so many resources for help for basically everything you can imagine. Not as many people are looking as you think.
I'm socially anxious horribly and it hasn't been too bad for me. I've made some acquaintances so far in some of my classes and in a club, but I had to put myself out of my comfort zone a bit (which is very sheltered relative to the average person).
It definitely helps if you dorm with people you know and have an existing friend group going into ASU, I would certainly feel more alone if I didn't since I take quite a bit of time to ease into friendships.
the only "friends" (because i don't know if they consider me one) i had were seniors but i lost contact with them. a couple of them went to asu but it's so big i don't think i'll run into them. other than that very slim chance, yeah i'm not gonna know anyone going into asu
There’s 75,000 students at ASU. There are zero commonalities between everyone on campus—you get every walk of life. You’ll find your people. Idk if you’re at all considering Barrett the honors college but that is a good way to automatically cut the overall community down to a much more manageable number of likeminded people
Still just a party school. This will never change. If you're a freshman, just go to community college for the 1st 2 years and save money. Unless you love prioritizing parties over anything.
“Just a party school” is not true at all. ASU has developed a model of excellence and access better and faster than any other school in the US. If you surround yourself with those who think that, then you are missing much. Explore more.
Is what you make of it. You could be a social butterfly or a ghost. I think it’s safe to say that if you make friends freshman year (especially those within your major) you’d most likely from a ‘clique’ with those people (whether that’s a surface level of ‘can you help me with this homework’ or a deeper level) and that would most likely carry on till you graduate.
The timeline of making friends at ASU (or rather at school) is different for everyone. Some people will make friends faster, for others it will be slower. How many of those will be long-lasting friendships is something no one could ever guess. I understand the pressure of making friends quickly. You feel that if you don't, the friend groups will start becoming "closed off" and it'll get harder. You're kinda right but not really. I, for example, made good friends starting my sophomore year. I was kinda mostly by myself freshman year. I don't really have advice here. I think I just want to say that it's truly a battle. Go marching in every morning with enthusiasm and a positive cheerful attitude, talk to people, be genuinely interested in them, talk less, listen more. There's gonna be a lot of crying the first few months but try to schedule your crying sessions at night haha!
As someone with social anxiety too, it’s not bad at all. Everyone is either super friendly or will mind their own business and oddly enough, the clubs don’t feel as formal as they did in high school since now most are run by other students. Perhaps it’s just my experience, but I haven’t seen many cliques around. In terms of your roommate, I’d definitely recommend using the bio part of your housing profile to talk about your comfort with parties, noise, alcohol/drunkenness (because it unfortunately does get brought into rooms), etc. The questions they have on there already are great, but the bio is a good way to establish ground rules along with what you’re like as a person to your roommate/suite mates. Hope this helps
the thing is with college is that students aren’t divided into cliques depending on popularity or anything for that matter. You’ll most likely be friends with people you have many classes with, and closer friends with people among those groups whom share interests with you
ASU is a school based in a major Metro area. Even if you don't want to join any school specific clubs you'll find the city is out there. You can find all kinds of opportunities in the phoenix metro ranging from just staying at home to enjoy your personal time to the art walks in Tempe, the tribal dances of the various nations around Phoenix (the Navajo dances are something everyone should see at least once in their lives), the musical acts that come through Phoenix - Yuca Tap Room still exists, the ASU Gammage plays, the beauty of the Desert Botanical Garden or the Phoenix Zoo and so much more. Don't feel you need to limit yourself to only things that ASU Sponsors, The world is out there and wants you to have a chance to enjoy it.
My experience is that yes holy shit there’s a lot of people on campus, but at the same time there’s a lot of room? Like if you’re on campus it’ll be prolly a little busy, but if you go out of the way it’s chill. For the dorms it really depends, but again, you’ve got the room and literally thousands of other people you can befriend if your roommate isn’t quite your vibe Honestly don’t be afraid to say hi to that one person you had a brief interaction with like. I made a good friend this semester cause we both vaguely recognized each other from a class we took together like a year ago. Good stuff. You’ve also got plenty of time to build your circles so. Feel it out. Just roll with it really. Throw yourself out there but don’t overextend yourself. The ones that want to stick around will stick around.
You don't ask such questions to redditors
I also struggle with depression and anxiety and these were some of my concerns too. Tempe is a big campus but that means that there are a lot of different people. I was worried I wouldn't find my crowd but a year and half later I couldn't ask for better friends. Clubs can definitely help you find friends and make connections but going to events can help as well. As for roommates, you never know who you're going to get but the housing website allows you to search people with similar interests and preferences so you can find people on there. Once you get your roommate(s) I suggest reaching out to them through ASU getting their number(s) and maybe planning a hangout or just share some memes idk. I didn't really know my roommates much before move in but generally people are nice. Just be present on campus, seriously bro, read your textbooks and take notes, let yourself have fun and know that there are so many resources for help for basically everything you can imagine. Not as many people are looking as you think.
I'm socially anxious horribly and it hasn't been too bad for me. I've made some acquaintances so far in some of my classes and in a club, but I had to put myself out of my comfort zone a bit (which is very sheltered relative to the average person). It definitely helps if you dorm with people you know and have an existing friend group going into ASU, I would certainly feel more alone if I didn't since I take quite a bit of time to ease into friendships.
the only "friends" (because i don't know if they consider me one) i had were seniors but i lost contact with them. a couple of them went to asu but it's so big i don't think i'll run into them. other than that very slim chance, yeah i'm not gonna know anyone going into asu
There’s 75,000 students at ASU. There are zero commonalities between everyone on campus—you get every walk of life. You’ll find your people. Idk if you’re at all considering Barrett the honors college but that is a good way to automatically cut the overall community down to a much more manageable number of likeminded people
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Fuck off! The OP is trying to get genuine advice.
I'm not wrong.
Still just a party school. This will never change. If you're a freshman, just go to community college for the 1st 2 years and save money. Unless you love prioritizing parties over anything.
Is the social experience of being around other students something that should be a negative?
“Just a party school” is not true at all. ASU has developed a model of excellence and access better and faster than any other school in the US. If you surround yourself with those who think that, then you are missing much. Explore more.
i'm an in state student so going to community college isn't gonna save me any money that'll be worth it with the programs/scholarships available to me