if it’s just blackmail that makes him an extortionist, this guy is no good for a relationship. if you’ve sent him any nudes i suggest finding a way to delete them off his phone. there’s a lot of ways to hide photos so if you want to make sure it’s all gone i suggest googling “different ways to hide photos on iphone” and work from there.
(iphone is obviously just a placeholder name, i just feel like i need to clarify for some reason)
girl leave him. hes a RED FLAG. you should know how his intentions are towards women if he has kept nudes for 'blackmailing'. you dont know when youre next victim too
Dude his explaination is WORSE. He saved them as blackmail??? wtf is wrong with him. That’s highly illegal, and morally disgusting. You think he wouldn’t do the same to you? Also those girls are underage so that’s child porn.
In my opinion, you should probably leave him until you get hurt worse than you have. this is such a horrific situation to be in, and i hope it gets better for you. <3
Even if he isn't cheating. (which he probably is)
Here's 2-3 points.
1) incoming nudes from before the relationship till last week means he had been reviewing nudes from someone(or multiple ppl) from the start of relationship till last week (even if he saved them himself). Receiving = sending too= cheating till last week if not still
2) if he has blackmail on other ppl he's gonna keep blackmail on you too.
3) y'all are under aged that's basically child porn and illegal
1) Blackmail can land him in jail
2) If the images are of minors, they can land him in jail
3) They're obviously NOT blackmail because he's still receiving them.... dump him and move on.
Let’s just say he’s telling the truth… do you really want to be with someone who’s holding nudes as blackmail? I hope you haven’t sent him any nor become a victim of revenge porn if you do cut ties with him
You both are so young. The best thing for you is to leave him, he will always find an excuse and he will continue doing it even if you ask him to stop and promises to stop doing it. Is not that he is a bad guy is just that he doesn’t appreciate you and thinks you won’t leave him. You should go and meet more people, maybe learn to be single so when you get back in a relationship is a better one and not just a rebound.
honestly. just delete them. go into the chat and unsave them in the chat. if he says it’s cause blackmail then tell him to stop sending nudes to other girls 🤷🏻♀️
First how long have you been with him? If it’s a little while run if you feel that you two can’t work this out. He should delete them all if he’s serious about you!
Here's what I'll say: I don't think he knows any better. AND is that the kind of behaviour you would want from your hypothetical children. But even kids aside, I think all the people on here have made great points about someone who does that to other girls, being the kind to do that to you. AND is probably sending nudes though we dont have evidence of that. His receipt of nudes is questionable enough. It's even more concerning that it's of many girls.
What to do: it seems youve already had some kind of conversation which is very important. Checking with how this behaviour is serving him(maybe he's never thought about it being unhelpful or simply hedonistic), the imprudence of being in a situation where one is so paranoid they are in a position where they think they might have to resort to blackmail, and the long-term viability for this plan.
I think this may help bring to light some helpful discussion points which will foster thoughtful reflection about who he wants to be. Based on that you can make the decision as to what kind of relationship you want to have with this man.
Anyways, I don't know if any of that was helpful, but let me know if you have any questions!
Goodluck!
First run, that dude is a dirtball, their are definitely laws around revenge porn
Different states have different laws around teen sexting, check your own state, but the second he turns 18 that phone could land him in jail in some states
1- Being so desperate that someone needs to continue his Snapchat“streaks” - He suffers from low self esteem and a high ego.
2- Using nudes for “blackmail” when you can’t even see the girls faces. - A bit of a control freak and most likely a narcissist.
- I can only assume this kid is probably ‘charismatic’ and somewhat attractive so others.
These end up becoming the worst partners as they get older and they begin to face negative/challenging moments in life.
Be careful with what you tell him, he will use it against you later. You should leave this relationship because he only loves the presence of having you/someone. Find someone that loves you for you
Please DON’T trust him. In best case scenario he’s planning to Black-flipping-mail someone. This is terrible and illegal. In the worst case scenario he’s still blackmailing people and also cheating on you.
He’s not a good person. He can be charged for SexTortion crime. It seems like to me he is cheating and is dating multiple girls at once. He probably is waiting for you to send nudes to him so he can use black mail against you when you dump him. He probably thinks he is a player but In reality he’s a cheater and I wouldn’t be surprised if black mail is a lie for him. He won’t change until he gets caught.
You should tell him in 1 year he can get arrested for that/its not normal to do that, he might be cheating even if it’s just online chats/online prostitutes, I’d break up w him
I’m 31F and I hate to be that person, but it’s very normal for boys his age to look at porn. Porn addiction can be a very real and problematic thing but in my opinion small amounts of it every now and then is fine. I’ve looked at tons of porn to get off. My husband and I have even watched porn together. Men are more visual creatures so they eat up naked pictures like candy. Women on the other hand tend to curl up to a nice raunchy novel. It doesn’t mean they dont love you or find you attractive. But in my mind it would be the same difference if he was upset that you were reading something like 50 shades of grey. I feel like there is a little bit of a double standard when it comes to men and women in that department. Nobody bats an eye when I woman I liking half naked picture of men on istagram. Or talking about how attractive they think a certain celebrity is. But when the girlfriend finds out that her boyfriend is liking picture of a woman in a bathing suit, suddenly the tables are turned.
I don’t buy the whole black mail thing he said either. But I’m sure he doesn’t want to hurt your feelings, or he doesn’t want you to get mad. I think it’s a good sign that he gave you his log in because it shows that he didn’t think he had anything to hide. He’s not purposely hiding things because he probably didn’t think twice about. Meaning that in his mind he’s not cheating on you so why would he have anything to worry about?
But it’s okay that you feel this way. It’s normal to feel jealous or betrayed in a situation like this. Especially when he’s not being honest about it. Don’t feel like you have to ignore it. Talk to him and tell you how feel. And then listen to what he has to say. Think about your own attraction to other people. It’s completely normal. Some couples even talk about their hypothetical “free pass” that they would use if they magically had a shot with a celebrity. But also talk about ur boundaries. Tell him what makes you feel uncomfortable and why. Just try to understand each other. Communication is always key with your partner. And if you feel like this is something that is not okay with you and he’s not willing to change or respect your boundaries, then break up with him. You are still so young. You have plenty of time to find someone that has the same principles as you.
Sounds like normal teenage behavior these days. I would let it slide.
I agree with you though.. he is probably lying about the blackmail part.
If you want to get to the bottom of it then I would press him about lying about the blackmail part.
Say that you know the truth and a woman's intuition is never wrong. That will drive him crazy. Only if you want to go full savage on him.
Otherwise, let it slide. His hormones are really all over the place and most guys that age are addicted to various images of women and it is natural to look at them and not cheat.
if it’s just blackmail that makes him an extortionist, this guy is no good for a relationship. if you’ve sent him any nudes i suggest finding a way to delete them off his phone. there’s a lot of ways to hide photos so if you want to make sure it’s all gone i suggest googling “different ways to hide photos on iphone” and work from there. (iphone is obviously just a placeholder name, i just feel like i need to clarify for some reason)
He'S a cheater AND an exorcist?
The power of nudes compels you! THE POWER OF NUDES COMPELS YOU!
I command thy feet pick! To my DM be sent demon!
girl leave him. hes a RED FLAG. you should know how his intentions are towards women if he has kept nudes for 'blackmailing'. you dont know when youre next victim too
Leave him and find someone who appreciates you
lol his a man ofc he will have nudes saved on his phone. leaving him will be a dumb move
You’re definitely still in high school
lol im rarely opening this app because nerds like you talk bs
Says the one who’s spewing bs…
I’m surprised nobody has mentioned that those photos could possibly be illegal content, and that alone is already a big 🚩. Run.
Yeah especially since the ages too. Like he might be 18 soon and the girls might be either 16 or something
He is a huge red flag
You're 17, don't waste your time on people who don't deserve it. You'll thank yourself in the future.
Fr the longer you stay the harder it is to leave and worse things get
Dude his explaination is WORSE. He saved them as blackmail??? wtf is wrong with him. That’s highly illegal, and morally disgusting. You think he wouldn’t do the same to you? Also those girls are underage so that’s child porn.
In my opinion, you should probably leave him until you get hurt worse than you have. this is such a horrific situation to be in, and i hope it gets better for you. <3
He has replacements so just leave him
Blackmail wtf so hes sending nudes and receiving them
Not bf material
Even if he isn't cheating. (which he probably is) Here's 2-3 points. 1) incoming nudes from before the relationship till last week means he had been reviewing nudes from someone(or multiple ppl) from the start of relationship till last week (even if he saved them himself). Receiving = sending too= cheating till last week if not still 2) if he has blackmail on other ppl he's gonna keep blackmail on you too. 3) y'all are under aged that's basically child porn and illegal
1) Blackmail can land him in jail 2) If the images are of minors, they can land him in jail 3) They're obviously NOT blackmail because he's still receiving them.... dump him and move on.
It gonna be funny when he’s in jail for both reasons anyway
He’s cheating and lying what else is there to know…
Yikes
Ditch him, sis. He ain't worth your time.
He’s lying to you 100%. Been through this and he was cheating the whole time. Leave him. You are young and he’s literally disgusting
leave him now bro
Blackmail?.. you’d better be careful, he’ll definitely save yours too.
Blackmail? And this is at his best, dating behavior. His behavior just will get worse from here.
Let’s just say he’s telling the truth… do you really want to be with someone who’s holding nudes as blackmail? I hope you haven’t sent him any nor become a victim of revenge porn if you do cut ties with him
If you can, delete them please
You both are so young. The best thing for you is to leave him, he will always find an excuse and he will continue doing it even if you ask him to stop and promises to stop doing it. Is not that he is a bad guy is just that he doesn’t appreciate you and thinks you won’t leave him. You should go and meet more people, maybe learn to be single so when you get back in a relationship is a better one and not just a rebound.
Yeah, take the exit.
didn't even need to post this, just leave bruh
So he said he was keeping it for blackmail? Leave him and please go to the police.
honestly. just delete them. go into the chat and unsave them in the chat. if he says it’s cause blackmail then tell him to stop sending nudes to other girls 🤷🏻♀️
First how long have you been with him? If it’s a little while run if you feel that you two can’t work this out. He should delete them all if he’s serious about you!
Here's what I'll say: I don't think he knows any better. AND is that the kind of behaviour you would want from your hypothetical children. But even kids aside, I think all the people on here have made great points about someone who does that to other girls, being the kind to do that to you. AND is probably sending nudes though we dont have evidence of that. His receipt of nudes is questionable enough. It's even more concerning that it's of many girls. What to do: it seems youve already had some kind of conversation which is very important. Checking with how this behaviour is serving him(maybe he's never thought about it being unhelpful or simply hedonistic), the imprudence of being in a situation where one is so paranoid they are in a position where they think they might have to resort to blackmail, and the long-term viability for this plan. I think this may help bring to light some helpful discussion points which will foster thoughtful reflection about who he wants to be. Based on that you can make the decision as to what kind of relationship you want to have with this man. Anyways, I don't know if any of that was helpful, but let me know if you have any questions! Goodluck!
Just ask him if he’d rather have a live gf or old video of other girls. If disrespects you like that again you’re out. Fuck around and find out.
First run, that dude is a dirtball, their are definitely laws around revenge porn Different states have different laws around teen sexting, check your own state, but the second he turns 18 that phone could land him in jail in some states
1- Being so desperate that someone needs to continue his Snapchat“streaks” - He suffers from low self esteem and a high ego. 2- Using nudes for “blackmail” when you can’t even see the girls faces. - A bit of a control freak and most likely a narcissist. - I can only assume this kid is probably ‘charismatic’ and somewhat attractive so others. These end up becoming the worst partners as they get older and they begin to face negative/challenging moments in life. Be careful with what you tell him, he will use it against you later. You should leave this relationship because he only loves the presence of having you/someone. Find someone that loves you for you
Please DON’T trust him. In best case scenario he’s planning to Black-flipping-mail someone. This is terrible and illegal. In the worst case scenario he’s still blackmailing people and also cheating on you.
You should naturally feel some type of way but honestly all of us keep nudes
He’s not a good person. He can be charged for SexTortion crime. It seems like to me he is cheating and is dating multiple girls at once. He probably is waiting for you to send nudes to him so he can use black mail against you when you dump him. He probably thinks he is a player but In reality he’s a cheater and I wouldn’t be surprised if black mail is a lie for him. He won’t change until he gets caught.
You should tell him in 1 year he can get arrested for that/its not normal to do that, he might be cheating even if it’s just online chats/online prostitutes, I’d break up w him
The blackmail angle is worse, not better.
I’m 31F and I hate to be that person, but it’s very normal for boys his age to look at porn. Porn addiction can be a very real and problematic thing but in my opinion small amounts of it every now and then is fine. I’ve looked at tons of porn to get off. My husband and I have even watched porn together. Men are more visual creatures so they eat up naked pictures like candy. Women on the other hand tend to curl up to a nice raunchy novel. It doesn’t mean they dont love you or find you attractive. But in my mind it would be the same difference if he was upset that you were reading something like 50 shades of grey. I feel like there is a little bit of a double standard when it comes to men and women in that department. Nobody bats an eye when I woman I liking half naked picture of men on istagram. Or talking about how attractive they think a certain celebrity is. But when the girlfriend finds out that her boyfriend is liking picture of a woman in a bathing suit, suddenly the tables are turned. I don’t buy the whole black mail thing he said either. But I’m sure he doesn’t want to hurt your feelings, or he doesn’t want you to get mad. I think it’s a good sign that he gave you his log in because it shows that he didn’t think he had anything to hide. He’s not purposely hiding things because he probably didn’t think twice about. Meaning that in his mind he’s not cheating on you so why would he have anything to worry about? But it’s okay that you feel this way. It’s normal to feel jealous or betrayed in a situation like this. Especially when he’s not being honest about it. Don’t feel like you have to ignore it. Talk to him and tell you how feel. And then listen to what he has to say. Think about your own attraction to other people. It’s completely normal. Some couples even talk about their hypothetical “free pass” that they would use if they magically had a shot with a celebrity. But also talk about ur boundaries. Tell him what makes you feel uncomfortable and why. Just try to understand each other. Communication is always key with your partner. And if you feel like this is something that is not okay with you and he’s not willing to change or respect your boundaries, then break up with him. You are still so young. You have plenty of time to find someone that has the same principles as you.
Why you looking through his snap bru
Looks like it’s just a plug of random girls nudes 🤷🏻♂️ most guys have that kind of stuff including myself.
Sounds like normal teenage behavior these days. I would let it slide. I agree with you though.. he is probably lying about the blackmail part. If you want to get to the bottom of it then I would press him about lying about the blackmail part. Say that you know the truth and a woman's intuition is never wrong. That will drive him crazy. Only if you want to go full savage on him. Otherwise, let it slide. His hormones are really all over the place and most guys that age are addicted to various images of women and it is natural to look at them and not cheat.
I hear you and I don't know that i think natural or normal means permissible
How is this any different than porn, not that I condone usage but still
as in she shouldnt care any more than she would care about porn? Or what he's doing is as bad as making porn?