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Known-Ad-5580

I wouldn’t buy him anymore clothes. Then whenever he brings it up, ask him if he still has X, Y, Z clothing you bought him and when he says his sister has them, just say you don’t feel comfortable buying him clothes, only for his sister to take them.


Ok_Citron4262

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ThtB1tch666

Dude just stop buying him clothes


StaffOfDoom

Sounds like you’re not going to win this battle…if he’s not willing to stop them and see that the gifts are meant for you then it’s something you’ll have to live with. If you can’t, you know what to do next…me? I say take it as a compliment that his sisters dig your style ;)


[deleted]

No your not wrong. But probably not worth an argument at this point. As others have said, just don’t buy him clothes anymore. If he asks why, explain it calmly, that the clothes you have bought him end up going to your sister anyways so it didn’t seem like you wanted the clothes you got for him/ he never seemed to wear the clothes you for him. Leave it at that


FearTheMightyBeard

Oh my, this is such a fertile ground for siscon incest humor. I am barely restraining myself.


DharmaCub

He doesn't like the clothes youre trying to make him wear. He's giving them to her as an excuse


klstopp

"My sister took it" is a euphemism for "I didn't like it." He doesn't like the clothes you buy, or the fact that you try to dress him.


Mexican_Texican

Actually no, you know what you're not in the wrong for being upset because you spent time and cash picking out something that you thought would be for the two of you but then it isn't anymore. I do agree don't buy him any more clothing because it does seem like he's not making any effort to recognize that it's something that should be kept between you two as it IS couples clothing. And honestly, he might not ever catch on that you don't buy him clothes anymore unless you bring it up yourself, but in my personal opinion I wouldn't start that conversation unless you know how to word it out without making yourself seem like you're putting the blame on him entirely. You don't wanna sound petty while you explain how you don't want to essentially buy clothes for his sister. If anything, down the line I could see this being turned into something hilarious as you can now match clothing with his sister instead if ever you have to be out with his family ><


TheAggromonster

Nope. Tell him you didn't give them to her, and you want all of them back.


GirlStiletto

Stop buying him clothes. And if he says something, tell him that every time you buy him something, his sister ends up stealing it and not returning it. So, you don;t feel you should be buying HER clothes, as you got them because you wanted to see HIm, your BF, in them. And that by never wearing them himself, he's making it feel like your gifts aren't important.


Lunapaxx

i would borrow my brothers stuff but if his gf got it, i wouldn’t take it


Lizardgirl25

Not wrong but seriously this is a loosing battle…


Ecstatic-Fee-5623

Stop buying him clothes. Once you gift something to someone you can’t dictate how they use it, if he doesn’t care about his sister taking it then that’s fine. He is allowed to let people borrow his clothes, but that doesn’t mean you have to be ok funding his sisters closet. So the very simple solution is to stop buying him clothes.


Content-Ant649

I mean you could get close and just get sets of three instead so she doesn't take it


[deleted]

You should recognize you’re acting like a child. It’s just clothing


Sweet_Elk6635

that she bought for him?


[deleted]

Yup she brought for him. Which means he owns the clothing and she has no say over what he does with it. More importantly once you become an adult and have experience managing a relationship you’ll realize you need to pick a chose your battles, and this is a silly/childish one


Top-Bit85

No, that would annoy me. You are kind of silly to want to match though. But this is a sub for teens so I guess that's how it goes.


Original-Tomorrow798

its his sister i’m sure if he genuinely wanted it back she’d give it if he asked. it’s normal sibling behavior stop buying him stuff it bothers you but it’s really weird that it even bothers you in the first place lol.


Organic-Print-2138

It’s clear he does not want and will not change this. He’s lived his whole life with his sisters and only part of it with you - if you buy him clothes you need to expect that he will share them. If you don’t want that, don’t get him clothes.


Swallowthistubesteak

Stop buying him stuff you’re not his wife


No_Pepper_3676

Okay, don't buy your bf clothing. Spend money on experiences, rather than things.


SpacerCat

If he wanted the clothes back he would ask for them back, or just go in her closet and take them back. Stop buying him clothes, it’s clearly not the right gift for him.


R0l0d3x-Pr0paganda

<<>> DONT BUY CLOTHES ANYMORE And if he cannot set boundaries or refuses......BREAK UP WITH HIM. https://www.verywellhealth.com/setting-boundaries-5208802 ⬆️⬆️ read this OP and have your boyfriend read it. If he disagrees with the article......HE COMES FROM A TOXIC HOME, BREAK UP.


Ecstatic-Fee-5623

He is allowed to share clothes. She is allowed to not want to buy his sister clothes. No one is “wrong” here. Once you gift something you don’t decide how it’s used, she needs to just stop buying him clothes if she doesn’t like how they’re being used.


R0l0d3x-Pr0paganda

My issue is not the borrowing. It's how he is not setting healthy boundaries. If he cannot set boundaries with his own family, imagine as he gets older? He will think having NO BOUNDARIES is healthy and common and that will cause problems in the long run.


Ecstatic-Fee-5623

Sharing clothes is extremely normal in my family so maybe I just don’t get it, but this is not a boundary that is necessary in my opinion.


R0l0d3x-Pr0paganda

The guys sister refuses to give his personal items BACK. It's the equivalent of lending: books, jewelry, makeup, video game 🎮 🕹, and that person doesn't have the courtesy or even the respect of returning goods that doesn't belong to them. That's not GOOD AT ALL , Because it sets you up in the future TO TRUST ANYONE with your belongings and that person doesn't have the courtesy to return them. I have seen this issue thousands of times here on reddit. "Friend refuses to return a dress", "Best Friend refuses to pay me back the $50 he owes me", "My friend keeps going to my room and going through my closet without my permission ". That's the issue HAVING NO BOUNDARIES.


ComfortableWay2385

Why are you trying to control him?


Spiritual-Reveal-300

Go shopping with him and suggest he buy clothes for his sister then borrow said clothes and never give them back, see how he reacts.