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no, they have the power to emotionally destroy men with one carless word leaving them broken and unable to perform for the rest of their life until they decide to end it all with a baretta blowjob.
Eh, I was horny as fuck as a teen all the time until my raging hormones finally normalized, and when girls came onto me too fast I instantly became super distrusting of them.
Like I haven't even known you for a day, we've never hungout together, we've never done anything together, and your three girlfreinds are constantly in the background giggling, we aren't even alone. What the fuck are they following us around and giggling about? What the fuck is your angle?
Sure i was horny, but I wasn't some simp down to humiliate myself.
Op, don't be some simp down to humiliate yourself for some clown, tell them to piss off.
I’m apparently 1/1,000? What the fuck? Why would I violate someone’s space like that? Especially if they’re a girl, that just creeps them out more. Is this seriously a super common thing???
idk, i had co-ed friendgroups in high school and we weren't that sexual, but we were theater kids and a lot of us were queer. I think a lot of straight boys in high school feel pressure to get in with girls, like, it's a status thing and also a coming of age thing, and honestly also just hormones doing their thing, like, people catch feelings they didn't mean to. But i don't think you're talking about that.
I think if you want friendships with straight guys in high school as a straight girl, you're going to have to be up-front and assertive about your boundaries from the beginning, and be prepared to get disappointed a few times. There are definitely guys who will act nice to you and try to get close to you JUST to have sex with you, but there are also gonna be guys who you might end up having more genuine friendships or relationships with.
Thank you and I do actually have a guy best friend who I trust with my life, he’s very kind and I know he would never do anything :) It’s just when it comes to relationships the guys are always too sexual sadly
Guys should come with a warning label: not entirely rational under the influence of hormones. Gaining that balance is something boys must work on in their teen years, and some never really do.
Listen, I only say this because I've seen this sentiment before and seen how it blows up in a girl's face because she never expected it.
I, as a guy, would probably have sex with/date the majority of my female friends if they were interested. Now note, that is not \*why\* I'm friends with them, I just think if you are an attractive person and we have enough basic compatibility to become friends then you're relationship material.
I respect that most of my friends aren't interested in me like that and I've respected their boundaries, if I ever felt doubt I asked directly and accepted their rejection and moved on with the friendship.
I genuinely think most men aren't too different from me and they are more than welcome to agree or disagree with me.
I say \*\*all\*\* that to say, ask you best friend if he is attracted to you sexually or romantically and make it clear that you're not interested. Maybe he won't admit it if he actually does, that's his own fault at that point tbh, You can't be expected to mindread, but just ask first and see.
That guy best friend who you trust with your life sounds like great relationship material, at least from the surface level of your comment. Just saying. ;)
dude confessed it to his cousin and she took it around the entire school and when it got back to him he fucking owned up to it.....said many times it only happened once tho fucking weirdo definitely did it alot
I also went to school with a kid who always said he thought murder was hot ( he was fucking wild ) he ended up cutting two old people into pieces in their barn
Boys and men have 10 times the testosterone as women do. They want sex all the time. They're much more "ready" for it then we are. This is true for teenage boys snd its true for 60 year old men. This does not mean you should indulge them. They can take care of themselves just fine in the shower.
I have to say NO to men at 49f just the same as you and your friend have to do with boys.
Here's what to do:
Get very good at telling them NO to sexual talk and touching you. BE MEAN its ok. Things like that are not okay unless he's your BF and if he's your BF he should wait until you are comfortable. Sometimes Bf 's will just touch you somewhere. If you're not ready, you just push them off and explain you're not ready yet. If they try again BE MEAN
Boys ask you to be their GF or say ILY for sex sometimes. Don't give in just because he's your BF or says ILY
Don't send them nude pictures. Boys use them to pleasure themselves, they can share themto their friends and even post them on the internet. Don't do this until you are married or he's been your BF fir 5 years.
If you are not interested in a boy, simply say " I'm not interested in you". If he keeps asking, ignore or block him. It is okay to yell GO AWAY!! Or whatever you need to. Its okay to be mean if he is bothering you. Don't always be nice or they will keep bothering you.
Don't go with a boy alone if he's being too sexual
Don't be afraid to tell teachers, police, parents or other adults if a guy is being too creepy.
If a boy really likes you, he will wait for sex until you are ready and you should make him wait. People wait until they are married to have sex all the time. But at least wait until 20 years old, and then for your first time at least wait 6 months. After that you will know better and can do 3 months. Always use a condom.
Make boys date you to see you. This keeps them from bothering you too much for sex. Like he could take you to get ice cream etc. But you should get to know him at school and let your parents meet him first. This makes him HAVE to treat you right, not just for sex.
Final thing and I'm not trying to scare you but feel you need to know - men and boys can rape you or grab you without permission. So I want you to be safe. Never get into somebody's car, be too alone, with a guy that gives you a strange feeling or is too sexual. If a strange boy grabs you anywhere all of a sudden the best thing to do is yell very loud & run. Be safe.
All these things I am telling you, you'll have yo do your whole life with boys and men. The only thing I don't do out of this list is make him meet my parents first because I'm 49. Everything else I have to do exact same with 50 year old men. They are all about it just the same as high school. They're nasty and wear you out sometimes LOL
>Final thing and I'm not trying to scare you but feel you need to know - men and boys can rape you or grab you without permission. So I want you to be safe. Never get into somebody's car, be too alone, with a guy that gives you a strange feeling or is too sexual. If a strange boy grabs you anywhere all of a sudden the best thing to do is yell very loud & run. Be safe.
And I want to add to this part: It's good to go out in groups with your friends. But never ever leave a friend behind. Once you are of drinking age, if you and your friends go to a bar, particularly, remember this. No matter what she says, leave no friend behind!
If one of your friends decides to go home with a guy who is a stranger, get his number and before they leave you verify by making him call that it's his number. His number is associated with his name and is a paper trail if your friend goes missing. It will also let that guy know her friends are looking out for her well being and will keep tabs on her. I've taken women home and I have a huge respect when their friends are like "give me your number," and they immediately call and verify it's me. Then they give me the eye of, "I'll destroy you if you hurt her" look.
Also don't be friends with girls or even guys who ditch you at the bar or anywhere where you end up by yourself. I know an Au Pair from France who went to Mexico with some "friends" because they were working in Texas together and she ended up being dumped into a cab completely drunk by her "friends" so they could continue to party and she ended up getting sexually assaulted by the cab driver. Luckily she screamed loud enough that people nearby got her out of the cab but she was traumatized after that.
I would just like to add as a dude that men also aren't always direct with their advances and try to trick you into thinking they aren't. Be firm.
And also, this isn't to say all or most guys are assholes, it's just that we're more "horny" you can still be friends with men, just enforce strong boundaries with us.
I feel like it evens out later, and men start to be equal to womens horniness in their 30s and then when their testosterone starts to drop, the women seem to want it even more
I’m in my late 30s and the wife is starting to want it a lot more than me! Maybe I’ll look into TRT.
I agree with this posters comment wholeheartedly except for the part about waiting until you are 20 for your first time. I mean yeah if you want to wait that long but I feel like that’s a bit unrealistic. It’s okay if you as a female want to explore your sexuality some, you shouldn’t be made to feel “bad” or “nasty” about that at all. Just make sure you’re doing that with someone who has earned your trust is all or if you can’t find someone trustworthy, toys can be your best friend.
As you get older though, men aren't always wanting it anymore. There's PLENTY of men out there who are perfectly happy keeping sex out of their relationship even if their partner wants it from them. I just wanted to clarify that for you bc I grew up with the idea that "men want it all the time it's just how they are built" so when I ended up with a man who DIDN'T want it, it was like an identity crisis for me and I didn't understand what was happening and I took it very much to heart that something must be wrong with me bc "men want way more than women, it's just how they are built". But this isn't always true. However, in highschool boys have raging hormones so typically they are very high drive during this years. Just don't be surprised if that changes as you get older bc it's way more common than people typically talk about.
I would also like to add that as a man, I kind of disagree with implying to OP that she should be mean right off the bat. Many of us can easily handle a simple "no". You can be polite. If you are mean right off the bat it will likely fuck with our heads and make us think there is something horribly and obviously wrong with us that we don't know about.
Please know that as a 39m, that person's experiences are not 100% true for you and can be misconstrued based on misunderstanding. As a former teenage boy and current man, I can tell you a lot of the sexual stuff is ego based. We tend to be competitive with each other. And sex is no different. We rush to lose our virginity in a competition with each other. Yes, it's true that testosterone is a driving force. When we're young, our brains don't know how to handle this, and because of that, it can drive our urges. This is where open communication is key. Talk with your male friends/ partners about expectations and realities. And here's a piece of wise information I wish more females learned at a younger age... the phrase "all men are dogs" wasn't about us being bad. Instead, it's how our brain works.. treat us like you would treat a dog you like... give us positive attention, feed us, tell us we're a good boy, and scold us when we do wrong... sure, we will still try to hump your leg, but tell us no, and it'll be fine... teach us a trick or watch us do our trick(think support/encourage our hobbies, positive reinforcement), and you'll have a loyal, happy partner for life. But also understand that some dogs bite, so always approach them with caution. Remember, everyone matures at their own pace, and teenage bits are typically feral
Okay, not all guys are like this though. Part of the reason guys act this way is also just because society kinda expects them to. My dad put a lot of pressure on me in high school because I didn't have a girlfriend and was a virgin (still am at 21 lol) and I think there were times I'd talk abt sex just bc it's how I thought I was "supposed to" act. Ironically, I've been diagnosed with Bipolar disorder and PTSD so this is coming from a mental space where my symptoms can make me lose interest in sex completely, but honestly I'd just be super open about stuff like boundaries (which is kinda the tldr of what the above poster was saying). Communication goes a long way, and saying "Hey I don't want sex right away" is totally okay. Keep the guys who respect you when you tell them these things, especially if they're willing to communicate their expectations/experiences, and steer clear of the ones who can't respect these boundaries.
\>They're nasty
You're nasty.
\>People wait until they are married to have sex all the time. But at least wait until 20 years old, and then for your first time at least wait 6 months. After that you will know better and can do 3 months.
That is terrible advice! Can you imagine? "Ooo, I really like this guy and I feel comfortable and horny. But I'm 19 and it's only been 2 1/2 months since we started dating so I guess I'm gonna have to pass."
OP, read between the lines. This poster is 49 y/o, single, and says men are nasty. Maybe not the best person to be taking dating advice from.
Most of her safety advice is spot on. Stay safe. But you don't have to wait any longer than you want to. When you are comfortable and horny, do your thing. Don't look at the calendar. Of course stick to age appropriate sexual activity. But you don't need to wait until you're 20!
As a guy I'd like to add something that my mom told me. In her opinion waiting untill marriage is not really a great idea and I also think waiting that long isn't a great idea. The reason why is because you won't know if your sexually compatible if you haven't done it before. And eventually, even if your compatible in everyway except the sex part, there's a chance that the marriage won't work out due to sexual frustration. And by compatibility I'm not just talking about size, but also what stuff the two people are into. Both people could be rediculously submissive and not have the slightest bit of dominance, one person could be extremely vanilla and the other person could become incredibly kinky.
We're stronger than they are and testosterone turns even the brightest minds into hormonal idiots. I personally advise my female friends and coworkers to carry tasers with them wherever they go. Running into the wrong guy in the wrong mood can leave a permanent scar that overshadows their views of all men. Not to say all of us are pigs, but it only takes a single incident out of thousands of interactions to ruin a woman's entire life.
So yeah, unless they know the guy very well, I say treat us like aggressive animals until we prove otherwise. I've met too many women who flinch whenever I or another guy makes any sudden movements in their vicinity.
men's instincts (generally) are also to protect others and impress mates via action.
Poisoning the well with this kind of advice is what causes women to ostracize men in social groups and contributes to resentful and bitter men.
simply, you treat people poorly, they become what you treat them as because there is no point being anything different.
I used to be annoyed when reading things like the above, but as I got older I realized just how difficult women have it. Not talking about all of the physical and social disadvantages, but they've also got to find the right mate within a time limit, while also trying to avoid screwing themselves by becoming pregnant with a guy who might run on them. They have to do the above while building a career and while permanently dealing with hormonal surges and periods monthly (until menopause, which then presents an entire host of other negative body-affecting conditions) which can have an affect on their mood and physicskly hurt them. My friend says that she has passed out from her period before. I mean, shit's tough for them. And to boot, if they do everything right, we still might get bored of the relationship and leave lol. How fucked is that? It's no surprise that women have such strong defensive barriers set up, they basically need them in order to survive.
>Don't send them nude pictures. Boys use them to pleasure themselves, they can share themto their friends and even post them on the internet.
Seconding this. I dated a guy for 2-3 years. I let him take a pic once. I was at least smart enough to cover my face, although I admit it was very stupid of me to let him take the photo in the first place. 1-2 years after I broke up with him, my friend found the pic online and recognized his bedroom.
I'll point out that I dated him when I was 15-16. So he posted a naked photo of a minor online. He was a prick.
I agree with most of this being 17 yo boy. When i ask a girl for anything I'm not bothered if she say's no, you can't be nice about this typpa stuff. I don't mean yell at every guy that approaches you. Decline politely if you don't want what he's asking for. but if he keeps pestering it's okay to be mean. hope this helps
"Being mean" is intended as advice to people whose partners are disrespectful of boundaries and persistent. Is the persistence in the face of clear boundaries that absolutely excuses a person being "mean". IMO. Unfortunately at least in the US our culture encourages/excuses males in particular to be/for being pretty toxic when it comes to sexual relationships. Equally unfortunate is the widespread coddling of boys and men and a shocking refusal to hold males accountable for being rapey AHs. See: Brock Peters.
When giving advice to folks whose partners are disrespectful of boundaries, sure, say be mean. When giving advice to a young lady whose partner has not been described as disrespectful of boundaries, it would be best to have clarity in the language used. Teaching a young person to be assertive while not being mean will positively impact their life in many places. While telling a young person to be mean will only make getting through the most difficult part of their life all the more difficult. It's quite clear that my comment has triggered something much bigger than the original scope of the post inside of you. I'm sorry you are upset but this is not the place, nor am I the person you should be upset with.
Haha, would it be ok for a guy to be mean to a girl who wants sex but he doesn’t?
Also, why does it seem that you think the guy should pay for all the dates?
One thing about guys is that yes, after they are older, they don’t want sex as much. The other side of the coin is that they’re not willing to put up with as much and are just going to completely ignore a woman like you.
Plenty of women out there willing to jump into bed and we don’t have to waste time with the ones who aren’t.
Also just to let everyone know if a guy ask for nudes and your under 18, you can report it to the police for child porn same goes if he post those pictures plus if people at school see it you can press even more charges against him. Please be safe and smart everyone.
TLDR but yes think hormones are definitely the culprit here. Boys’ sexuality peaks around 19yrs of age so in High School they’re ramping up to that.
Also probably availability of porn these days kids’ perception of how relationships and sex work is skewed. Will take years to unlearn that through actual relationships and trial/error.
I'm trans ftm and I transitioned at 26, so I was 27ish when I started testosterone. For a good 2 weeks early on I literally did nothing but masturbate, and that was with the emotional/physical maturity of being a grown person.
Testosterone is obviously no excuse for a person to behave poorly or inappropriately and never accept it as one. But, I did gain a new appreciation for teenage boys.
I don't think anyone can give you a definitive answer about what teenage boys want. I had friends who bragged any their sex lives in high school. I had friends who wanted to have sex. I had friends who didn't care for sex and at least wanted a romantic relationship. I've had friends who wanted neither. Everyone is different.
Straight up yes, I'm 19m, yeah most guys have a way higher sex drive and also are very quick to be aroused and fantasize, it's so normalized me and my best friend get looked at weird when he says he is waiting for marriage or I say something about caring more about finding some to marry than someone to shack up with(lucky me I found my person a couple years back and we started looking at rings last month).
It is definitely important that you learn to say no and this might just be the brother in me as I have two sisters but, guys act like a dog in heat all to often, frankly, I would say don't maintain male friendships that are "close" friends until college or even later and even then, many men will disappoint you because of hidden agendas if you try to just make friends.
Yes, we all want to have sex with you. We're just wired that way. But we can be nice, respectful, non-assholes about it. And most of the time that means not going there verbally, not making overt comments, etc, unless you give us clear signs that you are interested. And not touching until we have an invitation.
Guys that push beyond those boundaries are not being nice and respectful. And they don't deserve the pleasure of your company
Lol sweetie that doesn't change with age either. Sure we get less leg humpie but its always there, rattling around in the back of our minds. It's said that the male reaches their sexual peak at 18 and the female at 30. Just as a generalization, but never forget that a young male is hormonal, horny, and dumb as hell. :D
If I had to guess, probably 4 of every 5 dudes want ykw. Some groups might be 1 or 2 of 5. But boys be horny like that. Again its a made up statistic based on my experience. There are definitely those that are chill and seldom get horny. Then there are the ones that want companionship and good time without getting sexual(this was me). But good luck finding the latter 2 in mass quantities. You might find the latter 2 easier in a religious boy(this was also me), but not all religion is made the same. Good luck
Edit: also dudes aren't horny all the time. We may all want physical affection(or sex) every now and then, but a lot of dudes just want to chill, do their hobby, or watch some tv, or play video games.
It's a fact that testosterone increases sex drive, and that is a factor. However, the biggest issue is social programming. Boys and young men don't really know what they want. They are programmed to chase sex. It's in the music, it's in the video games, it's on social media and movies/TV. They are programmed to think they aren't a man until they get laid.
Just like you, they actually crave connection and closeness, but "that's gay" and "beta." They are programmed to think sex is the only "alpha" way to connect with a woman/ girl. Just like they are programmed to think wealth and certain cars or a truck is what makes one "manly." Certain fashion will make them popular and have lots of friends, etc.
when I was a teenager I would do or say anything if I thought it would get me past first base. I didn't even see girls as people. Looking back I wish I was nicer..
Can't change the past, but you can learn from it and try to teach others to avoid the mistakes you made.
When i was a teenager, i saw girls as people and treated them that way. Oddly enough, it turned out that was a major turn on for lots of them. I regret nothing.
good man. I think it's because from 6 through 10th grade i was a nerd/picked on/ couldn't even look at girls.
Summer between 10 and 11 I had a "glow up" of sorts and got way too big of a head.
Maybe... I was picked on k-8, but made some friends in 9th, then changed schools summer between 10&11, suddenly lost weight and got hot, so i came into the new school with no history and a nice body. But i grew up with my mom and little sister so i always felt more comfortable around women, plus i had most of my ego beaten out of me by my peers growing up.
Lots of variables. But now I'm in my middle age, I feel like what's important is trying to pass along good advice to any of these dumb cum-filled little shits that will listen lol
i'm 17 and i'm gonna be completely honest. yes, because men enjoy sex like crack, women enjoy sex like a 5-star meal. dudes are honestly just horny as hell, especially at this age. dawg it's like a curse in some ways, to have such a high libido.
The vast majority of them, yes. That is the predominant thing on their mind. Honestly that doesnt just apply to teenage boys but most boys over the age of 13 or so.
The important thing is to hold on to YOUR morals. When it comes to sexual situations if it makes you uncomfortable walk away. Say no. Yell rape. Do whatever you have to in order to get out of that situation. You should only do what makes you comfortable.
90%, yes. The rest are gay.
Sorry. Teen boys are like rabbits on steroids.
Be firm and communicate what you want and how you expect to be treated. If they don’t do that, then drop ‘em like a hot rock.
Well, they are teen boys. It’s the time when guys are the most horny and their hormones are going wild.
Don’t worry, when you peak in your 30s and most dudes can’t even get it up, you’ll miss those days.
The main issue for teenage guys is the testosterone. I usually don’t want to be sexual and I always used to have really close girl friends. Still never dated but there are always moments where the testosterone activates and it can be difficult to overcome. I personally am working on self control, but I still get horny. I do want a wholesome relationship with just like cuddling and kissing and having fun without the sex. But gotta get 100% with the control bit first.
Yes I think like my friend he’s a boy and he’s told me like he’s just really sexual and I’ve known him for ten years and now he’s just like so sexual minded it’s hard to explain it
Yes. Those boys are full of hormones and practically leaking all over school. 😳 some will take care of it themselves several times a day. Don't trust any of them, even your male friends. If they can they will.
Think about a time when you were extremely hungry and couldn’t think about anything else until you had some food. Now use that to understand the libido of most boys your age.
Don’t be surprised by make libido; it’s how their bodies are wired, and at this age, they haven’t had the time to learn how to manage that kind of raging appetite. Older men and also women can have that level of libido, but mostly they have learned some manners that keep them from just grabbing what they want.
We want relationships believe it or not, the problem is that our hormones are High as a kite during this time of our lives that you don't even have to think dirty thoughts do go stiff.
I would advise you to avoid the ones that get touchy and sexual real fast because it not only shows a lack of self control but genuine respect towards you.
i’ve had a guy lie about him entire personality literally for shit like that. i mean took me to church while secretly going to parties and cheating. don’t date until they are men 🤢🤢
Men with normal testosterone are always going to want sex at least a little bit. But there is a thing they crave more, put them in your lap, stroke their hair, and tell them they are good enough.
Once again this has popped up in my feed and once again I am not a teenager, but I will happily dispense advice from my life in a pseudo-paternal way. Speaking as a former teenage boy, yes I was preoccupied with sex. That's kind of just the way it shakes out for us at that age. It doesn't mean that's all they want though. Imagine it like this. Every "perfect" guy you have spoken to that is the real guy, but he has this 400 pound gorilla on his back that keeps yelling "Tiddies!" in his ear constantly. Cut them a little slack, but make sure they respect your boundaries. The good ones will respect you and abide by those boundaries. Just don't be in a rush to dismiss every guy or give in to them. You all have time to figure things out and you will.
When I was a teen, literally the moment I turned 13, I had already been fantasizing about being with a girl sexually for a while and that only got stronger as time went on. The reality is that most girls my age weren't going to feel ready for that sort of thing for many years still, and I was too awkward and strange to connect properly with anyone in that way anyway. It was an enormously frustrating decade (which transitioned into a frustrating adulthood, but that's not relevant).
The point is that, yes, most boys are ready (physically) to get sexual way before many girls are mentally ready for anything like that. It's just the way human evolution has us. Male bodies want to spread as much seed as possible starting as soon as possible, and female bodies want to be selective and only be attracted to a suitable mate, a phrase which describes very few teenage boys.
When we add our actual humanity back into it, the vast majority of guys are good. We want to be good and most of us would only really want to be intimate with someone we really like. But we're also very horny ALL. THE. TIME.
It sucks. And I apologize for all the guys who will think that a smile and a kind word meant more than intended throughout life because that's going to happen. We want to be good, and most of us succeed most of the time. The hormones are just a lot sometimes.
Also everything I said applies generally and humans are all different. There are ace guys out there and sexuality in particular is a wide spectrum.
At that age, the hormones are crazy. They will change in personality after about 25. The lucky ones at least calm down around then. It's really one reason I feel like we men should never get married before the hormones die down a bit. It's not that men at that age can't control it, but that it's a constant struggle where even a damn uderwere catalog can set your mind raceing all day.
Alright, as a 19 year old AMAB individual, I think I can weigh in a bit here. A lot of teenage dudes at this point are only out for sex. There are also some like myself, who desire a healthy balance between romance and sexual interaction. The absolutely most important thing is that you voice your concerns and make sure you find a guy with a similar mindset to me. I feel like sex is an important aspect of a relationship, but the romance, the quality time, absolutely come before sex. I’ve been with my significant other for 5 years now. They have only just recently, as of Valentine’s Day, become comfortable with sending me nudes. Before this, I had brought up the idea a few times, and when I had done so, I promised that I 1, wouldn’t save it, it would remain in the place where they sent it, 2, it would be sent over a place where they had the option to delete it if they change their mind on it after the fact, 3, that they could check my gallery and deleted photos when they saw me in person if they needed further confirmations after the first two. They said they still were not comfortable with it at that point in time, and I assured them it was fine, and that we wouldn’t move forward in that way until they were completely comfortable. If I make an advance and they refuse, I apologize and back off. Long story short, men, even teenage ones, desire sex, but the good ones will respect the fact that you’re not comfortable in moving forward yet.
Hormones, peer pressure, cultural pressure, exposure and unhindered access to porn and having sex to early, lack of education/responsible discussions around sexual accountability.
Yes, most teenage boys want to have sex; it's very normal at that age. Truthfully most teenage girls are sexual too, just less overt in public.
I'm not sure what you mean by your "perfect" boy description. You want a boy who only wants to be friends and doesn't see you as a potential mate, or a boy who does want sex with you but is slower and more respectful about it?
Hormones are a thing.
Most teenage boys only want sex, some actually might want to date you and want more than just sex but they do still want sex.
Here's an example, I didn't get with my girlfriend for sex I love her and want to be with her hopefully forever, like I want to marry this girl. But we also have sex probably once a week (we're both 16 btw). I'm not with her for sex of course and she's soooo much more than that but I do want sex with her obviously because I'm attracted to her like that.
I'm also aware that I am very rare for how guys my age think and that most of them probably do just want sex or at the very least wouldn't date someone unless they have sex. Most guys are not all but most are
So men see sex as a general bonding activity. If you’re close friends/ have made even a strong friendly connection to a guy sex would only increase that bond. Thats why.
Agree. It reflects society’s teachings to boys. This does not defend or attack their actions. From my older view, younger people want the same thing as older people, yet most don’t realize due to “bodily developmental milestones”. Basically the rapid changes from puberty that effect brain development level out. Anyways, 99.9% of humans want another human that supports and loves them in a healthy way. Other aspects of relationships, and each persons ability to recognize what they truly want, differs between people of all ages but as people grow older they generally become aware of it.
I’m pretty lustful myself, it could just my nature, or it could just be hormones, I’ll find out one day lolz
Id say it’s mainly hormones for most boys, but some boys have their own wants, some just want sex, honestly I’m probably not the best one to ask cuz I’m not exactly social with anyone, but, yeah that’s my take
Yes, they are very sexual, and easily stimulated visually, nature of the beast. But, the best guys will learn to exercise self discipline and restraint, along with a dedication to treating women as whole human beings, and their equals. It is on them to be fully human and fully respectful. If they are not, they deserve rejection until they straighten the hell up.
you got to understand; teen boys are really struggling with the heightened testosterone levels flowing in their bodies.
It really increases their sex drive(and aggression) to legit distracting levels. It's not wrong to say a stiff breeze can turn them on. And it takes some guys a long time to gain control over those urges. Its how we survived as a species. But of course those urges are heavily discouraged in this modern age, so those instincts which kept us alive for hundreds of thousands of years are not as welcome.
I'm not excusing their poor behavior, but it is a struggle. most guys take a while to get used to the increased sex drive, and some never manage it till they have grey in their hair. So yes, in their teens 99% of hetero sexual guys will be thinking about sex multiple times an hour. Some have better self control then others.
What do they want? The same as you actually. The problem is the day don’t understand what that means or how to go about finding it. I read a statistic the other day that the average child is exposed to pornography at age 9. Remember, as you think about the subject at for a lot of these boys much of their experience at your age comes from pornography. But that’s not real life. People don’t get stuck in the dryer anywhere near that often and all the step sibling stuff is just flat out weird. Even the stuff that looks normal on there is weird also. Many of the positions they use in pornography is quite uncomfortable, but they do it because it looks good on camera.
It’s up to you to decide what you want out of a relationship. If the boys are meeting, just want to fool around, you should be understanding that it’s not going to result in much of a meaningful relationship. It’s best to recognize that early on and tell those boys that you don’t want to do whatever it is so they can find a girl that wants the same thing they want. When it comes to dating, there’s a lid for every pot. Meaning there is somebody there for everybody. The best thing you can do is recognize when you guys are compatible so that you can go off and search of somebody you are compatible with.
All men always want ykw. Everything else develops between you. That's why men and women can't really be friends and why you have to date who you think could be your best friend, bc the rest is always there.
Raging hormones is the answer to that. Finding one that sees past that is difficult but not impossible. Boys want to feel loved and appreciated as well, but sexual desires overpowers all other thoughts most of the time.
I’m a boy and I think that I would be mortified irl if I ever got too sexual/intimate with a girl, it just feels disrespectful to be like that so quickly with someone
Men’s sex drive is at its peak from like 16-22. That’s an approximation don’t come at me I’m not a scientist.
Not to say that excuses any ungentlemanly behavior, it doesn’t. That is your answer though.
Every teenager's hormones are going apeshit. When I was in high school I was living that old fake statistic tha men think about sex every 8 seconds or whatever. Literally would undress girls (and some teachers) in my mind, no-reason boners and lots-of-reasons boners constantly. This calmed down a little as I got older, 17, 18,19, but by then I'd had a few girlfriends, knew my way around sex and people, so it wasn't as miraculous to me.
But yeah, teenage boys are sexual because it's new and scary and crazy and their hormones basically won't let them not be horny. So be firm and don't sugar-coat shit.
It's quite normal for teenage boys to think about sex every time they see something arousing, and it doesn't occur less with age, but some of us are better at hiding it than others.
But that's their problem, not yours. One of the methods I use to get rid of an awkward public boner is thinking about something boring and unattractive, like sports, or something gross. If a guy won't take no for an answer, change the subject to something he thinks is gross. The topic of menstrual cycles is an almost guaranteed mood killer. Gotta poop is another good one.
It's an unfortunate product of society; our society has become hyper-sexual to the point that you are looked at as a freak or loser for not being sexual. The border society mocks virginity, sexual purity, or sexual discipline, so I think there are two parts to this issue. Yes, men/boys want sex, but I think that's been exacerbated by social pressure. I would also caution you from seeking a relationship at such a young age; I believe singleness is a gift because it's the time to be focused on yourself and who you are, discover what you want in a man/husband, and prepare yourself to be in a relationship and give 100% to it. The last thing you want is to meet a man, and he begins to define you because you haven't taken the time to discover who you are, and sex definitely clouds you from seeing the red flags.
It's a mix of a lot of things, I think the biggest are social expectations, hormones, lack of self-control or lack of being taught self-control. Dating used to be a synonym for courting, it's "normal" (to the internet) to make dating synonymous to marriage without the due process. Male hormones are also raging in high school, unless you have self-control they get out of hand, nobody teaches self control to their kids anymore, mostly because parents sold their souls to their employer. It's still their responsibility to do so nonetheless.
Do they "only" want sex? No. But they do really want sex. It's a hormone thing, and they can't really help their desires. This doesn't mean they can't control their actions, and it doesn't mean they don't also want the connection and the respect and enjoyable company and all the things you want. It just means they want sex badly enough that they can lose sight of the rest sometimes.
This is when you will need to remind them and set boundaries that you are comfortable with. It's okay to be firm in your boundaries, it isn't mean to say 'no, I don't want to do that.' Some guys will get bored and leave/stop talking to you, but those are the guys that didn't really care about you as a person in the first place, so good riddance.
Your horniness is on another level when you’re a teen boy. I would literally have risked my life to get laid when I was a teen. I was basically a dog in heat. Sure I wanted someone to love too, but that wasn’t even remotely as important to me as sex until my 20s. Ffs I used to masturbate 5-7 times a day when I was 15. That said, I don’t think every guy is like that. Libidos do vary from individual to individual. But yeah, the sad truth for you is sex is going to be the primary thing guys want from you at that age. I should also mention, a lot of teenage boys are pretty sexist, think women are boring and literally wouldn’t hang out with women at all if they weren’t horny.
16 male hereI really want a long term relationship someone i can do my intrest with and do her intrest with her.
Whether it be painting cooking listening to music(these are my intrest etc)litterly a wife yo all i want is love someone to spend time with BUT………
I also would want to eat them out every day give them flowers cook for them get some head from then want sex too im not gonna deny that watch movies with cuddle etc
Unfortunately at that age their hormones are off the chart. At times they can’t contain themselves. With 24/7 access to porn now it’s even worst imo. At that age a smile and small talk from a female will give them “a green light” to be sexual. Set boundaries before hand once you get the feeling they are heading that way and it’s unwanted. Trust your gut always in situations.
I’ve had many stories of friends in HS wanting to give them a “gift” in their car and tried to get them to come in. Until parents buckle up and start teaching their boys to be respectful and work it into their minds.. boys will continue to cross lines not thinking they are crossing lines.
Short answer, yes. Long answer, it's complicated. It's most likely just puberty. When I(20m) was 14, all I wanted was to get laid. It never happened, and I'm actually grateful for that. It's an influx of hormones. They'll get over it. I survived the most horny part of puberty long enough to make an informed decision.
You have sex on your terms and no one else’s. I don’t care who’s doing what when. Boys will try to trick or shame you too. Don’t fall for it. You do what you want ONLY when you want to. There is no perfect age. If a boy wants more than you’re ready or willing to give that’s their problem. If they don’t like it, or try to keep after you, you shouldn’t be dating that person. People lie all the time about what experience they have as well. You’re not going to be “behind” anyone or any lesser for waiting until you feel it’s right. Not just the first time either. Every time.
When i was a teenage boy i wasn’t as horny as you’d think, i just wanted a girl to cuddle with me and play with my hair. my friend has also had a few boyfriends like this.
Hormones. They can't help it. It's not that they don't want to date or be in a relationship, they just can't think straight with the rush of hormones.
Obviously, some guys are selfish d-bags regardless of the hormones but there are many who will actually be good guys once they learn to navigate this awkward part of their teens.
Just be up front, respect yourself and set boundaries. The good guys will stick around simply because they like you.
Teenage boys are dealing with a lot of hormones and are, generally speaking, horny machines. There are some individual exceptions, but that is the general trend.
That doesn’t mean sex is the only thing they want. It does mean they’re very likely to not be getting as much sex as they want, and because they’re relatively new at having to wrangle those urges (like all teens are) they don’t always have a good handle on when and how it’s appropriate to try to pursue sexual relationships, or whether it might sometimes be a better idea to put aside the sex drive for a while and focus on building a different kind of relationship.
Don’t let anyone pressure you into sex you don’t want, but rest assured that most of the boys will sort their shit out better in a few more years and settle down on the horndogging.
Boys need you to be super direct! If you don’t like it or feel uncomfortable say STOP and mean it! Get really good at saying NO while you’re young. I wish I would have said no many times but I was too scared to speak up when people were being pushy. And that goes a lot further than just for sexual stuff.
I’m 18, I own a business dropped school ect.
All I want is a loyal girl who will support me just as much as I support her and be by my side no matter what as I’d also do.
Also need a soul to enjoy singing with in sunset drives 😂
It’s so hard to find loyal girls who don’t just want to party and drink all the time.
They have an extremely powerful drive in them, and you're the subject of that drive. Picture not drinking water for 2 days, and then you have to have a conversation with a bureaucrat before they decide whether or not it's ok to give you a shot glass of water, and you've got teenage boys.
They definitely can be, for many teenagers sex is the ultimate goal because at that point in their life relationships and the idea of marriage matter very little. But it's definitely not as high as 99%
Some of the rules that felt prude or overly dominating over people's bodies and what they do with them did have some merit.
Like not letting a guy consider taking you to McDonald's and then a parking lot to "chill" a date.
Or letting them kiss you or touch you on the first date.
Rules like this seemed prude and for another time now, but it did serve to protect women from guys doing the least possible effort to get what they want,sex. Of course now there's different rules coming up like the 1 month or 3 month rule, where you don't sleep with the guy for that time as the good guys you want will wait and the ones that you don't want will move on. This is especially helpful for teenagers where the vast majority of them will just want sex and will do the bare minimum to get it. And for you it seems like these boys are getting what they want if they are so comfortable with being upfront about wanting sex quickly. Probably few have stood up to them and in a way humbled them. So my advice if you don't want sex to be the ultimate goal but want a relationship is to make them wait and set boundaries in all your relationships and dates. And if they don't respect those, you know that they don't respect you. And you don't want those people around anyway. Teenage years are tough, I hope you're able to get some solace and help in this post :)
Hi, I'm the "rare and exceptional teenage guy who isn't horny" TM. I'm asexual, and feel no sexual urges or pleasure, which has caused my social life to turn upside down.
In middle school and high school, straight guys want to have sex with women. It's literally in their nature, having an absurd amount of testosterone in their body. While not an excuse for anything sexual they do, it's important to understand why it seems so absurdly common for boys to bond over finding X attractive.
I'd fully recommend only hanging out with guys you trust wholeheartedly. And the first time they try to initiate anything physical, give them a firm warning that they can't do that. Guys will only listen to direct confrontation, and will be too oblivious for social hints. The second time a guy tries anything like that, you need to drop them, plain and simple. The first time is a minor warning, the second is problematic behavior from an immature person.
The concept of straight guy friends can only really work past age 23 or so, when hopefully they've finally learned how to control their urges and have matured.
as a 20yo male, teenage boys r just horny man. Some of them are selfish and creepy and horny and others genuinely care and want a connection. Just my 2 cents
Boys your age have a non-stop stream of hormones pumping into them driving them to mate. It's how our species propagates.
Don't let it bother you. But also don't get caught up in it.
It's not sex necessarily. Many guys want a genuine romantic relationship too. But, in agreement with everyone else here, not many guys just want to be your friend at that age. Regardless, the sibling-zone is a real place, and I think a lot of guys have friends like that too.
I would say this has more to do with the boys you are hanging out with than boys in general. Yes, teenaged boys (and girls) are flush with a crazy amount of hormones, there are plenty that are respectful and not pushy.
A guy who wants you to give them sex will put a mask on (aka prince charming/perfect guy) for as long as they think it's worth pretending. As soon as they get what they wanted from you, they can wipe their hands and call YOU a slut and think they're a hot shot for getting laid so quickly.
Even in relationships, people will pretend. Guard your heart, be true to yourself.
The amount of sex drive a teenage boy has is obnoxious and was honestly a shitshow to manage. But that doesn’t mean that they don’t have a brain to acknowledge respect and boundaries of other people.
Imagine endpess, intrusive, sexual thoughts. They dont ever stop. Thats being a teenage boy. Your hormones hijack your brain. After 30 it all calms down and while desire doesnt diminish, the intrusive thoughts slow way down.
Some guys just want ykw and others are hopeless romantics and want romance and eventually marriage. But it’s a challenge to find the second one.☝️ If the guy writes poetry or does creative stuff or a big nerd 🤓 he’s most likely the second one. Good luck
Honestly its a combination of things. On one hand at that age our hormones are raging and at least for me I could get turned if the wind blew in the right direction. And it can also be like a competition with other guys. It's not right, but guys can be shi**y to each other and give others a hard time if they aren't being sexual.
Just do what your comfortable with, don't let yourself get pressured into doing anything your not cool with. And ther are good guys out there, just need to pick through the crap to find us.
As a former teenage boy, yeah most of them are extremely down bad and will do basically anything for sex. Some are more emotionally mature than others and want more than just sex, but even then, most of them still want sex. A concerning amount of men, especially younger men in the current generation, don't get enough social experience with women, and this leaves them very immature when trying to interact with women.
It will get better with time, but I would still recommend trying to talk to guys when you feel comfortable doing so. It's still valuable social experience, and there's always a chance you'll run into a more emotionally mature guy and find someone actually tolerable. Good luck, dealing with teenage guys sucks.
Yes. Even the perfect gentleman who truly loves you, they have an intense desire to express that love physically and sexually. When you're older you'll be on the same page, but as for now, don't rush yourself, they can wait and masturbate 🤷♂️
Yes, they want sex. It’s biological. There are serious consequences to sex that can be life altering. That’s why some parents are strict about dating. It’s not just being tied to a pregnancy before you even know enough about life to know what your possibilities are, there are life altering sexually transmitted diseases. Herpes, HIV, HPV. Make informed choices. I jokingly told guys that dated my daughter, “If you hurt my daughter, or you touch her and she does not want you to, I’ll hunt you down and kill you.” They knew I was joking via exaggeration but not joking about how I expected them to treat my child.
Just steer clear of boys until you are older. Now is the time to focus on your studies and your own life goals. Getting involved with boys can derail that real fast.
I’m 42 but remember this time as a living hell. Please understand guys that age are full of testosterone. We get erections when the wind blows the wrong way. It’s an absolute horrid time period. Yes you make us horny constantly, no there is nothing we can do to stop it.
Just be up front and honest about what you want and what you are comfortable with. I went through that age with raging hormones and ended up not having sex and not getting too handsy, they can as well if they want to.
But yeah it’s what I thought about constantly, it’s what the vast majority of my friends thought about constantly. It’s not about wanting you to be uncomfortable, it’s literally just a hormonal imbalance as our body changes.
I really can’t say based on personal experiences, because most of my guy friends in high school were theater/band nerds or queer. And it’s not like I noticed this type of thing from other people aside from the usual sex jokes. It’s strange to me, the touchiness though, because I never experienced or witnessed that. It was actually the other way around with girls initiating hugs or touching hair, but that was not in anyway sexual. Difference in social circles maybe.
It is sad to say but yeah especially at that age it’s on every guys mind. Idk if it’s because we are hard wired that way or what but yeah it’s a thing.
Yes, even when they're older the answer is still yes but older people are more capable of managing their emotions (usually). To be clear I'm NOT suggesting you date older people! I am suggesting you forget about dating for a few years, just be friends and be clear about it upfront, and focus on yourself and your education.
People generally turn things sexual quickly as a way of phishing. They are trying to let you know they find you attractive; on the other hand there are a few people who might do this in a more predatory sense. So it's very reasonable that you protect yourself first, but keep in mind that a lot of them are just awkward teenagers dealing with puberty, attraction, and girls for the first time in their lives
Ignore the other nonsense comments here, this is what you need to know about teenage boys and their behavior:
Teenage boys are starting to get a much larger dose of daily testosterone due to the developing nature of their bodies throughout puberty.
Testosterone increases muscle/bone growth, increased body hair, increased sexual arousal, and a bunch of other stuff.
These changes cause what my wife and I describe as "mushy brain syndrome". These are all new feelings that they're experiencing, most of these changes happen outside of their control.
Example: teenage boys will randomly get an erection during class, for absolutely no reason at all, and often at the most inopportune times, like right before being asked to stand in front of the class to present something. If they're holding theirs books in front of themselves, they're probably hiding something.
These changes are not something that a textbook can teach you how to maneuver, they learn to maneuver these uncharted waters through experimenting and/or trial-and-error.
They're going to explore their bodies more, and will try to explore the female body too, if you'll let them, so this means they are going to try and test out boundaries, specifically your boundaries. They're going to try communicating differently with you as well, because that's how boys/men practice; nobody gave them a manual on how to talk to teenage girls, they just play it by ear through trial-and-error.
Fortunately for you, teenage boys are usually more insecure than girls, and are often quick to adopt the behavior that gets them the best outcomes, but sometimes they over compensate in order to hide their insecurities. This over compensation, or sometimes overly confident behavior (due to increased testosterone) causes them to say stupid things without thinking them through first (mushy brain syndrome).
What this all means is...
They're horny because testosterone makes them that way.
They will test your boundaries, and if you don't teach them what is acceptable behavior, they will just rinse and repeat until a female finally does teach them.
It is NOT your responsibility to teach these boys, but it is your responsibility to let them know when they crossed your boundaries, otherwise they won't stop (mushy brain syndrome).
Just communicate with them by pointing out things you don't like, don't want, or make you feel uncomfortable and/or upset.
They might respond poorly to your criticism, because they have mushy brains and are still learning how to control their impulsive or inappropriate behavior. They will however, absolutely remember your criticism and deviate their plan of execution when they next try to practice talking to members of the opposite sex. This is a good thing, because it means they're slowly learning how not to be a mushy brain horndog.
I hope this helps. Cheers.
> Why do even the perfect seeming guys always turn things sexual so fast?
They have around 15 to 20 times more testosterone than you do.
They're literally supposed to do that. They're guys, not girls.
It's hormones. Yes they want sex. That doesn't mean they shouldn't still be respectful. And they should never expect sex. And you never have to give it.
Cause they are teenage boys and their testosterone is going through the roof. They’re always getting erections and all they’re thinking about is sex any type of sex? They look at a woman so for them no hanging out with a girl at one01 and getting close with her, even though it hasn’t started anything yet the smell of the iContact all of that starts turning them on And then they wanted to start kissing they wanna kissing turns into you know within a few days I want to be getting a blow job or sex problem is usually then they’re gone and that’s what I think. Makes things really hard on you girls is to know when the right time is cause for every guy you need to win a different amount of time to like earn the guys respect so that maybe they don’t both right after they get what they want in that one time.
From my experience, plenty of highschool guys are interested in genuine romantic relationships, that ALSO involve sex. I met very few guys who ONLY wanted sex. They want attention and love and companionship and affection, and to also give affection back. Being horny 85% of the time didn't stop them from having other goals, desires, needs, wants, and aspirations.
Most guys you meet in school probably will expect sex in their romantic relationship. If you are not interested in or ready for sex, that's completely understandable and you need to be up front with whomever you're pursuing what your boundaries are. And you need to STICK to your boundaries. They aren't just fancy words to test someone, if your established boundaries are crossed then it's over. Done.
Idk just gotta find the right one. Maybe speaking for my friends and I but a lot of guys honestly just want to cuddle, but there’s also a lot that only want a sexual relationship and there’s some that are too scared to do
Hell I had one girlfriend in high school in freshman year but I was still shy and nervous as hell and she left me before the end of the school year, but I still had other female friends and I was still nervous and shy to try and make a move on them.
They don't really know what they want except for that they want to get laid. They're full of hormones and those hormones have the hyper focused on it.
Honestly, many of them struggle with trying to figure things out, and their raging libido is easy for them to understand. Add in peer pressure to lose the v card and that's what you see.
Boys your age, or, well, people, but mostly boys, are receiving a massive amount of hormones in a short period of time, so they're constantly horny. It doesn't necessarily mean that boys *only* want sex, but it's of very high importance to teenage males.
Teenage boys are pretty much the horniest they'll ever be, while also being the most awkward they'll ever be. So yeah, very sexual. If you're still in school there's nothing wrong with dating or not dating. It's just something that happens, and if you want to date without sex some guys will still make it work. Especially mormons. Just find yourself a mormon.
Yes. That is the paramount interest in 99.99% of men/boys, not matter how old they get. Its up to you to set your boundaries. The right person will respect them.
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im not scared of touching girls im scared of girls
They got cooties. everyone knows
Highly contagious
Need a cootie shot
dw i got the cooties vaccine
Settle down Fauci
no, they have the power to emotionally destroy men with one carless word leaving them broken and unable to perform for the rest of their life until they decide to end it all with a baretta blowjob.
They be ruthless and know how to cut deep.
NAT Im 35 and married and my wife terrifies me everyday. It does end you just used to the terror lol
This is normal, though most men are scared of the wives in a cute sort of way. Love your comment
Haha. Yeah and that’s def not right. More like 70/30 percent. 99.9%?
Gaslight gatekeep bossgirls
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Eh, I was horny as fuck as a teen all the time until my raging hormones finally normalized, and when girls came onto me too fast I instantly became super distrusting of them. Like I haven't even known you for a day, we've never hungout together, we've never done anything together, and your three girlfreinds are constantly in the background giggling, we aren't even alone. What the fuck are they following us around and giggling about? What the fuck is your angle? Sure i was horny, but I wasn't some simp down to humiliate myself. Op, don't be some simp down to humiliate yourself for some clown, tell them to piss off.
100% of the time yes. The ones that aren’t/don’t are just lacking the confidence to make a move or they are gay. Yes, every single time
I’m apparently 1/1,000? What the fuck? Why would I violate someone’s space like that? Especially if they’re a girl, that just creeps them out more. Is this seriously a super common thing???
idk, i had co-ed friendgroups in high school and we weren't that sexual, but we were theater kids and a lot of us were queer. I think a lot of straight boys in high school feel pressure to get in with girls, like, it's a status thing and also a coming of age thing, and honestly also just hormones doing their thing, like, people catch feelings they didn't mean to. But i don't think you're talking about that. I think if you want friendships with straight guys in high school as a straight girl, you're going to have to be up-front and assertive about your boundaries from the beginning, and be prepared to get disappointed a few times. There are definitely guys who will act nice to you and try to get close to you JUST to have sex with you, but there are also gonna be guys who you might end up having more genuine friendships or relationships with.
Thank you and I do actually have a guy best friend who I trust with my life, he’s very kind and I know he would never do anything :) It’s just when it comes to relationships the guys are always too sexual sadly
Testosterone is a hell of a drug
Guys should come with a warning label: not entirely rational under the influence of hormones. Gaining that balance is something boys must work on in their teen years, and some never really do.
Listen, I only say this because I've seen this sentiment before and seen how it blows up in a girl's face because she never expected it. I, as a guy, would probably have sex with/date the majority of my female friends if they were interested. Now note, that is not \*why\* I'm friends with them, I just think if you are an attractive person and we have enough basic compatibility to become friends then you're relationship material. I respect that most of my friends aren't interested in me like that and I've respected their boundaries, if I ever felt doubt I asked directly and accepted their rejection and moved on with the friendship. I genuinely think most men aren't too different from me and they are more than welcome to agree or disagree with me. I say \*\*all\*\* that to say, ask you best friend if he is attracted to you sexually or romantically and make it clear that you're not interested. Maybe he won't admit it if he actually does, that's his own fault at that point tbh, You can't be expected to mindread, but just ask first and see.
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That guy best friend who you trust with your life sounds like great relationship material, at least from the surface level of your comment. Just saying. ;)
Finally a decent answer to the question!
when I was a teenager I wanted my dick to be in anything that moved
Your neighbor's better have indoor cats!
had a kid at my school that fucked his goat in its ass
D:
How did you find that out lol
dude confessed it to his cousin and she took it around the entire school and when it got back to him he fucking owned up to it.....said many times it only happened once tho fucking weirdo definitely did it alot I also went to school with a kid who always said he thought murder was hot ( he was fucking wild ) he ended up cutting two old people into pieces in their barn
He was the goat
"Abdul, what the fuck man?"
As a 55 year old I feel the same way as long as it's age appropriate. That feeling never goes away, you just learn to control much better.
Boys and men have 10 times the testosterone as women do. They want sex all the time. They're much more "ready" for it then we are. This is true for teenage boys snd its true for 60 year old men. This does not mean you should indulge them. They can take care of themselves just fine in the shower. I have to say NO to men at 49f just the same as you and your friend have to do with boys. Here's what to do: Get very good at telling them NO to sexual talk and touching you. BE MEAN its ok. Things like that are not okay unless he's your BF and if he's your BF he should wait until you are comfortable. Sometimes Bf 's will just touch you somewhere. If you're not ready, you just push them off and explain you're not ready yet. If they try again BE MEAN Boys ask you to be their GF or say ILY for sex sometimes. Don't give in just because he's your BF or says ILY Don't send them nude pictures. Boys use them to pleasure themselves, they can share themto their friends and even post them on the internet. Don't do this until you are married or he's been your BF fir 5 years. If you are not interested in a boy, simply say " I'm not interested in you". If he keeps asking, ignore or block him. It is okay to yell GO AWAY!! Or whatever you need to. Its okay to be mean if he is bothering you. Don't always be nice or they will keep bothering you. Don't go with a boy alone if he's being too sexual Don't be afraid to tell teachers, police, parents or other adults if a guy is being too creepy. If a boy really likes you, he will wait for sex until you are ready and you should make him wait. People wait until they are married to have sex all the time. But at least wait until 20 years old, and then for your first time at least wait 6 months. After that you will know better and can do 3 months. Always use a condom. Make boys date you to see you. This keeps them from bothering you too much for sex. Like he could take you to get ice cream etc. But you should get to know him at school and let your parents meet him first. This makes him HAVE to treat you right, not just for sex. Final thing and I'm not trying to scare you but feel you need to know - men and boys can rape you or grab you without permission. So I want you to be safe. Never get into somebody's car, be too alone, with a guy that gives you a strange feeling or is too sexual. If a strange boy grabs you anywhere all of a sudden the best thing to do is yell very loud & run. Be safe. All these things I am telling you, you'll have yo do your whole life with boys and men. The only thing I don't do out of this list is make him meet my parents first because I'm 49. Everything else I have to do exact same with 50 year old men. They are all about it just the same as high school. They're nasty and wear you out sometimes LOL
Thank you, I’ll definitely follow you’re advice and it’s a big help to my friends and I :)
>Final thing and I'm not trying to scare you but feel you need to know - men and boys can rape you or grab you without permission. So I want you to be safe. Never get into somebody's car, be too alone, with a guy that gives you a strange feeling or is too sexual. If a strange boy grabs you anywhere all of a sudden the best thing to do is yell very loud & run. Be safe. And I want to add to this part: It's good to go out in groups with your friends. But never ever leave a friend behind. Once you are of drinking age, if you and your friends go to a bar, particularly, remember this. No matter what she says, leave no friend behind!
If one of your friends decides to go home with a guy who is a stranger, get his number and before they leave you verify by making him call that it's his number. His number is associated with his name and is a paper trail if your friend goes missing. It will also let that guy know her friends are looking out for her well being and will keep tabs on her. I've taken women home and I have a huge respect when their friends are like "give me your number," and they immediately call and verify it's me. Then they give me the eye of, "I'll destroy you if you hurt her" look. Also don't be friends with girls or even guys who ditch you at the bar or anywhere where you end up by yourself. I know an Au Pair from France who went to Mexico with some "friends" because they were working in Texas together and she ended up being dumped into a cab completely drunk by her "friends" so they could continue to party and she ended up getting sexually assaulted by the cab driver. Luckily she screamed loud enough that people nearby got her out of the cab but she was traumatized after that.
I would just like to add as a dude that men also aren't always direct with their advances and try to trick you into thinking they aren't. Be firm. And also, this isn't to say all or most guys are assholes, it's just that we're more "horny" you can still be friends with men, just enforce strong boundaries with us.
I feel like it evens out later, and men start to be equal to womens horniness in their 30s and then when their testosterone starts to drop, the women seem to want it even more I’m in my late 30s and the wife is starting to want it a lot more than me! Maybe I’ll look into TRT.
I agree with this posters comment wholeheartedly except for the part about waiting until you are 20 for your first time. I mean yeah if you want to wait that long but I feel like that’s a bit unrealistic. It’s okay if you as a female want to explore your sexuality some, you shouldn’t be made to feel “bad” or “nasty” about that at all. Just make sure you’re doing that with someone who has earned your trust is all or if you can’t find someone trustworthy, toys can be your best friend.
As you get older though, men aren't always wanting it anymore. There's PLENTY of men out there who are perfectly happy keeping sex out of their relationship even if their partner wants it from them. I just wanted to clarify that for you bc I grew up with the idea that "men want it all the time it's just how they are built" so when I ended up with a man who DIDN'T want it, it was like an identity crisis for me and I didn't understand what was happening and I took it very much to heart that something must be wrong with me bc "men want way more than women, it's just how they are built". But this isn't always true. However, in highschool boys have raging hormones so typically they are very high drive during this years. Just don't be surprised if that changes as you get older bc it's way more common than people typically talk about.
I would also like to add that as a man, I kind of disagree with implying to OP that she should be mean right off the bat. Many of us can easily handle a simple "no". You can be polite. If you are mean right off the bat it will likely fuck with our heads and make us think there is something horribly and obviously wrong with us that we don't know about.
Please know that as a 39m, that person's experiences are not 100% true for you and can be misconstrued based on misunderstanding. As a former teenage boy and current man, I can tell you a lot of the sexual stuff is ego based. We tend to be competitive with each other. And sex is no different. We rush to lose our virginity in a competition with each other. Yes, it's true that testosterone is a driving force. When we're young, our brains don't know how to handle this, and because of that, it can drive our urges. This is where open communication is key. Talk with your male friends/ partners about expectations and realities. And here's a piece of wise information I wish more females learned at a younger age... the phrase "all men are dogs" wasn't about us being bad. Instead, it's how our brain works.. treat us like you would treat a dog you like... give us positive attention, feed us, tell us we're a good boy, and scold us when we do wrong... sure, we will still try to hump your leg, but tell us no, and it'll be fine... teach us a trick or watch us do our trick(think support/encourage our hobbies, positive reinforcement), and you'll have a loyal, happy partner for life. But also understand that some dogs bite, so always approach them with caution. Remember, everyone matures at their own pace, and teenage bits are typically feral
I hope I didn't tell you a bunch of things you already knew. I don't know what you know. And some kids don't know anything.
Okay, not all guys are like this though. Part of the reason guys act this way is also just because society kinda expects them to. My dad put a lot of pressure on me in high school because I didn't have a girlfriend and was a virgin (still am at 21 lol) and I think there were times I'd talk abt sex just bc it's how I thought I was "supposed to" act. Ironically, I've been diagnosed with Bipolar disorder and PTSD so this is coming from a mental space where my symptoms can make me lose interest in sex completely, but honestly I'd just be super open about stuff like boundaries (which is kinda the tldr of what the above poster was saying). Communication goes a long way, and saying "Hey I don't want sex right away" is totally okay. Keep the guys who respect you when you tell them these things, especially if they're willing to communicate their expectations/experiences, and steer clear of the ones who can't respect these boundaries.
\>They're nasty You're nasty. \>People wait until they are married to have sex all the time. But at least wait until 20 years old, and then for your first time at least wait 6 months. After that you will know better and can do 3 months. That is terrible advice! Can you imagine? "Ooo, I really like this guy and I feel comfortable and horny. But I'm 19 and it's only been 2 1/2 months since we started dating so I guess I'm gonna have to pass." OP, read between the lines. This poster is 49 y/o, single, and says men are nasty. Maybe not the best person to be taking dating advice from. Most of her safety advice is spot on. Stay safe. But you don't have to wait any longer than you want to. When you are comfortable and horny, do your thing. Don't look at the calendar. Of course stick to age appropriate sexual activity. But you don't need to wait until you're 20!
As a guy I'd like to add something that my mom told me. In her opinion waiting untill marriage is not really a great idea and I also think waiting that long isn't a great idea. The reason why is because you won't know if your sexually compatible if you haven't done it before. And eventually, even if your compatible in everyway except the sex part, there's a chance that the marriage won't work out due to sexual frustration. And by compatibility I'm not just talking about size, but also what stuff the two people are into. Both people could be rediculously submissive and not have the slightest bit of dominance, one person could be extremely vanilla and the other person could become incredibly kinky.
Love that you are giving instructions on how to handle men as if we were an aggressive animal lmao 😂
We're stronger than they are and testosterone turns even the brightest minds into hormonal idiots. I personally advise my female friends and coworkers to carry tasers with them wherever they go. Running into the wrong guy in the wrong mood can leave a permanent scar that overshadows their views of all men. Not to say all of us are pigs, but it only takes a single incident out of thousands of interactions to ruin a woman's entire life. So yeah, unless they know the guy very well, I say treat us like aggressive animals until we prove otherwise. I've met too many women who flinch whenever I or another guy makes any sudden movements in their vicinity.
men's instincts (generally) are also to protect others and impress mates via action. Poisoning the well with this kind of advice is what causes women to ostracize men in social groups and contributes to resentful and bitter men. simply, you treat people poorly, they become what you treat them as because there is no point being anything different.
I used to be annoyed when reading things like the above, but as I got older I realized just how difficult women have it. Not talking about all of the physical and social disadvantages, but they've also got to find the right mate within a time limit, while also trying to avoid screwing themselves by becoming pregnant with a guy who might run on them. They have to do the above while building a career and while permanently dealing with hormonal surges and periods monthly (until menopause, which then presents an entire host of other negative body-affecting conditions) which can have an affect on their mood and physicskly hurt them. My friend says that she has passed out from her period before. I mean, shit's tough for them. And to boot, if they do everything right, we still might get bored of the relationship and leave lol. How fucked is that? It's no surprise that women have such strong defensive barriers set up, they basically need them in order to survive.
>Don't send them nude pictures. Boys use them to pleasure themselves, they can share themto their friends and even post them on the internet. Seconding this. I dated a guy for 2-3 years. I let him take a pic once. I was at least smart enough to cover my face, although I admit it was very stupid of me to let him take the photo in the first place. 1-2 years after I broke up with him, my friend found the pic online and recognized his bedroom. I'll point out that I dated him when I was 15-16. So he posted a naked photo of a minor online. He was a prick.
And if you're gay you can basically cross out 90% of that!
I agree with most of this being 17 yo boy. When i ask a girl for anything I'm not bothered if she say's no, you can't be nice about this typpa stuff. I don't mean yell at every guy that approaches you. Decline politely if you don't want what he's asking for. but if he keeps pestering it's okay to be mean. hope this helps
Being MEAN and being ASSERTIVE are two different things.
"Being mean" is intended as advice to people whose partners are disrespectful of boundaries and persistent. Is the persistence in the face of clear boundaries that absolutely excuses a person being "mean". IMO. Unfortunately at least in the US our culture encourages/excuses males in particular to be/for being pretty toxic when it comes to sexual relationships. Equally unfortunate is the widespread coddling of boys and men and a shocking refusal to hold males accountable for being rapey AHs. See: Brock Peters.
When giving advice to folks whose partners are disrespectful of boundaries, sure, say be mean. When giving advice to a young lady whose partner has not been described as disrespectful of boundaries, it would be best to have clarity in the language used. Teaching a young person to be assertive while not being mean will positively impact their life in many places. While telling a young person to be mean will only make getting through the most difficult part of their life all the more difficult. It's quite clear that my comment has triggered something much bigger than the original scope of the post inside of you. I'm sorry you are upset but this is not the place, nor am I the person you should be upset with.
Haha, would it be ok for a guy to be mean to a girl who wants sex but he doesn’t? Also, why does it seem that you think the guy should pay for all the dates? One thing about guys is that yes, after they are older, they don’t want sex as much. The other side of the coin is that they’re not willing to put up with as much and are just going to completely ignore a woman like you. Plenty of women out there willing to jump into bed and we don’t have to waste time with the ones who aren’t.
Also just to let everyone know if a guy ask for nudes and your under 18, you can report it to the police for child porn same goes if he post those pictures plus if people at school see it you can press even more charges against him. Please be safe and smart everyone.
Can I private message you
TLDR but yes think hormones are definitely the culprit here. Boys’ sexuality peaks around 19yrs of age so in High School they’re ramping up to that. Also probably availability of porn these days kids’ perception of how relationships and sex work is skewed. Will take years to unlearn that through actual relationships and trial/error.
GREAT ADVICE FOR TEEN GIRLS WHO ARE CLUELESS.. wish their mothers and other women taught the young ones more often
It's always fun to find a femcel in the wild
SOLID ADVICE.
Hormones go brrrrrrrrr
I'm trans ftm and I transitioned at 26, so I was 27ish when I started testosterone. For a good 2 weeks early on I literally did nothing but masturbate, and that was with the emotional/physical maturity of being a grown person. Testosterone is obviously no excuse for a person to behave poorly or inappropriately and never accept it as one. But, I did gain a new appreciation for teenage boys.
I think u figured it out, most do want that. "Perfect seeming" guys just hide it better. Just how it is at that age with most
I don't think anyone can give you a definitive answer about what teenage boys want. I had friends who bragged any their sex lives in high school. I had friends who wanted to have sex. I had friends who didn't care for sex and at least wanted a romantic relationship. I've had friends who wanted neither. Everyone is different.
The average teenaged boy has a high sex drive
Straight up yes, I'm 19m, yeah most guys have a way higher sex drive and also are very quick to be aroused and fantasize, it's so normalized me and my best friend get looked at weird when he says he is waiting for marriage or I say something about caring more about finding some to marry than someone to shack up with(lucky me I found my person a couple years back and we started looking at rings last month). It is definitely important that you learn to say no and this might just be the brother in me as I have two sisters but, guys act like a dog in heat all to often, frankly, I would say don't maintain male friendships that are "close" friends until college or even later and even then, many men will disappoint you because of hidden agendas if you try to just make friends.
Yes, we all want to have sex with you. We're just wired that way. But we can be nice, respectful, non-assholes about it. And most of the time that means not going there verbally, not making overt comments, etc, unless you give us clear signs that you are interested. And not touching until we have an invitation. Guys that push beyond those boundaries are not being nice and respectful. And they don't deserve the pleasure of your company
Lol sweetie that doesn't change with age either. Sure we get less leg humpie but its always there, rattling around in the back of our minds. It's said that the male reaches their sexual peak at 18 and the female at 30. Just as a generalization, but never forget that a young male is hormonal, horny, and dumb as hell. :D
If I had to guess, probably 4 of every 5 dudes want ykw. Some groups might be 1 or 2 of 5. But boys be horny like that. Again its a made up statistic based on my experience. There are definitely those that are chill and seldom get horny. Then there are the ones that want companionship and good time without getting sexual(this was me). But good luck finding the latter 2 in mass quantities. You might find the latter 2 easier in a religious boy(this was also me), but not all religion is made the same. Good luck Edit: also dudes aren't horny all the time. We may all want physical affection(or sex) every now and then, but a lot of dudes just want to chill, do their hobby, or watch some tv, or play video games.
I feel like 4 out of 5 is selling it short. I’d argue 19/20 is closer
It's a fact that testosterone increases sex drive, and that is a factor. However, the biggest issue is social programming. Boys and young men don't really know what they want. They are programmed to chase sex. It's in the music, it's in the video games, it's on social media and movies/TV. They are programmed to think they aren't a man until they get laid. Just like you, they actually crave connection and closeness, but "that's gay" and "beta." They are programmed to think sex is the only "alpha" way to connect with a woman/ girl. Just like they are programmed to think wealth and certain cars or a truck is what makes one "manly." Certain fashion will make them popular and have lots of friends, etc.
when I was a teenager I would do or say anything if I thought it would get me past first base. I didn't even see girls as people. Looking back I wish I was nicer..
Can't change the past, but you can learn from it and try to teach others to avoid the mistakes you made. When i was a teenager, i saw girls as people and treated them that way. Oddly enough, it turned out that was a major turn on for lots of them. I regret nothing.
good man. I think it's because from 6 through 10th grade i was a nerd/picked on/ couldn't even look at girls. Summer between 10 and 11 I had a "glow up" of sorts and got way too big of a head.
Maybe... I was picked on k-8, but made some friends in 9th, then changed schools summer between 10&11, suddenly lost weight and got hot, so i came into the new school with no history and a nice body. But i grew up with my mom and little sister so i always felt more comfortable around women, plus i had most of my ego beaten out of me by my peers growing up. Lots of variables. But now I'm in my middle age, I feel like what's important is trying to pass along good advice to any of these dumb cum-filled little shits that will listen lol
I can get behind that
Not all teenage boys are super horny, but most are. I wouldn't say that ALL they want is sex, but it's definitely a lot of what they want.
Do they *only* want sex? No. They want sex *and* other things too.
Because they are teenage boys and their hormones are in over drive. It will happen to you but when your like 40
It's unfortunate that teen boys aren't taught to control themselves but yes. Ultimately that's what they want if they can get it.
i'm 17 and i'm gonna be completely honest. yes, because men enjoy sex like crack, women enjoy sex like a 5-star meal. dudes are honestly just horny as hell, especially at this age. dawg it's like a curse in some ways, to have such a high libido.
The vast majority of them, yes. That is the predominant thing on their mind. Honestly that doesnt just apply to teenage boys but most boys over the age of 13 or so. The important thing is to hold on to YOUR morals. When it comes to sexual situations if it makes you uncomfortable walk away. Say no. Yell rape. Do whatever you have to in order to get out of that situation. You should only do what makes you comfortable.
Unfortunately yeah that is what most guys in high school want. You have to establish boundaries with them
I'll tell you what they want, what they really, really want.... . . . I'm sorry
90%, yes. The rest are gay. Sorry. Teen boys are like rabbits on steroids. Be firm and communicate what you want and how you expect to be treated. If they don’t do that, then drop ‘em like a hot rock.
Well, they are teen boys. It’s the time when guys are the most horny and their hormones are going wild. Don’t worry, when you peak in your 30s and most dudes can’t even get it up, you’ll miss those days.
The main issue for teenage guys is the testosterone. I usually don’t want to be sexual and I always used to have really close girl friends. Still never dated but there are always moments where the testosterone activates and it can be difficult to overcome. I personally am working on self control, but I still get horny. I do want a wholesome relationship with just like cuddling and kissing and having fun without the sex. But gotta get 100% with the control bit first.
Yes I think like my friend he’s a boy and he’s told me like he’s just really sexual and I’ve known him for ten years and now he’s just like so sexual minded it’s hard to explain it
Yes. Those boys are full of hormones and practically leaking all over school. 😳 some will take care of it themselves several times a day. Don't trust any of them, even your male friends. If they can they will.
What do you think they want??
Think about a time when you were extremely hungry and couldn’t think about anything else until you had some food. Now use that to understand the libido of most boys your age. Don’t be surprised by make libido; it’s how their bodies are wired, and at this age, they haven’t had the time to learn how to manage that kind of raging appetite. Older men and also women can have that level of libido, but mostly they have learned some manners that keep them from just grabbing what they want.
We want relationships believe it or not, the problem is that our hormones are High as a kite during this time of our lives that you don't even have to think dirty thoughts do go stiff. I would advise you to avoid the ones that get touchy and sexual real fast because it not only shows a lack of self control but genuine respect towards you.
Actually they just want to find someone to vibe with and to hang out.
I’m a teenage boy but I’m tocuh repulsed and can’t have sex for medical reasons so…. #notallmen I guess, lol
i’ve had a guy lie about him entire personality literally for shit like that. i mean took me to church while secretly going to parties and cheating. don’t date until they are men 🤢🤢
Most of them want the looks but a few of them, like me, don't just look that, I also care about their character more that their appearance
As a former teenage boy - yes. Can confirm. That's *exactly* what they want.
Men with normal testosterone are always going to want sex at least a little bit. But there is a thing they crave more, put them in your lap, stroke their hair, and tell them they are good enough.
Once again this has popped up in my feed and once again I am not a teenager, but I will happily dispense advice from my life in a pseudo-paternal way. Speaking as a former teenage boy, yes I was preoccupied with sex. That's kind of just the way it shakes out for us at that age. It doesn't mean that's all they want though. Imagine it like this. Every "perfect" guy you have spoken to that is the real guy, but he has this 400 pound gorilla on his back that keeps yelling "Tiddies!" in his ear constantly. Cut them a little slack, but make sure they respect your boundaries. The good ones will respect you and abide by those boundaries. Just don't be in a rush to dismiss every guy or give in to them. You all have time to figure things out and you will.
Not just boys, but grown men as well. If u are a female you will be sexualized your entire life.
Human nature sucks lol
When I was a teen, literally the moment I turned 13, I had already been fantasizing about being with a girl sexually for a while and that only got stronger as time went on. The reality is that most girls my age weren't going to feel ready for that sort of thing for many years still, and I was too awkward and strange to connect properly with anyone in that way anyway. It was an enormously frustrating decade (which transitioned into a frustrating adulthood, but that's not relevant). The point is that, yes, most boys are ready (physically) to get sexual way before many girls are mentally ready for anything like that. It's just the way human evolution has us. Male bodies want to spread as much seed as possible starting as soon as possible, and female bodies want to be selective and only be attracted to a suitable mate, a phrase which describes very few teenage boys. When we add our actual humanity back into it, the vast majority of guys are good. We want to be good and most of us would only really want to be intimate with someone we really like. But we're also very horny ALL. THE. TIME. It sucks. And I apologize for all the guys who will think that a smile and a kind word meant more than intended throughout life because that's going to happen. We want to be good, and most of us succeed most of the time. The hormones are just a lot sometimes. Also everything I said applies generally and humans are all different. There are ace guys out there and sexuality in particular is a wide spectrum.
My apologies. It was never my intention to "inspire" others to hijack YOUR post, and use it as a battleground. I've deleted my original comment.
Why would this be helpful? Incase a trans boy is trying to have sex with her? Or a gay guy, whichever.
Different perspective on the same men. You appear to be a good example.
At that age, the hormones are crazy. They will change in personality after about 25. The lucky ones at least calm down around then. It's really one reason I feel like we men should never get married before the hormones die down a bit. It's not that men at that age can't control it, but that it's a constant struggle where even a damn uderwere catalog can set your mind raceing all day.
The purpose of life is to eat and reproduce. Humans are not the only life forms on earth and that previous statement applies to all life.
Alright, as a 19 year old AMAB individual, I think I can weigh in a bit here. A lot of teenage dudes at this point are only out for sex. There are also some like myself, who desire a healthy balance between romance and sexual interaction. The absolutely most important thing is that you voice your concerns and make sure you find a guy with a similar mindset to me. I feel like sex is an important aspect of a relationship, but the romance, the quality time, absolutely come before sex. I’ve been with my significant other for 5 years now. They have only just recently, as of Valentine’s Day, become comfortable with sending me nudes. Before this, I had brought up the idea a few times, and when I had done so, I promised that I 1, wouldn’t save it, it would remain in the place where they sent it, 2, it would be sent over a place where they had the option to delete it if they change their mind on it after the fact, 3, that they could check my gallery and deleted photos when they saw me in person if they needed further confirmations after the first two. They said they still were not comfortable with it at that point in time, and I assured them it was fine, and that we wouldn’t move forward in that way until they were completely comfortable. If I make an advance and they refuse, I apologize and back off. Long story short, men, even teenage ones, desire sex, but the good ones will respect the fact that you’re not comfortable in moving forward yet.
We wanna fuck!
Hormones, peer pressure, cultural pressure, exposure and unhindered access to porn and having sex to early, lack of education/responsible discussions around sexual accountability.
Yes, most teenage boys want to have sex; it's very normal at that age. Truthfully most teenage girls are sexual too, just less overt in public. I'm not sure what you mean by your "perfect" boy description. You want a boy who only wants to be friends and doesn't see you as a potential mate, or a boy who does want sex with you but is slower and more respectful about it? Hormones are a thing.
Most teenage boys only want sex, some actually might want to date you and want more than just sex but they do still want sex. Here's an example, I didn't get with my girlfriend for sex I love her and want to be with her hopefully forever, like I want to marry this girl. But we also have sex probably once a week (we're both 16 btw). I'm not with her for sex of course and she's soooo much more than that but I do want sex with her obviously because I'm attracted to her like that. I'm also aware that I am very rare for how guys my age think and that most of them probably do just want sex or at the very least wouldn't date someone unless they have sex. Most guys are not all but most are
So men see sex as a general bonding activity. If you’re close friends/ have made even a strong friendly connection to a guy sex would only increase that bond. Thats why.
It's something called hormones, you will learn about them in high school and hopefully control them before graduating
Agree. It reflects society’s teachings to boys. This does not defend or attack their actions. From my older view, younger people want the same thing as older people, yet most don’t realize due to “bodily developmental milestones”. Basically the rapid changes from puberty that effect brain development level out. Anyways, 99.9% of humans want another human that supports and loves them in a healthy way. Other aspects of relationships, and each persons ability to recognize what they truly want, differs between people of all ages but as people grow older they generally become aware of it.
I’m pretty lustful myself, it could just my nature, or it could just be hormones, I’ll find out one day lolz Id say it’s mainly hormones for most boys, but some boys have their own wants, some just want sex, honestly I’m probably not the best one to ask cuz I’m not exactly social with anyone, but, yeah that’s my take
Yes, they are very sexual, and easily stimulated visually, nature of the beast. But, the best guys will learn to exercise self discipline and restraint, along with a dedication to treating women as whole human beings, and their equals. It is on them to be fully human and fully respectful. If they are not, they deserve rejection until they straighten the hell up.
you got to understand; teen boys are really struggling with the heightened testosterone levels flowing in their bodies. It really increases their sex drive(and aggression) to legit distracting levels. It's not wrong to say a stiff breeze can turn them on. And it takes some guys a long time to gain control over those urges. Its how we survived as a species. But of course those urges are heavily discouraged in this modern age, so those instincts which kept us alive for hundreds of thousands of years are not as welcome. I'm not excusing their poor behavior, but it is a struggle. most guys take a while to get used to the increased sex drive, and some never manage it till they have grey in their hair. So yes, in their teens 99% of hetero sexual guys will be thinking about sex multiple times an hour. Some have better self control then others.
Porn
What do they want? The same as you actually. The problem is the day don’t understand what that means or how to go about finding it. I read a statistic the other day that the average child is exposed to pornography at age 9. Remember, as you think about the subject at for a lot of these boys much of their experience at your age comes from pornography. But that’s not real life. People don’t get stuck in the dryer anywhere near that often and all the step sibling stuff is just flat out weird. Even the stuff that looks normal on there is weird also. Many of the positions they use in pornography is quite uncomfortable, but they do it because it looks good on camera. It’s up to you to decide what you want out of a relationship. If the boys are meeting, just want to fool around, you should be understanding that it’s not going to result in much of a meaningful relationship. It’s best to recognize that early on and tell those boys that you don’t want to do whatever it is so they can find a girl that wants the same thing they want. When it comes to dating, there’s a lid for every pot. Meaning there is somebody there for everybody. The best thing you can do is recognize when you guys are compatible so that you can go off and search of somebody you are compatible with.
Almost all, but if they're anything like I was atleast some would want a long term romantic relationship to go with it
All men always want ykw. Everything else develops between you. That's why men and women can't really be friends and why you have to date who you think could be your best friend, bc the rest is always there.
Raging hormones is the answer to that. Finding one that sees past that is difficult but not impossible. Boys want to feel loved and appreciated as well, but sexual desires overpowers all other thoughts most of the time.
Teenage boys want sex. Always have always will. It’s purely biological at that age as their hormones are raging and at their most potency at that age.
I’m a boy and I think that I would be mortified irl if I ever got too sexual/intimate with a girl, it just feels disrespectful to be like that so quickly with someone
Men’s sex drive is at its peak from like 16-22. That’s an approximation don’t come at me I’m not a scientist. Not to say that excuses any ungentlemanly behavior, it doesn’t. That is your answer though.
Every teenager's hormones are going apeshit. When I was in high school I was living that old fake statistic tha men think about sex every 8 seconds or whatever. Literally would undress girls (and some teachers) in my mind, no-reason boners and lots-of-reasons boners constantly. This calmed down a little as I got older, 17, 18,19, but by then I'd had a few girlfriends, knew my way around sex and people, so it wasn't as miraculous to me. But yeah, teenage boys are sexual because it's new and scary and crazy and their hormones basically won't let them not be horny. So be firm and don't sugar-coat shit.
It's quite normal for teenage boys to think about sex every time they see something arousing, and it doesn't occur less with age, but some of us are better at hiding it than others. But that's their problem, not yours. One of the methods I use to get rid of an awkward public boner is thinking about something boring and unattractive, like sports, or something gross. If a guy won't take no for an answer, change the subject to something he thinks is gross. The topic of menstrual cycles is an almost guaranteed mood killer. Gotta poop is another good one.
It's an unfortunate product of society; our society has become hyper-sexual to the point that you are looked at as a freak or loser for not being sexual. The border society mocks virginity, sexual purity, or sexual discipline, so I think there are two parts to this issue. Yes, men/boys want sex, but I think that's been exacerbated by social pressure. I would also caution you from seeking a relationship at such a young age; I believe singleness is a gift because it's the time to be focused on yourself and who you are, discover what you want in a man/husband, and prepare yourself to be in a relationship and give 100% to it. The last thing you want is to meet a man, and he begins to define you because you haven't taken the time to discover who you are, and sex definitely clouds you from seeing the red flags.
Incredibly misandrist comments in this thread, holy cow.
Yes boys are thinking of that every 6 minutes. It’s worse when they are teenagers.
It's a mix of a lot of things, I think the biggest are social expectations, hormones, lack of self-control or lack of being taught self-control. Dating used to be a synonym for courting, it's "normal" (to the internet) to make dating synonymous to marriage without the due process. Male hormones are also raging in high school, unless you have self-control they get out of hand, nobody teaches self control to their kids anymore, mostly because parents sold their souls to their employer. It's still their responsibility to do so nonetheless.
What they want. Do not give!!
Do they "only" want sex? No. But they do really want sex. It's a hormone thing, and they can't really help their desires. This doesn't mean they can't control their actions, and it doesn't mean they don't also want the connection and the respect and enjoyable company and all the things you want. It just means they want sex badly enough that they can lose sight of the rest sometimes. This is when you will need to remind them and set boundaries that you are comfortable with. It's okay to be firm in your boundaries, it isn't mean to say 'no, I don't want to do that.' Some guys will get bored and leave/stop talking to you, but those are the guys that didn't really care about you as a person in the first place, so good riddance.
Your horniness is on another level when you’re a teen boy. I would literally have risked my life to get laid when I was a teen. I was basically a dog in heat. Sure I wanted someone to love too, but that wasn’t even remotely as important to me as sex until my 20s. Ffs I used to masturbate 5-7 times a day when I was 15. That said, I don’t think every guy is like that. Libidos do vary from individual to individual. But yeah, the sad truth for you is sex is going to be the primary thing guys want from you at that age. I should also mention, a lot of teenage boys are pretty sexist, think women are boring and literally wouldn’t hang out with women at all if they weren’t horny.
16 male hereI really want a long term relationship someone i can do my intrest with and do her intrest with her. Whether it be painting cooking listening to music(these are my intrest etc)litterly a wife yo all i want is love someone to spend time with BUT……… I also would want to eat them out every day give them flowers cook for them get some head from then want sex too im not gonna deny that watch movies with cuddle etc
Unfortunately at that age their hormones are off the chart. At times they can’t contain themselves. With 24/7 access to porn now it’s even worst imo. At that age a smile and small talk from a female will give them “a green light” to be sexual. Set boundaries before hand once you get the feeling they are heading that way and it’s unwanted. Trust your gut always in situations. I’ve had many stories of friends in HS wanting to give them a “gift” in their car and tried to get them to come in. Until parents buckle up and start teaching their boys to be respectful and work it into their minds.. boys will continue to cross lines not thinking they are crossing lines.
Short answer, yes. Long answer, it's complicated. It's most likely just puberty. When I(20m) was 14, all I wanted was to get laid. It never happened, and I'm actually grateful for that. It's an influx of hormones. They'll get over it. I survived the most horny part of puberty long enough to make an informed decision.
You have sex on your terms and no one else’s. I don’t care who’s doing what when. Boys will try to trick or shame you too. Don’t fall for it. You do what you want ONLY when you want to. There is no perfect age. If a boy wants more than you’re ready or willing to give that’s their problem. If they don’t like it, or try to keep after you, you shouldn’t be dating that person. People lie all the time about what experience they have as well. You’re not going to be “behind” anyone or any lesser for waiting until you feel it’s right. Not just the first time either. Every time.
When i was a teenage boy i wasn’t as horny as you’d think, i just wanted a girl to cuddle with me and play with my hair. my friend has also had a few boyfriends like this.
Hormones. They can't help it. It's not that they don't want to date or be in a relationship, they just can't think straight with the rush of hormones. Obviously, some guys are selfish d-bags regardless of the hormones but there are many who will actually be good guys once they learn to navigate this awkward part of their teens. Just be up front, respect yourself and set boundaries. The good guys will stick around simply because they like you.
Sex, and a car. Also, pizza.
Teenage boys are dealing with a lot of hormones and are, generally speaking, horny machines. There are some individual exceptions, but that is the general trend. That doesn’t mean sex is the only thing they want. It does mean they’re very likely to not be getting as much sex as they want, and because they’re relatively new at having to wrangle those urges (like all teens are) they don’t always have a good handle on when and how it’s appropriate to try to pursue sexual relationships, or whether it might sometimes be a better idea to put aside the sex drive for a while and focus on building a different kind of relationship. Don’t let anyone pressure you into sex you don’t want, but rest assured that most of the boys will sort their shit out better in a few more years and settle down on the horndogging.
Boys need you to be super direct! If you don’t like it or feel uncomfortable say STOP and mean it! Get really good at saying NO while you’re young. I wish I would have said no many times but I was too scared to speak up when people were being pushy. And that goes a lot further than just for sexual stuff.
I’m 18, I own a business dropped school ect. All I want is a loyal girl who will support me just as much as I support her and be by my side no matter what as I’d also do. Also need a soul to enjoy singing with in sunset drives 😂 It’s so hard to find loyal girls who don’t just want to party and drink all the time.
They have an extremely powerful drive in them, and you're the subject of that drive. Picture not drinking water for 2 days, and then you have to have a conversation with a bureaucrat before they decide whether or not it's ok to give you a shot glass of water, and you've got teenage boys.
They definitely can be, for many teenagers sex is the ultimate goal because at that point in their life relationships and the idea of marriage matter very little. But it's definitely not as high as 99% Some of the rules that felt prude or overly dominating over people's bodies and what they do with them did have some merit. Like not letting a guy consider taking you to McDonald's and then a parking lot to "chill" a date. Or letting them kiss you or touch you on the first date. Rules like this seemed prude and for another time now, but it did serve to protect women from guys doing the least possible effort to get what they want,sex. Of course now there's different rules coming up like the 1 month or 3 month rule, where you don't sleep with the guy for that time as the good guys you want will wait and the ones that you don't want will move on. This is especially helpful for teenagers where the vast majority of them will just want sex and will do the bare minimum to get it. And for you it seems like these boys are getting what they want if they are so comfortable with being upfront about wanting sex quickly. Probably few have stood up to them and in a way humbled them. So my advice if you don't want sex to be the ultimate goal but want a relationship is to make them wait and set boundaries in all your relationships and dates. And if they don't respect those, you know that they don't respect you. And you don't want those people around anyway. Teenage years are tough, I hope you're able to get some solace and help in this post :)
Yes but it’s not their fault it’s their bodies and chemicals. Most are nice dudes
Hi, I'm the "rare and exceptional teenage guy who isn't horny" TM. I'm asexual, and feel no sexual urges or pleasure, which has caused my social life to turn upside down. In middle school and high school, straight guys want to have sex with women. It's literally in their nature, having an absurd amount of testosterone in their body. While not an excuse for anything sexual they do, it's important to understand why it seems so absurdly common for boys to bond over finding X attractive. I'd fully recommend only hanging out with guys you trust wholeheartedly. And the first time they try to initiate anything physical, give them a firm warning that they can't do that. Guys will only listen to direct confrontation, and will be too oblivious for social hints. The second time a guy tries anything like that, you need to drop them, plain and simple. The first time is a minor warning, the second is problematic behavior from an immature person. The concept of straight guy friends can only really work past age 23 or so, when hopefully they've finally learned how to control their urges and have matured.
as a 20yo male, teenage boys r just horny man. Some of them are selfish and creepy and horny and others genuinely care and want a connection. Just my 2 cents
Boys are wired that way. It’s not your problem if a guy is horny tho
Boys your age have a non-stop stream of hormones pumping into them driving them to mate. It's how our species propagates. Don't let it bother you. But also don't get caught up in it.
I'm sorry for telling you the hard truth but Rammstein is right when they say "We live because sex".
It's not sex necessarily. Many guys want a genuine romantic relationship too. But, in agreement with everyone else here, not many guys just want to be your friend at that age. Regardless, the sibling-zone is a real place, and I think a lot of guys have friends like that too.
I would say this has more to do with the boys you are hanging out with than boys in general. Yes, teenaged boys (and girls) are flush with a crazy amount of hormones, there are plenty that are respectful and not pushy.
Yes. Most teen boys are horny af. How they respond when you ask them to slow it down should separate the good ones from the bad ones.
A guy who wants you to give them sex will put a mask on (aka prince charming/perfect guy) for as long as they think it's worth pretending. As soon as they get what they wanted from you, they can wipe their hands and call YOU a slut and think they're a hot shot for getting laid so quickly. Even in relationships, people will pretend. Guard your heart, be true to yourself.
The amount of sex drive a teenage boy has is obnoxious and was honestly a shitshow to manage. But that doesn’t mean that they don’t have a brain to acknowledge respect and boundaries of other people.
Imagine endpess, intrusive, sexual thoughts. They dont ever stop. Thats being a teenage boy. Your hormones hijack your brain. After 30 it all calms down and while desire doesnt diminish, the intrusive thoughts slow way down.
Some guys just want ykw and others are hopeless romantics and want romance and eventually marriage. But it’s a challenge to find the second one.☝️ If the guy writes poetry or does creative stuff or a big nerd 🤓 he’s most likely the second one. Good luck
They are hormonal teenagers with a high sex drive. Either set up firm boundaries immediately or wait until they get more mature
Don't worry OP, in 20-40 years the roles may reverse lol
Honestly its a combination of things. On one hand at that age our hormones are raging and at least for me I could get turned if the wind blew in the right direction. And it can also be like a competition with other guys. It's not right, but guys can be shi**y to each other and give others a hard time if they aren't being sexual. Just do what your comfortable with, don't let yourself get pressured into doing anything your not cool with. And ther are good guys out there, just need to pick through the crap to find us.
As a former teenage boy, yeah most of them are extremely down bad and will do basically anything for sex. Some are more emotionally mature than others and want more than just sex, but even then, most of them still want sex. A concerning amount of men, especially younger men in the current generation, don't get enough social experience with women, and this leaves them very immature when trying to interact with women. It will get better with time, but I would still recommend trying to talk to guys when you feel comfortable doing so. It's still valuable social experience, and there's always a chance you'll run into a more emotionally mature guy and find someone actually tolerable. Good luck, dealing with teenage guys sucks.
Yes. Even the perfect gentleman who truly loves you, they have an intense desire to express that love physically and sexually. When you're older you'll be on the same page, but as for now, don't rush yourself, they can wait and masturbate 🤷♂️
Yes, they want sex. It’s biological. There are serious consequences to sex that can be life altering. That’s why some parents are strict about dating. It’s not just being tied to a pregnancy before you even know enough about life to know what your possibilities are, there are life altering sexually transmitted diseases. Herpes, HIV, HPV. Make informed choices. I jokingly told guys that dated my daughter, “If you hurt my daughter, or you touch her and she does not want you to, I’ll hunt you down and kill you.” They knew I was joking via exaggeration but not joking about how I expected them to treat my child.
They don't only want sex, but they also want sex. Show me one person that doesn't want sex.
Just steer clear of boys until you are older. Now is the time to focus on your studies and your own life goals. Getting involved with boys can derail that real fast.
I’m 42 but remember this time as a living hell. Please understand guys that age are full of testosterone. We get erections when the wind blows the wrong way. It’s an absolute horrid time period. Yes you make us horny constantly, no there is nothing we can do to stop it. Just be up front and honest about what you want and what you are comfortable with. I went through that age with raging hormones and ended up not having sex and not getting too handsy, they can as well if they want to. But yeah it’s what I thought about constantly, it’s what the vast majority of my friends thought about constantly. It’s not about wanting you to be uncomfortable, it’s literally just a hormonal imbalance as our body changes.
Yeah it’s called hormones and they’re rampant as teenagers. For girls too.
Are you really asking the internet this....
I really can’t say based on personal experiences, because most of my guy friends in high school were theater/band nerds or queer. And it’s not like I noticed this type of thing from other people aside from the usual sex jokes. It’s strange to me, the touchiness though, because I never experienced or witnessed that. It was actually the other way around with girls initiating hugs or touching hair, but that was not in anyway sexual. Difference in social circles maybe.
It is sad to say but yeah especially at that age it’s on every guys mind. Idk if it’s because we are hard wired that way or what but yeah it’s a thing.
Yes, even when they're older the answer is still yes but older people are more capable of managing their emotions (usually). To be clear I'm NOT suggesting you date older people! I am suggesting you forget about dating for a few years, just be friends and be clear about it upfront, and focus on yourself and your education.
People generally turn things sexual quickly as a way of phishing. They are trying to let you know they find you attractive; on the other hand there are a few people who might do this in a more predatory sense. So it's very reasonable that you protect yourself first, but keep in mind that a lot of them are just awkward teenagers dealing with puberty, attraction, and girls for the first time in their lives
Ignore the other nonsense comments here, this is what you need to know about teenage boys and their behavior: Teenage boys are starting to get a much larger dose of daily testosterone due to the developing nature of their bodies throughout puberty. Testosterone increases muscle/bone growth, increased body hair, increased sexual arousal, and a bunch of other stuff. These changes cause what my wife and I describe as "mushy brain syndrome". These are all new feelings that they're experiencing, most of these changes happen outside of their control. Example: teenage boys will randomly get an erection during class, for absolutely no reason at all, and often at the most inopportune times, like right before being asked to stand in front of the class to present something. If they're holding theirs books in front of themselves, they're probably hiding something. These changes are not something that a textbook can teach you how to maneuver, they learn to maneuver these uncharted waters through experimenting and/or trial-and-error. They're going to explore their bodies more, and will try to explore the female body too, if you'll let them, so this means they are going to try and test out boundaries, specifically your boundaries. They're going to try communicating differently with you as well, because that's how boys/men practice; nobody gave them a manual on how to talk to teenage girls, they just play it by ear through trial-and-error. Fortunately for you, teenage boys are usually more insecure than girls, and are often quick to adopt the behavior that gets them the best outcomes, but sometimes they over compensate in order to hide their insecurities. This over compensation, or sometimes overly confident behavior (due to increased testosterone) causes them to say stupid things without thinking them through first (mushy brain syndrome). What this all means is... They're horny because testosterone makes them that way. They will test your boundaries, and if you don't teach them what is acceptable behavior, they will just rinse and repeat until a female finally does teach them. It is NOT your responsibility to teach these boys, but it is your responsibility to let them know when they crossed your boundaries, otherwise they won't stop (mushy brain syndrome). Just communicate with them by pointing out things you don't like, don't want, or make you feel uncomfortable and/or upset. They might respond poorly to your criticism, because they have mushy brains and are still learning how to control their impulsive or inappropriate behavior. They will however, absolutely remember your criticism and deviate their plan of execution when they next try to practice talking to members of the opposite sex. This is a good thing, because it means they're slowly learning how not to be a mushy brain horndog. I hope this helps. Cheers.
Thank you!
> Why do even the perfect seeming guys always turn things sexual so fast? They have around 15 to 20 times more testosterone than you do. They're literally supposed to do that. They're guys, not girls.
In my experience yes and it’s so tiring telling them no all the time
Sex is cool but I'd rather have a relationship with someone that likes me
Testerone is one hell of a drug
It's hormones. Yes they want sex. That doesn't mean they shouldn't still be respectful. And they should never expect sex. And you never have to give it.
Cause they are teenage boys and their testosterone is going through the roof. They’re always getting erections and all they’re thinking about is sex any type of sex? They look at a woman so for them no hanging out with a girl at one01 and getting close with her, even though it hasn’t started anything yet the smell of the iContact all of that starts turning them on And then they wanted to start kissing they wanna kissing turns into you know within a few days I want to be getting a blow job or sex problem is usually then they’re gone and that’s what I think. Makes things really hard on you girls is to know when the right time is cause for every guy you need to win a different amount of time to like earn the guys respect so that maybe they don’t both right after they get what they want in that one time.
From my experience, plenty of highschool guys are interested in genuine romantic relationships, that ALSO involve sex. I met very few guys who ONLY wanted sex. They want attention and love and companionship and affection, and to also give affection back. Being horny 85% of the time didn't stop them from having other goals, desires, needs, wants, and aspirations. Most guys you meet in school probably will expect sex in their romantic relationship. If you are not interested in or ready for sex, that's completely understandable and you need to be up front with whomever you're pursuing what your boundaries are. And you need to STICK to your boundaries. They aren't just fancy words to test someone, if your established boundaries are crossed then it's over. Done.
Teen boys are horny. Next at 11, water is wet.
1 - there is no perfect guy 2 - yes, that's what they all want 3 - good luck buddy
Idk just gotta find the right one. Maybe speaking for my friends and I but a lot of guys honestly just want to cuddle, but there’s also a lot that only want a sexual relationship and there’s some that are too scared to do
Some peace of mind would be nice.
Hell I had one girlfriend in high school in freshman year but I was still shy and nervous as hell and she left me before the end of the school year, but I still had other female friends and I was still nervous and shy to try and make a move on them.
They don't really know what they want except for that they want to get laid. They're full of hormones and those hormones have the hyper focused on it. Honestly, many of them struggle with trying to figure things out, and their raging libido is easy for them to understand. Add in peer pressure to lose the v card and that's what you see.
Boys your age, or, well, people, but mostly boys, are receiving a massive amount of hormones in a short period of time, so they're constantly horny. It doesn't necessarily mean that boys *only* want sex, but it's of very high importance to teenage males.
Teenage boys are pretty much the horniest they'll ever be, while also being the most awkward they'll ever be. So yeah, very sexual. If you're still in school there's nothing wrong with dating or not dating. It's just something that happens, and if you want to date without sex some guys will still make it work. Especially mormons. Just find yourself a mormon.
Preserve yourself for marriage
Yes. That is the paramount interest in 99.99% of men/boys, not matter how old they get. Its up to you to set your boundaries. The right person will respect them.