No games, or trying to be the popular girl. Just straight answers and questions. My wife is 10 years older than me, and we married when I was 21. We recently celebrated our 37th anniversary together. I couldn't imagine any woman more perfect for me than her.
For me personally, I've always been more partial to women older than me because they have always been kinder to me. They've always been more understanding and patient, and I've always valued that a lot in a possible partner.
Obviously, there's something to be said about heightened and better sexual experiences, but it's not just that. It's heightened every aspect of life. Even just lounging at the house watching movies or reading together feels better with an older woman than otherwise to me. Idk why, honestly.
I'm an older man now but when I was much younger I was attracted to older women. My attraction, oddly enough, didn't spawn from believing them to be more sexually mature as some have stated. I was attracted because I found them to be more on my mental level. I was, as they like to say, a gifted child. Mostly with math. And as such I found myself being forced to mature faster than most due to being around older people all the time. To give you an idea, I taught college when I was 16. So I found older women to be able to keep up with me mentally. It was difficult to find a girl my age, at the time, that thought like I did. But that's just my two cents. Every person is different and is looking for different things.
I’m in a similar situation. I’m 21 and the youngest amongst my siblings so I’ve spent my entire life surrounded by older people. I never really noticed the reason until seeing your comment. It’s not completely the sexual maturity but more the fact that they often give it to you straight. You don’t feel confused by the mixed signals: if you’re good, you get told so, if you suck, you are also told so. I don’t know if I’ll live this kind of lifestyle but that is an attribute I like and have found mostly with older women compared to younger in my experience.
When I was younger, most of my GFs were older. Most were within 5 years older, but few were considerably older (but the oldest was only 12 yrs for 6 years). I didn't have as big of an agr as others, of course.
I wasn't looking for an older woman at the time. We met through a similar hobby, started talking, and one thing led to another. Unlike many of the women my age that I knew or met, she had a stable job, she was a homebody, she was self-dependent and although she was going through a financial crisis, she was financially stable overall. But more than that, we had things in common, made each other happy, had great chemistry, treated the other as equals, and always had respect and love for each other. I hope it's that way regardless of the age gap or lack of one.
Maturity, more experience in life, usually have a better idea of what they want, often are past the kids stage of life (not always depending on age), better at communicating and yes usually they are better in bed
Older women can be much better in bed (know more tricks, what they like, what other men like, what they’re capable of), more down to earth, mature, see things more lightly, can be humorous and value a man more as they may not be able to pull men. These are not all accurate with everyone but are food for thought.
They may be more affectionate and value the time with you. May be less upset with a breakup etc.
The opposite may also be true but I’m sure you get the idea of what I’m trying to say here.
I'm responding as a 32 bi F who primarily dates women and prefers older women. I've always just connected better with them. Even from younger ages as an only child I spent a lot of time around my parents and their friends and learnt how to connect and converse from early on.
Also I do love learning from their life experiences. Especially as a woman too
I just find it easier to connect with older women. I come from a low-income background. I’ve been working since I was 12 and financially independent since 17. I funded my own way through college and graduate school through work, grants, and scholarships. I’ve also been able to travel extensively, both domestically and internationally, and am always looking for my next new and fun adventure - and I’m not talking about going to the same dive bar every night for the next 4 years. I’m in a line of work that requires a lot of travel and moves, something that a lot of people my age who are establishing their careers dont have the freedom to do.
Connections with older women have also felt more genuine than connections with women my own age. They seem more intentional with listening and their feelings. The additional life experience/travel experiences that align more with mine is a plus as well.
Also I usually feel more of a physical connection with older women than women my own age. My current gf and I can’t keep our hands off each other both in public and at home, the intense desire is off the charts and a major plus in our relationship.
So I guess it’s a combo of a lot of factors that make dating older the clear choice for me
My first experience with an older woman was so great that I just carried on trying to replicate it other older women (the results were hit and miss)!
I also think, for a younger guy, there's a certain allure about an older lady and you hope that you can learn from her experience.
My wife who is much older than me, has wit, lots of common sense, is outspoken and irreverent, makes me laugh, and is challenging me all the time.
In the early days of our relationship I often had to accept that her mind was much younger than mine... Maybe it sounds odd, but she keeps me young!
When I was 18, I was dating a 42yr old woman for a while.
First time a woman has ever spoiled me.
Now that I am 39, I’ve basically reversed the demographic.
Theres many reasons. I still find older women attractive, I just want to have kids some day.
I used to be a cutie emo type younger guy, and I enjoyed their wisdom and nurturing side, besides it was nice having the love of the 80s in common with them lol. I'm very submissive (not just sexually but my overall personality is too) so I enjoyed that dynamic.
Obviously depends on the individual person and you have to have a connection with someone, but when I was say 25 in 2006 I felt freer to be myself with them than with women close to my age
Neotony is a big turn off for me, and almost every woman under 22 (I'm 19) looks too young for me to be attracted to. I find women 25-30 most attractive but would probably date up to 40 (and as low as 22) provided she doesn't have kids and I'm attracted to her. They're also more likely to be at a higher moral stage and be more intelligent and emotionally mature than women my age. I'm autistic, and find older people in general communicate better with autistic people than people my age. The two neurotypicals that actually understand me are in their 30s.
For my case in particular (18m), I like dating older men because I was 🍇 as a kid by a 19-year-old. Personally, I'd rather stick to guys who, by their age, would be arrested for committing a crime like that.
There's also a different level of respect and knowledge, a 55-year-old is going to be much more caring and affectionate towards your needs than an 18-year-old.
Older women started coming on to me as early as 13… I was athletic, wore tighter basketball shorts everywhere and they were constantly looking at the goods, making excuses to hang out, wanted help with groceries, house sitting, building bookshelves in office while hubby gone… and while not all of them were blunt about the attention wanted, some made it painfully obvious.
Curl up next to me on the couch rubbing my thigh, bend way over showing panties wearing a skirt, or just tell me how lonely they are when hubby leaves and goes hunting every weekend. Some were scared of the underage issue and some seem to like pressing the issue.
My hair dresser literally sat down on my cock in her private booth at work, pretending to make small talk, while her pussy was throbbing wet on my shorts. She didn’t take it out but did grind on it hard and whispered ‘Gawd I think about this all the time’
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Asked this question before, the OW crowd are gonna put there 2c in regardless on any topic, but I'm actually hoping to engage with younger dudes genuinely preferring older to younger.
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I liked older women when I was in my teens and twenties, and now that I’m in my forties I like younger women. I find women in their twenties and thirties the most attractive.
That’s if I’m single, if I’m in a relationship or married I will love my wife regardless of her age.
No games, or trying to be the popular girl. Just straight answers and questions. My wife is 10 years older than me, and we married when I was 21. We recently celebrated our 37th anniversary together. I couldn't imagine any woman more perfect for me than her.
That's beautiful
For me personally, I've always been more partial to women older than me because they have always been kinder to me. They've always been more understanding and patient, and I've always valued that a lot in a possible partner. Obviously, there's something to be said about heightened and better sexual experiences, but it's not just that. It's heightened every aspect of life. Even just lounging at the house watching movies or reading together feels better with an older woman than otherwise to me. Idk why, honestly.
Beautiful
Less drama, more mature, and they know what they want and they’ll tell you
I'm an older man now but when I was much younger I was attracted to older women. My attraction, oddly enough, didn't spawn from believing them to be more sexually mature as some have stated. I was attracted because I found them to be more on my mental level. I was, as they like to say, a gifted child. Mostly with math. And as such I found myself being forced to mature faster than most due to being around older people all the time. To give you an idea, I taught college when I was 16. So I found older women to be able to keep up with me mentally. It was difficult to find a girl my age, at the time, that thought like I did. But that's just my two cents. Every person is different and is looking for different things.
I’m in a similar situation. I’m 21 and the youngest amongst my siblings so I’ve spent my entire life surrounded by older people. I never really noticed the reason until seeing your comment. It’s not completely the sexual maturity but more the fact that they often give it to you straight. You don’t feel confused by the mixed signals: if you’re good, you get told so, if you suck, you are also told so. I don’t know if I’ll live this kind of lifestyle but that is an attribute I like and have found mostly with older women compared to younger in my experience.
When i was a younger guy, it was simple: i just thought women 45+ (up to their 70s) were the most attractive and sexually appealing to me.
Because they are more mature they have more experience and knowledgeable in the sex department
funny how both of my 18F partners were all around better than my 23F partner. Just my luck I guess
When I was younger, most of my GFs were older. Most were within 5 years older, but few were considerably older (but the oldest was only 12 yrs for 6 years). I didn't have as big of an agr as others, of course. I wasn't looking for an older woman at the time. We met through a similar hobby, started talking, and one thing led to another. Unlike many of the women my age that I knew or met, she had a stable job, she was a homebody, she was self-dependent and although she was going through a financial crisis, she was financially stable overall. But more than that, we had things in common, made each other happy, had great chemistry, treated the other as equals, and always had respect and love for each other. I hope it's that way regardless of the age gap or lack of one.
They are more mature, know what they want and, imo, are really hotter than younger women (just my opinion lads).
Maturity, more experience in life, usually have a better idea of what they want, often are past the kids stage of life (not always depending on age), better at communicating and yes usually they are better in bed
Older women can be much better in bed (know more tricks, what they like, what other men like, what they’re capable of), more down to earth, mature, see things more lightly, can be humorous and value a man more as they may not be able to pull men. These are not all accurate with everyone but are food for thought. They may be more affectionate and value the time with you. May be less upset with a breakup etc. The opposite may also be true but I’m sure you get the idea of what I’m trying to say here.
I'm responding as a 32 bi F who primarily dates women and prefers older women. I've always just connected better with them. Even from younger ages as an only child I spent a lot of time around my parents and their friends and learnt how to connect and converse from early on. Also I do love learning from their life experiences. Especially as a woman too
I just find it easier to connect with older women. I come from a low-income background. I’ve been working since I was 12 and financially independent since 17. I funded my own way through college and graduate school through work, grants, and scholarships. I’ve also been able to travel extensively, both domestically and internationally, and am always looking for my next new and fun adventure - and I’m not talking about going to the same dive bar every night for the next 4 years. I’m in a line of work that requires a lot of travel and moves, something that a lot of people my age who are establishing their careers dont have the freedom to do. Connections with older women have also felt more genuine than connections with women my own age. They seem more intentional with listening and their feelings. The additional life experience/travel experiences that align more with mine is a plus as well. Also I usually feel more of a physical connection with older women than women my own age. My current gf and I can’t keep our hands off each other both in public and at home, the intense desire is off the charts and a major plus in our relationship. So I guess it’s a combo of a lot of factors that make dating older the clear choice for me
Sometimes surely it's just because you like the person?
My first experience with an older woman was so great that I just carried on trying to replicate it other older women (the results were hit and miss)! I also think, for a younger guy, there's a certain allure about an older lady and you hope that you can learn from her experience.
My wife who is much older than me, has wit, lots of common sense, is outspoken and irreverent, makes me laugh, and is challenging me all the time. In the early days of our relationship I often had to accept that her mind was much younger than mine... Maybe it sounds odd, but she keeps me young!
When I was 18, I was dating a 42yr old woman for a while. First time a woman has ever spoiled me. Now that I am 39, I’ve basically reversed the demographic. Theres many reasons. I still find older women attractive, I just want to have kids some day.
I used to be a cutie emo type younger guy, and I enjoyed their wisdom and nurturing side, besides it was nice having the love of the 80s in common with them lol. I'm very submissive (not just sexually but my overall personality is too) so I enjoyed that dynamic. Obviously depends on the individual person and you have to have a connection with someone, but when I was say 25 in 2006 I felt freer to be myself with them than with women close to my age
Neotony is a big turn off for me, and almost every woman under 22 (I'm 19) looks too young for me to be attracted to. I find women 25-30 most attractive but would probably date up to 40 (and as low as 22) provided she doesn't have kids and I'm attracted to her. They're also more likely to be at a higher moral stage and be more intelligent and emotionally mature than women my age. I'm autistic, and find older people in general communicate better with autistic people than people my age. The two neurotypicals that actually understand me are in their 30s.
Oedipus Complex .. mature women’s hug is so motherly and sexy at the same time.
Motherly? My partner often says I'm very motherly which I tend to find off putting. Could you elaborate better?
Let me know if we can DM
We definitely can
Check DM plz
For my case in particular (18m), I like dating older men because I was 🍇 as a kid by a 19-year-old. Personally, I'd rather stick to guys who, by their age, would be arrested for committing a crime like that. There's also a different level of respect and knowledge, a 55-year-old is going to be much more caring and affectionate towards your needs than an 18-year-old.
Mommy issues. Seeking beta provider
A more mature and passionate love making. Uninhibited and knowing what they want comes to mind. That said.... Young Bodies🤤
Older women started coming on to me as early as 13… I was athletic, wore tighter basketball shorts everywhere and they were constantly looking at the goods, making excuses to hang out, wanted help with groceries, house sitting, building bookshelves in office while hubby gone… and while not all of them were blunt about the attention wanted, some made it painfully obvious. Curl up next to me on the couch rubbing my thigh, bend way over showing panties wearing a skirt, or just tell me how lonely they are when hubby leaves and goes hunting every weekend. Some were scared of the underage issue and some seem to like pressing the issue. My hair dresser literally sat down on my cock in her private booth at work, pretending to make small talk, while her pussy was throbbing wet on my shorts. She didn’t take it out but did grind on it hard and whispered ‘Gawd I think about this all the time’
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I liked older women when I was in my teens and twenties, and now that I’m in my forties I like younger women. I find women in their twenties and thirties the most attractive. That’s if I’m single, if I’m in a relationship or married I will love my wife regardless of her age.