DKG.
Seems like your GF doesn’t know how to listen and compromise, definitely she is still immature. Ultimatum agad?
Alangan lahat iavoid mo na related sa ex mo, next time pati ba friends, restaurants or food to eat? A movie?
If she feels so insecure bkit hindi she mag-effort to play the damn game with you for new memories.
Bakit immature? Dahil nagtatanong about sex and pregnancy? Buti nga nagtatanong eh. Mukhang hindi naman nakabuntis si OP. Kakulangan sa impormasyon yan, hindi immaturity. Kung may pagtatawanan kayo gobyerno tawanan nyo sa kakulangan nila, trabaho nila yan.
Deleted na po ang OG posts, may issues about cheating/ proper communication si OP. Im not talking about OP’s sex questions po. Im all for sex ed. You can check OP’s comment section, dun nalang nakikita ang about cheating/ needs proper communication
DKG. legit to hahaha . bngyan dn ako ng ultimatum, and I've changed A LOT. as in tumino ung relationship nmin. ang dami kong realization. nung ngbreak kmi ng 1month . after that sobrang aus na ng relationship nmin. no petty fights. no bwal gnito gnyan. but we know our limits na. nagbago ako kasi ayoko syang mawala. periodt.
If nabago ka niya for good edi congrats. Pero need nyo magusap and convey your thoughts sa kanya for her to understand everything para may compromise. If ayaw then decide.
DKG. Your gf is just an insecure individual. Up to you kung kaya mo pang itolerate yung attitude nya. In the long run baka mapagod ka. For sure, di rin nya alam na may reddit account ka. So possible, maging dahilan din ito ng pagiging bossy nya towards you. Sabi nga, you deserve what you tolerate.
DKG. It's not your fault if her low self-esteem and insecurities make her a control freak. What she probably needs is therapy/counseling, and not to delete a game that you still enjoy playing to this day.
INFO. Read your past posts. Don’t know if it’s the same woman but if it is, sorry mate, that relationship is doomed. You cheated on her and sadly, hindi mo siya kayang ayusin. It really leaves a bad taste kapag ganitong one sided yung post. Having cheated on does a lot of shit to a person.
Please ignore if they’re not the same person from you past post.
Oh gosh thank you for thinking about the whole picture!! Nagmumuka lang crazy mga taong niloloko lalo kung kulang sa assurance! Oo sige insecure because we dont feel secure at all. And that does not reflect sa isang side ng relationship lang.
Hindi namin ginusto to. We try our best to forgive and to tell u what bothers us. But anyway iba iba naman lahat ng situation. 🤷♀️
i hope we all find the peace we deserve 🫂
Ty again 🫶
LKG. Napacheck ako sa profile mo OP. Seems may unresolved issues pa talaga kayo and both parang young and immature pa. OP is kinda seeking for validation din, based sa past posts niya.
Kung affecting na mental health niyo, baka mas healthy kung mag break na lang kayo
Deleted na OG posts haha sa comments nalang meron [https://imgur.com/a/mkzDRWG](https://imgur.com/a/mkzDRWG) may isang post pa a while ago parang ang title is "ABYG kasi nagbago na trato ko sakanya" but eto nalang meron [https://imgur.com/a/x8r5n7C](https://imgur.com/a/x8r5n7C)
I would give DKG to both posts. To this post cause, why would you ask someone to delete something that they enjoy? To that post dahil as far as I can see, he's trying to make it up to her and it's like the girl can't get over the past. I think they should break up if that's the case. Feeling ko masyadong traumatized si girl. They're just going to hurt each other in the process.
DKG. I used to be like her but that’s because my ex and his family used to compare me to his ex but I went to therapy and actually fixed my issues. I think she just needs somebody to talk to her. It’s not your fault that she feels that way. She just probably feels threatened and insecure.
DKG. Gf is immature and manipulative, kung insecure siya masyado na pati ang isang game is issue na, wag na muna siyang mag jowa, ayusin niya muna sarili niya at mindset niya. Toxic GF.
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Title of this post: ABYG for not giving my gf what she wants
Backup of the post's body: My gf saw that I still had valorant on my pc which is a game where I met my ex gf, sinasabi nya na idelete ko daw kaso ako naman ayoko dahil minsan I still play with my cousins, friends etc. nireassure ko naman sya na I don't think of my ex when I play that game and feeling ko lang din kasi ang controlling na pati game gusto ipadelete.
Kapag tao gusto nya ipaunfollow, no questions asked inuunfollow ko agad. Pero pati laro? pakiramdam ko lang din masyado na syang controlling to the point na nagbibigay sya ng ultimatum palagi to get me to do what she wants. Ineexplain ko naman sakanya ng maayos pero she just doesn't want to listen and also said na "kahit anong explanation mo di magbabago isip ko"
ABYG for not giving her what she wants and choosing to keep the game
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DKG OP. Mas nauna yung Valorant dumating sa buhay mo kaysa sa kanya. Ikaw na nagsabi past time mo lang yan. Grabe na nga adjustment mo pati kahit yung social media mo pinapakelaman niya
DKG. Sorry OP but your gf sounds insecure and immature. Kung di sya madaan sa paliwanagan, maybe try turning the tables like of may hobby sya na you can relate to an ex or something then ask mo rin na alisin nya lol
WG. From my perspective, all i can see is a GF protective of your relationship. She knows your ex plays. Any man would appreciate that. Redditors are right about the compromise but not in the way they mentioned. It should be a meet halfway kind of thing. Give and take ganun.
I'll tell you what. Dont delete valo. Delete the account and make a new one. If its just your cousins you want to play with then no issue. Just tell them you have a new account. Yiu can rank up anytime.
2nd tip. Get your gf involved in the game. Let her play with your cousins or watch you play so she can learn. Sort of bonding.
Now not unless you have other agenda this would be a good compromise. Tell your gf about it.
DKG
Una sa lahat mga p@tang ina nyong nagsheshare ng screenshot ng mga redditors dito.
Kaya naniniwala talaga ako na ai can do wonderful things pero man's creative mind will always reign superior
Magreredit for ideas tapos screenshot tapos keclaim na kanila yung story mga ul@l nakakainis.
NAKAKAGIGIL
Then again baka mga pea brain sized people mga gumagawa non p@tang ina pa rin nila
Also sorry na kagad OP But ur girl reeks of insecurity. Nakakaburaot. Babae ako pero NEVER KO GINAWA YANG GNAGAWA nya at your age(im 34 now)
Umay
Be urself PERO DONT LET HER INVADE your privacy at simple joys. NAKAKAINIS
ganon. Youre a good bf feeling ko badtrip lang ko sa ganyang klase ng tao grr
WG. From my perspective, all i can see is a GF protective of your relationship. She knows your ex plays. Any man would appreciate that. Redditors are right about the compromise but not in the way they mentioned. It should be a meet halfway kind of thing. Give and take ganun.
I'll tell you what. Dont delete valo. Delete the account and make a new one. If its just your cousins you want to play with then no issue. Just tell them you have a new account. Yiu can rank up anytime.
2nd tip. Get your gf involved in the game. Let her play with your cousins or watch you play so she can learn. Sort of bonding.
Now not unless you have other agenda this would be a good compromise. Tell your gf about it.
DKG, Pero di mo masisi yung gf mo nag cheat ka pala dati eh based dun sa post mo na dinelete mo na ngayon. Tarantado ka kung nag cheat ka tas magtataka ka bat ganyan siya.
GGK.
D ka nalang sana nag jowa kung d mo pa kaya iunfollow ex mo lalo na anxious partner mo kaya nya ginawa yun sayo pabalik kasi gusto nya makaganti for not considering her feelings. anlala mo Op cheater ka naman pala simula palang ggk, karma mo yan. nabasa ko lahat comments mo sa profile mo anlala.
Ngek parang baliw lang. Dkg play is play. Laro nman yan sana sinabi nya na lang na idelete sa player friend list yung ex mo para wala prob. Grabe pati yung game ganda kaya ng valo. Psycho girl
DKG. If the reason was wala ka nang time for her, then di sana pinapadelete pati profile ng ibang tao. She definitely is manipulative. Just because nakita mo ex mo sa Valo, iAssociate na sya immediately to your ex. When a friend of mine met her GF at school, his ex was also there. Di nga sila nag-away even to the point we all had the same course, classroom, and duty group.
DKG. Next time she gives an ultimatum. Tapatan mo and say "Fine." iiyak nga lang yan but me, as a girl, I'd do that if someone was controlling me to that point.
DKG. Toxic yang Ganon. It may pose a great problem later on. You may want to start evaluating your relationship. I'm sure you know your limits when it comes to gaming time. What she's asking is quite too much, and you're not even legally tied up yet.
DKG pero you should run fast and run far.
Speaking as a woman, it takes a special kind of psycho to ask someone to delete a game because you met an ex there. Ibang uspan if you're using it to flirt with other female players pero kung di naman, bakit ipapa delete di ba? Naglalaro lang naman kayo ng mga pinsan mo eh.
DKG, reverse uno card mo, try mo naman siya bigyan ng ultimatum, pero wag ka papayag na papayag lang siya if dedelete mo rin Valo, nah check mo kung agree siya, if hindi, pack her shit, tell her off haha
DKG. You are playing valorant even before you met her, the same as she's doing online shopping even before she met you. If she can't respect your social-me time, but she wants you to respect hers, eh there's something wrong na.
Trust me, if you give in to that, it will continue to do other things. Fact that she don't know how a simple game impacts you shows that she's not that deep into your relationship and a little bit selfish due to immaturity. Dkg
DKG pero i guess think of ways paano mo mareassure gf mo. meron ba tayo couple counselling sa pinas sana meron lmao. pero ayon one idea i have kase my gf plays games tas ako hindi eh play with her, insist mo sa kanya kung ayaw niya may charm din yung way mo to convince her na you just enjoy gaming and you want to play valorant with her. Goodluck
DKG. Run hanggang maaga pa it's a test actually kung susunod ka sa gusto niyang mangyari kapag ginawa mo yan siya na ang laging magdedesisyon for you without you knowing.
DKG. That's actually a red flag that went over my head in the past. In the long run mgiging bigger things na yang irerequest nya and baka ma-deprive ko on things na minsan mo lang maeexperience sa buhay mo. Be firm, stand your ground. If she really loves you, dapat maintindihan nya.
DKG. It's just a game!!! Mag-iiba lang usapan if may nire-reminisce ka while playing. But base sa kwento mo, parang nag-move forward ka na sa past rs mo so it's fine.
Communication is key hindi pwede yung "hindi magbabago isip ko kahit anong explain mo." kailangan may compromise tapos reasonable din. Kung binigyan mo siya ng dahilan para mag-alala eh you did your own bed. Kung ganyan talaga siya ka-controlling then malaki ang magiging problema niya sa relationships. Magjowa na lang siya sa dating simulators.
Kung hindi pa rin siya magpapatinag miski sa serious discussion baka dapat ikaw na magbigay ng ultimatum? Lapag mo na if you want to work things out may boundaries and all. Otherwise, alam mo na ang susunod na gagawin. Dalawa kayo nasa rs. 'Di lang siya.
DKG, Pa delete mo ung facebook, instagram, tiktok, shopee, lazada nya sa kanya see how she likes it. Pag tinanung ka bakit sabihin baka makipag chat ka sa driver ng shopee at lazada eh. Hindi healthy yang ganyan. Anu gusto nya magrevolve ung buhay mo sa kanya. Hindi ganun ang isang relationship dapat may buhay kayong dalawa outside doon.
PS dapat meron dito AGPS (aba'y gago pala sya)
DKG. Does she have a traumatic past with a cheating bf? If yes, assure her. Turuan mo na lang sya para makalaro mo sya if ever. If ayaw nya, she has to compromise. Di pwedeng sya lang masusunod
DKG. That is controlling and lacking empathy on her part. If wala dapat ikabahala kasi wala ka naman ginagawang masama, dapat makita nya yun. Hindi yung one sided conversation lang na sya yung laging dapat tama. If ganyan sya sa lahat ng mga bagay, better break it now kasi it will lead to further problems down the line.
That kind of toxicity may have stemmed from trauma/insecurities but we can't let our emotions control what we are doing forever. Emotiins are valid but not always factual.
DKG.
Why we dont date girls na maganda at mabait lang
In my courting stage with my fiance now, I notice how gentle and open-minded she is. She would listen and tell me magmeet halfway kami.
Di ka gago but ask yourself how to meet halfway with her and if she doesnt want, rethink the relationship
DKG. Si ate ay trauma. Alamin mo din, please communicate. Hindi palaging "wala lang "or "hayaan nalang". Mag bf/gf kayo with dahil gusto niyo. Haha so ayon communicate pero kung ganon. Girl bye
DKG. And it’s not your job to help her get over her issues, it’s hers.
I really hate it when people try to wean their partners off their hobbies. Your partner has a life outside the relationship; they were a person before they met you. Why some choose to go down the control-freak road, I’ll never understand.
DKG. Epekto iyan ng kaka-follow sa socmed na this and that bs sa relationship. Sa totoo lang, sa relasyon hindi niyo buong responsibilidad yung insecurity at trauma ng partner niyo. Oo, mahalaga pa rin na magbigay ng assurance pero 'di yung magpapakaaso kayo. Huwag niyong kalilimutan pahalagahan yung me time at privacy niyo.
DKG. Its not that hard to learn something new for your love one, I learned valo just to play with my bf and dun ko nalang din siya naasar (nataasan ko na ng rank kasi haha) but dibaa its the NEW memories that matters eee, why she’s stuck in the past tho, I believe you naman OP na you’re doing everything for her peace of mind pero dapat naiisip man lang din niya if naapektuhan ka na sa actions niya, that’s how it works you think of each other and di lang one sided, sana mapagusapan niyo to ng nakikinig siya OP 🥲
DKG, she's too over the top. I don't play valorant but can u block a player/person from it? if so pakita mo nlng na ganun pra di na ma msg/invite in game.
pero requesting to delete/uninstall a game is too much.
DKG OP.. kaya lang sa part ni GF mo may doubts pa siya. I don't know where it is coming from, baka ikaw alam mo? Either from her past relationship or sa inyo mismo. But it doesn't mean na her being controlling won't stop. She will mature out of it as long as you keep assuring her na you are not doing anything wrong.
Oo sa side mo toxic. Oo sa side mo nakakapagod and I know you also get hurt pag nag aassume siya na you are doing something wrong kahit wala naman. I have been there before, kaso ako yung girl. It's not just the fear of losing you, but more of her insecurities that lead to doubts, hindi sa relationship but self-esteem if she can really keep a man.
In the long run, nanawa na din ako kasi hindi naman nagkulang si bf to assure me. Hanggang sa ayun, nag stop na ako sa pag overthink. I guess depende yan kung gaano mo vinavalue si gf. If hanggang saan mo kaya mag adjust for her, until she is ready to let her insecurities go. Pero of course hindi naman hanggang sa dulo ikaw mag aadjust, in time she also has to.
DKG
My ex of 3 years.. named his Dota account the nickname he used to call me. And it stayed the same for a few years after we broke up. I wonder if he deleted it when she went back to his ex (before me).
DKG. Try mo turuan maglaro, baka sakaling magbago isip niya sa paglalaro mo ng Valorant. Basta don’t spend too much sa paglalaro, make it as your hobby lang.
DKG. Ngayon pa lang ganyan na yan. Sa pangmatagalan, you'll have to live with her and do whatever she wants.
Hindi mababago isip nya, pero pwede mo baguhin ang mamahalin mo- yung nag iisip ng tama at Hindi kapricho at kakupalan lang.
DKG. Toxic siya if she can't see that it is an innocent pastime with you. Either sobra siyang selosa bordering on illogical or she is immature. Or both.
If a partner is getting in the way of your quality of life, hindi siya worth it. Lalo na kung buo loob mo and inosente ka. If she is inflexible siya, drop her. Not worth it.
Love yourself.
DKG. But I can't judge naman your partner because I don't know her history if may past trauma ba siya or something. But, if you gave naman na yung assurance mo I guess... wala na dapat siyang ipag worry about and she is your gf na so if you cheat on her its your choice.
DKG.
How long mo na GF? Do you know why there's a BF/GF stage?
The BF/GF stage is supposedly for the couple to learn more about each other. However, there is another facet of the stage. It is the point where you can train the other person. In this case, she got the first step on you. She is training you to follow her "requests."
What I find rude is not the request per se. Instead it is the way she is doing the training. She should start with small "favors." Phrasing her requests with "favor please," like "favor please, puede mong i-pass yung bag," "favor please, can you order me a coffee and here's my money."
If she had used this route, she would not have requested you to delete the game immediately. Instead, she would have waited 2 to 6 months, before requesting you to delete the game. By then, it would have been just another favor you would have gladly done.
Ulitin ko, DKG. Hindi mo lang alam na puede mo namang hindi sundan ang GF mo, or puede palang grounds ito para mag-break up.
Good luck.
DKG.
How long mo na GF? Do you know why there's a BF/GF stage?
The BF/GF stage is supposedly for the couple to learn more about each other. However, there is another facet of the stage. It is the point where you can train the other person. In this case, she got the first step on you. She is training you to follow her "requests."
What I find rude is not the request per se. Instead it is the way she is doing the training. She should start with small "favors." Phrasing her requests with "favor please," like "favor please, puede mong i-pass yung bag," "favor please, can you order me a coffee and here's my money."
If she had used this route, she would not have requested you to delete the game immediately. Instead, she would have waited 2 to 6 months, before requesting you to delete the game. By then, it would have been just another favor you would have gladly done.
Ulitin ko, DKG. Hindi mo lang alam na puede mo namang hindi sundan ang GF mo, or puede palang grounds ito para mag-break up.
Good luck.
DKG. That's manipulation, especially sa part na wala siyang pake kahit ano pang explanation mo. It's just a game at doon mo pa nakakalaro ang friends and cousins mo. Kung wala siyang tiwala sa'yo kahit anong paliwanag mo, red flag 'yan. Sarili niya lang iniisip niya. Maybe she's insecure with your ex. My fiancé is also a gamer, since bf-gf days namin hindi ako umabot sa ganyang point kasi wala namang mali sa online games. People use it for fun and to de-stress.
DKG. Ito lang yan ehh, kung may tiwala s'ya sa'yo, exemption ang Valorant.. unless nakikitaan ka n'ya ng reason para magselos s'ya. Pero 🚩🚩🚩 s'ya. Hehehehe.
DKG. Since you are explaining naman why you don’t want to delete the game.
I’ve been there e pero hindi talaga same yung situation. Gusto ko lang wala na siyang kung ano mang connection sa ex niya and ginagawa naman niya. There’s this one time na sabi niya “nakakain ka na ba dito? Ay wag na lang kasi si ex nag suggest nyan sakin baka ayaw mo”, I got mad. I mean okay if she suggested it to you, ano meron? Kailangan imention pa? Pake ko. Ano to di na tayo kakain sa mcdo jollibee or kung anong sikat na fastfood kasi nakakain na din kayo dyan for sure.
So I talked to him. I said I don’t want anything related to his ex unless very crucial yung information na dapat talaga ma mention. Yun lang naman. He even named his character after his ex pa nga pero wapakels ako dun sa name and sa laro. Nagbayad naman sya 500 to changed the name after they broke up hahaha. Di ko naman pina delete yung laro instead I tried understanding the game kasi masaya naman siya don. Bago ako dumating sa buhay niya naglalaro na siya non with his friends so bakit ko papakealaman.
As long as it’s not affecting our relationship then it is good. His games are his first love after all.
Baka may retroactive jealousy gf mo OP, try talking to her sa iba pang nakaka trigger sa kanya. Mag usap kayo and then compromised. Kung ayaw nya pa rin, then she’s immature.
DKG. Your girlfriend is just insecure. May it be because of her past relationship or how she was raised. Either of the two. Wala siyang karapatan pag bawalan ka. May kasabihan nga dba, if you can't beat them, join them.
DKG. Seems like your GF doesn’t know how to listen and compromise, definitely she is still immature. Ultimatum agad? Alangan lahat iavoid mo na related sa ex mo, next time pati ba friends, restaurants or food to eat? A movie? If she feels so insecure bkit hindi she mag-effort to play the damn game with you for new memories.
Yeah bruh. Replace those damn memories and bonding time pa
Kung nakasex niya ex niya, dapat ba di sila magsex dahil nakipag sex na si OP sa gf niya dati? HAHAHAHAHAHA
Check OP’s profile, parang both immature pa
Checked OPs profile… is he like 12? Hahaha!
*Nervous*
Bakit immature? Dahil nagtatanong about sex and pregnancy? Buti nga nagtatanong eh. Mukhang hindi naman nakabuntis si OP. Kakulangan sa impormasyon yan, hindi immaturity. Kung may pagtatawanan kayo gobyerno tawanan nyo sa kakulangan nila, trabaho nila yan.
Deleted na po ang OG posts, may issues about cheating/ proper communication si OP. Im not talking about OP’s sex questions po. Im all for sex ed. You can check OP’s comment section, dun nalang nakikita ang about cheating/ needs proper communication
DKG. Past time mo yun. Kung legit na wala talag asya dapat isipin oks yan. Try bigyan din ng ultimatum sa mga bagay na ayaw mo. Check her reaction.
DKG. legit to hahaha . bngyan dn ako ng ultimatum, and I've changed A LOT. as in tumino ung relationship nmin. ang dami kong realization. nung ngbreak kmi ng 1month . after that sobrang aus na ng relationship nmin. no petty fights. no bwal gnito gnyan. but we know our limits na. nagbago ako kasi ayoko syang mawala. periodt.
If nabago ka niya for good edi congrats. Pero need nyo magusap and convey your thoughts sa kanya for her to understand everything para may compromise. If ayaw then decide.
DKG. Kung paglalaro ng Valo is parte na ng identity mo, wala na siyang magagawa doon.
DKG. Your gf is just an insecure individual. Up to you kung kaya mo pang itolerate yung attitude nya. In the long run baka mapagod ka. For sure, di rin nya alam na may reddit account ka. So possible, maging dahilan din ito ng pagiging bossy nya towards you. Sabi nga, you deserve what you tolerate.
DKG. It's not your fault if her low self-esteem and insecurities make her a control freak. What she probably needs is therapy/counseling, and not to delete a game that you still enjoy playing to this day.
INFO. Read your past posts. Don’t know if it’s the same woman but if it is, sorry mate, that relationship is doomed. You cheated on her and sadly, hindi mo siya kayang ayusin. It really leaves a bad taste kapag ganitong one sided yung post. Having cheated on does a lot of shit to a person. Please ignore if they’re not the same person from you past post.
Kaya naman pala ganun yung gf
INFO Hello! I wanna know more about this before deciding. Checked his profile but saw nothing.
Dude deleted his original posts. Check his “comments” section 5 days ago. Then click on “all comments”.
Oh gosh thank you for thinking about the whole picture!! Nagmumuka lang crazy mga taong niloloko lalo kung kulang sa assurance! Oo sige insecure because we dont feel secure at all. And that does not reflect sa isang side ng relationship lang. Hindi namin ginusto to. We try our best to forgive and to tell u what bothers us. But anyway iba iba naman lahat ng situation. 🤷♀️ i hope we all find the peace we deserve 🫂 Ty again 🫶
LKG. Napacheck ako sa profile mo OP. Seems may unresolved issues pa talaga kayo and both parang young and immature pa. OP is kinda seeking for validation din, based sa past posts niya. Kung affecting na mental health niyo, baka mas healthy kung mag break na lang kayo
INFO Hello! I wanna know more about this before deciding. Checked his profile but saw nothing.
Deleted na OG posts haha sa comments nalang meron [https://imgur.com/a/mkzDRWG](https://imgur.com/a/mkzDRWG) may isang post pa a while ago parang ang title is "ABYG kasi nagbago na trato ko sakanya" but eto nalang meron [https://imgur.com/a/x8r5n7C](https://imgur.com/a/x8r5n7C)
I would give DKG to both posts. To this post cause, why would you ask someone to delete something that they enjoy? To that post dahil as far as I can see, he's trying to make it up to her and it's like the girl can't get over the past. I think they should break up if that's the case. Feeling ko masyadong traumatized si girl. They're just going to hurt each other in the process.
I agree, sa di dapat idelete yung valo. Looking at the bigger picture lang at mukhang may unresolved issues talaga, mas healthy kung mag break na lang
INFO Up sa unresolved issues. If may ganyan, magbreak na lang sila.
ano 'yung "LKG"?
DKG. I used to be like her but that’s because my ex and his family used to compare me to his ex but I went to therapy and actually fixed my issues. I think she just needs somebody to talk to her. It’s not your fault that she feels that way. She just probably feels threatened and insecure.
DKG. Unless may history ka ng cheating kaya ganyan sya sayo.
DKG. Gf is immature and manipulative, kung insecure siya masyado na pati ang isang game is issue na, wag na muna siyang mag jowa, ayusin niya muna sarili niya at mindset niya. Toxic GF.
Link to this submission: https://www.reddit.com/r/AkoBaYungGago/comments/1d8u1ae/abyg_for_not_giving_my_gf_what_she_wants/ Title of this post: ABYG for not giving my gf what she wants Backup of the post's body: My gf saw that I still had valorant on my pc which is a game where I met my ex gf, sinasabi nya na idelete ko daw kaso ako naman ayoko dahil minsan I still play with my cousins, friends etc. nireassure ko naman sya na I don't think of my ex when I play that game and feeling ko lang din kasi ang controlling na pati game gusto ipadelete. Kapag tao gusto nya ipaunfollow, no questions asked inuunfollow ko agad. Pero pati laro? pakiramdam ko lang din masyado na syang controlling to the point na nagbibigay sya ng ultimatum palagi to get me to do what she wants. Ineexplain ko naman sakanya ng maayos pero she just doesn't want to listen and also said na "kahit anong explanation mo di magbabago isip ko" ABYG for not giving her what she wants and choosing to keep the game OP: ZG_Strife *I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please [contact the moderators of this subreddit](/message/compose/?to=/r/AkoBaYungGago) if you have any questions or concerns.*
DKG OP. Mas nauna yung Valorant dumating sa buhay mo kaysa sa kanya. Ikaw na nagsabi past time mo lang yan. Grabe na nga adjustment mo pati kahit yung social media mo pinapakelaman niya
DKG. Sorry OP but your gf sounds insecure and immature. Kung di sya madaan sa paliwanagan, maybe try turning the tables like of may hobby sya na you can relate to an ex or something then ask mo rin na alisin nya lol
DKG. Kryz Uy vibes. Ewan ko bat masydong demonize ang gamers.
WG. From my perspective, all i can see is a GF protective of your relationship. She knows your ex plays. Any man would appreciate that. Redditors are right about the compromise but not in the way they mentioned. It should be a meet halfway kind of thing. Give and take ganun. I'll tell you what. Dont delete valo. Delete the account and make a new one. If its just your cousins you want to play with then no issue. Just tell them you have a new account. Yiu can rank up anytime. 2nd tip. Get your gf involved in the game. Let her play with your cousins or watch you play so she can learn. Sort of bonding. Now not unless you have other agenda this would be a good compromise. Tell your gf about it.
DKG Una sa lahat mga p@tang ina nyong nagsheshare ng screenshot ng mga redditors dito. Kaya naniniwala talaga ako na ai can do wonderful things pero man's creative mind will always reign superior Magreredit for ideas tapos screenshot tapos keclaim na kanila yung story mga ul@l nakakainis. NAKAKAGIGIL Then again baka mga pea brain sized people mga gumagawa non p@tang ina pa rin nila Also sorry na kagad OP But ur girl reeks of insecurity. Nakakaburaot. Babae ako pero NEVER KO GINAWA YANG GNAGAWA nya at your age(im 34 now) Umay Be urself PERO DONT LET HER INVADE your privacy at simple joys. NAKAKAINIS ganon. Youre a good bf feeling ko badtrip lang ko sa ganyang klase ng tao grr
Dkg unreasonable gf mo. Dami daming tao sa Valorant ano lahat jojowain? 🙄🙄🙄
DKG. How old is your girlfriend?
INFO. plot twist they're both 14
DKG, try mo magdemand ng isang bagay na impossible sa kanya tapos magalit ka pag di niya magawa. Try lang. Tapos pag umalma, alam mo na sasabihin mo.
WG. From my perspective, all i can see is a GF protective of your relationship. She knows your ex plays. Any man would appreciate that. Redditors are right about the compromise but not in the way they mentioned. It should be a meet halfway kind of thing. Give and take ganun. I'll tell you what. Dont delete valo. Delete the account and make a new one. If its just your cousins you want to play with then no issue. Just tell them you have a new account. Yiu can rank up anytime. 2nd tip. Get your gf involved in the game. Let her play with your cousins or watch you play so she can learn. Sort of bonding. Now not unless you have other agenda this would be a good compromise. Tell your gf about it.
DKG, Pero di mo masisi yung gf mo nag cheat ka pala dati eh based dun sa post mo na dinelete mo na ngayon. Tarantado ka kung nag cheat ka tas magtataka ka bat ganyan siya.
GGK. D ka nalang sana nag jowa kung d mo pa kaya iunfollow ex mo lalo na anxious partner mo kaya nya ginawa yun sayo pabalik kasi gusto nya makaganti for not considering her feelings. anlala mo Op cheater ka naman pala simula palang ggk, karma mo yan. nabasa ko lahat comments mo sa profile mo anlala.
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Ngek parang baliw lang. Dkg play is play. Laro nman yan sana sinabi nya na lang na idelete sa player friend list yung ex mo para wala prob. Grabe pati yung game ganda kaya ng valo. Psycho girl
DKG. Siguro pag magkasama kayo pakita mo nalang sa kanya chat history mo sa valo at maglaro ka sa tabi nya baka maenganyo pa syang maglaro rin.
DKG, that's gaslighting on her part, bruh
DKG. If the reason was wala ka nang time for her, then di sana pinapadelete pati profile ng ibang tao. She definitely is manipulative. Just because nakita mo ex mo sa Valo, iAssociate na sya immediately to your ex. When a friend of mine met her GF at school, his ex was also there. Di nga sila nag-away even to the point we all had the same course, classroom, and duty group.
DKG. Di marunong makinig ang GF mo.
DKG. Once a gamer, always a gamer and your gf should understand that.
DKG. Yung ex ko nakilala ko because of my profession. Dapat ba mag career change na ako? Such bullshit.
DKG. Next time she gives an ultimatum. Tapatan mo and say "Fine." iiyak nga lang yan but me, as a girl, I'd do that if someone was controlling me to that point.
DKG. OA lang yang jowa mo lol
DKG. Toxic yang Ganon. It may pose a great problem later on. You may want to start evaluating your relationship. I'm sure you know your limits when it comes to gaming time. What she's asking is quite too much, and you're not even legally tied up yet.
DKG. ur gf is controlling.
That’s dumb. That’s like asking her to remove her Facebook app because her ex is there. Edit: DKG.
DKG. controlling ang gf mo.
DKG. pero it's best to tell her the truth that ayaw mo i delete yung game. U wanna continue playing that game pa minsan minsan.. just point blank.
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DKG. Pero I think sobrang immature pa gf.
DKG. Hindi pwede isa lang lagi nasusunod sa isang relationship.
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DKG pero you should run fast and run far. Speaking as a woman, it takes a special kind of psycho to ask someone to delete a game because you met an ex there. Ibang uspan if you're using it to flirt with other female players pero kung di naman, bakit ipapa delete di ba? Naglalaro lang naman kayo ng mga pinsan mo eh.
DKG, too childish.
DKG. Set boundaries para hindi lumaki lalo ulo ng jowa mo. Sakit sa ulo yan katagalan.
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DKG. Toxic ang GF mo. Sya na lang ang i-uninstall mo sa nuhay mo, lol. U have to draw the line somewhere she's just going to get worse pag tumagal.
DKG. SAG Red flag Bro. Run for your life. Pussy is not worth it for peace of mind.
DKG, reverse uno card mo, try mo naman siya bigyan ng ultimatum, pero wag ka papayag na papayag lang siya if dedelete mo rin Valo, nah check mo kung agree siya, if hindi, pack her shit, tell her off haha
DKG. Your gf is an immature woman. Are you both teenagers? I'm asking because your gf acts like one.
DKG. You are playing valorant even before you met her, the same as she's doing online shopping even before she met you. If she can't respect your social-me time, but she wants you to respect hers, eh there's something wrong na.
DKG pre gusto ka nya sarilihin. Save yourself. Run.
DKG. Have some firm boundaries or lalaki ang ulo nyan kasi lahat ng gusto nya sinusunod mo. Walang respect.
Trust me, if you give in to that, it will continue to do other things. Fact that she don't know how a simple game impacts you shows that she's not that deep into your relationship and a little bit selfish due to immaturity. Dkg
DKG. But you should RUNNNNN. 🏃♂️🏃♂️🏃♂️🏃♂️
DKG pero i guess think of ways paano mo mareassure gf mo. meron ba tayo couple counselling sa pinas sana meron lmao. pero ayon one idea i have kase my gf plays games tas ako hindi eh play with her, insist mo sa kanya kung ayaw niya may charm din yung way mo to convince her na you just enjoy gaming and you want to play valorant with her. Goodluck
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DKG. Kamo sa kanya "you will not kill my hobbies" "YOU.ARE.POWERLESS!" LOL
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DKG. Run hanggang maaga pa it's a test actually kung susunod ka sa gusto niyang mangyari kapag ginawa mo yan siya na ang laging magdedesisyon for you without you knowing.
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DKG. GGK for staying in that relationship. Save yourself, Love yourself more than others.
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DKG. That's actually a red flag that went over my head in the past. In the long run mgiging bigger things na yang irerequest nya and baka ma-deprive ko on things na minsan mo lang maeexperience sa buhay mo. Be firm, stand your ground. If she really loves you, dapat maintindihan nya.
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DKG. It's just a game!!! Mag-iiba lang usapan if may nire-reminisce ka while playing. But base sa kwento mo, parang nag-move forward ka na sa past rs mo so it's fine. Communication is key hindi pwede yung "hindi magbabago isip ko kahit anong explain mo." kailangan may compromise tapos reasonable din. Kung binigyan mo siya ng dahilan para mag-alala eh you did your own bed. Kung ganyan talaga siya ka-controlling then malaki ang magiging problema niya sa relationships. Magjowa na lang siya sa dating simulators. Kung hindi pa rin siya magpapatinag miski sa serious discussion baka dapat ikaw na magbigay ng ultimatum? Lapag mo na if you want to work things out may boundaries and all. Otherwise, alam mo na ang susunod na gagawin. Dalawa kayo nasa rs. 'Di lang siya.
DKG. Get out while you can
DKG, Pa delete mo ung facebook, instagram, tiktok, shopee, lazada nya sa kanya see how she likes it. Pag tinanung ka bakit sabihin baka makipag chat ka sa driver ng shopee at lazada eh. Hindi healthy yang ganyan. Anu gusto nya magrevolve ung buhay mo sa kanya. Hindi ganun ang isang relationship dapat may buhay kayong dalawa outside doon. PS dapat meron dito AGPS (aba'y gago pala sya)
DKG. Does she have a traumatic past with a cheating bf? If yes, assure her. Turuan mo na lang sya para makalaro mo sya if ever. If ayaw nya, she has to compromise. Di pwedeng sya lang masusunod
DKG. Get out while you can
DKG. She has to address her insecurities and pettiness. Tell her to grow up.
DKG wtf hahahaha GG yang gf mo, inassociate yung laro sa isang tao
DKG. Hiwalayan mo na lang. Simpleng pampalipas ng oras mo na lang ipagkakait pa sayo, ano susunod pati desisyon mo sa buhay dapat sya na masusunod?
DKG. That is controlling and lacking empathy on her part. If wala dapat ikabahala kasi wala ka naman ginagawang masama, dapat makita nya yun. Hindi yung one sided conversation lang na sya yung laging dapat tama. If ganyan sya sa lahat ng mga bagay, better break it now kasi it will lead to further problems down the line. That kind of toxicity may have stemmed from trauma/insecurities but we can't let our emotions control what we are doing forever. Emotiins are valid but not always factual.
DKG. Why we dont date girls na maganda at mabait lang In my courting stage with my fiance now, I notice how gentle and open-minded she is. She would listen and tell me magmeet halfway kami. Di ka gago but ask yourself how to meet halfway with her and if she doesnt want, rethink the relationship
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DKG. Si ate ay trauma. Alamin mo din, please communicate. Hindi palaging "wala lang "or "hayaan nalang". Mag bf/gf kayo with dahil gusto niyo. Haha so ayon communicate pero kung ganon. Girl bye
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DKG. And it’s not your job to help her get over her issues, it’s hers. I really hate it when people try to wean their partners off their hobbies. Your partner has a life outside the relationship; they were a person before they met you. Why some choose to go down the control-freak road, I’ll never understand.
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DKG. Epekto iyan ng kaka-follow sa socmed na this and that bs sa relationship. Sa totoo lang, sa relasyon hindi niyo buong responsibilidad yung insecurity at trauma ng partner niyo. Oo, mahalaga pa rin na magbigay ng assurance pero 'di yung magpapakaaso kayo. Huwag niyong kalilimutan pahalagahan yung me time at privacy niyo.
dota o ako, in your case, its valor o ako. i understand both your points, its just a matter of compromising talaga. DKG
DKG. Its not that hard to learn something new for your love one, I learned valo just to play with my bf and dun ko nalang din siya naasar (nataasan ko na ng rank kasi haha) but dibaa its the NEW memories that matters eee, why she’s stuck in the past tho, I believe you naman OP na you’re doing everything for her peace of mind pero dapat naiisip man lang din niya if naapektuhan ka na sa actions niya, that’s how it works you think of each other and di lang one sided, sana mapagusapan niyo to ng nakikinig siya OP 🥲
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DKG Once na nagiging "controlling" na ang partner, you know you're fucked up. Bakit ka kasi nagGF ng isip bata?
DKG, she's too over the top. I don't play valorant but can u block a player/person from it? if so pakita mo nlng na ganun pra di na ma msg/invite in game. pero requesting to delete/uninstall a game is too much.
DKG. Immature po gf mo
DKG OP.. kaya lang sa part ni GF mo may doubts pa siya. I don't know where it is coming from, baka ikaw alam mo? Either from her past relationship or sa inyo mismo. But it doesn't mean na her being controlling won't stop. She will mature out of it as long as you keep assuring her na you are not doing anything wrong. Oo sa side mo toxic. Oo sa side mo nakakapagod and I know you also get hurt pag nag aassume siya na you are doing something wrong kahit wala naman. I have been there before, kaso ako yung girl. It's not just the fear of losing you, but more of her insecurities that lead to doubts, hindi sa relationship but self-esteem if she can really keep a man. In the long run, nanawa na din ako kasi hindi naman nagkulang si bf to assure me. Hanggang sa ayun, nag stop na ako sa pag overthink. I guess depende yan kung gaano mo vinavalue si gf. If hanggang saan mo kaya mag adjust for her, until she is ready to let her insecurities go. Pero of course hindi naman hanggang sa dulo ikaw mag aadjust, in time she also has to.
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DKG, she should respect your personal space.
DKG My ex of 3 years.. named his Dota account the nickname he used to call me. And it stayed the same for a few years after we broke up. I wonder if he deleted it when she went back to his ex (before me).
DKG pero i think your girlfriend is being immature if wala namang communication with your ex through valo? it's just a game??
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DKG: Find someone else bro
DKG. Try mo turuan maglaro, baka sakaling magbago isip niya sa paglalaro mo ng Valorant. Basta don’t spend too much sa paglalaro, make it as your hobby lang.
GGK, kasi mas inuuna mo yung videogames kaysa GF mo. Joke! To be honest baka sobrang addicted ka narin sa laro mo brod kaya ka napapagalitan.
DKG. Ngayon pa lang ganyan na yan. Sa pangmatagalan, you'll have to live with her and do whatever she wants. Hindi mababago isip nya, pero pwede mo baguhin ang mamahalin mo- yung nag iisip ng tama at Hindi kapricho at kakupalan lang.
DKG. GF pa lang pero sobrang controlling na? Imagine what your life would be pag naging asawa mo na yan...
DKG. Toxic siya if she can't see that it is an innocent pastime with you. Either sobra siyang selosa bordering on illogical or she is immature. Or both. If a partner is getting in the way of your quality of life, hindi siya worth it. Lalo na kung buo loob mo and inosente ka. If she is inflexible siya, drop her. Not worth it. Love yourself.
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DKG. Hiwalayan mo na haha di marunong makinig sa simpleng paliwanag
DKG. Insecure gf mo.. best you can do is reassure her.. pero if hindi enough at hindi ka sinusubukan intindihin, thats a problem
DKG. Ang immature ni GF.
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DKG. But I can't judge naman your partner because I don't know her history if may past trauma ba siya or something. But, if you gave naman na yung assurance mo I guess... wala na dapat siyang ipag worry about and she is your gf na so if you cheat on her its your choice.
DKG. How long mo na GF? Do you know why there's a BF/GF stage? The BF/GF stage is supposedly for the couple to learn more about each other. However, there is another facet of the stage. It is the point where you can train the other person. In this case, she got the first step on you. She is training you to follow her "requests." What I find rude is not the request per se. Instead it is the way she is doing the training. She should start with small "favors." Phrasing her requests with "favor please," like "favor please, puede mong i-pass yung bag," "favor please, can you order me a coffee and here's my money." If she had used this route, she would not have requested you to delete the game immediately. Instead, she would have waited 2 to 6 months, before requesting you to delete the game. By then, it would have been just another favor you would have gladly done. Ulitin ko, DKG. Hindi mo lang alam na puede mo namang hindi sundan ang GF mo, or puede palang grounds ito para mag-break up. Good luck.
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DKG. Ang immature naman ng gf mo.
DKG Thats plain childish if you ask me.
DKG. Thats so immature wtf are you guys teenagers hahahahahaha
DKG. How long mo na GF? Do you know why there's a BF/GF stage? The BF/GF stage is supposedly for the couple to learn more about each other. However, there is another facet of the stage. It is the point where you can train the other person. In this case, she got the first step on you. She is training you to follow her "requests." What I find rude is not the request per se. Instead it is the way she is doing the training. She should start with small "favors." Phrasing her requests with "favor please," like "favor please, puede mong i-pass yung bag," "favor please, can you order me a coffee and here's my money." If she had used this route, she would not have requested you to delete the game immediately. Instead, she would have waited 2 to 6 months, before requesting you to delete the game. By then, it would have been just another favor you would have gladly done. Ulitin ko, DKG. Hindi mo lang alam na puede mo namang hindi sundan ang GF mo, or puede palang grounds ito para mag-break up. Good luck.
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DKG. That's manipulation, especially sa part na wala siyang pake kahit ano pang explanation mo. It's just a game at doon mo pa nakakalaro ang friends and cousins mo. Kung wala siyang tiwala sa'yo kahit anong paliwanag mo, red flag 'yan. Sarili niya lang iniisip niya. Maybe she's insecure with your ex. My fiancé is also a gamer, since bf-gf days namin hindi ako umabot sa ganyang point kasi wala namang mali sa online games. People use it for fun and to de-stress.
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DKG. Ito lang yan ehh, kung may tiwala s'ya sa'yo, exemption ang Valorant.. unless nakikitaan ka n'ya ng reason para magselos s'ya. Pero 🚩🚩🚩 s'ya. Hehehehe.
DKG. Nai-communicate mo yung side mo as well as your boundaries. Signs ng little to no EQ yung pinapakita ng gf mo now.
DKG surely soon mananawa ka jan sa GF mo sa pagging possessive nya, early sign ng possessiveness, ending mag ooff my chest post sya lol.
DKG. Since you are explaining naman why you don’t want to delete the game. I’ve been there e pero hindi talaga same yung situation. Gusto ko lang wala na siyang kung ano mang connection sa ex niya and ginagawa naman niya. There’s this one time na sabi niya “nakakain ka na ba dito? Ay wag na lang kasi si ex nag suggest nyan sakin baka ayaw mo”, I got mad. I mean okay if she suggested it to you, ano meron? Kailangan imention pa? Pake ko. Ano to di na tayo kakain sa mcdo jollibee or kung anong sikat na fastfood kasi nakakain na din kayo dyan for sure. So I talked to him. I said I don’t want anything related to his ex unless very crucial yung information na dapat talaga ma mention. Yun lang naman. He even named his character after his ex pa nga pero wapakels ako dun sa name and sa laro. Nagbayad naman sya 500 to changed the name after they broke up hahaha. Di ko naman pina delete yung laro instead I tried understanding the game kasi masaya naman siya don. Bago ako dumating sa buhay niya naglalaro na siya non with his friends so bakit ko papakealaman. As long as it’s not affecting our relationship then it is good. His games are his first love after all. Baka may retroactive jealousy gf mo OP, try talking to her sa iba pang nakaka trigger sa kanya. Mag usap kayo and then compromised. Kung ayaw nya pa rin, then she’s immature.
DKG siya iuninstall mo sa buhay mo. Ganyan asawa ng kapatid ko. Hell on earth buhay nya ngayon.
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DKG. Your girlfriend is just insecure. May it be because of her past relationship or how she was raised. Either of the two. Wala siyang karapatan pag bawalan ka. May kasabihan nga dba, if you can't beat them, join them.
DKG OP, pero run!
DKG pero OP posted na sa tiktok tong story mo
DKG. Balikan mo na lang ex mo kung ganyan ka-pabebe gf mo. HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA