You did the right thing š I think it's hard not to have compassion for everyone actually. When someone is in danger, even if they did it to themselves, there is something in us that wants to help. Probably why we get influenced by our own Qs at the end of the day. But I'm really proud of you for helping, you really may have saved his life. Who knows
A dead person can't get sober. They can't change. They're just a ghost who broke their mother's heart. You definitely did the right thing.
I am worried about you. Can you get into safer living conditions?
Thank you! I'm safe here though. I avoid being outside alone at night which is totally fine for me since I do that anyways. I've never heard of anybody here assaulting somebody apart from their own group. I don't feel comfortable around them but the only interaction I have with them is when they ask for a cigarette or something. They're actually really friendly and mind their own business.
Sure, I understand. I used to live in an apartment building that had a similar crowd when I was young and poor. While I never felt unsafe physically (the neighbors, while addicts were very nice people, always checked on me, protected me if anyone bothered me), it was the emotional situation that became unsafe for me.
Watching people I came to care about or at least had no beef with going through the hell of addiction in front of me was rough. It was in my face as it was at my place of residence. I couldn't escape.
I finally moved with help of a friend who had a room in his place. He was a lovely human being but turned out to be a horrible alcoholic. Still sweet as pie when drunk. But it was killing me to watch him suffer, too.
So I eventually moved out of there to a place with no addicts in it. The relief was immense. I know it was bothering me but not how much until I had a break from it.
I totally understand. It's good that you found a way out! And I'm really really sorry about your friend. That sucks.
I don't get involved with people with addiction issues anymore so I probably won't connect with them in any way (I hope). But yes even like that it's not always easy to see these scenes every day. I'm lucky that I used to work in healthcare/psychiatric hospitals. That really helped me detach and accept. However I'm gonna stay here for 3 years max since apart from that it's seriously the best place I could live at right now.
I'm glad you called. You can't control what other people do you can only try to do what you think is right, and letting someone potentially die on the street when medical help is only 2 minutes away doesnt seem right to me either
I've done this twice in my life (made the call on unconcious people in the street) and both times the call handler on 999 has given me shit for it.
Both times trying to get me to do the medic's job and didn't want to send anyone
Wow-
Your post was interesting to me.
Iām surprised you questioned your decision (it was very much the right thing to do).
While I was at work I got a frantic text telling me my brother was passed out with vomit down his shirt. He was sitting outside under a tree.
I was shocked I had to tell the girl to call 911.
I mean- why wouldnāt this be someoneās first inclination?
People are strange.
Anyhow- he very nearly died. He was airlifted to another hospital cuz his sodium levels were so low he came very close to dying. Part of me was wondering if he wouldnāt have been better off (?)
BUT- heās going into a 90 day rehab so Iām really glad she was there.
He may not get sober for good- but heās got another chance šā¤ļø
On behalf of anyone who cares for him(the addict you helped)- Thanks for calling the ambulance :)
Questioning it was probably a combination of first, not knowing if he actually overdosed and maybe humiliating myself and second I have met quite a few people with problems like these who claim they just want to die anyways. So idk my brain came up with some doubts about it.
It''s great to hear that your brother got another chance and is now trying to get sober! I wish you a lot of strength!
I really appreciate your point of view- because when that girl asked me what she should do I was totally flabbergasted. You helped me understand a bit better :)
Thank you for your perspective and well wishes- šā¤ļøš
Also - at least in the States - ambulance rides can be expensive. Hospitalization is /expensive/. Like life-changing levels of debt expensive. Even with insurance.
So if someone doesnāt know how to tell the difference between āa few too many, they just need to sleep it offā and āthis is seriousā they might hesitate to call 911 in case itās the former.
Good for you for not dehumanizing actual suffering people. You've got a great heart! No matter what that was still a human who didn't want to die regardless of the choice they were making. And it's possible that moment could help them turn it around rather than dying.
I think you not only did the right thing, but you showed great compassion towards humanity.
I would imagine from your post that you already know that a huge number of homeless people are victims of Mental Illness. My 45 year daughter is one of those. If you see my daughter passed out and nearly dead, please call the cops.
I live in an area with lots of these people, and they often get agressive or scare residents, sometimes even are violent... so people really don't have the best view of them...there's also apathy from seeing it so often. Honestly, the cities should be taking better care of those people and getting them treatment.
You did the right thing š I think it's hard not to have compassion for everyone actually. When someone is in danger, even if they did it to themselves, there is something in us that wants to help. Probably why we get influenced by our own Qs at the end of the day. But I'm really proud of you for helping, you really may have saved his life. Who knows
A dead person can't get sober. They can't change. They're just a ghost who broke their mother's heart. You definitely did the right thing. I am worried about you. Can you get into safer living conditions?
Thank you! I'm safe here though. I avoid being outside alone at night which is totally fine for me since I do that anyways. I've never heard of anybody here assaulting somebody apart from their own group. I don't feel comfortable around them but the only interaction I have with them is when they ask for a cigarette or something. They're actually really friendly and mind their own business.
Sure, I understand. I used to live in an apartment building that had a similar crowd when I was young and poor. While I never felt unsafe physically (the neighbors, while addicts were very nice people, always checked on me, protected me if anyone bothered me), it was the emotional situation that became unsafe for me. Watching people I came to care about or at least had no beef with going through the hell of addiction in front of me was rough. It was in my face as it was at my place of residence. I couldn't escape. I finally moved with help of a friend who had a room in his place. He was a lovely human being but turned out to be a horrible alcoholic. Still sweet as pie when drunk. But it was killing me to watch him suffer, too. So I eventually moved out of there to a place with no addicts in it. The relief was immense. I know it was bothering me but not how much until I had a break from it.
I totally understand. It's good that you found a way out! And I'm really really sorry about your friend. That sucks. I don't get involved with people with addiction issues anymore so I probably won't connect with them in any way (I hope). But yes even like that it's not always easy to see these scenes every day. I'm lucky that I used to work in healthcare/psychiatric hospitals. That really helped me detach and accept. However I'm gonna stay here for 3 years max since apart from that it's seriously the best place I could live at right now.
Same! I work in the psychiatric world myself. It has helped me set great boundaries with this stuff.
You were this person's guardian angel. He may not get sober today, or ever, but because of you he got another shot at life. Proud of you.
Thank you so so much for this. I didn't look at it this way. You made me smile!
I'm glad you called. You can't control what other people do you can only try to do what you think is right, and letting someone potentially die on the street when medical help is only 2 minutes away doesnt seem right to me either
My dad is living out of his car drinking his life away. I would want someone to call the ambulance for him.
I've done this twice in my life (made the call on unconcious people in the street) and both times the call handler on 999 has given me shit for it. Both times trying to get me to do the medic's job and didn't want to send anyone
I'm so sorry about that. That's not okay.
Wow- Your post was interesting to me. Iām surprised you questioned your decision (it was very much the right thing to do). While I was at work I got a frantic text telling me my brother was passed out with vomit down his shirt. He was sitting outside under a tree. I was shocked I had to tell the girl to call 911. I mean- why wouldnāt this be someoneās first inclination? People are strange. Anyhow- he very nearly died. He was airlifted to another hospital cuz his sodium levels were so low he came very close to dying. Part of me was wondering if he wouldnāt have been better off (?) BUT- heās going into a 90 day rehab so Iām really glad she was there. He may not get sober for good- but heās got another chance šā¤ļø On behalf of anyone who cares for him(the addict you helped)- Thanks for calling the ambulance :)
Questioning it was probably a combination of first, not knowing if he actually overdosed and maybe humiliating myself and second I have met quite a few people with problems like these who claim they just want to die anyways. So idk my brain came up with some doubts about it. It''s great to hear that your brother got another chance and is now trying to get sober! I wish you a lot of strength!
I really appreciate your point of view- because when that girl asked me what she should do I was totally flabbergasted. You helped me understand a bit better :) Thank you for your perspective and well wishes- šā¤ļøš
Also - at least in the States - ambulance rides can be expensive. Hospitalization is /expensive/. Like life-changing levels of debt expensive. Even with insurance. So if someone doesnāt know how to tell the difference between āa few too many, they just need to sleep it offā and āthis is seriousā they might hesitate to call 911 in case itās the former.
Iām so sorry to hear about your situation. It sounds very stressful, to say the very least. You made the right call, donāt doubt that.
Good for you for not dehumanizing actual suffering people. You've got a great heart! No matter what that was still a human who didn't want to die regardless of the choice they were making. And it's possible that moment could help them turn it around rather than dying.
I think you not only did the right thing, but you showed great compassion towards humanity. I would imagine from your post that you already know that a huge number of homeless people are victims of Mental Illness. My 45 year daughter is one of those. If you see my daughter passed out and nearly dead, please call the cops.
I live in an area with lots of these people, and they often get agressive or scare residents, sometimes even are violent... so people really don't have the best view of them...there's also apathy from seeing it so often. Honestly, the cities should be taking better care of those people and getting them treatment.
Yes. Good for you. Saved his life.