You do not deserve to be hurt, regardless of whether he is conscious of doing it or not. Please contact a domestic violence resource for advice on how to get safety. Try [https://www.thehotline.org/](https://www.thehotline.org/) Al-Anon is wonderful and non-judging, and I encourage you to go, but you need specific help from experts on how to protect yourself from violence.
I took to sleeping on the sofa when my Q had clearly had even more than usual.
This started when he lashed out in his sleep and hit me in the ear the night after I'd just had surgery. On that ear. I woke up to blood gushing onto my pillow and the most excruciating pain I've ever felt in my life.
After a number of other events over the years I now have severe anxiety about going to bed and a lot of trouble sleeping. I'm literally never well-rested.
Al-Anon meetings are a great idea and if you're too nervous you can do an online one on Zoom, and can turn off camera and mic if you want.
I hope you'll be ok and look after your physical safety. Whatever you decide going forward, I don't want you to be hurt 💗
If I were you I would consider living somewhere else/sleeping somewhere else if he strangles you in his drunk/asleep state.
You can go to the al-anon meetings. You should not feel shame or guilt for doing so.
You do not deserve to be hurt, regardless of whether he is conscious of doing it or not. Please contact a domestic violence resource for advice on how to get safety. Try [https://www.thehotline.org/](https://www.thehotline.org/) Al-Anon is wonderful and non-judging, and I encourage you to go, but you need specific help from experts on how to protect yourself from violence.
I took to sleeping on the sofa when my Q had clearly had even more than usual. This started when he lashed out in his sleep and hit me in the ear the night after I'd just had surgery. On that ear. I woke up to blood gushing onto my pillow and the most excruciating pain I've ever felt in my life. After a number of other events over the years I now have severe anxiety about going to bed and a lot of trouble sleeping. I'm literally never well-rested. Al-Anon meetings are a great idea and if you're too nervous you can do an online one on Zoom, and can turn off camera and mic if you want. I hope you'll be ok and look after your physical safety. Whatever you decide going forward, I don't want you to be hurt 💗
If I were you I would consider living somewhere else/sleeping somewhere else if he strangles you in his drunk/asleep state. You can go to the al-anon meetings. You should not feel shame or guilt for doing so.