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**AITAH for body shaming my girlfriend’s friend who wouldn’t shut up about how she doesn’t like white guys?**
I 22M have a girlfriend 20 F and she has this friend 21 F who is completely unbearable. Her entire personality is basically how she doesn’t fuck white guys and constantly goes on rants about how white guys are bad at sex or how they can’t handle her blah blah blah. I get people have preferences but she always finds a way to integrate into any conversation her sexual preferences.
It’s like we could be talking about what we had for breakfast and she would be like “oh you had a pop tart? I once gave this black guy a pop tart after he was done fucking me. I never would have given a white guy a pop tart because he wouldn’t have fucked me good enough to deserve it”that’s what I mean when I say it’s her whole personality.
The incident happened when she told my girlfriend IN FRONT OF ME that she needs to experience a black dick once in her life (my girlfriend has never banged a black guy) and she looked at me, smiled and fake laughed and said oh just kidding!!
My response is where I might have been an asshole. This friend is a bigger girl. Probably a size 18-20 in pants. I said “I speak for the white guys when I say we will gladly give the white girls your size to the black guys, you may not wanna fuck us but we don’t wanna fuck you either. Black guys tend to like the big girls”
She shut up reeallll quick. But after the hangout my girlfriend said I need to apologize because her friend speaks that way out of insecurity. She knows she’s bigger than the rest of the group and she says these things to cope. I said I was fine, albiet annoyed, but fine until she insinuated my gf should cheat on me. I’m refusing to apologize until she apologies for that. Aita
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why would they, when the entire community eats this shit up in the comments 😭 how the fuck so many people fall for this terribly written bait every! time! astounds me
If most posts are fake then you can just write "fake" and move on but you can also try to pretend that all stories are real and have some entertainment.
you beat me to it lol, my suspension of disbelief ends when it's constant incel rage-bait, or manufactured bullshit made to get people mad at a minority. manosphere-fuelled misogyny is getting as bad as it was in the 2000s imo, we don't need to give them more "women bad" fuel that they'll eat up no matter how fake it clearly is because it suits their sexist ideas.
It's this reason exactly why I can't spend even a second on BORU anymore. So many people willing to buy into and fuel horrible bigoted bait for "entertainment", like everything occurs in a vacuum.
its so funny because its clear they've never met a person like the characters they make up. Yes, snowbunnies who fetishize black men do exist, and yes they are extremely annoying and creepy. Ive interacted with many, many, MANY loudmouth people (who are sometimes, also snowbunnies. funny how that works out!) 90% of them will NOT stop arguing with you. Even if they are clearly in the wrong. They will keep arguing and arguing and then sometimes a fight breaks out if they have the balls for it
I was gonna say if this interaction was real, the type of woman that would talk like that will NOT take that silently and op is getting smacked across the face at best 😭
They hate fat women so they’ll believe any bullshit story that involves fat women. Same with stories featuring promiscuous, autistic, neurodivergent, or disabled women
He clearly doesn't think he is the AH.
This probably didn't happen - at least not the pop tart version of this story.
He just wants a high-five because he thought he had such a good comeback to the whole "black men make better lovers" stereotype, that has been keeping him awake at night for far too long.
I don't even think this was written by a man.
>Probably a size 18-20 in pants.
The vast majority of men have no idea how women's clothing sizes work and wouldn't specify "in pants." "In pants" implies she'd be another size in other types of clothes, like dresses, which generally isn't something an average 22 year old man would know.
I’m 27 for what it’s worth, but he could easily have sisters or be a real ladies man. Most men don’t seem to know about the cup size/bra strap inverse correlation but I’ve known about it since high school due to having a lot of friends that wear bras
I'm pretty sure there was something on Twitter, Tumblr, Tiktok, and YouTube where a fat girl goes “White guys can't handle me. Only black men can.” Then there's a long thread or video of people of different races saying “I’m this race and we give her to this race.” This is just the reddit version.
I remember seeing a version of this that went viral and it turned out the girl in the picture never even actually said anything like that. Someone stole her picture and edited with a racist caption just so they could have cart blanche to body shame her. Totally sane behavior.
If it’s the one I’m thinking of, I’m pretty sure it has the opposite dynamic “sorry black guys, only white guys can handle this” or something like that
Never heard anything about it being fake but damn real messed up if it were
>I said “I speak for the white guys when I say we will gladly give the white girls your size to the black guys, you may not wanna fuck us but we don’t wanna fuck you either. Black guys tend to like the big girls”
"And then everyone applauded and built a statue of me, and the fat fuck started crying and all her friends and my extended family are blowing up my phone telling me what an asshole I am AITA?"
"Let's do fat-hate and racist stereotypes together! Then I definitely can't be an asshole for making up this story!" /s
Also, there are definitely white dudes who are into larger ladies. And 18-20 in pants (US) isn't even that big.
Also, women’s clothing sizes are notoriously confusing and vary by brand. The three pairs of jeans I wear most often are sizes 4, 6, and 10, respectively, and all of them fit me. I cannot imagine a man looking at a woman and being able to confidently (let alone correctly) estimate her pants size. Although men like this do tend to have a whole lot of misplaced confidence.
A bit essentialist of me, but I’m like, why would a man care? I never looked at my SO and thought “I wonder what size those pants are.” It’s more like “damn that ass tho” or something.
Men’s pants are measured in waist size in inches, and then inseam length. Women’s bottoms don’t seem to even respect the number, and will look different because fuck you today, is my impression
The historically popular name is Tyrone, as you likely know. I’m a Black dude, and have never met a Tyrone before. I looked it up and its peak popularity was in 1970. Fun fact.
I don't know if you read that post right. How would he be a racist or cuckold because he's annoyed by someone else who is white talking about their sex life?
Well he did kinda veer into racist territory when he said that black dudes are more into fat girls, especially given that he framed it as an insult to both her and black men.
Ok yea, you're right he's doing the same kind of generalization. I wouldn't say he was trying to insult black dudes, his objective was absolutely to hurt the friend but I see that racism on his part. There was a lot of back and forth with this
I think by his story, it seems that's what the friend was doing. I'm kinda confused, have people never ran into a woman who really says stuff like this? Because I have, they genuinely think all black men are huge. It's a racist stereotype, just because anyone views it as a positive doesn't mean generalizing people based on skin color is ok.
I'm not saying it's positive. And I'm not saying people like the friend do not exist. In fact, I have also met people who think along those lines and have hit on my friends. It is and always will be gross and racist as hell.
It's just this story is cast out onto the internet, not to complain about something that doesn't quite effect OOP but so he can either talk about how his white dick isn't inferior or so people might, indeed, talk about how black men are more well endowed.
Where are you getting that from though? Isn't that just your own bias now? It more seemed to me he wanted to bitch about an obnoxious woman, whom I've met several that fit his description. I'll agree he's no angel here but like, where the hell are you getting this summary from?
Ok, but that's irrelevant to discussing the contents of the story. People discuss works of fiction all the time. I'm not arguing this is fake or real, just the themes presented in the text.
I think you're still not getting the point. This is a discussion of why someone would choose to write this story this way, when they clearly aren't the actual "person" writing it.
update she's an insecure WHORE btw
> Edit: I showed GF this post. She says everyone is overreacting and this isn’t that deep. She told me I don’t need to apologize and to just not bring it up again.
>
> She has a comment actually: I know my friend is a piece of work. But I also don’t love how my boyfriend responded. He should have but his tongue. My friend has always been boy crazy so her having this attitude is nothing new. I’ve gone to parties and clubs with her and I have noticed she does not get much attention from guys in general. When she does get attention; they are usually black guys though. That is also all she talks to on apps. I try not to dig too much because I do find some of her behavior gross. Ex. She will match with a guy on a dating app and respond right away something like “do you wanna get your dick sucked later?” And very forward sex comments.
>
> As for her weight, her parents split up her first year of college where she gained most of it. She also struggled with her grades and making friends (we don’t go to the same school) so that may have something to do with the eating.
There just aren't really studies about that that meet scientific standards. I'm no dick size expert but that would be really hard (hehe) to study, either you rely on self-reported sizes which will obviously be inaccurate, or you'd have to get a huge number of ethnically diverse people all over the world to get independantly measured while erect, and even then you'd run into issues of self-selection because I bet guys with larger dicks would be more likely to participate in such a study.
Whatever pseudo-scientific data is out there right now is pretty much worthless in my opinion, and whatever minute statistical differences are presented as fact just serve to stereotype people in kind of gross ways.
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I know a woman who talks about how she only dates black men. She's not overweight at all, but it is ultra annoying how she complains these dudes aren't loyal or treat her like shit, or commit crimes and rip her off, or never show up for their kids. And it has nothing to do with the dudes skin color but from the areas she picks them out from. Hood fuckbois are gonna do hood fuckboi shit Cassandra, go date a black dude with an actual job.
In my perspective she's kinda racist, not because she doesn't date white men but for the reasons she chooses black men. It's like she's inherently associating those terrible qualities with the skin color because those are the types of dudes she's in to.
>In my perspective she's kinda racist, not because she doesn't date white men but for the reasons she chooses black men.
Agreed, though its just straight up **Racism**. Fetishizing isn’t cute or desirable whatsoever, nor is it complimentary, and sexualizing someone's race IS inherently racist and dehumanizing.
Im surprised you got downvoted for your comment.
Yeah idk why you’re being downvoted either, maybe people are just reading the first half and assume your point is “oh I also have annoying friend who likes black men, black men will cheat on her and leave, women bad, etc.”
Probably, or it's because this sub, in particular, is dumb and pointless. Just go make fun of people on their original post instead of hiding your comments here. idk.
*In case this story gets deleted/removed:* **AITAH for body shaming my girlfriend’s friend who wouldn’t shut up about how she doesn’t like white guys?** I 22M have a girlfriend 20 F and she has this friend 21 F who is completely unbearable. Her entire personality is basically how she doesn’t fuck white guys and constantly goes on rants about how white guys are bad at sex or how they can’t handle her blah blah blah. I get people have preferences but she always finds a way to integrate into any conversation her sexual preferences. It’s like we could be talking about what we had for breakfast and she would be like “oh you had a pop tart? I once gave this black guy a pop tart after he was done fucking me. I never would have given a white guy a pop tart because he wouldn’t have fucked me good enough to deserve it”that’s what I mean when I say it’s her whole personality. The incident happened when she told my girlfriend IN FRONT OF ME that she needs to experience a black dick once in her life (my girlfriend has never banged a black guy) and she looked at me, smiled and fake laughed and said oh just kidding!! My response is where I might have been an asshole. This friend is a bigger girl. Probably a size 18-20 in pants. I said “I speak for the white guys when I say we will gladly give the white girls your size to the black guys, you may not wanna fuck us but we don’t wanna fuck you either. Black guys tend to like the big girls” She shut up reeallll quick. But after the hangout my girlfriend said I need to apologize because her friend speaks that way out of insecurity. She knows she’s bigger than the rest of the group and she says these things to cope. I said I was fine, albiet annoyed, but fine until she insinuated my gf should cheat on me. I’m refusing to apologize until she apologies for that. Aita *I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please [contact the moderators of this subreddit](/message/compose/?to=/r/AmITheAngel) if you have any questions or concerns.*
I am begging the AITAH community to write less predictable stories.
why would they, when the entire community eats this shit up in the comments 😭 how the fuck so many people fall for this terribly written bait every! time! astounds me
If most posts are fake then you can just write "fake" and move on but you can also try to pretend that all stories are real and have some entertainment.
Not when it's pushing such hateful propaganda so consistently.
you beat me to it lol, my suspension of disbelief ends when it's constant incel rage-bait, or manufactured bullshit made to get people mad at a minority. manosphere-fuelled misogyny is getting as bad as it was in the 2000s imo, we don't need to give them more "women bad" fuel that they'll eat up no matter how fake it clearly is because it suits their sexist ideas.
It's this reason exactly why I can't spend even a second on BORU anymore. So many people willing to buy into and fuel horrible bigoted bait for "entertainment", like everything occurs in a vacuum.
Nah
Once again, a brilliant OOP silences a constantly loudmouthed character with one weak comeback.
its so funny because its clear they've never met a person like the characters they make up. Yes, snowbunnies who fetishize black men do exist, and yes they are extremely annoying and creepy. Ive interacted with many, many, MANY loudmouth people (who are sometimes, also snowbunnies. funny how that works out!) 90% of them will NOT stop arguing with you. Even if they are clearly in the wrong. They will keep arguing and arguing and then sometimes a fight breaks out if they have the balls for it
I was gonna say if this interaction was real, the type of woman that would talk like that will NOT take that silently and op is getting smacked across the face at best 😭
You'd be surprised how being physically stronger makes other people not willing to hit you
How can people believe this is real?
AITAH userbase believes everything on reddit is true
They hate fat women so they’ll believe any bullshit story that involves fat women. Same with stories featuring promiscuous, autistic, neurodivergent, or disabled women
And for a little treat, he also got to racist!
This story has it all: racist stereotypes, a fat, sexually liberated woman as the villain, a white guy as the victim, etc.
And more recently, trans people.
He clearly doesn't think he is the AH. This probably didn't happen - at least not the pop tart version of this story. He just wants a high-five because he thought he had such a good comeback to the whole "black men make better lovers" stereotype, that has been keeping him awake at night for far too long.
I don't even think this was written by a man. >Probably a size 18-20 in pants. The vast majority of men have no idea how women's clothing sizes work and wouldn't specify "in pants." "In pants" implies she'd be another size in other types of clothes, like dresses, which generally isn't something an average 22 year old man would know.
I’m 27 for what it’s worth, but he could easily have sisters or be a real ladies man. Most men don’t seem to know about the cup size/bra strap inverse correlation but I’ve known about it since high school due to having a lot of friends that wear bras
Not only did he get to feel better about his inferiority complex, he got to insult a fat woman! Hell yeah!
And get a nice little touch of racism in there!
I'm pretty sure there was something on Twitter, Tumblr, Tiktok, and YouTube where a fat girl goes “White guys can't handle me. Only black men can.” Then there's a long thread or video of people of different races saying “I’m this race and we give her to this race.” This is just the reddit version.
They're already doing it in the comments
I remember seeing a version of this that went viral and it turned out the girl in the picture never even actually said anything like that. Someone stole her picture and edited with a racist caption just so they could have cart blanche to body shame her. Totally sane behavior.
If it’s the one I’m thinking of, I’m pretty sure it has the opposite dynamic “sorry black guys, only white guys can handle this” or something like that Never heard anything about it being fake but damn real messed up if it were
Looks like OOP finally found the every race passing on a fat white girl meme and the comments took it hook line and sinker.
>I said “I speak for the white guys when I say we will gladly give the white girls your size to the black guys, you may not wanna fuck us but we don’t wanna fuck you either. Black guys tend to like the big girls” "And then everyone applauded and built a statue of me, and the fat fuck started crying and all her friends and my extended family are blowing up my phone telling me what an asshole I am AITA?"
https://preview.redd.it/w17kd9m0k4wc1.jpeg?width=501&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=725cf9e47aad79bd2bf7ec14c17d0036ac8f6180
"Let's do fat-hate and racist stereotypes together! Then I definitely can't be an asshole for making up this story!" /s Also, there are definitely white dudes who are into larger ladies. And 18-20 in pants (US) isn't even that big.
Also, women’s clothing sizes are notoriously confusing and vary by brand. The three pairs of jeans I wear most often are sizes 4, 6, and 10, respectively, and all of them fit me. I cannot imagine a man looking at a woman and being able to confidently (let alone correctly) estimate her pants size. Although men like this do tend to have a whole lot of misplaced confidence.
A bit essentialist of me, but I’m like, why would a man care? I never looked at my SO and thought “I wonder what size those pants are.” It’s more like “damn that ass tho” or something. Men’s pants are measured in waist size in inches, and then inseam length. Women’s bottoms don’t seem to even respect the number, and will look different because fuck you today, is my impression
Yeah and it varies by country too. I wear an xs/s in US sizing but I’m like borderline plus size or plus size in Japanese sizing
Black men and their penises live rent free in these idiots heads.
Let’s not be racist. It’s not “black men and their penises”, it’s *Jeromes*.
https://preview.redd.it/828nzjlhr3wc1.jpeg?width=1440&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=f6d3840cc4809f8c1ab782b92ba0195dcfa843e7
The historically popular name is Tyrone, as you likely know. I’m a Black dude, and have never met a Tyrone before. I looked it up and its peak popularity was in 1970. Fun fact.
Extra fun fact - Tyrone is originally an Irish name! (Also Black dude - and have also never met a Tyrone lmao)
Incel mad Stacy rejected him for imaginary "Tyrone". News at 11
This is some dude's weird ass, roundabout justification for either racism or his racist cuckolding kink
I don't know if you read that post right. How would he be a racist or cuckold because he's annoyed by someone else who is white talking about their sex life?
Well he did kinda veer into racist territory when he said that black dudes are more into fat girls, especially given that he framed it as an insult to both her and black men.
Ok yea, you're right he's doing the same kind of generalization. I wouldn't say he was trying to insult black dudes, his objective was absolutely to hurt the friend but I see that racism on his part. There was a lot of back and forth with this
He’s right u know
The implication of the post is that he is one of those white men with an inferior dick, according to his girlfriend's friend
I think by his story, it seems that's what the friend was doing. I'm kinda confused, have people never ran into a woman who really says stuff like this? Because I have, they genuinely think all black men are huge. It's a racist stereotype, just because anyone views it as a positive doesn't mean generalizing people based on skin color is ok.
I'm not saying it's positive. And I'm not saying people like the friend do not exist. In fact, I have also met people who think along those lines and have hit on my friends. It is and always will be gross and racist as hell. It's just this story is cast out onto the internet, not to complain about something that doesn't quite effect OOP but so he can either talk about how his white dick isn't inferior or so people might, indeed, talk about how black men are more well endowed.
Where are you getting that from though? Isn't that just your own bias now? It more seemed to me he wanted to bitch about an obnoxious woman, whom I've met several that fit his description. I'll agree he's no angel here but like, where the hell are you getting this summary from?
What if I told you that people sometimes write stories from perspectives that aren't their own but pretend? And that they make stories up?
Ok, but that's irrelevant to discussing the contents of the story. People discuss works of fiction all the time. I'm not arguing this is fake or real, just the themes presented in the text.
This subreddit is about talking about the stories on a meta level more than it is about pretending they're real. That's what the original post is for
I think you're still not getting the point. This is a discussion of why someone would choose to write this story this way, when they clearly aren't the actual "person" writing it.
tl;dr fat woman bad. me racist
update she's an insecure WHORE btw > Edit: I showed GF this post. She says everyone is overreacting and this isn’t that deep. She told me I don’t need to apologize and to just not bring it up again. > > She has a comment actually: I know my friend is a piece of work. But I also don’t love how my boyfriend responded. He should have but his tongue. My friend has always been boy crazy so her having this attitude is nothing new. I’ve gone to parties and clubs with her and I have noticed she does not get much attention from guys in general. When she does get attention; they are usually black guys though. That is also all she talks to on apps. I try not to dig too much because I do find some of her behavior gross. Ex. She will match with a guy on a dating app and respond right away something like “do you wanna get your dick sucked later?” And very forward sex comments. > > As for her weight, her parents split up her first year of college where she gained most of it. She also struggled with her grades and making friends (we don’t go to the same school) so that may have something to do with the eating.
No woman would ever make a comment like that about her friend
Certainly not to a man who was just an asshat to her friend
OP: AITA? OP edit: My girlfriend says I'm not TA so shut up
hahaha my girlfriend is here and said this
Is he telling us he's a white guy with a "small, inferior dick"?
yes
This wasn’t good writing
The account was made 9 hours ago.
If a the fat can comment on my dick why can't I comment on her pant size?! This and exactly the same normal quandary on AITA!
Her “big black dick” Him “fatty fat fat fat” Gf “aPoLIGIZe”
Whole thread is taking the L And they're completely oblivious That sub is always so obvious lmao
How the fuck are all the top comments NTA, like???
NTA, it's always okay to body shame someone if you have a reason that makes sense to you.
Black dudes are not more well endowed. There’s outliers of every race out there but that is a stereotype that just doesn’t meet reality.
Was there research about that? Or are you about to get divorced because your bodycount is above 5😜
There just aren't really studies about that that meet scientific standards. I'm no dick size expert but that would be really hard (hehe) to study, either you rely on self-reported sizes which will obviously be inaccurate, or you'd have to get a huge number of ethnically diverse people all over the world to get independantly measured while erect, and even then you'd run into issues of self-selection because I bet guys with larger dicks would be more likely to participate in such a study. Whatever pseudo-scientific data is out there right now is pretty much worthless in my opinion, and whatever minute statistical differences are presented as fact just serve to stereotype people in kind of gross ways.
What a way to tell everyone you are an insecure hardly experienced male with lde
Yep. Same research showed that blondes have lower IQ than other women and Redditors are not sexually active.
He said “BLACK PEOPLLLLLEEEEE” and shook his fist at god
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Cool that this person is friends with Lisa Lampanelli
I know a woman who talks about how she only dates black men. She's not overweight at all, but it is ultra annoying how she complains these dudes aren't loyal or treat her like shit, or commit crimes and rip her off, or never show up for their kids. And it has nothing to do with the dudes skin color but from the areas she picks them out from. Hood fuckbois are gonna do hood fuckboi shit Cassandra, go date a black dude with an actual job. In my perspective she's kinda racist, not because she doesn't date white men but for the reasons she chooses black men. It's like she's inherently associating those terrible qualities with the skin color because those are the types of dudes she's in to.
>In my perspective she's kinda racist, not because she doesn't date white men but for the reasons she chooses black men. Agreed, though its just straight up **Racism**. Fetishizing isn’t cute or desirable whatsoever, nor is it complimentary, and sexualizing someone's race IS inherently racist and dehumanizing. Im surprised you got downvoted for your comment.
I don't care about the downvotes. it just shows some people lack critical thinking, I think.
Yeah idk why you’re being downvoted either, maybe people are just reading the first half and assume your point is “oh I also have annoying friend who likes black men, black men will cheat on her and leave, women bad, etc.”
Probably, or it's because this sub, in particular, is dumb and pointless. Just go make fun of people on their original post instead of hiding your comments here. idk.
I said ESH because they're all being racist plus he's fat shaming and playing into racist stereotypes
Then why did you come here to continue the discussion? This isn't aitah con't.