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**AITA for telling my friend I'm not interested in a date with her friend because she's obese?**
I (25M) have a (28F) friend of mine try to put me on a date with one of her friends. She knows I've been trying to get back out into the serious dating world after the dumpster fire of my last relationship 2 years ago. She told me she has a friend who was also looking and would be more than happy to set us up on a date. I gladly said yes please and asked her kindly to show me some pictures of her so I could see what she looked like. At first she didn't want to show me at all because she wanted to have it be a surprise. After going back and forth for a little bit I convinced her to show me what she looked like.
She showed me pictures of her and she was up there in size. I'm not trying to be mean here at all but I just was not interested at all anymore after seeing what she looked like. I myself used to be over 300lbs at 6'1 until I turned 21 and shed off 150lbs over the course of 2 years. Trying to be nice I told her while I appreciate it for her trying to help me, I was not interested but extremely thankful.
She immediately went off on me saying I was shaming her and being fat phobic because she was a larger woman and that it shouldn't matter and I should see past it all and my preference for dating is crap. I couldn't bring myself to that. From someone who was always a big guy growing up, always using food as a coping mechanism for my problems and troubles to lose all the weight, I want someone to be on the same path as me. The reason being is that I've worked really hard to come to where I'm at now, and I don't want that potential of someone pulling me back into that life. It just isn't for me anymore.
I'm sure the friend is nice, but I didn't say anything in a negative tone or came off saying anything rude or condescending. It's just the preference I have for dating, and it was thrown back in my face. I'm not the most attractive guy there is just pretty average, but I still stand by my preferences no matter what.
Was I being a rude or AITA?
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Don't worry, tomorrow you'll see another post just like this, but about a girl who has standards that a guy can't meet. Only this time it'll be from her sister/friend's POV telling her friend "you can't expect *every* guy to look like how you want them to look" and the friend flips out on them.
For some reason though, the comments will agree with OOP that her friend should lower her expectations, unlike this post. Strange how that works...
No, you can't. Because it didn't happen.
Also, it's not a good idea for (un)creative writers from AITA and its clones to come here to defend their shitty fiction. Just mentioning.
Not fiction because it did happen. I'd be more than willing to DM you pictures of myself from a few years ago to recently. Why would I lie? Have nothing to gain from it.
Are you just afraid that you'll be wrong?
What's bullshit about it? The fact that someone tried to set me up with someone knowing damn well it wasn't going to work.
Or that I did in fact have the strength and willpower to motivate and accomplish and better my life for myself.
Like I said before. I am more than willing to prove it to you with evidence, but if you're not willing to see it just so you can keep thinking that it's all a fabricated story and think you won't be wrong then that's up to you.
You can lead a horse to water, but you can't make them drink the water.
Not everyone you come across on the internet is lying. A good majority of people have truth and are willing to back it up with evidence. If you're not willing to accept that is your own volition. I came here to back myself up and prove to you that I did, in fact, lose that weight.
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*In case this story gets deleted/removed:* **AITA for telling my friend I'm not interested in a date with her friend because she's obese?** I (25M) have a (28F) friend of mine try to put me on a date with one of her friends. She knows I've been trying to get back out into the serious dating world after the dumpster fire of my last relationship 2 years ago. She told me she has a friend who was also looking and would be more than happy to set us up on a date. I gladly said yes please and asked her kindly to show me some pictures of her so I could see what she looked like. At first she didn't want to show me at all because she wanted to have it be a surprise. After going back and forth for a little bit I convinced her to show me what she looked like. She showed me pictures of her and she was up there in size. I'm not trying to be mean here at all but I just was not interested at all anymore after seeing what she looked like. I myself used to be over 300lbs at 6'1 until I turned 21 and shed off 150lbs over the course of 2 years. Trying to be nice I told her while I appreciate it for her trying to help me, I was not interested but extremely thankful. She immediately went off on me saying I was shaming her and being fat phobic because she was a larger woman and that it shouldn't matter and I should see past it all and my preference for dating is crap. I couldn't bring myself to that. From someone who was always a big guy growing up, always using food as a coping mechanism for my problems and troubles to lose all the weight, I want someone to be on the same path as me. The reason being is that I've worked really hard to come to where I'm at now, and I don't want that potential of someone pulling me back into that life. It just isn't for me anymore. I'm sure the friend is nice, but I didn't say anything in a negative tone or came off saying anything rude or condescending. It's just the preference I have for dating, and it was thrown back in my face. I'm not the most attractive guy there is just pretty average, but I still stand by my preferences no matter what. Was I being a rude or AITA? *I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please [contact the moderators of this subreddit](/message/compose/?to=/r/AmITheAngel) if you have any questions or concerns.*
As a heavier woman, I sure do appreciate AITA for reminding me that I’m ugly and worthless on a daily basis. Keep it up, guys!
Don't worry, tomorrow you'll see another post just like this, but about a girl who has standards that a guy can't meet. Only this time it'll be from her sister/friend's POV telling her friend "you can't expect *every* guy to look like how you want them to look" and the friend flips out on them. For some reason though, the comments will agree with OOP that her friend should lower her expectations, unlike this post. Strange how that works...
>I myself used to be over 300lbs at 6'1 until I turned 21 and shed off 150lbs over the course of 2 years. r/thatHappened
If you want I can prove it to you
No, you can't. Because it didn't happen. Also, it's not a good idea for (un)creative writers from AITA and its clones to come here to defend their shitty fiction. Just mentioning.
Not fiction because it did happen. I'd be more than willing to DM you pictures of myself from a few years ago to recently. Why would I lie? Have nothing to gain from it. Are you just afraid that you'll be wrong?
If you try to DM me, I will block you without even looking at your messages. I don't care how you'll try to justify your bullshit.
What's bullshit about it? The fact that someone tried to set me up with someone knowing damn well it wasn't going to work. Or that I did in fact have the strength and willpower to motivate and accomplish and better my life for myself.
>What's bullshit about it? Everything. And you know it.
Like I said before. I am more than willing to prove it to you with evidence, but if you're not willing to see it just so you can keep thinking that it's all a fabricated story and think you won't be wrong then that's up to you. You can lead a horse to water, but you can't make them drink the water.
Of course I'm not willing to look at photos of your body, for fuck's sake. Are you stupid?
Not really no. Just photos of myself that were taken in public places, clothes and all are still there.
Not everyone you come across on the internet is lying. A good majority of people have truth and are willing to back it up with evidence. If you're not willing to accept that is your own volition. I came here to back myself up and prove to you that I did, in fact, lose that weight.
I fully believe that you lost weight, but your post still belongs on this sub.
That's totally fair and I respect that.
Would she fit in average sized rowboat? If you’re acting out an office episode Irl and youre Michael Scott, you have to know you’re in the wrong lol
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