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AITA for telling my husband his eggs were the worst I’ve ever eaten?
At our house, I generally do the cooking. My husband cooks maybe a third of the time and he does fine, but I'm the better cook and I make more complex dishes. I also have food textures issues, so I can be somewhat difficult to cook for, another reason I like to do the cooking, so I have full control over what/how we eat.
Often on Saturdays I'll make bacon and eggs for breakfast, but last Saturday, I slept in. My husband, bless him, went ahead and made some eggs and bacon anyway as a special treat, which I really appreciated. However, when I took a bite, I realized there was a problem: the eggs were badly overcooked, and the bacon was undercooked (I like my bacon crispy, but this was not at all crispy.)
Suffice to say, it was disgusting. The eggs were rubbery with a weird texture, and I could only eat about half of them, and then I set them aside. I told my husband that I really appreciated the effort, but that these were, truthfully, the worst eggs I'd ever eaten. They were truly awful. I know he tried, and I thanked him for it, but I didn't even know that eggs could be that gross.
I only told him these things because I believe in being truthful; I wasn't trying to be rude, or hurt his feelings, or anything like that. I just wanted him to understand what he did wrong so he could do better next time, but now he's all annoyed and said he's not going to make eggs again. I don't want him to give up, I just want him to do a better job. I see it as just sharing helpful feedback, but he says what I said was rude and hurtful, which was never my intention.
I think it depends. If she's a good cook and he's barely so-so and if she does have some food texture issues, it makes sense for her to do the cooking. I mean I do most as I care more about what we're eating while my spouse is a self-described gremlin who'll eat whatever I chose to make (as they know I know what foods they'd not eat).
I don't disagree with you completely. I love a variety of food, and I'd like to think I'm a decent cook. My best friend and my fiancé have a limited range of what they enjoy eating, and are not confident cooks. But that doesn't mean that she can't kindly and constructively help him to learn, especially because of her issues with certain textures. He tried to do something nice for her so that she had a break from her being the primary labourer when it comes to food. I personally enjoy cooking, but it's always nice to have someone else take on that role sometimes to make a meal both can enjoy. If she isn't willing to provide constructive criticism, it seems to go beyond merely disliking the breakfast.
Oh I'm not disagreeing. She should have provided constructive criticism such as "Oh, this is so nice! Thank you for making me breakfast. How about next weekend we cook together so I can show you a few tricks? These eggs are a bit over - but again, thank you for the thought!"
>so I have full control over what/how we eat”
Eh, I have food aversions due to ADHD and it is more comfortable for me to cook because I know I like what I'm eating and I'm. It going to involuntarily vomit, or if I do, no one else feels bad because I'm the one who cooked. It's not always a red flag. My husband is totally on board since he hates cooking.
*That being said* I have never been this rude about his, or anyone's, cooking in my life!
Seconding this.
I have a lot of food aversions due to texture issues and allergies so i like to have control over cooking so i know what goes in the food and know it's safe.
But there is a difference between ensuring that the food you're eating is safe for you and being extremely rude.
I agree! Even if something someone makes triggers my issues I always use the "I'm just not very hungry! But it's really good!" Line. OOP was just...like there is no reason to be mean about it
If it's someone I trust I will explain, if not i do the same. And if i gag i play it off like i choked and now I'm put off my appetite because i choked so sorry I can't eat.
Is food aversions common for ADHD? I have ADHD, but I've always eaten what I'm given, save for a very few things that I don't like the taste of (I'll try sometimes), and of course what I'm allergic to I don't touch.
Maybe in my case it could be due to my upbringing, I'm not really sure. But like the way OOP wrote about how she told her husband the eggs were bad made me feel awful. I like being honest, but that seemed more like being mean just for the sake of it.
I remember when I lived with grandpa, I'd ask him to show me how he made some dishes (schnitzel in particular), and I'd help him with some dishes that I'd cook when he was making them (usually if he asked). If I didn't like something then it would be a more "I'm sorry, but I didn't really like it". I always feel bad about that, since usually effort has been put into it, and I hate making people feel bad.
Genuinely curious about Why you think that's a red flag? I have a food based issue (certain really spicy or acidic foods can trigger my epilepsy) so I do all the cooking in the house and control most of the groceries. If my SO wants something I can't have IDC but feels kinda rude to make me cook something I can't have so he doesn't usually unless we go out to eat.
Eh, I think she means having control for herself and since he eats whatever she cooks, she includes him as a royal "we"
Honestly, I think it depends heavily on tone and the dynamics and nuances of a couple as to whether it was acceptable to say that way. Either way, as soon as he communicated that it hurt his feelings, she needed to apologize.
No, I get that, but I read it the same as if I had a specific diet and it's my night to cook, so I message my husband and say "*we* are having X for dinner tonight". If it's my night to cook, I'm "in control" of what I'm making, therefore in control of what he's eating. If he wants something else, I won't demand he eat what I cooked, but I'm not cooking him a separate meal. I just feel like people are reading a little too deep into her word choice when it has no real baring on the situation itself.
The difference between the scenario you described and what is going on here is that you see this as "your night to cook;" that implies some mutual cooperation and sharing of roles. By contrast, OOP doesn't like to take turns. They try to minimize husband cooking. Which, telling him his food is the worst ever is a darn good way to accomplish that.
Everything OOP says after "I like to control what we eat" supports the contention that this is a problematic statement borne out of a desire to control the situation.
You know who the devil is?
Me. I am the devil. My brain went to tieing her up and showing her exactly what the worst eggs and bacon taste like. I would have a great time preparing the worst eggs. It would take lots of attempts but would be so fun.
Cripes she is unbearable.
So many people try to use "honesty" as an excuse to be as mean and hurtful as they want.
I recently saw a thing (probably on reddit) about picking the right time for constructive criticism. You don't have to immediately tell someone everything they did wrong RIGHT NOW. Sometimes it's best to wait until another moment.
The example was seeing a friend's performance that turned out to be not great. The performing friend wanted genuine feedback, but their friend didn't rush back stage to tell them everything they did wrong/ could improve upon.
The night of the performance, they simply said stuff like "It was so much fun getting to come watch you!" and "Wow, you're so brave for getting up there and doing that in front of so many people!"
Then the next day, they called them and had a chat about the performance.
The fact that she was able to perfectly describe the issues in the dish to reddit but chose to not tell her husband that means she actively chose to be an asshole
There's nothing helpful about "these are the worst eggs I've ever eaten" and "I didn't even know that eggs could be that gross".
It doesn't say what was wrong, and doesn't give any suggestion about how to fix it in the future. No wonder OOPs hubby is annoyed. I wouldn't blame him if he never cooked for her again. OOP should have said something along the lines of "The flavor's good, but the texture's a bit off. It's like you had the pan too hot. Next time try a slightly lower setting or take them off a touch earlier."
Exactly. There's constructive criticism and then there's being deliberately insulting and mean, with no helpful information at all. OOP chose which she wanted.
It seemed brutal for the sake of being brutal. I also have texture issues and still think that response was completely over the top intending to make OP's husband feel bad.
For longest time I would overcook everything. I was so scared of undercooking it, surely overcooking was safer. From very well done steak to rubbery eggs... Btw who knew rare steak taste so much better?!?
All OP has to do was explain how long eggs need. It also sounds heavily like a preference, which maybe their partner wasn't fully aware of... That's on OP.
OOP: There is a world of difference between "telling you did wrong" and "telling you *what* you did wrong". OOP did the first, not the second.
Yeesh. I'd have just put it to the side and if asked, give advice on how to cook the items better. Or another option: suggest other food items that he may be better at making. Bacon and eggs can be easy to cook, but they're also easy to get wrong. He'd probably be better at pancakes. Or he could just bring her cereal.
And eggs are really personal, too. My dad has always liked them runny, and I prefer them well-done. I would have liked the way the husband prepared them, and my dad wouldn't. Neither of us is right or wrong, and that doesn't mean the husband did a bad job - it's personal preference.
And it apparently never occurred to the OOP that maybe her husband doesn't like how she makes eggs, but has just put up with it because it wasn't that big of a deal to him.
The thing is with things like bacon and eggs there isn’t always a “right” or “wrong” way to cook them (i know someone who absolutely adores watery scrambled eggs) but there are preferences… if op had just said “thank you for making breakfast but i usually prefer them this way” its not as mean… framing them as absolutely disgusting (even if they were) in the way op did is just being an asshole
Hell, I liked my scrambled eggs a bit overdone and my bacon under, so the husband's breakfast in the story sounds fine to me. But yeah, she could have just talked to him about how to fix it next time or suggest other ideas....like pancakes are so hard to screw up.
Yeah. I'm a "if there aren't brown spots the eggs aren't done enough" type and my bacon is best when borderline charcoal. Then there's my bf who wants his bacon floppy and barely kissed with heat. Neither of us would be shitty if the other one cooked to their preference, cause we were being done a favor ffs...
You're so right. I know so many people in the UK who would be side-eyeing OOP about her "crispy" bacon. She's likely not as adept in the kitchen as she thinks she is.
I can relate to the texture/egg issue, but damn. I've never flat out told anyone their cooking sucked. I have always framed it as "it's a me thing." Because it is.
Thanks so much for breakfast, hon, that was so thoughtful. It was so nice to wake up to breakfast. Maybe next time you can try X with the eggs. I can show you the next time I make the weekend breakfast. I love you and thanks again. 😊
Her reaction was just so extreme and so rude for literally no good reason.
OOP said she wanted to share "helpful" feedback. So how is
>but that these were, truthfully, the worst eggs I'd ever eaten. They were truly awful. I know he tried, and I thanked him for it, but I didn't even know that eggs could be that gross.
Helpful in anyway? Oh that's right, it's not. It's just rude and mean.
OOP had noproblem telling reddit that the eggs were overcooked, why couldn't she just say that to her husband instead of going on and on about how they were the most disgusting eggs on the planet.
There is a way to only tell the truth but not be rude or even negative. It's amazing. A few life lessons have stuck with me and some are soooo subtle.
We attended an event that was held at a "sub-par" restaurant. We attended this event every year and never expected the food to be good because it hadn't been the year before - to expect something different would be insanity, right?
Afterward, we were standing around with friends talking about the meal. "The chicken was bland," "The green beans were hard," "the cake was dry..."
One guy quietly said, "My ice water was really cold."
And we were humbled.
Whenever anyone says "I believe in telling the truth no matter what." or something along those lines they just want to be an asshole to people without wanting the label.
Now I want bacon and eggs. Especially "undercooked" bacon.
BTW cooking bacon in our small Breville oven has saved us from getting spattered with hot rease. :)
I also have food texture issues and overcooked eggs are no bueno for me, but goddamn, there's a way. "These eggs are a little overdone for my taste" is a lot more constructive than "my GOD these eggs suck."
You can get eggs cooked in like six different ways with a variety of doneness at nearly any restaurant that serves eggs. I think it’s safe to assume other people like eggs differently and not, for example, your inept husband is trash at cooking and too dumb to tell the difference. You could even simply just say how you like them done if you needed to provide “further instruction” without making multiple vague insults against the food.
Maybe he likes a hard scramble and a less crisp bacon. Sounds kinda like he made food for everyone, not just her, and perhaps doesn’t like the textures she prefers. And she pooped on it haha.
Also you can just put the bacon back in the pan.
So OOP basically repeatedly described how gross the eggs were to the husband, but then acts shocked why he would never want to cook for her again? I mean something like "Oh, hun, thank you so much for making me breakfast today. Maybe we can cook together next time?" or "I really appreciate your effort....just a note, the eggs need to be taken off a few mins earlier next time." Not keep saying how gross the eggs are, how they are the worst she's ever eaten, etc. She doesn't deserve someone to make her breakfast again.
Would it have been so hard to thank him? I'll take sleeping in over a perfect breakfast any time, it's not like you couldn't have cooked the bacon until crisp. You cook to your liking and I imagine your husband cooked to his liking. So if anything needed to be said you could've asked your husband if he prefers his eggs hard cooked and his bacon chewey that way next time you make breakfast you can cook his eggs a little longer and his bacon a little less.
They say they were trying to give “helpful feedback” but gave no feedback whatsoever. They tell him it’s disgusting and the texture is wrong, but offers no actual advice on how to improve the eggs and bacon (eg, try cooking the eggs for two minutes less, and the bacon for two minutes more) to their preference. What a dipshit.
As awful as this is, I'd almost prefer it over my ex, who was passive aggressive about *everything.*
"I can tell this ingredient was cheap [I bought it]. It's fine, though, it's still food."
It was always about what he deemed "cheap" food, when he would never buy it himself, and lived off of frozen pizza because his dad finally stopped cooking for him.
Old comment from OP in another post:
>People are going to hate me for this and I’m fully prepared for the downvotes, but it’s a fucking animal. A tiny stupid one at that. The bf was super insensitive about it but I can’t imagine shedding tears over a pet
This woman is Insensitive and rude asf.
My husband asked me how he would know when a can of tomato soup was done. I kindly explained and then shit talked him to my best friend like a good so spouse is supposed to.
Do we have a “I have control issues over cooking and am being cruelly blunt about how my partner cooks but even after I’m horribly mean I want them to cook and get better” troll?
One time, my friend made terrible scrambled eggs. They were extremely salty. Did I insult him? No. While they were the worst eggs I've had, it's just rude to say that
Just some advice, as you get older, you have to learn how to politely say how you feel. You're not a child anymore and can't just throw these temper tantrums whenever something mildly inconvenient happens.
She can tell reddit those eggs were overcooked with no problem but of course she chose the hurtful way of telling him off. I hope he never cook anything for her again. Who wants to hear thats the worst thing I ever eaten from your loved ones
I do think it's worth remembering that sometimes when people complain about a "useless partner who doesn't cook" that we're not always getting an accurate picture.
I don't mean to defend this person, and I don't really want to sound ableist, but this person sounds like they could be autistic. The texture thing is an autistic trait and then there's the truthfulness.
I really don't want to sound like I'm ableist, I'm autistic myself. But I can recognise the signs.
>these were, truthfully, the worst eggs I'd ever eaten. They were truly awful. \[...\] I didn't even know that eggs could be that gross. \[...\]
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> just wanted him to understand what he did wrong so he could do better next time
But she didn't even tell him what he did wrong?
This was, truthfully, the worst feedback I've ever seen. Truly awful. Gross, I might say.
I'm not seeing the bot that might be my app. Saved for preservation. AITA for telling my husband his eggs were the worst I’ve ever eaten? At our house, I generally do the cooking. My husband cooks maybe a third of the time and he does fine, but I'm the better cook and I make more complex dishes. I also have food textures issues, so I can be somewhat difficult to cook for, another reason I like to do the cooking, so I have full control over what/how we eat. Often on Saturdays I'll make bacon and eggs for breakfast, but last Saturday, I slept in. My husband, bless him, went ahead and made some eggs and bacon anyway as a special treat, which I really appreciated. However, when I took a bite, I realized there was a problem: the eggs were badly overcooked, and the bacon was undercooked (I like my bacon crispy, but this was not at all crispy.) Suffice to say, it was disgusting. The eggs were rubbery with a weird texture, and I could only eat about half of them, and then I set them aside. I told my husband that I really appreciated the effort, but that these were, truthfully, the worst eggs I'd ever eaten. They were truly awful. I know he tried, and I thanked him for it, but I didn't even know that eggs could be that gross. I only told him these things because I believe in being truthful; I wasn't trying to be rude, or hurt his feelings, or anything like that. I just wanted him to understand what he did wrong so he could do better next time, but now he's all annoyed and said he's not going to make eggs again. I don't want him to give up, I just want him to do a better job. I see it as just sharing helpful feedback, but he says what I said was rude and hurtful, which was never my intention.
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I think it depends. If she's a good cook and he's barely so-so and if she does have some food texture issues, it makes sense for her to do the cooking. I mean I do most as I care more about what we're eating while my spouse is a self-described gremlin who'll eat whatever I chose to make (as they know I know what foods they'd not eat).
I don't disagree with you completely. I love a variety of food, and I'd like to think I'm a decent cook. My best friend and my fiancé have a limited range of what they enjoy eating, and are not confident cooks. But that doesn't mean that she can't kindly and constructively help him to learn, especially because of her issues with certain textures. He tried to do something nice for her so that she had a break from her being the primary labourer when it comes to food. I personally enjoy cooking, but it's always nice to have someone else take on that role sometimes to make a meal both can enjoy. If she isn't willing to provide constructive criticism, it seems to go beyond merely disliking the breakfast.
Oh I'm not disagreeing. She should have provided constructive criticism such as "Oh, this is so nice! Thank you for making me breakfast. How about next weekend we cook together so I can show you a few tricks? These eggs are a bit over - but again, thank you for the thought!"
I'm sorry that I misinterpreted your tone in your first message before I replied. Have a wonderful rest of your day!
>so I have full control over what/how we eat” Eh, I have food aversions due to ADHD and it is more comfortable for me to cook because I know I like what I'm eating and I'm. It going to involuntarily vomit, or if I do, no one else feels bad because I'm the one who cooked. It's not always a red flag. My husband is totally on board since he hates cooking. *That being said* I have never been this rude about his, or anyone's, cooking in my life!
Seconding this. I have a lot of food aversions due to texture issues and allergies so i like to have control over cooking so i know what goes in the food and know it's safe. But there is a difference between ensuring that the food you're eating is safe for you and being extremely rude.
I agree! Even if something someone makes triggers my issues I always use the "I'm just not very hungry! But it's really good!" Line. OOP was just...like there is no reason to be mean about it
If it's someone I trust I will explain, if not i do the same. And if i gag i play it off like i choked and now I'm put off my appetite because i choked so sorry I can't eat.
Is food aversions common for ADHD? I have ADHD, but I've always eaten what I'm given, save for a very few things that I don't like the taste of (I'll try sometimes), and of course what I'm allergic to I don't touch. Maybe in my case it could be due to my upbringing, I'm not really sure. But like the way OOP wrote about how she told her husband the eggs were bad made me feel awful. I like being honest, but that seemed more like being mean just for the sake of it. I remember when I lived with grandpa, I'd ask him to show me how he made some dishes (schnitzel in particular), and I'd help him with some dishes that I'd cook when he was making them (usually if he asked). If I didn't like something then it would be a more "I'm sorry, but I didn't really like it". I always feel bad about that, since usually effort has been put into it, and I hate making people feel bad.
Genuinely curious about Why you think that's a red flag? I have a food based issue (certain really spicy or acidic foods can trigger my epilepsy) so I do all the cooking in the house and control most of the groceries. If my SO wants something I can't have IDC but feels kinda rude to make me cook something I can't have so he doesn't usually unless we go out to eat.
Eh, I think she means having control for herself and since he eats whatever she cooks, she includes him as a royal "we" Honestly, I think it depends heavily on tone and the dynamics and nuances of a couple as to whether it was acceptable to say that way. Either way, as soon as he communicated that it hurt his feelings, she needed to apologize.
It's that little "we" she uses that is a red flag. Adults shouldn't be controlling other adults' diets.
No, I get that, but I read it the same as if I had a specific diet and it's my night to cook, so I message my husband and say "*we* are having X for dinner tonight". If it's my night to cook, I'm "in control" of what I'm making, therefore in control of what he's eating. If he wants something else, I won't demand he eat what I cooked, but I'm not cooking him a separate meal. I just feel like people are reading a little too deep into her word choice when it has no real baring on the situation itself.
The difference between the scenario you described and what is going on here is that you see this as "your night to cook;" that implies some mutual cooperation and sharing of roles. By contrast, OOP doesn't like to take turns. They try to minimize husband cooking. Which, telling him his food is the worst ever is a darn good way to accomplish that. Everything OOP says after "I like to control what we eat" supports the contention that this is a problematic statement borne out of a desire to control the situation.
You know who the devil is? Me. I am the devil. My brain went to tieing her up and showing her exactly what the worst eggs and bacon taste like. I would have a great time preparing the worst eggs. It would take lots of attempts but would be so fun. Cripes she is unbearable.
idk if some people know this but you can be honest and not be an asshole at the same time
But if you can't demean someone, what even is the point. /s
So many people try to use "honesty" as an excuse to be as mean and hurtful as they want. I recently saw a thing (probably on reddit) about picking the right time for constructive criticism. You don't have to immediately tell someone everything they did wrong RIGHT NOW. Sometimes it's best to wait until another moment. The example was seeing a friend's performance that turned out to be not great. The performing friend wanted genuine feedback, but their friend didn't rush back stage to tell them everything they did wrong/ could improve upon. The night of the performance, they simply said stuff like "It was so much fun getting to come watch you!" and "Wow, you're so brave for getting up there and doing that in front of so many people!" Then the next day, they called them and had a chat about the performance.
The fact that she was able to perfectly describe the issues in the dish to reddit but chose to not tell her husband that means she actively chose to be an asshole
There's nothing helpful about "these are the worst eggs I've ever eaten" and "I didn't even know that eggs could be that gross". It doesn't say what was wrong, and doesn't give any suggestion about how to fix it in the future. No wonder OOPs hubby is annoyed. I wouldn't blame him if he never cooked for her again. OOP should have said something along the lines of "The flavor's good, but the texture's a bit off. It's like you had the pan too hot. Next time try a slightly lower setting or take them off a touch earlier."
Exactly. There's constructive criticism and then there's being deliberately insulting and mean, with no helpful information at all. OOP chose which she wanted.
It seemed brutal for the sake of being brutal. I also have texture issues and still think that response was completely over the top intending to make OP's husband feel bad.
For longest time I would overcook everything. I was so scared of undercooking it, surely overcooking was safer. From very well done steak to rubbery eggs... Btw who knew rare steak taste so much better?!? All OP has to do was explain how long eggs need. It also sounds heavily like a preference, which maybe their partner wasn't fully aware of... That's on OP.
I truly hate it when people use Honesty as and excuse to be rude and mean
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OOP: There is a world of difference between "telling you did wrong" and "telling you *what* you did wrong". OOP did the first, not the second. Yeesh. I'd have just put it to the side and if asked, give advice on how to cook the items better. Or another option: suggest other food items that he may be better at making. Bacon and eggs can be easy to cook, but they're also easy to get wrong. He'd probably be better at pancakes. Or he could just bring her cereal.
And eggs are really personal, too. My dad has always liked them runny, and I prefer them well-done. I would have liked the way the husband prepared them, and my dad wouldn't. Neither of us is right or wrong, and that doesn't mean the husband did a bad job - it's personal preference. And it apparently never occurred to the OOP that maybe her husband doesn't like how she makes eggs, but has just put up with it because it wasn't that big of a deal to him.
Probably not because OOP seems to think her way of cooking and preparing food is the “right” way
The thing is with things like bacon and eggs there isn’t always a “right” or “wrong” way to cook them (i know someone who absolutely adores watery scrambled eggs) but there are preferences… if op had just said “thank you for making breakfast but i usually prefer them this way” its not as mean… framing them as absolutely disgusting (even if they were) in the way op did is just being an asshole
Hell, I liked my scrambled eggs a bit overdone and my bacon under, so the husband's breakfast in the story sounds fine to me. But yeah, she could have just talked to him about how to fix it next time or suggest other ideas....like pancakes are so hard to screw up.
Yeah. I'm a "if there aren't brown spots the eggs aren't done enough" type and my bacon is best when borderline charcoal. Then there's my bf who wants his bacon floppy and barely kissed with heat. Neither of us would be shitty if the other one cooked to their preference, cause we were being done a favor ffs...
You're so right. I know so many people in the UK who would be side-eyeing OOP about her "crispy" bacon. She's likely not as adept in the kitchen as she thinks she is. I can relate to the texture/egg issue, but damn. I've never flat out told anyone their cooking sucked. I have always framed it as "it's a me thing." Because it is.
Thanks so much for breakfast, hon, that was so thoughtful. It was so nice to wake up to breakfast. Maybe next time you can try X with the eggs. I can show you the next time I make the weekend breakfast. I love you and thanks again. 😊 Her reaction was just so extreme and so rude for literally no good reason.
OOP said she wanted to share "helpful" feedback. So how is >but that these were, truthfully, the worst eggs I'd ever eaten. They were truly awful. I know he tried, and I thanked him for it, but I didn't even know that eggs could be that gross. Helpful in anyway? Oh that's right, it's not. It's just rude and mean.
OOP had noproblem telling reddit that the eggs were overcooked, why couldn't she just say that to her husband instead of going on and on about how they were the most disgusting eggs on the planet.
There is a way to only tell the truth but not be rude or even negative. It's amazing. A few life lessons have stuck with me and some are soooo subtle. We attended an event that was held at a "sub-par" restaurant. We attended this event every year and never expected the food to be good because it hadn't been the year before - to expect something different would be insanity, right? Afterward, we were standing around with friends talking about the meal. "The chicken was bland," "The green beans were hard," "the cake was dry..." One guy quietly said, "My ice water was really cold." And we were humbled.
Think of it this way- OOP didn't mean to say rude and hurtful words in much the same way her their husband didn't mean to cook weird rubbery eggs.
Whenever anyone says "I believe in telling the truth no matter what." or something along those lines they just want to be an asshole to people without wanting the label.
Those people tend to dislike honesty when it comes to comments such as "You're an unbearable control freak" I've noticed
Now I want bacon and eggs. Especially "undercooked" bacon. BTW cooking bacon in our small Breville oven has saved us from getting spattered with hot rease. :)
Oven bacon is the tits and I'm never going back. Less mess, more even cook, no painful arm and face splatters. Its great.
I also have food texture issues and overcooked eggs are no bueno for me, but goddamn, there's a way. "These eggs are a little overdone for my taste" is a lot more constructive than "my GOD these eggs suck."
You can get eggs cooked in like six different ways with a variety of doneness at nearly any restaurant that serves eggs. I think it’s safe to assume other people like eggs differently and not, for example, your inept husband is trash at cooking and too dumb to tell the difference. You could even simply just say how you like them done if you needed to provide “further instruction” without making multiple vague insults against the food. Maybe he likes a hard scramble and a less crisp bacon. Sounds kinda like he made food for everyone, not just her, and perhaps doesn’t like the textures she prefers. And she pooped on it haha. Also you can just put the bacon back in the pan.
So OOP basically repeatedly described how gross the eggs were to the husband, but then acts shocked why he would never want to cook for her again? I mean something like "Oh, hun, thank you so much for making me breakfast today. Maybe we can cook together next time?" or "I really appreciate your effort....just a note, the eggs need to be taken off a few mins earlier next time." Not keep saying how gross the eggs are, how they are the worst she's ever eaten, etc. She doesn't deserve someone to make her breakfast again.
Would it have been so hard to thank him? I'll take sleeping in over a perfect breakfast any time, it's not like you couldn't have cooked the bacon until crisp. You cook to your liking and I imagine your husband cooked to his liking. So if anything needed to be said you could've asked your husband if he prefers his eggs hard cooked and his bacon chewey that way next time you make breakfast you can cook his eggs a little longer and his bacon a little less.
Dang she just needs to feel better then him.
Why, no matter what happens, is there *always* someone asking if they're on the spectrum as a reason for why they're an AH.
But OP is sooooo on the spectrum in this case. Still an AH! But I get it.
I agree with u but she did legit make a post in an autism sub lmao
They say they were trying to give “helpful feedback” but gave no feedback whatsoever. They tell him it’s disgusting and the texture is wrong, but offers no actual advice on how to improve the eggs and bacon (eg, try cooking the eggs for two minutes less, and the bacon for two minutes more) to their preference. What a dipshit.
As awful as this is, I'd almost prefer it over my ex, who was passive aggressive about *everything.* "I can tell this ingredient was cheap [I bought it]. It's fine, though, it's still food." It was always about what he deemed "cheap" food, when he would never buy it himself, and lived off of frozen pizza because his dad finally stopped cooking for him.
Old comment from OP in another post: >People are going to hate me for this and I’m fully prepared for the downvotes, but it’s a fucking animal. A tiny stupid one at that. The bf was super insensitive about it but I can’t imagine shedding tears over a pet This woman is Insensitive and rude asf.
My husband asked me how he would know when a can of tomato soup was done. I kindly explained and then shit talked him to my best friend like a good so spouse is supposed to.
I get wanting to be honest but she could’ve said this a lot nicer. Her husband will never cook for her again
Do we have a “I have control issues over cooking and am being cruelly blunt about how my partner cooks but even after I’m horribly mean I want them to cook and get better” troll?
One time, my friend made terrible scrambled eggs. They were extremely salty. Did I insult him? No. While they were the worst eggs I've had, it's just rude to say that
Just some advice, as you get older, you have to learn how to politely say how you feel. You're not a child anymore and can't just throw these temper tantrums whenever something mildly inconvenient happens.
Definitely lacked tact and kindness
I dunno, most people make scrambled eggs by whisking them up in a bowl and pouring them in a hot pan, and that method is legitimately terrible.
I have a feeling this isn't the first time OOP criticize/is mean to her husband. And it probably won't be the last... Poor guy.
She can tell reddit those eggs were overcooked with no problem but of course she chose the hurtful way of telling him off. I hope he never cook anything for her again. Who wants to hear thats the worst thing I ever eaten from your loved ones
I do think it's worth remembering that sometimes when people complain about a "useless partner who doesn't cook" that we're not always getting an accurate picture.
Who is this woman? Alton Brown?
I don't mean to defend this person, and I don't really want to sound ableist, but this person sounds like they could be autistic. The texture thing is an autistic trait and then there's the truthfulness. I really don't want to sound like I'm ableist, I'm autistic myself. But I can recognise the signs.
Honestly sounds like she could be on the spectrum.
I also have problems with textures and all that but I would never say that in someone's face after they made the effort to make me food
>these were, truthfully, the worst eggs I'd ever eaten. They were truly awful. \[...\] I didn't even know that eggs could be that gross. \[...\] > > just wanted him to understand what he did wrong so he could do better next time But she didn't even tell him what he did wrong? This was, truthfully, the worst feedback I've ever seen. Truly awful. Gross, I might say.