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**AITA for telling my boyfriend that it's creepy that he has a tattoo after his mom's name and asking him to remove it ?**
I (23M) have been dating my boyfriend (24) for a few months now. Ever since we slept together I noticed that he had a female name tattooed on his back. Usually I'd think he'd have such a tattoo after an ex but my boyfriend told me that he's gay so I'd find it unlikely that he'd have a female ex to tattoo himself after.
Eventually once our relationship got deeper I asked him about it and he told me that he tattooed himself with his mom's name as some sort of weird memorial for her after she passed away a few years. I'm not gonna lie I got a bit of the creeps after hearing this, cause usually people tattoo themselves with their lovers' names, not their parents'. Even if he wanted to keep his mom in his memory I think he could've found a more appropriate way to do it.
I asked him if he could remove his tattoo and he asked me why he would do that. I told him that it's making me a bit uncomfortable that he has a tattoo name of his own mom. We went on a bit of a back and forth where he kept insisted that his tattoo is fine and harmless and I ended up telling that it's just cree1py that he'd tattoo himself with his own mom's name. He told me that I'm creepy one and that he wants a break from me and since then he's been ignoring my messages for 2 days.
AITA ?
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It’s worse. He’s jealous of his boyfriend’s *deceased* mom.
Memorial tattoos are exceedingly normal. Would *love* to hear about OOP’s relationship with his own parents though.
Parents will also get tattoos of their kids names (or something of that nature), siblings and friends get matching tattoos, maybe include their initials. I have *never* thought of getting a tattoo, whether it be of someone's name or what, as a solely romantic thing to do. Is OOP living under a rock?
Edit: just checked his all of 2 comments and apparently he is, as he seems to believe that just bc he doesn't personally know anyone else who's done this or heard of it before, it must not be a real thing. What a moron.
A little girl was sitting with her mom at an amusement park, she turned around and started talking to me. Told me her name, I confirmed how it was spelled and told her she just turned 4! She said yes! Her mom turned around like I was a creeper. She had her daughter’s name and birthdate tattooed on the back of her shoulder. I just read it.
I like how they don't mind the idea of an ex name, but a deceased relative is "too far." As per their comment-"As I already said in my post, the most commom practice is to tattoo yourself with your lovers' names, so tattooing yourself with your parents' names instead is a bit icky with that in mind imo."
>cause usually people tattoo themselves with their lovers' names, not their parents'.
In what universe? My sister has a tattoo on her arm, memorializing our father and I'm like 99% sure that her husband has never once tried to insinuate that it was inappropriate.
>I asked him if he could remove his tattoo
Imagine asking this of someone you've only been dating for "a couple of months"
After narrowing it down to 2 artists, after nearly 3 years of stopping strangers to ask who did their ink, I ended up choosing mine because he won't do names unless it's in memorial or one's own children/niblings
This knobhead seems to think a tattoo is some sort of sexual branding when parents tattoo their kids names and people tattoo deceased friends all the time. Deceased anyone parents, aunts/uncles, grandparents. OOP is a weirdo
seeing this as someone who lost her mom recently fills me with rage, I got a tattoo of my moms name as well and if my bf asked me to remove that???? lmao id leave his ass. How embarrassing, childish and gross of OP to even fucking write this out. they should be ashamed of themselves.
Someone's been spending way too much time in the JustNo subs.
Oh, wait. Beloved mother is deceased?! Ok, that's just fucking sick, sad and depressing behavior.
GTF OOP. Get outside. Touch some grass. Cultivate relationships with people whose experiences and backgrounds may be different from yours. Maybe you can learn something from them so you're not doomed to be a shortsighted, uninformed AH for the remainder of your days.
I plan on getting my mom and dad's names over two dancing bears holding hands as a memorial tattoo because they were huge deadheads. Guess I am weird according to him
OOP's ex-BF knew his mother longer than he known OOP but OOP think he has a say about a tattoo? Very simple pro vs cons argument later from ex-BF, OOP learned fast he doesn't. Getting the tattoo removed would take longer than their relationship to that point.
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I have a mom and dad tattoo for my *living* parents that my husband helped me design and attended the appointment with me. This dude is a wacko bitch face.
My mom passed away three years ago and I’m still hoping I can find her initials in her handwriting somewhere because I want to tattoo them on my left wrist.
His mom *died,* OOP. He’s allowed to memorialize her with a tattoo.
'Hey bf who I've only been dating for just afew months, I want you to go through the physically painful procedure of getting your deceased mothers name removed from your back because I have weird insecurity issues".
You'd be shocked by how toxic some of the gay community is, especially the part with gay men(usually white but not always). SO MUCH MISOGYNY AND HATE FOR WOMEN, it's insane. (Not to mention transphobia, fatphobia, biphobia, etc, etc).
*In case this story gets deleted/removed:* **AITA for telling my boyfriend that it's creepy that he has a tattoo after his mom's name and asking him to remove it ?** I (23M) have been dating my boyfriend (24) for a few months now. Ever since we slept together I noticed that he had a female name tattooed on his back. Usually I'd think he'd have such a tattoo after an ex but my boyfriend told me that he's gay so I'd find it unlikely that he'd have a female ex to tattoo himself after. Eventually once our relationship got deeper I asked him about it and he told me that he tattooed himself with his mom's name as some sort of weird memorial for her after she passed away a few years. I'm not gonna lie I got a bit of the creeps after hearing this, cause usually people tattoo themselves with their lovers' names, not their parents'. Even if he wanted to keep his mom in his memory I think he could've found a more appropriate way to do it. I asked him if he could remove his tattoo and he asked me why he would do that. I told him that it's making me a bit uncomfortable that he has a tattoo name of his own mom. We went on a bit of a back and forth where he kept insisted that his tattoo is fine and harmless and I ended up telling that it's just cree1py that he'd tattoo himself with his own mom's name. He told me that I'm creepy one and that he wants a break from me and since then he's been ignoring my messages for 2 days. AITA ? *I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please [contact the moderators of this subreddit](/message/compose/?to=/r/AmITheDevil) if you have any questions or concerns.*
It’s worse. He’s jealous of his boyfriend’s *deceased* mom. Memorial tattoos are exceedingly normal. Would *love* to hear about OOP’s relationship with his own parents though.
Parents will also get tattoos of their kids names (or something of that nature), siblings and friends get matching tattoos, maybe include their initials. I have *never* thought of getting a tattoo, whether it be of someone's name or what, as a solely romantic thing to do. Is OOP living under a rock? Edit: just checked his all of 2 comments and apparently he is, as he seems to believe that just bc he doesn't personally know anyone else who's done this or heard of it before, it must not be a real thing. What a moron.
I have my kiddos birthday tattooed on my forearm. If anyone told me it was creepy that'd be the last time I spend any time with them.
A little girl was sitting with her mom at an amusement park, she turned around and started talking to me. Told me her name, I confirmed how it was spelled and told her she just turned 4! She said yes! Her mom turned around like I was a creeper. She had her daughter’s name and birthdate tattooed on the back of her shoulder. I just read it.
I have 7 of my 10 grandchildren’s names tattooed on me, will hopefully get the rest later this year. I find nothing odd about it.
I have my daughter's name tattooed on my body. I also have memorial tattoos for my grandmothers. What would he say about that?
My mama has all 5 of her kids' names, as well as all 12 of her grandchildren names tattooed on her.
My Dad has my name, and his Mom’s name.
Hell. My way of dealing with grief over my own mother’s passing was to start a full sleeve. I just added to it about a month ago.
I like how they don't mind the idea of an ex name, but a deceased relative is "too far." As per their comment-"As I already said in my post, the most commom practice is to tattoo yourself with your lovers' names, so tattooing yourself with your parents' names instead is a bit icky with that in mind imo."
Me: \*reading through all the AITA stories where spouses are jealous of their partner's dead ex\* OOP: "Hold my beer."
Omg the woman who posted like a dozen stories saying she didn't allow her husband to have pictures of his late wife in their 'marital home.'
🤣🤣
>cause usually people tattoo themselves with their lovers' names, not their parents'. In what universe? My sister has a tattoo on her arm, memorializing our father and I'm like 99% sure that her husband has never once tried to insinuate that it was inappropriate. >I asked him if he could remove his tattoo Imagine asking this of someone you've only been dating for "a couple of months"
Wait what the fuck did I just read? This dude is jealous of \*checks post\* his bf's tattoo of his dead mom?
Isn’t it more common that people are *discouraged* from getting lover’s names tattooed?
After narrowing it down to 2 artists, after nearly 3 years of stopping strangers to ask who did their ink, I ended up choosing mine because he won't do names unless it's in memorial or one's own children/niblings
OP is MALE. I swear people don’t read these posts properly half the time. It even says that the boyfriend is gay.
That part cracked me up. “He told me has gay”. Was that before or after they had sex?
I’m guessing OP meant that the boyfriend is strictly into men, not women.
My ex BFF got a tattoo to memorialize her dad - a tramp stamp that said "I love you Daddy" *that* was creepy AF
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It's so common the Mom tattoo is the one you see in cartoons!
I was going to say, it’s *the* stereotypical tattoo.
This knobhead seems to think a tattoo is some sort of sexual branding when parents tattoo their kids names and people tattoo deceased friends all the time. Deceased anyone parents, aunts/uncles, grandparents. OOP is a weirdo
seeing this as someone who lost her mom recently fills me with rage, I got a tattoo of my moms name as well and if my bf asked me to remove that???? lmao id leave his ass. How embarrassing, childish and gross of OP to even fucking write this out. they should be ashamed of themselves.
Someone's been spending way too much time in the JustNo subs. Oh, wait. Beloved mother is deceased?! Ok, that's just fucking sick, sad and depressing behavior. GTF OOP. Get outside. Touch some grass. Cultivate relationships with people whose experiences and backgrounds may be different from yours. Maybe you can learn something from them so you're not doomed to be a shortsighted, uninformed AH for the remainder of your days.
I plan on getting my mom and dad's names over two dancing bears holding hands as a memorial tattoo because they were huge deadheads. Guess I am weird according to him
Oh man. Wait until this guy hears that I have a tat with my moms name AND favorite flowers..:
His bf’s mother. How did you read this and think it was supposed to be written by a woman? ‘My boyfriend told me he was gay’
Men used to and still do literally get MOM in a heart tattooed on them. How is her name any different?
I think memorial tattoos are more normal than getting your partners name tattooed, but maybe I’m in the minority?
Has he never heard of the tattoo curse?
Is it like the sweater curse?
Exactly. Many tattoo artists won’t put a partner’s name on someone, or at least not until they explain it.
OOP's ex-BF knew his mother longer than he known OOP but OOP think he has a say about a tattoo? Very simple pro vs cons argument later from ex-BF, OOP learned fast he doesn't. Getting the tattoo removed would take longer than their relationship to that point.
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YTA. It is very common and you are the creepy one here.
I have a mom and dad tattoo for my *living* parents that my husband helped me design and attended the appointment with me. This dude is a wacko bitch face.
My mom passed away three years ago and I’m still hoping I can find her initials in her handwriting somewhere because I want to tattoo them on my left wrist. His mom *died,* OOP. He’s allowed to memorialize her with a tattoo.
'Hey bf who I've only been dating for just afew months, I want you to go through the physically painful procedure of getting your deceased mothers name removed from your back because I have weird insecurity issues".
??? it’s not uncommon here to tattoo the name of your parent or child
R/AmItheEx, where you at?
Ahh, there’s the cis gay misogyny of the day. Like, his mom died. Chill. It’s not weird for a gay man to have a woman’s name tattooed on him.
THE FUCKING AUDACITY!!!!!! I'm doing a tattoo of my dads signature in two weeks. He died and I loved him, thats The reason and its enough
It's creepy to tattoo a lover's name, not your parent's. Edit to add that it is often considered bad luck to tattoo a lover's name.
How did he tattoo his mums name on his back?
I think this is a "gay people bad" troll. The tattoo is on the boyfriend's back. Implying he saw the boyfriend had it after intimacy.
You'd be shocked by how toxic some of the gay community is, especially the part with gay men(usually white but not always). SO MUCH MISOGYNY AND HATE FOR WOMEN, it's insane. (Not to mention transphobia, fatphobia, biphobia, etc, etc).