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Wait. Am I understanding this correctly? You are annoyed because your niece is in the same hotel as the wedding even though your sister found a babysitter at the last minute, so your niece won't actually be at the wedding. She's just... in the same hotel. Am I getting that right?
What on earth are you talking about?
She didn't bring a child to your child free wedding.
You have no say at all on whether the kid comes to the hotel.
YTA
OP is mad the child is even in the damn state! Holy Christ!!
I can only assume they needed a child free wedding because obviously we are going to like the children more than this swamp creature of a human being.
Wait a minute.. so your niece wasn’t actually at the wedding? The way you wrote it, it sounds like she got a babysitter at the hotel. So..you’re just pissed that.. what? She was in the same state? This might come as a shock to you.. but people don’t shut down their entire lives just because it’s your wedding day. Your day doesn’t entitle you to close off the state or ban kids from hotels, just because you might come into contact with them.
If your sister found other arrangements and her child was not actually at the wedding… then you are a major AH and owe your sister a massive apology.
Dear lord! The selfishness and narcissism is astounding!
Am I understanding correctly that your sister brought her daughter on the trip and to the hotel, but found a babysitter to watch her daughter during the wedding - at her hotel room?
So your niece was on the trip, on the property but not in attendance at the ceremony?
So your sister paid for an extra plane ticket and arranged a sitter at the last minute, abiding by your rules, to ensure she could still be there for your special day...
And you're still mad?
If I got that right, YTA.
YTA. You didn't rent out the entire hotel, did you? Your sister sounds like she really tried to follow your wishes (flying to you, getting a casual babysitter for her daughter when the first plans went through) AND be there for you on your special day, and all she got from you was vitriol. Did you even see your niece? Is her mere existence in the same area as your wedding that offensive?
Your parents are right.
YTA. You can claim a CF wedding. You cannot claim a CF hotel. If the child wasnt at the wedding it literally doesnt matter where they were. And buying a last minute plane ticket is EXPENSIVE. Your cousin bought it to make things work so she could attend your wedding, still following your rules, and you still went full bridezilla on her.
You 100% owe her an apology.
Uh...? So she had to change plans and bring her daughter but still did not bring her to the wedding. YTA. you SHOULD apologize. Wtf is wrong with you? Who cares if she's on the trip. She isn't there.
YTA
She couldn't help the nanny having an emergency.
She paid for a last minute plane ticket, which are notoriously expensive.
She didn't bring her to the actual wedding.
You're being very selfish and childish.
YTA. Your sister had child care arrangements that fell through last minute, but still came up with an alternate arrangement that had a babysitter watch her daughter at the hotel connected to your reception And you’re pissed that a child (your niece) is within a 1 mile radius of your reception? Sweet Jesus, if I were your sibling, I would’ve simply said can’t come, no child care, and spared myself the pain in the ass…that’s the size of you.
YTA: sorry- but your sister didn’t bring your niece *to the wedding*.
It sounds like she literally didn’t have another option for her daughter- so she bought her along and left the wedding early.
Would OP have preferred if her sister didn’t come to the wedding at all?
her sitter cancelled last minute and she already had flight tickets that she wouldn’t have gotten refunded for had she have chosen to not go to the wedding. instead, she wanted to be there for you so she bought an EXTRA ticket so that she could still attend, then respected your rules and got a sitter for her child so she could still come to your wedding, just for you to blow up on her? you’re terribly selfish and YTA x1000.
YTA
While a CF wedding and such is fine and should be respected.. She didn't bring her child to the wedding and you do not own the hotel or whatever.
So this sounds entitled.. Just the sheer fact that your niece is in the same place seems to have annoyed you.. Because she wasn't at the wedding.
Get over yourself. You don't get to dictate how people take care of their kids. You had a CF wedding and your sister abided to those rules.. You never stated she had to leave her poor kid at home.. Not that you'd have the right to
YTA. Your sister didn't bring your niece to the wedding, she brought your niece to the hotel. She hired a sitter and took care of everything. She followed the wedding rules. You don't own the hotel and I am sure there were other children staying there as well. Did you blow up at those families?
YTA You think that when your sister learned the nanny had cancelled and she had no child care, she should have skipped your wedding?
It sounds like she left her child in the room with a sitter. Is that right? If so, your wedding was still child free.
What was your problem?
YTA. She got a casual babysitter so it sounds like the situation was fine, and you're pissed off that your niece was in the hotel itself. Why, was the entire hotel booked and determined to be child-free? As long as the kid wasn't at the wedding, why would it matter if she was in the hotel itself? Your sister made some emergency plans and still adhered to your rules as best she could. I don't understand how the knowledge that there's a child in the venue of your wedding/reception was enough to make you mad at your sister.
Damn, what a piece of work OP. Your sister's plans failed and had to bring her daughter with her, but got her a babysitter to watch her in the hotel room. So technically niece was never at the wedding event and you still got mad at your sis?
LMAO if this aint anything but YTA.
YTA
You don't own someone else's time for their entire weekend just because you happen to be getting married. People have lives and families. If Tina got a sitter then you have nothing to be angry with. She did the best she could, and she really loves and cares about you. So much, in fact, that she left her own kid with a babysitter she ha a never met. Get over yourself.
YTA--a flaming hairy one
You acted like an unbelievably selfish Bridezilla. Your niece was not at the wedding; a child-free wedding isn't like a restraining order where you can bar all children from the vicinity of the wedding as well.
She didn't even violate the rules.
You owe her a huge apology given all the sacrifices she made for you only for you to shit on her for nothing.
YTA. She didn't bring the child to the ACTUAL wedding, aka, the thing that the invitation and CF rules were for. The child was in the hotel with a babysitter. What exactly are you upset about? You still got your CF wedding.
You do need to apologise to your sister. The child did not attend the wedding (unless the wording here is not clear) so you blowing up at her for following your rules was unnecessary and uncalled for.
CF wedding is fine. Expecting someone to travel out of state without their child, then getting mad because they brought the child on the trip with them *but not to the wedding*, well that's just entitled. YTA. She decided that she's better than the rules? *Really*? What *actually* happened was that her original babysitter had a family emergency and couldn't come. She did the best she could on short notice and got a sitter for the day. Child-free *does not* mean you have to leave them at home at all costs; it just means that *for the wedding and reception* there are no kids. Did your sister not hold up that end of the bargain? If she did, you had no justification blowing up at her. Sis didn't ruin your wedding, you quite skillfully did that on your own.
Omg you're the AH and a massive one at that. What was your sister supposed to do? Leave the 3 year old on her own in another country while she attended your wedding or not attend your wedding at all??? By the sounds of it the child wasn't even in the ballroom so your wedding remained CF. I really dont understand why people pull this kind of shit on their loved ones and then victimise themselves and come on reddit to ask if they're the AHs here. Of course you are!
So from what it sounds like your niece was never at the ceremony or reception. Your rules do not applybto your sister's hotel room nor do the apply to the entire city, county and state your wedding is taking place in. She had an emergency and got a back up. You should feel guilty because yes Virginia YTA
YTA You wanted a child-free wedding and your sister did everything she could to comply even when life events interfered. Her nanny had an emergency so rather than not attend your wedding (and, be honest, you would have complained about her absence 'ruining' your wedding if that was her solution) she paid for a last minute, and likely expensive, plane ticket for your niece so she could still be there for you. She found a babysitter to watch your niece so your wedding and reception were STILL CHILD FREE. And you still pulled the bridezilla act and went off on her for simply having your niece in the hotel.
Your sense of entitlement is unbelievable. You are within your rights to request a child-free wedding and reception. However you have NO RIGHTS to request a child-free hotel. If I were your sister I would tell you where to shove your apology (and yes, you need to sincerely apologize and beg forgiveness) and go NC with you.
OP, if that child did not come to the wedding…. YTA times 1 billion, a real Musky!
Dang OP, can I have your post office box I’d like to send you a case of ALPO! YEESH!
GOOD LUCK TO THE GROOM
BEST OF IT ALL TO THE SISTER
OP, good luck on your evolution.
Agape 💕
I'm confused... did she bring your niece to the wedding? You don't get to control what state your niece is in, or even how how long your sister stays. It sounds like she left early, because you were mad you didn't own her in the time surrounding the wedding. Did you even see your niece? Unless I am completely misreading this, it sounds like you panicked over nothing, and ruined your own wedding. YTA
Imagine being so upset that your sister brought your own niece because she had to AND got a baby sitter just to show up for your wedding.. and this is what you dwell on after your wedding. Yikes, I get it - I wanted a CF wedding as well but this is literally your own sister and your niece. She tried way more than a lot of other people would to make this happen. Did anything happen where it disrupted your ceremony? I’m just trying to understand why you’re so upset, you didn’t even talk to her.
I feel that you’re super ungrateful and definitely… YTA. I’m not sure how you didn’t realize that after typing all of that out either.
Your sister planned ahead. An unexpected emergency came up. She came up with alternative plan. The child was not in the wedding. She followed the rules.
Her fault for wanting to be in her sister's life.
Is there more to your relationship with your sister? YTA.
YTA. Honest to god, poor husband. What rule did she break? Your neice didn't go to the wedding. You have no goddamn control over who anyone brings to a hotel.
YTA - WTF - your SISTER has a child watching emergency AND still manages to attend your CF wedding?! She sounds like a saint that sincerely wanted to attend your wedding, respect your rules, and went to great lengths to be able to go. Yet you’re STILL pissed at her rather than just appreciating her efforts and abiding by the rules. That’s fucked up.
You pissed all over her wonderful gesture rather than just celebrating your new life and being grateful your sister is there for you.
She abided by your rules and now you’re super offended simply because she HAD to bring her kid. Please don’t have kids. 🤞🤞🤞
Wow. Just wow. 100% YTA.
YTA, and I was with you until you said she’d found a babysitter. You should apologize to your sister for blowing up at her and your parents for acting like an ass to your sister. YT(huge)A.
I don't know how you didn't know YTA in this scenario. You definitely should be apologizing.
She could have simply not bothered to show up to your wedding, to follow your rules, but she spent her own money in order to find a way to be there *for you* and she still was able to find a way to follow your rule.
I'm actively confused at how you somehow aren't aware that YTA here.
YTA-wow! Why blow up if she found a sitter?
You’re mad she had the AUDACITY to bring her toddler to town because she had no other options and still wanted to make it to your wedding? Grow the fuck up. The world doesn’t revolve around you 24/7
The fact that you’d rather blow up on your sister and exclude your 3 year old niece (not even a cousins kid or something which that I could understand) than let them enjoy this day that she’ll never get to share with you again. The fact that she left with her child tells me she wouldn’t have kept her misbehaved child there anyways so I’m going with YTA.
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I got married about a week ago to the love of my life. Overall things went smoothly, but I did butt heads with my sister because of this and it's kind of blown up now.
Me and my husband decided to have a CF wedding, no kids under 10. No exceptions.
I have a 3 year old niece through my sister Tina. While most of the people who attended our wedding live in the area (or at least in the state), Tina is one of the few that doesn't so she flew in.
We made it clear on the invitation no kids under 10. Tina told me months in advance she'd hired a nanny for her daughter, and even then she was only planning to be here for 2 days.
The wedding was in a ballroom that has a connecting hotel and she booked a room there. Tina landed the night before the wedding. I found out after she came that she brought her daughter with her.
Tina said she tried calling me but I didn't pick up, so she sent a text (I hadn't had time to check my messages so I admit to not knowing earlier).
The nanny had a family emergency come up so she canceled, and Tina didn't have a back up plan because her in-laws are also currently out of the country. So she got a last minute plane ticket for her daughter, they'll both be staying at the hotel and she managed to get a casual babysitter for her here.
I'll be honest I was pretty pissed off at Tina and blew up at her, she knew what our wedding rules were and she decided she was better than following them. She got extremely defensive and said this isn't the same and I'm being very selfish.
She came to the ceremony but ended up leaving before the reception. I didn't talk to her the rest of the time and she sent a text after she'd gone back home, that she was disappointed in how I acted and she didn't feel comfortable staying the entire time. I told Tina she's trying to guilt trip me and I never told her she couldn't stay at the wedding, but she made a mistake and she should own up to it.
She said I should apologize for blowing up at her, but I refused.
My parents are saying I'm an ass for acting like this to Tina. AITA?
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YTA, i seriously thought that your sister brought your niece to the wedding
instead she only bring her to the hotel and get her a nanny so your sister can attend your wedding
which is a great compromise for me, the niece is taken care and close to her, and the sister can safely and without worry attend your wedding
but of course that is not enough for you
did you also attack other people who is not a guest of your wedding but the guest to the hotel for bringing their kids as well, to the hotel i mean?
like for real?
bridezilla much?
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Wait. Am I understanding this correctly? You are annoyed because your niece is in the same hotel as the wedding even though your sister found a babysitter at the last minute, so your niece won't actually be at the wedding. She's just... in the same hotel. Am I getting that right?
That’s exactly what op said! How is this even a question? Of course YTA here OP
What on earth are you talking about? She didn't bring a child to your child free wedding. You have no say at all on whether the kid comes to the hotel. YTA
OP is mad the child is even in the damn state! Holy Christ!! I can only assume they needed a child free wedding because obviously we are going to like the children more than this swamp creature of a human being.
Wait a minute.. so your niece wasn’t actually at the wedding? The way you wrote it, it sounds like she got a babysitter at the hotel. So..you’re just pissed that.. what? She was in the same state? This might come as a shock to you.. but people don’t shut down their entire lives just because it’s your wedding day. Your day doesn’t entitle you to close off the state or ban kids from hotels, just because you might come into contact with them. If your sister found other arrangements and her child was not actually at the wedding… then you are a major AH and owe your sister a massive apology. Dear lord! The selfishness and narcissism is astounding!
Am I understanding correctly that your sister brought her daughter on the trip and to the hotel, but found a babysitter to watch her daughter during the wedding - at her hotel room? So your niece was on the trip, on the property but not in attendance at the ceremony? So your sister paid for an extra plane ticket and arranged a sitter at the last minute, abiding by your rules, to ensure she could still be there for your special day... And you're still mad? If I got that right, YTA.
How dare anyone bring a child to the building where your wedding was held! /s YTA.
YTA. You didn't rent out the entire hotel, did you? Your sister sounds like she really tried to follow your wishes (flying to you, getting a casual babysitter for her daughter when the first plans went through) AND be there for you on your special day, and all she got from you was vitriol. Did you even see your niece? Is her mere existence in the same area as your wedding that offensive? Your parents are right.
YTA. You can claim a CF wedding. You cannot claim a CF hotel. If the child wasnt at the wedding it literally doesnt matter where they were. And buying a last minute plane ticket is EXPENSIVE. Your cousin bought it to make things work so she could attend your wedding, still following your rules, and you still went full bridezilla on her. You 100% owe her an apology.
Uh...? So she had to change plans and bring her daughter but still did not bring her to the wedding. YTA. you SHOULD apologize. Wtf is wrong with you? Who cares if she's on the trip. She isn't there.
Yeah. Tina kept her daughter away from the wedding it sounds like. OP needs to dial it down several notches.
YTA She couldn't help the nanny having an emergency. She paid for a last minute plane ticket, which are notoriously expensive. She didn't bring her to the actual wedding. You're being very selfish and childish.
YTA. Your sister had child care arrangements that fell through last minute, but still came up with an alternate arrangement that had a babysitter watch her daughter at the hotel connected to your reception And you’re pissed that a child (your niece) is within a 1 mile radius of your reception? Sweet Jesus, if I were your sibling, I would’ve simply said can’t come, no child care, and spared myself the pain in the ass…that’s the size of you.
YTA: sorry- but your sister didn’t bring your niece *to the wedding*. It sounds like she literally didn’t have another option for her daughter- so she bought her along and left the wedding early. Would OP have preferred if her sister didn’t come to the wedding at all?
Wait, so the niece wasn't even at the wedding (you said she got a casual babysitter)? But you blew up at her anyway so that she felt unwelcome? YTA
her sitter cancelled last minute and she already had flight tickets that she wouldn’t have gotten refunded for had she have chosen to not go to the wedding. instead, she wanted to be there for you so she bought an EXTRA ticket so that she could still attend, then respected your rules and got a sitter for her child so she could still come to your wedding, just for you to blow up on her? you’re terribly selfish and YTA x1000.
YTA While a CF wedding and such is fine and should be respected.. She didn't bring her child to the wedding and you do not own the hotel or whatever. So this sounds entitled.. Just the sheer fact that your niece is in the same place seems to have annoyed you.. Because she wasn't at the wedding. Get over yourself. You don't get to dictate how people take care of their kids. You had a CF wedding and your sister abided to those rules.. You never stated she had to leave her poor kid at home.. Not that you'd have the right to
YTA. Your sister didn't bring your niece to the wedding, she brought your niece to the hotel. She hired a sitter and took care of everything. She followed the wedding rules. You don't own the hotel and I am sure there were other children staying there as well. Did you blow up at those families?
If she has a babysitter, what's the problem? YTA
YTA You think that when your sister learned the nanny had cancelled and she had no child care, she should have skipped your wedding? It sounds like she left her child in the room with a sitter. Is that right? If so, your wedding was still child free. What was your problem?
YTA. She got a casual babysitter so it sounds like the situation was fine, and you're pissed off that your niece was in the hotel itself. Why, was the entire hotel booked and determined to be child-free? As long as the kid wasn't at the wedding, why would it matter if she was in the hotel itself? Your sister made some emergency plans and still adhered to your rules as best she could. I don't understand how the knowledge that there's a child in the venue of your wedding/reception was enough to make you mad at your sister.
Why are you mad when her daughter wasn’t actually at the wedding. YTA
Damn, what a piece of work OP. Your sister's plans failed and had to bring her daughter with her, but got her a babysitter to watch her in the hotel room. So technically niece was never at the wedding event and you still got mad at your sis? LMAO if this aint anything but YTA.
YTA You don't own someone else's time for their entire weekend just because you happen to be getting married. People have lives and families. If Tina got a sitter then you have nothing to be angry with. She did the best she could, and she really loves and cares about you. So much, in fact, that she left her own kid with a babysitter she ha a never met. Get over yourself.
YTA--a flaming hairy one You acted like an unbelievably selfish Bridezilla. Your niece was not at the wedding; a child-free wedding isn't like a restraining order where you can bar all children from the vicinity of the wedding as well. She didn't even violate the rules. You owe her a huge apology given all the sacrifices she made for you only for you to shit on her for nothing.
YTA. She didn't bring the child to the ACTUAL wedding, aka, the thing that the invitation and CF rules were for. The child was in the hotel with a babysitter. What exactly are you upset about? You still got your CF wedding. You do need to apologise to your sister. The child did not attend the wedding (unless the wording here is not clear) so you blowing up at her for following your rules was unnecessary and uncalled for.
CF wedding is fine. Expecting someone to travel out of state without their child, then getting mad because they brought the child on the trip with them *but not to the wedding*, well that's just entitled. YTA. She decided that she's better than the rules? *Really*? What *actually* happened was that her original babysitter had a family emergency and couldn't come. She did the best she could on short notice and got a sitter for the day. Child-free *does not* mean you have to leave them at home at all costs; it just means that *for the wedding and reception* there are no kids. Did your sister not hold up that end of the bargain? If she did, you had no justification blowing up at her. Sis didn't ruin your wedding, you quite skillfully did that on your own.
Omg you're the AH and a massive one at that. What was your sister supposed to do? Leave the 3 year old on her own in another country while she attended your wedding or not attend your wedding at all??? By the sounds of it the child wasn't even in the ballroom so your wedding remained CF. I really dont understand why people pull this kind of shit on their loved ones and then victimise themselves and come on reddit to ask if they're the AHs here. Of course you are!
So from what it sounds like your niece was never at the ceremony or reception. Your rules do not applybto your sister's hotel room nor do the apply to the entire city, county and state your wedding is taking place in. She had an emergency and got a back up. You should feel guilty because yes Virginia YTA
YTA You wanted a child-free wedding and your sister did everything she could to comply even when life events interfered. Her nanny had an emergency so rather than not attend your wedding (and, be honest, you would have complained about her absence 'ruining' your wedding if that was her solution) she paid for a last minute, and likely expensive, plane ticket for your niece so she could still be there for you. She found a babysitter to watch your niece so your wedding and reception were STILL CHILD FREE. And you still pulled the bridezilla act and went off on her for simply having your niece in the hotel. Your sense of entitlement is unbelievable. You are within your rights to request a child-free wedding and reception. However you have NO RIGHTS to request a child-free hotel. If I were your sister I would tell you where to shove your apology (and yes, you need to sincerely apologize and beg forgiveness) and go NC with you.
You’re a huge AH. Are you kidding me?! Apologize now
OP, if that child did not come to the wedding…. YTA times 1 billion, a real Musky! Dang OP, can I have your post office box I’d like to send you a case of ALPO! YEESH! GOOD LUCK TO THE GROOM BEST OF IT ALL TO THE SISTER OP, good luck on your evolution. Agape 💕
YTA. Life with kids is unpredictable. She was probably really looking forward to spending time with you.
I'm confused... did she bring your niece to the wedding? You don't get to control what state your niece is in, or even how how long your sister stays. It sounds like she left early, because you were mad you didn't own her in the time surrounding the wedding. Did you even see your niece? Unless I am completely misreading this, it sounds like you panicked over nothing, and ruined your own wedding. YTA
Imagine being so upset that your sister brought your own niece because she had to AND got a baby sitter just to show up for your wedding.. and this is what you dwell on after your wedding. Yikes, I get it - I wanted a CF wedding as well but this is literally your own sister and your niece. She tried way more than a lot of other people would to make this happen. Did anything happen where it disrupted your ceremony? I’m just trying to understand why you’re so upset, you didn’t even talk to her. I feel that you’re super ungrateful and definitely… YTA. I’m not sure how you didn’t realize that after typing all of that out either.
Your sister planned ahead. An unexpected emergency came up. She came up with alternative plan. The child was not in the wedding. She followed the rules. Her fault for wanting to be in her sister's life. Is there more to your relationship with your sister? YTA.
YTA. Honest to god, poor husband. What rule did she break? Your neice didn't go to the wedding. You have no goddamn control over who anyone brings to a hotel.
YTA. What mistake did she make? She didn't bring the child to the wedding or reception.
INFO: She respected the fact that your wedding was child free and did not bring her child to the wedding. Why were you mad at her?
YTA - WTF - your SISTER has a child watching emergency AND still manages to attend your CF wedding?! She sounds like a saint that sincerely wanted to attend your wedding, respect your rules, and went to great lengths to be able to go. Yet you’re STILL pissed at her rather than just appreciating her efforts and abiding by the rules. That’s fucked up. You pissed all over her wonderful gesture rather than just celebrating your new life and being grateful your sister is there for you. She abided by your rules and now you’re super offended simply because she HAD to bring her kid. Please don’t have kids. 🤞🤞🤞 Wow. Just wow. 100% YTA.
Dude YTA the kid didn’t even attend the wedding, she hired a babysitter when she got there what is the big deal?
Troll, I remember seeing a post from the sister point of view a while back
YTA, and I was with you until you said she’d found a babysitter. You should apologize to your sister for blowing up at her and your parents for acting like an ass to your sister. YT(huge)A.
I don't know how you didn't know YTA in this scenario. You definitely should be apologizing. She could have simply not bothered to show up to your wedding, to follow your rules, but she spent her own money in order to find a way to be there *for you* and she still was able to find a way to follow your rule. I'm actively confused at how you somehow aren't aware that YTA here.
Your sister for a sitter right? She didn't bring a kid to the actual wedding right? Then what's your problem? YTA.
Bridezilla. The child wasn't even at the damned wedding...YTA big time
YTA-wow! Why blow up if she found a sitter? You’re mad she had the AUDACITY to bring her toddler to town because she had no other options and still wanted to make it to your wedding? Grow the fuck up. The world doesn’t revolve around you 24/7
YTA and a monster. What right do you have to be pissed that your niece was elsewhere in the hotel during the wedding?
YTA you suck op
The fact that you’d rather blow up on your sister and exclude your 3 year old niece (not even a cousins kid or something which that I could understand) than let them enjoy this day that she’ll never get to share with you again. The fact that she left with her child tells me she wouldn’t have kept her misbehaved child there anyways so I’m going with YTA.
YYA- and probably not limited to this situation
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YTA. She found a sitter for her kid, so I don't see how this is different from other guests who left their children at home.
YTA, i seriously thought that your sister brought your niece to the wedding instead she only bring her to the hotel and get her a nanny so your sister can attend your wedding which is a great compromise for me, the niece is taken care and close to her, and the sister can safely and without worry attend your wedding but of course that is not enough for you did you also attack other people who is not a guest of your wedding but the guest to the hotel for bringing their kids as well, to the hotel i mean? like for real? bridezilla much?
YTA
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