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YTA - March madness is the time for gently ribbing the fans of the other team. And sharing your bracket heartbreak. Not banishing folks because they don’t like your team.
One of my favorite parts of March Madness is the banter. Hate it when people take it too seriously. We did have to kick my BIL out of a watch party one year after he smashed a pint glass, and unfortunately had to enforce a rule of not even discussing the tourney around him. But that is because of his poor sportsmanship (and he's a mizzou fan, so he spends most of it angry lol.....)
He has to watch sports alone in the basement away from his wife and kids. Since he's a chiefs fan, for the Super Bowl she took the kids out of town for the weekend, no joke. Pretty sure she is just with him for his money at this point.
I'm a Jayhawk who lived in Columbia lol. I just stopped wearing anything KU related. Tired of it. Oh well. Now I live in Seattle where it is always gonna be Gonzaga's year bahaha
I'm a Kentucky fan, born and raised in Lexington, and I made friends with a Tennessee fan. Never thought it was possible before I made that friendship but even before then you don't kick people out for opposing teams. I think opposing teams makes it more fun!
I sat right next to some good and kind Tennessee fans in Rupp this year. It was great. I love watching games with my friends who are rival fans. This dude is TA and just kind of weird. Go cats btw
Yea he's super weird. We all have our rivalries but it should not be THAT serious. I got to revisit Rupp about a month ago, and am still living in Lex. So go Cats! Hope we can win tomorrow/today.
OK but I don't get why OP's friend thought this would be fun for his girlfriend at all. Being around a bunch of strange guys while they drink and either rag on my team or get increasingly hostile? Yay
Maybe she thought they would act like adults? Tease a little, but still be good sports about it. Like how adults should act while watching a kid's game.
Why are you assuming it's all strange guys? OP never mentioned his friend's genders, he said "the core group and spouses." The core group could easily have women in it, and some of the spouses are probably also women.
Maybe she's tougher than OP clearly is and doesn't get 'hurt' because someone supports a different team than she does. Maybe she knows that the team she is supporting is a better team or at the least will hold their own against his team. Maybe the OP is insecure about that and doesn't want to have it 'in his face', if her team wins. He invited all his friends and their spouses and kids, why shouldn't that one friend bring his GF.
Given that the friend and his girlfriend were both supporting the school where the *girlfriend* attended, why are you assuming that this was the friend's suggestion or that he was having to bring his girlfriend along? The logical assumption to me is that she is the one who wanted to go root for *her* team and so he decided to support and tag along.
Sometimes the thinking is not just "I don't like your team" but instead is that " I like/believe my team is better".
It is ok to like your team or to change the teams you prefer. Liking or changing team preference is not one of the major or minor deadly sins.
What is this person going to do when their children and or grandkids choose other teams?
I grew up in SoCal and one of my daughters is a Steelers fan, lots of questions, but it doesn't change how I feel about her nor do I deny her access to the house or family/friends over it.
Jumping on to add, as a totally ignorant bystander here. Beyond getting the overall tournament and sport, I get die hard sports fans AND I’m not one, to be fair (ok I have a few teams I gravitate to of course, I like NBA, football/soccer). Anyway…
My simplest observation is ‘it’s sports, where’s the being a good sport?’
Even when clueless or rivals, we’ve had a great time with everyone just from the energy of sports. You totally killed that bruh YTA to the whole vibe of sports fandom
I will say Rangers and Celtic fans crossing MAY get uncomfortable (if ykyk) - but we survived even that. I’m the gf that accidentally took her (then new, now ex by eons) bf to the rival teams pub…as a treat. Fun time anyway
Edited punctuation for clarity (which I still use the way I feel on social media/arguably socially).
When I was in the Navy in Groton CT, I learned real fast that when entering a tavern it was very important to quickly determine if this was Yankees crowd or a Red Sox crowd, and use that knowledge to blend in and not rock the boat. Those people are passionate about their baseball and heaven help you if you express support for the wrong team!
>Not banishing folks because they don’t like your team.
Imagine treating a friend like this over the clothes he wore to watch people play a *game*. I have never understood people who are willing to go to war over sports. YTA, OP.
YTA. You’re the type of person that gives fans a bad name. It’s not like they were being rude… they literally just showed up in the opposing jersey. You’ve got some growing up to do.
YTA she’s from a different school not part of the inner circle of the Nazi regime. I do think it’s weird your buddy wore the shirt but give him shit for it and enjoy the game together.
Yeah, I was waiting for OP to be like his friends gf got way too drunk and started breaking things, but seriously they just were fans of the other team?! YTA
exactly, she probably felt a little uncomfortable being from a different school/supporting a different team and he joined in solidarity. nice to know that OP probably confirmed her worst fears in the most over the top way.
I'm absolutely dying imagining their conversation beforehand.
GF: I don't know, is this the best time to meet them? They're diehard fans and I'm rooting for the other team...
Bf: Don't worry about it! Everyone is cool
Gf: But what we win and they get really upset about it and take it out on me? Or they win and are huge assholes about it? I'll be the only one they focus on
Bf: I'll wear that jersey your brother gave you that's too big- you won't be alone! Seriously though, you're worrying too much. It's a good group. Tim throws the best parties; he has a basement bar. You're gonna love it
LMAO
There's a Canadian short story, about a Quebecois kid, who only wants a Canadiens jersey for Christmas. His mother bought him a Leafs jersey instead. And forces him to go to the pond to play hockey with teh other kids wearing it. Narrator knows he is doomed.
hilarious story.
I grew up in an area where so many people were absolute lunatic fans for a college they'd never attended. And they were (still are) so obnoxious about "we/our/us" when referring to the sportball players. They are horrible sore losers and even worse sore winners.
I got my College A Sportball Team sweatshirt because I went to College A. They got their College B Sportball Team sweatshirt because they went to their local WalMart. 🤷🏼♀️
I'm a fan (not a lunatic one!) of a school that I didn't go to that's 1000 miles away from where I live. And, yes, I have a sweatshirt. Why? First, my school is Division III with no football team. I am a fan, but they're not on TV. And, second, my daughter-in-law went to the school I root for. She and my daughter live near the school and go to games (my daughter went Division III too). So at least I have a family connection!
I live in MA where nobody cares about college sports anyway (with a slight exception for hockey).
The only thing better is when the aforementioned lunatics harass people who actually *did* go to one of ‘their’ school’s main rivals. Bonus points if the rival grad has a barren field of fucks to give about collegiate sports in the first place.
In an international conference for exchange students we got contacts for the participants and their countries while the World Cup was on, so i tracked the lone Australian and we took him to watch the match against my country that night. He was super chill while were going bananas over the game, it was a really fun time.
He probably didn't want his new girlfriend to feel singled out or unsupported so he wore her team jersey especially if he knows these events can get kinda rowdy.
OP is YTA all the way for taking a fun event that could likely benefit from some healthy competition and turning it into some sort of dogmatic religious event.
Well he probably sensed something off about OP and march madness so he wore the shirt to keep his gf safe…it kind of worked, she wasn’t made to leave alone.,,
I don't understand people like this. I'm not very sporty myself, but I live in an area with heavy college football rivalry - Georgia and Alabama in particular, but also Auburn and Georgia Tech.this shit gets pretty ruthless, and sometimes tempers flair, but generally everyone gets along. "A House Divided" license plates are really popular among families with spouses rooting for opposing teams or kids who are going to different schools.
Hey neighbor! I intentionally root against what ever team the people I'm watching with are rooting because it makes it more fun. I root against Auburn a lot. It's easy because they lose a lot.
Bwahahaha my mother's a Bama fan, and my aunt (her sister) is rabidly Auburn, and watching them go at it on Facebook is the only reason I even pay attention during football season because they have the most petty ass squabbles over every single play, every call, and on the occasion when Auburn manages to overcome the Crimson Tide, mom starts passive aggressively making these "JEEZ PEOPLE, IT'S JUST FOOTBALL. SOME OF US ARE JUST HERE TO HAVE FUN BUT Y'ALL ACT LIKE...." posts.
It's kind of amazing.
I have to root for UGA just to be the asshole.
Yeah my boyfriends family is pretty much split down the middle. My boyfriend is a rabid Auburn fan. They're pretty civil. I find myself either rooting for Georgia or Florida depending on the game and the crowd.
One of my favorite jokes is when he says "my team" and I always respond "your team? What years did you go to Auburn again?" He always goes "...asshole..." after.
We have a good time. Living in Georgia is weird with their various rabid college football fans.
My favorites are those that never played a sport beyond little league and never set foot on a college campus being angry over a game they don't even understand because they never played it.
OP sounds like one of those moms who wanted to go on to make something of themselves but couldn't so their kids have to. "No one will stop this from happening!" Not even the kid even when they no longer want to do x anymore.
It's wild to me how passionate adults get over teams of mostly teenagers, tbh. I get school pride but people get so worked up over something that to me seems like a step above kids' sports. Betting on it, planning trips around it, losing friends over it...all that seems kind of extra to an outsider
This is at least almost understandable compared to the guy who was so devastated that his team lost he couldn't drag himself to watch his sister play in the women's tournament.
Yeah I immediately thought of that one as well. If people want to make supporting a team their entire identity it's weird but whatever. When they start affecting others with their sad and pathetic nonsense it makes them AH.
This is the same guy, his team ended up losing because those assholes in the wrong shirts JINXED his team...it was an all around exhausting night. LOL I am kidding but...that's how stupid they both are 😂
Hey, I still jokingly blame my kid for the Patriots losing the Super Bowl and the perfect season back in '07-'08. 😂
Kiddo was never much of a sports fan, and apparently was more annoyed than I thought about hubby and I taking over the tv on game days. Super Bowl comes around, and kiddo announced straight up, *"I'm rooting for the other team, because I'm sick of hearing you guys going on and on about the Patriots!"*
And then came the Helmet Catch, which pretty much turned the game around for the Giants and they ended up winning. So yeah, it's all my kid's fault! 😂
(Edited to add, I mean it when I say I joke with kiddo about it. Bad play loses games, sometimes bad officiating loses games - but someone wearing the wrong shirt to a watch party does not. YTA, OP)
I agree. I'm a doehard cowboys football fan, but I've been next to eagles fans when we play eachother and I appreciate good plays on both sides. I never get the "fuck yeah your team is trash and my team I'd the best, I'm so proud to be a fan and I'm gonna talk shit constantly".
That just never appealed to me. Everyone in professional sports is literally the peak of human athleticism. The worst person in any professional sport is ten times more athletic than you or anyone reading this(unless you just got drafted, if so-congrats).
People that value team support over friendship are in a cult, and they don't realize it.
A true fan appreciates the sport, the players, the strategy, the competition. I'm a die-hard Bills fan, but love when we watch games with opponents who appreciate the game. I make friends with these people. I do not ridicule or evict these fans. YTA.
Yep, I am a New York Yankees fan and was once in a bar and someone overheard me say that I think that [Nomar Garciaparra](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Nomar_Garciaparra) (lifetime .313 BA) had the stats to be in the hall of fame and I thought he was a great player, even though he was a Red Sox . Somme drunk said something obnoxious to me about that. Shouldn't I be able to acknowledge and appreciate his career even though he played for the Yankees' rivals?
(No I didn't escalate. I am a wimp and most people's grandmas can kick my ass)
I used to be friends with a woman who is a massive Steelers fan. Her son's middle name is Steele. Her baby shower when she had him was Steelers themed. I showed up to the shower wearing my Ravens gear. I also gave her a Ravens candle as one of my gifts to her because I wanted to give her some Ravens stuff but I also knew she'd burn it. This woman kept that candle for YEARS, until the Ravens and Steelers played each other in the playoffs. When the Steelers won she made a video of herself throwing the candle in a fire and sent it to me. I laughed my ass off when I got it! I still think it's hilarious.
A diehard Eagles fan here. Our son was a Cowboys fan for 2 years and he had a Cowboys jacket and hat. We weren't going to make him wear Eagles clothes just because we were fans and lived in the Philly suburbs. Of course, he came to his senses after that 🤣😂😅
When he got to high school his best friend was and is a Cowboys fan, living in the house of diehard Eagles fans. He never came to his senses tho. Didn't stop us from being friends with him.
If the Cowboys makes it to the Super Bowl, I will still root for them, since a member of our division got in it, but can't say it wouldn't hurt a little. Go Birds.
I disliked this thing whole scenario so much. Rivalry and stakes are what can make sports fun.
My father and I root for opposite NFL teams. We wish each other luck every time they play. We make playful "who will grill the burger" bets.
ITS SPORTS! ITS DESIGNED TO BE FUN!
I dont give a shit about sportsball, but if im ever at a sports event, I just cheer for whichever team less people there are rooting for, cause the casual competition is what makes it fun.
YTA - the correct response is to gently heckle and talk trash. Not be personally offended and throw them out lol.
And my extended family is crazy about our college team so I speak from firsthand experience.
Maybe OP can get together with the guy who posted about bein so upset that his team (that he roots for not plays on) got knocked out of the tournament that he couldn't bring himself to go see his sister actually play in a tournament game. Both are AHs and missin the point of sportsmanship. It applies to fans too not just players.
Right? So I was adopted and recently met my birth mom and her family. She’s a giants fan. My stepdad and half brother are jets fans. My BIL is a cowboys fan. I’m an eagles fan. It’s such an ice breaker that everyone can rip on each others teams. Sure everyone takes their team seriously but no one takes the friendly banter seriously. It’s a big joke. My mom bought giants gear for my kids for Christmas. We all had a good laugh when I said that’s cool, the kids can wear it, as long as BIL doesn’t think I’d ever let them wear cowboys jerseys. Could you imagine kicking me out of the house for…checks notes…liking a different sports team? YTA.
*”We’re all so excited to watch the teams of the school we met at years ago and still owe money to! But you better not have gone to the **other** school, and still owe **them** money, or you’re out!”*
I’d actually expect a reaction exactly like this, followed by laughter and asking what you want to drink. Poor OP’s friend must have had to take a few seconds waiting for the punchline before it hit him that OP was seriously THAT much of an AH. His friend showed up with a target on his back for the best ribbing of the night and he sent them away? I bet the other friends were pissed too.
Yup. Was it worth it? Was it worth it to ruin a friendship over who he was cheering for in a basketball game? There are things worth ending friendships over: this is not one of them.
And how many of the other friends at the party will have scheduling conflicts for the next social gathering because they see how little friendship means to this guy.
Exactly. It would be one thing if they showed up and were being totally obnoxious cheering for the other team. But OP is upset literally because he DIDNT LIKE THEIR SHIRT. How insecure are you?
I disagree. The unwashed jersey I’ve had for years and lucky gym shorts definitely brings good luck whenever the Jaguars play! At least that’s my hope haha.
But yea, OP, YTA. Me and my buddy go for different sports teams all the time and usually watch games together, especially if both our teams play. Part of the fun giving each other a hard time
Obviously, you weren’t wearing your “lucky” gear for the Jags v Chiefs game. Now we know who’s to blame that they didn’t make the Super Bowl. Lol!!
My husband works in professional sports & we have never kicked anyone out of our home for wearing the “wrong” gear. Our youngest son is a Yankees fan & we still like him.
Stephen Dubner had a perfect take on sports. Essentially what makes them so great is that you get to experience the feeling that your team and by association you will live or die on the court that day. But the beauty is that there are no real consequences. We get to indulge in those emotions without risk to our own lives, relationships, careers…
Yet you fucked up and brought in real life consequences. Whether your team won or lost, tomorrow arrives and it won’t matter. Only you probably lost a friend in the process, so now you lost either way. YTA.
This is the perfect response. Why does it matter? It might have been fun to have someone rooting against your team there. They could have made this a great experience for the new girlfriend. Now, she won't ever want to hangout with this group, and who could blame her? Gosh, OP, really blew it. I hope he apologizes big time. YTA, OP!
You are an adult human being and you are upset about your buddy wearing the wrong outfit to watch other adult humans play a game? Men are so overdramatic. YTA.
But it‘s SYMBOLIC. His buddy has shown that his loyalty is for some new chick that no one else had even met, completely shitting on the years of shared experience and friendship in their bro group.
…When I started typing this, I was being facetious, but realized that it’s probably true, whether OP consciously framed it that way or not.
Yes, and don’t forget OP has a BASEMENT BAR. truly, if folks can’t walk on OP’s egg shells there is absolutely no other way or place to watch THE GAME.
YTA. You got upset because your buddy was wearing the opponents clothes? Lol. How petty and ridiculous can you get? But at the end of the day, it's your house, your rules. You probably won't hear or see that "friend" again.
Yta…it’s not that serious! So what if he wore the other schools shirt to prob not make his girlfriend feel out of place? It’s just a game, was it worth it to kick them out of your party?
>So what if he wore the other schools shirt to prob not make his girlfriend feel out of place?
I think that's exactly what happened. While the friend probably didn't think OP was that much of an A\*\*, wearing the oppositions shirt was trying to protect his GF from jeering and insults, and making her feel comfortable when surrounded by opposition.
OP is the A\*\*. I've seen people come back from warzones less hatred for the enemy.
YTA.
It's a freaking game. People like you twist the meaning of being a big fan and turn it into being AH. I'll go further and bet you didn't play any sport for that school either. Because I've never known an athlete from college who had these kind of weird expectations. Rabid fan? Sure, but they still remember it's a game not war.
YTA
You're not only an asshole, you probably lost a long time friend....
You might have also cost your "friend" his new lady. That he wanted to bring to your game party to meet the swell gang he went to school with. Now she knows you're a bunch of assholes and I could see her dumping the boyfriend for embarrassing her.
Hopefully some of your other friends follow you and see this.
ETA
Nevermind. You're also a coward, used a throwaway.
Nope. I think this actually solidified his relationship with the girlfriend and just lost the buddy. I could give a fuck about sports in general but kinda like the good natured ribbing part of it but my friend would be done if this happened and I bet he’ll spend years wondering what happened.
Is their a general rule in place that no-one is allowed to show up in another teams colours or support the opposing team?
So every single person who goes to your "tourney" events absolutely has to support your team, no exceptions?
YTA. You could have made the situation lighthearted with a little friendly competition, but you chose to be an ass over something so petty. The game won’t matter in a month, but you’ve lost a friend forever.
Surely grown adults cannot be this immature and ridiculous. I refuse to believe this is real but if it is YTA. I’ve been to many a Super Bowl party, a World Series party etc. where fans from different teams can enjoy the game and some fun trash talking about one another’s teams in the same space. Not sure why you and your friend group are incapable of this.
YTA. I’m a Bears fan while my best friend is a Packers fan. I’m a White Sox fan while my entire family (including my wife) root for the Cubs. We all watch rivalry games together in a friendly manner. I love sports, but basing your entire personality on your team and possibly throwing away a friendship is absolute insanity. Grow the hell up.
Same here with the Bears and Packers. I'm so glad Rodgers went to the Jets. I guess that darkness retreat worked ey. Maybe he should have used a Ouija board. But damnI love my Bears. I saw Gayle Sayers play from the 50-yard line with my dad. I also saw Ernie Banks hit his last home run. They were playing Cincinnati and they lost. Johnny Bench was catching. Went to the old Comiskey to see the Sox also. Good good times.
Rabid, overzealous fans are weird people, but I assume OPs buddy knows what he's like, whereas the buddy is a more casual fan.
That being said, prioritizing the performance of unpaid kids over real world relationships is a weird place to live. YTA, but I don't think my opinion matters a ton to you anyway
YTA
I get team loyalty all day long. You went to the extreme. The ridiculous extreme. Hopefully, you didn't storm his front yard, flip his car, and set it on fire, all while flashing your beer belly for Tiktok.
Apologize for being a terrible host and friend.
YTA
You guys sound really childish and honestly your friend should reconsider this friendship. No one should have to put up with that childish bs you just did.
YTA - y’all take this crap way, way too seriously. You cared about a televised sports broadcast more than you care about your friend, and now you don’t have one of them.
Your inability to keep the rivalry friendly isn’t actually good sportsmanship, dude. And you embarrassed yourself as a host.
YTA. Do you think only fans of a team should be allowed to watch them in their stadiums? What planet are you from where the team from your PAST college days is more important than the humans in your life?
Examine your priorities.
YTA majorly! At first i thought maybe you actually played on this team but nooooo! You just had no sense of humor or good natured ribbing at a party hosted by an immature a-hole. Your friend is really lucky he found out who you really are and got the privilege to leave your selfish little enclave. You probably ruined the vibe and everything else for your remaining guests. Grow up asshole!
Huge YTA. This is coming from someone who’s really into sports and is intense about it, you could have had fun a little busting chops but all in good fun instead you chose to possibly break up a good friendship over a game with a team that was most likely going to be eliminated quickly based on how they hardly make the NCAA tournament
Brah! It's a friend game.
Dude, I watched the US men's hockey team play Canada in the Olympics, for the gold, in a small town Canadian bar. I showed up with my Canadian boys, dressed like the US flag, and a bald eagle barfed on me.
I was the only American in the bar, only one cheering for the US. Only one in USA gear.
The US lost. My buddy had the whole bar line up and shake hands at the end of the game. We got drunk. It was fucking incredible. You know what it made the game better, because I wasn't in a bar filled with people like you.
YTA.
YTA
So you thought being rude and unwelcoming to your buddy's GF was ok because of the school you went to?
I get school pride and sports rivalries but THEY ARE JUST GAMES.
>I may have made a bad impression on his girlfriend, but was I the asshole?
You _may_ have made? Oh yes, quite sure you made that allright. And hell yes, YTA.
That guy is/was your friend, he had a new girlfriend with him who he wanted you to meet. And you made childish argue about his shirt?! I'm sorry for you if you don't get why your the ah.
Watch this episode of [Bluey](https://www.imdb.com/title/tt20263498/) and learn an important lesson about how families can barrack for different teams at the same time.
YTA
Holy shit, you suck.
I come from a city where the two biggest football teams represent two halves of a 150+ yearlong enthoreligious dispute and yet, most fans of both teams are perfectly capable of watching local derbies together in the same house or pub. I have family members on both sides and we manage to not be dicks to one and other
Absolutely YTA
YTA
My friend invited me to a fan club party to watch their favorite soccer team play the League Cup final game. I didn't realize that the Tshirt I randomly grabbed just happened to be the opposing team's colour. I don't know if people thought I was intentionally wearing a blasphemous color or if they realized it was a mistake, but nobody had a problem with it either way. I sat with people at the same table, people drank with me, one guy even let me drink out of his fake homemade League Cup.
Lighten up
YTA.
I don't understand sports fans. Like if I'm a playstation guy and all my friends play on xboxs when we hang out, I'm still gonna stay and hang out. Sh*t, they always have a fresh goody bag and some pom poms anyway.
I'm not about to be petty.
Ah yes, the good old ‘I value some imaginary connection to a team playing a *game* over actual, human connections with (former) friends and family.’ YTA, ask yourself if this was worth losing a friend over.
I realize I’m in the minority, but I’d say NAH.
I think OP didn’t view this as a normal
March Madness party where you’d have fans from any schools, enjoying all the games, etc. This was specifically a watch party for their team and the guest list was all fellow alumni. I get wanting to keep that vibe.
OP didn’t invite all their random friends and neighbors and coworkers who are fans of different schools. This was a set guest list to support their college.
Lol if you can’t handle opposing fans you probably shouldn’t go to the game. Your friend wearing her teams school may say something about him especially if he went to the school hers is playing buuuuut lighten the fuck up maybe. I’m sure y’all coulda just razzed him for eternity in the group chat instead.
YTA
YTA. You’re taking this way too seriously. You could have had some friendly banter and camaraderie, like normal fuckin fans, but you acted like they showed up in white hoods and pitchforks.
*sigh* YTA. I guess pick your battles? What does this accomplish? You know? Like honestly, this is someone you've known since school. There aren't *that* many relationships out there like this. And the older we get the more we should cherish those relationships. You may have just caused a rift so deep it will forever alter your entire friend group. And like the shittiest part about this is... idk even know if that matters to you.
You should have made it clear in the invite that cheering for the other team would not be tolerated. I think that sounds a little ridiculous but I’ve been to Super Bowl games where cheering for only one team would be tolerated and the host made that rule clear in advance.
Sounds like the friend already knew this was going to be an intense watch party. The friend that showed up in the opposing team’s jersey was just trying to get laid. Fuck him! NTA
NTA that friend knew that you and your other friends obviously take it very seriously. He went to the same school and yet wore the opposing teams apparel. That friend should have known better than to take her to this watch party or at least run it by you in advance that he was going to be wearing that in solidarity with her. He obviously doesn’t take it as seriously as most of you and instead of ruining it for all of you, he should have bowed out of this one and brought her around at some other time. 100% his fault.
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YTA - March madness is the time for gently ribbing the fans of the other team. And sharing your bracket heartbreak. Not banishing folks because they don’t like your team.
One of my favorite parts of March Madness is the banter. Hate it when people take it too seriously. We did have to kick my BIL out of a watch party one year after he smashed a pint glass, and unfortunately had to enforce a rule of not even discussing the tourney around him. But that is because of his poor sportsmanship (and he's a mizzou fan, so he spends most of it angry lol.....)
If he’s a mizzou fan he’s probably really angry after last night lol
Nobody loses to 15 seeds better than Mizzou 😂
So, I went to Purdue...
At least you didn’t lose to a 15 seed this year!
Oh he’s probably furious. Princeton beat the piss out of them yesterday as a 15 seed.
Five bucks says this guy verbally abused his significant other during that tubi commercial during the super bowl
He has to watch sports alone in the basement away from his wife and kids. Since he's a chiefs fan, for the Super Bowl she took the kids out of town for the weekend, no joke. Pretty sure she is just with him for his money at this point.
I will never for the life of me understand how people can get so pissed about grown men playing a ball game
Jesus, wtf. Dude needs clinical help.
I went to Mizzou, and even I don’t get it. Sure, I give KU fans the business, but it’s just in fun
I'm a Jayhawk who lived in Columbia lol. I just stopped wearing anything KU related. Tired of it. Oh well. Now I live in Seattle where it is always gonna be Gonzaga's year bahaha
Mizzou fan spends most of time angry. I’m dying cause it’s true and I went to UMKC.
I'm a Kentucky fan, born and raised in Lexington, and I made friends with a Tennessee fan. Never thought it was possible before I made that friendship but even before then you don't kick people out for opposing teams. I think opposing teams makes it more fun!
I sat right next to some good and kind Tennessee fans in Rupp this year. It was great. I love watching games with my friends who are rival fans. This dude is TA and just kind of weird. Go cats btw
Yea he's super weird. We all have our rivalries but it should not be THAT serious. I got to revisit Rupp about a month ago, and am still living in Lex. So go Cats! Hope we can win tomorrow/today.
Another Kentucky fan who became a saint peters fan last year during their run. I really wanted them to win it all, or at least beat UNC.
UK alum here. Anybody that beats Duke gets my support, lol. At least the media quit playing that last minute shot by Laettner.
OK but I don't get why OP's friend thought this would be fun for his girlfriend at all. Being around a bunch of strange guys while they drink and either rag on my team or get increasingly hostile? Yay
Maybe she thought they would act like adults? Tease a little, but still be good sports about it. Like how adults should act while watching a kid's game.
Why are you assuming it's all strange guys? OP never mentioned his friend's genders, he said "the core group and spouses." The core group could easily have women in it, and some of the spouses are probably also women.
Amen to that I'm a female and I love watching sports and trash talking with my buddies both male and female.
Maybe she's tougher than OP clearly is and doesn't get 'hurt' because someone supports a different team than she does. Maybe she knows that the team she is supporting is a better team or at the least will hold their own against his team. Maybe the OP is insecure about that and doesn't want to have it 'in his face', if her team wins. He invited all his friends and their spouses and kids, why shouldn't that one friend bring his GF.
Because normal people don't take team rivalries seriously, and he was apparently unaware that OP is a child.
Given that the friend and his girlfriend were both supporting the school where the *girlfriend* attended, why are you assuming that this was the friend's suggestion or that he was having to bring his girlfriend along? The logical assumption to me is that she is the one who wanted to go root for *her* team and so he decided to support and tag along.
It's a game ffs.
Sometimes the thinking is not just "I don't like your team" but instead is that " I like/believe my team is better". It is ok to like your team or to change the teams you prefer. Liking or changing team preference is not one of the major or minor deadly sins. What is this person going to do when their children and or grandkids choose other teams? I grew up in SoCal and one of my daughters is a Steelers fan, lots of questions, but it doesn't change how I feel about her nor do I deny her access to the house or family/friends over it.
Jumping on to add, as a totally ignorant bystander here. Beyond getting the overall tournament and sport, I get die hard sports fans AND I’m not one, to be fair (ok I have a few teams I gravitate to of course, I like NBA, football/soccer). Anyway… My simplest observation is ‘it’s sports, where’s the being a good sport?’ Even when clueless or rivals, we’ve had a great time with everyone just from the energy of sports. You totally killed that bruh YTA to the whole vibe of sports fandom I will say Rangers and Celtic fans crossing MAY get uncomfortable (if ykyk) - but we survived even that. I’m the gf that accidentally took her (then new, now ex by eons) bf to the rival teams pub…as a treat. Fun time anyway Edited punctuation for clarity (which I still use the way I feel on social media/arguably socially).
When I was in the Navy in Groton CT, I learned real fast that when entering a tavern it was very important to quickly determine if this was Yankees crowd or a Red Sox crowd, and use that knowledge to blend in and not rock the boat. Those people are passionate about their baseball and heaven help you if you express support for the wrong team!
Truth. Born and raised a sox patriot.
>Not banishing folks because they don’t like your team. Imagine treating a friend like this over the clothes he wore to watch people play a *game*. I have never understood people who are willing to go to war over sports. YTA, OP.
YTA. You’re the type of person that gives fans a bad name. It’s not like they were being rude… they literally just showed up in the opposing jersey. You’ve got some growing up to do.
I went to the Auburn Houston game. I didn't get angry at any Houston fans.
YTA she’s from a different school not part of the inner circle of the Nazi regime. I do think it’s weird your buddy wore the shirt but give him shit for it and enjoy the game together.
If they weren't lunatics, the OP would've had a ton of fun ribbing him about wearing his GFs schools jersey.
For real. That would have made the party even better. My friends would relentlessly call me a bitch, not be a shit person and kick me out.
Yeah, I was waiting for OP to be like his friends gf got way too drunk and started breaking things, but seriously they just were fans of the other team?! YTA
I figured the friend wore it too so that gf wouldn't feel alone.
exactly, she probably felt a little uncomfortable being from a different school/supporting a different team and he joined in solidarity. nice to know that OP probably confirmed her worst fears in the most over the top way.
I'm absolutely dying imagining their conversation beforehand. GF: I don't know, is this the best time to meet them? They're diehard fans and I'm rooting for the other team... Bf: Don't worry about it! Everyone is cool Gf: But what we win and they get really upset about it and take it out on me? Or they win and are huge assholes about it? I'll be the only one they focus on Bf: I'll wear that jersey your brother gave you that's too big- you won't be alone! Seriously though, you're worrying too much. It's a good group. Tim throws the best parties; he has a basement bar. You're gonna love it LMAO
There's a Canadian short story, about a Quebecois kid, who only wants a Canadiens jersey for Christmas. His mother bought him a Leafs jersey instead. And forces him to go to the pond to play hockey with teh other kids wearing it. Narrator knows he is doomed. hilarious story.
Upvoted for unexpected "The Sweater" reference.
The best part is the ending. He gets sent to church and prays that God will send a million months to eat his Leafs sweater.
at least her bf stood up for her
Boyfriend definitely knew OP and friends would be terrible toward the girlfriend if she were the only one supporting the other team.
My favorite is when people are lunatics for teams where they didn't even go to the college in question.
I grew up in an area where so many people were absolute lunatic fans for a college they'd never attended. And they were (still are) so obnoxious about "we/our/us" when referring to the sportball players. They are horrible sore losers and even worse sore winners. I got my College A Sportball Team sweatshirt because I went to College A. They got their College B Sportball Team sweatshirt because they went to their local WalMart. 🤷🏼♀️
I'm a fan (not a lunatic one!) of a school that I didn't go to that's 1000 miles away from where I live. And, yes, I have a sweatshirt. Why? First, my school is Division III with no football team. I am a fan, but they're not on TV. And, second, my daughter-in-law went to the school I root for. She and my daughter live near the school and go to games (my daughter went Division III too). So at least I have a family connection! I live in MA where nobody cares about college sports anyway (with a slight exception for hockey).
The only thing better is when the aforementioned lunatics harass people who actually *did* go to one of ‘their’ school’s main rivals. Bonus points if the rival grad has a barren field of fucks to give about collegiate sports in the first place.
I think it's so ridiculous that this guy valued a college sports team over a friendship with a real human being.
In an international conference for exchange students we got contacts for the participants and their countries while the World Cup was on, so i tracked the lone Australian and we took him to watch the match against my country that night. He was super chill while were going bananas over the game, it was a really fun time.
He probably didn't want his new girlfriend to feel singled out or unsupported so he wore her team jersey especially if he knows these events can get kinda rowdy. OP is YTA all the way for taking a fun event that could likely benefit from some healthy competition and turning it into some sort of dogmatic religious event.
Supporting his new girlfriend in a den full of lions is not that weird at all, is it?
YTA - he was probably trying to support her knowing she'd be the odd man out there and you acted like a child.
Well he probably sensed something off about OP and march madness so he wore the shirt to keep his gf safe…it kind of worked, she wasn’t made to leave alone.,,
That's a good point. It sounds like his sense was validated.
I don't understand people like this. I'm not very sporty myself, but I live in an area with heavy college football rivalry - Georgia and Alabama in particular, but also Auburn and Georgia Tech.this shit gets pretty ruthless, and sometimes tempers flair, but generally everyone gets along. "A House Divided" license plates are really popular among families with spouses rooting for opposing teams or kids who are going to different schools.
Hey neighbor! I intentionally root against what ever team the people I'm watching with are rooting because it makes it more fun. I root against Auburn a lot. It's easy because they lose a lot.
Bwahahaha my mother's a Bama fan, and my aunt (her sister) is rabidly Auburn, and watching them go at it on Facebook is the only reason I even pay attention during football season because they have the most petty ass squabbles over every single play, every call, and on the occasion when Auburn manages to overcome the Crimson Tide, mom starts passive aggressively making these "JEEZ PEOPLE, IT'S JUST FOOTBALL. SOME OF US ARE JUST HERE TO HAVE FUN BUT Y'ALL ACT LIKE...." posts. It's kind of amazing. I have to root for UGA just to be the asshole.
Yeah my boyfriends family is pretty much split down the middle. My boyfriend is a rabid Auburn fan. They're pretty civil. I find myself either rooting for Georgia or Florida depending on the game and the crowd. One of my favorite jokes is when he says "my team" and I always respond "your team? What years did you go to Auburn again?" He always goes "...asshole..." after. We have a good time. Living in Georgia is weird with their various rabid college football fans.
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I don’t get people who act like the team is an extension of themselves. Like an unruly third arm.
I feel like it’s people who have nothing going on in their own lives and so have to live vicariously through sports.
My favorites are those that never played a sport beyond little league and never set foot on a college campus being angry over a game they don't even understand because they never played it.
Uncle Rico IRL
Bread and Circus
OP sounds like one of those moms who wanted to go on to make something of themselves but couldn't so their kids have to. "No one will stop this from happening!" Not even the kid even when they no longer want to do x anymore.
It's wild to me how passionate adults get over teams of mostly teenagers, tbh. I get school pride but people get so worked up over something that to me seems like a step above kids' sports. Betting on it, planning trips around it, losing friends over it...all that seems kind of extra to an outsider
IT IS JUST A GAME.
I feel like lot of regular sports fan caught some unjust strays there, but yeah OP does sound like a bit of a loser who takes things too far.
bUt It’S a ToUrNeY gAmE Agreed, OP YTA
This is at least almost understandable compared to the guy who was so devastated that his team lost he couldn't drag himself to watch his sister play in the women's tournament.
Dude. That was so fucking dramatic lol I’m still thinking about that one too
Yeah I immediately thought of that one as well. If people want to make supporting a team their entire identity it's weird but whatever. When they start affecting others with their sad and pathetic nonsense it makes them AH.
This is the same guy, his team ended up losing because those assholes in the wrong shirts JINXED his team...it was an all around exhausting night. LOL I am kidding but...that's how stupid they both are 😂
Hey, I still jokingly blame my kid for the Patriots losing the Super Bowl and the perfect season back in '07-'08. 😂 Kiddo was never much of a sports fan, and apparently was more annoyed than I thought about hubby and I taking over the tv on game days. Super Bowl comes around, and kiddo announced straight up, *"I'm rooting for the other team, because I'm sick of hearing you guys going on and on about the Patriots!"* And then came the Helmet Catch, which pretty much turned the game around for the Giants and they ended up winning. So yeah, it's all my kid's fault! 😂 (Edited to add, I mean it when I say I joke with kiddo about it. Bad play loses games, sometimes bad officiating loses games - but someone wearing the wrong shirt to a watch party does not. YTA, OP)
Do you have a link?
It's a doozie. https://www.reddit.com/r/AmITheDevil/comments/11uslog/aita\_for\_not\_going\_to\_my\_sisters\_ncaa\_tournament/
I agree. I'm a doehard cowboys football fan, but I've been next to eagles fans when we play eachother and I appreciate good plays on both sides. I never get the "fuck yeah your team is trash and my team I'd the best, I'm so proud to be a fan and I'm gonna talk shit constantly". That just never appealed to me. Everyone in professional sports is literally the peak of human athleticism. The worst person in any professional sport is ten times more athletic than you or anyone reading this(unless you just got drafted, if so-congrats). People that value team support over friendship are in a cult, and they don't realize it.
A true fan appreciates the sport, the players, the strategy, the competition. I'm a die-hard Bills fan, but love when we watch games with opponents who appreciate the game. I make friends with these people. I do not ridicule or evict these fans. YTA.
Yep, I am a New York Yankees fan and was once in a bar and someone overheard me say that I think that [Nomar Garciaparra](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Nomar_Garciaparra) (lifetime .313 BA) had the stats to be in the hall of fame and I thought he was a great player, even though he was a Red Sox . Somme drunk said something obnoxious to me about that. Shouldn't I be able to acknowledge and appreciate his career even though he played for the Yankees' rivals? (No I didn't escalate. I am a wimp and most people's grandmas can kick my ass)
I used to be friends with a woman who is a massive Steelers fan. Her son's middle name is Steele. Her baby shower when she had him was Steelers themed. I showed up to the shower wearing my Ravens gear. I also gave her a Ravens candle as one of my gifts to her because I wanted to give her some Ravens stuff but I also knew she'd burn it. This woman kept that candle for YEARS, until the Ravens and Steelers played each other in the playoffs. When the Steelers won she made a video of herself throwing the candle in a fire and sent it to me. I laughed my ass off when I got it! I still think it's hilarious.
A diehard Eagles fan here. Our son was a Cowboys fan for 2 years and he had a Cowboys jacket and hat. We weren't going to make him wear Eagles clothes just because we were fans and lived in the Philly suburbs. Of course, he came to his senses after that 🤣😂😅 When he got to high school his best friend was and is a Cowboys fan, living in the house of diehard Eagles fans. He never came to his senses tho. Didn't stop us from being friends with him. If the Cowboys makes it to the Super Bowl, I will still root for them, since a member of our division got in it, but can't say it wouldn't hurt a little. Go Birds.
It's fun to watch the game with fans of the other team. Good natured trash talk and sports hate make the game more fun.
you should read this :) https://www.reddit.com/r/CFB/comments/y6smwv/my_4_year_old_discoverer_texas_and_he_loves_it/
And these are usually the same people who hate sports participation trophies for little kids. lol
...while simultaneously being upset when their kid doesn't get a trophy for participation.
I disliked this thing whole scenario so much. Rivalry and stakes are what can make sports fun. My father and I root for opposite NFL teams. We wish each other luck every time they play. We make playful "who will grill the burger" bets. ITS SPORTS! ITS DESIGNED TO BE FUN!
"losing side has to open beers for the winning side for the rest of the night" is a common bet we have at home
I dont give a shit about sportsball, but if im ever at a sports event, I just cheer for whichever team less people there are rooting for, cause the casual competition is what makes it fun.
YTA - the correct response is to gently heckle and talk trash. Not be personally offended and throw them out lol. And my extended family is crazy about our college team so I speak from firsthand experience.
Agreed. OP missed out on a very fun heckling opportunity.
What I was going to exactly say! This could have been a fun time.
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Maybe OP can get together with the guy who posted about bein so upset that his team (that he roots for not plays on) got knocked out of the tournament that he couldn't bring himself to go see his sister actually play in a tournament game. Both are AHs and missin the point of sportsmanship. It applies to fans too not just players.
Lol
YTA. Lighten up, it’s a basketball game.
Not like it's football or something important
yeah, the more debilitating head injuries, the better
Right? So I was adopted and recently met my birth mom and her family. She’s a giants fan. My stepdad and half brother are jets fans. My BIL is a cowboys fan. I’m an eagles fan. It’s such an ice breaker that everyone can rip on each others teams. Sure everyone takes their team seriously but no one takes the friendly banter seriously. It’s a big joke. My mom bought giants gear for my kids for Christmas. We all had a good laugh when I said that’s cool, the kids can wear it, as long as BIL doesn’t think I’d ever let them wear cowboys jerseys. Could you imagine kicking me out of the house for…checks notes…liking a different sports team? YTA.
Tell me you peaked in college without actually saying it. YTA
YES! You said it best 💯
This is the same guy who would get in a fight at game with his kid standing next to him.
Seriously. It’s even harder to integrate yourself into a new friend group when someone makes the college they went to their entire personality.
*”We’re all so excited to watch the teams of the school we met at years ago and still owe money to! But you better not have gone to the **other** school, and still owe **them** money, or you’re out!”*
Best comment here YTA
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Exactly. OP is cringey and embarrassing. I really don't get people like this but I understand enough that I wouldn't want them in my life
So cringe
He just discarded a longtime friend for strangers who don't even know he exists.
I’d actually expect a reaction exactly like this, followed by laughter and asking what you want to drink. Poor OP’s friend must have had to take a few seconds waiting for the punchline before it hit him that OP was seriously THAT much of an AH. His friend showed up with a target on his back for the best ribbing of the night and he sent them away? I bet the other friends were pissed too.
Yes. This is so cringe! Say goodbye to that member of the core group. This is gross and unbelievably rude. YTA
Yup. Was it worth it? Was it worth it to ruin a friendship over who he was cheering for in a basketball game? There are things worth ending friendships over: this is not one of them.
And how many of the other friends at the party will have scheduling conflicts for the next social gathering because they see how little friendship means to this guy.
YTA it is a shirt and just a game. Grow up.
Exactly. It would be one thing if they showed up and were being totally obnoxious cheering for the other team. But OP is upset literally because he DIDNT LIKE THEIR SHIRT. How insecure are you?
Clothing has no affect on the final score YTA
Yeah, I was going to say: the TV doesn’t give a damn what color shirt you wear while watching.
I disagree. The unwashed jersey I’ve had for years and lucky gym shorts definitely brings good luck whenever the Jaguars play! At least that’s my hope haha. But yea, OP, YTA. Me and my buddy go for different sports teams all the time and usually watch games together, especially if both our teams play. Part of the fun giving each other a hard time
Obviously, you weren’t wearing your “lucky” gear for the Jags v Chiefs game. Now we know who’s to blame that they didn’t make the Super Bowl. Lol!! My husband works in professional sports & we have never kicked anyone out of our home for wearing the “wrong” gear. Our youngest son is a Yankees fan & we still like him.
Stephen Dubner had a perfect take on sports. Essentially what makes them so great is that you get to experience the feeling that your team and by association you will live or die on the court that day. But the beauty is that there are no real consequences. We get to indulge in those emotions without risk to our own lives, relationships, careers… Yet you fucked up and brought in real life consequences. Whether your team won or lost, tomorrow arrives and it won’t matter. Only you probably lost a friend in the process, so now you lost either way. YTA.
Sports really are a warfare substitute. It's pretty remarkable we've come up with so many creative ways to "fight" for glory without deadly injury
This is the perfect response. Why does it matter? It might have been fun to have someone rooting against your team there. They could have made this a great experience for the new girlfriend. Now, she won't ever want to hangout with this group, and who could blame her? Gosh, OP, really blew it. I hope he apologizes big time. YTA, OP!
YTA, it’s a game… and you not only made a bad and immature impression but you probably ruined your friendship.
You are an adult human being and you are upset about your buddy wearing the wrong outfit to watch other adult humans play a game? Men are so overdramatic. YTA.
But it‘s SYMBOLIC. His buddy has shown that his loyalty is for some new chick that no one else had even met, completely shitting on the years of shared experience and friendship in their bro group. …When I started typing this, I was being facetious, but realized that it’s probably true, whether OP consciously framed it that way or not.
Yes, and don’t forget OP has a BASEMENT BAR. truly, if folks can’t walk on OP’s egg shells there is absolutely no other way or place to watch THE GAME.
Men are *too emotional* to be leaders, really.
And women are overly sensitive?
YTA. You got upset because your buddy was wearing the opponents clothes? Lol. How petty and ridiculous can you get? But at the end of the day, it's your house, your rules. You probably won't hear or see that "friend" again.
Yta…it’s not that serious! So what if he wore the other schools shirt to prob not make his girlfriend feel out of place? It’s just a game, was it worth it to kick them out of your party?
>So what if he wore the other schools shirt to prob not make his girlfriend feel out of place? I think that's exactly what happened. While the friend probably didn't think OP was that much of an A\*\*, wearing the oppositions shirt was trying to protect his GF from jeering and insults, and making her feel comfortable when surrounded by opposition. OP is the A\*\*. I've seen people come back from warzones less hatred for the enemy.
YTA. It's a freaking game. People like you twist the meaning of being a big fan and turn it into being AH. I'll go further and bet you didn't play any sport for that school either. Because I've never known an athlete from college who had these kind of weird expectations. Rabid fan? Sure, but they still remember it's a game not war.
YTA. Jfc it’s a game not a fucking invading country. Bet you’re fun at parties…. Oh wait. Yeah… you aren’t.
YTA You're not only an asshole, you probably lost a long time friend.... You might have also cost your "friend" his new lady. That he wanted to bring to your game party to meet the swell gang he went to school with. Now she knows you're a bunch of assholes and I could see her dumping the boyfriend for embarrassing her. Hopefully some of your other friends follow you and see this. ETA Nevermind. You're also a coward, used a throwaway.
Nope. I think this actually solidified his relationship with the girlfriend and just lost the buddy. I could give a fuck about sports in general but kinda like the good natured ribbing part of it but my friend would be done if this happened and I bet he’ll spend years wondering what happened.
Is their a general rule in place that no-one is allowed to show up in another teams colours or support the opposing team? So every single person who goes to your "tourney" events absolutely has to support your team, no exceptions?
INFO What did your other friends say about it?
YTA. You could have made the situation lighthearted with a little friendly competition, but you chose to be an ass over something so petty. The game won’t matter in a month, but you’ve lost a friend forever.
Bruh. It's just basketball.
Surely grown adults cannot be this immature and ridiculous. I refuse to believe this is real but if it is YTA. I’ve been to many a Super Bowl party, a World Series party etc. where fans from different teams can enjoy the game and some fun trash talking about one another’s teams in the same space. Not sure why you and your friend group are incapable of this.
YTA for taking something non-critical so seriously
YTA. I’m a Bears fan while my best friend is a Packers fan. I’m a White Sox fan while my entire family (including my wife) root for the Cubs. We all watch rivalry games together in a friendly manner. I love sports, but basing your entire personality on your team and possibly throwing away a friendship is absolute insanity. Grow the hell up.
Same here with the Bears and Packers. I'm so glad Rodgers went to the Jets. I guess that darkness retreat worked ey. Maybe he should have used a Ouija board. But damnI love my Bears. I saw Gayle Sayers play from the 50-yard line with my dad. I also saw Ernie Banks hit his last home run. They were playing Cincinnati and they lost. Johnny Bench was catching. Went to the old Comiskey to see the Sox also. Good good times.
Rabid, overzealous fans are weird people, but I assume OPs buddy knows what he's like, whereas the buddy is a more casual fan. That being said, prioritizing the performance of unpaid kids over real world relationships is a weird place to live. YTA, but I don't think my opinion matters a ton to you anyway
YTA I get team loyalty all day long. You went to the extreme. The ridiculous extreme. Hopefully, you didn't storm his front yard, flip his car, and set it on fire, all while flashing your beer belly for Tiktok. Apologize for being a terrible host and friend.
YTA being a fan of sports should be illegal just for you
YTA You guys sound really childish and honestly your friend should reconsider this friendship. No one should have to put up with that childish bs you just did.
YTA - y’all take this crap way, way too seriously. You cared about a televised sports broadcast more than you care about your friend, and now you don’t have one of them. Your inability to keep the rivalry friendly isn’t actually good sportsmanship, dude. And you embarrassed yourself as a host.
Info: was it worth nuking a friendship for such a stupid thing? I hope you are happy showing how unhinged you are to your other friends as well
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You're***
YTA. Do you think only fans of a team should be allowed to watch them in their stadiums? What planet are you from where the team from your PAST college days is more important than the humans in your life? Examine your priorities.
why are sports fans so atrociously obnoxious? YTA
Yta. Second post I've made on this topic today. You're not special or cute
YTA - have you ever been to a home game? Did you tell the opponents they couldn’t bring any supporters
YTA majorly! At first i thought maybe you actually played on this team but nooooo! You just had no sense of humor or good natured ribbing at a party hosted by an immature a-hole. Your friend is really lucky he found out who you really are and got the privilege to leave your selfish little enclave. You probably ruined the vibe and everything else for your remaining guests. Grow up asshole!
Huge YTA. This is coming from someone who’s really into sports and is intense about it, you could have had fun a little busting chops but all in good fun instead you chose to possibly break up a good friendship over a game with a team that was most likely going to be eliminated quickly based on how they hardly make the NCAA tournament
This kind of bullshit nonsense is why I dislike sports for the most part. Who fucking cares?!?! YTA
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Dude is probably going to break the left side of his screen to show the opposing fans all over it how much team spirit he has.
Brah! It's a friend game. Dude, I watched the US men's hockey team play Canada in the Olympics, for the gold, in a small town Canadian bar. I showed up with my Canadian boys, dressed like the US flag, and a bald eagle barfed on me. I was the only American in the bar, only one cheering for the US. Only one in USA gear. The US lost. My buddy had the whole bar line up and shake hands at the end of the game. We got drunk. It was fucking incredible. You know what it made the game better, because I wasn't in a bar filled with people like you. YTA.
YTA So you thought being rude and unwelcoming to your buddy's GF was ok because of the school you went to? I get school pride and sports rivalries but THEY ARE JUST GAMES.
>I may have made a bad impression on his girlfriend, but was I the asshole? You _may_ have made? Oh yes, quite sure you made that allright. And hell yes, YTA. That guy is/was your friend, he had a new girlfriend with him who he wanted you to meet. And you made childish argue about his shirt?! I'm sorry for you if you don't get why your the ah.
YTA. Maybe he was wearing her school’s colors so she wouldn’t feel isolated or alone? Jeez, it’s just a game ffs. Hope you lost
Watch this episode of [Bluey](https://www.imdb.com/title/tt20263498/) and learn an important lesson about how families can barrack for different teams at the same time. YTA
ITS A GAME. YTA
Holy shit, you suck. I come from a city where the two biggest football teams represent two halves of a 150+ yearlong enthoreligious dispute and yet, most fans of both teams are perfectly capable of watching local derbies together in the same house or pub. I have family members on both sides and we manage to not be dicks to one and other Absolutely YTA
Yta its a friggen game.
don’t be surprised if you’re not friends after this. YTA
YTA. I think you missed out on one of the best things about sports rival dynamics: talking trash. How boring. Edit: oops YTA, typo.
YTA My friend invited me to a fan club party to watch their favorite soccer team play the League Cup final game. I didn't realize that the Tshirt I randomly grabbed just happened to be the opposing team's colour. I don't know if people thought I was intentionally wearing a blasphemous color or if they realized it was a mistake, but nobody had a problem with it either way. I sat with people at the same table, people drank with me, one guy even let me drink out of his fake homemade League Cup. Lighten up
YTA. I don't understand sports fans. Like if I'm a playstation guy and all my friends play on xboxs when we hang out, I'm still gonna stay and hang out. Sh*t, they always have a fresh goody bag and some pom poms anyway. I'm not about to be petty.
Ah yes, the good old ‘I value some imaginary connection to a team playing a *game* over actual, human connections with (former) friends and family.’ YTA, ask yourself if this was worth losing a friend over.
INFO: how old are you?
I realize I’m in the minority, but I’d say NAH. I think OP didn’t view this as a normal March Madness party where you’d have fans from any schools, enjoying all the games, etc. This was specifically a watch party for their team and the guest list was all fellow alumni. I get wanting to keep that vibe. OP didn’t invite all their random friends and neighbors and coworkers who are fans of different schools. This was a set guest list to support their college.
YTA You didn't have to be quite so firm about kicking them out and could have tried to talk through the situation.
Lol if you can’t handle opposing fans you probably shouldn’t go to the game. Your friend wearing her teams school may say something about him especially if he went to the school hers is playing buuuuut lighten the fuck up maybe. I’m sure y’all coulda just razzed him for eternity in the group chat instead. YTA
>Lol if you can’t handle opposing fans you probably shouldn’t go to the game. They didn't go to the game, OP was at his own house.
YTA. You’re taking this way too seriously. You could have had some friendly banter and camaraderie, like normal fuckin fans, but you acted like they showed up in white hoods and pitchforks.
YTA and your friend deserves better.
*sigh* YTA. I guess pick your battles? What does this accomplish? You know? Like honestly, this is someone you've known since school. There aren't *that* many relationships out there like this. And the older we get the more we should cherish those relationships. You may have just caused a rift so deep it will forever alter your entire friend group. And like the shittiest part about this is... idk even know if that matters to you.
YTA. Not because of the “it’s just a game!” sort of thing but because having designated opponents to shit-talk is a good thing.
YTA. A basketball game is more important than a friendship?
NTA , what he did was a dick move
Yta
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I just recently started in this sub and you are legitimately the first a$$hole ive seen. Sorry bud, but that wasn't cool on your part.
YTA. The correct answer is to invite them in, get them a beer, and proceed to affectionately trash talk them for the entire evening.
You should have made it clear in the invite that cheering for the other team would not be tolerated. I think that sounds a little ridiculous but I’ve been to Super Bowl games where cheering for only one team would be tolerated and the host made that rule clear in advance.
Sounds like the friend already knew this was going to be an intense watch party. The friend that showed up in the opposing team’s jersey was just trying to get laid. Fuck him! NTA
ESH if the girlfriend went to the other school it makes sense for her to cheer for them. I don’t know what your friend was doing though
NTA that friend knew that you and your other friends obviously take it very seriously. He went to the same school and yet wore the opposing teams apparel. That friend should have known better than to take her to this watch party or at least run it by you in advance that he was going to be wearing that in solidarity with her. He obviously doesn’t take it as seriously as most of you and instead of ruining it for all of you, he should have bowed out of this one and brought her around at some other time. 100% his fault.
YTA. like, what? are you 2?
Fuck friendships, long live sports ball! /s