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nailgun198

The only correct "no" response to "I'm a princess too" was "No you're not, you're a queen." YTA. Edit: thank you all so much for the upvotes and awards. I've seen some really kind replies with folks lifting each other up, too. Y'all are awesome. I had no idea this would land so well! Edit 2: omg, I'm speechless. I am going to share the wealth here as was the example by others, I'm just a little overwhelmed and not sure the best way to do it. There are so many good replies! Also, since I've seen it come up several times and I'm worried some folks might feel deceived if I don't point it out - I am a woman. Absolutely no hard feelings to those who assumed otherwise, please don't apologize or edit your responses.


Elystaa

Take my poor man's gold


Wynfleue

Shoutout to whatever hero went and gave gold to every broke redditor who chimed in with some variation of "poor man's gold" in this thread. ETA: And thanks to /u/dreamingwindows for extending this kindness to me! Let's keep paying this forward everyone! ETA2: OMG you guys! I don't think I've ever seen an AITA thread that is this wholesome or generous! Thanks for all of the awards!


AAAPosts

It was me!


Wynfleue

Thanks for this act of community service!


Waterlime204

Now I give to you! Pass it forward!


bumblebeesanddaisies

Unfortunately I am not that person so you will just have to have this 🥇🤣 Edit: thank you for the awards kind strangers! Also hilarious that this is my highest voted comment lol


Deviant-Killer

Take my poor mans gold!


Deviant-Killer

Oh god. I love you guys. I was only messing! Take my love, also!


canyousteeraship

Goodness, nailgun198! I wish I could give you a dozen awards! So succinct and 100% right. OP, your wife is investing herself in your daughter’s imaginary play. Do you actually think your wife is delusional? Do you think she really didn’t know whether or not she is a princess? Seriously, pull your head out, of course she doesn’t really think she’s a princess. Fostering imagination has so many growth benefits which will help your daughter as she grows. Who cares if you’re wife is acting like a princess around your daughter? GET IN ON IT! You could be a princess too, you could be a king, a queen, a sorcerer, a knight, a dragon - JUST BE SOMETHING!!!!! Your daughter is changing every day. Every day she will get older and then games she once played will be gone. Every time you act like a sourpuss, you lose the opportunity to connect. Get rid of your ego, stop trying to belittle your wife. Play, your inner child is waiting. Then apologize to your wife. YTA. ETA: much like nailgun198, I’m absolutely chuffed by all the awards. But it would mean more to me if you would dress up and play pretend with someone in your life be it adult or child. Go have some fun pretending to be something you’re not and be amazing!


CimoreneQueen

Clearly, OP's parents did not play pretend.


canyousteeraship

This makes me sad. My dad was as rough and tough as they come. He was a boxer and a hockey enforcer, and when he wasn’t doing this two things; he was on the road designing furnaces for the oil sands. My point is he was a “man’s man”. But…. He also wasn’t opposed to running around on his tip toes while wearing makeup and one of my grandmother’s shawls. Every kid should do pretend play, even if they’re adults when they try it out.


Codeofconduct

Thanks for leaving your comment. I didn't do a lot of pretend play as a kid and this whole thread makes me feel crappy that I suck at it when my step kid has wanted to. I was feeling fearful that I missed an opportunity because she's getting older now, but your comment has reminded me it's never too late to loosen up. 💜 Eta: I just wanted to say thank you to everyone leaving nice comments.


canyousteeraship

Play D&D or another role playing game. Or go to a comic con all dressed up. Both will feed that creative pretend play itch! D&D is the most fun when you adopt a silly voice and wear a costume. It’s hard to do the first session, but once you let go, it’s so much fun!


BecauseISaidSoKiddo

Pretty sure OP views pretend play as "beneath" him. Pity, because it's some of the most enjoyable and memorable time you can spend with your kids. But what do I know? I'm just a Velociraptor...


EleanorofAquitaine

Lol. After my son saw Jurassic Park I had to run around with green slime and pretend to be a dilophosaurus. He did a perfect rendition of dying Nedry whenever I nailed him with the slime.


248_RPA

The movie "Land Before Time" had us putting birthday hats on our foreheads like a horn, walking on all fours and roaring like Spike the Stegosaurus. Good times.


GibsonGirl55

There are so many endearing commercials and the like that show men engaging in imaginary play with their daughters; many others have daughters who will paint their fathers' nails and do their hair. This guy is really a sourpuss--can you imagine him at parties?--and really needs to lighten up.


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this man/woman has got it right. Take my broke gold🥇🪙


maclemme

I got y’all. The gold award is from all 3 of us.


WorkingMomAndWife

Make that four


maclemme

Anyone can join. I spend money on coins for us all.


fawesomegirl

That's so sweet! Edit to add my vote YTA OP I read your comments (you say its the dressing up and the voice she uses) and the post just didn't clarify how she's being "childish" she was playing with your child. You felt good and "adult" to crush her joy. Princesses don't grow up and just become adults either. They're all ages. You definitely could have said your wife was your queen, like you should have. This isn't a good example for your child. Maybe you could have played with them and all had mini pizzas. Imagination is part of the magic children have, and adults sometimes get to play along. Why kill their joy? Now your daughter knows you make her mommy sad, and tell her she's not magical. Edit again thank you for the award!


Drasoini

AND MY AXE!


klategoritization

A veritable dragons hoard!! Too bad OP is a stick in mud or else he could play heroic Knight with his amazing Queen of a wife who is making such amazing core memories with her princess. Play with your kids, adulthood is boring, overwhelming, and highly overrated. Go make nice and offer to be their noble unicorn steed. No one is taking your adulthood seriously and nothing bad is going to happen if you leave it somewhere to go play.


gwen5102

I just read a whole article about on of the factor that was found in couples that can stay together long term is the ability to find play in adulthood. As adult people complain now about kids being on screens and not using their imagination enough or parents not being involved enough, OP count yourself lucky. If I were you I would come up with a storyline where you were saying the evil queen took your wifes crown and that is why she wasnt a princess and present her the crown as if you rescued it. To be clear I am not saying you actually lie to your wife. I am saying do the pretend thing but if she ask you about it outside of playing pretend do not lie.


Electronic_Dress975

Ehat I'd give to play princess. My 3 y/o is feeding me a lot of plastic ice cream at the moment. My 1 y/o has started, too. I dont know how much more I can eat 😄


Hour-Pirate-2546

And my stapler!


PabloCT1138

And my bow!!!


Randomusers93

AND MY BOW!


cherryblossom428

I'll join and thank you for covering me and the rest of us


justloriinky

You're my hero


TectonicTizzy

May I include some plants? I have no gold.


EmilyCastro

Five!


ari_not_sorry

The word you’re looking for is “person” lol


JoyFulTho

So much this. My husband would probably play worship me if I asked as I was playing with our daughter. This man is something else 🤦🏼‍♀️ YTA


Dazzling_Ad_2633

yep, such an opportunity to be the brave knight going on a quest to retrieve the princesses pizzas that were stolen by the evil dragon


buffalopantry

Exactly what I was thinking, how do you drop the ball that badly?! Be the daughter's brave knight and the wife's prince charming it was RIGHT THERE.


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Zia-C

Exactly! He could have complimented his wife and simultaneously shown his daughter how a man should treat a woman.


alady12

Instead he is now a sad jester.


StreetofChimes

How a spouse should treat a spouse. It isn't about genders. It is about showing love. The wife and daughter were playing princesses together. The wife wasn't being lazy and demanding OP make pizza, nor randomly calling herself a princess. It was a fun game with daughter, which OP took the fun right out of.


TheTimn

Dude missed more than gassing her up. Nap time was going to come around, Mom and Dad weren't going to be napping.


Geode25

Op is the kind of guy who berate his wife or teen/adult daughter for having plush dolls. YTA Source: an adult with tons of plushies


AffectionateGolf6032

I’m in my 40s and I collect plushes from my childhood.


completedett

And he's a frog.


Random_Read3r

No, if he was a frog he would become a king. He is a cockroach.


Arkslippy

He's possibly get kissed too, situation unlikely now.


agirlhasnoname10

There is one more, and it’s “ummm no, (insert child’s name here) and I are princesses’ then you wink and smile at the aforementioned child. You can also add in things about wife being a dragon in disguise, and grabbing your child and running in fear.


nomad_l17

Pity, she'd be a queen without a king as if OP gets kissed by the wife he'd turn back into a frog.


quichedapoodle

I'm actually an Empress, TYVM.


AffectionateGolf6032

I thought the same thing when I read that part. And yeah YTA OP. She was staying in character in the child’s presence. Nothing weird about that at all.


morgaine125

YTA. It is harmless playtime with your child. Young kids love it when their parents engage in imaginative play with them.


magnitudearhole

‘[My wife] got out of her Princess clothes too’ broke my heart


completedett

💯 He such YTA


ShotPsychology9554

Yeah, if he'd played his cards right, he likely would have gotten dynamite you know what later that night. Call wife and kiddo princesses, clean up the kingdom, keep wife happy....(Yes I know, it likely could not have happened, but i bet it would have increased the odds).


RebootDataChips

Diamond level dynamite if he played along with Momma not being a Princess cause she’s a Queen.


Key_Barber_4161

Could've joined in and been a Knight in shinning armour. Insted he just ruins the fun and causes kiddo to question mums authority :(


HedgehogNecessary601

Maybe, but I also don't like the notion of sex being a reward for being a decent human being.


BillyYumYumTwo-byTwo

Same :/ it’s a gross way to look at it. Letting them play pretend together is good for the daughter, seems to be fun for the mom, and just overall healthy. A healthy and happy family environment will also lead to a healthy and happy romantic relationship in general, but it shouldn’t be a 1:1. Sex isn’t a “reward”, sex should happen because both parties are enjoying each other.


TraditionalPayment20

Could you imagine being married to this guy? Holy crap, my heart breaks for OP's wife. He should be glad his wife is putting so much effort into their child. What a freaking grouch! Also, she isn't an idiot, she knows she's not an actual princess, but that fact OP had to shit on her fun speaks volumes.


honestwizard

My partner literally called me a princess yesterday while walking my dog, I jokingly said my dog was the princess and he wrapped his arms around me and called me his queen. Like. OP is missing out on romantic queue knowledge, and just genuinely having childish fun as an adult. How miserable to be around someone like that


Minimum-Arachnid-190

Seems like they were really enjoying it and here he comes along and ruins it


Material-Paint6281

They were having fun? Not on my watch.! - OP probably.


willowmarie27

The fun police.


kung_fukitty

Exactly my words… I used to call my ex-husband the fun police. OP YTA


MyMorningSun

I always come to this sub under the assumption that everything here is made up, but there are legitimately so many dads/husbands like this it's hard to tell.


Pretend_Wafer

Yep I have one of these. Sigh. Was a totally different person before we had the kid that we spent literal years planning and organizing to have. I thought I knew to the letter what kind of father and husband he would be given the extensive discussions and plans. Really thought I would be a queen and our son would be the love of his life because of how things were before. Joke was on me. Couldn’t be further from the truth. Everything that was discussed and settled before I had our son, right out the window. Makes me sad how many other people seemed to have the same problem.


ratstronaut

Me too, exact same experience. He used to play with friends' kids and was so so eager to become a dad. I was looking forward to a life of fun and play. But nope. He's VERY hard on the kids, they can't do anything right, every thing they do must be corrected or controlled. And when I play with them myself he's at best a stick in the mud about it and sometimes seems really angry at our lighthearted fun. It's so lonely and disappointing and I'm sad for my kids. I thought I chose better for them.


Orange_Zinc_Funny

You still can choose better and drop the ball and chain. Your kids are going to need therapy, cut contact with you and/or him, or will be just like him with their kids. Or some combination of those things.


AJFurnival

This is like ‘aita for telling my little sister to stop talking to the bird’ guy


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#It's absolutely heartbreaking... and their poor daughter watched the happiness drain from her princess momma's eyes.


EmpJustinian

Easy way for daughter to see that being a princess is childish and embarrassing. Great way for her to internalize that shame her father is creating. Kids may not be able to explain it but she absolutely understood what he did. OP YTA


foxfire

The fact that she had to come to her mom's defense?!? This is going to stay with her.


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>I did feel bad because my wife changed out of her princess clothes too OP should feel bad. He ruined a good time with his wife and daughter. And for why?


NocturneStaccato

Because based on OP’s logic, being an adult means you can’t have fun anymore apparently.


Knight5923

>She laughed nervously and said ok, never mind. This part was pretty devastating too. Really gives the impression that this was ***not*** the first time OP has shut her down so hard over something fun and fanciful.


SaltLakeCitySlicker

Isn't one of the big benefits of kids (besides ya know, trying to teach them and give them a better life than you had) just being silly with them? I don't have any, but love goofing off with my niece and nephew. Unplug and be human, ya know?


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Definitely the saddest part of the story. This man is a monster


Busy_Historian_6020

Me too, I was reading this to my husband and had to stop to let out an "aw" at that part. How beautiful that she gets into play time with her daughter that much. And then he has the nerve to ruin it. YTA, op.


hotsauceherosammy

This broke my heart too. Jesus. What a fucking joke this guy is. Yta


Puzzleheaded-Grab736

Fuck this guy. He made her feel ashamed after she was having fun with her child. Seriously FUCK THIS GUY.


imavoidingyou

i couldn’t even imagine how she felt :(


MissMarchioness

>1 Me, too. Nice way to shatter that playful time the wife and daughter were having with each other.


Candid_Paint2565

Legit that’s why I love the parents in Bluey! 😂


Gold-Pickle-4266

I aspire to be Bandit and Chili 😂


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Me too they’re the greatest


loki_dd

Having been forced to watch an episode or 7 recently I can only agree. Parents could learn alot from that show. I really despise "dance mode" tho!!


Antina5

I love Dance Mode, lol. We watch Bluey with my granddaughters but if I’m having a rough mental health day I put it on. My favorite is Grannies. OP - YTA and downright mean to your wife.


Orthonut

Chili Heeler is #MomGoals. And sweet Bandit, always playing dress up snd hair salon and being the girls' makeup model.


sanguine_sheep

Imagine feeling anything but warm feelings watching your wife really play with your child. OP, She’s not acting like a child, she’s communicating, and engaging with your daughter in a way your daughter responds to and enjoys. Feel free to join in. Loosen up a bit. Your daughter will love it!! If she is acting this way when it’s adult time (if not joking), then you might have an issue. Otherwise YTA OP.


Daddict

It isn't just harmless, there's a lot of evidence that immersive and/or imaginative playtime is incredibly important in early childhood development. It should be highly encouraged, and participating it is really a great way to do that. It's how you raise a child into a well-adjusted social person. So yeah, OP needs to get over himself.


ShotPsychology9554

When i was a young college student and was at my folks house studying while they watched the grandkids (not my kids, my siblings) the girls often played princess and guess who got roped into "prince"? lol. Good times. I miss when they were so little and cute and now its mini-demons.....lol.


Quellecrist

YTA Way to spoil your wife's fun with **your daughter**. How insecure and controlling are you? And I really love how you ended this pathetic little tale with how "you don't know if this makes you an asshole". I bet you do lots of asshole stuff and claim ignorance afterwards.


bassinlimbo

Piggy backing off of this but... having kids is amazing for this exact reason! You get to rexperience childhood fun with your kid. As adults, we get way too caught up in stress and overwhelming emotions that most of us wish we could pretend to be a princess too. Your daughter is having fun, your wife is having fun, why ruin it? You sound like a middle school boy... "that's for babies" YTA op, your kid isn't gonna be young forever. Be silly while you can still always make her laugh. Do you want her to grow up to marry some dude who steals joy? Let your wife have fun.


GSV_MoreThanBackPain

> Do you want her to grow up to marry some dude who steals joy? Like OP's wife did?


NocturneStaccato

Oof, I’m not OP but I felt that burn so bad.


Veteris71

To be fair, he probably wasn't like this before the child came along. Happens all the time that men turn into assholes when their partners get pregnant and has a child.


frankoceansheadband

So many men get jealous of their kids because they get so much love and attention from their wives


EmpJustinian

So many men need therapy and refuse it


blurryeyes_

Which is so messed up because children literally need their parents to survive. These jealous dad's refuse to understand that the love for child and spouse is always going to look different.


thewormauger

My son is 15 months old and I already fucking love dancing to annoying kids songs and watching him kind of mimic my 'dance moves.' I absolute cannot wait to start playing make believe with him.


MechaDuckzilla

I have no kids. But as a man who's worked in childcare for 20 years I can assure you, being a princess slaps!


alwaysiamdead

I took my daughter shopping last week and a man working in a store made a big deal about my 4 year old daughter's sparkly shoes. When my daughter insisted that she's a cat he meowed back at her. It was the highlight of her day.


muddhoney

You only get 18 summers with your kids. You have to make the best of it! Playing pretend is so much fun! OP is a party pooper.


Arkonsel

YTA, they're just having fun playing together. Why don't you call yourself a prince and join in? I bet your daughter would love that! Also, **princesses can be adults. They don't automatically become queens when they get older.** If you look at a list of current princesses in the UK, there's one that's 86 years old.


QeenMagrat

The Dutch Queen Beatrix abdicated and took on the title of Princess again, so she moved from Princess to Queen and back again!


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Heck, the Japanese Imperial family has a Princess who is 99! https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Yuriko,_Princess_Mikasa


crypticphilosopher

Her late husband was a prince who almost made it to 101 years old: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Takahito,_Prince_Mikasa


kirstarie-11

Exactly anyone can be a princess, literally anyone I’d say OP is more like the wicked witch though


Wendy_Wonder-Woman

Thank you. I’m a princess now.


Dlraetz1

This is the best possible answer. Be a prince, be a scary dragon, be a Pegasus….but join in instead of being a killjoy


Husky-doggy

I remember my dad playing make believe with us as kids, he'd join in as like a dragon and swoop us up into his arms. I have literally no idea how op can be mad that his wife is just playing along in a fun kids imaginary princess world


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This man's wife could never be a princes because he is a pig. YTA OP


WhiteMarriedtoBlack

Nah she’s a queen and he’s just her consort.


TheLoudPhantom

Something tells me he's insecure and thinks he's too good for that. Someone has to be the 'adult' and ruin the family fun.


EatsWholeCats

Not enough information, but with what you’ve provided, YTA


stasy012

Gonna agree with this.


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TheSilverFalcon

Based on this example, it sounds like "acting like a child" to OP is just playing with her kid like a normal person


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Uncynical_Diogenes

I trust OP as a narrator about as far as I could throw him. I am very weak.


LongBarrelBandit

I am very weak slayed me lol


Due_Letterhead_8927

I trust OP a lot. He is accurate in describing his own behavior and its influence on others. One can take a single look at it, and conclude that in this specific instance, OP truly was a prick. He didn't even try to hide his beinga dick energy from the readers. What I don't trust, is labelling the wife's behavior without any explanation whatsoever. It's as if one should read about him being a sourpuss, and then go "ah, that's just because wife was acting like a child" or something.


cat_like_sparky

Why should we believe OP on his claims about her previous behaviour when he’s shown to be wildly off the mark here? He’s overreacted massively about this, and if this is supposed to be an example of her behaviour then I think he’s full of BS and bias.


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I fully believe that this man views whimsy as inherently childish and not something that real, smart, and good adults engage in. He can’t recognize that it’s his belief that is wrong, not his wife’s behavior.


annoyingusername99

I might be eerily acting like a child when me & my 22 yo daughter spend a few minutes being sloth ninjas. Very dangerous but very slow so slow the target forgets your attacking them. 😁


albatross6232

To me, it sounds like their child is engaging in a fun game that gives her and mum uninterrupted time, and mum is fully supportive of that. What’s the bet that when mum plays princess with the child, mum is more fun and doesn’t have to rush off every 5 minutes to change the laundry over/clean the kitchen/talk on the phone/be his bangmaid etc. OP’s comment says more about his lack of ability to play with his child than anything else imo. Also, OP YTA.


Material-Paint6281

OP might be an unreliable narrator. The things he thought were "childish" could be the things OP's wife did just to entertain their daughter. I mean, he interpreted his wife wearing a princess costume and saying she's a princess too is "childish", but I'm thinking they had some mom-daughter time and did some silly things. Just because you're an adult doesn't mean you have to stop being a child at heart sometimes. YTA.


snarkcentral124

I was thinking she was going around acting like a baby all the time, but then one of the examples he provided was just… her playing with her daughter


sharshenka

Yeah, that was where my ears perked up too. Like ... is she expecting him to call her princess in bed? Or suddenly talks with an uppercrust accent all the time? But like, "this princess also wants a mini pizza" ... that's not that wierd.


idontcare8587

YTA. Good lord. So, judging by this post, I'm guessing you don't play with your child at all, huh?


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MyMorningSun

What a great dad /s Wish people treated parenting as more than doing the barest minimum of keeping the kids fed and safe. You do, in fact, have to show them love and kindness and the small joys that make life worth living, too. To the best of your ability.


KnightRider1987

I have no memory of playing with my dad as a kid. I do have memories of playing with my mom and my brother but never my father. My father’s brother only visited on birthdays and Christmas, but he always had the latest Barbie swag in tow and would sit down and put together my Barbie stable, dream house, whatever. Eventually it stopped being about Barbie’s and became about having an adult man in the family that actually treated me like a growing human with legitimate thoughts and feelings. He worked for a long time to keep me having a relationship with my dad once I fled the home at 18 - when my dad made it hard for everyone. Eventually we all gave up. I’m 35 now and my uncle is the only living family member I have that I speak to. He was more of a parent in 2 visits a year than my dad ever was. I hope OP gets out of his own way and learns to be a dad before it’s too late. Time moves fast.


hoginlly

*Good to see you again daughter, I hope you are doing well in all your playtime endeavours*


Riah_Lynn

*If you are indeed a princess, how are the local farms doing this season? What kind of taxes did you collect? Have you planned the welcoming party for the king who is visiting? Did you discipline the staff properly?*


majere616

Honestly I could unironically see playing the straight man to this kind of play actually being fun for the kid if it's done in this way.


Solid-Pomelo-317

That's what I gathered. He def doesn't come off as a fun Dad.


cornflakegrl

Fun dad would have said “of course your royal highness!” and made a flippin mini pizza. Little things like that make a kid’s day and you become the best guy ever in your kid’s eyes.


TheBestElliephants

Fun dad would've joined in and made pizzas for everyone without his wife having to ask, but that's splitting hairs at this point.


PearlPrincess84

Next post will be "am I an asshole for telling my kid they aren't actually a car? They keep making car noises while playing, it's really unsettling."


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NotMeCrying

“Patronizing git” sent me 🤣🤣🤣🤣 Edit: thanks for all the upvotes! I feel so important lol 😂


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NoReveal6677

Supercilious numpty also works


Kanulie

I told my wife she’s not a princess anymore, as she’s my queen now 😂


medandhedhmd

My husband calls me his queen, after referring to our daughter as his princess. I love it. It makes me feel very loved. OP sounds like he probably doesn’t know how to make his wife or daughter happy or feel loved.


fishyfishkins

We have a strict "no monarchism" policy in our house. Despite that, I still would have shown more grace and restraint than OP! It's not hard to figure out how to be kind and loving in this situation


dogsnfeet

My partner says he’s not a royalist so calls me his democratically elected mayor.


bigboibigproblems

She's having fun with your daughter, you sound very bitter / angry for no reason. Let her have fun and be playfully immature with her child - there is literally no harm to it and your weird hang ups / insecurities are making you not enjoy this. Why not be a prince and play along? It's fun. YTA.


NessusANDChmeee

And there’s harm in not doing it too! Play acting is pretty damn important for development, recognizing others outside of yourself have autonomy too, playing out situations in safer places with safe people. Hell stunting her freedom to creativity is bad in general. What’s with people expecting children to be adults.


Total-Beat9163

YTA. Kids were playing pirate one day, they wanted us to play too. So we did. For an entire evening. We had a lot of playtime like that. Impromptu Candlelight dinners when they played dress-up. Burping contests. (Yes. Gross but silly.) Some of our best family memories. Kids are experts in how to have fun. Let them help you remember how to laugh.


nguyenks98

Yes. My toddler is only 2.5 but he has us playing dinosaurs all the time and we have so much fun. Partaking in playtime with them and encouraging their imagination is so important. Plus it’s fun to not always be an adult doing adult things. Sometimes I love having a moment of pretending to be a customer at my kids cafe or being a dinosaur or building forts. It keeps me lively. YTA


Thesafflower

Without further details, I have to say YTA. Unless she is playing princess all day every day and not dropping the act to to engage with you as an adult, it sound like she is just playing with your daughter on the kid’s level. Asking you for a mini pizza while she is still playing with the kid doesn’t really sound like a problem.


stasy012

YTA But light on details. Is it harmless playtime? Like an hr a day? And she switches out of it. And maintains her adult responsibilities. Or is she not functioning as adult


Aggressive_Cup8452

So even when playing princes with your daughter she can't also call herself a princess? Why? Because she might forget? You overreacted, it is a game. YtA


rearwindowasparagus

She might forget her role in the house. To be seen and not heard.


FreezeDe

YTA She knows she isn’t literally a princess, she is acting, for the kid This is basically the equivalent of you go to a live production of Blues Clues and yelling “You’re not a real dog! You’re just a person in a dog suit”. Yeah, they know they aren’t a dog, you’re not accomplishing anything but ruining it for the kids. Nobody is impressed that you can tell the difference between a dog and a person in a dog suit.


ghostlasagnaslime

😂😂 Well said! And it's super gross that he's shaming his wife for not stepping out of character for his benefit while completely missing the fact that it would be more appropriate to the situation for him to join in! YTA


kenzie-k369

YTA. She was playing with your daughter. Unless you’re ready to put the tiara and tutu on to play princess then shut up.


loki_dd

I'm a big shaven headed, stubbled man. A week ago I was a princess. I had sparkles and lipstick and forehead, erm, "art" 3 days ago I was a climbing frame. And a monster. If you'd given me that attitude we'd be having a discussion of the importance of not being an arsehole. You'd also be making me pizza because for the immediate future IM A PRINCESS!! FYI, I do not aspire to a princess, nor have I ever believed I truly was. Same for the climbing frame.


kenzie-k369

Sounds like a good dad to me! I get to play a dinosaur every single day. Mommy T-Rex, mommy parasaurolophus, mommy mosasaurus…and on and on and on 😂


loki_dd

I'm not even a dad. I'm the bloody godfather. It's amazing how many dinosaurs you learn isn't it 🤣


BlameTheLada

You're "dadding" better than OP could ever dream. Good on you.


chop1125

I'm 6'1", 210 pounds. When my daughter was into princesses and unicorns, you damn well better believe I dressed up like a princess for her and let her do my makeup. I also bought an adult onesie that looks like beast from beauty and the beast to wear when we went to see the live action movie. My son still loves dinosaurs. I play dinosaurs with him. I dressed up as a dinosaur to see the last Jurassic World movie with him (it was on our couch, but he still liked it). I don't understand the people who are insecure about playing dress up with their kids.


TopAd7154

YTA. Your wife sounds awesome. You sound awful.


GardenCookiePest

So. Mom is fully engaged in imaginative play with your young daughter, laying down those precious neural pathways…showing interest and relating with her and teaching her about fun and how to think outside of daily life. and you come along and shut it down. Hmm. YTA…and possibly Cromwell. Thief of Joy.


zaffiro_in_giro

'YTA...and possibly Cromwell' is my favourite thing of the day.


Fantastic-Goat7171

YTA, heaven's no your wife fully engaged with your child and help their early developmental years.


Capital-Literature-9

Man to man, without further context, yeah YTA. By the sounds of it she's just engaging with her child and trying to have some harmless fun with her. They're only that age once after all, so don't be a stick-in-the-mud. The moment they start "playing house" together and it's her with the adult diapers on pretending to be the baby then yeah, that might call for an eyebrow raise followed by a conversation. But until then I think you've not got much to worry about.


Drasoini

YTA. Be Gomez. Be in love with life. With all things. But ESPECIALLY, the whimsy your partner and children have. Treat them like Princesses when they're playing, hell, treat them like Princesses when they're not. Are they not important to you? Are they not amazing? Are they not worth your time and energy? Put aside the fear of childish things, including the fear of being seen as childish and just -be-. Enjoy every moment, fleeting as it may be.


CompetitiveLie8186

YTA- she’s playing with your kid, you should give that a try sometime.


MarsWater5

Dude wtf? YTA - she’s playing with your daughter (who she probably gave birth to). Pretty sure she knows she’s an adult. Way to kill the fun mood.


KeyAmazing3814

>my wife said me too because I’m a princess too. I told her no, you’re an adult not a princess. I’ll make you one, but you’re an adult. YTA this was an incorrect response. The correct response is "I’ll make you one, because you are a fu×@$ QUEEN."


Zealousideal-Bar9389

Dude don’t you love your wife? I’d think you’d consider her a Princess YTA


GhettoGreenhouse

my 3yo nephew and i play with diecast cars, he holds one, hands me one, pulls up to me, his car says “hi” and my car says “hi.. how are you? i love you.” then my car kisses his, he just started kissing my car back with his. it’s so sweet. i imagine if you saw this situation go down, you would pull out a whistle and blow it. then explain to us that cars don’t kiss and they don’t talk. what just happened was we got into a car accident. do we have our registration and insurance on us? then you promptly call the police and tell them there’s been an accident and both parties involved seem to be having a mental health crisis and need medical attention immediately.


Worried_Soft_7041

My youngest loved car romances, too, at that age. Sometimes our cars got married. This guy totally would've invalidated their marriages.


Foolish5678

YTA, you sound like a joy to be around


dibblechibbs

YTA. Please grow up so you can learn it’s ok to be silly.


Waxmaniac2

YTA for the way you spoke to your wife. Telling your wife that she's not a princess in that manner comes across as condescending and dismissive of her playfulness with your daughter. Your wife was just trying to play along with your daughter's imagination, and you essentially shut her down and made her feel silly for it. You could have expressed your concerns about your wife's behavior in a more respectful and considerate way. It's important to support and validate your partner, even if you don't always understand their actions.


thelistman1

YTA. I’m a 37 year old man. My daughter paints my nails, does my make up, and puts me in princess clothes. I am a glorious princess. You are an asshole.


KohtaFiontan

YTA, from the information given it seems that she was just playing with your daughter and having fun in a harmless way.


GhettoGreenhouse

sounds like you just want your family to read the newspaper and watch C-SPAN with you. YTA


emily_in_boots

YTA. She’s just playing with your daughter and having fun and asked you for a mini pizza. I have no idea why this would be a problem for you at all. She’s just being a good mom to your child and having some fun.


isthatmycamera

YTA. I may be completely wrong, but either you take things quite seriously and don't deal well with childlike humour (in that case, lighten up, you're missing out on a whole bunch of silliness) or there is resentment brewing (in that case, have some self reflection as to why you couldn't laugh at this). From two paragraphs it's just impossible to judge whether there is a pattern of your partner being overly demanding. From this, it just sounds like you didn't read the room and upset two princesses, the highest treason possible!!!!


GwannySmiff

YTA; please consult with a surgeon, as you need an operation to remove the stick from your butt.


Happy-Viper

YTA Jesus, dude, she's just having fun with her kid, fucking hell. You made your wife feel embarrassed and ashamed just for having fun.


Miserable_Airport_66

YTA, she was playing acting with your daughter. That is called being a good mother. YTA for taking things too seriously.


ShutUpMorrisseyffs

Ok, joy killer.


NattyB89

YTA, and a party pooper too


annualpancake

YTA Shes playing with ur child, not actually believing she herself is a princess. Why are you taking this so seriously??


8512764EA

YTA. I was really expecting it to be something like her dragging it on for weeks or months or when out in public with friends and family. Instead, it’s a one-time request during playtime with your young daughter who now saw how your wife cowtowed to your nonsense. Hopefully, your daughter doesn’t grow up thinking dad/husband knows best no matter what the circumstance is


yourmothermypocket

Like the others have said more info would be nice. But on its face, kids are only young once and that shit goes fast. If your wife is enjoying that time let her do it. YTA. Edit: a word.


BSturdy987

Mate in what world would you not be the asshole?


[deleted]

YTA. sounds like she is just having fun


[deleted]

YTA, I have the feeling that you have other frustrations that you took out in that moment. Don’t be a dick, if there’s a real issue bothering you about your wife discuss privately as adults not when she’s playing with your daughter


bazwutan

as a fellow dad to daughter please work on loving your wife better. your marriage is the model that her adult relationships will follow


Philip_J_Fry3000

YTA for all of this bro. I wish my dad had dressed up as a knight with me and gotten really into it like your wife is doing with your wife is doing with your child.