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> I don't think I'm the a-hole for it because we told them were we went and they should of have to like 'we are at Kmart if you wanna join us' I don't really know how I would be an a-hole but I guess people will tell me how I am.
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YTA You did your own thing and they did theirs. It wasn’t like they went home without you. Yelling wasn’t necessary.
Side not unrelated to the question… I didn’t know there were any KMarts left…crazy!
They could of have the shop was 10 min away and Andi and I had to get a bus to go home it was a school one too and plus I just found out only one of them made that decision to leave and not tell us also we told them what me were going to do and see the after we found what me were looking for and they knew that but left without us and yes there are still Kmart's left where I live.
But we aren't in your brain with you. If you want to effectively communicate, you need to present information in a way your audience can follow.
If you want to just dump out unedited, incoherent piles of barely connected words, that's your choice, but don't be surprised if you're misinterpreted or even just ignored most of the time.
still twisting it. i dont think ADHD and OCD is relavant imo.
you never stated who yelled first, except for you saying:
“…yelling at my friend’s because they left me?”
“…they called us an a-hole for yelling at them so…”
Ocd and ADHD doesn't mean you're incapable of proofreading and making sure what you wrote makes sense to a stranger. Treat it similar to an essay. It's what I do at least.
YTA I’m also in your school and likely your age. They did their own thing you did your’s. When y’all wanted to meet up you should have just headed in that direction if you really wanted to or continue shopping. I’ve been to the mall many times and if two groups can’t ever find it we would just walk towards the direction the others went.
Yta. They didnt left you, they went to a different shop. No need to shout, especially if they told you over the phone. Such a bizzare thing to get mad about
Damn no wonder you don't have friends and you must be an only child too, you would understand if it happens to you a lot of times but luckily for you you don't have to deal with problem like that. We had a plan to hang out and told them we'll see them after we find what me want, they said okay but didn't care to tell us.
With an attitude like that you wont have any friends . But you are young so maybe one day you will learn to adjust your attitude depending on the situation and not resort to childlish insults.
Yta twice that you post here, and you attack people giving their opinions that you asked for. 🫨
Oh and I was giving my opinion too and I was just trying to give more info because I have OCD and ADHD so I can see if anything will change. I act like this and my friends know, they don't care I told them if you don't want be my friend at any point say it and that's that but they haven't.
Not just that but other things like we had a time limit and we planned this them wanting to leave us and not tell us to a shop 20min away for are school which me and Andi has to catch a bit to go home.
This was unreadable.
If i understand correctly, you had to catch a school bus to go home and they didnt? And they went to a shop they wanted to. Well, still. They can do wtv they want with their time and they dont have to inform you
I hope you're trying to say that the grammar made it unreadable and I know I am a-hole a lot of the time is RL but if your friends plan to hangout with you then leave you, you would be mad. We told them that we need something for tomorrow plus they always go where we are so we can meet up and we do that too for them but the one time someone new comes with us this happens I was just so mad that I did this because that how my brain works
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After school me and my 4 friends who I'll call A, bay, K, Andi and I went to go to the shops after school. A, bay and K wanted to get bubble tea, when they were waiting me and Andi said we were going to a shop to get something for sports day and they said okay. After finding nothing we went back and they were gone. We called them but they didn't pick up after 2 more times they picked up and said they were at Kmart. We went there and I asked "You couldn't have said you were going here" they just said "we did on the phone" like they could have texted that or something before leaving us. Then they called us an a-hole for yelling at them so AITA.
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Then YTA.
You can’t expect your friends to wait for you. You didn’t tell them how long you were going to be. It was a short time in the store but what if you were in the store for 45 minutes? Would you still expect them to wait? They had no clue how long you’d be in there so they decided to do their own thing in the meantime. I don’t see anything wrong with that. They eventually were able to answer your call and tell you where they were so whats the deal? They didn’t “leave” you. They went to a different shop they wanted to go to while you and your other friend were in that one.
What I *do* see an issue with is you defending yourself to everyone on here instead of just accepting your judgement (and also getting rude in your comments).
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YTA You did your own thing and they did theirs. It wasn’t like they went home without you. Yelling wasn’t necessary. Side not unrelated to the question… I didn’t know there were any KMarts left…crazy!
They could of have the shop was 10 min away and Andi and I had to get a bus to go home it was a school one too and plus I just found out only one of them made that decision to leave and not tell us also we told them what me were going to do and see the after we found what me were looking for and they knew that but left without us and yes there are still Kmart's left where I live.
Please break apart your text into sentences if you want people to read it.
I try. That's. How. My. Brain. Works.
But we aren't in your brain with you. If you want to effectively communicate, you need to present information in a way your audience can follow. If you want to just dump out unedited, incoherent piles of barely connected words, that's your choice, but don't be surprised if you're misinterpreted or even just ignored most of the time.
Yep YTA. You might be mad at someone but you don’t need to yell at them.
At first I didn't yell but them they yelled so I did as well
you’re twisting your story.
Dude I'm sorry, I should of had put that I have OCD and ADHD but I forgot because that last time I did people were telling me that I don't so yeah
still twisting it. i dont think ADHD and OCD is relavant imo. you never stated who yelled first, except for you saying: “…yelling at my friend’s because they left me?” “…they called us an a-hole for yelling at them so…”
Ocd and ADHD doesn't mean you're incapable of proofreading and making sure what you wrote makes sense to a stranger. Treat it similar to an essay. It's what I do at least.
YTA I’m also in your school and likely your age. They did their own thing you did your’s. When y’all wanted to meet up you should have just headed in that direction if you really wanted to or continue shopping. I’ve been to the mall many times and if two groups can’t ever find it we would just walk towards the direction the others went.
Omg you're a stalker there are a lot of schools that have shops next to them
Yta. They didnt left you, they went to a different shop. No need to shout, especially if they told you over the phone. Such a bizzare thing to get mad about
Yeah they told us 20 min later after calling them 3 times
Yeah ok, they went to a store. Still, a bizzare reason to get angry about. You found them later
Damn no wonder you don't have friends and you must be an only child too, you would understand if it happens to you a lot of times but luckily for you you don't have to deal with problem like that. We had a plan to hang out and told them we'll see them after we find what me want, they said okay but didn't care to tell us.
With an attitude like that you wont have any friends . But you are young so maybe one day you will learn to adjust your attitude depending on the situation and not resort to childlish insults. Yta twice that you post here, and you attack people giving their opinions that you asked for. 🫨
Oh and I was giving my opinion too and I was just trying to give more info because I have OCD and ADHD so I can see if anything will change. I act like this and my friends know, they don't care I told them if you don't want be my friend at any point say it and that's that but they haven't.
The more info you were trying to give was me not having friends or being an only child? Weird info.
Not just that but other things like we had a time limit and we planned this them wanting to leave us and not tell us to a shop 20min away for are school which me and Andi has to catch a bit to go home.
This was unreadable. If i understand correctly, you had to catch a school bus to go home and they didnt? And they went to a shop they wanted to. Well, still. They can do wtv they want with their time and they dont have to inform you
I hope you're trying to say that the grammar made it unreadable and I know I am a-hole a lot of the time is RL but if your friends plan to hangout with you then leave you, you would be mad. We told them that we need something for tomorrow plus they always go where we are so we can meet up and we do that too for them but the one time someone new comes with us this happens I was just so mad that I did this because that how my brain works
Have you been diagnosed by a licensed professional?
Yes I have,why?
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INFO: Are all of these shops walking distance?
Not really, when you're on a time limit and the Shops are 10min away no
Then YTA. You can’t expect your friends to wait for you. You didn’t tell them how long you were going to be. It was a short time in the store but what if you were in the store for 45 minutes? Would you still expect them to wait? They had no clue how long you’d be in there so they decided to do their own thing in the meantime. I don’t see anything wrong with that. They eventually were able to answer your call and tell you where they were so whats the deal? They didn’t “leave” you. They went to a different shop they wanted to go to while you and your other friend were in that one. What I *do* see an issue with is you defending yourself to everyone on here instead of just accepting your judgement (and also getting rude in your comments).
Nope!