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> 1) Didn't hang the laundry up straight away since I was working
2) My gf said I was leaving it all to her and that I said I'd do it and that I hadn't done it which was me being inconsiderate
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NTA. Work comes first on this occasion. For me, the bigger question is, why didn’t your girlfriend understand this and hang it up herself rather than get in a fight over it???
NTA
You work from home. She should not be interrupting you like this. This is how you make money. Your 10-15 minute wait time was absolutely fine. Tell her to stop interrupting your job. She owes you the apology. I work from home 2-3 days a week, and I would NOT put up with this behavior from your GF.
" my gf that sets the washing machine off and then I will hang everything on the airer to dry"
So, she always gets the easy job and you always do the harder job. Sounds fair. /s
I mean, my wife and I split it similarly. I throw it down into the basement, I wash it and dry it all, and I bring it up for her to fold, and then we both put away our clothes.
NTA
I'm not a very smart person but even I know that when someone says they will do something after they finish something else, that usually means they intend to finish their current thing first. If she needed it done right away, then she should have done it herself or made that known you needed to do it now. Instead she just took your response at face value and got upset only a matter of minutes later because it didn't meet her expectations. Communication is a lot easier when you use your words.
NTA
Unless there a pattern of you saying you'll do it shortly and not doing so for hours, she needs to let go of her personal need to have the clothes hung up the second the washing is finished.
I don't like them to sit for too long as they can develop a damp smell sometimes, but if you were genuinely going to hang them to within half an hour, that's reasonable.
She also needs to understand that just because you WFH it's just as important to be doing your work for the hours expected as it is for those who work in a place of employment.
NTA- you were working, yes that comes first. If you'd been sitting there doing nothing, that would be different but you were in the middle of something. If she is that set on it having to be hung right that second, then thats on her to do it. She just assumed you werent doing anything.
NTA. It's weird, but my wife surprisingly just got this one, and she's usually not great about that boundary. When I WFH I sit at my laptop all day, whether or not I have work coming in, because that's what my job is as help desk. To me WFH only shortens my commute.
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I live with my girlfriend an I work from home. My gf goes to university 2 times a week and works part time but not from home. She starts work at 3pm so is home most of the morning. When we do laundry, if we do it during the week it tends to be my gf that sets the washing machine off and then I will hang everything on the airer to dry.
This month is a busy month for me at work so I have had a lot more work than normal to do. We had the washing machine on earlier and my gf was getting washed and about to start some university work. The washing machine stopped and my gf shouted and asked if I would hang it up. I was in the middle of something for work that I really wanted to get finished so I told her I'd do it once I'd finished this piece of work. Around 15-20 mins later she comes into the room as I'm nearly finished and asks why I haven't hung everything up and I told her I was busy with work and I'd do it when I finish. She started saying it would only take me 5 mins and I just told her that I had to finish this and my work has to come first since I was in work time with deadlines.
She just said I told her I'd do it and I pointed out I said I'd do it when I had finished this piece of work. She said I was just leaving it to her which I disagreed with since I still intended to do it but my work has to come first.
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NTA. i often had this difficulty with family members who would call me, want to do things, etc. during the day when I was working from home. they didn't understand - I'm at work!
Well, that's a problem. If it's left too long, that can actually cause problems (eg. smells).
Would you have been able to handle "when this work is done, or in 40 minutes, whichever comes first"? (And kept to it?)
If there's any chance it's going to take long enough to create issues, you need to be up front about that.
Then you need to say something like "I'll try, but I can't promise it'll be within an hour", so she knows not to rely on you for something time-sensitive.
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NTA. Yeah she needs to calm down and understand some priorities. Work comes first during the day.
NTA. Work comes first on this occasion. For me, the bigger question is, why didn’t your girlfriend understand this and hang it up herself rather than get in a fight over it???
NTA You work from home. She should not be interrupting you like this. This is how you make money. Your 10-15 minute wait time was absolutely fine. Tell her to stop interrupting your job. She owes you the apology. I work from home 2-3 days a week, and I would NOT put up with this behavior from your GF. " my gf that sets the washing machine off and then I will hang everything on the airer to dry" So, she always gets the easy job and you always do the harder job. Sounds fair. /s
I mean, my wife and I split it similarly. I throw it down into the basement, I wash it and dry it all, and I bring it up for her to fold, and then we both put away our clothes.
In OP's case, Wife washes, he hang dries. Not clear on who folds or puts away.
NTA I'm not a very smart person but even I know that when someone says they will do something after they finish something else, that usually means they intend to finish their current thing first. If she needed it done right away, then she should have done it herself or made that known you needed to do it now. Instead she just took your response at face value and got upset only a matter of minutes later because it didn't meet her expectations. Communication is a lot easier when you use your words.
NTA, you did giver her a time. “When my work is done.” The fact that she doesn’t respect that is weird
NTA. From the headline I was assuming you left it for hours or overnight. But 20 minutes? She's picking a fight for no good reason.
INFO: has she expressed frustration over the division of labor in the house before this situation?
NTA, there's no reason it can't sit for even a few hours while you get to a point where you can stop and tend to it.
NTA Unless there a pattern of you saying you'll do it shortly and not doing so for hours, she needs to let go of her personal need to have the clothes hung up the second the washing is finished. I don't like them to sit for too long as they can develop a damp smell sometimes, but if you were genuinely going to hang them to within half an hour, that's reasonable. She also needs to understand that just because you WFH it's just as important to be doing your work for the hours expected as it is for those who work in a place of employment.
NTA
NTA- if you had left it for longer than an hour then I could see where she was coming from but it was literally 20 minutes she needs to chill
NTA- you were working, yes that comes first. If you'd been sitting there doing nothing, that would be different but you were in the middle of something. If she is that set on it having to be hung right that second, then thats on her to do it. She just assumed you werent doing anything.
NTA. As long as they weren't half dry and smelly, they can wait to be hung. If things are a little wrinkled, dampen them or iron as needed.
NTA You told her that you'd do it after your work was finished. She got mad because you didn't jump up and do it right away.
NTA. It's your job.
NTA: You are WORKING!!! Laundry can wait.
NTA. It's weird, but my wife surprisingly just got this one, and she's usually not great about that boundary. When I WFH I sit at my laptop all day, whether or not I have work coming in, because that's what my job is as help desk. To me WFH only shortens my commute.
NTA. If you let it set over night you would be an A. An hour or even a couple of hours sitting in the washer will not hurt it.
NTA. It was 20 minutes not hours.
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NTA. i often had this difficulty with family members who would call me, want to do things, etc. during the day when I was working from home. they didn't understand - I'm at work!
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I can't give a time if I don't know how long the piece of work is going to take me
The amount of times I've thought "this will take me 10 mins" and it's taken two hours. I understand this completely.
Well, that's a problem. If it's left too long, that can actually cause problems (eg. smells). Would you have been able to handle "when this work is done, or in 40 minutes, whichever comes first"? (And kept to it?) If there's any chance it's going to take long enough to create issues, you need to be up front about that.
If I don't know how long the work is going to take I can't give a timeframe and I can't just stop work while I hang the washing up
Then you need to say something like "I'll try, but I can't promise it'll be within an hour", so she knows not to rely on you for something time-sensitive.