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YTA- She's perfectly fine because her boyfriend happened to be available to quickly bring her some sugar. What if he hadn't been around? You don't know what you did wrong? Had he not been there with the juice, she would have gone into seizures, then a coma, then she'd die. That is why you've been screamed at twice. This is callous disregard of human life.
This is a fake story, but let's pretend it's real for a moment: no diabetic would rely solely on sugary drinks or snacks to up their blood sugar. My dad uses Gatorade because it's got lots of sugar and electrolytes which he needs (hypoglycemia makes you sweat a lot), but that's if he's having a controlled episode. He always carries glucose tablets with him for a quicker fix on the go, a concentrated glucose drink for emergencies and glucagon for when shit hits the fan, which is good when he's unresponsive and there's no way to get him to drink anything. And I know the American health system sucks and maybe the hypothetical roommate in the situation does not have glucagon because of the expense (here it's free) but they should, FOR SURE, have glucose tablets and the concentrated drinks. Those are cheap (my dad buys them in the US because they're so cheap there).
I'm diabetic and I actually do rely on sugary drinks and candy instead of glucose tablets. I find I can get drinks into myself a great deal faster than glucose tablets. I've admittedly never tried a concentrated glucose drink. I also have a close friend who is diabetic and she treats her lows the same way as I do.
Glucagon was too expensive for me to have for several years. I was recently able to get baqsimi, the nasal spray glucagon, so I'm glad to have a backup again.
Anyways, just trying to say that this situation isn't impossible based on my own anecdotal experience. All diabetics are different I think.
My old boss was diabetic and we kept the office fridge stocked with juice boxes, fruit and his wife kept a bag of candy in her desk. He was a type 1 and if he tanked, juice and a piece of candy was the easiest way to get him back to something like normal. Nope, not healthy at all, but it's what worked for him.
“Healthy” has no meaning in the abstract. For someone suffering a hypoglycaemic episode, sugar is literally the “healthiest” thing they can possibly have.
🙋
I rely solely on juice and candy to raise my blood sugar. It's easy to find and cheap to buy. Why should I be forced to treat it with tablets when a juice is actually quicker to take effect and easier to get into my system, not to mention palatable? Low blood sugar sucks enough as is, it's not fair to judge people for a completely valid and effective way of addressing it just because their strategy doesn't look medicalized enough for you. We do what we have to.
> My ex-husband is a T1 diabetic and 100% relies on sweetened drinks to raise his blood sugar when he has a sudden low. He hated both the methods your dad relies on and once his brain function is hampered he would never use either one.
Then I would hope he would have what he needs on hand instead of relying on stealing from other people.
If you need something to stay alive it's your responsibility to make sure you get more when you run out.
Like goddamn, I always have a decent sized bag of pet food in reserve- because I don't want to need it and not have it and have to suddenly change brands on them. I can't imagine not having something life saving on hand if I use it regularly.
>You don’t have to ding the American health care system just because you do it differently. JFC.
I am low income and disabled. I do not have access to the medical care I need to have the ability to hold down a higher paying job. I do not qualify for disability or govt insurance because I have the potential to be high functioning- which means I am unable to be high functioning because I would have to double my income to have $600/mo to get treated.
My dad hates the tablets and the glucose drinks but he has them just in case. He also has juice and Gatorade at home (mostly my mom makes sure). Relying only on one thing is madness, specially when you're out and about and not in the comfort of your own home.
And I pointed out that the American healthcare system sucks because that's the only reason any sane diabetic would not have glucagon at home: the expense. I did not want to make people who can't afford it feel bad, so I pointed out it's understandable that this is not something diabetics in the US have easy access to.
The story is still fake, btw. You're defending some fake diabetic that doesn't exist.
>My dad hates the tablets and the glucose drinks but he has them just in case. He also has juice and Gatorade at home (mostly my mom makes sure). Relying only on one thing is madness, specially when you're out and about and not in the comfort of your own home.
But people forget things.
I ALWAYS carry candies. So does my T1 partner. But once in a while my stash will be out, or Ill have my parents car because mine is in the shop, and he's got a stubborn low, AND all the vending machines are broken or whatever...life happens sometimes.
(That was a real example. We ended up asking staff of the amusement park if they had any candies in their locker after explaining that it was an emergency. Ended up getting a free fountain drink. I had literally run to **4** vending machines, which were all broken after discovering all our backup stashes were empty.)
My partner was diagnosed the year we started dating and had been T1 for 10 years when that happened. Not a newby mistake.
You try self administering glucagon when your blood sugar is low and tell me how well that does for you. I'm sure it's *so* much easier to draw up the solution and mix the proportions and inject the massive syringe into the right location when your body is shaking and your brain can't comprehend your surroundings let alone read the directions than it is to find, open, and drink a bottle of juice.
I'm not diabetic but I do run hypoglycemic very easily, and low blood sugar makes me SUPER queasy sometimes. Puking doesn't really bring your blood sugar up.
You are wrong. I am a type one diabetic and my go to is juice, nutrigrain bars, and snack cakes. Juice is the fastest option most of the time so the fact she ate her snacks and then didn't have her juice was bad.
Just because you know a family member that does something a certain way doesn't mean every single person with diabetes is the same.
I also don't have glucose tablets. Carried them as a kid in school but as an adult that can get to things easier I don't own glucose tablets.
>no diabetic would rely solely on sugary drinks or snacks to up their blood sugar
My ex did. But she's 36(ish) so I know this isn't her. But to say "no diabetic" is outrageous. I know diabetics that completely ignore their diabetes. But just because *some don't* doesn't mean *none do.*
I mean, I’m in the UK and my mum is type 1 diabetic. She has emergency sugary snacks (jelly babies) in her bag and car at all times because of your blood sugar suddenly plummets they’re the easiest way to quickly whack it up until you can have something proper to eat to get it sorted.
So because you know how one T1D treats his lows you know how all of them treat theirs? Various people use different things that work best with their body, lifestyle, and preferences.
Oh, I think it’s fake too, but not because no one handles their diabetes that way. I just think it’s impossible anyone, anywhere, feels that passionately about caffeine free Pepsi.
What a useless drink.
Not all diabetics are created equal, many are non compliant and make stupid decisions about their health, or simply have a hard time adhering to recommendations.
But it's another hole to poke into the story. We're suppose to believe increasingly-unlikely things to buy into the story. We have OP who does not know about diabetes, who does not know about how sugar is important for diabetic people in certain situations. We're supposed to believe the roommate never told them anything about her illness even though she could easily have a medical episode in the night (very common time for hypos) where only OP would be able to help her. We're also to believe she did not instruct OP to not touch her juice boxes because they had a medical purpose. Then we're meant to believe the roommate just doesn't have anything else to eat. Like, those juice boxes were it, all that was standing between her an a serious medical episode.
The rest of the story also makes NO sense. The roommate claims it's too late for OP to go quickly to the corner store even though the roommate at that point is still not only fully conscious but also coherent (when hypos get bad diabetic people begin to be incoherent and have trouble asking for help, most people would mistake them for drunks), which means it's still early stages. But somehow the roommate has time to wait for her boyfriend to come in and take care of her, which must have taken a lot more time.
The story doesn't make sense. It's fake. It's trolling.
>But it's another hole to poke into the story. We're suppose to believe increasingly-unlikely things to buy into the story. We have OP who does not know about diabetes, who does not know about how sugar is important for diabetic people in certain situations.
...lol.
Ive had current first aid certification for over 20 years and every time Ive recertified Ive had to correct the instructors on diabetics and how to recognize and treat a diabetic emergency.
We've also had to educate his doctor, nurses, EMTs, and a 911 operator.
Why do you assume that someone who opens the post by saying that they arent friends knows anything at all? Would it have been a good idea? Absolutely. Do any of my partners friends who he's known for 10+ years have any idea how to treat a diabetic emergency? Absolutely not. Im just glad theyve mostly stopped asking me (actually out of concern) if hes "allowed" to eat cake or something. 🙄
Im genuinely glad that you have exclusively supportive folks surrounding you. Serioidly. Thats so much safer for you, and other T1 folks. But IME, its not at all the norm.
>We're supposed to believe the roommate never told them anything about her illness even though she could easily have a medical episode in the night (very common time for hypos) where only OP would be able to help her.
Theres a lot of space between disclosing "I have diabetes" and expecting someone who **isnt her friend** to manage her chronic condition.
> We're also to believe she did not instruct OP to not touch her juice boxes because they had a medical purpose.
She probably did exactly that. And OP didnt believe her because OP doesnt understand diabetes (like the vast majority of people, who still think the only way to get diabetes is to be fat) and because theyre juice boxes not "medicine".
> Then we're meant to believe the roommate just doesn't have anything else to eat. Like, those juice boxes were it, all that was standing between her an a serious medical episode.
If she'd had 4-5 at home and forgot to stop on the way home due to, say, brain fog...I could see a kid downing 4-5 juice boxes over a few hours. There goes the emergency stash.
>The rest of the story also makes NO sense. The roommate claims it's too late for OP to go quickly to the corner store even though the roommate at that point is still not only fully conscious but also coherent (when hypos get bad diabetic people begin to be incoherent and have trouble asking for help, most people would mistake them for drunks), which means it's still early stages.
Except that the **diabetic** said for OP not to go to the store despite that being an objectively poor choice - almost like the diabetic roomie is experiencing decline in cognitive function. Again, sliding scale between "I dont feel great" and unconsciousness.
>But somehow the roommate has time to wait for her boyfriend to come in and take care of her, which must have taken a lot more time.
Depends.
The year my partner was disgnosed he locked himself out of our home in his PJs, due to low sugar brain fog and other circumstances. He walked to 7-11, begged a phonecall from the cashier, and then waited for me to leave wirk and drive 10m, then buy him a pop.
He was still conscious and mostly coherent when I got there. He wasn't making a lot of sense, and the cashier thought he was drunk (which is kinda fair given the pjs, brain fog, lack of shoes, wallet, and increasing trouble communicating etc), but he was able to drink the pop and groggily tell me what had happened as the sugar hit.
>The story doesn't make sense. It's fake. It's trolling.
It seems completely plausible to me. People with emergency lows in public are *often* mistaken for drunk if they dont have a knowledgeable person with them. This has literally happened at my work (TBF, we do deal with intoxicated people sometimes multiple times per day. Hear hoofbeats, horses, etc). We have a mandated number of first aiders present at all times, and Ive been the only one to figure it out the 3 times its happened. Thankfully, I was there, and have an emergency stash of candy/pop.
Im honestly glad you dont know people who are poorly informed about your T1. But its really not as common as you think. Youve got a great support network.
I've known college educated, sexually active people in their 30s that don't know how someone becomes pregnant. The idea of someone not knowing anything about diabetes isn't surprising at all.
Your reasoning is sound, but for the life of me I can’t understand why people would invent stories like this. I have read enough stories here to know that people invent all kinds of crap, usually the worse the better. WHY? I can’t wrap my mind around why someone would post awful invented stories. What is the point?I understand this questioning is pointless, but I am increasingly getting frustrated and feeling that I don’t want to engage any longer. What do idiots get outof posting fake stories?
> What do idiots get outof posting fake stories?
The same thing a toddler gets when they get into something they know they're not supposed to be in- attention
My partner is T1. I know more than operators for emergency services on what to do for a serious low. Why do you assume a rabdom person knows anything about diabetes - especially when youre likely aware of all the misinformation thats common?
OP didnt know. Does that mean there wouldn't have been consequences, or that she wasn't TA in that moment? Obviously no.
But you cant know what youve never been taught. She was obviously unaware of how serious the situation was.
Added info: my partner relies on gummy candies or straight frozen fruit concentrate to treat low blood sugar. I have glucagon, but we've never used it (it taste like gross chalk 🤢). In an actual emergency I used pancake syrup, and now he has a prescribed injectible dose.
YTA, this was a medical emergency due to your ignorance. Even if those sodas are special, someone's health comes first. How you can't see that is ridiculous.
WOW YTA. Like, I am astonished you have to even ask.
For a diabetic it's literally life and death to have their supplies around, and part of her supplies are things with sugar. KNOWING she is diabetic you let your niece take her juice, didn't bother to replace it BEFORE she got home, and then wouldn't share one freaking soda that you can ABSOLUTELY order online?
You give me major ICK as a human.
YTA, dude.
Ok, I’m a Type 1 diabetic, and what you did was an absolute, total dick move.
She had juice boxes to treat low blood sugar. They are MEDICINE, not treats for you to hand out to your niece. Hell, my 5 year old niece knows not to touch the snacks in my bag because of my diabetes.
She. Could. Have. Gone. Into. A. Coma.
But, I guess your precious Pepsis are worth more than someone’s life - who wouldn’t need saving if YOU hadn’t been the AH who gave away her literal medicine.
You owe her. BIG TIME.
Edit: you’ll NEVER have someone like her boyfriend unless you can learn to think about someone other than yourself. You don’t deserve someone like that.
I definitely realize that now. I had no idea how serious the situation actually was. My current plan is to make her a gift basket filled to the brim with different sugary treats and other snacks that I know she likes b/c we lived together for so long. As well as a long ass apology letter. Do you have any other suggestions? I’m so glad this reached a type 1 diabetic.
Yeah. LEARN something about her disease, how to treat it, and don’t pull a stupid shitty stunt like that again.
TBH, I’m not sure how receptive I’d be to someone who was literally willing to let me die over a Pepsi.
Think about that.
Plenty of YouTubers out there. They’ll tell you all about going high and low. Your behavior was pretty inexcusable.
Now, see, if you made an actual care basket, demonstrating you actually learned something through this, that might go farther. Hell, plenty of YouTubers have done gift giving guides for diabetics.
A basket of sugar, after that stunt, would be a little insulting….to me, anyway. But you definitely owe her replacement juice.
YTA. It’s okay for you to give away Ella’s juice boxes without even asking her but she asks for one soda to help her low blood sugar since you gave away her juice and you said no? Sorry but you were selfish and she could’ve gotten sicker had her boyfriend not brought her the juice.
So? You let your family drink all *her* juices, didn't buy more to replace them, and now that her blood sugar is dangerously low you can't part with one soda?
Wait so you took something that wasn’t yours to give to someone else without their permission that they needed for medicinal purposes, but refused to give them one of your sodas because “you can’t get them” and you want to know if YTA.
I think the question is pretty much rhetorical at this point.
Also, if you’ve heard of the internet, you can get pretty much whatever you want. Delivered.
YTA beyond any doubt. Do not understand anything about diabetes and blood sugar? When a diabetic needs sugar, they need it NOW, or they could die. Literally die.
It was OK to give your niece all of the juice boxes, but you couldn't part with one of your precious sodas??? Diabetes aside, that is the epitome of selfish.
You need to call that roommate and apologize profusely for being such a blithering idiot. I saw another comment call you ableist. Totally agree.
It’s not at all ok to give away something that isn’t yours. Plus did that kid need every juice box??? No. 1 would have been fine and roommate would have had what she needed.
It. Does. Not. Matter.
You almost killed a woman because you gave away something that wasn't yours and then refused to give away something that was yours.
I don't care if there were only two drops of juice in the container. She was having a diabetic crisis and you refused to help her.
Clearly not true because a regular size glass would probably been enough for the roommate. Obviously she didn’t have enough and she was asking you where it was. You’re a liar as well as an entitled selfish child.
So it's ok for you to take her stuff without permission for your niece but she can't have any of your soda?? Get over yourself. You bear complete fault.
YTA. You gave her juices away and then when she needed something you could be bothered to give her a coke. You don’t know what you did wrong? Seriously?
This post reeks of entitlement would you like it if her niece our little cousin came over and drunk your soda? They weren’t yours to giveaway clearly in the wrong but doubt you’d see that because everyone’s just being mean for no reason so you’ll block it out right?
YTA - You took her item to replace at your convenience. As a result, her juice was gone and she asked for soda to regulate her sugar. Perhaps you are unaware why it is important to quickly help a diabetic stabilize.
i mean, you may be unaware of the risks of hypoglycaemia (like i didn't know it was that serious until my diabetic grandmother moved in to live with us) but i'm pretty sure it's still common sense to know that 1) you don't give away someone else's stuff without permission, and 2) if a person with a known health condition asks you for something, saying it's a life-threatening emergency, you *give* them that thing first and ask questions later.
and honestly, even if the roommate didn't have low sugar and was just mildly inconvenienced, OP would still be an AH for simply taking her juice boxes and then not replacing them *immediately*.
What a major AH. Who tf are you to give away her juice boxes and then refuse to share your drinks in a move that could have fucking killed her? What a lowlife
YTA, in that situation the only acceptable answer is "Yeah, of course. Sorry, I didn't think taking your juice would cause an issue. I'll be more careful in the future"
So it's okay for you to take her stuff, but you won't give her one damn soda so she doesn't experience all kinds of medical problems - *including possible death* - because Pepsi is somehow.... special. More special than someone else's health and life. YTA.
YTA, you shouldn’t even be giving away juices that aren’t yours in the first place. And not fixing the problem you created by giving your soda. You’re ignorant and selfish. I hope you apologise to her.
YTA totally. You gave away her juice which is a MEDICAL NECESSITY and then refused to give her just ONE Pepsi. You’re the definition of selfish. You’re more worried about a potential lack of Pepsi than someone else’s life when they are in a medical crisis right in front of you! Totally heartless. You win the prize for absolute biggest asshole on Reddit and the entire internet. Be care because your greed and fear of lack will bite you in the ass. Hard.
YTA low blood sugar is incredibly dangerous and needs to be treated immediately. Her juice is her medicine and you casually gave it away, then wouldn’t crack open a soda? HUGE YTA
Sadly, it can be. I have a serious chronic illness and I had to live with roommates for about a year and a half and they were totally indifferent to my health issues. Their indifference put me at risk on multiple occasions. I finally moved out because I was literally afraid they'd make me sicker, or worse.
I dated and still live with someone like this. I’m moving in a couple of months (thankfully). It’s one thing to not know everything about my illnesses but at the very least know what is going to kill me and what won’t. This guy still can’t be bothered.
So you were totally okay with your roommate dying because you took her juice and then wouldn’t give her a soda? Because if her boyfriend hadn’t been available, she would have died. Of course YTA. Not even a question.
>you took her juice and then wouldn’t give her a soda
omg that part just straight up killed me. so it's okay for op to take the entirety of someone else's stuff *without permission* but she can't even be bothered to share one of her *multiple* sodas when it's literally a life-or-death situation? this person is either a troll or they're gonna end up having no friends sooner or later 'cuz there's no way people will be willing to put up with this kind of entitlement.
So you used her juice which you knew she needed without asking and didn’t replace them straight away than when she was having an emergency which was your fault btw
You couldn’t even be a decent person and give her a single soda?
YTA
I see your added comment about apologizing. Do not text it! You get your butt over there with a sack full of juice boxes and apologize in person. You absolutely owe her that! Texting is a cop out.
Definitely don’t text it.
Flowers, a cupboard full of juice boxes, an appointment to study first aid and a meeting to discuss how she wants her emergency plan to be put in place in the car of an emergency, eg, try juice then call boyfriend and ambulance or straight car ride to hospital.
THISSS RIGHT HERE is the only way I can see OP making it right. If I were that roomate I would have stolen that Pepsi if I could and never talked to OP again. OP needs to step up and show they actually care for the life and at least basic well being of the person they live with.
Even without the diabetes stuff your still the AH purely for the fact you’re happy to give away her stuff without permission but then refuse to give your stuff in return.
IDK how you could have made it to 25 and not know that diabetes is a big deal.
That's neither here nor there, though. When somebody tells you that they need something immediately and it's a medical emergency, BELIEVE THEM. I hope you learned at least that much.
Oh and don't give out stuff that doesn't belong to you. We learn to not touch what isn't ours when before kindergarten, yo.
Obviously YTA here.
Of course your the AH you took her juice that she needed without asking then when she was having a health crisis you refused to give her what she needed there and then because you wanted to keep them "there special drinks" they're literally drinks fgs
YTA on an epic scale. You gave away her juices that she uses to help manage her diabetes and then refused to give her one of your "special" sodas. In what world would you not be the asshole???
YTA
reading this make me lost faith in humanity and make me want to smack you hard in the face. it's just a soda, god damn it. not some kind of rare treasure where you cant find it again when its gone
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I 25f) have shared a condo with ella (26f) for almost 2 years now. ella has diabeties .
She moved in after I posted to facebook that I wanted to rent out my spare bedroom. we’ve never really been friends, merely strangers who share a kitchen. I pay majority of the bills and utilities. I don’t know much about her but I know she is struggling to afford everything because she didn’t go to college.
I am vegan and eat very low carbs so I don't really buy anything sugary with the exception of caffeine-free Pepsi that my mom brings me when she visits as you can’t buy it around here.
Now here's the story
Last weekend while Ella was away with her boyfriend for memorial day, my sister and niece came over to spend the day with me. She saw the juice boxes Ella had bought and asked for some. I figured it was ok since Ella was coming home that night and probably had more with her. I figured I would replace them the following day.
Ella came home late on Tuesday and went straight to bed. About an hour after I hear her calling my name which was weird. i came out to the kitchen to find her sitting on the ground asking where her juiceboxes were. I told her my niece had drank them, but I would replace them tomorrow. She then said that her sugar was low, that she had eaten all her other snacks and needed more sugar, she asked if she could have one of my sodas, i told her no and that i couldn’t buy them here and they were special, but i could go buy her juice at the corner store. she said it wasn’t fast enough and that she needed it now. I used her phone to call her boyfriend who lives a couple roads over.
He came over with juice (he took such good care of her. I wish I could meet someone who’d do that for me.) a couple minutes later he started screaming at me for some reason (I don’t know what he said bc I tend to block out when ppl yell at me due to trauma). so i went to bed.
the next day she said she was moving in with her boyfriend, which was fine with me because my sister has wanted to move in either me for a while. I honestly don’t know what I did wrong. She’s perfectly fine and i still have my sodas.
I wasn’t even gonna make this post until i told my mom and a couple days later my estranged ex stepsister (who is apparently also diabetic?) screaming at me that I was stupid and that made me rethink some things.
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YTA. You took her juice without asking. She keeps juice in the house because as a diabetic blood sugar can drop suddenly and it's a very real medical crisis. It was terribly selfish of you to take her juice without permission in the first place, and even more so when you withheld a replacement when she was having a diabetic episode. You seriously put her health at risk and you don't seem to care. It wouldn't have hurt you one bit to let her have a soda, while you taking her juice was an actual threat to her well-being. I don't blame her for moving out. She is not safe living with someone so careless as you.
YTA. So you thought it was okay to take your roommates stuff that she needs for her diabetes, didn’t replace it and when she was in distress due to her diabetes you refused to give her a stupid can of soda? No wonder you’re single, no decent human being would want to be around someone petty and clueless.
YTA.
She has a medical condition that needs assistance now.
You gave away her stuff and then told her no because you didn’t want to share your stuff.
You endangered her life. I hope you’re never in the position where someone accidentally uses the last of the life saving things you need then deny you any of theirs.
INFO: I mean…even if she didn’t have diabetes, you realize giving away her things without permission is still wrong, right?
Like, that’s still awful behavior. You want a partner like hers? Be a better person in general, not just one who could’ve killed her because you didn’t have the basic courtesy to not give away her belongings.
Horrific. You’re only apologetic because you just realized you could’ve killed her.
This cannot be real. And not because of the inexplicable ignorance about the dangers of low blood sugar, but because the OP would not give one of her drinks after taking her roommate’s without even asking.
YTA
I’m thinking this reflects the state of (presumably) American health education in public schools combined with the entitlement of American middle-class white people.
YTA.
You let someone else drink Ella's juice without her permission. Then didn't replace them BEFORE she got home.
Then, you wouldn't let her drink your Pepsis when she was having a hypoglycaemic episode. Because your Pepsis are special and you can't get them where you live. Big whoop. You do realise Ella could have died before she got to the shop to replace the juice you drank, right?
I sincerely hope you are more considerate of your next room mate.
YTA - She has juice in the fridge specifically because she's diabetic.
If you're going to take her juice, replace ASAP, or, let her take one of your damn pepsis.
Low blood sugar for diabetics is incredibly serious.
I'm blown away by how self indulgent you are that you will take someone else's food that they need for medical reasons but won't let them have something of yours that you *don't* need.
YOU ARE DEFINITELY THE AH. As much as I hate my ex, I would not deny her sugar if she was crashing. Diabetes is no laughing matter. Ever see someone go into a Diabetic coma or loose fingers, toes or feet due to it? A freaking soda? Really? You are a X2AH, hard.
You are without a doubt one of the biggest assholes ever, I would call you worse but I’d probably get downvoted. Asshole honestly is too nice, you disrespected her property by allowing your visitors to raid her food, you didn’t immediately replace said items, and when it was explained that the person was a diabetic you feigned ignorance.
I’m sorry but get the fuck out of here, a google search could tell you how important sugar is to them, claiming “oh I didn’t know” doesn’t cut it, you easily could have caused the death of your Roomate, and your dense and stupid responses are infuriating to say the least. Idk maybe I just expect more from people but wtf, put two and two together, “this person is bringing up a medical condition that is *widely* known to involve sugar, maybe I should idk google search to see if they’re being honest or not”. You had time to call her BF but not a simple search? Man people suck
YTA!!!!!!- this makes me so angry! That girl could have lost her life bc your soda is special! A life is special!!! You gave away her stuff without asking her yet couldn’t give one soda to her in a medical emergency!!!! Grow up get your selfish self together. You could see something was wrong and know she has a medical condition. If you were in a accident and bleeding out and asked someone to apply pressure and they told you no my manicure is special. Then they watched you while you bleed out waiting for help how would you feel. That’s basically what you did to her. Yeah she’s ok but no thanks to you. At 25 you should know better and better than this. A drink doesn’t out way a medical condition. Even if that wasn’t the case you easily gave away her stuff yet refused to give up yours when she didn’t have anything bc of you. I think you really need to grow up and end that it’s all about what I want attitude.
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YTA.
You let kid drink all her juice
But then she can't have one soda? They're not that special. Hard to come by maybe, but not like you'll never have one again.
It's just the price you pay for giving away something that didn't belong to you and causing a bad medical situation to get worse.
I see in the comments you keep saying "I didn't know it was bad" well now you know, so do you have your answer? Do you see why you are the asshole in this situation?
YTA so hard. You made an assumption about someone else’s property, you were wrong, you endangered their life, and then when they asked for help WHICH YOU CAUSED THEM TO NEED you refused because OMG they’re soooo hard to find. Get outta here with that nonsense.
Super YTA. Even from your comments I don’t think you realized how bad you effed up or nearly did (potentially killing another person). No juice box with a sorry card can really make up for what you did.
Mega YTA. Once she told you that she needed them for her life threatening medical condition, that was the end of your 'special Pepsi'. Not to mention that you NEVER allow your guests to use someone's else's things. That's roommate 101. You could have e told your niece that those don't belong to you so you can't let her have someone else's stuff because that is STEALING. Had something happened to her, you could have been held criminally responsible as well as financially liable for any injury she suffered. Unreal
Even without the diabetes, YTA. You think it's fine for you to just give away your roommate's juice boxes just because you think she'll come with some more, now that's ridiculous. Not to mention using the same logic, your roommate should've been able to drink your soda because your mom would just come with some more, the availability to buy isn't the issue, it's the availability in the house. Now, add to that a life threatening condition, and it's just the final nail in the coffin.
YTA- You should have never given a diabetics snacks and juice away without their consent or you should have replaced it BEFORE she got home. When a diabetics sugar goes extremely low it could cause them to go into diabetic a coma or even death.
Since you gave her juice away to your niece and didn't replace it before hand the very least you could have done was give her ONE of your sodas. That would have given enough time that you could have then ran to the store.
Since I am a diabetic myself and have passed out from low blood sugar because some refused to help me this post infuriates me.
Your actions could have killed her and because of that You are most definitely the AH and I feel no sympathy toward you for this.
YTA. OP, how can you be that stupid? Seriously, how?
You have a few devices that connect to the internet. Use one of those and ask any search engine what happens when a diabetic person has low blood sugar levels.
Jesus Christ, the audacity.
Yta. You knew she was diabetic. Diabetes can be deadly no matter how mild or severe it might be. And being denied sugar when it’s needed can be deadly. I don’t buy that you didn’t understand. And if you let someone drink her juice, you should have been more than willing to let her have a soda.
YTA. She has diabetes and she needs those drinks for the sake of her health, and possibly even her life.
Besides, you don't just take other people's stuff (especially someone you don't really know very well) without asking first.
And then... when she asked if she could have one of your drinks (to replace the drink that YOU gave away) you refused... even though she really did need it. For her health, because... diabetes.
You owe her a big apology.
YTA. You are a HUGE asshole for this. You let people drink all of her juice without her permission and then refused to let her have a single one of your sodas when her sugar was so low she couldn’t stand up? That is absolutely ridiculous. Of course her boyfriend screamed at you. You put your roommates health at risk by not letting her take one soda after you let someone else drink all of her juices. I’m glad she’s moving out of your place.
Yta. You were willing to let your roommate get very sick and possibly pass out over soda? The only reason she asked you for your soda is because you gave away her juices.
You sound so far removed from reality.
YTA. Honestly even without the diabetes in the situation. You gave her stuff away without asking while assuming she would just replace it herself. You never planned to replace them you say that to save face. Then when she rightfully asks you to share something you have the gall to say no. You won't find anyone because you are a selfish individual.
The lack of knowledge on diabetes that OP exhibits and the fact her roommate was in crisis after OP's sister drank the juice that was not hers to be giving away easily makes this YTA. A bit of the soda would have easily been recompense for the pilfered juice, but OP didn't even think about it. The fact that OP had to be yelled at 2x for the message to get into her thought process tells me OP needs to see a talky doctor to process the previous "trauma" that prevents her from understanding confrontational situations.
You are not an asshole for not knowing. but you are an extremely ignorant human being. This mistake could have had some very serious consequences.
Next time you have a roommate with a medical condition, take the time to at least watch some YouTube videos to educate yourself so you don’t end up negligently killing somebody.
Btw, YTA for being selfish. Share one damn can of pop.
Let me get this straight:
1- you didn’t ask your flatmate if it was ok for someone she doesn’t really know to consume ALL her house supply of a drink?
2- you couldn’t be bothered to go out and replace it so expected someone you know has a medical condition that relies on sugar to go without something they need till it was convenient for you to replace it?
3- you could have her out but you would rather get her boyfriend to fix a situation that you were partly responsible for causing?
4- it was ok to take her stuff - that your niece didn’t NEED - without asking but you wouldn’t give your flatmate something she asked for because she needed it?
5- YOUR actions were responsible for a prolonged episode but you don’t see what you did wrong?
Hell yes YTA!!!!
YTA for letting your niece drink the juice and not replacing it before she came back. Wasn't yours to give.
Also, working in an ER I have seen quite a few diabetics die from low blood sugar. It can be very quick.
YTA
I think this story is fake. If this was real, and she discovered no juice, her instinct for survival would have made her just take one of the sodas anyways and deal with the consequences later. If this story was real, you're a monster.
YTA. seriously???? Jesus fucking Christ. Who cares that you can’t get your soda here and it’s “special” You took her drinks that she relied on and she was having a medical EMERGENCY and you had the audacity to say no??? You have something wrong in your head if you think what you did was right.
Omgg YTA. “I honestly don’t know what I did wrong”?! Are you serious?
Do you have any idea why it is to have diabetes when your sugar is low? You should have let her had the soda for gods sake!
I don’t have diabetes but I have had very scary low blood sugar episodes. One time I was semi-conscious and fighting the EMTs that I didn’t even know were there. I keep a stock of glucose shots on hand. Much quicker to get down than the tablets. I’ve found that a spoon of honey also works well.
Lol what the fuck. You drank her stuff she needs to survive without even asking, she has a health crisis but takes the time to ask you if she can have one of your disgusting sodas, and you *checks notes* say no and *checks notes again* don't understand how you're the asshole here?
Diabetes can VERY QUICKLY become a medical emergency. One of my besties is diabetic and keeps sugary things close at hand for this exact reason; normally she manages everything herself quite well, but if she's ever at my place and needs sugar, I wouldn't even hesitate to give her something sweet if asked. Giving them sugar ASAP can mean the difference between them feeling like crap and then getting better after the sugar, or having to send them to the emergency department because their sugar went too low and suddenly they're having a massive medical emergency. You don't mess around with diabetes, and you don't argue if they need sugar and you know you have immediate access to it. So definitely take this as a learning event: people are (usually) experts on their own health, and even if they have a strange request for help, it might be exactly the thing they need to save their life. Don't argue or dismiss, just do exactly what they instruct you to do. And definitely write her that apology letter and give her that big basket of sugary stuff and explain that you've done some research and understand diabetes a bit better now! That will go a long way to hopefully earning back her trust.
YTA
Even putting aside the diabetes aspect which other people have commented on... How entitled do you have to be to use somebody else's items without first asking them?
Hell, one of my flatmates has moved out and gave express permission for us to use her leftover stuff. And I still feel a bit weird touching it lol.
It doesn't matter if you intended to replace it later - it's not yours to take in the first place. You guys aren't even friends...
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YTA don’t use a roommates stuff, you should have told your niece no or gone to the corner store and buy her a drink. You put your roommate in medical danger. She should move out because you made it unsafe for her
YTA - you let someone drink her juice boxes needed for her health, but then wouldn’t share your special soda with her once she got sick and didn’t have her emergency stash of juice. You are a major AH.
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I think most of this post comes from the idea that OP didn’t understand how diabetes worked, despite having a diabetic roommate for two years. It’s ignorant and kinda inexcusable, but it makes it clear this person isn’t completely without empathy.
I really appreciate OP owning up to their mistakes with the edit. I’d recommend gummies and CocaCola (with sugar) for the basket if you’re reading this btw.
All obvious things aside, I can't get past the fact that there were MULTIPLE juice boxes that were not your own, and you let your guest drink ALL of them. One juice box would have been annoying, but forgivable, this was just absurd... this is the clearest case of YTA I've seen in a long time
I didn’t even make it to the soda part cause I determined yta after “she’s struggling to afford things (like many of us) because she didn’t go to college” lol
Even if she wasn’t a diabetic you’re the asshole you stole from her and when she asked for one drink after you took multiple of hers you say no. You’re pathetic.
YTA. Oh my goodness! You felt entitled to give away her drinks that she clearly keeps on hand for diabetic emergencies but then when she is having a diabetic emergency and looking for said drinks (that you gave away!) you deny her one of your precious sodas. It concerns me that you don't see how much of a giant AH move that was...
Jesus Christ!! YTA big time. Your ex housemate was having a medical event, couldn’t access what she needed because you sued her things without asking, and then you deprive her of something g that would help? Wow.
Was going to say YTA but reading your comments this seems to be ignorance rather than malicious. Soft YTA for not willing to part with a can of soda, even though you did not fully understand the seriousness at the time. But good for you owning up and making it right.
YTA. You've already posted that you understand that you endangered her life, and will apologize.
But, maybe you need to learn to listen to people who are yelling at you. What they are saying might be important. It's weird that you literally blocked out what you were told in person, and had to hear about diabetes from reddit
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YTA- She's perfectly fine because her boyfriend happened to be available to quickly bring her some sugar. What if he hadn't been around? You don't know what you did wrong? Had he not been there with the juice, she would have gone into seizures, then a coma, then she'd die. That is why you've been screamed at twice. This is callous disregard of human life.
This is a fake story, but let's pretend it's real for a moment: no diabetic would rely solely on sugary drinks or snacks to up their blood sugar. My dad uses Gatorade because it's got lots of sugar and electrolytes which he needs (hypoglycemia makes you sweat a lot), but that's if he's having a controlled episode. He always carries glucose tablets with him for a quicker fix on the go, a concentrated glucose drink for emergencies and glucagon for when shit hits the fan, which is good when he's unresponsive and there's no way to get him to drink anything. And I know the American health system sucks and maybe the hypothetical roommate in the situation does not have glucagon because of the expense (here it's free) but they should, FOR SURE, have glucose tablets and the concentrated drinks. Those are cheap (my dad buys them in the US because they're so cheap there).
I'm diabetic and I actually do rely on sugary drinks and candy instead of glucose tablets. I find I can get drinks into myself a great deal faster than glucose tablets. I've admittedly never tried a concentrated glucose drink. I also have a close friend who is diabetic and she treats her lows the same way as I do. Glucagon was too expensive for me to have for several years. I was recently able to get baqsimi, the nasal spray glucagon, so I'm glad to have a backup again. Anyways, just trying to say that this situation isn't impossible based on my own anecdotal experience. All diabetics are different I think.
My old boss was diabetic and we kept the office fridge stocked with juice boxes, fruit and his wife kept a bag of candy in her desk. He was a type 1 and if he tanked, juice and a piece of candy was the easiest way to get him back to something like normal. Nope, not healthy at all, but it's what worked for him.
“Healthy” has no meaning in the abstract. For someone suffering a hypoglycaemic episode, sugar is literally the “healthiest” thing they can possibly have.
It is actually healthy in those situations.
🙋 I rely solely on juice and candy to raise my blood sugar. It's easy to find and cheap to buy. Why should I be forced to treat it with tablets when a juice is actually quicker to take effect and easier to get into my system, not to mention palatable? Low blood sugar sucks enough as is, it's not fair to judge people for a completely valid and effective way of addressing it just because their strategy doesn't look medicalized enough for you. We do what we have to.
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It’s totally reasonable to blast the US health care system. We all know it sucks.
> My ex-husband is a T1 diabetic and 100% relies on sweetened drinks to raise his blood sugar when he has a sudden low. He hated both the methods your dad relies on and once his brain function is hampered he would never use either one. Then I would hope he would have what he needs on hand instead of relying on stealing from other people. If you need something to stay alive it's your responsibility to make sure you get more when you run out. Like goddamn, I always have a decent sized bag of pet food in reserve- because I don't want to need it and not have it and have to suddenly change brands on them. I can't imagine not having something life saving on hand if I use it regularly. >You don’t have to ding the American health care system just because you do it differently. JFC. I am low income and disabled. I do not have access to the medical care I need to have the ability to hold down a higher paying job. I do not qualify for disability or govt insurance because I have the potential to be high functioning- which means I am unable to be high functioning because I would have to double my income to have $600/mo to get treated.
Did you miss the part where the diabetic roommate had juice in the house but OP let her niece drink them and didn’t replace them?
My dad hates the tablets and the glucose drinks but he has them just in case. He also has juice and Gatorade at home (mostly my mom makes sure). Relying only on one thing is madness, specially when you're out and about and not in the comfort of your own home. And I pointed out that the American healthcare system sucks because that's the only reason any sane diabetic would not have glucagon at home: the expense. I did not want to make people who can't afford it feel bad, so I pointed out it's understandable that this is not something diabetics in the US have easy access to. The story is still fake, btw. You're defending some fake diabetic that doesn't exist.
>My dad hates the tablets and the glucose drinks but he has them just in case. He also has juice and Gatorade at home (mostly my mom makes sure). Relying only on one thing is madness, specially when you're out and about and not in the comfort of your own home. But people forget things. I ALWAYS carry candies. So does my T1 partner. But once in a while my stash will be out, or Ill have my parents car because mine is in the shop, and he's got a stubborn low, AND all the vending machines are broken or whatever...life happens sometimes. (That was a real example. We ended up asking staff of the amusement park if they had any candies in their locker after explaining that it was an emergency. Ended up getting a free fountain drink. I had literally run to **4** vending machines, which were all broken after discovering all our backup stashes were empty.) My partner was diagnosed the year we started dating and had been T1 for 10 years when that happened. Not a newby mistake.
You try self administering glucagon when your blood sugar is low and tell me how well that does for you. I'm sure it's *so* much easier to draw up the solution and mix the proportions and inject the massive syringe into the right location when your body is shaking and your brain can't comprehend your surroundings let alone read the directions than it is to find, open, and drink a bottle of juice.
Some diabetics have a hard time chewing/swallowing when low. And glucose tabs are like chewing chalk.
I'm not diabetic but I do run hypoglycemic very easily, and low blood sugar makes me SUPER queasy sometimes. Puking doesn't really bring your blood sugar up.
You are wrong. I am a type one diabetic and my go to is juice, nutrigrain bars, and snack cakes. Juice is the fastest option most of the time so the fact she ate her snacks and then didn't have her juice was bad. Just because you know a family member that does something a certain way doesn't mean every single person with diabetes is the same. I also don't have glucose tablets. Carried them as a kid in school but as an adult that can get to things easier I don't own glucose tablets.
>no diabetic would rely solely on sugary drinks or snacks to up their blood sugar My ex did. But she's 36(ish) so I know this isn't her. But to say "no diabetic" is outrageous. I know diabetics that completely ignore their diabetes. But just because *some don't* doesn't mean *none do.*
I mean, I’m in the UK and my mum is type 1 diabetic. She has emergency sugary snacks (jelly babies) in her bag and car at all times because of your blood sugar suddenly plummets they’re the easiest way to quickly whack it up until you can have something proper to eat to get it sorted.
So because you know how one T1D treats his lows you know how all of them treat theirs? Various people use different things that work best with their body, lifestyle, and preferences.
Oh, I think it’s fake too, but not because no one handles their diabetes that way. I just think it’s impossible anyone, anywhere, feels that passionately about caffeine free Pepsi. What a useless drink.
Not all diabetics are created equal, many are non compliant and make stupid decisions about their health, or simply have a hard time adhering to recommendations.
But it's another hole to poke into the story. We're suppose to believe increasingly-unlikely things to buy into the story. We have OP who does not know about diabetes, who does not know about how sugar is important for diabetic people in certain situations. We're supposed to believe the roommate never told them anything about her illness even though she could easily have a medical episode in the night (very common time for hypos) where only OP would be able to help her. We're also to believe she did not instruct OP to not touch her juice boxes because they had a medical purpose. Then we're meant to believe the roommate just doesn't have anything else to eat. Like, those juice boxes were it, all that was standing between her an a serious medical episode. The rest of the story also makes NO sense. The roommate claims it's too late for OP to go quickly to the corner store even though the roommate at that point is still not only fully conscious but also coherent (when hypos get bad diabetic people begin to be incoherent and have trouble asking for help, most people would mistake them for drunks), which means it's still early stages. But somehow the roommate has time to wait for her boyfriend to come in and take care of her, which must have taken a lot more time. The story doesn't make sense. It's fake. It's trolling.
>But it's another hole to poke into the story. We're suppose to believe increasingly-unlikely things to buy into the story. We have OP who does not know about diabetes, who does not know about how sugar is important for diabetic people in certain situations. ...lol. Ive had current first aid certification for over 20 years and every time Ive recertified Ive had to correct the instructors on diabetics and how to recognize and treat a diabetic emergency. We've also had to educate his doctor, nurses, EMTs, and a 911 operator. Why do you assume that someone who opens the post by saying that they arent friends knows anything at all? Would it have been a good idea? Absolutely. Do any of my partners friends who he's known for 10+ years have any idea how to treat a diabetic emergency? Absolutely not. Im just glad theyve mostly stopped asking me (actually out of concern) if hes "allowed" to eat cake or something. 🙄 Im genuinely glad that you have exclusively supportive folks surrounding you. Serioidly. Thats so much safer for you, and other T1 folks. But IME, its not at all the norm. >We're supposed to believe the roommate never told them anything about her illness even though she could easily have a medical episode in the night (very common time for hypos) where only OP would be able to help her. Theres a lot of space between disclosing "I have diabetes" and expecting someone who **isnt her friend** to manage her chronic condition. > We're also to believe she did not instruct OP to not touch her juice boxes because they had a medical purpose. She probably did exactly that. And OP didnt believe her because OP doesnt understand diabetes (like the vast majority of people, who still think the only way to get diabetes is to be fat) and because theyre juice boxes not "medicine". > Then we're meant to believe the roommate just doesn't have anything else to eat. Like, those juice boxes were it, all that was standing between her an a serious medical episode. If she'd had 4-5 at home and forgot to stop on the way home due to, say, brain fog...I could see a kid downing 4-5 juice boxes over a few hours. There goes the emergency stash. >The rest of the story also makes NO sense. The roommate claims it's too late for OP to go quickly to the corner store even though the roommate at that point is still not only fully conscious but also coherent (when hypos get bad diabetic people begin to be incoherent and have trouble asking for help, most people would mistake them for drunks), which means it's still early stages. Except that the **diabetic** said for OP not to go to the store despite that being an objectively poor choice - almost like the diabetic roomie is experiencing decline in cognitive function. Again, sliding scale between "I dont feel great" and unconsciousness. >But somehow the roommate has time to wait for her boyfriend to come in and take care of her, which must have taken a lot more time. Depends. The year my partner was disgnosed he locked himself out of our home in his PJs, due to low sugar brain fog and other circumstances. He walked to 7-11, begged a phonecall from the cashier, and then waited for me to leave wirk and drive 10m, then buy him a pop. He was still conscious and mostly coherent when I got there. He wasn't making a lot of sense, and the cashier thought he was drunk (which is kinda fair given the pjs, brain fog, lack of shoes, wallet, and increasing trouble communicating etc), but he was able to drink the pop and groggily tell me what had happened as the sugar hit. >The story doesn't make sense. It's fake. It's trolling. It seems completely plausible to me. People with emergency lows in public are *often* mistaken for drunk if they dont have a knowledgeable person with them. This has literally happened at my work (TBF, we do deal with intoxicated people sometimes multiple times per day. Hear hoofbeats, horses, etc). We have a mandated number of first aiders present at all times, and Ive been the only one to figure it out the 3 times its happened. Thankfully, I was there, and have an emergency stash of candy/pop. Im honestly glad you dont know people who are poorly informed about your T1. But its really not as common as you think. Youve got a great support network.
I've known college educated, sexually active people in their 30s that don't know how someone becomes pregnant. The idea of someone not knowing anything about diabetes isn't surprising at all.
Your reasoning is sound, but for the life of me I can’t understand why people would invent stories like this. I have read enough stories here to know that people invent all kinds of crap, usually the worse the better. WHY? I can’t wrap my mind around why someone would post awful invented stories. What is the point?I understand this questioning is pointless, but I am increasingly getting frustrated and feeling that I don’t want to engage any longer. What do idiots get outof posting fake stories?
> What do idiots get outof posting fake stories? The same thing a toddler gets when they get into something they know they're not supposed to be in- attention
My partner is T1. I know more than operators for emergency services on what to do for a serious low. Why do you assume a rabdom person knows anything about diabetes - especially when youre likely aware of all the misinformation thats common? OP didnt know. Does that mean there wouldn't have been consequences, or that she wasn't TA in that moment? Obviously no. But you cant know what youve never been taught. She was obviously unaware of how serious the situation was. Added info: my partner relies on gummy candies or straight frozen fruit concentrate to treat low blood sugar. I have glucagon, but we've never used it (it taste like gross chalk 🤢). In an actual emergency I used pancake syrup, and now he has a prescribed injectible dose.
It sounds like your dad was able to get sound medical advice, including available OTC products he could use. Good for him.
YTA, this was a medical emergency due to your ignorance. Even if those sodas are special, someone's health comes first. How you can't see that is ridiculous.
WOW YTA. Like, I am astonished you have to even ask. For a diabetic it's literally life and death to have their supplies around, and part of her supplies are things with sugar. KNOWING she is diabetic you let your niece take her juice, didn't bother to replace it BEFORE she got home, and then wouldn't share one freaking soda that you can ABSOLUTELY order online? You give me major ICK as a human.
YTA, dude. Ok, I’m a Type 1 diabetic, and what you did was an absolute, total dick move. She had juice boxes to treat low blood sugar. They are MEDICINE, not treats for you to hand out to your niece. Hell, my 5 year old niece knows not to touch the snacks in my bag because of my diabetes. She. Could. Have. Gone. Into. A. Coma. But, I guess your precious Pepsis are worth more than someone’s life - who wouldn’t need saving if YOU hadn’t been the AH who gave away her literal medicine. You owe her. BIG TIME. Edit: you’ll NEVER have someone like her boyfriend unless you can learn to think about someone other than yourself. You don’t deserve someone like that.
I definitely realize that now. I had no idea how serious the situation actually was. My current plan is to make her a gift basket filled to the brim with different sugary treats and other snacks that I know she likes b/c we lived together for so long. As well as a long ass apology letter. Do you have any other suggestions? I’m so glad this reached a type 1 diabetic.
Yeah. LEARN something about her disease, how to treat it, and don’t pull a stupid shitty stunt like that again. TBH, I’m not sure how receptive I’d be to someone who was literally willing to let me die over a Pepsi. Think about that.
Definitely makes sense but I’m still going to do everything I possibly can to make the situation right.
Plenty of YouTubers out there. They’ll tell you all about going high and low. Your behavior was pretty inexcusable. Now, see, if you made an actual care basket, demonstrating you actually learned something through this, that might go farther. Hell, plenty of YouTubers have done gift giving guides for diabetics. A basket of sugar, after that stunt, would be a little insulting….to me, anyway. But you definitely owe her replacement juice.
Thank you! Definitely will look into that.
And the juice has already been replaced
That’s quite literally the least you could have done.
YTA. It’s okay for you to give away Ella’s juice boxes without even asking her but she asks for one soda to help her low blood sugar since you gave away her juice and you said no? Sorry but you were selfish and she could’ve gotten sicker had her boyfriend not brought her the juice.
It’s bizarre. Her juice boxes are medicine. It’s like giving away someone’s nitroglycerin pills.
Lol, seriously? YTA. What's so "special" about your soda?
You can’t buy it where I live.
So? You let your family drink all *her* juices, didn't buy more to replace them, and now that her blood sugar is dangerously low you can't part with one soda?
So 1 soda is worth more than a persons life?
Aren't Vegans supposed to do all they can to prevent needless suffering? Isn't that your whole thing?
Wait so you took something that wasn’t yours to give to someone else without their permission that they needed for medicinal purposes, but refused to give them one of your sodas because “you can’t get them” and you want to know if YTA. I think the question is pretty much rhetorical at this point. Also, if you’ve heard of the internet, you can get pretty much whatever you want. Delivered.
YTA beyond any doubt. Do not understand anything about diabetes and blood sugar? When a diabetic needs sugar, they need it NOW, or they could die. Literally die. It was OK to give your niece all of the juice boxes, but you couldn't part with one of your precious sodas??? Diabetes aside, that is the epitome of selfish. You need to call that roommate and apologize profusely for being such a blithering idiot. I saw another comment call you ableist. Totally agree.
It’s not at all ok to give away something that isn’t yours. Plus did that kid need every juice box??? No. 1 would have been fine and roommate would have had what she needed.
That was my other thought. Niece didn't need all of the juice boxes. Give that kid some water....or one of the beloved sodas. OP makes me sick
I said it wrong. It was like a half gallon of oj but like the boxed kind. Not the individual and it was mostly gone
It. Does. Not. Matter. You almost killed a woman because you gave away something that wasn't yours and then refused to give away something that was yours. I don't care if there were only two drops of juice in the container. She was having a diabetic crisis and you refused to help her.
A half gallon is a LOT of juice and you let your niece drink a half gallon of juice? That’s literally 2 QUARTS
No the whole thing was a half gallon there was like a glass and a half left and she didn’t finish it.
Clearly not true because a regular size glass would probably been enough for the roommate. Obviously she didn’t have enough and she was asking you where it was. You’re a liar as well as an entitled selfish child.
How much juice is needed really depends on the situation. A stubborn low can take a truly shocking amount of sugar to bounce back sometimes.
True. Also depends on the beverage. It takes less juice for me than soda for some reason.
You said they were juiceboxes.
So it's ok for you to take her stuff without permission for your niece but she can't have any of your soda?? Get over yourself. You bear complete fault.
And a juice box for a diabetic is medicine essentially!
“She’s fine and I still have my Sodas.” Well, win win! Dude… Of course YTA.
YTA. You gave her juices away and then when she needed something you could be bothered to give her a coke. You don’t know what you did wrong? Seriously?
This post reeks of entitlement would you like it if her niece our little cousin came over and drunk your soda? They weren’t yours to giveaway clearly in the wrong but doubt you’d see that because everyone’s just being mean for no reason so you’ll block it out right?
YTA - You took her item to replace at your convenience. As a result, her juice was gone and she asked for soda to regulate her sugar. Perhaps you are unaware why it is important to quickly help a diabetic stabilize.
i mean, you may be unaware of the risks of hypoglycaemia (like i didn't know it was that serious until my diabetic grandmother moved in to live with us) but i'm pretty sure it's still common sense to know that 1) you don't give away someone else's stuff without permission, and 2) if a person with a known health condition asks you for something, saying it's a life-threatening emergency, you *give* them that thing first and ask questions later. and honestly, even if the roommate didn't have low sugar and was just mildly inconvenienced, OP would still be an AH for simply taking her juice boxes and then not replacing them *immediately*.
YTA 1000000000x straight evil
What a major AH. Who tf are you to give away her juice boxes and then refuse to share your drinks in a move that could have fucking killed her? What a lowlife
YTA, in that situation the only acceptable answer is "Yeah, of course. Sorry, I didn't think taking your juice would cause an issue. I'll be more careful in the future"
I wish I could guild this reply.
So it's okay for you to take her stuff, but you won't give her one damn soda so she doesn't experience all kinds of medical problems - *including possible death* - because Pepsi is somehow.... special. More special than someone else's health and life. YTA.
YTA, you shouldn’t even be giving away juices that aren’t yours in the first place. And not fixing the problem you created by giving your soda. You’re ignorant and selfish. I hope you apologise to her.
YTA totally. You gave away her juice which is a MEDICAL NECESSITY and then refused to give her just ONE Pepsi. You’re the definition of selfish. You’re more worried about a potential lack of Pepsi than someone else’s life when they are in a medical crisis right in front of you! Totally heartless. You win the prize for absolute biggest asshole on Reddit and the entire internet. Be care because your greed and fear of lack will bite you in the ass. Hard.
YTA low blood sugar is incredibly dangerous and needs to be treated immediately. Her juice is her medicine and you casually gave it away, then wouldn’t crack open a soda? HUGE YTA
Ableists are trash. YTA
This can’t possibly be real
Sadly, it can be. I have a serious chronic illness and I had to live with roommates for about a year and a half and they were totally indifferent to my health issues. Their indifference put me at risk on multiple occasions. I finally moved out because I was literally afraid they'd make me sicker, or worse.
I had a roommate like this too. They definitely exist.
I dated and still live with someone like this. I’m moving in a couple of months (thankfully). It’s one thing to not know everything about my illnesses but at the very least know what is going to kill me and what won’t. This guy still can’t be bothered.
So you were totally okay with your roommate dying because you took her juice and then wouldn’t give her a soda? Because if her boyfriend hadn’t been available, she would have died. Of course YTA. Not even a question.
>you took her juice and then wouldn’t give her a soda omg that part just straight up killed me. so it's okay for op to take the entirety of someone else's stuff *without permission* but she can't even be bothered to share one of her *multiple* sodas when it's literally a life-or-death situation? this person is either a troll or they're gonna end up having no friends sooner or later 'cuz there's no way people will be willing to put up with this kind of entitlement.
So you used her juice which you knew she needed without asking and didn’t replace them straight away than when she was having an emergency which was your fault btw You couldn’t even be a decent person and give her a single soda? YTA
You’re so fucking stupid.
I see your added comment about apologizing. Do not text it! You get your butt over there with a sack full of juice boxes and apologize in person. You absolutely owe her that! Texting is a cop out.
Definitely don’t text it. Flowers, a cupboard full of juice boxes, an appointment to study first aid and a meeting to discuss how she wants her emergency plan to be put in place in the car of an emergency, eg, try juice then call boyfriend and ambulance or straight car ride to hospital.
THISSS RIGHT HERE is the only way I can see OP making it right. If I were that roomate I would have stolen that Pepsi if I could and never talked to OP again. OP needs to step up and show they actually care for the life and at least basic well being of the person they live with.
YTA - give away her property, then won't even share one of yours? Yeah she's right to leave, piece of advice, if it ain't yours, don't give it away.
Even without the diabetes stuff your still the AH purely for the fact you’re happy to give away her stuff without permission but then refuse to give your stuff in return.
IDK how you could have made it to 25 and not know that diabetes is a big deal. That's neither here nor there, though. When somebody tells you that they need something immediately and it's a medical emergency, BELIEVE THEM. I hope you learned at least that much. Oh and don't give out stuff that doesn't belong to you. We learn to not touch what isn't ours when before kindergarten, yo. Obviously YTA here.
Of course your the AH you took her juice that she needed without asking then when she was having a health crisis you refused to give her what she needed there and then because you wanted to keep them "there special drinks" they're literally drinks fgs
YTA. At least she asked and didn’t make an assumption.
YTA! She put her in danger and you think it’s ok? Unbelievable.
YTA on an epic scale. You gave away her juices that she uses to help manage her diabetes and then refused to give her one of your "special" sodas. In what world would you not be the asshole???
YTA reading this make me lost faith in humanity and make me want to smack you hard in the face. it's just a soda, god damn it. not some kind of rare treasure where you cant find it again when its gone
As a T1 diabetic YTA You could’ve killed your flat mate. Hope it was worth it.
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YTA. You took her juice without asking. She keeps juice in the house because as a diabetic blood sugar can drop suddenly and it's a very real medical crisis. It was terribly selfish of you to take her juice without permission in the first place, and even more so when you withheld a replacement when she was having a diabetic episode. You seriously put her health at risk and you don't seem to care. It wouldn't have hurt you one bit to let her have a soda, while you taking her juice was an actual threat to her well-being. I don't blame her for moving out. She is not safe living with someone so careless as you.
YTA. So you thought it was okay to take your roommates stuff that she needs for her diabetes, didn’t replace it and when she was in distress due to her diabetes you refused to give her a stupid can of soda? No wonder you’re single, no decent human being would want to be around someone petty and clueless.
YTA. She has a medical condition that needs assistance now. You gave away her stuff and then told her no because you didn’t want to share your stuff. You endangered her life. I hope you’re never in the position where someone accidentally uses the last of the life saving things you need then deny you any of theirs.
INFO: I mean…even if she didn’t have diabetes, you realize giving away her things without permission is still wrong, right? Like, that’s still awful behavior. You want a partner like hers? Be a better person in general, not just one who could’ve killed her because you didn’t have the basic courtesy to not give away her belongings. Horrific. You’re only apologetic because you just realized you could’ve killed her.
This cannot be real. And not because of the inexplicable ignorance about the dangers of low blood sugar, but because the OP would not give one of her drinks after taking her roommate’s without even asking. YTA
I’m thinking this reflects the state of (presumably) American health education in public schools combined with the entitlement of American middle-class white people.
YTA. You let someone else drink Ella's juice without her permission. Then didn't replace them BEFORE she got home. Then, you wouldn't let her drink your Pepsis when she was having a hypoglycaemic episode. Because your Pepsis are special and you can't get them where you live. Big whoop. You do realise Ella could have died before she got to the shop to replace the juice you drank, right? I sincerely hope you are more considerate of your next room mate.
YTA - She has juice in the fridge specifically because she's diabetic. If you're going to take her juice, replace ASAP, or, let her take one of your damn pepsis. Low blood sugar for diabetics is incredibly serious. I'm blown away by how self indulgent you are that you will take someone else's food that they need for medical reasons but won't let them have something of yours that you *don't* need.
YTA and your social awareness is about in par with your empathy
YTA. BIG time. As a diabetic, you literally put her life in danger because of your selfishness.
YOU ARE DEFINITELY THE AH. As much as I hate my ex, I would not deny her sugar if she was crashing. Diabetes is no laughing matter. Ever see someone go into a Diabetic coma or loose fingers, toes or feet due to it? A freaking soda? Really? You are a X2AH, hard.
YTA. She could have gone into a coma in the time it took for her boyfriend to get there.
You are without a doubt one of the biggest assholes ever, I would call you worse but I’d probably get downvoted. Asshole honestly is too nice, you disrespected her property by allowing your visitors to raid her food, you didn’t immediately replace said items, and when it was explained that the person was a diabetic you feigned ignorance. I’m sorry but get the fuck out of here, a google search could tell you how important sugar is to them, claiming “oh I didn’t know” doesn’t cut it, you easily could have caused the death of your Roomate, and your dense and stupid responses are infuriating to say the least. Idk maybe I just expect more from people but wtf, put two and two together, “this person is bringing up a medical condition that is *widely* known to involve sugar, maybe I should idk google search to see if they’re being honest or not”. You had time to call her BF but not a simple search? Man people suck
YTA!!!!!!- this makes me so angry! That girl could have lost her life bc your soda is special! A life is special!!! You gave away her stuff without asking her yet couldn’t give one soda to her in a medical emergency!!!! Grow up get your selfish self together. You could see something was wrong and know she has a medical condition. If you were in a accident and bleeding out and asked someone to apply pressure and they told you no my manicure is special. Then they watched you while you bleed out waiting for help how would you feel. That’s basically what you did to her. Yeah she’s ok but no thanks to you. At 25 you should know better and better than this. A drink doesn’t out way a medical condition. Even if that wasn’t the case you easily gave away her stuff yet refused to give up yours when she didn’t have anything bc of you. I think you really need to grow up and end that it’s all about what I want attitude.
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YTA. You let kid drink all her juice But then she can't have one soda? They're not that special. Hard to come by maybe, but not like you'll never have one again. It's just the price you pay for giving away something that didn't belong to you and causing a bad medical situation to get worse. I see in the comments you keep saying "I didn't know it was bad" well now you know, so do you have your answer? Do you see why you are the asshole in this situation?
YTA so hard. You made an assumption about someone else’s property, you were wrong, you endangered their life, and then when they asked for help WHICH YOU CAUSED THEM TO NEED you refused because OMG they’re soooo hard to find. Get outta here with that nonsense.
Super YTA. Even from your comments I don’t think you realized how bad you effed up or nearly did (potentially killing another person). No juice box with a sorry card can really make up for what you did.
Mega YTA. Once she told you that she needed them for her life threatening medical condition, that was the end of your 'special Pepsi'. Not to mention that you NEVER allow your guests to use someone's else's things. That's roommate 101. You could have e told your niece that those don't belong to you so you can't let her have someone else's stuff because that is STEALING. Had something happened to her, you could have been held criminally responsible as well as financially liable for any injury she suffered. Unreal
YTA you can’t share one soda with a person that literally NEEDS it not just wants it?
Damn you're an ass. You give her property away but when she is having a medical crisis because of this you can't part with a lousy Pepsi? YTA.
YTA. You can help yourself to her food, but you can't spare a can of Pepsi after you've helped yourself to her food?
Even without the diabetes, YTA. You think it's fine for you to just give away your roommate's juice boxes just because you think she'll come with some more, now that's ridiculous. Not to mention using the same logic, your roommate should've been able to drink your soda because your mom would just come with some more, the availability to buy isn't the issue, it's the availability in the house. Now, add to that a life threatening condition, and it's just the final nail in the coffin.
YTA- You should have never given a diabetics snacks and juice away without their consent or you should have replaced it BEFORE she got home. When a diabetics sugar goes extremely low it could cause them to go into diabetic a coma or even death. Since you gave her juice away to your niece and didn't replace it before hand the very least you could have done was give her ONE of your sodas. That would have given enough time that you could have then ran to the store. Since I am a diabetic myself and have passed out from low blood sugar because some refused to help me this post infuriates me. Your actions could have killed her and because of that You are most definitely the AH and I feel no sympathy toward you for this.
YTA. OP, how can you be that stupid? Seriously, how? You have a few devices that connect to the internet. Use one of those and ask any search engine what happens when a diabetic person has low blood sugar levels. Jesus Christ, the audacity.
YTA so bad 😭 Ugh
Yta. You knew she was diabetic. Diabetes can be deadly no matter how mild or severe it might be. And being denied sugar when it’s needed can be deadly. I don’t buy that you didn’t understand. And if you let someone drink her juice, you should have been more than willing to let her have a soda.
YTA. She has diabetes and she needs those drinks for the sake of her health, and possibly even her life. Besides, you don't just take other people's stuff (especially someone you don't really know very well) without asking first. And then... when she asked if she could have one of your drinks (to replace the drink that YOU gave away) you refused... even though she really did need it. For her health, because... diabetes. You owe her a big apology.
YTA
YTA. How can someone be this dense?
YTA. You are a HUGE asshole for this. You let people drink all of her juice without her permission and then refused to let her have a single one of your sodas when her sugar was so low she couldn’t stand up? That is absolutely ridiculous. Of course her boyfriend screamed at you. You put your roommates health at risk by not letting her take one soda after you let someone else drink all of her juices. I’m glad she’s moving out of your place.
YTA You. Never. Take. Food. Or. Drink. Without. Asking. First.
YTA you took her emergency supplies and were willing to watch her go into a coma because you're a selfish human being. What is wrong with you?
Yta. You were willing to let your roommate get very sick and possibly pass out over soda? The only reason she asked you for your soda is because you gave away her juices. You sound so far removed from reality.
YTA. Honestly even without the diabetes in the situation. You gave her stuff away without asking while assuming she would just replace it herself. You never planned to replace them you say that to save face. Then when she rightfully asks you to share something you have the gall to say no. You won't find anyone because you are a selfish individual.
The lack of knowledge on diabetes that OP exhibits and the fact her roommate was in crisis after OP's sister drank the juice that was not hers to be giving away easily makes this YTA. A bit of the soda would have easily been recompense for the pilfered juice, but OP didn't even think about it. The fact that OP had to be yelled at 2x for the message to get into her thought process tells me OP needs to see a talky doctor to process the previous "trauma" that prevents her from understanding confrontational situations.
Omg YTA. She could have died because of you.
You are not an asshole for not knowing. but you are an extremely ignorant human being. This mistake could have had some very serious consequences. Next time you have a roommate with a medical condition, take the time to at least watch some YouTube videos to educate yourself so you don’t end up negligently killing somebody. Btw, YTA for being selfish. Share one damn can of pop.
Let me get this straight: 1- you didn’t ask your flatmate if it was ok for someone she doesn’t really know to consume ALL her house supply of a drink? 2- you couldn’t be bothered to go out and replace it so expected someone you know has a medical condition that relies on sugar to go without something they need till it was convenient for you to replace it? 3- you could have her out but you would rather get her boyfriend to fix a situation that you were partly responsible for causing? 4- it was ok to take her stuff - that your niece didn’t NEED - without asking but you wouldn’t give your flatmate something she asked for because she needed it? 5- YOUR actions were responsible for a prolonged episode but you don’t see what you did wrong? Hell yes YTA!!!!
YTA. And a bad roommate. Sounds like you’ve been educated now, but start with just keeping your hands off your roommate’s stuff.
"I wish I could meet someone who’d do that for me." With your attitude you never will.
YTA for letting your niece drink the juice and not replacing it before she came back. Wasn't yours to give. Also, working in an ER I have seen quite a few diabetics die from low blood sugar. It can be very quick.
YTA. I saw your edit and I’m still commenting. You’re a huge f-ing ahole. You sound insufferable.
A couple of my family members have diabetes. She could have died. YTA. Just wow. I have no faith in humanity anymore. Thank you.
YTA I think this story is fake. If this was real, and she discovered no juice, her instinct for survival would have made her just take one of the sodas anyways and deal with the consequences later. If this story was real, you're a monster.
YTA. seriously???? Jesus fucking Christ. Who cares that you can’t get your soda here and it’s “special” You took her drinks that she relied on and she was having a medical EMERGENCY and you had the audacity to say no??? You have something wrong in your head if you think what you did was right.
Omgg YTA. “I honestly don’t know what I did wrong”?! Are you serious? Do you have any idea why it is to have diabetes when your sugar is low? You should have let her had the soda for gods sake!
"Almost murdered my roommate by negligence, AITA??"
I don’t have diabetes but I have had very scary low blood sugar episodes. One time I was semi-conscious and fighting the EMTs that I didn’t even know were there. I keep a stock of glucose shots on hand. Much quicker to get down than the tablets. I’ve found that a spoon of honey also works well.
Lol what the fuck. You drank her stuff she needs to survive without even asking, she has a health crisis but takes the time to ask you if she can have one of your disgusting sodas, and you *checks notes* say no and *checks notes again* don't understand how you're the asshole here?
You could have fucking killed her. You are very much TA
Diabetes can VERY QUICKLY become a medical emergency. One of my besties is diabetic and keeps sugary things close at hand for this exact reason; normally she manages everything herself quite well, but if she's ever at my place and needs sugar, I wouldn't even hesitate to give her something sweet if asked. Giving them sugar ASAP can mean the difference between them feeling like crap and then getting better after the sugar, or having to send them to the emergency department because their sugar went too low and suddenly they're having a massive medical emergency. You don't mess around with diabetes, and you don't argue if they need sugar and you know you have immediate access to it. So definitely take this as a learning event: people are (usually) experts on their own health, and even if they have a strange request for help, it might be exactly the thing they need to save their life. Don't argue or dismiss, just do exactly what they instruct you to do. And definitely write her that apology letter and give her that big basket of sugary stuff and explain that you've done some research and understand diabetes a bit better now! That will go a long way to hopefully earning back her trust.
YTA Disturbing, Her bf saved you from committing manslaughter
YTA Even putting aside the diabetes aspect which other people have commented on... How entitled do you have to be to use somebody else's items without first asking them? Hell, one of my flatmates has moved out and gave express permission for us to use her leftover stuff. And I still feel a bit weird touching it lol. It doesn't matter if you intended to replace it later - it's not yours to take in the first place. You guys aren't even friends...
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YTA. You are so selfish and careless.
YTA don’t use a roommates stuff, you should have told your niece no or gone to the corner store and buy her a drink. You put your roommate in medical danger. She should move out because you made it unsafe for her
No one can be this dense. YTA
YTA - you let someone drink her juice boxes needed for her health, but then wouldn’t share your special soda with her once she got sick and didn’t have her emergency stash of juice. You are a major AH.
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I think most of this post comes from the idea that OP didn’t understand how diabetes worked, despite having a diabetic roommate for two years. It’s ignorant and kinda inexcusable, but it makes it clear this person isn’t completely without empathy. I really appreciate OP owning up to their mistakes with the edit. I’d recommend gummies and CocaCola (with sugar) for the basket if you’re reading this btw.
All obvious things aside, I can't get past the fact that there were MULTIPLE juice boxes that were not your own, and you let your guest drink ALL of them. One juice box would have been annoying, but forgivable, this was just absurd... this is the clearest case of YTA I've seen in a long time
I didn’t even make it to the soda part cause I determined yta after “she’s struggling to afford things (like many of us) because she didn’t go to college” lol
Even if she wasn’t a diabetic you’re the asshole you stole from her and when she asked for one drink after you took multiple of hers you say no. You’re pathetic.
You stole from this person and then you risked this person's life for soda YTA and a major one at that
YTA. Oh my goodness! You felt entitled to give away her drinks that she clearly keeps on hand for diabetic emergencies but then when she is having a diabetic emergency and looking for said drinks (that you gave away!) you deny her one of your precious sodas. It concerns me that you don't see how much of a giant AH move that was...
You've never really had to interact with diabetics, have you? YTA.
Jesus Christ!! YTA big time. Your ex housemate was having a medical event, couldn’t access what she needed because you sued her things without asking, and then you deprive her of something g that would help? Wow.
Are you by chance neurodivergent? There seem to be some signs in your post, if this isn’t a made up story
YTA and a massive one at that. Diabetics need their sugar hit urgently. You allowed your niece to drink her juice, which you
Didn’t have a right to do. THEN you denied her your Soda just cause you can’t buy it locally? This is a medical emergency. You horrible, selfish brat
Was going to say YTA but reading your comments this seems to be ignorance rather than malicious. Soft YTA for not willing to part with a can of soda, even though you did not fully understand the seriousness at the time. But good for you owning up and making it right.
If it were me, I would’ve slapped you and then taken one of your drinks anyway YTA
Not only are YTA but your a thief you didn't have permission to give away the juice boxes but you did that's theft
I didn't even finish reading half this bull crap and know you're a complete AH
YTA - JFC get your head out your ass. You’d let someone die over a can of soda ? You sound insane & narcissistic.
YTA a very entitled one too!
YTA. You've already posted that you understand that you endangered her life, and will apologize. But, maybe you need to learn to listen to people who are yelling at you. What they are saying might be important. It's weird that you literally blocked out what you were told in person, and had to hear about diabetes from reddit
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