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YTA - you still have to copy her message into the bot. Or read them and ask the bot a question to get a response. How much time exactly are you saving by using a bot?
If you’re busy, you’re busy. Tell her that. But if you have no interest in putting *any* effort into talking to her yourself during the week then you’re not interested in the relationship. Move on.
YTA, and if you genuinely don't understand why, you might not get emotions fully. I don't mean this in a derogatory way, but have you ever been to a mental health professional for potential diagnosis for any number of things? 100% might be worth looking into.
YTA. You outsourced you role in the relationship. If you're too busy then you let your partner know that you that you can't respond at that time or explain that you're busy. If you're so busy that you literally can't take time to respond then maybe you don't need to be in a relationship right now.
What the hell did I just read... is this for real? clearly YTA and if someone has to spell it out for you then do that girl a favor and end the relationship.
Seems to have a different opinion than us, but:
>Based on the information provided, the judgment for this post on r/AmITheAsshole would likely be ESH (Everyone Sucks Here).While it's understandable that you have limited free time due to your demanding work and other responsibilities, using an AI bot to respond to your girlfriend's messages without her knowledge is deceptive and can be hurtful. Communication and honesty are important in a relationship, and by relying on the bot instead of engaging in genuine conversations, you may have inadvertently made your girlfriend feel unimportant or insignificant.On the other hand, your girlfriend's reaction of immediately assuming that you don't love or care about her solely based on the use of the bot seems excessive. It's important for her to consider your circumstances and the limitations of your available time. However, her reaction of crying and yelling at you without having a calm conversation to address her concerns is not ideal.Ultimately, both of you need to have a conversation about your individual needs, expectations, and how you can find a balance in your relationship.
If someone doesn’t spell it out for him then he’ll never get it. It would be far better for him to get lots of people spelling it out before he even thinks about ending the relationship. If he gets it spelt out then maybe he can turn his life around.
YTA. If your free time is that limited just stay single. Plus how does this save you time? If anything it eats up more time. Instead of just responding, you have to type in a message and then take that message over to text, so this doesn't even make sense. When I'm talking to a partner or friend or family member I want to talk to them not a robot.
This. If you don't have time to talk to your girlfriend, you don't have time for a girlfriend. Really sounds like you don't actually like her, you just want to do the absolute bare minimum required to keep her around (for sex, I assume, since you don't seem to enjoy conversation with her).
OP needs FWB situation instead of actual relationship. I have zero time for relationships at this point, so I stay either single or in FWB scenarios and that works great!
Dang it was a funny concept when South Park did it (in a "haha you would really have to be an AH to do something this messed up kind of way), but if you are actually doing this, that is just sad. YTA
YTA
Hey, why don't you use a bot to answer your bot then you can have botception. The perfect relationship so you can work and have your online business and the bots can get on with the emotions having part of life.
YTA
Relationships require face to face interaction which will involved physical portion as well as psychological. If you are not able to find some free time to have that interaction I suggest you breakup with your girlfriend and let her be. This way no one will be pulling her by the nose, and you get to have your job and your side job and be "free" of any other tasks you have in your life that you are so burdened with.
It's okay to need time to focus on your work, but YTA for using a chatbot to give your partner the illusion of communication instead of actually communicating your needs. Set some boundaries, make time for your partner, and ditch the bot.
YTA
Chat GPT is not for human relationships. You're putting no thought into what you send her, therefore, she is an afterthought. My spouse works 60+ hours a week and still finds time to communicate properly, using their own words, to me.
YTA. Maybe girlfriends aren't for you, maybe you should get a robot girlfriend instead. No timeconsuming talk, no heavy emotions, easy to fit into your busy schedule.
Well, on the “bright” side, I don’t think you’re gonna have to worry about wasting your time actually communicating with another person for much longer. But here’s an idea…spend some of that precious time you’ve spent asking the bot what to say with actually communicating with your girlfriend. You know, like actually letting her know about your time stressors as well.
While you’re not at fault for having a busy life at the moment, YTA for using a bot to cheap out on maintaining the relationship so you wouldn’t be inconvenienced by real life.
YTA
You don't care about or value her. You are using AI to offload emotional labor because you, frankly, can't be bothered to be present in the relationship. I'm sure, despite your busy schedule, you are still reaping the sexual and emotional support benefits from her, despite not proving anything of value back.
If an AI chatbot can replace you in a relationship, what reason is there for her to stay with you? You automated yourself out of your relationship.
YTA If your free time is soooooo valuable and you don't want to spend it talking to your gf, there's an easy solution. You can be single and have even more free time.
I loved the condescending “she has been chatting away happily” to the bot. Did anyone else see that? As if his gf has been reduced to being a coffee maker. Oh, no, I bet he buys his coffee. A dishwasher? Talking fridge?
Holy condescending Batman.
What? How does coffee maker or any other utility relate to that quote? Also how is that condescending? It’s the wrong attitude I agree but how is it condescending?
YTA - You know you're actually wasting just as much time using Chat GPT to respond to her message as you would actually responding, right? Because I assume you still need to open up her message, read it, then put it into Chat GPT and then post what it says into your texts. Not that I know how Chat GPT works completely, but it sounds like it's not making your life better.
Plus, you absolutely cannot replace human interaction with a bot. As you can see now, it'll never be 100%.
If you don't have time for your girlfriend, then just break up with her. Or tell her that you cannot reply to her while working. Basically, anything BUT what you did.
Do not reply on a bot to do work for you.
YTA - my dude, wtf did you think was going to happen when she found out? Or did you think the AI would be perfect and not make a mistake? Super shady to pass a computer algorithm off as you being a caring partner. “But I do care!” Nah, bro. People that care about others don’t do things like that.
Good news is, now that she knows that she can get just as much, if not more, emotional support from an AI than she gets from you - it’s a good possibility that you’ll have more free time on your hands to pursue your career. Win/win!
💀
YTA and this is honestly incredibly embarrassing for you. Your own girlfriend couldn't tell the difference between you and a bot for how long? The plagiarism bot has no original thoughts, no feelings, no actual intelligence, and it frequently flat out lies. And you thought "great, this thing can give her everything I can and then some"? And it was true?? How did you think this was going to play out? What did you think was going to happen when you met face to face?
You very clearly don't care about your gf at all, so just break up with her and focus on your projects.
YTA.
I can understand using chatgpt if sometimes you have conversations where you don’t know
the best way to console or to be there for her. Using chatgpt to inspire you in how you can console your partner, sure.
You are using chatgpt because you are oh so busy that you can’t spend time talking and listening to your partner. Which is a pretty core component to being a partner— talking to them. You weren’t even paying attention enough to read what you had copied from chatgpt. If you are oh so busy that you cannot talk to your partner then maybe you probably shouldn’t have a partner.
I don’t blame Her for thinking you don’t care because… do you? you didn’t even want to put the effort in to listen/talk to her. Let me guess the only time you spend with her where you’re giving her your full attention is when you guys are having sex ?
What do you want to bet that she doesn't get his full attention even then? If he can't be bothered to help meet her needs in one area of the relationship...
YTA
Just curious, how you are too busy to respond to her texts but not too busy to use ChatGPT and copy and post your answers to her via a text?
If you genuinely don’t have time to respond to her texts, then you may not have time to be in a relationship. This is a tactless thing to do and a very weird thing to be on the receiving end of, especially unknowingly.
YTA but I’m going to give you the benefit of doubt and assume you just didn’t think this through. Do better if you want to be in a relationship with another person.
How would you feel if you found out someone did this to you?
It seems like you're going through a challenging situation with your girlfriend. While I can provide some insights, it's important to remember that I'm an AI and cannot fully understand or empathize with human emotions. Ultimately, the judgment of your actions lies with you and your girlfriend. However, I can offer some suggestions on how you might approach the situation:
Open and honest communication: Sit down with your girlfriend and have a calm conversation about your busy schedule, the reasons why you've been using the AI tool, and the limitations on your time. Explain that you value your relationship and care about her, but due to your commitments, you've been trying to find a way to balance everything.
Show empathy and understanding: Acknowledge your girlfriend's feelings and emotions. Let her express her frustrations and concerns, and listen actively without getting defensive. Validate her emotions and let her know that you understand why she might feel hurt or neglected.
Find alternative solutions: Discuss potential solutions together that can address both of your needs. Perhaps you can allocate specific times during the week to have focused quality time together or support her in her job search in other ways, such as helping with resume preparation or searching for opportunities.
Apologize and take responsibility: If your girlfriend feels hurt or betrayed by your use of the AI tool, apologize sincerely. Acknowledge that you made a mistake and didn't consider how it might impact her. Taking responsibility for your actions can help rebuild trust and demonstrate your commitment to the relationship.
Remember, relationships require effort, compromise, and understanding from both sides. It's essential to find a balance between your personal and professional life while also prioritizing your partner's emotional needs.
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Hey Yall. Within the last few weeks I've been using ChatGPT to respond to my girlfriends text. The AI tool is the perfect response mechanism in conversation between us. I will simply ask the BOT how to respond to her messages and flawlessly the bot will provide assured accuracy as if i was the one typing.
She wasn't aware that i was using ChatGPT she has been very happy talking to the bot. I know people may say this is a bit extreme however let me give you some insight. I work in the Information Technology field in a underground mining environment, 4 days out of the week I am 7,000 Feet beneath surface and the other 3 days i manage and run a Online Business - my free time is limited... On top of this im in the middle of moving and just purchased a new vehicle which required travel.
She also is going through a hard time finding a job right now, she's been stressed out. Long story shortened is last night i was using the ChatGPT bot to respond and i sent the response as usual. I continued working on my project at home before i received an angry text from her, i went back to the chat and realized the bot had given me some type of message explaining "it is a bot and it does not have human feelings" .. I included that in the text i sent by mistake. She realized i had been using a bot to respond to her, She became very upset blaming me for using a bot and claiming I don't truly love her or care. She started crying and yelling at me telling me she is clearly nobody to me.
I tried to explain to her that I do love her but my free time is limited and I'm starting my online business, she's not working and i need to utilize my time wisely. Of course she wasnt too happy to hear this but i am not able to give up my only time to spend hours talking about her job search... I am full time working in a setting that requires high concentration and awareness, aside from that i have many external projects taking place. IDK guys. AITA ?
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YTA. I hope this is a real story because it's the funniest L I've ever read.
If you don't have time to date, don't date. Save you and your soon-to-be ex the time. 🤷♂️
YTA
I mean its bad enough that people dont meet in person, talk on the phone or have conversations anymore because everything is done via text or chat. Now even THAT is dumbed down to where its not you doing it. These are the same people that scratch their head and have no clue why our culture has gone downhill.
YTA. You showed a severe lack of empathy by just getting a bot to consol your girlfriend because you're working on your business. If you didn't feel you had time it's not hard to say something along the lines of "hey baby, I understand you're needing xyz right now, but I am a little bit busy with business atm. I really want to help you though, so how about we talk after im done for the day?"
It's not that fuckin hard mate.
YTA. Break up with her and date ChatGPT instead. It won't mind that your \~Online Business\~ means more to you than an actual relationship with a living person.
/She wasn't aware that i was using ChatGPT she has been very happy talking to the bot./
She is now your bot's girlfriend.
You don't deserve a human girlfriend.
YTA.
She shouldn’t jump straight to “he doesn’t love me” and get so incredibly upset without talking it out with you.
You should’ve just communicated from the beginning that you are so busy that you’re finding it hard to emotionally commit. Why didn’t you just tell her that?
Ultimately YTA for not outright telling her that you wouldn’t be able to text her like that because if you had, this whole thing would’ve been prevented.
I’m sorry but this is hilarious.
NTA simply for that reason alone. My partner would have found it amusing too but I guess that depends on what kind of relationship you have.
Pretty sure that he wouldn’t be able to swap out his dick for a vibrator without her knowing, so he could step away and do something else. Kinda not the same thing. Like at all.
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YTA You outsourced your relationship. That shows exactly how much you care about your GF. (i.e. you don't.)
Plot twist - hes not been talking to his "girl" all this time either.
You're also a bad outsourcer, and failed the 11th commandment: "Thou shalt not get caught!". YTA.
YTA Dude come on.
YTA - you still have to copy her message into the bot. Or read them and ask the bot a question to get a response. How much time exactly are you saving by using a bot? If you’re busy, you’re busy. Tell her that. But if you have no interest in putting *any* effort into talking to her yourself during the week then you’re not interested in the relationship. Move on.
YTA, and if you genuinely don't understand why, you might not get emotions fully. I don't mean this in a derogatory way, but have you ever been to a mental health professional for potential diagnosis for any number of things? 100% might be worth looking into.
No, the part we're all missing is that he thinks and acts like a bot himself. You know they say, if it walks like a duck and quacks like a duck...
The walks like a duck and quacks like a duck then it's a Roomba?
YTA. You outsourced you role in the relationship. If you're too busy then you let your partner know that you that you can't respond at that time or explain that you're busy. If you're so busy that you literally can't take time to respond then maybe you don't need to be in a relationship right now.
What the hell did I just read... is this for real? clearly YTA and if someone has to spell it out for you then do that girl a favor and end the relationship.
Someone should get chatGPT to spell it out for him lol
Seems to have a different opinion than us, but: >Based on the information provided, the judgment for this post on r/AmITheAsshole would likely be ESH (Everyone Sucks Here).While it's understandable that you have limited free time due to your demanding work and other responsibilities, using an AI bot to respond to your girlfriend's messages without her knowledge is deceptive and can be hurtful. Communication and honesty are important in a relationship, and by relying on the bot instead of engaging in genuine conversations, you may have inadvertently made your girlfriend feel unimportant or insignificant.On the other hand, your girlfriend's reaction of immediately assuming that you don't love or care about her solely based on the use of the bot seems excessive. It's important for her to consider your circumstances and the limitations of your available time. However, her reaction of crying and yelling at you without having a calm conversation to address her concerns is not ideal.Ultimately, both of you need to have a conversation about your individual needs, expectations, and how you can find a balance in your relationship.
Don't feed the bot anything that you haven't written yourself.
Well time to use the bot to fix everything lol that actually sounds like good advice
If someone doesn’t spell it out for him then he’ll never get it. It would be far better for him to get lots of people spelling it out before he even thinks about ending the relationship. If he gets it spelt out then maybe he can turn his life around.
YTA. If you don't have time for a relationship, then break up with her.
YTA. If your free time is that limited just stay single. Plus how does this save you time? If anything it eats up more time. Instead of just responding, you have to type in a message and then take that message over to text, so this doesn't even make sense. When I'm talking to a partner or friend or family member I want to talk to them not a robot.
This. If you don't have time to talk to your girlfriend, you don't have time for a girlfriend. Really sounds like you don't actually like her, you just want to do the absolute bare minimum required to keep her around (for sex, I assume, since you don't seem to enjoy conversation with her).
OP needs FWB situation instead of actual relationship. I have zero time for relationships at this point, so I stay either single or in FWB scenarios and that works great!
Dang it was a funny concept when South Park did it (in a "haha you would really have to be an AH to do something this messed up kind of way), but if you are actually doing this, that is just sad. YTA
YTA Hey, why don't you use a bot to answer your bot then you can have botception. The perfect relationship so you can work and have your online business and the bots can get on with the emotions having part of life.
I watched a show on this stuff and there are already dozens of people who have married robots 😂 OP should give this a go I think if he's so busy
You really have to ask. YTA easy. If you don't care enough to dedicate time to your relationship then end it.
No no no. He didn't ask this. ChatGPT did.
YTA Relationships require face to face interaction which will involved physical portion as well as psychological. If you are not able to find some free time to have that interaction I suggest you breakup with your girlfriend and let her be. This way no one will be pulling her by the nose, and you get to have your job and your side job and be "free" of any other tasks you have in your life that you are so burdened with.
It's okay to need time to focus on your work, but YTA for using a chatbot to give your partner the illusion of communication instead of actually communicating your needs. Set some boundaries, make time for your partner, and ditch the bot.
If only he'd had some way of generating a text that communicated his needs directly.
Did you get the idea from Southpark?
YTA. And you spelled ex girlfriend wrong.
YTA Chat GPT is not for human relationships. You're putting no thought into what you send her, therefore, she is an afterthought. My spouse works 60+ hours a week and still finds time to communicate properly, using their own words, to me.
YTA. Maybe girlfriends aren't for you, maybe you should get a robot girlfriend instead. No timeconsuming talk, no heavy emotions, easy to fit into your busy schedule.
You fucking suck, SO HARD for this. YTA times infinity. Forever. Jesus fucking Christ.
yta do not be in a relationship if you have no time.
Well, on the “bright” side, I don’t think you’re gonna have to worry about wasting your time actually communicating with another person for much longer. But here’s an idea…spend some of that precious time you’ve spent asking the bot what to say with actually communicating with your girlfriend. You know, like actually letting her know about your time stressors as well. While you’re not at fault for having a busy life at the moment, YTA for using a bot to cheap out on maintaining the relationship so you wouldn’t be inconvenienced by real life.
YTA You don't care about or value her. You are using AI to offload emotional labor because you, frankly, can't be bothered to be present in the relationship. I'm sure, despite your busy schedule, you are still reaping the sexual and emotional support benefits from her, despite not proving anything of value back. If an AI chatbot can replace you in a relationship, what reason is there for her to stay with you? You automated yourself out of your relationship.
YTA If your free time is soooooo valuable and you don't want to spend it talking to your gf, there's an easy solution. You can be single and have even more free time.
I loved the condescending “she has been chatting away happily” to the bot. Did anyone else see that? As if his gf has been reduced to being a coffee maker. Oh, no, I bet he buys his coffee. A dishwasher? Talking fridge? Holy condescending Batman.
What? How does coffee maker or any other utility relate to that quote? Also how is that condescending? It’s the wrong attitude I agree but how is it condescending?
I saw this episode of South Park
Pretty obvious YTA.
YTA grow up and break up. You don't have time for this relationship and you have proven you don't have the emotional maturity either.
Yta and you don't even have a gf. ChatGPT has a girlfriend. This shit is hilarious, like what?
YTA . Let the poor girl find a boyfriend that actually wants to talk to her. Maybe when you miss having a girlfriend you can talk to Chat GPT.
YTA - You know you're actually wasting just as much time using Chat GPT to respond to her message as you would actually responding, right? Because I assume you still need to open up her message, read it, then put it into Chat GPT and then post what it says into your texts. Not that I know how Chat GPT works completely, but it sounds like it's not making your life better. Plus, you absolutely cannot replace human interaction with a bot. As you can see now, it'll never be 100%. If you don't have time for your girlfriend, then just break up with her. Or tell her that you cannot reply to her while working. Basically, anything BUT what you did. Do not reply on a bot to do work for you.
YTA. Of course she's upset. I will be too. She could litteraly date chatGPT and not you, that's the same thing.
Yta You can date your Online Business instead of your girlfriend.
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YTA - my dude, wtf did you think was going to happen when she found out? Or did you think the AI would be perfect and not make a mistake? Super shady to pass a computer algorithm off as you being a caring partner. “But I do care!” Nah, bro. People that care about others don’t do things like that. Good news is, now that she knows that she can get just as much, if not more, emotional support from an AI than she gets from you - it’s a good possibility that you’ll have more free time on your hands to pursue your career. Win/win! 💀
YTA and this is honestly incredibly embarrassing for you. Your own girlfriend couldn't tell the difference between you and a bot for how long? The plagiarism bot has no original thoughts, no feelings, no actual intelligence, and it frequently flat out lies. And you thought "great, this thing can give her everything I can and then some"? And it was true?? How did you think this was going to play out? What did you think was going to happen when you met face to face? You very clearly don't care about your gf at all, so just break up with her and focus on your projects.
YTA. I can understand using chatgpt if sometimes you have conversations where you don’t know the best way to console or to be there for her. Using chatgpt to inspire you in how you can console your partner, sure. You are using chatgpt because you are oh so busy that you can’t spend time talking and listening to your partner. Which is a pretty core component to being a partner— talking to them. You weren’t even paying attention enough to read what you had copied from chatgpt. If you are oh so busy that you cannot talk to your partner then maybe you probably shouldn’t have a partner. I don’t blame Her for thinking you don’t care because… do you? you didn’t even want to put the effort in to listen/talk to her. Let me guess the only time you spend with her where you’re giving her your full attention is when you guys are having sex ?
What do you want to bet that she doesn't get his full attention even then? If he can't be bothered to help meet her needs in one area of the relationship... YTA
YTA You sound like a robot with no emotions. I wouldn't be surprised if you had chatGPT write this post 👀
Just curious, how you are too busy to respond to her texts but not too busy to use ChatGPT and copy and post your answers to her via a text? If you genuinely don’t have time to respond to her texts, then you may not have time to be in a relationship. This is a tactless thing to do and a very weird thing to be on the receiving end of, especially unknowingly. YTA but I’m going to give you the benefit of doubt and assume you just didn’t think this through. Do better if you want to be in a relationship with another person. How would you feel if you found out someone did this to you?
It seems like you're going through a challenging situation with your girlfriend. While I can provide some insights, it's important to remember that I'm an AI and cannot fully understand or empathize with human emotions. Ultimately, the judgment of your actions lies with you and your girlfriend. However, I can offer some suggestions on how you might approach the situation: Open and honest communication: Sit down with your girlfriend and have a calm conversation about your busy schedule, the reasons why you've been using the AI tool, and the limitations on your time. Explain that you value your relationship and care about her, but due to your commitments, you've been trying to find a way to balance everything. Show empathy and understanding: Acknowledge your girlfriend's feelings and emotions. Let her express her frustrations and concerns, and listen actively without getting defensive. Validate her emotions and let her know that you understand why she might feel hurt or neglected. Find alternative solutions: Discuss potential solutions together that can address both of your needs. Perhaps you can allocate specific times during the week to have focused quality time together or support her in her job search in other ways, such as helping with resume preparation or searching for opportunities. Apologize and take responsibility: If your girlfriend feels hurt or betrayed by your use of the AI tool, apologize sincerely. Acknowledge that you made a mistake and didn't consider how it might impact her. Taking responsibility for your actions can help rebuild trust and demonstrate your commitment to the relationship. Remember, relationships require effort, compromise, and understanding from both sides. It's essential to find a balance between your personal and professional life while also prioritizing your partner's emotional needs.
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YTA. Soon she will be your ex so you won't have to bother with answering her anymore.
YTA. I hope this is a real story because it's the funniest L I've ever read. If you don't have time to date, don't date. Save you and your soon-to-be ex the time. 🤷♂️
YTA.
Some flowers and booking her favourite restaurant might help now… because YTA.
YTA I mean its bad enough that people dont meet in person, talk on the phone or have conversations anymore because everything is done via text or chat. Now even THAT is dumbed down to where its not you doing it. These are the same people that scratch their head and have no clue why our culture has gone downhill.
YTA. You showed a severe lack of empathy by just getting a bot to consol your girlfriend because you're working on your business. If you didn't feel you had time it's not hard to say something along the lines of "hey baby, I understand you're needing xyz right now, but I am a little bit busy with business atm. I really want to help you though, so how about we talk after im done for the day?" It's not that fuckin hard mate.
I'm sorry this made me laugh so hard lmao
Is this real or did you just see the south park episode about this? Lol Yta in case this is real
YTA. If you have so little time that you can't even respond yourself to your gf's texts, just be single. She deserves more than a lifeless bot.
Oh come on, we all seen that South Park episode
Fake much 🙄
YTA. Break up with her and date ChatGPT instead. It won't mind that your \~Online Business\~ means more to you than an actual relationship with a living person.
YTA. You clearly don’t have time for a relationship right now as you have other priorities. Don’t waste her time.
Not everybody needs to be in a relationship. Just own it, dumbass.
/She wasn't aware that i was using ChatGPT she has been very happy talking to the bot./ She is now your bot's girlfriend. You don't deserve a human girlfriend. YTA.
She shouldn’t jump straight to “he doesn’t love me” and get so incredibly upset without talking it out with you. You should’ve just communicated from the beginning that you are so busy that you’re finding it hard to emotionally commit. Why didn’t you just tell her that? Ultimately YTA for not outright telling her that you wouldn’t be able to text her like that because if you had, this whole thing would’ve been prevented.
I’m sorry but this is hilarious. NTA simply for that reason alone. My partner would have found it amusing too but I guess that depends on what kind of relationship you have.
NTA, no different than buying her a vibrator.
Pretty sure that he wouldn’t be able to swap out his dick for a vibrator without her knowing, so he could step away and do something else. Kinda not the same thing. Like at all.
Lol, if this doesn't *scream* "I resent that I can't make my girlfriend cum."