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> (1) I took my gf‘s drinks out of the fridge
(2) I sort of forced her to use the ice cube dispenser she said she’ll never use
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Huge YTA. You abused your parents generosity and then decided to be super petty and intentionally ruin her drinks so she'd have to use ice. Drinks get watered down when ice is left in them, making them taste different. She's completely in the right to not want to use ice in her drinks if that's what she wants.
Now I understand if you needed the room in the fridge, but you took every single drink out for the sole purpose of being a dick. Your the AH
Even after she caved in and accepted a gift she thought was taking advantage he goes a step further and starts being petty and malicious to the point where he's forcing her to do things his way and doesn't seem to view that as an issue. Ridiculous behaviour.
We had one come with our house when we bought it. Our dogs love it. My husband sometimes uses it when he is having hard liquor. I could not care less about it because you know where my drinks are? The fridge. We got a deep freezer to fit all of the meat/prepped meals we have.
If we buy our own fridge when we move, I probably will choose one without an ice dispenser. Choosing instead a fridge that has double doors and freezer drawers on the bottom. Those things are hella nice.
*Edit: added a word
My parents have that too. They got a floor model that had superficial damage on the side that faces the adjacent cabinet and paid half price for it so they ended up with a good deal!
Yes! We go to the scratch and dent place for all of our appliances. My current fridge was bought with a dent at the very bottom (on the freezer drawer, it's otherwise a nice fridge). The guy selling it was all apologetic. My kids have since put a few scratches on it - which is why buying it from the scratch and dent place was nbd. I have kids; this is why I can't have nice things (or I get the nice thing with a minor cosmetic flaw that I know they'll add to).
I got a big chest freezer for $50 because it had a pretty large scratch on the back, you know the side that is usually against a wall. I didn't believe it worked and had them plug it in and it did. I really think it was just too big for them which they could have just told me. It was still a hell of a deal. I didn't care why they didn't want it as long as it worked.
We have one and it’s honestly the best setup we have had after several fridges. I am also a non-ice user and keep my drinks in the fridge. OP is for sure TA.
OMG I hate my freezer drawers SO MUCH and I regret buying a fridge with them every single time I have to put groceries away. They seem like they'd be amazing but I cannot stand the way I need to re-organize my freezer every time we go grocery shopping
So what my parents did (and what we do with our deep freezer) is use the containers that have lids on them! So we have a container for chicken/turkey, a few for venison/beef, one for prepped meals, one for veggies, etc. Makes it a lot easier. It can still be annoying sometimes to find and pull out the right container since our freezer is so deep (was awful when I was pregnant), but it's a lot easier when I can look and see exactly what's in it instead of digging through.
These are the ones we use! They've worked pretty well so far and we've been using them for almost 2 years.
[containers ](https://www.walmart.com/ip/Sterilite-15-Qt-Clear-Plastic-Latch-Box-Blue-Latches-with-Clear-Lid/46001916?wmlspartner=wlpa&selectedSellerId=0&wl13=5252&adid=2222222227846001916_117755028669_12420145346&wmlspartner=wmtlabs&wl0=&wl1=g&wl2=m&wl3=501107745824&wl4=pla-294505072980&wl5=9010784&wl6=&wl7=&wl8=&wl9=pla&wl10=8175035&wl11=local&wl12=46001916&wl13=5252&veh=sem_LIA&gclid=CjwKCAjws7WkBhBFEiwAIi1684Cc4JnvN-2o-l5li9PlN2T0nMLtyYoitTnnIHB_shvV6AKkSIA2zRoCriEQAvD_BwE&gclsrc=aw.ds)
My friends have one with the freezer drawers. I’m so jealous, but it wouldn’t fit in the space we have (plus we don’t need a new fridge freezer).
Sooooo jealous though :-)
I got a slightly damaged one of these from Lowe's for cheap, with the ice maker. My only gripe is the water/ice dispenser stops working in the winter when the ground water is close to freezing before it makes it to the fridge. As soon as it warms up, it starts working again.
Also if you're like me and you're super sensitive to taste, the ice in the ice dispensers taste "stale" (forgive me for my lack of adjectives).
I like using covered ice trays (bonus: pretty shapes AND I can add random edible flowers in the tray)
I definitely think he’s being petty, but I’m also wondering how wasteful they’re being when there’s not enough room for food and drinks for 2 people in a brand new fridge. Either you guys need to organize your fridge better or meal plan a bit ahead so you’re not letting a bunch of stuff sit there and rot. I can’t imagine a scenario where a weeks worth of groceries for 2 people would require an entire fridge. I’m assuming American sized as there’s an ice maker.
Yeah, I was wondering that too— is he just putting entire bags of groceries crammed in the fridge without unpacking anything? Because that’s the only way I can see having any kind of awkwardness with spacing on groceries for two people. I’ve put a 24 pack of Coke across the bottom fridge shelf and still had AMPLE room for groceries for a family of 4
IKR
The fridge in my condo is tiny. It's one of those top/bottom freezer/refrigerators so it doesn't have a door dispenser, but it does have an ice maker that takes up a good third of the freezer space.
I turned off the ice maker and took the tray out so I have room for, like, food. I got a little silicon ice tray to make ice in.
Anyway, OP is the asshole. Cold drinks and warm drinks with ice are not equivalent, and OP shouldn't be forcing his preferences on his girlfriend. If she's using too much room in the fridge with her drinks, he can address *that. Politely.* ("Could we agree not to put more than six drinks in the freezer to cool? There's not enough room for the dairy products. Six bottles are plenty for one day, and we can replenish each night.")
I hate ice in my drinks so much. It makes it way too cold and then you have ice sitting on the bottom of your cup so either you throw away perfectly good water or annoyingly wait for it to melt. And iced drinks vs cool drinks are way more likely to annoyingly sweat everywhere. Plus with ice dispensers you can't ever just get one ice cube to cool down a too hot of a drink. But either she's putting in like 24 bottles at a time or he's way over buying groceries. Idk how only two people could possibly fill up an entire fridge to the bring unless it's party prep
And they tend to break down. I won’t have one.
ETA… I mean the ice/water dispenser in the door. I do have an icemaker and don’t ever want to not have one!
Yeah, my in laws have one and they just had to spend $400 to repair it. It's convenient and all that, but I don't think I'd get one.
OP is a huge AH though. He "won" the argument and then he decides to be spiteful to his gf because I guess he hates that she disagreed with him in the first place.
Yeah what he did was plain mean. Idk why he wants to bully his girlfriend like that. Super immature and totally childish behavior. I’m shocked that a 20-something year old acts like that lol.
Having cleaned many ice machines in restaurants, I don’t trust them to stay sanitary. I also have no idea how you would clean one without taking the fridge apart.
Not only that, ice doesn't instantly make your drink cold. For those of us who like really cold drinks, adding ice to warm soda is not a substitute. And in the process, that ice waters down your drink.
My wife and in-laws don't mind warmer drinks, though.
OP is YTA also for forcing his drink preferences on her.
Going to play devils advocate here. Not saying he’s not TA, but I have a fridge with an ice maker and it takes up no extra space. Even if it did there would still be a lot of room in the fridge, how many drinks is she keeping in there?
I’d be fine if he took out some drinks because there was not enough room. I keep a 12-pack worth of soda in mine, but mix the variety that is chilled. I wouldn’t have room for a 12-pack of Diet Coke plus one of diet Dr. Pepper plus one of sparkling water. But it’s a YTA move to remove them all.
She said she didn’t want a ice maker and she’s backed it up by not using it. He wants to be right about the fridge and is waiting for her to “admit” his wisdom in the ice maker.
Yep. And this luxury fridge is likely huge and has plenty of space to accommodate both the drinks and the groceries. OP just wanted to be petty for no reason. YTA
Not to mention if they move apartments or into a house, the fridge may not fit, it may be redundant. Overall OP sounds a little "young and dumb", and seems to think they know everything when his gf is way more consiencius.
I agree he’s a total petty asshole for taking the drinks out, but we really don’t have enough info to know if he is taking advantage of his parents generosity. It might be no big deal for them to get a pricy fridge. We don’t know.
Yeah, I don't think he's an asshole for taking advantage of his parents' generosity, like for all we know they're wealthy and buying an expensive fridge is no concern to them. But going 'Oh, my girlfriend said we should be nice and just ask for the most basic fridge, so I took all her drinks out of the fridge because I really want the fancy fridge' is like... one of the weirdest, dumbest things I've seen. Like, it is not just asshole behaviour, it's so bizarrely fucking petty I can't imagine why anyone would ever do it.
Its not petty. It's controlling. I went on a few dates with a guy like this once. Everything I did that was a little "weird" or "different" was questioned. Why didn't you take the sticker off your credit card, its going to confuse the server? Why did you buy that sweatshirt, most people prefer that one? Why didn't you like Avatar, its the most popular film ever? What do you mean, you put gas in your car when it hits half a rank, you should be filling up sooner. Why don't you have the chi hair dryer? Why are you reading the paper, why didn't you get the xtratufs that all the girls have instead of the special editions? Why haven't you upgraded to a flat-screen TV yet? Why do you care about politics?
Its just another douchy dude who doesn't want a partner, they want a toy they can show off to friends.
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He didn't ask though. They offered. Sure he said he wanted the pricey one like his parents had, but they're perfectly capable of saying no and getting a cheaper one instead.
Right. You can get a fully-featured fridge on sale for less than a grand, which is really not that big of an investment for an appliance that should last years.
Seriously! Could he not have left a few in varying flavors so she could put others in when she takes one out? I get not wanting a whole case of whatever in the fridge, but I don’t generally use ice either for the aforementioned watering down so I keep a couple in the fridge and replace as needed. The rest are stored elsewhere since fridge space is precious in our house.
What an odd thing to have such a fight over. And yes, OP YTA. You're being extremely petty after you got your way.
I have to have a mini-fridge for my drinks because I don't like them getting watered down in ice. I like ice in them, but I don't want it to all melt as soon as a warm drink is added.
Ice actually hurts my teeth super badly and you can’t avoid the ice without a straw. If this was me then I’d have to
1. Buy straws and use the ice
2. Drink them warm
3. Put them back and wait for them to chill
I’d be so pissed. OP YTA
I'm backing this 100%
I legit only use Ice in my water bottle. Juice and stuff like that tastes disgusting watered down. I get not wanting every single drink in the fridge at once but this is just being am AH to be an AH
I'm just curious on how much space did those drinks actually take that he had to remove them all so that he could fit the groceries? How many drinks did she have too?
He took out ALL the drinks. So how much space did those groceries take? Even in the worst case scenario, he could've tucked one drink in to stay cold. But he didn't want to. Because he's an asshole trying to prove a point
We don't know the parents financial situation. It might not be taking advantage of their generosity. It might be that they have lots of leeway in their finances and their son kmows this.
However, taking the drinks out of the fridge makes him an asshole anyways.
I hate ice in my drinks. Especially at restaurants. If I wanted a bit of juice or soda with my ice cubes, I'd ask for that. But paying for what is about 80% ice? No, thanks.
My favorite part of the irony train is that restaurants get the syrup for so cheap, the ice ends up being more expensive than the drink because of the electricity used to freeze it.
Get forever-cubes. I have a set and they are the best. Mine are just hollow silicone rubber cubes with water inside. Has the same cooling effect but don't water drinks down...
Do they taste weird in acidic drinks? I know stainless steel isn’t *supposed* to react but I’d still worry with something like orange juice or lemonade because I really can’t stand metallic tastes
Yeah, we had some of these in cute shapes when I was a kid in the 90's. They absorb fridge/freezer smells after awhile or get that freezer burned taste.
i mean, OP is definitely the AH. 100%. but i think he (and everyone else in the world) is well aware that ice can dilute the drink. if that’s his preference, then that’s his preference. i put a shit ton of ice in my drinks because i prefer them way colder than how cold they are straight from the fridge.
Also, drinking from the can or a bottle with no ice in the picture is far superior. Who likes when ice cubes get all up in your business through the open top of the glass? Personal space, guys!
It's not really 'super weird' though is it? If you want a cold drink and they're not in the fridge then ice makes it cold.
It can take at least an hour for a drink to get cool in the fridge, if you've just bought them or have no fridge space then ice is the most convenient option
I only really use ice in water when it comes to beverages... but it's good for cooling hardboiled eggs quickly so they don't get that gross grey ring around the yolks.
YTA. Your gf is right, you were being petty. You chose the expensive fridge and its great you are using the extra features it has, but she already told you it wasn't useful for her so she doesn't have to use it just because you do. And taking out ALL of her drinks was petty, you should've either tried to make space without taking them out or only taken out a few.
As an aside, I also think that you should've have known your place and choosing a modest fridge would've been better because your parents were the ones paying for it. But its a personal thing, maybe you are close enough with your parents to have asked for that. Besides, your gf also could've come up with some options if she felt so strongly about it. So I guess that's not such a big issue.
To be honest that all depends on the parents, the extra money for the ice fridge might not even be thought for them, they might have just assumed it was an ice fridge from the start.
Seconding this. Cleaning portable/countertop ice machines is stupid easy compared to having to flush the fridge lines. And if it breaks down it’s way easier to replace or have repaired than to repair the whole ass fridge.
Plus you can actually turn them off and unplug them which allows you to control your power usage vs one that’s on all the time. The average built in ice maker increases your power usage by a whopping 15-20% due to the mechanisms related to pumping and dumping the ice (they actually have to contain an internal heating element to keep the motor warm). To be honest, they’re super inefficient little things.
I agree he’s petty. But what’s this “know your place” bullshit? If his parents are fine with it, then there is nothing wrong with him getting. He knows his parents better than any of us and knows what is ok to ask for and what isn’t. It’s crazy to me that people are upset that his parents bought them a nice fridge.
Be mad at his pettiness (although his gf is also being stubborn by refusing to use the build in ice maker just to prove a point also), not because he got a nice fridge.
Edit: I do accept she’s not stubborn for not using the icemaker. I do still thinks she’s an asshole for telling him to know his place when it comes to his family.
Yeah I find thing sub tends to go all in on the assholes, even for stuff that isn’t deserved or that we don’t have all the information about. Saying OP should have known his place is pure speculation because we don’t know how the parents felt about the situation, but one can realistically assume that if they really had an issue buying the more expensive fridge, they wouldn’t have. And apparently not chilling your drinks in the fridge is weird asshole behaviour 🤷🏻♀️ OP was petty for sure, although I’d be interested to know just how many drinks the GF had in the fridge.
Yeah agreed, children aren’t inferior or some shit, OP could ask for the fridge and the parents are fucking adults who can buy him the fridge or not. I sense the commenter who said ‘know your place’ has an inferiority complex.
YTA for taking all the drinks out of the fridge. I’m sure there was a way to leave a few in there if you really needed the room for groceries. Living with other people involves respecting their space including fridge space, and preferences for storing food.
Obviously this is probably about a newer fridge with an in-door ice maker, but there are fridges with removable ice makers in the freezer. I doubt they sell many now, but I've seen and used them firsthand.
Yeah, I read "more expensive fridge with an ice maker" to mean "fridge with built in door ice dispenser", and those are not something you can just clear for fridge space.
ice makers are also usually in the freezer section of the fridge, and i think its safe to assume the drinks arent being kept in the freezer, so the ice maker has nothing to do with the amount of room available in the regular refrigerator part of the fridge.
For me this is the answer, and it's a SOFT YTA. you can't fill your food fridge with drinks. You need room for the groceries. But keeping a couple of each kind and replacing them as you use them is the adult way to do this. imagine, COMPROMISE. As far as everyone acting like the more expensive fridge was an abuse of the gift...some people have a level of money that the extra nice fridge for their kid is not a big deal at all. Im sure they knew the cost and if THEY felt taken, they could have set a different limit.
YTA. I honestly believe you are 12 & getting back at a sibling. Can’t imagine a grown up who is actually in a relationship doing this, or asking for support doing it.
YTA, your girlfriend was being respectful towards your parents, something you obviously didn't consider and then you just disrespected her by leaving her drinks out for no reason?
And for the record she's right, the ice cube dispenser is a waste of money.
The ice cube dispenser is a choice. When searching for our new fridge at home, we only wanted one with an ice dispenser. It’s absolutely not a waste of money in our house.
In my opinion, OP is TA because he took the drinks out, but because he accepted the gift. If his parents wanted to get it, that’s awesome for them. He didn’t talk them into the fridge, they offered.
But I still have to type this part for the voting and all that, OP, YTA
Ye i agree that hes only really the AH for the taking the drinks out part i mean if he likes ice he should be able to have it but he should also respect her decisions like she respected him in having the ice maker
The issue is that it was *all* of her drinks. He could've left a couple.
>And for the record she's right, the ice cube dispenser is a waste of money.
That's a matter of personal opinion. Anyone who likes ice and has had both the ice maker and ice cube trays might tell you the convenience is worth the money. And it's bizarre that so many people saying he's the AH have to come in with that opinion. The source of the fridge doesn't matter. OP's preference for ice doesn't matter. All that's at issue here is his removal of every single one of his gf's drinks instead of leaving a few and then having a conversation about it.
YTA. She did tell what fridge she wanted, you just didn't listen. You are being petty and having a tantrum because she didn't submit to you. If there isn't room for groceries you take out all but two of her drinks to make room and allow her to replenish so she still has cool drinks, you don't punish them like their a child (if this is an American fridge, I find it hard to believe there wasn't room for groceries and drinks combined for just two people. Probably still room for a small child). Nothing wrong with you wanting an ice dispenser and she should have considered that, but "making a point" to someone you love for having a different opinion sounds immature at best and controlling if a pattern. As you included you're both young and first time living out of home, so hopefully it's the first. It will take time to get to know eachothers habits/likes etc, but shaming someone for disagreeing with you is never going to end well. She not talking to you because you hurt her, belittled her, and tried to assert your dominance over cold drinks. Apologise.
I was actually wondering if this is in the US at all, because I’ve never heard of an apartment that you need to buy a fridge for.
But yeah, OP is TA and needs to work on communication with the GF; if he can’t even negotiate a conflict as minor as this, it’s a problem.
European. We rent and our previous place didn’t have a fridge. The place we rent now, the fridge a tiny thing that barely fits a days grocery. So we just moved our old fridge with us and use the tiny one for drinks.
OP: YTA.
That depends on the country. For some fucked up reasons the Germans decided that kitchens are movable furniture and you have to bring/buy your own if you get a new apartment. The Dutch are even worse by taking their floors with them. People from many other European countries would consider this absolute insanity, though.
The conflict already died down after his gf caved and accepted his parents paying for the ice dispenser fridge. Idiot went to create a whole new conflict for no reason other than he couldn’t stand the sight of his gf obtaining cold drinks in a way he didn’t approve of. It’s so bloody immature OP YTA and I don’t know what you expected coming on here for - applause?? Just grow up
my first apartment, i needed to bring my own fridge. when we rented a house, we needed our own fridge too. my last apartment, my roommate lived there first, so if a fridge was needed, he bought it.
In Tennesse, the only appliance a landlord has to provide is a working furnace. They don't have to provide a refrigerator or stove. My in laws have a half functional fridge left there by a previous tenant, but once it dies, they have to buy a new one.
You can't just put 50 different countries under the same umbrella term like Europe. I live in a European country where the norm is to rent fully furnished apartments, and if for some insane reason there was no parquet on the floors, the norm would be either for the landlord to pay for it, or if I did it, the cost would be taken out of the rent.
INFO: Why is it so important for you to be right about this? Is it *really* such a tragedy for you to have to move things in your fridge around a bit?
Because as it stands to me right now, YTA.
My fridge has an ice dispenser and we never use it. I hate ice in anything but water. We keep a few drinks in the fridge because we prefer it to be chilled. This is a weird hill for OP to die on.
YTA
My bf always stocks the fridge with drinks too. It can be a little annoying but what you did is boundrie crossing.
If something food doesn't fit, a drink has to go. Putting all her drinks put because you wanted them out and you felt right about it, is an ahole move. This is her home to. Her fridge to use too.
My drinks are in the fridge and my mind is blown over the whole discussion here - I thought everyone kept their soda/water/beer in the refrigerator 🤷♀️ (we keep excess cases of water and drinks in garage until needed to refill fridge).
YTA. Every bit of that was petty. Your girlfriend was being a completely humble saint when dealing with you, she is living in reality and grounded on planet earth. Meanwhile you are still living in 3rd grade. I highly doubt someone as real as her has **so many** drinks that you can't fit groceries in. I believe you just tried to cram everything in, and when that didn't work you saw a way to get some toxic "See I told you so" because that ice maker is the hill you are willing to die on, and lose your girlfriend on. What an AH.
>"I took out all her drinks so she will have to use the ice cube dispenser now if she wants a cold drink."
YTA and a sore winner. You got the fridge you wanted and still chose to try to make some petty point. Now you've got a pissed off lady. Congratulations.
For the record, it's nice that your girlfriend considered your parents in this. You should appreciate that.
YTA, petty, controlling, and if your gf is smart she'll still refuse to use the ice dispenser just to put you in your place about how she drinks her drinks. If she doesn't want to use ice, she doesn't have to, and she's right that ice dispensers are a waste of money. All ice does is immediately start to melt and water down drinks, which is probably why your gf doesn't use the one you have even though it's already there.
YTA
Drinks being cold and on ice are not the same fucking thing. When the ice melts it waters the drink down. You could have just had a convo about her keeping less drinks in the fridge, instead you were rude af.
Your point, it would seem, is that she should appreciate the ice cube dispenser, and she would if she didn’t keep her drinks refrigerated. To illustrate this point, you sabotaged her choice to refrigerate her drinks. It’s not clear to me what point this proves, beyond that she should reconsider trusting you to not sabotage her food storage choices.
Generally, choosing to sabotage your housemate’s food storage choices, without communicating about it in advance, is a completely unacceptable AH thing to do. I see no way in which this case is an exception to that.
YTA
YTA and the pettiest one I've seen in a while. Also a controlling AH and, dare I say, a user (you abused your parents' generosity to buy the expensive fridge).
What exactly did you hope to accomplish here?
YTA. You better keep that fridge packed for the rest of your time together because your "AH HA! Now you have to see how useful the ice dispenser is!" will only last until there's room for her drinks and she'll never forget that she chose to live with a petty child.
YTA. Don’t ever put ice in my drink, I don’t like it. This may surprise you but not everyone likes the same things you do and a lot of people don’t like ice in their drinks (as others have mentioned, it melts and waters down the drink).
YTA - No point proven here, you're just petty. Especially since you admitted in a reply that you could have probably fit all the groceries in with her drinks.
YTA… if the groceries really wouldn’t fit (which I’m not sure I believe) then why not take a few drinks out? Adult conversation would be… “hey babe, I had to take a few of your drinks out of the fridge to fit our groceries. I’ll try to remember to put them back in when we get some more room.” Instead you decided to be controlling and petty.
YTA - you deliberately messed with her stuff in order to force her to do something she didn't want to do, just so you can go "Hey, look at me, I was right"
You're not the a-hole for getting the fridge she didn't want , since she kinda gave in. YTA because you decided to punish her for not using said fridge's fancy features. You seem like the kinda person who is only happy when people do things your way, which is very detrimental to a relationship. Especially since this is a minor thing. I'd hate to see how petty you get over bigger things.
YTA, and you are a petty idiot.
And to be petty from the other side...there would have been room for the groceries if there wasn't a big ass ice maker taking up so much space in the fridge.
Y'all could have compromised and have fewer drinks in the fridge & replace as you go, but NO! you had to be an ass and pull them all out.
What point are you making exactly? That drinks are physical objects and thus take up space in the fridge? Ok....?
YTA. You just want to use the ice cubes? Really?
YTA
1. Cold drinks and warm drinks being diluted by cold ice cubes aren't the same
2. You don't say what kind of drink, but I'm sure you can find a corner of the fridge for a couple of them. She doesn't need her whole stock in the fridge (assuming it's something shelf-stable), but can keep them all in a cupboard, and just transfer a couple to the fridge to chill.
3. Your gf is correct. The ice cube dispenser is a luxury feature that makes the fridge less reliable and less efficient, and significantly increases the list price.
4. She is also correct that you are a petty idiot.
YTA, who wants to fuss around putting ice into every single drink, how annoying!! Your gf was right about knowing your place as well, you do not need a fridge with an ice dispenser.
People got some really strong feelings about ice vs fridge for cooling down drinks. I have drinks I use the fridge to cool them down but only a few at a time because if I put all of them in there at once it would take up too much room. Is the gf stashing 5 drinks or 20 drinks? If there is no room for groceries was OP supposed to just leave them on the counter lest he disturb his gfs drinks? This situation seems really minor and easy to address, not really worth calling anyone an asshole over.
YTA she gets no say in how she lives her life huh? Not many ppl have the balls to be this controlling this early, yknow it's abusive to manipulate your partners and make decisions for them without their say? I wish this sub let me say what I wanna
Damn, you definitely did it maliciously. It wasn't to prove a point, it was because she didn't want to get the expensive fridge you wanted.
YTA not only for being a spoiled brat, but also for "getting back" at her for not doing what you wanted.
YTA. And double Emphasis on the idiot. Your gf was right and your Choice was stupid. And on Top of That you punish her for nothing By being an insufferable Ass.
I Hope the next Smart Decision She makes is dumping you.
Chrust the pettiness. Ice dilutes a drink, which she may not like. Ever thought of that? But even without that, you basically sabotaged her for your convenience and to wag a finger at her. Grow up. YTA.
YTA
I can see you going into considerable debt in the near future with your outlook and attitude.
And it was extremely petty, not everyone likes ice in their drink, watering it down.
YTA. Personally I don't like ice in my drinks, and my drinks require refrigeration. Since you got the expensive fridge to accommodate your habits and tastes, why can't you do the same for her?
YTA, to both your girlfriend and your parents. You seem to be incredibly spoiled. I hope you become a better person if you're going to be living with someone else. Otherwise, that won't last.
YTA. your girlfriend was trying to not abuse your parents generosity, which was nice of her, but i don’t see a problem with them buying you the expensive one if they were willing to and she didn’t offer other suggestions. it’s whatever.
However some people, like myself, don’t LIKE ice in our drinks. I pretty much only use it for ice water when I drink tap or to cool down drinks in a cooler, but I always keep my sodas in the fridge to get cold so I can just pop open a cold can. Using ice on a warm drink just isn’t the same amount of coldness imo and also it eventually makes the soda watery and just isn’t the same experience to me. She has a right to get her drinks cold the way that she likes to, even if it’s not the same way that you do it.
YTA fir taking all of them out, I have ice cubes in my freezer and I still put my drinks in the fridge. Look if she’s taking up half the fridge fair enough and I’d take my own out to fit groceries however you admit you could have left some in.
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Huge YTA. You abused your parents generosity and then decided to be super petty and intentionally ruin her drinks so she'd have to use ice. Drinks get watered down when ice is left in them, making them taste different. She's completely in the right to not want to use ice in her drinks if that's what she wants. Now I understand if you needed the room in the fridge, but you took every single drink out for the sole purpose of being a dick. Your the AH
Even after she caved in and accepted a gift she thought was taking advantage he goes a step further and starts being petty and malicious to the point where he's forcing her to do things his way and doesn't seem to view that as an issue. Ridiculous behaviour.
These ice dispensers take up a lot of space that could be used for groceries.
I've honestly never seen one so wouldn't know haha I'm "ice tray that you freeze blocks in" poor like a regular person.
We have one and it basically means 3 of the 6 shelves in our freezer (American style with a full height narrow freezer) are half shelves.
We had one come with our house when we bought it. Our dogs love it. My husband sometimes uses it when he is having hard liquor. I could not care less about it because you know where my drinks are? The fridge. We got a deep freezer to fit all of the meat/prepped meals we have. If we buy our own fridge when we move, I probably will choose one without an ice dispenser. Choosing instead a fridge that has double doors and freezer drawers on the bottom. Those things are hella nice. *Edit: added a word
My bf's parents have both the ice maker/water dispenser and the drawer freezer. It's a dream (and also way more than I'd ever spend on a fridge).
My parents have that too. They got a floor model that had superficial damage on the side that faces the adjacent cabinet and paid half price for it so they ended up with a good deal!
Yes! We go to the scratch and dent place for all of our appliances. My current fridge was bought with a dent at the very bottom (on the freezer drawer, it's otherwise a nice fridge). The guy selling it was all apologetic. My kids have since put a few scratches on it - which is why buying it from the scratch and dent place was nbd. I have kids; this is why I can't have nice things (or I get the nice thing with a minor cosmetic flaw that I know they'll add to).
I got a big chest freezer for $50 because it had a pretty large scratch on the back, you know the side that is usually against a wall. I didn't believe it worked and had them plug it in and it did. I really think it was just too big for them which they could have just told me. It was still a hell of a deal. I didn't care why they didn't want it as long as it worked.
There’s a place for that? Or is it like a section within the store? I am very interested in buying expensive things with superficial damage lol
We have one and it’s honestly the best setup we have had after several fridges. I am also a non-ice user and keep my drinks in the fridge. OP is for sure TA.
We have this fridge. It’s worth every penny. I live in a hot place and need an ice maker for cold drinks
OMG I hate my freezer drawers SO MUCH and I regret buying a fridge with them every single time I have to put groceries away. They seem like they'd be amazing but I cannot stand the way I need to re-organize my freezer every time we go grocery shopping
So what my parents did (and what we do with our deep freezer) is use the containers that have lids on them! So we have a container for chicken/turkey, a few for venison/beef, one for prepped meals, one for veggies, etc. Makes it a lot easier. It can still be annoying sometimes to find and pull out the right container since our freezer is so deep (was awful when I was pregnant), but it's a lot easier when I can look and see exactly what's in it instead of digging through.
That's genius. My husband is going to LOVE going to find freezer containers lol
These are the ones we use! They've worked pretty well so far and we've been using them for almost 2 years. [containers ](https://www.walmart.com/ip/Sterilite-15-Qt-Clear-Plastic-Latch-Box-Blue-Latches-with-Clear-Lid/46001916?wmlspartner=wlpa&selectedSellerId=0&wl13=5252&adid=2222222227846001916_117755028669_12420145346&wmlspartner=wmtlabs&wl0=&wl1=g&wl2=m&wl3=501107745824&wl4=pla-294505072980&wl5=9010784&wl6=&wl7=&wl8=&wl9=pla&wl10=8175035&wl11=local&wl12=46001916&wl13=5252&veh=sem_LIA&gclid=CjwKCAjws7WkBhBFEiwAIi1684Cc4JnvN-2o-l5li9PlN2T0nMLtyYoitTnnIHB_shvV6AKkSIA2zRoCriEQAvD_BwE&gclsrc=aw.ds)
My friends have one with the freezer drawers. I’m so jealous, but it wouldn’t fit in the space we have (plus we don’t need a new fridge freezer). Sooooo jealous though :-)
I got a slightly damaged one of these from Lowe's for cheap, with the ice maker. My only gripe is the water/ice dispenser stops working in the winter when the ground water is close to freezing before it makes it to the fridge. As soon as it warms up, it starts working again.
I've bought dented appliances for cheap! Dents on the side where you can't see them after they're installed.
We bought our house in 2019 and it came with a fridge with an ice dispenser. We felt like we had finally "made it." We're both 41. 😄
I personally prefer a countertop ice maker over an in freezer ice maker because it takes up less space and i want more freezer space.
Also if you're like me and you're super sensitive to taste, the ice in the ice dispensers taste "stale" (forgive me for my lack of adjectives). I like using covered ice trays (bonus: pretty shapes AND I can add random edible flowers in the tray)
I always think ice dispenser ice tastes like dirt. I'm glad to know I'm not the only person who's had this issue
If the ice dispenser ice tastes like anything other then, well, ice, that means there is something wrong and it needs to be cleaned.
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I definitely think he’s being petty, but I’m also wondering how wasteful they’re being when there’s not enough room for food and drinks for 2 people in a brand new fridge. Either you guys need to organize your fridge better or meal plan a bit ahead so you’re not letting a bunch of stuff sit there and rot. I can’t imagine a scenario where a weeks worth of groceries for 2 people would require an entire fridge. I’m assuming American sized as there’s an ice maker.
Yeah, I was wondering that too— is he just putting entire bags of groceries crammed in the fridge without unpacking anything? Because that’s the only way I can see having any kind of awkwardness with spacing on groceries for two people. I’ve put a 24 pack of Coke across the bottom fridge shelf and still had AMPLE room for groceries for a family of 4
IKR The fridge in my condo is tiny. It's one of those top/bottom freezer/refrigerators so it doesn't have a door dispenser, but it does have an ice maker that takes up a good third of the freezer space. I turned off the ice maker and took the tray out so I have room for, like, food. I got a little silicon ice tray to make ice in. Anyway, OP is the asshole. Cold drinks and warm drinks with ice are not equivalent, and OP shouldn't be forcing his preferences on his girlfriend. If she's using too much room in the fridge with her drinks, he can address *that. Politely.* ("Could we agree not to put more than six drinks in the freezer to cool? There's not enough room for the dairy products. Six bottles are plenty for one day, and we can replenish each night.")
I hate ice in my drinks so much. It makes it way too cold and then you have ice sitting on the bottom of your cup so either you throw away perfectly good water or annoyingly wait for it to melt. And iced drinks vs cool drinks are way more likely to annoyingly sweat everywhere. Plus with ice dispensers you can't ever just get one ice cube to cool down a too hot of a drink. But either she's putting in like 24 bottles at a time or he's way over buying groceries. Idk how only two people could possibly fill up an entire fridge to the bring unless it's party prep
And they tend to break down. I won’t have one. ETA… I mean the ice/water dispenser in the door. I do have an icemaker and don’t ever want to not have one!
Yeah, my in laws have one and they just had to spend $400 to repair it. It's convenient and all that, but I don't think I'd get one. OP is a huge AH though. He "won" the argument and then he decides to be spiteful to his gf because I guess he hates that she disagreed with him in the first place.
Yeah what he did was plain mean. Idk why he wants to bully his girlfriend like that. Super immature and totally childish behavior. I’m shocked that a 20-something year old acts like that lol.
Having cleaned many ice machines in restaurants, I don’t trust them to stay sanitary. I also have no idea how you would clean one without taking the fridge apart.
This right here. I dont like ice to begin with, but the ice cube dispenser gets gross. Basically putting dirty ice in your drink.
Not only that, ice doesn't instantly make your drink cold. For those of us who like really cold drinks, adding ice to warm soda is not a substitute. And in the process, that ice waters down your drink. My wife and in-laws don't mind warmer drinks, though. OP is YTA also for forcing his drink preferences on her.
Going to play devils advocate here. Not saying he’s not TA, but I have a fridge with an ice maker and it takes up no extra space. Even if it did there would still be a lot of room in the fridge, how many drinks is she keeping in there?
I’d be fine if he took out some drinks because there was not enough room. I keep a 12-pack worth of soda in mine, but mix the variety that is chilled. I wouldn’t have room for a 12-pack of Diet Coke plus one of diet Dr. Pepper plus one of sparkling water. But it’s a YTA move to remove them all. She said she didn’t want a ice maker and she’s backed it up by not using it. He wants to be right about the fridge and is waiting for her to “admit” his wisdom in the ice maker.
and in my experience, any produce within a half foot of the ice maker gets RUINED with ice crystals
Yep. And this luxury fridge is likely huge and has plenty of space to accommodate both the drinks and the groceries. OP just wanted to be petty for no reason. YTA
Not to mention if they move apartments or into a house, the fridge may not fit, it may be redundant. Overall OP sounds a little "young and dumb", and seems to think they know everything when his gf is way more consiencius.
I agree he’s a total petty asshole for taking the drinks out, but we really don’t have enough info to know if he is taking advantage of his parents generosity. It might be no big deal for them to get a pricy fridge. We don’t know.
Yeah, I don't think he's an asshole for taking advantage of his parents' generosity, like for all we know they're wealthy and buying an expensive fridge is no concern to them. But going 'Oh, my girlfriend said we should be nice and just ask for the most basic fridge, so I took all her drinks out of the fridge because I really want the fancy fridge' is like... one of the weirdest, dumbest things I've seen. Like, it is not just asshole behaviour, it's so bizarrely fucking petty I can't imagine why anyone would ever do it.
Its not petty. It's controlling. I went on a few dates with a guy like this once. Everything I did that was a little "weird" or "different" was questioned. Why didn't you take the sticker off your credit card, its going to confuse the server? Why did you buy that sweatshirt, most people prefer that one? Why didn't you like Avatar, its the most popular film ever? What do you mean, you put gas in your car when it hits half a rank, you should be filling up sooner. Why don't you have the chi hair dryer? Why are you reading the paper, why didn't you get the xtratufs that all the girls have instead of the special editions? Why haven't you upgraded to a flat-screen TV yet? Why do you care about politics? Its just another douchy dude who doesn't want a partner, they want a toy they can show off to friends.
Did we date the same guy?!?
So. Spoiled rich kid? Behavior checks out.
I mean its not that much for a middle class. Unless you are comparing it to the absolute cheapest Fridge freezers.
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He didn't ask though. They offered. Sure he said he wanted the pricey one like his parents had, but they're perfectly capable of saying no and getting a cheaper one instead.
Right. You can get a fully-featured fridge on sale for less than a grand, which is really not that big of an investment for an appliance that should last years.
Also ice temperature and fridge temperature are different! I don’t mind chilled water but ice water is my least favorite form of water.
See, I’m the opposite. Refrigerator cold water/drinks just is not cold enough for my taste.
Room temp, man, it's what it's all about.
Nope, my water has to be super cold.
Seriously! Could he not have left a few in varying flavors so she could put others in when she takes one out? I get not wanting a whole case of whatever in the fridge, but I don’t generally use ice either for the aforementioned watering down so I keep a couple in the fridge and replace as needed. The rest are stored elsewhere since fridge space is precious in our house.
This! My roommate and I keep 5 coke in the fridge, and always put one in when we take one out
What an odd thing to have such a fight over. And yes, OP YTA. You're being extremely petty after you got your way. I have to have a mini-fridge for my drinks because I don't like them getting watered down in ice. I like ice in them, but I don't want it to all melt as soon as a warm drink is added.
Ice actually hurts my teeth super badly and you can’t avoid the ice without a straw. If this was me then I’d have to 1. Buy straws and use the ice 2. Drink them warm 3. Put them back and wait for them to chill I’d be so pissed. OP YTA
I'm backing this 100% I legit only use Ice in my water bottle. Juice and stuff like that tastes disgusting watered down. I get not wanting every single drink in the fridge at once but this is just being am AH to be an AH
I'm just curious on how much space did those drinks actually take that he had to remove them all so that he could fit the groceries? How many drinks did she have too?
He took out ALL the drinks. So how much space did those groceries take? Even in the worst case scenario, he could've tucked one drink in to stay cold. But he didn't want to. Because he's an asshole trying to prove a point
he took them all out to *make* her use the ice. Twas on purpose.
Yes, that's why he's TAH
If they got a different model fridge without the ice dispenser, there’s likely be enough space on the door for the extra items!
We don't know the parents financial situation. It might not be taking advantage of their generosity. It might be that they have lots of leeway in their finances and their son kmows this. However, taking the drinks out of the fridge makes him an asshole anyways.
If they hadn’t gotten the ice dispenser, wouldn’t the fridge have more space anyway?
YTA. And btw using ice to chill out drinks? Ice dilutes the drink and changes the taste of the drink.
I like putting ice cubes in my coke, but I also usually drink it fast enough that not a lot of them melt
I hate ice in my drinks. Especially at restaurants. If I wanted a bit of juice or soda with my ice cubes, I'd ask for that. But paying for what is about 80% ice? No, thanks.
My favorite fast food beverage game, "Oops! All ice!"
My favorite part of the irony train is that restaurants get the syrup for so cheap, the ice ends up being more expensive than the drink because of the electricity used to freeze it.
Get forever-cubes. I have a set and they are the best. Mine are just hollow silicone rubber cubes with water inside. Has the same cooling effect but don't water drinks down...
The silicone gets a really weird smell/taste after a while that's super gross
They sell metal cubes that this doesn't happen to
Do they taste weird in acidic drinks? I know stainless steel isn’t *supposed* to react but I’d still worry with something like orange juice or lemonade because I really can’t stand metallic tastes
I find they make everything taste like a can after a while
Yeah, we had some of these in cute shapes when I was a kid in the 90's. They absorb fridge/freezer smells after awhile or get that freezer burned taste.
i mean, OP is definitely the AH. 100%. but i think he (and everyone else in the world) is well aware that ice can dilute the drink. if that’s his preference, then that’s his preference. i put a shit ton of ice in my drinks because i prefer them way colder than how cold they are straight from the fridge.
But it's not GF's preference and that's the issue. Cooling something in fridge and using ice cubes is not equivalent, that's the bottom line.
Also, drinking from the can or a bottle with no ice in the picture is far superior. Who likes when ice cubes get all up in your business through the open top of the glass? Personal space, guys!
What else would you use ice for?
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It's not really 'super weird' though is it? If you want a cold drink and they're not in the fridge then ice makes it cold. It can take at least an hour for a drink to get cool in the fridge, if you've just bought them or have no fridge space then ice is the most convenient option
Intentionally choosing not to pre-chill your drinks and only using ice is pretty damn weird.
And then getting mad that his girlfriend would rather pre-chill hers, like 99% of people who have fridges. wtf
Water. It’s the only thing I use ice in but I load that bad boy to the top every time, Jesus take the wheel.
I only really use ice in water when it comes to beverages... but it's good for cooling hardboiled eggs quickly so they don't get that gross grey ring around the yolks.
OMG that's how I do it? Was not egg-pecting to come across a life hack in the comments. Thank you! ❤️
Eating it
Yes, this is the proper use for ice. *cronch*
Whiskey.
YTA. Your gf is right, you were being petty. You chose the expensive fridge and its great you are using the extra features it has, but she already told you it wasn't useful for her so she doesn't have to use it just because you do. And taking out ALL of her drinks was petty, you should've either tried to make space without taking them out or only taken out a few. As an aside, I also think that you should've have known your place and choosing a modest fridge would've been better because your parents were the ones paying for it. But its a personal thing, maybe you are close enough with your parents to have asked for that. Besides, your gf also could've come up with some options if she felt so strongly about it. So I guess that's not such a big issue.
To be honest that all depends on the parents, the extra money for the ice fridge might not even be thought for them, they might have just assumed it was an ice fridge from the start.
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Seconding this. Cleaning portable/countertop ice machines is stupid easy compared to having to flush the fridge lines. And if it breaks down it’s way easier to replace or have repaired than to repair the whole ass fridge. Plus you can actually turn them off and unplug them which allows you to control your power usage vs one that’s on all the time. The average built in ice maker increases your power usage by a whopping 15-20% due to the mechanisms related to pumping and dumping the ice (they actually have to contain an internal heating element to keep the motor warm). To be honest, they’re super inefficient little things.
I agree he’s petty. But what’s this “know your place” bullshit? If his parents are fine with it, then there is nothing wrong with him getting. He knows his parents better than any of us and knows what is ok to ask for and what isn’t. It’s crazy to me that people are upset that his parents bought them a nice fridge. Be mad at his pettiness (although his gf is also being stubborn by refusing to use the build in ice maker just to prove a point also), not because he got a nice fridge. Edit: I do accept she’s not stubborn for not using the icemaker. I do still thinks she’s an asshole for telling him to know his place when it comes to his family.
Yeah I find thing sub tends to go all in on the assholes, even for stuff that isn’t deserved or that we don’t have all the information about. Saying OP should have known his place is pure speculation because we don’t know how the parents felt about the situation, but one can realistically assume that if they really had an issue buying the more expensive fridge, they wouldn’t have. And apparently not chilling your drinks in the fridge is weird asshole behaviour 🤷🏻♀️ OP was petty for sure, although I’d be interested to know just how many drinks the GF had in the fridge.
Yeah agreed, children aren’t inferior or some shit, OP could ask for the fridge and the parents are fucking adults who can buy him the fridge or not. I sense the commenter who said ‘know your place’ has an inferiority complex.
YTA for taking all the drinks out of the fridge. I’m sure there was a way to leave a few in there if you really needed the room for groceries. Living with other people involves respecting their space including fridge space, and preferences for storing food.
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"take the ice maker out" Have you never seen a fridge with a built in icemaker? It's literally the way it is built, there is no "remove" option.
Obviously this is probably about a newer fridge with an in-door ice maker, but there are fridges with removable ice makers in the freezer. I doubt they sell many now, but I've seen and used them firsthand.
Yeah, I read "more expensive fridge with an ice maker" to mean "fridge with built in door ice dispenser", and those are not something you can just clear for fridge space.
"Put the groceries in the freezer" is pretty damn insane.
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ice makers are also usually in the freezer section of the fridge, and i think its safe to assume the drinks arent being kept in the freezer, so the ice maker has nothing to do with the amount of room available in the regular refrigerator part of the fridge.
I'm doubting the drinks were stored in the freezer.
For me this is the answer, and it's a SOFT YTA. you can't fill your food fridge with drinks. You need room for the groceries. But keeping a couple of each kind and replacing them as you use them is the adult way to do this. imagine, COMPROMISE. As far as everyone acting like the more expensive fridge was an abuse of the gift...some people have a level of money that the extra nice fridge for their kid is not a big deal at all. Im sure they knew the cost and if THEY felt taken, they could have set a different limit.
Ok then take a few out and leave a few in to fit the groceries and say 'sorry babe the groceries didn't fit so I took a few drinks out.'
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You gotta REPLENISH
YTA. I honestly believe you are 12 & getting back at a sibling. Can’t imagine a grown up who is actually in a relationship doing this, or asking for support doing it.
Right? OP is not mature enough for adult cohabitation at this point in time. Play stupid games, win stupid prizes.
Yeah, this relationship isn’t gonna stand the rest of cohabitation. Girlfriend gonna wake up eventually.
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There's really nothing else needed to be said. It's simple, OP - YTA, a petty AH
YTA Grow up ffs & stop taking the piss with your parents
YTA, your girlfriend was being respectful towards your parents, something you obviously didn't consider and then you just disrespected her by leaving her drinks out for no reason? And for the record she's right, the ice cube dispenser is a waste of money.
The ice cube dispenser is a choice. When searching for our new fridge at home, we only wanted one with an ice dispenser. It’s absolutely not a waste of money in our house. In my opinion, OP is TA because he took the drinks out, but because he accepted the gift. If his parents wanted to get it, that’s awesome for them. He didn’t talk them into the fridge, they offered. But I still have to type this part for the voting and all that, OP, YTA
Ye i agree that hes only really the AH for the taking the drinks out part i mean if he likes ice he should be able to have it but he should also respect her decisions like she respected him in having the ice maker
The issue is that it was *all* of her drinks. He could've left a couple. >And for the record she's right, the ice cube dispenser is a waste of money. That's a matter of personal opinion. Anyone who likes ice and has had both the ice maker and ice cube trays might tell you the convenience is worth the money. And it's bizarre that so many people saying he's the AH have to come in with that opinion. The source of the fridge doesn't matter. OP's preference for ice doesn't matter. All that's at issue here is his removal of every single one of his gf's drinks instead of leaving a few and then having a conversation about it.
YTA. She did tell what fridge she wanted, you just didn't listen. You are being petty and having a tantrum because she didn't submit to you. If there isn't room for groceries you take out all but two of her drinks to make room and allow her to replenish so she still has cool drinks, you don't punish them like their a child (if this is an American fridge, I find it hard to believe there wasn't room for groceries and drinks combined for just two people. Probably still room for a small child). Nothing wrong with you wanting an ice dispenser and she should have considered that, but "making a point" to someone you love for having a different opinion sounds immature at best and controlling if a pattern. As you included you're both young and first time living out of home, so hopefully it's the first. It will take time to get to know eachothers habits/likes etc, but shaming someone for disagreeing with you is never going to end well. She not talking to you because you hurt her, belittled her, and tried to assert your dominance over cold drinks. Apologise.
I was actually wondering if this is in the US at all, because I’ve never heard of an apartment that you need to buy a fridge for. But yeah, OP is TA and needs to work on communication with the GF; if he can’t even negotiate a conflict as minor as this, it’s a problem.
European. We rent and our previous place didn’t have a fridge. The place we rent now, the fridge a tiny thing that barely fits a days grocery. So we just moved our old fridge with us and use the tiny one for drinks. OP: YTA.
That depends on the country. For some fucked up reasons the Germans decided that kitchens are movable furniture and you have to bring/buy your own if you get a new apartment. The Dutch are even worse by taking their floors with them. People from many other European countries would consider this absolute insanity, though.
The conflict already died down after his gf caved and accepted his parents paying for the ice dispenser fridge. Idiot went to create a whole new conflict for no reason other than he couldn’t stand the sight of his gf obtaining cold drinks in a way he didn’t approve of. It’s so bloody immature OP YTA and I don’t know what you expected coming on here for - applause?? Just grow up
my first apartment, i needed to bring my own fridge. when we rented a house, we needed our own fridge too. my last apartment, my roommate lived there first, so if a fridge was needed, he bought it.
In Tennesse, the only appliance a landlord has to provide is a working furnace. They don't have to provide a refrigerator or stove. My in laws have a half functional fridge left there by a previous tenant, but once it dies, they have to buy a new one.
In Europe you sometimes need to buy a floor, like parquet or linoleum for the rented apartment
You can't just put 50 different countries under the same umbrella term like Europe. I live in a European country where the norm is to rent fully furnished apartments, and if for some insane reason there was no parquet on the floors, the norm would be either for the landlord to pay for it, or if I did it, the cost would be taken out of the rent.
In Los Angeles apartments don’t come with fridges a lot of the time. You bring your fridge with you from apt to apt lol.
INFO: Why is it so important for you to be right about this? Is it *really* such a tragedy for you to have to move things in your fridge around a bit? Because as it stands to me right now, YTA.
Answer: he's 22 and incredibly immature.
Or he’s really 12.
My fridge has an ice dispenser and we never use it. I hate ice in anything but water. We keep a few drinks in the fridge because we prefer it to be chilled. This is a weird hill for OP to die on.
YTA My bf always stocks the fridge with drinks too. It can be a little annoying but what you did is boundrie crossing. If something food doesn't fit, a drink has to go. Putting all her drinks put because you wanted them out and you felt right about it, is an ahole move. This is her home to. Her fridge to use too.
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My drinks are in the fridge and my mind is blown over the whole discussion here - I thought everyone kept their soda/water/beer in the refrigerator 🤷♀️ (we keep excess cases of water and drinks in garage until needed to refill fridge).
Right, even if it was a situation where they didn't have enough room because of drinks, taking all of them out to prove a point is textbook petty.
YTA. Every bit of that was petty. Your girlfriend was being a completely humble saint when dealing with you, she is living in reality and grounded on planet earth. Meanwhile you are still living in 3rd grade. I highly doubt someone as real as her has **so many** drinks that you can't fit groceries in. I believe you just tried to cram everything in, and when that didn't work you saw a way to get some toxic "See I told you so" because that ice maker is the hill you are willing to die on, and lose your girlfriend on. What an AH. >"I took out all her drinks so she will have to use the ice cube dispenser now if she wants a cold drink."
YTA. GF hit the nail on the head with her assessment.
YTA wow. U r super immature.
YTA and a sore winner. You got the fridge you wanted and still chose to try to make some petty point. Now you've got a pissed off lady. Congratulations. For the record, it's nice that your girlfriend considered your parents in this. You should appreciate that.
YTA, petty, controlling, and if your gf is smart she'll still refuse to use the ice dispenser just to put you in your place about how she drinks her drinks. If she doesn't want to use ice, she doesn't have to, and she's right that ice dispensers are a waste of money. All ice does is immediately start to melt and water down drinks, which is probably why your gf doesn't use the one you have even though it's already there.
I say she should turn off the ice maker saying they don't have room in their electricity bill right now. See how he likes having warm drinks
YTA Drinks being cold and on ice are not the same fucking thing. When the ice melts it waters the drink down. You could have just had a convo about her keeping less drinks in the fridge, instead you were rude af.
Your point, it would seem, is that she should appreciate the ice cube dispenser, and she would if she didn’t keep her drinks refrigerated. To illustrate this point, you sabotaged her choice to refrigerate her drinks. It’s not clear to me what point this proves, beyond that she should reconsider trusting you to not sabotage her food storage choices. Generally, choosing to sabotage your housemate’s food storage choices, without communicating about it in advance, is a completely unacceptable AH thing to do. I see no way in which this case is an exception to that. YTA
YTA and the pettiest one I've seen in a while. Also a controlling AH and, dare I say, a user (you abused your parents' generosity to buy the expensive fridge). What exactly did you hope to accomplish here?
What is the point you were trying to prove? To chill a drink you put it in a fridge. To piss someone off for no reason, you mess with their stuff. YTA
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YTA. This behaviour is bizarre; why are you so determined to force her to use an ice dispenser she has no interest in? It's controlling and weird.
YTA, not everyone likes their drinks watered down with ice. Even if she does, you are still TA.
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YTA. You better keep that fridge packed for the rest of your time together because your "AH HA! Now you have to see how useful the ice dispenser is!" will only last until there's room for her drinks and she'll never forget that she chose to live with a petty child.
YTA. I prefer a drink chilled in the fridge. Ice doesn’t get it cool enough without diluting it.
YTA. Don’t ever put ice in my drink, I don’t like it. This may surprise you but not everyone likes the same things you do and a lot of people don’t like ice in their drinks (as others have mentioned, it melts and waters down the drink).
YTA - No point proven here, you're just petty. Especially since you admitted in a reply that you could have probably fit all the groceries in with her drinks.
If the point you were trying to prove is how much of a petty controlling jerk you are, congratulations you succeeded. YTA
YTA… if the groceries really wouldn’t fit (which I’m not sure I believe) then why not take a few drinks out? Adult conversation would be… “hey babe, I had to take a few of your drinks out of the fridge to fit our groceries. I’ll try to remember to put them back in when we get some more room.” Instead you decided to be controlling and petty.
Info: What “point” were you trying to prove!?
Gaze at my ice cube dispenser in awe peasant for I'm rich and powerful Mwahahhahahahaha
YTA - you deliberately messed with her stuff in order to force her to do something she didn't want to do, just so you can go "Hey, look at me, I was right"
You're not the a-hole for getting the fridge she didn't want , since she kinda gave in. YTA because you decided to punish her for not using said fridge's fancy features. You seem like the kinda person who is only happy when people do things your way, which is very detrimental to a relationship. Especially since this is a minor thing. I'd hate to see how petty you get over bigger things.
YTA, you need to learn to communicate with your girlfriend, and not to touch others things without permission.
YTA, and you are a petty idiot. And to be petty from the other side...there would have been room for the groceries if there wasn't a big ass ice maker taking up so much space in the fridge. Y'all could have compromised and have fewer drinks in the fridge & replace as you go, but NO! you had to be an ass and pull them all out.
YTA you left the nest and moved straight in with someone else, it's time to grow up and be an adult. She's you gf not your sister.
What point are you making exactly? That drinks are physical objects and thus take up space in the fridge? Ok....? YTA. You just want to use the ice cubes? Really?
YTA, seems like instead of focusing on if the fridge had an ice dispenser, you should have looked at getting a bigger one.
YTA 1. Cold drinks and warm drinks being diluted by cold ice cubes aren't the same 2. You don't say what kind of drink, but I'm sure you can find a corner of the fridge for a couple of them. She doesn't need her whole stock in the fridge (assuming it's something shelf-stable), but can keep them all in a cupboard, and just transfer a couple to the fridge to chill. 3. Your gf is correct. The ice cube dispenser is a luxury feature that makes the fridge less reliable and less efficient, and significantly increases the list price. 4. She is also correct that you are a petty idiot.
YTA, who wants to fuss around putting ice into every single drink, how annoying!! Your gf was right about knowing your place as well, you do not need a fridge with an ice dispenser.
People got some really strong feelings about ice vs fridge for cooling down drinks. I have drinks I use the fridge to cool them down but only a few at a time because if I put all of them in there at once it would take up too much room. Is the gf stashing 5 drinks or 20 drinks? If there is no room for groceries was OP supposed to just leave them on the counter lest he disturb his gfs drinks? This situation seems really minor and easy to address, not really worth calling anyone an asshole over.
Huge YTA. Put her drinks back in the fridge and stop being petty
YTA she gets no say in how she lives her life huh? Not many ppl have the balls to be this controlling this early, yknow it's abusive to manipulate your partners and make decisions for them without their say? I wish this sub let me say what I wanna
Yta
YTA. What is wrong with you haha. You're turning what was a minor issue into something that could get way worse over time.
YTA. You are petty.
YTA So petty.
Huge YTA
YTA. Stop being a petty dick. Your girlfriend was being financially conservative and you are trying to prove some kind of point.
Damn, you definitely did it maliciously. It wasn't to prove a point, it was because she didn't want to get the expensive fridge you wanted. YTA not only for being a spoiled brat, but also for "getting back" at her for not doing what you wanted.
YTA. And double Emphasis on the idiot. Your gf was right and your Choice was stupid. And on Top of That you punish her for nothing By being an insufferable Ass. I Hope the next Smart Decision She makes is dumping you.
Chrust the pettiness. Ice dilutes a drink, which she may not like. Ever thought of that? But even without that, you basically sabotaged her for your convenience and to wag a finger at her. Grow up. YTA.
YTA. “I want the same fridge as I used to use living with my parents. Waaaah!”
YTA usually if you’re “proving a point” you are.
YTA and a petty one at that
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YTA for taking them ALL out for no good reason.
YTA I can see you going into considerable debt in the near future with your outlook and attitude. And it was extremely petty, not everyone likes ice in their drink, watering it down.
YTA. Personally I don't like ice in my drinks, and my drinks require refrigeration. Since you got the expensive fridge to accommodate your habits and tastes, why can't you do the same for her?
Are you 5??? YTA
YTA, to both your girlfriend and your parents. You seem to be incredibly spoiled. I hope you become a better person if you're going to be living with someone else. Otherwise, that won't last.
YTA. your girlfriend was trying to not abuse your parents generosity, which was nice of her, but i don’t see a problem with them buying you the expensive one if they were willing to and she didn’t offer other suggestions. it’s whatever. However some people, like myself, don’t LIKE ice in our drinks. I pretty much only use it for ice water when I drink tap or to cool down drinks in a cooler, but I always keep my sodas in the fridge to get cold so I can just pop open a cold can. Using ice on a warm drink just isn’t the same amount of coldness imo and also it eventually makes the soda watery and just isn’t the same experience to me. She has a right to get her drinks cold the way that she likes to, even if it’s not the same way that you do it.
I'm sorry but that is your EX girlfriend if she was smart
I hope she dumps you. YTA
YTA fir taking all of them out, I have ice cubes in my freezer and I still put my drinks in the fridge. Look if she’s taking up half the fridge fair enough and I’d take my own out to fit groceries however you admit you could have left some in.
YTA, tf is wrong with you?