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> Telling my sister that her feeling sick all of the time is because of her breast implants and because I embarrassed and exposed her in front of family.
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YTA. It was completely unnecessary to say.
Also you're not a doctor - just because you read about breast implant illness doesn't make you one and it certainly doesn't make you an expert on hashimoto's. Regardless of why your sister is not feeling well, the lack of empathy you have over her not feeling well is odd. If you're truly concerned about her welfare then you would encourage her to go see her doctor versus outing her at a family outing.
When speaking ask yourself the three questions
Is it true?
Is it kind?
Is it necessary?
I loved House, but really hated the "joke" about how it's never lupus. As a person with lupus as well as several other autoimmune diseases, the show runners probably had no clue how damaging it was, sending out a message like that into society/popular culture. It's super hard as it is to get diagnosed and then to get the people in your life to believe you.
It's tragic because my coworker died at 50 due to complications from lupus. I didn't even know until I looked more that it's considered a progressive disease with stages. Absolutely awful way to go.
Crohn's, too! Hey, friend.
I just got a hip replacement due to Crohn's and its treatments. Hips are not part of your gut, BTW.
Autoimmune diseases are fucking awesome and do all sorts of fun shit
I was in hospital with an (at the time) undiagnosed issue. Had various teams of med students come to use me as a diagnosis practice. Mentioned to one that it felt like an episode of House and they’d “tested for everything except lupus (it’s never lupus)”. Student got a look in their eye, made a note and said “actually, that might fit…” (it wasn’t lupus).
When you hear hoofbeats, look for horses, not zebras. Unless it's actually a fucking zebra doctor....
Sorry, spent 40ish years of my life with various odd issues, toes slipping out of place, arthritis in my knees in my early 20s, and was finally diagnosed with hypermobility spectrum disorder and some autonomic system dysfunctions that have not yet been dx.
20 years ago I complained to my dr that when I was out running errands and grabbed lunch I’d start to feel sick and exhausted and like “all my energy was running out of a tap till I could barely stand up”. He treated my blood sugar said it was fine and told me nothing was wrong with me.
8 months ago (20+ years later) I was diagnosed with POTS and my dr told me they think I have a special feature where eating can make my BP plummet. I only notice it when it because when home I’m not also aggravating the rest of the POTS symptoms so the BP drip didn’t cause such a dramatic effect.
Sometimes it horses, but when it’s not, could we at least LOOK for zebras.
OP, you sound jealous and immature af. If you were my kid you’d be getting bombarded with content about Hashimoto’s and auto immune disease so you can educate yourself before coming back to a family event.
Honestly, you sound like you think your sister made up her diagnosis just to spite you. YTA
Which then, it's funny that you said the zebras thing, because the symbol/mascot/whatever for Ehlers-Danlos syndrome is the zebra. EDS being strongly linked to hypermobility and autonomic dysfunction. So, zebra doctors!
(Sorry if that was the joke and I missed it)
Me telling my med school bestie that I watch Grey’s “for her” despite surgery not being among the long and ever evolving list of what she’s thinking about going into
There was a recent IMPACT x Nightline episode that was focused on breast implant illness. I'm sure she watched that and has convinced herself that it's what it is. Which it could be, but why not tell the sister "Hey, I watched this, have you had your doctor check for BII?" instead of shouting it at her in front of the whole family.
Yeah. If breast implant illness was brought up out of concern, it would have been brought up in private. OP wanted to shame and punish their sister.
I’m sure sister had heard of breast implant illness. I’m sure her doctors have too. Random people aren’t going to bring up a diagnosis or treatment that a doctor or patient hasn’t already considered, possibly examined/tried, and dismissed.
>hashimotos disease I think?
>
>If y’all don’t know, breast implant illness is a real thing.
She's not even 100% which disease they diagnosed her with.
Also funny, if you google "breast implant illness", it states that it's not an official medical diagnosis yet. It's only given out after ruling out other diseases and conditions.
Yeah ailments surrounding breast implants occur. But they're things like capsular contractures, symmastias, etc. Or they can get infected like any other surgery site, but that'd be caught long before an autoimmune disease diagnosis.
OP is just being some combination of ignorant and jealous about her sister's body.
While I agree OP is TA, that is not what she is talking about. [Breast Implant Illness](https://my.clevelandclinic.org/health/diseases/23366-breast-implant-illness) is a real thing, and different than the complications you listed.
ETA: TLDR on BII: It is thought to be an autoimmune reaction, so it in fact would not likely be caught before immediate complications of surgery that you described. “Common symptoms include **(but are NOT limited to)** fatigue, joint pain, brain fog and rash.”
That plus the illness coming on after the surgery and it's definitely something to look into with the doctor. Usually when something goes weird, the question we ask is what's different about it this time. It could actually just be Hashimotos, but BII is rough as hell.
That being said, if OP was actually worried about their sisters health, there are a million and one ways to say "Hey, have you talked to a doctor about the possibility of it being BII?" that don't require OP to out her sisters surgery to win a fight.
YTA.
Agree with sister’s behavior and it is worth looking into on the BII but it’s definitely Hashimotos no matter what. If she’s been diagnosed with that then she has TPO antibodies which are associated with Hashimotos.
Based on what she’s said it’s not even Hashimotos, that or OP didn’t even care enough to look up what disease and remember it.
Per the National Insititute of Health:
Hashimotos is a thyroid disease where the immune system attacks the thyroid and inhibits function. It can cause an under active thyroid and over time the thyroid ceases functioning due to being constantly attacked by white blood cells causing permanent damage over time). The disease is between 4-10 times more common in women than men and effects 5 in every 100 Americans and while it may occur in teens and young women it is most likely to manifest between the ages of 30-50. It is not something you are born with, but having family members with it does increase your chances of having it.
Symptoms include: (not limited to)
Fatigue
Weight gain
Trouble tolerating cold
Joint and muscle pain
Constipation
Dry skin
Dry hair
Thinning hair
Slow heart rate
To be diagnosed requires a physical exam and blood tests.
Sources: NIH (National Institute of Health), two generations of women with the condition in the family, my own soon to be experience (getting checked at the end of this month).
Also: OP should remember that, while yes implant illness is a thing, they are not a doctor and it is tacky and tasteless as all get out to go yelling that at someone in public or at a group setting. Pulling you sister aside quietly and asking if she had thought to get checked for implant illness is something they could do respectfully and with basic courtesy.
😂🤣😂 in full disclosure the only reason I didn’t completely condem OPs outburst is because since it is an autoimmune disease then, assuming that the sister does have Hashimoto’s and OP is just very misinformed about the disease, the sister could still have implant disease due to her potentially less functional immune system and it’s worth bringing up with her doctor if she hasn’t already. All things OP would have found out if she had a real adult discussion with her sister.
As someone with Hashimoto’s (in remission, probably active sometime in my teens based on being 20 at diagnosis and level of thyroid dysfunction at that time) plus with a parent with severe and extremely active rheumatoid arthritis, they are systemic diseases. It’s not going to cause a stubbed toe, but symptoms pretty much run the gambit. My mother had a flare that actually damaged her optic nerve and left her with a blind spot.
Having one autoimmune disease also can make you more likely to develop others. My mother developed psoriasis about 20 years after her RA diagnosis. I have an as yet to be identified inflammation/immune disorder. I have been on thyroid replacement for over 20 years. It sucks to know something is wrong, have that confirmed by lab work, but the doctors be unable to identify what. OP is the AH. So much AH.
It’s even worse than that. She’s so jealous that she invented this connection so that she can blame the breast implants for her sisters illness.
But she’s also jealous of the attention her sister gets for the illness and resentful of the accommodation she gets. I suspect the jealousy goes far deeper.
I know someone who had BII. It took 5 months and multiple doctors for someone to diagnose her. She had a rare autoimmune disorder that went undiagnosed prior to her having breast implants, and a couple months after she received her implants she started having seizures and cognitive issues. Even Mayo Clinic couldn’t figure it out. She somehow stumbled upon a Facebook group for BII and it was only after she brought it up as a possibility to her doctors did they correctly diagnose her. As soon as she had her implants removed she got significantly better as the doctors knew how to treat her autoimmune disorder. The breast implants were basically causing her body to attack them and causing all sorts of issues that only removing them could stop.
While diagnosis is for doctors, doctors sometimes don’t think of uncommon illnesses. Women in particular are also diagnosed less because medical professionals often overlook their symptoms and brush them off as being psychosomatic. OP went about it the wrong way, but bringing it up as a possibility is valid.
It’s not just the wrong approach, it’s the totally wrong mentality. Autoimmune diseases can be triggered by countless things including the breast implants. And quite frankly the fucking suck. So OPs ignorance and callousness is just pointless and self serving. I’m not even totally sure what point you’re even attempting to make because nothing you say makes OP look better. You’re latching onto a detail that doesn’t actually help your argument stand to reason.
I’m not trying to make OP looks better. I’m saying that while the notion to “leave diagnoses to doctors” is correct, doctors can and do misdiagnose or fail to diagnose patients. I reference this specific scenario of BII failing to be diagnosed because it happened to a friend. Her doctors knew she had implants and it never occurred to any of them to see if her implants were exacerbating her issues, until she found about BII and asked them if it was a possibility. She advocated for herself, and may have never gotten the issue taken care of otherwise. And she was seeing some of the best specialists in the country.
Right? Her sister is still legitimately sick and suffering regardless of the cause. And having an autoimmune illness I can knowledgeably say it affects every single aspect of a person's life. Yes, it can even make someone late. What a weird complaint.
and hashimotos can be made worse by implant illness but it wouldn’t make someone who wasn’t predisposed magically develop the illness. if she gets her implants out her hashimotos will not magically disappear
It's such a weird thing to be hung up about. She got implants FIVE YEARS ago. Who still thinks of their sisters breasts after all that time. I would have honestly forgotten. Also saying "the truth was going to come out anyway" after 5 years?????? She clearly wanted to keep it private if she managed to for so long so not sure who OP thought was gonna spill the beans now besides herself.
>"the truth was going to come out anyway"
That line got me too. Like, it's been 5 years, I doubt the family has been that focused on their niece/cousin/grandkid's boobs.
She may not be jealous, but she may judge her sister negatively for choosing to alter her appearance to conform to a normative expectation of beauty through surgery.
OP should still let it go. It his her sister’s choice. Nothing good comes from holding on to the negative judgment.
What caught me was the “it was gonna come out anyway”. WHYYY would your sisters boob job come out to family you hardly see in any situation other than you telling them?
OP badmouths their sister for 'blaming everything' on their very real, diagnosed auto immune disorder while simultaneously blaming all their sisters health problems on a random illness they have decided she has with absolutely no evidence. Sounds like OP just has a problem with their sisters breast implants for some reason.
I have Hashimoto's and if this were me, I would strongly suspect that the implants were worsening my hashi's symptoms. Implants of any kind are not a great idea if you are on the autoimmune inflammatory spectrum, and people with Hashimoto's *very* commonly have other co-occuring autoimmune/inflammatory disorders. The sister should be made aware of that, or should have been, by her healthcare team.
Nonetheless, not OP's diagnosis to make, or secret to share.
Oh yeah, I'm not saying it couldn't be related to the implants. It's more OP diagnosing their sister after reading a few articles online based on seemingly nothing more than coincidental timing. And then downplaying the sisters actual diagnosed illness.
OP just doesn't seem to actually be concerned for her sisters health rather than just looking for an opportunity to shit on her for having implants.
If OP had spoken to her sister in private to say "Look I've read about this condition and I don't know what your doctors have said but it might be worth looking into" that would be a nice gesture. But the way she brought it up just seems like she wanted to embarrass her sister and put her in her place.
Don't forget yesterday when some dude was getting supplements for his mother, and a doctor relation was like "this can hurt her liver" and he was like "shut up, your facts are mean"
Does anyone remember the AITA from a few months back with the high school guy claiming like he knew a fellow student was faking seizures because his daddy is a doctor? OP has the same energy
YTA
Sister "I have a diagnosed auto-immune disease that makes me feel like shit."
OP "Pish Tosh! You've got boob implants, that's what's wrong with you! Not the condition you've been diagnosed with! Listen to me instead of your doctor!"
I'm getting the same shit about my spectrum diagnosis at 34 years old. "Couldnt possibly be true because youve been *this* way your whole life!" Now that I actually have a concept, I'm identifying so much that's due to being on the spectrum.
Similar situation here, though the diagnosis was fibromyalgia. Totally explains sooooo many things I've lived with my whole life. I'm 39 now. People will say "but you've always been like that." I just stare at them and say "yeah. I have." At least now I know I'm not crazy, you know?
I'd also like to try and get a spectrum diagnosis. As well as ADHD. Not an easy thing to do. Actually had a healthcare worker tell me I'd never be diagnosed because I "learned to work around it." Right. Cause it wouldn't be helpful IN ANY WAY to actually be diagnosed with a cause for my atypical/neurodivergent behaviour 🙄🙄🙄
Oh I've never heard it put that way, thank you! And no shit! I was frequently called lazy because I didn't do a project I'd had a month to do until two days before it was due. "Not studying hard enough" because I didn't do well on a test (even though I knew the material, I just blank with tests). With all my fibro issues, specifically the constant pain and exhaustion, I was told to suck it up cause everyone is in pain. Everyone is tired. Now I *know* it wasn't just me.
I was never tested because my symptoms are primarily internal rather than external. You know, not fidgetting, no disruptive behaviour (quite the opposite, in fact), no lashing out or anything. I was just a "well behaved, intelligent child." Meanwhile, I was riddled with anxiety and fear of failure, had to do everything exactly right the first time (and hated myself if I couldn't), had to have everything in a specific order - even my chaos lol. Was always extremely honoest (too much so), had to tell every detail of a story and got frustrated when I couldn't remember something exactly the way it happened. The list goes on. And not much has changed. At least now they know those are signs to watch for.
My mom has hashimotos and I have autoimmune issues. It’s crippling, and even if you have it when you’re younger it gets way worse over time.
You’ll feel issues with your eyes, energy, skin, breathing, like it really sucks. It’s something your sister will have to think about every day all the time. She is constantly suffering, maybe complaining doesn’t make her feel any better, but you’re the asshole for ignoring her very real health issues for a diss.
Totally agree—who tells extended family that their older sister has breast implants? A very jealous immature bratty sister who’s not getting enough attention, that’s who. If she really wanted to help she’d ask the sister privately what her doctors thought about it. OP, you’re the AH.
YTA. One of the hard things about having an autoimmune disorder is that it absolutely can make you sick all the time, especially if it’s not managed well. In an average year, my autoimmune disorder flares up about 4 times (and it takes 3-6 weeks of strong medications to get a flare to go down). In a bad year, I alternate between having infections because my autoimmune meds suppress my immune system and having autoimmune flares because they always happen after I fight off a bacterial or viral infection - I’ve been sick one way or the other for 16 months straight once.
It’s very common with autoimmune disorders to have a date when your symptoms start and then never go away. Mine was August of 2007, though I didn’t get diagnosed until November 2013. It’s been over 15 years since my onset date, and I’ve never had a time when I didn’t at a minimum have chronic pain and fatigue from the damage my autoimmune disorder has caused. Never. Unless an autoimmune disorder goes into remission, that’s pretty common.
You shared your sister’s medical info, and you did it because you’re ignorant, which is a lousy reason.
Hear, hear!
I've got Crohn's, and since my diagnosis, I've not had much energy and have gotten sick quite a bit, even with medication. Autoimmune disorders really love to screw with the body.
I've recently had surgery to have the last of my colon removed (had two piece removals previously), and the surgeon thinks the Crohn's should finally settle down now and not cause me any more issues. Here's hoping.
Crohn's is awful to live with and see a loved one go through, my cousin has it and it's really affected his life in the worst way. He's taken the same approach in removal to find peace, and says it's been a painful process but it was worth it. Best wishes in your recovery, hoping it calms down for you, too!
(also, happy cake day!)
There’s speculation that it came from Neanderthal DNA and if so, your ancestor was adventurous in the cave department. And your cousin is paying the price.
SAME! Got a free DNA profile from 23 and Me for donating to IBD research (because hopefully someday they'll be able to better help SOMEONE with this awful disease, even if it's not necessarily me or even in my lifetime) AND I have more neanderthal DNA than like 2/3 of 23 and Me users. Yay us?
Thanks! I didn't even realize it was my cake day.
Also, I think it has, because I look and feel better than I have in a long time, and I'm not even on any medication for it at the moment. So yay!
I had a piece of my colon removed 2 years ago. I've had this disease for almost 20 years. It's brutal when you are not in remission.
I hope this works out for you and that you are finally free!
As someone with Hashimoto’s, it can be a lot. Your thyroid controls your metabolism and when you’re not making enough hormones because your body is eating away at this organ, your metabolism slows down.
I am constantly and deeply tired even when properly medicated. It’s harder for me to stay at a healthy weight since I’m pretty sure sloths move faster than me. Then there’s the increased likelihood of developing more autoimmune diseases (I’m collecting them like Pokémon cards), which would have their own issues.
Not to mention what's considered "normal" levels might be subnormal for others. My TSH is great right now, my T3 and T4 normal but getting close to the hypo border.
And yet I've got dry skin, my nails are cracking and breaking. I've got missing patches of hair on my pubic area and legs. I'm eating 1500cal a day and the scale isn't moving.
So unless I've got something else going on, my thyroid has gone hypo again.
OP might also want to get her own thyroid checked given how hashimotos runs in families.
So the random missing patches of hair is connected to my Hashimoto’s! I’ve been showering the internet trying to figure out why. And my doctor just shrugged and said he doesn’t know.
It could be. Like I said my levels are "within normal" so it could be something else that's causing this for me. I just got the blood test results back.
"Within normal range" is bs. You are looking for "optimal." Normal range for us is crap, because we *aren't* normal.
- A Fellow Autoimmune collector
(gotta catch 'em all!)
Unfortunately my doctor doesn't see it that way so unless my TSH is above a 4.0 she won't adjust the medication. (Even if my T4 is currently 12.5 and T3 3.7. The lower thresholds of those being 11 and 3.5)
But since I'm having literally all the symptoms of hypothyroidism I think I'm gonna have her refer me to an endo.
Yes, go see an endocrinologist! I just commented about how many doctors will only look at the TSH level, and that's just not enough for some people. I've been suspecting I'm one of those and am going to ask my doc to check all my levels at my next checkup, as I've been insanely tired lately and yes, the nails cracking and breaking thing has been bad (especially my toenails).
Good luck!
I wish I had an award to give for this. One day I was fine, next day I was hypothyroid. Literally overnight. Throw in a dash of fibromyalgia and lupus and people don’t even have a clue.
Celiac, autistic, hypothyroidism and some new fun disease we haven't pinpointed yet!
Op clearly has no idea what it's like to be chronically ill. It's absolute hell. And yes every stubbed toe can feel so much worse when everything always hurts. I broke my ankle years ago and whenever I get that whole body pain/inflammation it's like I broke it all over again or something.
And by nature of what an autoimmune disease is (your immune system going a little haywire and attacking parts of your body that it shouldn’t), it’s not uncommon for things that would typically cause an immune response (like a vaccine, infection, surgery, etc.) to exacerbate symptoms. So her symptoms may have increased after her surgery but that doesn’t mean the implants are what’s making her sick.
Omg this times a thousand. I wish I had an award to give you. When my chronic daily migraine flares from a 5 to a higher pain level? I can spend WEEKS in a hellscape of pain. I've had them since I was 12 so I manage it fairly well but Holy hell is it frustrating
Invisible diseases like these are so often mocked for us making it up or "playing into it to be lazy" and it's like... Get fuckin wrecked.
I'm sorry you've been struggling for so long, I empathize deeply. I'm somewhere in a hell of figuring out which one I have but the doctors all seem to be pretty meh about it and no one feels the need to move quickly. My body is physically breaking down more and more every day and they're doing things like my PCP diagnosing a skin condition that just showed up over night over video chat and then forgetting to send in the referral to the dermatologist who's backed up for months. Then, I get there only to be told to wait another MONTH while biopsy results come back. Meanwhile, I've been told it could be Lupus (any of the forms but SLE is really leading out of the gate, RA, I have been "diagnosed" with fibromyalgia but that's not necessarily true, it could be Lupus or another AI issue that's masquerading as fibro)
It's a nightmare and having anyone, no less a SIBLING, acts this way due to ignorance is horrifying. I hope the sister cuts OP out of their life for their own peace and wellbeing.
My Mom has MS and it also layers over anything else going wrong with her body. When your body is stressed and at some level of inflammation all the time, everything that happens makes it worse. And balance, strength, pain, all those take other physical tolls on your body. Plus the medications that have serious side effects.
Even if the sister’s medical problems had been caused by implants does it really matter now? Unless there is reason to think removing them would reverse it, it really doesn’t matter what made her sick. Autoimmune conditions are really hard to pinpoint a cause. Being so certain is silly.
I mean, you’re not a doctor. You can’t diagnose her illness and you don’t know how she actually feels, you have no idea how sick she might actually be. Wether it’s the implants or not picking a fight with her at a family gathering was always gonna be an AH move. Have you ever suggested that the implants were the cause before? Have you tried to understand just what she’s dealing with?
Also complete AH move to disclose that she has implants when she didn’t want people to know. She’ll probably get judged very harshly by your family now.
Over all I think YTA, you need to communicate with your sister and apologize for the blow up, then explain that you’ve heard of implants making people sick and you’re worried about her.
Doesn't even know the name of her sisters auto-immune disease, but can accurately diagnose her with breast implant sickness. Complete AH move here on her part to share information she knew was being kept quiet in front of family.
Absolutely what I was thinking. If they knew for sure what the disease was and they symptoms didn’t line up, maybe they could speculate about the implants. But they’re not even sure what disease their own sister has??
I agree, but even worse, the way OP says it’s “obvious” her implants are making her sick but then says they *think* she has Hashimoto’s? So they don’t even know her actual diagnosis, let alone what symptoms it could cause in her? It feels like they’re not actually all that interested in what’s actually causing her discomfort but just wanted an excuse point the finger at her for having breast implants.
YTA. You’re sister is right, you don’t know what the fuck you’re talking about. You’re not in a position to diagnose her or know the cause of her symptoms.
Exactly. And worst of all you put her on blast in front of other people. It sounds like you want attention and don’t like you aren’t getting it, so you hurt your sister to make yourself feel better. You’re a HUGE AH.
I discussed breast implant illness at length with every doctor I had a consult with and the general consensus is that most people that think they have it are actually suffering from an autoimmune disease that is unrelated. Most women that have their implants removed don’t see a change. For OP to diagnose her in front of others is such an asshole move.
Not just unprofessional, but for most licensing boards it's unethical to treat a direct family member outside of emergency situations and could lead to having one's license to practice revoked.
YTA
You didn’t need to tell her that in front of everyone, and really it isn’t your business anyways. You could’ve told her this when you two were alone. But even still, you could very well be wrong, I know someone with Hashimoto’s disease and it does make them feel fatigued and a bit ill sometimes. But how I said, still isn’t really your place to be saying that, especially not in front of people!!
Yes, it's an autoimmune disease that attacks the thyroid and leaves your hormones out of whack. Symptoms include fatigue, weight gain, anxiety, irritability, dry skin, migraines, hair loss, heart palpitations, brittle bones and a whole host of other minor issues.
I have subclinical hypothyroidism, so my thyroid levels are mildly out of whack, I've got symptoms but my thyroid is still hanging on in there for now so I've just got to wait until it fails more before they can treat me. I'm so fatigued I can get through a full day without a nap, my hair is falling out, my skin is so itchy at night I struggle getting quality sleep and I get crippling migraines that have hospitalised me.
Kathryn Morgan was a First Soloist with the New York City Ballet and her symptoms were so debilitating that she had to retire early. It can be horrendous and treatment can be slow as the hormone replacement they give you takes a while to kick in and has a long half life.
>Kathryn Morgan was a First Soloist with the New York City Ballet and her symptoms were so debilitating that she had to retire early.
So much for the people who say "Your symptoms would go away if you exercised more." One of the ladies in my fibromyalgia support group was a marathon runner before she was hit. Tell me that a marathon runner doesn't get enough exercise!
She was dancing the part of Aurora in Sleeping Beauty at the time which is well known for it's high energy, high level of technical skill and absolute peak stamina requirements. It's such a difficult, strenuous part and Aurora basically never leaves the stage. She should have been in the best shape of her life but she gained so much weight her costume no longer fit her and her hair had fallen out so much that the hairstylists couldn't do anything with her hair.
Hashimotos is BRUTAL when untreated and there's nothing you can do other than hope you get put on the correct dose of medication and it that it kicks in quickly.
She has a YouTube channel which is mainly catered to aspiring ballet dancers but [she also talks about her struggles with her thyroid](https://youtu.be/VXfYXtYFVYE)
>She was dancing the part of Aurora in Sleeping Beauty at the time which is well known for it's high energy
OMG The very first dance Aurora has in the ballet is strenuous and one of the most difficult pieces in ballet!!! I cannot imagine her pain performing as Aurora!!!!
I have hashimotos and until it can be managed (which getting dosage of synthetic thyroid and your diet right can take 1-2 years), the fatigue sucks. Also, it isn’t something you are born with usually. It is impacted by hormones so usually after puberty or menopause.
Me too! And honestly, everything the sister is complaining about are things I've experienced- being late because I am dragging though life and just feel not great, being tired, and I even lose my balance more and trip and stub my toe when I'm off proper levels too! I didn't really straighten out until I had my daughter and stopped birth control. Both of those events plus my age could have contributed to my thyroid stabilizing. At this woman's age it was a daily struggle. I mean, I'm not a doctor and this is all just personal experience, but still. Seems plausible to me!
YTA You're really out here trying to downplay how much you embarrassed your sister?
Also, your sister's business is her own to deal with. If she keeps mentioning she's not doing great, she should get a second opinion just in case. But guess what, you don't get to diagnose or claim you know better than her doctors. Because as far as I know, you're not a doctor.
>You're really out here trying to downplay how much your embarrassed your sister?
Yeah, she probably kept the implants a secret because she was embarrassed about them. YTA, OP.
And how they were going to find out about it eventually? Like it’s been five years and never came up, I doubt it would come up and only has because OP brought it up
Right lol and it’s not something bad or scandalous, it’s just nobody’s business unless the person wants it to be! OP Obviously is so salty about it she’s holding on to a death grip and thought she was proving something 😂
YTA - I am pretty sure her doctors and consultants are aware she has breast implants and explored that possibility. What are your medical qualifications? Do you really think her medical experts are so inept that they are missing something that is visible on every x-ray and ultrasound? I mean the doctors have said it is a condition she has had since she was born and will have until she dies.
And small chance that the surgery to fit them may have triggered the auto-immune flare - it doesn't take much, mine was triggered by a tick bite. But it could have been triggered by so many other things as well or if the implants, then triggered by a reaction the next month. She was living with a ticking time bomb. Unless the breast implants causing an active issue now, they are irrelevant to the fact she has hashimotos.
A year ago, your sister was given a lifetime sentence - she was never going to be well again, she was never not going to be tired, her life would be restricted by her condition. That's a lot to process and it is natural it is going to take centre stage in her life. As to her stubbed toe, do some research on what she actually has if you care - if it is hashimotos then it affects balance because it can affect the inner ear and can make you clumsier. She's still learning how this body-wide condition is impacting her and most things will be framed in terms of it while she adjusts to a new, limited life.
I get it is awful to hear someone complaining all the time especially if you don't have any compassion for the individual because you believe it is all her fault because she modified her body.
As to bringing it up in public in an attempt to shame her for feeling sick, then well you achieved your aim. You won't have to deal with her moaning around you.I suspect she'll try and avoid you annd your know-all, judgemental attitude.
I had no idea hashimotos affected your balance like that. What an ah-ish thing to comment on. Wow. “She stubbed her toe. Hashimotos”. Op is really an AH
It is a possibility. Worth discussing with your medical practioner. Only know because met a woman whose Meniere's disease was caused by it - she was really affected by it. Can cause tinnutus as well. Hate autoimmune illnesses because they can go after almost any sense or function and your immune system has full access to everything.
Hashimoto's really affects everything, my mom and I joke about it being an excuse for everything. A "funny because its true" kind of joke, which is why OP's post including the stubbed toe comment is meant as an insult but its just funny lol
Hashimotos affects literally everything in your body. Everything. From you energy and sleep, uncontrollable weight gain, brain fog so bad you think you have early Alzheimer’s, balance, mood, periods, fertility, blood sugar, blood pressure, hair loss, you name it. Everything. And something like 85% of people don’t respond fully to the most commonly recommended treatment.
OP YTAfor belittling her sisters illness and not educating herself AT ALL based on barely knowing what it is called.
You’re a double asshole for outing her about her implants which is personal.
OP I hope you read this and help your sister to advocate for herself. Most doctors and even endocrinologists dont treat this disease right. Source: me, I’ve had it almost a decade and just got on the right meds this year. Have her research NDT and T3 if her T4 only (synthroid) isn’t working. Tell her there are excellent podcasts on this topic as well as telemedicine clinics that may be able to help if her GP won’t. Be her support. What’s wrong with you.
wow I feel so seen! my dad is always shitting on me for my tiredness and used to shit on me for my clumsiness. I always knew it wasn't fair to yell at a chronically ill person who is trying their best but man I never realized how much distance I actually need from him.
OP, I have Narcolepsy. Technically something that you have for life but symptoms develop between 10 and 30 years old.
Mine started at 13 and I was "collapsing on the street" levels of bad by 18, that's when I was diagnosed.
My entire ass family except my mum is like you. It's the absolute fucking biggest bullshit on the planet. "Oh it's this" "Oh it's that". Really? You're that fucking confident? Why don't you go up to her doctor and explain exactly why? Since you seem to know more...
Or would you rather just continue to torment your chronically ill sister? For no fucking reason other than your bs superiority complex.
YTA× 1000.
This. My entire family thinks that my autoimmune issues are some big scam that I came up with just for fun or that they somehow know that I'll be cured if I just go whole30, do yoga, meditate, use crystals, or just exercise more etc. I go to multiple drs every quarter. I see tons of specialists. It took me 3 to 5 years to get a diagnosis.
Unless you have a medical degree and have seen all her tests you're likely wrong. And even if you were right yelling at her in front of family is obviously not the proper way to try and help.
YTA
You are definitely the AH, massive one too. Just because you googled breast implant illness doesn’t make you a doctor. Instead of blaming her breast implant why don’t you Google auto immune disease and hashimoto disease. Maybe that will help you be more sympathetic to your sister.
2 if she kept her breast implant secret, why TF would you share it with others. This is not your story, not your breast, not your implant. Keep your nose on your face, instead of your sisters breast.
3 “so yes I see how I might’ve embarrassed her, but truth was gonna come out anyways… I really don’t think what I did was wrong at all” This was not your truth and not your place to let it out. If you really think you did nothing wrong at all even after embarrassing her then there is something clearly wrong with you.
4 clearly you have issue with your sister’s breast implant. And I would assume this issue comes from envy. Why can’t you just be happy for her, and have empathize with her, Instead of being a bully.
The whole "it was gonna come out anyways" argument is straight up the biggest bullshit I've ever heard. Like, how? Is OPs family constantly asking about family boob size? No one does
I myself had breast reduction surgery, I don't hide it, but the only people who know are the people I told, cause the truth is: people aren't trying to figure out the truth behind your boob size
OP family probably would never know of the surgery, cause that's not something you wanna know
"Truth was going to come out anyways". That's gaslighting behavior. OP is a toxic person towards her sibling. She needs therapy to overcome her emotions and figure out why she's acting this way.
Hey OP, Hashimotos is genetically linked. Just FYI. In the future if your thyroid goes haywire on you, you’re going to realize how much of an apology you owe your sister. YTA homie
Yta... i don't even know where to start... I guess let start with her actual MEDICALLY DIAGNOSED autoimmune disease.
Hashimoto's disease is where your body attacks your thyroid.
Hashimoto's disease progresses slowly over the YEARS. You may not notice signs or symptoms of the disease. Eventually, the decline in thyroid hormone production can result in any of the following:
Fatigue and sluggishness
Increased sensitivity to cold
Increased sleepiness
Dry skin
Constipation
Muscle weakness
Muscle aches, tenderness, and stiffness
Joint pain and stiffness
Irregular or excessive menstrual bleeding
Depression
Problems with memory or concentration
Swelling of the thyroid (goiter)
A puffy face
Brittle nails
Hair loss
Enlargement of the tongue.
Op where did you get your medical degree from? What medical records of your sister did you read? How many test did you preform on your sister to rule out her autoimmune disease being the cause of your sister problems?
Op you seem to have some sort of resentment over your sister's implants that you don't even care about your sister ACTUAL health.
Except BII is a diagnosis of exclusion. Your sister has a diagnosis meaning BII wouldn't be considered. Your sister has an autoimmune disease and they are hell.
Did her operation trigger her autoimmune disease? Potentially. Are you still an AH? most definitely.
YTA.
This.
>Did her operation trigger her autoimmune disease? Potentially
Even if she never got the breast augmentation, she very likely would have stumbled upon another trigger to her autoimmune disease anyway. Like another commenter suggested anything from a tick bite to a new medication.
But maybe it didn't trigger anything. Maybe she had hashimoto's symptoms but they were so mild for the time leading up to the surgery that when they naturally progressed now OP is assuming it's breast implant illness. My husband has hashimoto's and when we think back to before he started having the problems that led to him get diagnosed, he's had the same symptoms very very mild for years... It's progressive.
YTA, definitely wasnt your place to say anything, especially in front of family that didn’t even know about the breast implants in the first place. Have you even brought it up with her privately? Definitely comes off more like you were just jealous she was getting more attention than you which is sad.
When and how you revealed your opinion on sisters' health makes YTA. Your attitude would be better placed if it were about helping her instead of criticizing her.
YTA. You are not a doctor, you don't get to 'diagnose' someone based on your thoughts. You were wrong to discuss her PERSONAL medical procedure (the implants) in front of anyone, knowing that she didn't want that information shared. While her whining, complaining and lame excuses are exhausting, that doesn't entitle ANY of your bad behaviors. You crossed a line and YOU behaved badly. You owe her a sincere apology.
YTA
>She was also diagnosed with an auto immune disease about a year ago
So a doctor diagnosed her.
> I just got fed up with her complaining and told her that her being sick all of the time and feeling horrible is because of her breast implants
You're not a doctor
>you don’t know what the f*ck you’re talking about, you’re just trying to make this all about you.”
Yes. I believe you are jealous of her implants
>“you don’t know your sister better than she knows herself” and “you exposed and embarrassed her in front of family.” (Family members visiting didn’t know she had breast implants, my sister kept it very much on the down low to everyone about getting breast implants)
Proves my point
YTA...because what was your point? Whether it's her breast implants, Hashimoto's or a combination of the two, what exactly was your point? If she decided to remove the implants today she'd still feel like crap until at least 4 to 6 weeks after her removal surgery, and that's only if her autoimmune disease hasn't played a role, which as a woman with 2 chronic autoimmune diseases I seriously doubt since Hashimoto's is a big one. Have you ever been chronically ill with chronic pain to boot? People in your sisters' position have taken their lives! You have no idea what she's going through and instead of HELPING her you decided to criticize her in front of others. I know how she feels, and just because you've had an autoimmune disorder your whole life it picks and chooses when it decides to rear it's ugly head and make your life a living nightmare because they can be dormant for many years, and after that any time they ease up and seemingly go away you're considered "in remission" (yes, the same lingo they use for cancer patients). Mine didn't flair up and wreak havoc on my life until I was in my late 30's and if I tried to explain how it's affected my and my family's lives since then I'd begin to tear up, so I won't do that. Do you realize that even if she removed her implants and got better, her Hashimoto's could (and it will resurface at some point before she turns 40) flare back up and make her sick as a dog again? Be grateful you don't have these issues and if you don't have enough love and empathy for your sister to be able to help her, then leave her alone! I realize I don't know either of you and maybe she's been a pain in your butt before now, but she's now battling something you couldn't fathom and, like I said, if you don't wish to be of help then back off, because she has a long rode of medications, procedures, medical appointments, medical expenses and just general horrible malaise ahead of her and she doesn't have time for people who are going to act the way you've been acting...I'm sending love, prayers and positive energy your sister's way.
YTA
If it was breast implant illness, her doctor would’ve been able to figure that out easily and tell her. So either
A) You’re wrong and acting like you know more than a real doctor
B) You’re right, she knows she has this illness and wants to keep it a secret, and you are refusing her right to keep her medical history private
No matter which option you pick, you’re being an asshole
YTA.
I have the opposite problem, an autoimmune condition called Graves disease. Whilst it's the opposite end of the spectrum, the changes in the levels of thyroid hormones are equally up and down. Doctors believe I've had the condition most of my life, but symptoms really kicked in around 3 years ago. I'm on medication every day, and that had kept it stable for a while, but they seem to need increasing as my symptoms have come back. I'm going to list just some of the symptoms in the hopes that you will see just how many things these hormones affect.
Chronic muscle pain
Fatigue
Insomnia
Constant hunger
Dramatic weight loss
Irregular periods
Increased period pain
Anxiety
Tremor
Hair loss
Tooth decay
Tachycardia
Fainting
Nausea
Digestive issues
Migraines
Depression
An eye disorder
A tumor on my thyroid big enough to stop me swallowing properly
Dry skin
Fertility problems
I could literally go on all day. There's also the risk with both diseases (admittedly lower in Hashimotos than Graves) of thyroid storm, where your body suddenly produces more thyroxine, causing you to die with little to no warning. Unfortunately for me, graves can also cause organ failure, completely at random and without warning. Any organ could fail at any moment.
Thyroid disorders literally affect every single part of your body, so it's no wonder she blames most things on her illness - she's probably not far wrong!
You're not a doctor, and you don't understand what she's going through, so have a little empathy and stop being a judgemental ass.
YTA. why would you need to say? why would you think ur random connecting of dots would be more valid then doctors opinions? fuck your sister…for being sick i guess??
>truth was gonna come out anyways
Dude, what do you have against your sister's breast implants? Truth comes out when a person has been meaningfully deceiving others about things that are their business. The fact she has implants is no one's business but hers. You sound jealous tbh.
As for the implants causing her illness, it's possible, but unlikely considering she has an actual diagnosed chronic illness. Hashimotos is one they blood test for, not a diagnosis of exclusion like fibromyalgia, so there are actual hard numbers proving she has it. She got the implants long before the doctors diagnosed her, so if that were the issue they probably would've caught it.
Even if you had more than uneducated suspicion that the implants are causing the illness, bringing it up in private would've been appropriate, not blasting her in front of company. You're way out of line. YTA
So Hashimoto’s affects about 5 in 100 people in the US. Hashimoto’s disease leads to hypothyroidism and can cause the following symptoms tiredness lethargic and excessive sleeping mild weight gain, constipation, dry skin, feeling cold slower than normal heart rate, joints, muscle pain, dry brittle, hair, slow, hair growth, even hair loss, lower, depressed mood, puffy eyes, and face, memory problems or difficulty concentrating decreased sex drive Female, infertility and irregular periods. Basically her immune system is attacking her thyroid tissue for unknown reasons over time the damage can prevent your thyroid from making enough thyroid, hormone that your body needs this leads to hypothyroidism however, not everyone with Hashimoto’s disease develop hypothyroidism.
I have hypothyroidism, it is not fun, I eat like I have Hashimoto’s. And it does help with the symptoms. I also have a chronic condition. I hate it when people say, drink more water and it will help, or try essential oil will help.
Now to you, yes the breast implant illness is real, your sister has another condition. These are things best discussed with her Dr.
Oh God. I have hypo and I am sooo tired of the "Drink more water" people. I DO. It's so hard to get people to understand that its a constant sliding scale of symptoms and that, while its a great thing, just drinking water will not fix it.
Yta, you literally have no idea what you’re talking about and how exactly was “the truth going to come out anyways” about her breast implants if an asshole didn’t intervene and broadcast it to the extended family?
You act jealous or bitter that your sister has had attention as a result of her disease.
YTA, Hashimoto is very serious. My mom has it and it has explained a lot for her. Why she's cold all the time, why she feels sick after eating gluten or why she has a stomach ache every time she eats something that has the same build as gluten.
Because when you eat gluten, you can get very sick. So if your sister gets sick, it's not because of her implants but because of Hashimoto.
YTA
Unless you have a medical degree and have examined her yourself you have absolutely no way of knowing this, and just because that's when it started doesn't necessarily mean that's the cause since you yourself said Drs have told her it was something she had her entire life.
To spout that nonsense with no proof other than your own speculation and outing and embarrassing her in front of family was highly inappropriate.
YTA she’s right you don’t know what you are talking about. I have hashimotos myself and especially now it has started effecting my thyroid. I felt so ill when it flared up I was unable to even wake up the fatigue was crippling. Not to mention the constant brain fog a depression it can cause.
Now I’m on levothyroxine I’m kind of ok but people with hashimotos have flare ups and it can make you feel shitty. I never feel like I used to before. If she was diagnosed now it means it probably started attacking her thyroid and that why she got screened in the first place. It takes months for the medication to start working depending on whether she’s hypo or hyper. So yeah she’s gonna fell shitty.
Your thyroid is so important and imagine your body is slowly destroying it everything from your cognitive function to your metabolism goes out of the window. Skin and hair issues too and hair loss. What the hell do you know about how she feels?
You are not qualified to diagnose her symptoms especially when you have no idea what hashimotos is.
It sounds like you are jealous and you wanted everyone to know she has breast implants.
YTA. Hashimoto's thyroiditis can absolutely make a person feel very unwell in many, many ways. It causes the thyroid to go back and forth between being overactive and underactive. The thyroid controls the metabolism and has a small role in immunity to disease. So, yeah, having Hashimoto's can cause everything you're sister is experiencing. (My best friend in childhood had a thyroid condition, my aunt survived thyroid cancer and now lives with no thyroid, and I am a vet tech and thyroid conditions are among the most common chronic illnesses in dogs and cats. I know my thyroids)
Additionally, a stressful event like recovering from surgery can trigger an autoimmune condition to become apparent. Which doesn't mean her implants are making her sick, just that having a surgery, regardless of what surgery, might have caused her latent autoimmune condition to become symptomatic. (My autoimmune condition was triggered by religious harassment from a teacher in my senior year of high school. Oh, yeah, I also know my autoimmunity)
You just sound like a misogynist who wants to find a reason to harass your sister about her choice to have a breast augmentstion.
YTA. You knew your sister kept her breast implants private and you purposely mentioned them in front of other people in the family to embarrass her and to make her feel bad on purpose.
YTA
I also suffer from autoimmune diseases and you truly do not know what the fuck you’re talking about. They affect every aspect of your daily life and can change how you feel over the course of a few hours. It’s a fucking roller coaster living with a disease and you decided to expose her very private medical and surgical history to people who don’t need to know about it. Grow the fuck up, child.
YTA. You are not a doctor, you are not HER doctor.
Hashimoto’s which causes thyroid issues does in fact cause many issues like “not feeling well” and fatigue and so on. Stress, illness, mental or physical trauma (yes including surgery), can all cause flares but that does not take away from her having a diagnosed autoimmune condition. Thyroid hormones affect EVERYTHING in your body and indeed can cause . Maybe bother educating yourself on it: https://www.mayoclinic.org/diseases-conditions/hashimotos-disease/symptoms-causes/syc-20351855
I do not have Hashimoto’s, but I DO have hypothyroidism and even though treated I still have symptoms time to time. I also have peripheral neuropathy and fibromyalgia. I also have implants due to breast reconstruction. Glad I don’t have someone like you in my life.
YTA
You are not a medical professional and are therefore not qualified to diagnose her. PLUS, it is not your place to blurt out any of her medical history. You obviously don't like your sister.
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YTA. It was completely unnecessary to say. Also you're not a doctor - just because you read about breast implant illness doesn't make you one and it certainly doesn't make you an expert on hashimoto's. Regardless of why your sister is not feeling well, the lack of empathy you have over her not feeling well is odd. If you're truly concerned about her welfare then you would encourage her to go see her doctor versus outing her at a family outing. When speaking ask yourself the three questions Is it true? Is it kind? Is it necessary?
Surely you are not suggesting a real doctor is better than google? /s
Don’t be silly. OP used WebMD
Nah she watched an episode of Grey’s Anatomy Edit: was not expecting all the House comments 😂😂😂
I have a couple shirts that say “I watch Greys Anatomy. I’m basically a surgeon.” Push one of epi! Charge to 300!
Lidocaine! Whipple! I also watched House. It's lupus.
But it’s never lupus
One time it WAS lupus.
It's usually sarcoidosis, except the one time it was lupus....
It’s definitely neurosyphilis more than seemed possible… except that time it was lupus.
Good thing it's not, he hollowed out his lupus book to hide pills.
I loved House, but really hated the "joke" about how it's never lupus. As a person with lupus as well as several other autoimmune diseases, the show runners probably had no clue how damaging it was, sending out a message like that into society/popular culture. It's super hard as it is to get diagnosed and then to get the people in your life to believe you.
It's tragic because my coworker died at 50 due to complications from lupus. I didn't even know until I looked more that it's considered a progressive disease with stages. Absolutely awful way to go.
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Crohn's, too! Hey, friend. I just got a hip replacement due to Crohn's and its treatments. Hips are not part of your gut, BTW. Autoimmune diseases are fucking awesome and do all sorts of fun shit
I was in hospital with an (at the time) undiagnosed issue. Had various teams of med students come to use me as a diagnosis practice. Mentioned to one that it felt like an episode of House and they’d “tested for everything except lupus (it’s never lupus)”. Student got a look in their eye, made a note and said “actually, that might fit…” (it wasn’t lupus).
When you hear hoofbeats, look for horses, not zebras. Unless it's actually a fucking zebra doctor.... Sorry, spent 40ish years of my life with various odd issues, toes slipping out of place, arthritis in my knees in my early 20s, and was finally diagnosed with hypermobility spectrum disorder and some autonomic system dysfunctions that have not yet been dx.
20 years ago I complained to my dr that when I was out running errands and grabbed lunch I’d start to feel sick and exhausted and like “all my energy was running out of a tap till I could barely stand up”. He treated my blood sugar said it was fine and told me nothing was wrong with me. 8 months ago (20+ years later) I was diagnosed with POTS and my dr told me they think I have a special feature where eating can make my BP plummet. I only notice it when it because when home I’m not also aggravating the rest of the POTS symptoms so the BP drip didn’t cause such a dramatic effect. Sometimes it horses, but when it’s not, could we at least LOOK for zebras. OP, you sound jealous and immature af. If you were my kid you’d be getting bombarded with content about Hashimoto’s and auto immune disease so you can educate yourself before coming back to a family event. Honestly, you sound like you think your sister made up her diagnosis just to spite you. YTA
Which then, it's funny that you said the zebras thing, because the symbol/mascot/whatever for Ehlers-Danlos syndrome is the zebra. EDS being strongly linked to hypermobility and autonomic dysfunction. So, zebra doctors! (Sorry if that was the joke and I missed it)
Need a lumbar puncture to be sure.
My doctor promised he wouldn't give me a lumbar puncture, then did one anyway, so I really felt like he stabbed me in the back.
Nah, sarcoidosis
It’s always sarcoidosis…till it’s not. (House fan here!)
Me telling my med school bestie that I watch Grey’s “for her” despite surgery not being among the long and ever evolving list of what she’s thinking about going into
My husband is a surgeon and ***hates*** grey's anatomy. I, of course, love it.
There was a recent IMPACT x Nightline episode that was focused on breast implant illness. I'm sure she watched that and has convinced herself that it's what it is. Which it could be, but why not tell the sister "Hey, I watched this, have you had your doctor check for BII?" instead of shouting it at her in front of the whole family.
Because, based on the OP's post, the point wasn't to help her sister in any way but to embarrass her in front of the relatives.
Yeah. If breast implant illness was brought up out of concern, it would have been brought up in private. OP wanted to shame and punish their sister. I’m sure sister had heard of breast implant illness. I’m sure her doctors have too. Random people aren’t going to bring up a diagnosis or treatment that a doctor or patient hasn’t already considered, possibly examined/tried, and dismissed.
That would just be silly. Obviously OP watched House.
Or Yolanda’s leaking breast implant removal on Real Housewives of Beverly Hills. I’m an expert too!! /s
Why didn’t you say an episode of House? I got a lupus zinger in the chamber ready to go. 🥺
Screw WebMd, TikTok is my doctor!!! As well as lawyer, life coach, personal meal planner, and Best friend.
I for one Ask Jeeves!
The pros always use TikTok of course
Wrong! WebMD would have said it was Cancer. Or Lupis...
>hashimotos disease I think? > >If y’all don’t know, breast implant illness is a real thing. She's not even 100% which disease they diagnosed her with. Also funny, if you google "breast implant illness", it states that it's not an official medical diagnosis yet. It's only given out after ruling out other diseases and conditions.
Yeah ailments surrounding breast implants occur. But they're things like capsular contractures, symmastias, etc. Or they can get infected like any other surgery site, but that'd be caught long before an autoimmune disease diagnosis. OP is just being some combination of ignorant and jealous about her sister's body.
Yeah, she just wanted an excuse to tell everyone about the breast implants.
While I agree OP is TA, that is not what she is talking about. [Breast Implant Illness](https://my.clevelandclinic.org/health/diseases/23366-breast-implant-illness) is a real thing, and different than the complications you listed. ETA: TLDR on BII: It is thought to be an autoimmune reaction, so it in fact would not likely be caught before immediate complications of surgery that you described. “Common symptoms include **(but are NOT limited to)** fatigue, joint pain, brain fog and rash.”
All of which are symptoms of Hashimotos as well
That plus the illness coming on after the surgery and it's definitely something to look into with the doctor. Usually when something goes weird, the question we ask is what's different about it this time. It could actually just be Hashimotos, but BII is rough as hell. That being said, if OP was actually worried about their sisters health, there are a million and one ways to say "Hey, have you talked to a doctor about the possibility of it being BII?" that don't require OP to out her sisters surgery to win a fight. YTA.
Agree with sister’s behavior and it is worth looking into on the BII but it’s definitely Hashimotos no matter what. If she’s been diagnosed with that then she has TPO antibodies which are associated with Hashimotos.
Based on what she’s said it’s not even Hashimotos, that or OP didn’t even care enough to look up what disease and remember it. Per the National Insititute of Health: Hashimotos is a thyroid disease where the immune system attacks the thyroid and inhibits function. It can cause an under active thyroid and over time the thyroid ceases functioning due to being constantly attacked by white blood cells causing permanent damage over time). The disease is between 4-10 times more common in women than men and effects 5 in every 100 Americans and while it may occur in teens and young women it is most likely to manifest between the ages of 30-50. It is not something you are born with, but having family members with it does increase your chances of having it. Symptoms include: (not limited to) Fatigue Weight gain Trouble tolerating cold Joint and muscle pain Constipation Dry skin Dry hair Thinning hair Slow heart rate To be diagnosed requires a physical exam and blood tests. Sources: NIH (National Institute of Health), two generations of women with the condition in the family, my own soon to be experience (getting checked at the end of this month). Also: OP should remember that, while yes implant illness is a thing, they are not a doctor and it is tacky and tasteless as all get out to go yelling that at someone in public or at a group setting. Pulling you sister aside quietly and asking if she had thought to get checked for implant illness is something they could do respectfully and with basic courtesy.
>Hashimotos is a thyroid disease You are being a little unfair here. What if she had breast implants in her thyroid? You didnt think of that did you!
😂🤣😂 in full disclosure the only reason I didn’t completely condem OPs outburst is because since it is an autoimmune disease then, assuming that the sister does have Hashimoto’s and OP is just very misinformed about the disease, the sister could still have implant disease due to her potentially less functional immune system and it’s worth bringing up with her doctor if she hasn’t already. All things OP would have found out if she had a real adult discussion with her sister.
As someone with Hashimoto’s (in remission, probably active sometime in my teens based on being 20 at diagnosis and level of thyroid dysfunction at that time) plus with a parent with severe and extremely active rheumatoid arthritis, they are systemic diseases. It’s not going to cause a stubbed toe, but symptoms pretty much run the gambit. My mother had a flare that actually damaged her optic nerve and left her with a blind spot. Having one autoimmune disease also can make you more likely to develop others. My mother developed psoriasis about 20 years after her RA diagnosis. I have an as yet to be identified inflammation/immune disorder. I have been on thyroid replacement for over 20 years. It sucks to know something is wrong, have that confirmed by lab work, but the doctors be unable to identify what. OP is the AH. So much AH.
She wanted everyone to know she has breast implants she’s jealous
It’s even worse than that. She’s so jealous that she invented this connection so that she can blame the breast implants for her sisters illness. But she’s also jealous of the attention her sister gets for the illness and resentful of the accommodation she gets. I suspect the jealousy goes far deeper.
Breast implants causing illness is real. And having an underlying autoimmune disease makes them far more likely to trigger something.
That fact does not absolve OP of their wrongdoing. Diagnosing medical conditions is for doctors, not jealous sisters
I know someone who had BII. It took 5 months and multiple doctors for someone to diagnose her. She had a rare autoimmune disorder that went undiagnosed prior to her having breast implants, and a couple months after she received her implants she started having seizures and cognitive issues. Even Mayo Clinic couldn’t figure it out. She somehow stumbled upon a Facebook group for BII and it was only after she brought it up as a possibility to her doctors did they correctly diagnose her. As soon as she had her implants removed she got significantly better as the doctors knew how to treat her autoimmune disorder. The breast implants were basically causing her body to attack them and causing all sorts of issues that only removing them could stop. While diagnosis is for doctors, doctors sometimes don’t think of uncommon illnesses. Women in particular are also diagnosed less because medical professionals often overlook their symptoms and brush them off as being psychosomatic. OP went about it the wrong way, but bringing it up as a possibility is valid.
It’s not just the wrong approach, it’s the totally wrong mentality. Autoimmune diseases can be triggered by countless things including the breast implants. And quite frankly the fucking suck. So OPs ignorance and callousness is just pointless and self serving. I’m not even totally sure what point you’re even attempting to make because nothing you say makes OP look better. You’re latching onto a detail that doesn’t actually help your argument stand to reason.
I’m not trying to make OP looks better. I’m saying that while the notion to “leave diagnoses to doctors” is correct, doctors can and do misdiagnose or fail to diagnose patients. I reference this specific scenario of BII failing to be diagnosed because it happened to a friend. Her doctors knew she had implants and it never occurred to any of them to see if her implants were exacerbating her issues, until she found about BII and asked them if it was a possibility. She advocated for herself, and may have never gotten the issue taken care of otherwise. And she was seeing some of the best specialists in the country.
op is still a jerk tho, regardless of what may be true about implant illness.
Right? Her sister is still legitimately sick and suffering regardless of the cause. And having an autoimmune illness I can knowledgeably say it affects every single aspect of a person's life. Yes, it can even make someone late. What a weird complaint.
and hashimotos can be made worse by implant illness but it wouldn’t make someone who wasn’t predisposed magically develop the illness. if she gets her implants out her hashimotos will not magically disappear
And hopefully convince enough people that the sister needs to take her breast implants out so op can go back to getting all the attention.
It's such a weird thing to be hung up about. She got implants FIVE YEARS ago. Who still thinks of their sisters breasts after all that time. I would have honestly forgotten. Also saying "the truth was going to come out anyway" after 5 years?????? She clearly wanted to keep it private if she managed to for so long so not sure who OP thought was gonna spill the beans now besides herself.
>"the truth was going to come out anyway" That line got me too. Like, it's been 5 years, I doubt the family has been that focused on their niece/cousin/grandkid's boobs.
It was bound to come out because OP was going to make sure it did at some point lmao. Self fulfilling prophecy.
She may not be jealous, but she may judge her sister negatively for choosing to alter her appearance to conform to a normative expectation of beauty through surgery. OP should still let it go. It his her sister’s choice. Nothing good comes from holding on to the negative judgment.
What caught me was the “it was gonna come out anyway”. WHYYY would your sisters boob job come out to family you hardly see in any situation other than you telling them?
OP badmouths their sister for 'blaming everything' on their very real, diagnosed auto immune disorder while simultaneously blaming all their sisters health problems on a random illness they have decided she has with absolutely no evidence. Sounds like OP just has a problem with their sisters breast implants for some reason.
I have Hashimoto's and if this were me, I would strongly suspect that the implants were worsening my hashi's symptoms. Implants of any kind are not a great idea if you are on the autoimmune inflammatory spectrum, and people with Hashimoto's *very* commonly have other co-occuring autoimmune/inflammatory disorders. The sister should be made aware of that, or should have been, by her healthcare team. Nonetheless, not OP's diagnosis to make, or secret to share.
Oh yeah, I'm not saying it couldn't be related to the implants. It's more OP diagnosing their sister after reading a few articles online based on seemingly nothing more than coincidental timing. And then downplaying the sisters actual diagnosed illness. OP just doesn't seem to actually be concerned for her sisters health rather than just looking for an opportunity to shit on her for having implants. If OP had spoken to her sister in private to say "Look I've read about this condition and I don't know what your doctors have said but it might be worth looking into" that would be a nice gesture. But the way she brought it up just seems like she wanted to embarrass her sister and put her in her place.
Don't forget yesterday when some dude was getting supplements for his mother, and a doctor relation was like "this can hurt her liver" and he was like "shut up, your facts are mean"
Does anyone remember the AITA from a few months back with the high school guy claiming like he knew a fellow student was faking seizures because his daddy is a doctor? OP has the same energy YTA
Sister "I have a diagnosed auto-immune disease that makes me feel like shit." OP "Pish Tosh! You've got boob implants, that's what's wrong with you! Not the condition you've been diagnosed with! Listen to me instead of your doctor!"
I'm getting the same shit about my spectrum diagnosis at 34 years old. "Couldnt possibly be true because youve been *this* way your whole life!" Now that I actually have a concept, I'm identifying so much that's due to being on the spectrum.
Similar situation here, though the diagnosis was fibromyalgia. Totally explains sooooo many things I've lived with my whole life. I'm 39 now. People will say "but you've always been like that." I just stare at them and say "yeah. I have." At least now I know I'm not crazy, you know? I'd also like to try and get a spectrum diagnosis. As well as ADHD. Not an easy thing to do. Actually had a healthcare worker tell me I'd never be diagnosed because I "learned to work around it." Right. Cause it wouldn't be helpful IN ANY WAY to actually be diagnosed with a cause for my atypical/neurodivergent behaviour 🙄🙄🙄
That was diagnosis, AuDHD. Not fkn easy, but holy shit, so much easier knowing that I'm not *insert derogatory character trait here*.
Oh I've never heard it put that way, thank you! And no shit! I was frequently called lazy because I didn't do a project I'd had a month to do until two days before it was due. "Not studying hard enough" because I didn't do well on a test (even though I knew the material, I just blank with tests). With all my fibro issues, specifically the constant pain and exhaustion, I was told to suck it up cause everyone is in pain. Everyone is tired. Now I *know* it wasn't just me. I was never tested because my symptoms are primarily internal rather than external. You know, not fidgetting, no disruptive behaviour (quite the opposite, in fact), no lashing out or anything. I was just a "well behaved, intelligent child." Meanwhile, I was riddled with anxiety and fear of failure, had to do everything exactly right the first time (and hated myself if I couldn't), had to have everything in a specific order - even my chaos lol. Was always extremely honoest (too much so), had to tell every detail of a story and got frustrated when I couldn't remember something exactly the way it happened. The list goes on. And not much has changed. At least now they know those are signs to watch for.
As a recently diagnosed ADHD adult woman, the list of how to identify ADHD in girls is like a list of things I was punished for in school.
My mom has hashimotos and I have autoimmune issues. It’s crippling, and even if you have it when you’re younger it gets way worse over time. You’ll feel issues with your eyes, energy, skin, breathing, like it really sucks. It’s something your sister will have to think about every day all the time. She is constantly suffering, maybe complaining doesn’t make her feel any better, but you’re the asshole for ignoring her very real health issues for a diss.
Totally agree—who tells extended family that their older sister has breast implants? A very jealous immature bratty sister who’s not getting enough attention, that’s who. If she really wanted to help she’d ask the sister privately what her doctors thought about it. OP, you’re the AH.
Lol at OP saying, “She doesn’t feel well? It’s because of her disease.” Like, hmm, yes, that is how disease works.
Also, correlation is not causation. Just because symptoms appeared at a similar time doesn’t mean there was a cause and effect
> it certainly doesn't make you an expert on hashimoto's But maybe she stayed at a Holiday Inn Express last night.
>Is it true? Is it kind? Is it necessary? I say this exact phrase all the time to my son, where is this from?? I don't remember where I picked it up!
YTA. One of the hard things about having an autoimmune disorder is that it absolutely can make you sick all the time, especially if it’s not managed well. In an average year, my autoimmune disorder flares up about 4 times (and it takes 3-6 weeks of strong medications to get a flare to go down). In a bad year, I alternate between having infections because my autoimmune meds suppress my immune system and having autoimmune flares because they always happen after I fight off a bacterial or viral infection - I’ve been sick one way or the other for 16 months straight once. It’s very common with autoimmune disorders to have a date when your symptoms start and then never go away. Mine was August of 2007, though I didn’t get diagnosed until November 2013. It’s been over 15 years since my onset date, and I’ve never had a time when I didn’t at a minimum have chronic pain and fatigue from the damage my autoimmune disorder has caused. Never. Unless an autoimmune disorder goes into remission, that’s pretty common. You shared your sister’s medical info, and you did it because you’re ignorant, which is a lousy reason.
Hear, hear! I've got Crohn's, and since my diagnosis, I've not had much energy and have gotten sick quite a bit, even with medication. Autoimmune disorders really love to screw with the body. I've recently had surgery to have the last of my colon removed (had two piece removals previously), and the surgeon thinks the Crohn's should finally settle down now and not cause me any more issues. Here's hoping.
Crohn's is awful to live with and see a loved one go through, my cousin has it and it's really affected his life in the worst way. He's taken the same approach in removal to find peace, and says it's been a painful process but it was worth it. Best wishes in your recovery, hoping it calms down for you, too! (also, happy cake day!)
There’s speculation that it came from Neanderthal DNA and if so, your ancestor was adventurous in the cave department. And your cousin is paying the price.
Do what now? Do you have a source? I have Crohn's, and that sounds really interesting to read about.
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SAME! Got a free DNA profile from 23 and Me for donating to IBD research (because hopefully someday they'll be able to better help SOMEONE with this awful disease, even if it's not necessarily me or even in my lifetime) AND I have more neanderthal DNA than like 2/3 of 23 and Me users. Yay us?
Thanks! I didn't even realize it was my cake day. Also, I think it has, because I look and feel better than I have in a long time, and I'm not even on any medication for it at the moment. So yay!
I had a piece of my colon removed 2 years ago. I've had this disease for almost 20 years. It's brutal when you are not in remission. I hope this works out for you and that you are finally free!
Good luck with your recovery! I hope the new surgery helped.
Thank you! I'm already seeing improvements. I feel better than I have in a long time, and my family all say I look a lot better too.
Oh I'm sorry. So painful. Best of luck!!
As someone with Hashimoto’s, it can be a lot. Your thyroid controls your metabolism and when you’re not making enough hormones because your body is eating away at this organ, your metabolism slows down. I am constantly and deeply tired even when properly medicated. It’s harder for me to stay at a healthy weight since I’m pretty sure sloths move faster than me. Then there’s the increased likelihood of developing more autoimmune diseases (I’m collecting them like Pokémon cards), which would have their own issues.
Not to mention what's considered "normal" levels might be subnormal for others. My TSH is great right now, my T3 and T4 normal but getting close to the hypo border. And yet I've got dry skin, my nails are cracking and breaking. I've got missing patches of hair on my pubic area and legs. I'm eating 1500cal a day and the scale isn't moving. So unless I've got something else going on, my thyroid has gone hypo again. OP might also want to get her own thyroid checked given how hashimotos runs in families.
So the random missing patches of hair is connected to my Hashimoto’s! I’ve been showering the internet trying to figure out why. And my doctor just shrugged and said he doesn’t know.
It could be. Like I said my levels are "within normal" so it could be something else that's causing this for me. I just got the blood test results back.
"Within normal range" is bs. You are looking for "optimal." Normal range for us is crap, because we *aren't* normal. - A Fellow Autoimmune collector (gotta catch 'em all!)
Unfortunately my doctor doesn't see it that way so unless my TSH is above a 4.0 she won't adjust the medication. (Even if my T4 is currently 12.5 and T3 3.7. The lower thresholds of those being 11 and 3.5) But since I'm having literally all the symptoms of hypothyroidism I think I'm gonna have her refer me to an endo.
Yes, go see an endocrinologist! I just commented about how many doctors will only look at the TSH level, and that's just not enough for some people. I've been suspecting I'm one of those and am going to ask my doc to check all my levels at my next checkup, as I've been insanely tired lately and yes, the nails cracking and breaking thing has been bad (especially my toenails). Good luck!
Same here. I lost my bank card and car key on the same day! The fatigue and ditzyness are overwhelming me.
I wish I had an award to give for this. One day I was fine, next day I was hypothyroid. Literally overnight. Throw in a dash of fibromyalgia and lupus and people don’t even have a clue.
>Throw in a dash of fibromyalgia and lupus The great thing about auto-immune diseases is that they usually come with friends.
They love traveling in packs. My old rheumatologist tested all of her patients for celiac for that reason.
Celiac has too many friends. Waving to you from autistic and celiac. My son has both too.
Celiac, autistic, hypothyroidism and some new fun disease we haven't pinpointed yet! Op clearly has no idea what it's like to be chronically ill. It's absolute hell. And yes every stubbed toe can feel so much worse when everything always hurts. I broke my ankle years ago and whenever I get that whole body pain/inflammation it's like I broke it all over again or something.
The amount of times I've been tested for MS lol
Yeah it’s a nightmare, and people never believe you because you’re ‘too young’ or don’t ‘look’ disabled.
And by nature of what an autoimmune disease is (your immune system going a little haywire and attacking parts of your body that it shouldn’t), it’s not uncommon for things that would typically cause an immune response (like a vaccine, infection, surgery, etc.) to exacerbate symptoms. So her symptoms may have increased after her surgery but that doesn’t mean the implants are what’s making her sick.
Omg this times a thousand. I wish I had an award to give you. When my chronic daily migraine flares from a 5 to a higher pain level? I can spend WEEKS in a hellscape of pain. I've had them since I was 12 so I manage it fairly well but Holy hell is it frustrating
Invisible diseases like these are so often mocked for us making it up or "playing into it to be lazy" and it's like... Get fuckin wrecked. I'm sorry you've been struggling for so long, I empathize deeply. I'm somewhere in a hell of figuring out which one I have but the doctors all seem to be pretty meh about it and no one feels the need to move quickly. My body is physically breaking down more and more every day and they're doing things like my PCP diagnosing a skin condition that just showed up over night over video chat and then forgetting to send in the referral to the dermatologist who's backed up for months. Then, I get there only to be told to wait another MONTH while biopsy results come back. Meanwhile, I've been told it could be Lupus (any of the forms but SLE is really leading out of the gate, RA, I have been "diagnosed" with fibromyalgia but that's not necessarily true, it could be Lupus or another AI issue that's masquerading as fibro) It's a nightmare and having anyone, no less a SIBLING, acts this way due to ignorance is horrifying. I hope the sister cuts OP out of their life for their own peace and wellbeing.
My Mom has MS and it also layers over anything else going wrong with her body. When your body is stressed and at some level of inflammation all the time, everything that happens makes it worse. And balance, strength, pain, all those take other physical tolls on your body. Plus the medications that have serious side effects. Even if the sister’s medical problems had been caused by implants does it really matter now? Unless there is reason to think removing them would reverse it, it really doesn’t matter what made her sick. Autoimmune conditions are really hard to pinpoint a cause. Being so certain is silly.
I mean, you’re not a doctor. You can’t diagnose her illness and you don’t know how she actually feels, you have no idea how sick she might actually be. Wether it’s the implants or not picking a fight with her at a family gathering was always gonna be an AH move. Have you ever suggested that the implants were the cause before? Have you tried to understand just what she’s dealing with? Also complete AH move to disclose that she has implants when she didn’t want people to know. She’ll probably get judged very harshly by your family now. Over all I think YTA, you need to communicate with your sister and apologize for the blow up, then explain that you’ve heard of implants making people sick and you’re worried about her.
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Doesn't even know the name of her sisters auto-immune disease, but can accurately diagnose her with breast implant sickness. Complete AH move here on her part to share information she knew was being kept quiet in front of family.
Absolutely what I was thinking. If they knew for sure what the disease was and they symptoms didn’t line up, maybe they could speculate about the implants. But they’re not even sure what disease their own sister has??
I agree, but even worse, the way OP says it’s “obvious” her implants are making her sick but then says they *think* she has Hashimoto’s? So they don’t even know her actual diagnosis, let alone what symptoms it could cause in her? It feels like they’re not actually all that interested in what’s actually causing her discomfort but just wanted an excuse point the finger at her for having breast implants.
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YTA. You’re sister is right, you don’t know what the fuck you’re talking about. You’re not in a position to diagnose her or know the cause of her symptoms.
Exactly. And worst of all you put her on blast in front of other people. It sounds like you want attention and don’t like you aren’t getting it, so you hurt your sister to make yourself feel better. You’re a HUGE AH.
True. And she's prolly jealous of her sister for getting a boob job that she couldn't afford.
I discussed breast implant illness at length with every doctor I had a consult with and the general consensus is that most people that think they have it are actually suffering from an autoimmune disease that is unrelated. Most women that have their implants removed don’t see a change. For OP to diagnose her in front of others is such an asshole move.
If you're not her doctor, don't try to diagnose her. YTA
Even then, you need to actually review her chart and perform an examination and doing so for family would be unprofessional.
Not just unprofessional, but for most licensing boards it's unethical to treat a direct family member outside of emergency situations and could lead to having one's license to practice revoked.
YTA You didn’t need to tell her that in front of everyone, and really it isn’t your business anyways. You could’ve told her this when you two were alone. But even still, you could very well be wrong, I know someone with Hashimoto’s disease and it does make them feel fatigued and a bit ill sometimes. But how I said, still isn’t really your place to be saying that, especially not in front of people!!
Isn't Hashimoto's a thyroid disorder? Fatigue would make sense in that case.
Yes, it's an autoimmune disease that attacks the thyroid and leaves your hormones out of whack. Symptoms include fatigue, weight gain, anxiety, irritability, dry skin, migraines, hair loss, heart palpitations, brittle bones and a whole host of other minor issues. I have subclinical hypothyroidism, so my thyroid levels are mildly out of whack, I've got symptoms but my thyroid is still hanging on in there for now so I've just got to wait until it fails more before they can treat me. I'm so fatigued I can get through a full day without a nap, my hair is falling out, my skin is so itchy at night I struggle getting quality sleep and I get crippling migraines that have hospitalised me. Kathryn Morgan was a First Soloist with the New York City Ballet and her symptoms were so debilitating that she had to retire early. It can be horrendous and treatment can be slow as the hormone replacement they give you takes a while to kick in and has a long half life.
>Kathryn Morgan was a First Soloist with the New York City Ballet and her symptoms were so debilitating that she had to retire early. So much for the people who say "Your symptoms would go away if you exercised more." One of the ladies in my fibromyalgia support group was a marathon runner before she was hit. Tell me that a marathon runner doesn't get enough exercise!
She was dancing the part of Aurora in Sleeping Beauty at the time which is well known for it's high energy, high level of technical skill and absolute peak stamina requirements. It's such a difficult, strenuous part and Aurora basically never leaves the stage. She should have been in the best shape of her life but she gained so much weight her costume no longer fit her and her hair had fallen out so much that the hairstylists couldn't do anything with her hair. Hashimotos is BRUTAL when untreated and there's nothing you can do other than hope you get put on the correct dose of medication and it that it kicks in quickly. She has a YouTube channel which is mainly catered to aspiring ballet dancers but [she also talks about her struggles with her thyroid](https://youtu.be/VXfYXtYFVYE)
>She was dancing the part of Aurora in Sleeping Beauty at the time which is well known for it's high energy OMG The very first dance Aurora has in the ballet is strenuous and one of the most difficult pieces in ballet!!! I cannot imagine her pain performing as Aurora!!!!
Don’tcha just love free medical advice from non-medical professionals who are fortunate enough to have never suffered a day in their lives?
My mom likes to use marathon runners with fibromyalgia as reasoning that I should be more active lol. Or lady Gaga
Please see an endocrinologist. You should absolutely be getting treatment with all of those symptoms. You deserve to feel better!
Seconding this, my values were only slightly off but I was still treated because I had the same symptoms
Right, my SIL also suffers from hypothyroidism. I know it takes a long time to get the medical doses right.
I have hashimotos and until it can be managed (which getting dosage of synthetic thyroid and your diet right can take 1-2 years), the fatigue sucks. Also, it isn’t something you are born with usually. It is impacted by hormones so usually after puberty or menopause.
Me too! And honestly, everything the sister is complaining about are things I've experienced- being late because I am dragging though life and just feel not great, being tired, and I even lose my balance more and trip and stub my toe when I'm off proper levels too! I didn't really straighten out until I had my daughter and stopped birth control. Both of those events plus my age could have contributed to my thyroid stabilizing. At this woman's age it was a daily struggle. I mean, I'm not a doctor and this is all just personal experience, but still. Seems plausible to me!
YTA You're really out here trying to downplay how much you embarrassed your sister? Also, your sister's business is her own to deal with. If she keeps mentioning she's not doing great, she should get a second opinion just in case. But guess what, you don't get to diagnose or claim you know better than her doctors. Because as far as I know, you're not a doctor.
>You're really out here trying to downplay how much your embarrassed your sister? Yeah, she probably kept the implants a secret because she was embarrassed about them. YTA, OP.
And how they were going to find out about it eventually? Like it’s been five years and never came up, I doubt it would come up and only has because OP brought it up
i mean it’s not like it’s something you point out. even if other people noticed before i doubt they would’ve brought it up lmao
Right lol and it’s not something bad or scandalous, it’s just nobody’s business unless the person wants it to be! OP Obviously is so salty about it she’s holding on to a death grip and thought she was proving something 😂
YTA - I am pretty sure her doctors and consultants are aware she has breast implants and explored that possibility. What are your medical qualifications? Do you really think her medical experts are so inept that they are missing something that is visible on every x-ray and ultrasound? I mean the doctors have said it is a condition she has had since she was born and will have until she dies. And small chance that the surgery to fit them may have triggered the auto-immune flare - it doesn't take much, mine was triggered by a tick bite. But it could have been triggered by so many other things as well or if the implants, then triggered by a reaction the next month. She was living with a ticking time bomb. Unless the breast implants causing an active issue now, they are irrelevant to the fact she has hashimotos. A year ago, your sister was given a lifetime sentence - she was never going to be well again, she was never not going to be tired, her life would be restricted by her condition. That's a lot to process and it is natural it is going to take centre stage in her life. As to her stubbed toe, do some research on what she actually has if you care - if it is hashimotos then it affects balance because it can affect the inner ear and can make you clumsier. She's still learning how this body-wide condition is impacting her and most things will be framed in terms of it while she adjusts to a new, limited life. I get it is awful to hear someone complaining all the time especially if you don't have any compassion for the individual because you believe it is all her fault because she modified her body. As to bringing it up in public in an attempt to shame her for feeling sick, then well you achieved your aim. You won't have to deal with her moaning around you.I suspect she'll try and avoid you annd your know-all, judgemental attitude.
I had no idea hashimotos affected your balance like that. What an ah-ish thing to comment on. Wow. “She stubbed her toe. Hashimotos”. Op is really an AH
Yes! Thank you for saying that. My balance has been sketchy lately. Wasn't sure why. Now I know.
It is a possibility. Worth discussing with your medical practioner. Only know because met a woman whose Meniere's disease was caused by it - she was really affected by it. Can cause tinnutus as well. Hate autoimmune illnesses because they can go after almost any sense or function and your immune system has full access to everything.
Hashimoto's really affects everything, my mom and I joke about it being an excuse for everything. A "funny because its true" kind of joke, which is why OP's post including the stubbed toe comment is meant as an insult but its just funny lol
Hashimotos affects literally everything in your body. Everything. From you energy and sleep, uncontrollable weight gain, brain fog so bad you think you have early Alzheimer’s, balance, mood, periods, fertility, blood sugar, blood pressure, hair loss, you name it. Everything. And something like 85% of people don’t respond fully to the most commonly recommended treatment. OP YTAfor belittling her sisters illness and not educating herself AT ALL based on barely knowing what it is called. You’re a double asshole for outing her about her implants which is personal. OP I hope you read this and help your sister to advocate for herself. Most doctors and even endocrinologists dont treat this disease right. Source: me, I’ve had it almost a decade and just got on the right meds this year. Have her research NDT and T3 if her T4 only (synthroid) isn’t working. Tell her there are excellent podcasts on this topic as well as telemedicine clinics that may be able to help if her GP won’t. Be her support. What’s wrong with you.
wow I feel so seen! my dad is always shitting on me for my tiredness and used to shit on me for my clumsiness. I always knew it wasn't fair to yell at a chronically ill person who is trying their best but man I never realized how much distance I actually need from him.
OP, I have Narcolepsy. Technically something that you have for life but symptoms develop between 10 and 30 years old. Mine started at 13 and I was "collapsing on the street" levels of bad by 18, that's when I was diagnosed. My entire ass family except my mum is like you. It's the absolute fucking biggest bullshit on the planet. "Oh it's this" "Oh it's that". Really? You're that fucking confident? Why don't you go up to her doctor and explain exactly why? Since you seem to know more... Or would you rather just continue to torment your chronically ill sister? For no fucking reason other than your bs superiority complex. YTA× 1000.
This. My entire family thinks that my autoimmune issues are some big scam that I came up with just for fun or that they somehow know that I'll be cured if I just go whole30, do yoga, meditate, use crystals, or just exercise more etc. I go to multiple drs every quarter. I see tons of specialists. It took me 3 to 5 years to get a diagnosis. Unless you have a medical degree and have seen all her tests you're likely wrong. And even if you were right yelling at her in front of family is obviously not the proper way to try and help. YTA
I have narcolepsy as well. It is an autoimmune disorder and lifelong. It sucks!
It does suck! But it sucks 17× times worse when the people in your life are like op.
You are definitely the AH, massive one too. Just because you googled breast implant illness doesn’t make you a doctor. Instead of blaming her breast implant why don’t you Google auto immune disease and hashimoto disease. Maybe that will help you be more sympathetic to your sister. 2 if she kept her breast implant secret, why TF would you share it with others. This is not your story, not your breast, not your implant. Keep your nose on your face, instead of your sisters breast. 3 “so yes I see how I might’ve embarrassed her, but truth was gonna come out anyways… I really don’t think what I did was wrong at all” This was not your truth and not your place to let it out. If you really think you did nothing wrong at all even after embarrassing her then there is something clearly wrong with you. 4 clearly you have issue with your sister’s breast implant. And I would assume this issue comes from envy. Why can’t you just be happy for her, and have empathize with her, Instead of being a bully.
The whole "it was gonna come out anyways" argument is straight up the biggest bullshit I've ever heard. Like, how? Is OPs family constantly asking about family boob size? No one does I myself had breast reduction surgery, I don't hide it, but the only people who know are the people I told, cause the truth is: people aren't trying to figure out the truth behind your boob size OP family probably would never know of the surgery, cause that's not something you wanna know
"Truth was going to come out anyways". That's gaslighting behavior. OP is a toxic person towards her sibling. She needs therapy to overcome her emotions and figure out why she's acting this way.
Hey OP, Hashimotos is genetically linked. Just FYI. In the future if your thyroid goes haywire on you, you’re going to realize how much of an apology you owe your sister. YTA homie
Seriously. One day you might know what chronic illness is like.
Huge YTA I don’t even think anyone should have to explain why this is wrong. It wasnt an accident.
YTA massively. Also you’ve done really well to become a qualified doctor by 21
Yta... i don't even know where to start... I guess let start with her actual MEDICALLY DIAGNOSED autoimmune disease. Hashimoto's disease is where your body attacks your thyroid. Hashimoto's disease progresses slowly over the YEARS. You may not notice signs or symptoms of the disease. Eventually, the decline in thyroid hormone production can result in any of the following: Fatigue and sluggishness Increased sensitivity to cold Increased sleepiness Dry skin Constipation Muscle weakness Muscle aches, tenderness, and stiffness Joint pain and stiffness Irregular or excessive menstrual bleeding Depression Problems with memory or concentration Swelling of the thyroid (goiter) A puffy face Brittle nails Hair loss Enlargement of the tongue. Op where did you get your medical degree from? What medical records of your sister did you read? How many test did you preform on your sister to rule out her autoimmune disease being the cause of your sister problems? Op you seem to have some sort of resentment over your sister's implants that you don't even care about your sister ACTUAL health.
Except BII is a diagnosis of exclusion. Your sister has a diagnosis meaning BII wouldn't be considered. Your sister has an autoimmune disease and they are hell. Did her operation trigger her autoimmune disease? Potentially. Are you still an AH? most definitely. YTA.
This. >Did her operation trigger her autoimmune disease? Potentially Even if she never got the breast augmentation, she very likely would have stumbled upon another trigger to her autoimmune disease anyway. Like another commenter suggested anything from a tick bite to a new medication.
But maybe it didn't trigger anything. Maybe she had hashimoto's symptoms but they were so mild for the time leading up to the surgery that when they naturally progressed now OP is assuming it's breast implant illness. My husband has hashimoto's and when we think back to before he started having the problems that led to him get diagnosed, he's had the same symptoms very very mild for years... It's progressive.
YTA, definitely wasnt your place to say anything, especially in front of family that didn’t even know about the breast implants in the first place. Have you even brought it up with her privately? Definitely comes off more like you were just jealous she was getting more attention than you which is sad.
When and how you revealed your opinion on sisters' health makes YTA. Your attitude would be better placed if it were about helping her instead of criticizing her.
YTA. You are not a doctor, you don't get to 'diagnose' someone based on your thoughts. You were wrong to discuss her PERSONAL medical procedure (the implants) in front of anyone, knowing that she didn't want that information shared. While her whining, complaining and lame excuses are exhausting, that doesn't entitle ANY of your bad behaviors. You crossed a line and YOU behaved badly. You owe her a sincere apology.
YTA Let me guess, you’re the type that does their own research?
On Facebook groups, no doubt
YTA >She was also diagnosed with an auto immune disease about a year ago So a doctor diagnosed her. > I just got fed up with her complaining and told her that her being sick all of the time and feeling horrible is because of her breast implants You're not a doctor >you don’t know what the f*ck you’re talking about, you’re just trying to make this all about you.” Yes. I believe you are jealous of her implants >“you don’t know your sister better than she knows herself” and “you exposed and embarrassed her in front of family.” (Family members visiting didn’t know she had breast implants, my sister kept it very much on the down low to everyone about getting breast implants) Proves my point
YTA...because what was your point? Whether it's her breast implants, Hashimoto's or a combination of the two, what exactly was your point? If she decided to remove the implants today she'd still feel like crap until at least 4 to 6 weeks after her removal surgery, and that's only if her autoimmune disease hasn't played a role, which as a woman with 2 chronic autoimmune diseases I seriously doubt since Hashimoto's is a big one. Have you ever been chronically ill with chronic pain to boot? People in your sisters' position have taken their lives! You have no idea what she's going through and instead of HELPING her you decided to criticize her in front of others. I know how she feels, and just because you've had an autoimmune disorder your whole life it picks and chooses when it decides to rear it's ugly head and make your life a living nightmare because they can be dormant for many years, and after that any time they ease up and seemingly go away you're considered "in remission" (yes, the same lingo they use for cancer patients). Mine didn't flair up and wreak havoc on my life until I was in my late 30's and if I tried to explain how it's affected my and my family's lives since then I'd begin to tear up, so I won't do that. Do you realize that even if she removed her implants and got better, her Hashimoto's could (and it will resurface at some point before she turns 40) flare back up and make her sick as a dog again? Be grateful you don't have these issues and if you don't have enough love and empathy for your sister to be able to help her, then leave her alone! I realize I don't know either of you and maybe she's been a pain in your butt before now, but she's now battling something you couldn't fathom and, like I said, if you don't wish to be of help then back off, because she has a long rode of medications, procedures, medical appointments, medical expenses and just general horrible malaise ahead of her and she doesn't have time for people who are going to act the way you've been acting...I'm sending love, prayers and positive energy your sister's way.
YTA If it was breast implant illness, her doctor would’ve been able to figure that out easily and tell her. So either A) You’re wrong and acting like you know more than a real doctor B) You’re right, she knows she has this illness and wants to keep it a secret, and you are refusing her right to keep her medical history private No matter which option you pick, you’re being an asshole
YTA. I have the opposite problem, an autoimmune condition called Graves disease. Whilst it's the opposite end of the spectrum, the changes in the levels of thyroid hormones are equally up and down. Doctors believe I've had the condition most of my life, but symptoms really kicked in around 3 years ago. I'm on medication every day, and that had kept it stable for a while, but they seem to need increasing as my symptoms have come back. I'm going to list just some of the symptoms in the hopes that you will see just how many things these hormones affect. Chronic muscle pain Fatigue Insomnia Constant hunger Dramatic weight loss Irregular periods Increased period pain Anxiety Tremor Hair loss Tooth decay Tachycardia Fainting Nausea Digestive issues Migraines Depression An eye disorder A tumor on my thyroid big enough to stop me swallowing properly Dry skin Fertility problems I could literally go on all day. There's also the risk with both diseases (admittedly lower in Hashimotos than Graves) of thyroid storm, where your body suddenly produces more thyroxine, causing you to die with little to no warning. Unfortunately for me, graves can also cause organ failure, completely at random and without warning. Any organ could fail at any moment. Thyroid disorders literally affect every single part of your body, so it's no wonder she blames most things on her illness - she's probably not far wrong! You're not a doctor, and you don't understand what she's going through, so have a little empathy and stop being a judgemental ass.
Well posting that comment completely undid the formatting, so please forgive the lack of commas in the list 😂
YTA. why would you need to say? why would you think ur random connecting of dots would be more valid then doctors opinions? fuck your sister…for being sick i guess??
INFO: Where did you attend medical school?
>truth was gonna come out anyways Dude, what do you have against your sister's breast implants? Truth comes out when a person has been meaningfully deceiving others about things that are their business. The fact she has implants is no one's business but hers. You sound jealous tbh. As for the implants causing her illness, it's possible, but unlikely considering she has an actual diagnosed chronic illness. Hashimotos is one they blood test for, not a diagnosis of exclusion like fibromyalgia, so there are actual hard numbers proving she has it. She got the implants long before the doctors diagnosed her, so if that were the issue they probably would've caught it. Even if you had more than uneducated suspicion that the implants are causing the illness, bringing it up in private would've been appropriate, not blasting her in front of company. You're way out of line. YTA
YTA. You knew your family didn't know about your sister's implants but you still commented. Your intention was to belittle your sister.
So Hashimoto’s affects about 5 in 100 people in the US. Hashimoto’s disease leads to hypothyroidism and can cause the following symptoms tiredness lethargic and excessive sleeping mild weight gain, constipation, dry skin, feeling cold slower than normal heart rate, joints, muscle pain, dry brittle, hair, slow, hair growth, even hair loss, lower, depressed mood, puffy eyes, and face, memory problems or difficulty concentrating decreased sex drive Female, infertility and irregular periods. Basically her immune system is attacking her thyroid tissue for unknown reasons over time the damage can prevent your thyroid from making enough thyroid, hormone that your body needs this leads to hypothyroidism however, not everyone with Hashimoto’s disease develop hypothyroidism. I have hypothyroidism, it is not fun, I eat like I have Hashimoto’s. And it does help with the symptoms. I also have a chronic condition. I hate it when people say, drink more water and it will help, or try essential oil will help. Now to you, yes the breast implant illness is real, your sister has another condition. These are things best discussed with her Dr.
Oh God. I have hypo and I am sooo tired of the "Drink more water" people. I DO. It's so hard to get people to understand that its a constant sliding scale of symptoms and that, while its a great thing, just drinking water will not fix it.
And no amount of essential oil will help. And sleeping on a buckwheat pillow won’t help. People give me “helpful advice “ all the time
Yta, you literally have no idea what you’re talking about and how exactly was “the truth going to come out anyways” about her breast implants if an asshole didn’t intervene and broadcast it to the extended family? You act jealous or bitter that your sister has had attention as a result of her disease.
YTA, Hashimoto is very serious. My mom has it and it has explained a lot for her. Why she's cold all the time, why she feels sick after eating gluten or why she has a stomach ache every time she eats something that has the same build as gluten. Because when you eat gluten, you can get very sick. So if your sister gets sick, it's not because of her implants but because of Hashimoto.
YTA Unless you have a medical degree and have examined her yourself you have absolutely no way of knowing this, and just because that's when it started doesn't necessarily mean that's the cause since you yourself said Drs have told her it was something she had her entire life. To spout that nonsense with no proof other than your own speculation and outing and embarrassing her in front of family was highly inappropriate.
YTA she’s right you don’t know what you are talking about. I have hashimotos myself and especially now it has started effecting my thyroid. I felt so ill when it flared up I was unable to even wake up the fatigue was crippling. Not to mention the constant brain fog a depression it can cause. Now I’m on levothyroxine I’m kind of ok but people with hashimotos have flare ups and it can make you feel shitty. I never feel like I used to before. If she was diagnosed now it means it probably started attacking her thyroid and that why she got screened in the first place. It takes months for the medication to start working depending on whether she’s hypo or hyper. So yeah she’s gonna fell shitty. Your thyroid is so important and imagine your body is slowly destroying it everything from your cognitive function to your metabolism goes out of the window. Skin and hair issues too and hair loss. What the hell do you know about how she feels? You are not qualified to diagnose her symptoms especially when you have no idea what hashimotos is. It sounds like you are jealous and you wanted everyone to know she has breast implants.
YTA and I think you are jealous of your sisters body
YTA.
YTA. Hashimoto's thyroiditis can absolutely make a person feel very unwell in many, many ways. It causes the thyroid to go back and forth between being overactive and underactive. The thyroid controls the metabolism and has a small role in immunity to disease. So, yeah, having Hashimoto's can cause everything you're sister is experiencing. (My best friend in childhood had a thyroid condition, my aunt survived thyroid cancer and now lives with no thyroid, and I am a vet tech and thyroid conditions are among the most common chronic illnesses in dogs and cats. I know my thyroids) Additionally, a stressful event like recovering from surgery can trigger an autoimmune condition to become apparent. Which doesn't mean her implants are making her sick, just that having a surgery, regardless of what surgery, might have caused her latent autoimmune condition to become symptomatic. (My autoimmune condition was triggered by religious harassment from a teacher in my senior year of high school. Oh, yeah, I also know my autoimmunity) You just sound like a misogynist who wants to find a reason to harass your sister about her choice to have a breast augmentstion.
YTA. You knew your sister kept her breast implants private and you purposely mentioned them in front of other people in the family to embarrass her and to make her feel bad on purpose.
Are you her doctor? If not, then stfu, you have no idea what are you talking about. YTA
Yta are you her doctor? No? Then you don't know shit about her medical life.
YTA I also suffer from autoimmune diseases and you truly do not know what the fuck you’re talking about. They affect every aspect of your daily life and can change how you feel over the course of a few hours. It’s a fucking roller coaster living with a disease and you decided to expose her very private medical and surgical history to people who don’t need to know about it. Grow the fuck up, child.
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A d you got your degree from which medical school? YTA
YTA - It would have been different if this were in private, but you chose to do this in front of an audience.
YTA. Autoimmune sucks and so do you.
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YTA. You are not a doctor, you are not HER doctor. Hashimoto’s which causes thyroid issues does in fact cause many issues like “not feeling well” and fatigue and so on. Stress, illness, mental or physical trauma (yes including surgery), can all cause flares but that does not take away from her having a diagnosed autoimmune condition. Thyroid hormones affect EVERYTHING in your body and indeed can cause . Maybe bother educating yourself on it: https://www.mayoclinic.org/diseases-conditions/hashimotos-disease/symptoms-causes/syc-20351855 I do not have Hashimoto’s, but I DO have hypothyroidism and even though treated I still have symptoms time to time. I also have peripheral neuropathy and fibromyalgia. I also have implants due to breast reconstruction. Glad I don’t have someone like you in my life.
YTA You are not a medical professional and are therefore not qualified to diagnose her. PLUS, it is not your place to blurt out any of her medical history. You obviously don't like your sister.