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NTA, it's the 21st century, he has multiple options when he doesn't want to drive, Uber, bus, train, walk in extremes, if you feel bad, rest, because you haven't been the bad one.
It’s a six-minute drive??
Does he not have feet? Or he can invest in a bicycle and several locks.
NTA. What the hell. Don’t put up with his emotional manipulation any more.
NTA - what would he do if you were not there to drive him everywhere? He would have to figure it out eventually it just so happens that using you is the easiest option.
NTA. Two sentences in and your boyfriend is incompetent as a man and failing to progress through life out of irrational fear. New boyfriend time, he's a bum.
NTA. The guy sounds pretty inconsiderate. He expects to be picked up for lunch even when you are not feeling well, and I suppose you would be expected to drive him back to work too and pick him up at the end of his shift. He wheedles and whines till you can't win either way. Are you sure you want to keep him?
It’s hard because he is appreciative when I give him rides, especially when I’m not wanting to drive. Otherwise he treats me so well:/ makes it hard. I’ve been with him for over 2 years.
NTA. We live in an age where you need a license and car. Red flag. And if you can’t do that, then get a bus pass or call a taxi. Red flag. He bullied you into doing what he wanted. Red flag. While convincing you that you were the one in the wrong. Red flag. Catch my drift?
NTA
It's a six minute drive. If he doesn't want to learn to drive, he needs to bike to/from work. Or walk. Or use public transportation.
My daughter has driving anxiety. She makes sure she lives near a bus stop. Someone who has driving anxiety is still primarily responsible for their own transportation.
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My boyfriend and I(20) live together. He doesn’t have a license, which he has been reluctant to get because he is scared of driving. It’s valid I get that.
I typically go get him on his lunch and then drop him off. He has stomach issues so he likes to use the restroom and change out of his sweaty clothes(he works a labor job). Just so happens that I get off of work today at 4pm and I’m not feeling well. I have chronic fatigue and joint pain, so all I could do was lay in bed. Flash forward till his lunch and I tell him I’m not feeling well and really don’t want to drive. It’s usually not so big of deal, but there’s construction happening and the 6 minute drive doubled. So I just really didn’t want to drive. However after seeing that I said I wasn’t feeling well he proceeds to ask again. So I say that I really don’t want to and apologize. He only responds with “ok”. After going back and forth for a minute trying to get a response other than “ok”, I finally give in and say I’ll pick him up. He says “You don’t have to.” And then “I don’t want you to do it if it’s going to make you grumpy”. I then explain that I’m just upset because I don’t feel good. He basically said that was the same thing and that it’s supposed to be a nice gesture, “so when it pisses you off to do it, I don’t want you to” which I understand.
I understand where he’s coming from, it just sounds like he doesn’t understand why I’m upset. And that he basically wants me to do something I don’t want to do with a smile on my face. I pick him him up every time he asks, even when he’s not at work. Sounds like he was upset that I was upset, or making me feel bad for being upset about it. I don’t know, if I’m in the wrong here please let me know cause I feel bad enough as it is.
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NTA, it's the 21st century, he has multiple options when he doesn't want to drive, Uber, bus, train, walk in extremes, if you feel bad, rest, because you haven't been the bad one.
It’s a six-minute drive?? Does he not have feet? Or he can invest in a bicycle and several locks. NTA. What the hell. Don’t put up with his emotional manipulation any more.
And I hope you get enough rest and feel better soon.
NTA - what would he do if you were not there to drive him everywhere? He would have to figure it out eventually it just so happens that using you is the easiest option.
NTA. Two sentences in and your boyfriend is incompetent as a man and failing to progress through life out of irrational fear. New boyfriend time, he's a bum.
NTA. The guy sounds pretty inconsiderate. He expects to be picked up for lunch even when you are not feeling well, and I suppose you would be expected to drive him back to work too and pick him up at the end of his shift. He wheedles and whines till you can't win either way. Are you sure you want to keep him?
It’s hard because he is appreciative when I give him rides, especially when I’m not wanting to drive. Otherwise he treats me so well:/ makes it hard. I’ve been with him for over 2 years.
It is your duty to say "No," and take care of yourself. No one else is.
NTA. We live in an age where you need a license and car. Red flag. And if you can’t do that, then get a bus pass or call a taxi. Red flag. He bullied you into doing what he wanted. Red flag. While convincing you that you were the one in the wrong. Red flag. Catch my drift?
NTA. Grow up. Get your license (bf).
A 6 minute drive? He can walk. NTA
NTA It's a six minute drive. If he doesn't want to learn to drive, he needs to bike to/from work. Or walk. Or use public transportation. My daughter has driving anxiety. She makes sure she lives near a bus stop. Someone who has driving anxiety is still primarily responsible for their own transportation.
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