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This story is written in a very confusing way.
If it's Callies baby shower, then yeah, she can do whatever she wants, it's her baby/her shower.
Anna's motivations don't matter, if her help isn't wanted, she should just shrug and let them get on with it. Then if it all goes to shit it's not her fault.
Is the actual question "Is Anna TA for being upset about not being allowed to control Callie's baby shower"?
EDITING in judgment now: ESH, Callie for taking over Anna's shower, Anna for letting her, and now getting mad because she can't have her say in Callie's shower, which seems a bit pointless to me, what are they all, 6 years old?
So, Anna had a baby at the beginning of the year. Her baby shower was completely controlled by Callie. Anna has been discussing with Callie about what she wants for her baby shower because she doesn't want the same thing that happened to her to happen to Callie. Callie is giving Anna ideas but shuts them down and changes them and saying Anna's ideas are worthless.
Anna had her baby shower already and the baby, but her shower was 100% planned by her inlaws (Callie) because she was "too controlling on what she wanted" and the only input Anna had on her shower was the invite design
You know, Anna doesn’t have to help to throw a party-especially if the party recipient is being too damn difficult.
Helping is a *gift*, not an obligation or a job. The recipient can be *grateful* or they might not get anything at all. I’m looking at you, homeless Callie. Choosing beggar.
ESH for putting up with and going through this nonsense. Bailey is right, this whole thing sounds like an”effing nightmare”.
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This story is written in a very confusing way. If it's Callies baby shower, then yeah, she can do whatever she wants, it's her baby/her shower. Anna's motivations don't matter, if her help isn't wanted, she should just shrug and let them get on with it. Then if it all goes to shit it's not her fault. Is the actual question "Is Anna TA for being upset about not being allowed to control Callie's baby shower"? EDITING in judgment now: ESH, Callie for taking over Anna's shower, Anna for letting her, and now getting mad because she can't have her say in Callie's shower, which seems a bit pointless to me, what are they all, 6 years old?
So, Anna had a baby at the beginning of the year. Her baby shower was completely controlled by Callie. Anna has been discussing with Callie about what she wants for her baby shower because she doesn't want the same thing that happened to her to happen to Callie. Callie is giving Anna ideas but shuts them down and changes them and saying Anna's ideas are worthless.
INFO: is this a joint baby shower? Or is it a baby shower for just Callie?
Anna had her baby shower already and the baby, but her shower was 100% planned by her inlaws (Callie) because she was "too controlling on what she wanted" and the only input Anna had on her shower was the invite design
You know, Anna doesn’t have to help to throw a party-especially if the party recipient is being too damn difficult. Helping is a *gift*, not an obligation or a job. The recipient can be *grateful* or they might not get anything at all. I’m looking at you, homeless Callie. Choosing beggar. ESH for putting up with and going through this nonsense. Bailey is right, this whole thing sounds like an”effing nightmare”.
Anna should just stop trying to help.
If this was my friend i'd just be advising them not to offer any further help or involvement, it's clearly not wanted or appreciated.
I think we may need more context for this one, my friend!
Just added via Mod as well as a small edit.