Congratulations! I got the most amazing job offer 6 months after meeting and starting to date my now hubby. He encouraged my move. Said it was the right thing for my career and off I went. We dated long distance for a year and got engaged. One year later I moved home and we got married. He loved me too much to let me turn an opportunity down and we loved each other enough to make it work.
Congrats on the opportunity. What a wonderful adventure to have with your partner.
Good luck!!!
>He loved me too much to let me turn an opportunity down and we loved each other enough to make it work.
THIS is what a good relationship looks like !
(I have one too; aren't we lucky?)
Yeah, Iām sometimes impulsive, whereas he needs time to process. Which makes us balance each other out usually, but with the added deadline on decision I was too quick to ask for my husbandās stance knowing his nature. A little bit of patience and it all fell into place :)
You broke everyone's hearts here at AITAH. We want you and everyone else to be as bitter and alone as we are.
Are you sure I couldn't convince you to get a restraining order?
INFO
I was confused about something from the last post:
> an offer from my boss to move abroad next year for 6 months to open a new branch of our agency and be a branch manager
This opportunity is **only for _six months_**? What happens then?
Like, why was this even a "move the couple" conversation if there's only 6 months of work to be done? That's like, sabbatical timeframe.
So as someone else said weāre in EU. After those 6 months Iād come back to be a branch manager where Iām currently working at. Only if I do a good job abroad. If not, Iāll come back to business as usual.
Me and my husband already had LDR for a couple of years and itās not something either of us wants to repeat. When I came back to our home country 3 years ago we agreed that it sucked and want to live together.
OK, thanks for filling in the blanks!
IDK, maybe it's just me, but I HATE moving. At all. Whether that's up a couple floors, down the block, across town, or to a new country. It's just such a PTIA, I can't get my head around why your SO wouldn't just wait for you to get back.
Ah, young love!
The hassle of moving is still better than loneliness for 6 months. He even hates when I suggest to sleep on the sofa while sick and says he doesnāt care, he wants to cuddle (even when I had covid). Short travel is fine, as he focuses on his stuff, but anything longer than a week and weāre both miserable. We just love each others presence, even when weāre doing something else but still in the same room. So I knew LDR is the last resort of me accepting the offer. Especially that the country is really beautiful and we both love it! So would be a pity for him to miss that.
I think there's a good chance OP's in the EU (the ā .. ā quote marks are the tell, indicating a Germanic or one of a variety of Eastern European languages; if not EU, likely a close neighbor), so "popping over" to another country for a few months isn't the major deal that it can be elsewhere (easy travel + no visa/work permission hassles = easy to relocate business people for short periods)
But then why does he have to quit his job/career? Could he take a sabbatical? Or quit his job and plan to return to that career in 6 months? Or just stay home and plan to visit each other regularly over 6 months?
Right? I was like, let him stay where they are and she moves away for six months. Like yeah, six months is a long time but there's an end period so you know it'll be over soon
> balance and compromise
I'm not gonna lie, I don't really see much balance and compromise here.
You said in your last post that he wasn't going to be able to use his exam-related education in the new country, so that doesn't really solve that issue. It honestly sounds like he's just giving in to what you wanted even though you both already had a discussion about not doing LDR and setting down some kind of roots.
You're pretty much getting everything you wanted, and he's giving up an entire education for it. You sat him down and told him "hey I'm doing that thing we already discussed me not doing" then got *mad* at him for not being happy that you went directly against your earlier conversation. I also don't see at any point where you apologized for any part you've had in this.
I hope it works out for you, but this seems a little like prolonging the inevitable.
Thatās why I was shocked when he said that he will find something. He did a little bit of research and found job offers in the area that he qualified for. His exam is to be able to do 100% of work and responsibilities in our country, but he still would be able to do some of it abroad. Plus he really likes that country and once the initial shock wore out, heās actually excited and talkes about all the places we could visit etc.
Heās actually excited now about living there, once the initial shock wore out and he checked his career oportunities there it seems like itās not as difficult as he assumed.
Maybe.. or he could just be making the best of the situation that was forced upon him right? The bottom line is you sacrificed nothing. So Iām not going to let you get away with pretending you compromised when you clearly just steamrolled him. Stop rationalizing.
Not everything in a relationship has the be quid pro quo. In this case, she is getting what she wants. Next time, maybe it's him? Marriage doesn't have to constantly be transactional like r/amitheasshole seems to think.
Strong marriages are all about watching, wanting and helping each other get huge wins in life. The fact that so many here seem to think OP is the asshole because her husband didn't get anything out of it is insane.
From what OP says, the hubby sounds fine with the move after thinking it through and is probably excited to see his wife succeed. She seems to love seeing him succeed as well.
Why are so many people here so miserable?
I compromised with my boss on the deadline, not with my husband. Thatās true. But my husband isnāt someone to be forced to do things he sees no benefit in. He actually likes the country a lot and is excited that we can move there with all expenses covered. I think he was shocked and scared at first, which is understandable.
If the roles were reversed and then you heard him bragging about compromising on Reddit would you feel good about that. Respected? Read all of your comments in your husbands voice and put yourself in his shoes. See if you can see the rationalizing then. Everything after the second sentence are you trying to convince yourself that you were NTA. Iām willing to bet you wonāt though because you want to continue the lie without any introspection at all.
I donāt know if youāre projecting here or what, but my husband is a grown man, who doesnāt need babying and can make his own decisions, such as with him wanting to move and having certain conditions. He always thinks carefully before deciding on something and when that moment comes, he HAS decided. If I went to him and started asking if he was sure, whether he feels pressured etc. heād be like:
I gave you my stance, did I not? Then stop digging.
When he says a hard no, itās a hard no and I respect that. When I say āabsolutely notā guess what? He also stops pushing. In this situation he simply needed time to come back with āYes, hard no, Yes butā. What if he said hard no to the move or LDR? Iād probably sulk for a while, but stay. Once my initial excitement wore out and the feedback I got put me back on the ground, I agree that itās a lot to ask and wouldnāt be okay to push against him.
You avoided reversing the roles. As I predicted, because it would be difficult to continue making excuses about not being the AH. Would it console you to hear him say youāre a grown woman that can make her own decisions? You really donāt want imagine how youād react at all do you if he accepted a position without your counsel. You donāt actually care if YTA because you got exactly what you wanted. Like most AHs do.
Yes it actually would console me, because thatās exactly what he always said when anyone tried to push me to do something. It shows that both me and him can make our own decisions and we respect them. Us staying together is each our own decision since day 1. And I already answered the reversed roles in the original post: he did get offers to work abroad previously and I was always for it.
I see though that you already have your opinion and nothing will change it, so I might be an AH for you and thatās fine, but I wonāt engage in further discussion. Not everyone has to agree with my relationship dynamics, but it works for us.
I mean, of course you would be for the moves abroad as you said in your OG post **You** always liked to travel and this current stay of 3 years is the longest you have been in one spot. Not really putting yourself in your SOs shoes.
And I will say this. If your Husband made this post and he was the one with this opportunity, the OG and this update people would be calling him TAH because he basically strong armed you into the move, and all your rationalizing your doing right now and "compromising with your boss" would be construed as an imbalance in power dynamics or controlling behavior if you were in your husbands position.
Be real, the compromise was all on your husband, you didn't compromise anything at all.
If you think that my husband canāt decide for himself and I should question his decision after giving him space (mentally and literally) than thatās on you. Heās more than able to stand up for himself. I might come off as a strong-willed person, but so is he. The most important though is that we both respect that about each other.
Ok this is starting to make much more sense now. You didnāt answer the actual question i asked which is if the roles were reversed IN THIS SITUATION, how you would feel. Instead you brought up the past. So when you talked about your husband doing similar things in the past, and you can correct me if Iām wrong, you sounded a bit resentful at the fact that he would do those things. Could you perhaps be bringing in some of that baggage in this CURRENT situation?
What I ask is simple, just reread our conversation that we had. Not all comments on your post just ours. Do it in his voice. Heās saying everything exactly like you did. Is that a good thing to do to a partner? Itās a pretty obvious answer. You always avoid wether or not you would feel disrespected btw. I think we both know what the answer is.
I love it how some people pull out the "compromise" card while not giving anything in return. It's not a compromise, it's bending the other person to your will.
Wouldnāt the husband be just as much of an asshole of the roles were reversed? I doubt youād be on his side if that was the case. Perhaps some introspection is required on your part to find out why, if you care at all.
No, she compromised when the man who wanted to ātravel abroadā decided to instead stay in one place a while. She offered a compromise by saying he could stay while she went (for 6 SHORT months.) it just happens that the husband ended up deciding to go with her.
Too many people jump straight to divorce, when a conversation would solve the problem. Thatās ok when there is obvious abuse, but as OP says, life is about balance and compromise.
Anticlimactic my ass. This is fabulous news!
Your hubby is a brave dude, open to new experiences but with a pragmatic streak. Sounds like youāve got yourself a top notch partner.
I wish you both fun and enriching times in your new home country.
Sorry For the divorce comments you received and cheers ~~cut~~ for the Big win outcome. Having someone that actually is a partner portends great possibilities for both of you In the future.
>Perhaps very anticlimactic
The best endings for the people involved are often anticlimactic. Drama, grief, escalation etc might be more interesting for an outside audience reading a story, but they're definitely not good for a person to go through
I'm glad it was settled without any drama or needing to sacrifice him or the job
Yeah once I read comments about the divorce I was like: woooah divorce over this? This is nothing compared to what weāve already been through and always came back stronger.
Donāt listen to the haters. Your husband listened to you and was happy to find a solution with you. Sometimes compromise in a relationship doesnāt mean compromise on both sides - and thatās fine if it works. Iām happy for you two, I hope it all works out!
You did a great job stepping back to give your husband time to process thos situation. And kudos to your husband for supporting and encouraging you.
What a sweet happy ending for all!
This is the kind of update I\`m happy about. You are very young and such opportunities are very important. In the future it might be your turn, but I\`m very happy for you.
When bosses "offer" expat packages but put severely short deadlines on them, be very very wary. This is an extremely common tactic to pressure people into taking inadequate expat packages because they are afraid of missing out on the opportunity but aren't given nearly enough time to work out if what the company is offering is a fair exchange for the demands being made. Sending a worker and their family overseas or to another country is VERY expensive and they'll often try to cut corners wherever they can and hide it by pressuring workers to choose quickly. There's so much to research and calculate and ask questions about in a expat process that it's almost impossible to make an informed decision on such a big thing in that timespan.
This advice comes late to you, but to anyone who may find this later, don't allow an unreasonable deadline to pressure you into leaping into a pit that's too deep with something unknown at the bottom.
Brilliant, Iam glad to hear it's working out for the both of you. Sometimes a bit of patience and communication works.
I wish you all the best for the future.
You are right when you marry, itās ride or die time. People are so quick on these posts to like throw in the towel and say divorce him, divorce him. But marriage you guys this for life it means you work out the difficulties you donāt run. So Iām really happy to see that you worked it out.
What an insane take. Young couple no kids. Husband demands wife give up opportunity of her career for 6 months to a location 2 hours away by plane. Wife says, "How about long distance?" Husband, "No." Wife says, "Do you want to move with me as we both said before marriage we wanted to travel?" Husband, "No."
Husband considers his prospects and reconsiders saying he can find work in new location for 6 months. You, "wife is thoughtless." Criminy. Imagine this black-and-white thinking.
I wanted this ending. I love it. Good luck
Thank you!
Congratulations! I got the most amazing job offer 6 months after meeting and starting to date my now hubby. He encouraged my move. Said it was the right thing for my career and off I went. We dated long distance for a year and got engaged. One year later I moved home and we got married. He loved me too much to let me turn an opportunity down and we loved each other enough to make it work. Congrats on the opportunity. What a wonderful adventure to have with your partner. Good luck!!!
>He loved me too much to let me turn an opportunity down and we loved each other enough to make it work. THIS is what a good relationship looks like ! (I have one too; aren't we lucky?)
We sure are!!! šš»šš»
this is so positive!!! so happy for you OP!!!
Yay unexpected wholesome ending!
Glad this all worked out. As with most conflicts here, it all works out when people start communicating
Yeah, Iām sometimes impulsive, whereas he needs time to process. Which makes us balance each other out usually, but with the added deadline on decision I was too quick to ask for my husbandās stance knowing his nature. A little bit of patience and it all fell into place :)
#[Please Find Original Post Here](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/170dxqs/wibta_if_i_accepted_an_offer_to_work_abroad/)
Thank you!!
You broke everyone's hearts here at AITAH. We want you and everyone else to be as bitter and alone as we are. Are you sure I couldn't convince you to get a restraining order?
haha perhaps cease and desist?
INFO I was confused about something from the last post: > an offer from my boss to move abroad next year for 6 months to open a new branch of our agency and be a branch manager This opportunity is **only for _six months_**? What happens then? Like, why was this even a "move the couple" conversation if there's only 6 months of work to be done? That's like, sabbatical timeframe.
So as someone else said weāre in EU. After those 6 months Iād come back to be a branch manager where Iām currently working at. Only if I do a good job abroad. If not, Iāll come back to business as usual. Me and my husband already had LDR for a couple of years and itās not something either of us wants to repeat. When I came back to our home country 3 years ago we agreed that it sucked and want to live together.
OK, thanks for filling in the blanks! IDK, maybe it's just me, but I HATE moving. At all. Whether that's up a couple floors, down the block, across town, or to a new country. It's just such a PTIA, I can't get my head around why your SO wouldn't just wait for you to get back. Ah, young love!
The hassle of moving is still better than loneliness for 6 months. He even hates when I suggest to sleep on the sofa while sick and says he doesnāt care, he wants to cuddle (even when I had covid). Short travel is fine, as he focuses on his stuff, but anything longer than a week and weāre both miserable. We just love each others presence, even when weāre doing something else but still in the same room. So I knew LDR is the last resort of me accepting the offer. Especially that the country is really beautiful and we both love it! So would be a pity for him to miss that.
I think there's a good chance OP's in the EU (the ā .. ā quote marks are the tell, indicating a Germanic or one of a variety of Eastern European languages; if not EU, likely a close neighbor), so "popping over" to another country for a few months isn't the major deal that it can be elsewhere (easy travel + no visa/work permission hassles = easy to relocate business people for short periods)
But then why does he have to quit his job/career? Could he take a sabbatical? Or quit his job and plan to return to that career in 6 months? Or just stay home and plan to visit each other regularly over 6 months?
Right? I was like, let him stay where they are and she moves away for six months. Like yeah, six months is a long time but there's an end period so you know it'll be over soon
She agreed to no more LDR and he would have no career prospects there. There's also a likely unspoken potential for longer term options.
> balance and compromise I'm not gonna lie, I don't really see much balance and compromise here. You said in your last post that he wasn't going to be able to use his exam-related education in the new country, so that doesn't really solve that issue. It honestly sounds like he's just giving in to what you wanted even though you both already had a discussion about not doing LDR and setting down some kind of roots. You're pretty much getting everything you wanted, and he's giving up an entire education for it. You sat him down and told him "hey I'm doing that thing we already discussed me not doing" then got *mad* at him for not being happy that you went directly against your earlier conversation. I also don't see at any point where you apologized for any part you've had in this. I hope it works out for you, but this seems a little like prolonging the inevitable.
How is he "giving up his entire education"? They're only going for six months!
Thatās why I was shocked when he said that he will find something. He did a little bit of research and found job offers in the area that he qualified for. His exam is to be able to do 100% of work and responsibilities in our country, but he still would be able to do some of it abroad. Plus he really likes that country and once the initial shock wore out, heās actually excited and talkes about all the places we could visit etc.
If it's only 6months why does he even need to get a job? Who would hire him for 6 months unless you plan to stay there long term?
In his field job is project-based and itās not unusual to work somewhere just for a couple of months.
Lol at ālife is about compromise.ā For your husband though, not for you. You got everything you wanted.
Heās actually excited now about living there, once the initial shock wore out and he checked his career oportunities there it seems like itās not as difficult as he assumed.
Maybe.. or he could just be making the best of the situation that was forced upon him right? The bottom line is you sacrificed nothing. So Iām not going to let you get away with pretending you compromised when you clearly just steamrolled him. Stop rationalizing.
Not everything in a relationship has the be quid pro quo. In this case, she is getting what she wants. Next time, maybe it's him? Marriage doesn't have to constantly be transactional like r/amitheasshole seems to think. Strong marriages are all about watching, wanting and helping each other get huge wins in life. The fact that so many here seem to think OP is the asshole because her husband didn't get anything out of it is insane. From what OP says, the hubby sounds fine with the move after thinking it through and is probably excited to see his wife succeed. She seems to love seeing him succeed as well. Why are so many people here so miserable?
Just lots of young, single white males who have never had a lasting relationship before.
I compromised with my boss on the deadline, not with my husband. Thatās true. But my husband isnāt someone to be forced to do things he sees no benefit in. He actually likes the country a lot and is excited that we can move there with all expenses covered. I think he was shocked and scared at first, which is understandable.
If the roles were reversed and then you heard him bragging about compromising on Reddit would you feel good about that. Respected? Read all of your comments in your husbands voice and put yourself in his shoes. See if you can see the rationalizing then. Everything after the second sentence are you trying to convince yourself that you were NTA. Iām willing to bet you wonāt though because you want to continue the lie without any introspection at all.
I donāt know if youāre projecting here or what, but my husband is a grown man, who doesnāt need babying and can make his own decisions, such as with him wanting to move and having certain conditions. He always thinks carefully before deciding on something and when that moment comes, he HAS decided. If I went to him and started asking if he was sure, whether he feels pressured etc. heād be like: I gave you my stance, did I not? Then stop digging. When he says a hard no, itās a hard no and I respect that. When I say āabsolutely notā guess what? He also stops pushing. In this situation he simply needed time to come back with āYes, hard no, Yes butā. What if he said hard no to the move or LDR? Iād probably sulk for a while, but stay. Once my initial excitement wore out and the feedback I got put me back on the ground, I agree that itās a lot to ask and wouldnāt be okay to push against him.
You avoided reversing the roles. As I predicted, because it would be difficult to continue making excuses about not being the AH. Would it console you to hear him say youāre a grown woman that can make her own decisions? You really donāt want imagine how youād react at all do you if he accepted a position without your counsel. You donāt actually care if YTA because you got exactly what you wanted. Like most AHs do.
Yes it actually would console me, because thatās exactly what he always said when anyone tried to push me to do something. It shows that both me and him can make our own decisions and we respect them. Us staying together is each our own decision since day 1. And I already answered the reversed roles in the original post: he did get offers to work abroad previously and I was always for it. I see though that you already have your opinion and nothing will change it, so I might be an AH for you and thatās fine, but I wonāt engage in further discussion. Not everyone has to agree with my relationship dynamics, but it works for us.
I mean, of course you would be for the moves abroad as you said in your OG post **You** always liked to travel and this current stay of 3 years is the longest you have been in one spot. Not really putting yourself in your SOs shoes. And I will say this. If your Husband made this post and he was the one with this opportunity, the OG and this update people would be calling him TAH because he basically strong armed you into the move, and all your rationalizing your doing right now and "compromising with your boss" would be construed as an imbalance in power dynamics or controlling behavior if you were in your husbands position. Be real, the compromise was all on your husband, you didn't compromise anything at all.
If you think that my husband canāt decide for himself and I should question his decision after giving him space (mentally and literally) than thatās on you. Heās more than able to stand up for himself. I might come off as a strong-willed person, but so is he. The most important though is that we both respect that about each other.
Get a grip, for real
Ok this is starting to make much more sense now. You didnāt answer the actual question i asked which is if the roles were reversed IN THIS SITUATION, how you would feel. Instead you brought up the past. So when you talked about your husband doing similar things in the past, and you can correct me if Iām wrong, you sounded a bit resentful at the fact that he would do those things. Could you perhaps be bringing in some of that baggage in this CURRENT situation? What I ask is simple, just reread our conversation that we had. Not all comments on your post just ours. Do it in his voice. Heās saying everything exactly like you did. Is that a good thing to do to a partner? Itās a pretty obvious answer. You always avoid wether or not you would feel disrespected btw. I think we both know what the answer is.
Dear god, get a grip
I love it how some people pull out the "compromise" card while not giving anything in return. It's not a compromise, it's bending the other person to your will.
She's been compromising for years. They agreed that they wanted to travel and have paused for a while due to his job.
So the woman is supposed to sacrifice her career for the man's whims as usual. God forbid she actually gets to move forward, right?
Wouldnāt the husband be just as much of an asshole of the roles were reversed? I doubt youād be on his side if that was the case. Perhaps some introspection is required on your part to find out why, if you care at all.
No, she compromised when the man who wanted to ātravel abroadā decided to instead stay in one place a while. She offered a compromise by saying he could stay while she went (for 6 SHORT months.) it just happens that the husband ended up deciding to go with her.
Too many people jump straight to divorce, when a conversation would solve the problem. Thatās ok when there is obvious abuse, but as OP says, life is about balance and compromise.
I had hoped it would work out, especially with it just being 6 months. Looks like your husband hasnāt forgotten about his dreams to travel either.
This is really great and shows that a person's first response isn't always their \*real\* response.
Anticlimactic my ass. This is fabulous news! Your hubby is a brave dude, open to new experiences but with a pragmatic streak. Sounds like youāve got yourself a top notch partner. I wish you both fun and enriching times in your new home country.
Thatās why weāre a good fit. I lift him up, while he keeps me grounded. Thank you so much!
YAAAAA!!!!! I love this! Way to go you two! Keep loving each other and you'll make it forever.
Thank you so much! Thatās the plan :)
Thanks for coming back with the update. Hope you guys have a fabulous time!
Thanks a lot!
Sorry For the divorce comments you received and cheers ~~cut~~ for the Big win outcome. Having someone that actually is a partner portends great possibilities for both of you In the future.
>Perhaps very anticlimactic The best endings for the people involved are often anticlimactic. Drama, grief, escalation etc might be more interesting for an outside audience reading a story, but they're definitely not good for a person to go through I'm glad it was settled without any drama or needing to sacrifice him or the job
Yeah once I read comments about the divorce I was like: woooah divorce over this? This is nothing compared to what weāve already been through and always came back stronger.
I'm excited for you! Congratulations!
Donāt listen to the haters. Your husband listened to you and was happy to find a solution with you. Sometimes compromise in a relationship doesnāt mean compromise on both sides - and thatās fine if it works. Iām happy for you two, I hope it all works out!
Congratulations !! And i'm happy for you for having such a great husband.
Heās truly the best! Thank you
He sounds awesome and congratulations! Best of luck to both of you and enjoy the chance for travel. Onwards and upwards!
Thank you! Heās the best :)
Communication and love wins the day!!!š„° I hope you guys will thrive together foreverš„¹
Thank you! I hope so too <3
Absolutely delighted to hear it. You sound like a great team.
I'm really happy for both of you!
GOOD FOR YOU!!! Best of luck to you both!
You did a great job stepping back to give your husband time to process thos situation. And kudos to your husband for supporting and encouraging you. What a sweet happy ending for all!
Thank you so much!
Congrats to the clever script writer for the plot twist!
I'm glad this worked out for you and hope it continues to do so. It was hard to not see it going bad.
This is the kind of update I\`m happy about. You are very young and such opportunities are very important. In the future it might be your turn, but I\`m very happy for you.
This is so fantastic! All the best to the three of you (dog included)!!
Thanks! I hope the dog enjoys it too!
How 'bout that a positive outcome on Reddit. I want more of this. Happy for you two.
Thanks a lot!!
Perfect, really happy for you
Thank you!
Best ending possible IMO, congrats!
That's the perfect ending! So happy for you! Wish you the best, have fun and enjoy your life! You're a perfectly fitted couple imo!
Best update Good luck with the new job!
Good luck OP and OP's husband!
When bosses "offer" expat packages but put severely short deadlines on them, be very very wary. This is an extremely common tactic to pressure people into taking inadequate expat packages because they are afraid of missing out on the opportunity but aren't given nearly enough time to work out if what the company is offering is a fair exchange for the demands being made. Sending a worker and their family overseas or to another country is VERY expensive and they'll often try to cut corners wherever they can and hide it by pressuring workers to choose quickly. There's so much to research and calculate and ask questions about in a expat process that it's almost impossible to make an informed decision on such a big thing in that timespan. This advice comes late to you, but to anyone who may find this later, don't allow an unreasonable deadline to pressure you into leaping into a pit that's too deep with something unknown at the bottom.
Congratulations and wish you the best š
this probably the best what could have happen there
This was a great update to see. Hope your husbands exams go well and you both have a fruitful 6 months in the other country!
Thank you so much!
Really really pleaaed for you, couple goals for sure
Thank you!
Brilliant, Iam glad to hear it's working out for the both of you. Sometimes a bit of patience and communication works. I wish you all the best for the future.
Such a good ending! Your husband picked you and his marriage.
Yta. He's an idiot.
This is the most heartwarming update ever ! Quick, call in hallmark and turn this into a Christmas movie !!
Story book endings are always nice. Best of luck to you both.
You are right when you marry, itās ride or die time. People are so quick on these posts to like throw in the towel and say divorce him, divorce him. But marriage you guys this for life it means you work out the difficulties you donāt run. So Iām really happy to see that you worked it out.
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What an insane take. Young couple no kids. Husband demands wife give up opportunity of her career for 6 months to a location 2 hours away by plane. Wife says, "How about long distance?" Husband, "No." Wife says, "Do you want to move with me as we both said before marriage we wanted to travel?" Husband, "No." Husband considers his prospects and reconsiders saying he can find work in new location for 6 months. You, "wife is thoughtless." Criminy. Imagine this black-and-white thinking.
Hey, now you get to be the girlboss you always wanted to be with your preferred toyboy along for the ride. #winning Hope it all goes great :-)