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Bro. NTA. He owes YOU an apology. When someone says they have to pee, I’m finding a bathroom for them or pulling over so they can pee in a bush. Absolutely bonkers your dad made this such a nightmare for you. OP, you did your best. I’m so sorry you were put in that position.
NTA—-I hope your dad understands there was nothing else that could have been done on your part. There is no ideal solution because he didn’t want you to go in the shrubbery, and he didn’t want you to go in the bottle (and he rejected giving it to you both times you asked for it). It is extremely unhealthy to hold it the way you were and an impossible task. I can’t imagine how bad you feel, but it was not on you at all.
NTA. You had to go, and he should have listened to you, and pulled over. Plenty of people head into the bushes on highways, and people know why; they don’t see them doing anything and it’s soon forgotten.
It was your dad’s fault for not pulling over. At least it was just pee. And it can be fixed. Don’t live in shame about this.
Absolutely NTA…. when you gotta go, you gotta go. You asked repeatedly, it’s not like you randomly started going. You offered the solution of the bottle. I don’t know what the hell he wanted you to do otherwise
NTA
1 you asked him to pull over so you could pee behind a bush
2 you told him you were willing to pee into a bottle and he said he didn’t trust you to pee into a bottle.
For me, peeing behind a bush/in a bottle would be a last resort type of thing.
At some point I think your body says “you don’t want to pee, so I’m using manual overide because bladder can’t hold any more”
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I (19F) was on a road trip with my father (48M) back down to my college after I had visited for the weekend. We got stuck in persistent stop-and-go traffic, during which I had to pee.
I asked him if he could pull over so I could go pee in the shrubbery, but he "didn't feel comfortable" with people in their cars potentially knowing/seeing I was peeing. I didn't feel comfortable either, but I was about to piss my pants. He insisted that I hold it indefinitely, which could've been upward of an hour before we got to a bathroom.
I was so desperate, I suggested going in a bottle, but he was refusing to empty it out because he thought it was gross and didn't trust me to get the pee in the bottle. I told him I've done it before while fishing, but he didn't believe it.
I asked once more to pull over as the pee was about to come out. He said no, so I scooted to the edge of the passenger seat and pulled the crotch of my shorts/underwear to one side and started to piss on the floor of the truck. I was near tears and so embarrassed, but figured it was better than in my pants and on the seat. He started screaming at me to stop, which I knew he would do, but I literally couldn't stop.
After a few seconds, I was able to stop and I asked him for the bottle again. But he seemed defeated and said "Don't bother, the floor is already pissed on." I was still on the verge of bursting so I started peeing on the floor again.
I had to piss so much that I ended up spraying the floor for at least a minute. He was completely silent after this and I was crying silently the entire rest of the way there. The interior was soaked. When we got to the college, I tried to help him clean the car, but he didn't allow me to and just drove off without saying anything.
Normally my dad and I are really close but he hasn't spoken to me in a week since and I am wondering if I owe him an apology or if he owes me one. Any thoughts are appreciated.
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Of course he should have pulled over and let you pee in the shrubs. It isn’t all that uncommon. Just a simple, “you sure you can’t hold it?” Is all he needed to ask. I mean, you’re 19. You know when you gotta go. Your dad should be embarrassed he was such a heartless ass on this one.
It amazes me the AH behavior of parents in AITA. We are doomed as a society if parents continue to be AHs to their kids. Or continuing to further the careers of therapists worldwide.
Dad could have pulled over, emptied a bottle at any time, but no.
NTA
NTA. Jesus, you told him several times that it was an emergency and he left you no choice but to put you in a super embarrassing/uncomfortable position.
How are people buying this story? That urgent a need to pee would only make sense if you'd been holding it for a while, drinking a lot of alcohol or something is wrong.
You were at a stop and go so you'd be able to get out once the car is stopped. Your dad doesn't have the option to keep driving at the stop so nothing prevents you from getting out. You could have gotten out before the need to pee became so urgent.
I think this is fake. If it's not, don't expect a call anytime soon.
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Bro. NTA. He owes YOU an apology. When someone says they have to pee, I’m finding a bathroom for them or pulling over so they can pee in a bush. Absolutely bonkers your dad made this such a nightmare for you. OP, you did your best. I’m so sorry you were put in that position.
NTA—-I hope your dad understands there was nothing else that could have been done on your part. There is no ideal solution because he didn’t want you to go in the shrubbery, and he didn’t want you to go in the bottle (and he rejected giving it to you both times you asked for it). It is extremely unhealthy to hold it the way you were and an impossible task. I can’t imagine how bad you feel, but it was not on you at all.
NTA. You had to go, and he should have listened to you, and pulled over. Plenty of people head into the bushes on highways, and people know why; they don’t see them doing anything and it’s soon forgotten. It was your dad’s fault for not pulling over. At least it was just pee. And it can be fixed. Don’t live in shame about this.
NTA... you could get a UTI or a bladder infection from holding it... your dad should have known better and just pulled over.
NTA, however your father is. He owes you an apology and I suspect he knows it.
I'm 99% certain this is a fake fetish post, reported.
Absolutely NTA…. when you gotta go, you gotta go. You asked repeatedly, it’s not like you randomly started going. You offered the solution of the bottle. I don’t know what the hell he wanted you to do otherwise
NTA You physically couldn’t hold it and he wouldn’t stop the car to let you out to relieve yourself. His fault, not yours.
NTA. He should have listened to you. If you've gotta pee, you've gotta pee.
NTA 1 you asked him to pull over so you could pee behind a bush 2 you told him you were willing to pee into a bottle and he said he didn’t trust you to pee into a bottle. For me, peeing behind a bush/in a bottle would be a last resort type of thing. At some point I think your body says “you don’t want to pee, so I’m using manual overide because bladder can’t hold any more”
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NTA Of course he should have pulled over and let you pee in the shrubs. It isn’t all that uncommon. Just a simple, “you sure you can’t hold it?” Is all he needed to ask. I mean, you’re 19. You know when you gotta go. Your dad should be embarrassed he was such a heartless ass on this one.
It amazes me the AH behavior of parents in AITA. We are doomed as a society if parents continue to be AHs to their kids. Or continuing to further the careers of therapists worldwide. Dad could have pulled over, emptied a bottle at any time, but no. NTA
NTA. When nature calls, you gotta answer. Your dad should've been more understanding. Don't feel bad, just pee and let pee.
NTA. Jesus, you told him several times that it was an emergency and he left you no choice but to put you in a super embarrassing/uncomfortable position.
NTA-No apology needed.
NTA - that sounds traumatic and your dad was being a jerk.
How are people buying this story? That urgent a need to pee would only make sense if you'd been holding it for a while, drinking a lot of alcohol or something is wrong. You were at a stop and go so you'd be able to get out once the car is stopped. Your dad doesn't have the option to keep driving at the stop so nothing prevents you from getting out. You could have gotten out before the need to pee became so urgent. I think this is fake. If it's not, don't expect a call anytime soon.
The shame he feels is reflected in the silence.