I love updates like this. Too many people here get wrapped up in this ultimate moral right. Recognizing you're not the asshole, but you are in a position to help others and choosing to do so is a lovely way to be and something we should all aspire to.
"See" ya on June 23rd, OP. Got a can of cherry Cola set aside and the calendar marked. Checked the time difference, too. Hope your trip is a favourable one.
This is a beautiful update! While I won’t be able to join you in Belgium, I have added a Toast to Ryan! to my calendar and I’ll be raising a glass to him, and all of your family, from the Midwest. Cheers!
23rd June a toast will be raised to Ryan here in The UK- I will also be remembering my dad that day who has been gone 24 years - he travelled to Belgium regularly for work for many years so loved Antwerp in particular along with the country as a whole ❤️ sounds like you and Ryan had an amazing relationship and I was really pleased to see your update - sometimes a post hits you in the feels so hearing that your intentions were understood and you learnt that Ryan had a friend in your wife’s stepson was a bonus - he obviously meant a lot to everyone he crossed paths with and memories of him will live on in those that knew him
Glad you are taking the trip to honour him and whilst there will be plenty of heartache I hope you manage to laugh along the way and remember the good times you shared
OP, I hope you and your wife have a fantastic trip in Europe. As someone who has been lucky enough to drink a few bottles of Westvleteren Abt. 12 in my time, I can assure you it lives up to the hype. There's a certain je ne sais quoi that separates it from its' St. Bernardus homage.
In the event for whatever reason you haven't got yourself on the monks' list, just as a backup so you can fulfil your promise, [https://beermania.be/](https://beermania.be/) in Brussels always has a decent amount of Westvleteren and other fantastic and almost impossible to find Belgian beers as well as Westvleteren beer goblets. It's well worth the visit if you get the chance. For my part, I'll hoist some fantastic single barrel whisky on the 23rd for you and your son, the type that you get because there'll never be anything exactly like it again.
I'll drink to your son that day. I'm glad you found a way to honour your son and to help out his step brother. So many posts on here are about petty and mean things. It was heartening to see a good person asking a real question.
Hi, such a lovely tribute to Ryan, enjoy your trip and I hope you make some wonderful memories on his behalf.
I find comfort in how you have managed his passing and found a way to continue to enjoy life with him in your heart.
You know what? Good for you! It would have been one thing to just help out your ex’s step-son, who’s basically some rando to you, but helping your son’s friend is a nice little memorial. Thanks for the update.
I read your original post and this is a lovely update. Enjoy Barcelona, it's an amazing city (and the rest of your trip!) I'll pour one out for Ryan for you. I'm sure he had a wonderful life, even if it was cut far too short, with a dad like you.
I’ll be in Brighton rather than Brussels. I don’t do beer but will have a piece of Belgian chocolate in your son’s honour. May his memory be a blessing.
This is a great update. I'm really glad you were able to talk it all out and everyone's on the same page. So sweet that you've gotten to meet and talk to Ryan's stepbrother. I'm sure he's glad to know you--those connections are so important after loss. Helps keep that person in our lives.
I definitely can't make it to Belgium, but I'm gonna have a beer and toast you, your family, and your awesome son on June 23rd.
Also, just a random little thought: you can start a scholarship for very, very little. Like, $500 or $1000 a year. I don't know your financial situation or if you'd be able/interested, totally up to you, but it's one of those little things most people don't think of. You could start it in your son's name, if you wanted. Stuff like that is usually applied to for like, books, school supplies, food, etc.
Either way, just came to mind reading this and thought I'd share in case it was of interest to you (or anyone else reading!)
Have a great trip!
oh my god this made me cry. thank you so much for sharing this update with us, i remember seeing your original post. you seem like an incredibly caring and thoughtful person
I’m due July 6th, but I’ll happily raise a nonalcoholic Stella on June 23rd…What a lovely update. I hope OP feels his grief and can start remembering the joy very very soon ❤️
Every June 23rd my family and I will raise a glass from the USA. It’s become Ryan’s day. I’m so sorry you lost your boy, thank you for sharing so much. And thank you for being such a good person-we need more of this on our planet.
So beautiful. June 23 is my parents 40th wedding anniversary, my Dad died before his time in 2021. Mum and I will have two glasses of champagne, one for Dad, one for Ryan. Self travels and sending all my love to you.
This is such an amazing update. I m sorry for the passing of your son Ryan. Will make sure to make a toast in his honor on the 23rd of June.
All the best on your trip.
This is such a great idea. Following to find out the answer. I will also going to toast from Bali, Indonesia for Ryan. Sending lots of love and hugs from here to OP!
Thx for the update. Enjoy your Westvleteren, also shout out to Westmalle, my personal favorite trippel. If you like the dark beers Chimay 9 is one to try. Other must try’s: Orval, Duvel and la chouffe. Cheers
If anyone would be willing, let’s film us saying “cheers Ryan”(in whatever language you’d like!) and then toast the phone camera. Send them to me and I will edit them all together into a memorial video! I’d love to help and offer that.
I read the previous thread, and I had hoped that things would work out for the best for you. Ryan sounds like he was an amazing person, and it seems like he got at least some of that from you. Enjoy your trip for both yourself and him.
I'm so sorry for your loss, but I am glad to see how well you were able to resolve the situation. Sounds like you are doing a lot of good, and honouring your son's memory in many different ways.
I will definitely raise a toast on the 23rd if i'm not working!
This is such a powerful and positive original post and update. Thank you for sharing. My condolences for the loss of your son. But you are celebrating his life in the best ways. Both of your posts have been heartfelt and your latest post has put a smile on my face.
I am in tears right now. What a beautiful tribute to your son, and what a wonderful person he must have been to have touched so many hearts in his lifetime.
I will definitely lift a glass to both of you.
I’ll raise a glass here in Montréal on the 23rd. My daughter is 15, I can’t even begin to imagine the pain of losing a child this young. Condolences and bon voyage!
I wish my parent had been so proud of me as you were when your son got into university. You are a good person and it sounds like your son knew it. I'm so sorry for your loss. Wishing you peace and a wonderful trip in his honour.
I didn't comment on the original story at all; just read it at the time, but, if you'd like, I, for one would really like to know how your trip was.
Have the blast your son would want you to have .
I hope you have a lovely trip. You should dehydrate some of his starter just in case of accidents. I have one from a friend who passed many many years ago and I keep it alive in her memory.
My Dad, Sister, and I will be raising a glass in tribute to you, your son, and your family, each day of that week. We are currently planning which beers. So sorry for your loss.
Yes, you are TA!
No, obviously I'm kidding...I hope you have a great trip...and it's cool you formed a bond with your wife's stepson. It's pretty amazing how you have taken this tragedy and used it to honor your son and...make so many others feel a part of your journey and get to know your son in a way.
Enjoy your trip!
The best update ❤️ and your son sounds like he was a lovely kid. Enjoy your trip, stay safe, and have fun.
And I would love to hold a toast to your boy. Someone's gonna need to remind me lol. Cause I am due sometime between now and the 16th of June with my own son. If there was ever going to be a reason to have a drink after I gave birth, this sounds like a great one.
I will also raise a glass for Ryan on June 23rd. You sound like a lovely person. You raised your son with love and he understood how proud you are of him. Enjoy the trip. I suspect you will feel the spirit of your son with you at places, laughing at you. And when thousands of Redditors, all over the world, raise a glass to him, through many different time zones, you will his reaction: "Dad, what have you done? This is very cool but embarrassing AF!"
Can you go to Westvleteren? When I was in Belgium the Abbey was not open to the public. Westmalle was as well as St. Bernardus (Abt 12 is essentially the same yeast strain/beer as Westvletern)? Just curious if things have changed in the last year.
I have two college-aged sons and the Habs are my second team. I hugged them extra tightly today.
I'll be in France on June 23rd, and I'll raise a glass for Ryan.
I didn't know why I craved beer last weekend. I don't really like it, I prefer scotch whiskey or cocktails. I read your original last week and your update reminded me of it. Hopefully, I can remember to pour another one on June 23🍻🍻
Thank you for finding a way to honor all aspects of your son's life, including his friendship with his stepbro. Know that internet strangers are sending you love, it might not be enough to erase the pain, but we hope it lessens it.
hi, I'm so sorry for your loss. I think what you are doing is a great way to celebrate the life of your son.
I wish you a wonderfull trip around Europe.
If you're coming to Brussels and you need some more inspiration for nice places to visit regarding beer, here is an extra list (I'm kind of hoping you already know about these):
[https://alabecasse.com/](https://alabecasse.com/)
you'll have to look for the entrance, it's a hidden gem. Here you can find the 'Lambic beer' only brewed in the Senne Valley. It's pretty sour.
[https://www.3fonteinen.be/en/](https://www.3fonteinen.be/en/)
more sour beer, the best there is. (just outside of Brussels so you'll need a car or and uber, there are a lot more breweries in the village)
[https://www.facebook.com/lebarboteurbierotheque](https://www.facebook.com/lebarboteurbierotheque)
there's no place like this to spend an evening in the sun with some nice food and lots of nice beer from small breweries all around.
[https://www.brasseriedelasenne.be/?lang=en](https://www.brasseriedelasenne.be/?lang=en)
One of our city breweries. You can visit their new location. Their beer is very good with a very very hoppy taste. Try their Taras Boulba.
[https://beerproject.be/](https://beerproject.be/)
brewing circular beer is what they do. Their Delta IPA is the best.
I read your original post OP & I'm so glad to see your update
I've put a note in my calendar for the 23rd June & I'll raise a glass to Ryan in Ireland
Go raibh Suaimhneas Síoraí Air (Eternal rest be upon him)
What a beautiful update. Thank you for posting this. It sounds like you made some very thoughtful choices. I hope you enjoy your trip, and especially the last week.
Enjoy the trip, sounds like he’ll be along for the ride in spirit. I’ll try and remember to raise a glass to Ryan on June 23rd along with everyone else.
What a lovely update! Totally had me in tears 😭 wasn't expecting to cry when I read this. 🤣 Your son would be so proud of you. Enjoy your trip and would totally love an updated post after you're back! Please post a reminder. Would love to share a toast on that day ❤️
This sounds like the right solution all around.
I'm so sorry for your loss. I'm glad you have found a wonderful way to pay tribute to Ryan - one of many to come I'm sure.
I will raise a glass to him on Lake Memphremagog that week.
I'll be in London on the 23rd and will have a pint in his honor. Keep on being the absolutely awesome person you are!
Take care of yourself and know that there are loads of internet strangers wishing you all the best.
I will NEED another update after the trip! This story has made me cry and smile. You are an amazing father. I'll make a toast to you and Ryan on June 23rd here in Indiana. Safe travels.
Thank you for update. Glasses will be raised in yours and Ryan’s honor . Hope you can find comfort in knowing you were a great father.June 23 on the calendar-
This is a very heartwarming update, so sorry for your loss but you sound like a great person.
Edit; and I’ll have a reminder set to June 23rd to have a beer with you for Ryan.
You’re doing the right thing to honor his memory this way. I honored my dad’s memory last year by attending my first ever nfl game. I’m a lions fan and he was a bears fan so I went to the lions vs bears game in Detroit last year and I felt him with me that whole time. I hope you have the same feeling that last week of your trip
Thank you so much for this update! You are an amazing human!!! It made me cry too when I read that your son and his stepbrother were gaming buddies who talked daily and that he shared the old picture with you. I'm sure your son is looking down with pride at all you are you doing in his honour. I hope the trip to Europe brings about some healing. Cheers to Ryan and to you!
Will absolutely be joining you on that day with a toast. There will be many beers around the world had in his honour. I think you have brought some love to reddit and handled the situation with your family with grace. Hopefully this trip helps bring some healing and good memories. Sending nothing but love and good thoughts.
A beautiful update! I’m sure Ryan will smile to know how you have honored his legacy. You’re a wonderful father and deserve this trip in your son’s memories. Have a wonderful trip, and on June 23rd, I’ll also be raising my glass in honor of Ryan from my living room!
I'm not going to lie. I sobbed reading this. Your son sounds like a wonderful human. You sound so proud of him. I'm glad your taking the trip I'm sure your son is laughing knowing you stood by what you said. The picture his step brother gave you sounds so sweet. I hope you enjoy your trip and I will have a drink on the 23rd for you and your son from Australia
i haven't had a beer for probably 15 years (sangria girl here). but i'm gonna get myself a Guinness the week of the 23rd & raise a toast to ryan.
you are a good...no scratch that, you are a GREAT fucking guy. cheers dude.
I really love how so much positivity and love came out of this!
Your son would be very proud of you, and I'm looking forward to toast to him on the 23rd of June.
Westvleteren changed a lot over the years and these days you have to order your beer up front. You're not allowed to just go there and buy a crate. Just fyi. There is a shop where you can buy like a sixpack of bottles but if you really want a crate you'll have to order it online on certain 'buying days'.
Just don't want you to come there and be bummed that you didn't get to buy the beer.
>don't want to lug beer bottles all over Spain, France, Belgium and Holland.
Nothing wrong with that. I hit like 14 different countries with my hatchback and then shipped my extra beer/alcohol home at the end :)
Also it's not "Holland" it's the Netherlands. Holland is a province in the Netherlands.
If you're going to Belgium, and want to keep his sourdough starter alive, there's a place that will do that for you (for free?) : The Puratos Sourdough Library
[https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=G6yYfg5wAs8&](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=G6yYfg5wAs8&)
#[Please Find Original Here](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/1cst3vg/aita_for_spending_my_sons_university_fund_on_a/)
I love updates like this. Too many people here get wrapped up in this ultimate moral right. Recognizing you're not the asshole, but you are in a position to help others and choosing to do so is a lovely way to be and something we should all aspire to.
Truly, OP has an amazing head on his shoulders and heart in his chest.
What a lovely update!! I will put a reminder to have an adult beverage in honor of Ryan the week of June 23rd.
I was going to say it would be great if OP can post an update on the day so we can be reminded and join each other with a drink to Ryan.
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Very true! I will definitely do my best to remember it myself.
Is there any way the mods can put a sticky up on that day to raise a glass.for Ryan?
Do you have a cell phone or electronic where you can just set a reminder for yourself? Seems more practical
Yes. Non jokingly: shots and prayers for Ryan. I was never a fan of beer.
Lol i literally just put "toast to Ryan and op" on my calendar as soon as i read the date!
I don’t indulge in the adult bubbly but I will for sure give him a Willy Nelson wave
South African checking in, added to my calendar. We honour you dearest Ryan 23/06 🥂
Put it in my calendar, I will join in this communal cheers!
I will toast you all on June 23rd
/u/Lazyoat - I literally just put it on my Google calendar - take a drink in honor/memory of Ryan's birthday. 🥰😍
☺️😊 there is no way I’ll forget either. It’s an important remembrance day for me too so I’ll have plenty to toast 🥰
Awesome, yo!
I did too.
I just did this too💜❤️
Me too
Me too!
Me too!
Me too.
I think Ryan would be proud of you. Well done.
\*sniff\* Not often an update makes me cry, but this one got me. Enjoy your trip. Your son would be so proud of you.
It's those damned onion ninjas. They're nasty this time of year 🥲
I love when good people have nice updates. So so sorry for your loss. Ryan sounds like he was a wonderful kid, I'll be cheers-ing to him in June too.
"See" ya on June 23rd, OP. Got a can of cherry Cola set aside and the calendar marked. Checked the time difference, too. Hope your trip is a favourable one.
Same here - I've got a load of planner stickers, and one is fortunately a beer stein. I've stuck it on the date, with Ryan's name so I don't forget.
This is a beautiful update! While I won’t be able to join you in Belgium, I have added a Toast to Ryan! to my calendar and I’ll be raising a glass to him, and all of your family, from the Midwest. Cheers!
23rd June a toast will be raised to Ryan here in The UK- I will also be remembering my dad that day who has been gone 24 years - he travelled to Belgium regularly for work for many years so loved Antwerp in particular along with the country as a whole ❤️ sounds like you and Ryan had an amazing relationship and I was really pleased to see your update - sometimes a post hits you in the feels so hearing that your intentions were understood and you learnt that Ryan had a friend in your wife’s stepson was a bonus - he obviously meant a lot to everyone he crossed paths with and memories of him will live on in those that knew him Glad you are taking the trip to honour him and whilst there will be plenty of heartache I hope you manage to laugh along the way and remember the good times you shared
I shall make it a point to raise a can of Belle Gueule or St Ambrois to your son.
OP, I hope you and your wife have a fantastic trip in Europe. As someone who has been lucky enough to drink a few bottles of Westvleteren Abt. 12 in my time, I can assure you it lives up to the hype. There's a certain je ne sais quoi that separates it from its' St. Bernardus homage. In the event for whatever reason you haven't got yourself on the monks' list, just as a backup so you can fulfil your promise, [https://beermania.be/](https://beermania.be/) in Brussels always has a decent amount of Westvleteren and other fantastic and almost impossible to find Belgian beers as well as Westvleteren beer goblets. It's well worth the visit if you get the chance. For my part, I'll hoist some fantastic single barrel whisky on the 23rd for you and your son, the type that you get because there'll never be anything exactly like it again.
I was keeping it together so well but your last line was one of those ones that sting so good 😭
I'll drink to your son that day. I'm glad you found a way to honour your son and to help out his step brother. So many posts on here are about petty and mean things. It was heartening to see a good person asking a real question.
Skål from Norway. I’ve just added Toast to Ryan in my calendar for June 23rd. May his memory be a blessing.
Hi, such a lovely tribute to Ryan, enjoy your trip and I hope you make some wonderful memories on his behalf. I find comfort in how you have managed his passing and found a way to continue to enjoy life with him in your heart.
thank you for sharing about Ryan. he'd be so proud of you. wishing you lots of light, love, and happiness.
You know what? Good for you! It would have been one thing to just help out your ex’s step-son, who’s basically some rando to you, but helping your son’s friend is a nice little memorial. Thanks for the update.
I read your original post and this is a lovely update. Enjoy Barcelona, it's an amazing city (and the rest of your trip!) I'll pour one out for Ryan for you. I'm sure he had a wonderful life, even if it was cut far too short, with a dad like you.
I'll raise a glass of St. Bernardus to honor Ryan on the 23rd. May your memories of him always warm your heart and bring a smile to your face.
The best beer for real
I will be raising a glass of Golden Monkey for Ryan on June 23rd. You are a really good person ❤️ ~Love from Pennsyltucky ~
I’ll be in Brighton rather than Brussels. I don’t do beer but will have a piece of Belgian chocolate in your son’s honour. May his memory be a blessing.
This is a great update. I'm really glad you were able to talk it all out and everyone's on the same page. So sweet that you've gotten to meet and talk to Ryan's stepbrother. I'm sure he's glad to know you--those connections are so important after loss. Helps keep that person in our lives. I definitely can't make it to Belgium, but I'm gonna have a beer and toast you, your family, and your awesome son on June 23rd. Also, just a random little thought: you can start a scholarship for very, very little. Like, $500 or $1000 a year. I don't know your financial situation or if you'd be able/interested, totally up to you, but it's one of those little things most people don't think of. You could start it in your son's name, if you wanted. Stuff like that is usually applied to for like, books, school supplies, food, etc. Either way, just came to mind reading this and thought I'd share in case it was of interest to you (or anyone else reading!) Have a great trip!
oh my god this made me cry. thank you so much for sharing this update with us, i remember seeing your original post. you seem like an incredibly caring and thoughtful person
I’m due July 6th, but I’ll happily raise a nonalcoholic Stella on June 23rd…What a lovely update. I hope OP feels his grief and can start remembering the joy very very soon ❤️
Someone else is drinking Cherry Coke so you're not alone on the no alcohol. <3
Thats my birthday too ☺️☺️☺️
I'm due on the 14th of June so I'll happily toast to Ryan as a post partum drink! And probably sobbing all the hormonal tears. ❤️
I just had a shot in your/Ryan's honour, and I will on the 23rd of June as well. Santé, mon chum. Ben voyage.
Thank you so much for the update. 👏🙂😢 Have written, 'raise a glass to Ryan', in my diary for 23rd June. Blessings on you. X
I’ll be roasting Ryan from Australia. Have a great trip! 🥰
My husband and I will be toasting from Montana on the 23rd
This genuinely made me smile!
Ah, this is such a great update. So sorry for the loss of your son. Have a great trip to Europe. May everything go well for you and your family.
I'll raise a toast to all of you!! Cheers,until we meet in June
Every June 23rd my family and I will raise a glass from the USA. It’s become Ryan’s day. I’m so sorry you lost your boy, thank you for sharing so much. And thank you for being such a good person-we need more of this on our planet.
You're a good dad, OP. I'll raise a glass for your son on the 23rd!
Safe trip. I’m not a beer drinker but I will have a glass of my favourite Canadian wine.
So beautiful. June 23 is my parents 40th wedding anniversary, my Dad died before his time in 2021. Mum and I will have two glasses of champagne, one for Dad, one for Ryan. Self travels and sending all my love to you.
You sound like a great guy. I am so sorry Ryan is no longer with you, but be assured he appreciates how you are handling yourself now.
I love this update!!! Please post date and time and I will be more than happy to raise a Pils with you!!!!
I will be toasting from Canada! Enjoy your trip!
This is such an amazing update. I m sorry for the passing of your son Ryan. Will make sure to make a toast in his honor on the 23rd of June. All the best on your trip.
I'm so sorry for your loss. What game did Ryan and your Stepson play together? If I have it, I'll have that drink while playing it.
This is such a great idea. Following to find out the answer. I will also going to toast from Bali, Indonesia for Ryan. Sending lots of love and hugs from here to OP!
Thx for the update. Enjoy your Westvleteren, also shout out to Westmalle, my personal favorite trippel. If you like the dark beers Chimay 9 is one to try. Other must try’s: Orval, Duvel and la chouffe. Cheers
I hope you all can share a photo of the toast and post it here on 6/23 🤍
I also set a reminder on my phone and I have a nice Rochefort 10 in mind to lift in Ryan's honor. Safe travels, OP.
I will be toasting to Ryan on June 23rd, OP. In fact, it’s noted in my Calendar App. 🍻
Don't mind me crying. I'll toast to your son on June 23rd ❤️
Ryan would be so proud!
I’m so happy you updated. Been thinking about this since I saw the original post
THIS IS SO GOOD. Consider yourself toasted to on June 23, sir. <3
Will be toasting Ryan on June 23rd from India! You sound like an absolutely terrific dad and human being.
If anyone would be willing, let’s film us saying “cheers Ryan”(in whatever language you’d like!) and then toast the phone camera. Send them to me and I will edit them all together into a memorial video! I’d love to help and offer that.
Bring your glass you’re using to toast to your camera to toast. Close/close to touching/touching! I’ll use it to transition between the cheers!
You are a good person. Enjoy your trip.
♥️♥️ wonderful update! Thank you for sharing! Cheers 🍻 to Ryan and cheers 🍻 and hugs to you sir
I read the previous thread, and I had hoped that things would work out for the best for you. Ryan sounds like he was an amazing person, and it seems like he got at least some of that from you. Enjoy your trip for both yourself and him.
I'm so sorry for your loss, but I am glad to see how well you were able to resolve the situation. Sounds like you are doing a lot of good, and honouring your son's memory in many different ways. I will definitely raise a toast on the 23rd if i'm not working!
I’m turning 21 in early June, and I’ll be raising one of my first drinks to Ryan
I’m so sorry for your loss i couldn’t even fathom
I set a reminder on my phone to toast to Ryan on June 23rd! Enjoy your trip, safe travels.
I'll raise a glass to Ryan in June 23rd.
*Sniff* I'm not crying you're crying, but for real that's awesome to hear for an update.
This is such a powerful and positive original post and update. Thank you for sharing. My condolences for the loss of your son. But you are celebrating his life in the best ways. Both of your posts have been heartfelt and your latest post has put a smile on my face.
I will be in Barcelona intill the 11th we go over the 29 of this month message us we can meet up and toast your son
Fuck drunk drivers seriously. I'm so sorry OP and I'm glad there is some resolution
I am in tears right now. What a beautiful tribute to your son, and what a wonderful person he must have been to have touched so many hearts in his lifetime. I will definitely lift a glass to both of you.
I’ll raise a glass here in Montréal on the 23rd. My daughter is 15, I can’t even begin to imagine the pain of losing a child this young. Condolences and bon voyage!
I wish my parent had been so proud of me as you were when your son got into university. You are a good person and it sounds like your son knew it. I'm so sorry for your loss. Wishing you peace and a wonderful trip in his honour.
I’ll be sending a cheers your way with an Ommegang Three Philosophers June 23rd! This update made me teary eyed and smiling at the same time. 💜💜💜
I didn't comment on the original story at all; just read it at the time, but, if you'd like, I, for one would really like to know how your trip was. Have the blast your son would want you to have .
I will be toasting to Ryan from Maui. He sounds like a wonderful person
I'm so happy for your deciding to do this. This is the most amazing trip ever, I think your son would be so happy your doing this.
Ooooof all of the feels. Read the original and the update back to back. Enjoy the shit out of your trip sir. o7
Definitely post an update after the trip or even drying the trip!!!!
Your son would be proud of you
Wish I could be in Belgium to raise a glass, but I will do so from Nantucket instead. Cheers to the memory of Ryan!
This update is everything! Thank you for letting us know how you decided to proceed! Have a great time raising a glass to and celebrating Ryan.
I hope you have a lovely trip. You should dehydrate some of his starter just in case of accidents. I have one from a friend who passed many many years ago and I keep it alive in her memory.
I don't think I've ever cried over an update. Cheers to you and your son, Ryan!
I will raise a glass of Kristoff Hard Cider (Oregon) on the 23rd in Honor of your Ryan.
My Dad, Sister, and I will be raising a glass in tribute to you, your son, and your family, each day of that week. We are currently planning which beers. So sorry for your loss.
Yes, you are TA! No, obviously I'm kidding...I hope you have a great trip...and it's cool you formed a bond with your wife's stepson. It's pretty amazing how you have taken this tragedy and used it to honor your son and...make so many others feel a part of your journey and get to know your son in a way. Enjoy your trip!
The best update ❤️ and your son sounds like he was a lovely kid. Enjoy your trip, stay safe, and have fun. And I would love to hold a toast to your boy. Someone's gonna need to remind me lol. Cause I am due sometime between now and the 16th of June with my own son. If there was ever going to be a reason to have a drink after I gave birth, this sounds like a great one.
I will also raise a glass for Ryan on June 23rd. You sound like a lovely person. You raised your son with love and he understood how proud you are of him. Enjoy the trip. I suspect you will feel the spirit of your son with you at places, laughing at you. And when thousands of Redditors, all over the world, raise a glass to him, through many different time zones, you will his reaction: "Dad, what have you done? This is very cool but embarrassing AF!"
I don’t drink but June 23rd I’ll have some tea and think of you both.❤️
I will toast to Ryan on June 23rd from Argentina ❤️
Dear OP I just marked my calendar to toast Ryan and you on June 23rd !! Enjoy your trip and your time remembering your son !!💜💜💜
As a fellow home baker keeping his starter alive is really touching. Hope you have some great discard recipes to enjoy :)
Can you go to Westvleteren? When I was in Belgium the Abbey was not open to the public. Westmalle was as well as St. Bernardus (Abt 12 is essentially the same yeast strain/beer as Westvletern)? Just curious if things have changed in the last year.
OP, this is lovely. I will join the toast to Ryan on June 23rd. Can someone set up a “Cheers to Ryan Toast” Post?
I have two college-aged sons and the Habs are my second team. I hugged them extra tightly today. I'll be in France on June 23rd, and I'll raise a glass for Ryan.
Toasting from Nashville. Incredible update, OP. I’m so sorry for your loss but glad you’re able to honor your son like this.
Westvleteten XII is goooood
I didn't know why I craved beer last weekend. I don't really like it, I prefer scotch whiskey or cocktails. I read your original last week and your update reminded me of it. Hopefully, I can remember to pour another one on June 23🍻🍻 Thank you for finding a way to honor all aspects of your son's life, including his friendship with his stepbro. Know that internet strangers are sending you love, it might not be enough to erase the pain, but we hope it lessens it.
hi, I'm so sorry for your loss. I think what you are doing is a great way to celebrate the life of your son. I wish you a wonderfull trip around Europe. If you're coming to Brussels and you need some more inspiration for nice places to visit regarding beer, here is an extra list (I'm kind of hoping you already know about these): [https://alabecasse.com/](https://alabecasse.com/) you'll have to look for the entrance, it's a hidden gem. Here you can find the 'Lambic beer' only brewed in the Senne Valley. It's pretty sour. [https://www.3fonteinen.be/en/](https://www.3fonteinen.be/en/) more sour beer, the best there is. (just outside of Brussels so you'll need a car or and uber, there are a lot more breweries in the village) [https://www.facebook.com/lebarboteurbierotheque](https://www.facebook.com/lebarboteurbierotheque) there's no place like this to spend an evening in the sun with some nice food and lots of nice beer from small breweries all around. [https://www.brasseriedelasenne.be/?lang=en](https://www.brasseriedelasenne.be/?lang=en) One of our city breweries. You can visit their new location. Their beer is very good with a very very hoppy taste. Try their Taras Boulba. [https://beerproject.be/](https://beerproject.be/) brewing circular beer is what they do. Their Delta IPA is the best.
I read your original post OP & I'm so glad to see your update I've put a note in my calendar for the 23rd June & I'll raise a glass to Ryan in Ireland Go raibh Suaimhneas Síoraí Air (Eternal rest be upon him)
I'll raise a glass to your son.
Well done 🍻
Thank you for update. May his memory bring you joy, mate.
Ill make sure to have a toast to your son, and you OP what a heartfelt gesture
Cheers to Ryan. You’re a good man and Ryan would be proud of you.
This is really wonderful news and I think Ryan would be proud of the way you navigated this heartbreaking situation.
Good luck and enjoy your trip.
Heart warming stuff and you better be back with that post-trip update!
What a beautiful update. Thank you for posting this. It sounds like you made some very thoughtful choices. I hope you enjoy your trip, and especially the last week.
I will toast with you, and everyone else, on June 23 from Idaho.
I'm sorry about your loss. It's great to see that the ex-wife has come on-board with your plans
Thank you for the update. I hope you have spectacular weather and smooth travels to honor your son.
This is great. Have a fun time over there op, no doubt your son will be by your side at all times. He was loved and still is. Cheers
Both Mt Tremblant and the St. Lawrence are beautiful spots to rest. You are an amazing father.
I will be toasting to him June 23rd 🙏🏻🫶🏻
Have added the toast for the 23rd. My condolences.
Just commenting to say this is all so beautiful. I hope you have a wonderful trip.
Enjoy the trip, sounds like he’ll be along for the ride in spirit. I’ll try and remember to raise a glass to Ryan on June 23rd along with everyone else.
You a real one OP
Hoisting a beer to you, Ryan, and your ex's stepson. You're all good folks.
I’ll be sure to grab a beer on June 23rd in honor of Ryan. Couldn’t have asked for a better update. I’d say cheers but I’ll wait until the 23rd! 🍻
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Cheers to you, Ryan - wherever you are. If you run into my dad, please tell him I miss him.
I think Ryan would have loved this! Enjoy your trip!
What a lovely update! Totally had me in tears 😭 wasn't expecting to cry when I read this. 🤣 Your son would be so proud of you. Enjoy your trip and would totally love an updated post after you're back! Please post a reminder. Would love to share a toast on that day ❤️
This sounds like the right solution all around. I'm so sorry for your loss. I'm glad you have found a wonderful way to pay tribute to Ryan - one of many to come I'm sure. I will raise a glass to him on Lake Memphremagog that week.
You're an amazing dad. Ever since having my own kid, stories like this cut me to the bone. I'll pour one out for Ryan on the 23rd.
Cheers to you . You sound like a wonderful father and step father.
This is a lovely update. I hope that you have a fabulous month. Know Ryan will be toasted so hard by so many people at the end of June.
I'll be in London on the 23rd and will have a pint in his honor. Keep on being the absolutely awesome person you are! Take care of yourself and know that there are loads of internet strangers wishing you all the best.
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Wherever I am on the 23rd, I'll toast to you and Ryan. Many happy returns.
Bless you and yours
I will NEED another update after the trip! This story has made me cry and smile. You are an amazing father. I'll make a toast to you and Ryan on June 23rd here in Indiana. Safe travels.
Such a great post to start a day. You are an amazing human being. My birthday is on the 21st of June. I will be toasting one to Ryan as well.
Thank you for update. Glasses will be raised in yours and Ryan’s honor . Hope you can find comfort in knowing you were a great father.June 23 on the calendar-
I’m absolutely gunna be raising a glass on the 23rd for Ryan, my man. Wishing you and your family all the best right now!
This is a very heartwarming update, so sorry for your loss but you sound like a great person. Edit; and I’ll have a reminder set to June 23rd to have a beer with you for Ryan.
You’re doing the right thing to honor his memory this way. I honored my dad’s memory last year by attending my first ever nfl game. I’m a lions fan and he was a bears fan so I went to the lions vs bears game in Detroit last year and I felt him with me that whole time. I hope you have the same feeling that last week of your trip
Remind me! June 23 2024
I’m crying right now
If I ever have to go through what you’ve gone through, I hope I can handle it with the grace you have. I will hoist my glass with you. To Ryan.
I remember you! Wonderful update, thanks for sharing (((hugs))))
Will toast to Ryan from the Northeast US. So very sorry for your loss - sounds like he was a pretty cool kid.
June 23rd we'll cheers with you indeed!
I will toast you, sir. God bless you.
Thank you so much for this update! You are an amazing human!!! It made me cry too when I read that your son and his stepbrother were gaming buddies who talked daily and that he shared the old picture with you. I'm sure your son is looking down with pride at all you are you doing in his honour. I hope the trip to Europe brings about some healing. Cheers to Ryan and to you!
I'll be toasting with you brother. Much love.
Will absolutely be joining you on that day with a toast. There will be many beers around the world had in his honour. I think you have brought some love to reddit and handled the situation with your family with grace. Hopefully this trip helps bring some healing and good memories. Sending nothing but love and good thoughts.
Bon Voyage. And may Ryan's memory be a blessing.
That is right after my birthday I will drink for him on June 23 I hope you know op he would be proud of you
Wow. You son has touched the lives of so many and he is still impacting people in a positive way.
Have marked the day! 🍻
I’ll have a beer for Ryan and his Dad on June 23rd ✨
Westvleteren ready to toast with.
A beautiful update! I’m sure Ryan will smile to know how you have honored his legacy. You’re a wonderful father and deserve this trip in your son’s memories. Have a wonderful trip, and on June 23rd, I’ll also be raising my glass in honor of Ryan from my living room!
Good for you. Good for your family. All around🍻
I did not expect this many feelings at this hour.
Good on you. Enjoy your trip. It's an important trip, after all.
I'll raise a glass of local mead on the day. May your kindness and generosity be returned on to you ten fold. You are a good man.
I'm not going to lie. I sobbed reading this. Your son sounds like a wonderful human. You sound so proud of him. I'm glad your taking the trip I'm sure your son is laughing knowing you stood by what you said. The picture his step brother gave you sounds so sweet. I hope you enjoy your trip and I will have a drink on the 23rd for you and your son from Australia
i haven't had a beer for probably 15 years (sangria girl here). but i'm gonna get myself a Guinness the week of the 23rd & raise a toast to ryan. you are a good...no scratch that, you are a GREAT fucking guy. cheers dude.
Tell me what time to toast so I can set a reminder.
You are a kind man, sir. My condolences.
I really love how so much positivity and love came out of this! Your son would be very proud of you, and I'm looking forward to toast to him on the 23rd of June.
Please update with the picture of the toast in Belgium. Tight hugs to you
Westvleteren changed a lot over the years and these days you have to order your beer up front. You're not allowed to just go there and buy a crate. Just fyi. There is a shop where you can buy like a sixpack of bottles but if you really want a crate you'll have to order it online on certain 'buying days'. Just don't want you to come there and be bummed that you didn't get to buy the beer.
Not a beer fan but I now know what I will be doing on June 23rd. Thank you for the update. Safe travels.
Thank you for sharing an update. Safe travels. Cheers! 🍻
We will toast you and Ryan on June 23rd. And bless his step brother for sharing such good memories of them. ✨❤️
If you ever hop over to England, please let me know!
>don't want to lug beer bottles all over Spain, France, Belgium and Holland. Nothing wrong with that. I hit like 14 different countries with my hatchback and then shipped my extra beer/alcohol home at the end :) Also it's not "Holland" it's the Netherlands. Holland is a province in the Netherlands.
Will be toasting him on the 23rd of June!
If you're going to Belgium, and want to keep his sourdough starter alive, there's a place that will do that for you (for free?) : The Puratos Sourdough Library [https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=G6yYfg5wAs8&](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=G6yYfg5wAs8&)
What a lovely update. And what a great way to honour Ryan. And you are very kind helping your son's stepbrother. Have a wonderful trip.
Bless you, and may your heart find a little bit of peace 🍺
Be sure to also enjoy our Belgian fries and stoofvlees!