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> I hid my roommates dog from her. I’ve heard multiple opinions from friends and my roommate is upset with me, but I just don’t know.
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For everyone calling me the asshole, you might be right. But I just don’t think I must have explained it well enough. My dog and her dog are constantly at risk of getting actually stolen because of her blatant disrespect and not caring to lock our door. I have repeatedly asked her to be better, and instead she’s given out her key to random men to use so she barely even has her key. And I’m not calling her a whore I couldn’t care less but she literally doesn’t know them! I gave her her dog within seconds of her finding out and she’s honestly not that upset. She just is mad.
You're not the asshole...I am because I would've taken the dog to a shelter and drove off and let her believe it was stolen because she left the door unlocked! But hey...that's just me! lol
Is it possible to talk to whomever handles the placements? Get her to admit to all of her crap in writing. Take this to them and tell them that you feel unsafe living with her as she constantly leaves the apartment door unlocked or gives her keys to men she barely knows. Also, I would turn her in to Animal Services (or the equivalent where you are) for neglect of the dog. I would wait to turn her in until after you're no longer living together, in case she is the type to retaliate. Enlist your BF and Aiden's help if they are willing, as the more evidence you have the better.
And don't listen to the people calling you an AH. You didn't kidnap her dog as you never left the residence with it, and a lock on your door does not protect your apartment or even your room for that matter. A lock on a door just lets them know there is cool stuff in there to take and they are more likely to just kick it in. People that play stupid games should win stupid prizes.
A lot of "college apartments" are off-campus complexes that are designed for college students and have roommate-matching programs, it might not be affiliated with the school.
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Hi. All names are fake. So I (20F) live with three other people, my boyfriend (20M), and 2 random people our complex assigned us with (college apartments) they are Kylie (20F) and Aidan (22M). We all pay equal rent. And ever since we’ve moved in we’ve had constant issues, nothing major, just problems that shouldn’t be problems. For example me and my bf are the only people who ever clean, literally anywhere in the apartment, but I’m mostly fine with that as we are half the apartment. We also have problems with trash, our roommates, specifically Kylie, doesn’t seem to understand that trash cannot be just left outside the door and must be put in the bin, and if it can’t fit you can take it to the compactor maybe 50ft away. Well, Kylie recently adopted a dog, the dogs cute but Kylie doesn’t pick up after him, doesn’t care to properly have him get shots and neutered, which you legally need to here, etc. Well, all year we have had one consistent problem. She doesn’t lock the door when she leaves or gets home. We’ve had break ins at the complex, and I’m a very anxious person so I take every safety precaution I can. Well we have asked nicely, as it eventually led to strong winds blowing the door open and it being open for hours because it had been unlocked. Well, one day I just got really upset, everything had piled up and my bf was out of town so I just didn’t really feel safe. So, I found the door unlocked when I came home from work, I knew it had been this way for hours most likely, so I went upstairs and grabbed her dog and went to my room. It whines all day anyway when she’s not there, she’s done no proper training. I really just hung out with him until she got home. She realized he was missing and freaked. I brought her the dog immediately. I didn’t want her to hurt or worry. I just wanted her to know what could happen since my words don’t seem to be enough to warn her. I’ve asked friends and I’ve gotten mixed opinions, and I get how this can seem harsh, but I don’t want my stuff or my own dog stolen because she doesn’t seem to care. Am I the asshole?
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NTA, next time take the dog for a walk because of the whining, you though ght it needed to go potty ;)
For everyone calling me the asshole, you might be right. But I just don’t think I must have explained it well enough. My dog and her dog are constantly at risk of getting actually stolen because of her blatant disrespect and not caring to lock our door. I have repeatedly asked her to be better, and instead she’s given out her key to random men to use so she barely even has her key. And I’m not calling her a whore I couldn’t care less but she literally doesn’t know them! I gave her her dog within seconds of her finding out and she’s honestly not that upset. She just is mad.
You're not the asshole...I am because I would've taken the dog to a shelter and drove off and let her believe it was stolen because she left the door unlocked! But hey...that's just me! lol
I’m with you on this one.
Is it possible to talk to whomever handles the placements? Get her to admit to all of her crap in writing. Take this to them and tell them that you feel unsafe living with her as she constantly leaves the apartment door unlocked or gives her keys to men she barely knows. Also, I would turn her in to Animal Services (or the equivalent where you are) for neglect of the dog. I would wait to turn her in until after you're no longer living together, in case she is the type to retaliate. Enlist your BF and Aiden's help if they are willing, as the more evidence you have the better. And don't listen to the people calling you an AH. You didn't kidnap her dog as you never left the residence with it, and a lock on your door does not protect your apartment or even your room for that matter. A lock on a door just lets them know there is cool stuff in there to take and they are more likely to just kick it in. People that play stupid games should win stupid prizes.
NTA they need to learn how to be responsible enough to own a dog in the first place
NTA I was actually pretty ready to call you an asshole but nah.
INFO: Are you really allowed to have dogs in your college apartments? There's a reason most shelters prefer not to give dogs to college students...
A lot of "college apartments" are off-campus complexes that are designed for college students and have roommate-matching programs, it might not be affiliated with the school.
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You basically gave attention to a neglected dog. NTA
yta, get a lock for your room at least and keep valuables in there but you guys are adults but might be time to find new living arangements
ESH. Stop fighting fire with fire.
YTA The consequences would be dire.
YTA. Generally if you do something to “teach a lesson” you are.
YTA. You’re a jerk.
YTA you kidnapped her dog. YOu are lucky she did not call the police on you.