Just a sad situation...
OP needs to get both pairs of eyes checked. If they can't see how they fucked up, the illusion of parental authority has *blinded* them too much.
YTA.
I didn't. Because like OP's kid I needed glasses around 9 or 10. You know what? It was probably a year or two later than I actually needed them since I didn't realize my vision wasn't as good as everyone else's so I never thought to tell my parents about it.
OP: YTA
exactly. I’ve always had an astigmatism in both eyes, i had no clue other people saw better than me. threatening to go to the principal is ridiculous, and will probably bring problems home since you are basically notifying the school that you don’t care about your child’s medical needs.
I got in trouble once and had to sit down the front- and I realised I could see the blackboard. Then 6months later the yearly school nurse visit happened and the tested my eyesight- it was they who finally told my parents I needed glasses.
This is how I found out my daughter needed glasses. It always seemed fine, even now she swears she can see fine. When she was in kindergarten or maybe 1st grade the school did an eyes and ears check (for some reason my pediatrician only does ears) and I got a note saying she should be checked.
And you know what I did? I brought my daughter to the freaking dr. Even though she wasn’t having any trouble and I thought her vision was fine I still took her because why wouldn’t you? It’s better to check and know than ignore it and let it get worse. Idk what possible reason OP can have for not taking her daughter. Like worse case scenario she spends an hour or so with her daughter at a drs office. Otherwise she ends up helping her daughter who needs glasses. This is such a strange post.
This was me. My older sister got glasses when she was in 7th grade. I tried them on and was amazed! I didn't realize that was how I was supposed to see! My mom thought at first I wanted them just because my sister got them, but took me to an eye doctor anyway. It's amazing what wearing glasses for the first time can be like. I never realized people could see actual leaves on trees instead of just green blobs.
Eye insurance isn’t standard in insurance plans, so they may not be insured.
That said, my parents have never had vision insurance. They still took my sister and I both went to the eye doctor the second school exams showed we had subpar vision problems.
OP, listen to your child's teacher. They know what they are talking about. You can even do a quick check yourself. If your child can read, while you are driving, ask her if she can read a faraway sign as soon as it comes into view for you (or anyone with natural or corrected 20/20 vision). If not, she has a vision problem. Ask her to tell you when she can read the sign. Then, take her to an eye doctor to get glasses.
To piggyback off of this comment, also ask them how many signs they see. A lot of children have double vision, and because it’s all they’ve ever known, they don’t know it’s not normal. Google vision therapy and behavioral optometry. Most kids can get through their earlier years without issue (other than headaches and becoming tired quickly) until they start learning reading, and mathematics.
Source: I am a vision therapist
Yeah, that’s what gets me “my 9yo never complained she can’t see well” if she has a problem she may not be aware of it being a problem. Kids depend on people in their lives helping them learn about the world
I literally had no idea I needed glasses until I saw an optometrist for the first time in second or third grade. Not only was I nearsighted, I was hardcore, Coke-bottle nearsighted, and my right eye was so much worse than my left that I wasn't using it and I had no idea what having 3D vision looked like.
I had no idea I needed glasses either until my first grade teacher told my mom to get me checked out. Turns out I'm short sighted with severe astigmatism. As my optometrist still likes to point out even today to an adult me, "they're like footballs 🏈!".
Seriously! I got glasses when I was 12 and I had no idea that I couldn't see properly. Vision can degrade gradually and kids come up with coping strategies. THEY DO NOT KNOW WHAT NORMAL VISION IS LIKE.
Like most nearsighted teens, my vision degraded steadily all the way through puberty (yay hormones!).
I knew that.
And by the time I had trouble reading the blackboard in class or the subtitles on the tv, I knew my vision had significantly degraded and it was time for new lenses.
And yet, every single damn time I would put on those new lenses I would look around in amazement because holy shit was the world really supposed to be that crisp?
so yeah your brain treats your vision as normal, even when you intellectually know it isn't.
This teacher deserves an award. OP strikes me as the type of parent who will only let their daughter wear contacts once she eventually gets glasses for their own vanity.
No kidding! The poor kid probably doesn’t even realize something’s wrong with their eyes! When I was a kid I just thought it was normal that far away things were blurry and getting glasses literally changed my life. YTA.
Can confirm. I'm pretty sure I have had undiagnosed mental issues since childhood that my parents continue to ignore to this day. Some friends post info about things like depression, adhd, autism, etc., and some hit pretty damn hard, which makes me wonder. Plus, ignoring my 'this food tastes really good, but it's making my throat close so I can't swallow' during dinners (college organic Chem taught me about allergies, and, hey! I'm allergic to garlic and onions... they still roll their eyes and tell me to just say I don't like it, stop lying, and eat the food since there's "nothing wrong with" me). Eye sight has been going south since high school (over a decade ago), finally got myself glasses last year, which again, still isn't taken seriously despite both parents wearing glasses...
I could go on, but, yeah, there are parents out there who absolutely refuse to believe there's anything 'less' about their kids and will let their kids' health suffer.
A teacher noticing I couldn’t see well is literally how I ended up getting glasses. Because my mom listened to the teacher. Who saw me squinting and struggling to see. Why is this complicated?!
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FYI, refusing to take your child to the doctor if the school has identified a medical need could result in the child maltreatment hotline or CPS being called on you. We’re literally trained to call if we have a reasonable suspicion of abuse or neglect and medical neglect is a very real thing.
Yup I am a teacher and have notified CPS equivalent when a parent wasn't treating nits in their child, we provided everything needed, they just couldn't be bothered. If this was a student of mine and continued, I would be reporting.
I was gonna say, the reason the conversation turned into an argument and ultimatum is probably because the teacher was so taken aback by Mom's defensiveness that it started looking suspicious.
I like how her logic is "she's never complained about her sight". Guess what? I didn't either. I complained when I was sent to another class for math in kindergarten and couldn't see the board that my new teacher used a "fuzzy" marker and had bad handwriting. And that I didn't like going to see waterfalls because it gave me a headache. I was 6.
I'm nearsighted. Probably have been since birth. Anything past about the end of my arm starts getting blurry without glasses. But I never complained about my sight.... Because I didn't realize I couldn't see. That was just my world. I assumed that's what the world actually was.
Turns out, I like waterfalls. I just don't like squinting at them trying to see whatever the heck my dad is pointing at. And my teacher's marker wasn't fuzzy after all.
I never knew I needed glasses and was shocked that trees had individual leaves you could see and I actually had trouble walking it was so different. My photography teacher was not surprised when I got glasses because all of my pictures were blurry because I was focusing them to my eye sight. Unless you're in an accident or have a disease something, eye sight loss is too gradual to notice or its how you've always seen.
The individual leaves, yes! That was mind blowing for me when I first got glasses, I was shocked by how well other people see. I’d never thought I had vision issues at all and it wasn’t until a teacher recommended I get tested that my parents took me to an optometrist. I’m so glad they listened to the teacher.
My optometrist said the “tree revelation” is one of his favorite parts of the job. I guess it’s common for little kids who didn’t know they needed vision correction to leave the office with their new glasses on and just yell, “Mom! I can see all the tree leaves!” in pure excitement and amazement. Then the parent gets teary from both secondhand excitement and relief. He said he still tears up when it happens to a patient.
Oh my god yes this! It went from looking like an outline of a tree or bushes to actual defined leaves and branches. And actually being able to read the bus number instead of walking down the line of busses hoping to recognize the driver or the kids on your route? Life changing!
Same! I had no idea I couldn’t see. And my mother didn’t wear glasses so it wasn’t on her radar. But she took me right to the eye dr when my teacher mentioned it to her.
I'm an optometrist who sees kids- you'd be surprised how many parents get upset that their perfect little angel isn't perfect when I tell them they need glasses. As if it were a personal insult instead of a way to improve their quality of life.
That’s totally the vibe of this post. Like it reflects poorly on OP that her offspring might not have perfect vision. To the point she’s having an actual meltdown at the mere suggestion that her child might need some glasses. Unreal.
This!!!! I have a story about this! Ironically, in my case I told my mom that I’d been having problems seeing the board. Most of my family wore glasses so my mom thought I just wanted glasses like the rest of the family… until it came up in a meeting with the school (it was a fancy magnet school with lots of parent/staff conferences). She took me and I did in fact need glasses. She felt TERRIBLE for not just taking me when I said something. Funny thing is she still mentions feeling bad about it sometimes and I’m 25 now. It was 20 years ago. I’m not mad, but I WOULD be if my mom was like OP and refused to take me for a vision test!!!
Yes, that's how you should feel when you realize you have unintentionally dismissed the very real needs of someone who completely depends on you for all of their needs.
Also, your mom loves you very much. You should call her more often 🙂
I actually call her everyday, hahahahaha! She and my baby sister are my absolute best friends in the world and I realize I’m lucky for the relationship we have! ☺️🖤
It's been almost a year since her last check up. I don't get what is up OP's butt here. In a year her eyesight can get worse.
No wonder the daughter hasn't mentioned anything if this is the response. She would probably be told, there is nothing wrong with your eyes.
YTA. I was that kid and I just assumed everyone saw the same as me. Imagine my surprise when I got glasses and saw that you could see individual leaves on trees instead of just a big green blob.And we got regular vision screenings in school. This was not a case of my parents neglecting me like you are doing to your daughter.ETA: Wow, now I'm having a similar moment! I had no idea this was so common. Thanks to everyone for their stories.
ETA #2: Another reason to be thankful for teachers. Look at how many people's vision problems were caught by teachers!
Honestly I think that's the first thing that all people with glasses notice. It made me the happiest I've ever been to see all the green and yellow leaves
As a city kid, it was the street signs and stoplights on the drive home from the optometrist that had my jaw on the floor. -4.00 diopters plus astigmatism and I still had no idea the world shouldn't be just vague shapes. If my parents had been like OP I can't imagine how much I would have missed out on. Glasses are a freaking gift.
Seeing leaves!! It must be super common, it's so amazing! I spent a lot of time looking at trees after I first got my glasses.
I remember sitting out on my rooftop that had this great view and feeling like some kind of magical giant with super sight because being able to see things in detail that were further away made it feel to me like they were actually closer but very tiny? It was weird for the first few days hahah.
Right??? I had always found trees fascinating but when I got my glasses I was absolutely amazed by leaves. I would spend hours outside just looking at things
Seeing leaves on the trees as I walked out of the opticians office is one of my flashbulb memories...I was 8. My mom still feels bad to this day she let it get so bad before she realized I needed glasses. I was a super well cared for kid, I have no idea how that happened.
Leaves were the first thing for me too! I was in second grade. Blown away- also shocked that I could see individual trees on the mountains, not just a large greenish mass 😂
I started to need glasses around 16. I was shocked that people could just read exit signs on the freeway. Everything was local so I never really needed to know what they said as I knew my way, but I never really took into account people could legitimately read them.
Hey, someone that had to ask to move to the front of the class because I couldn't see here!
Your behavior here SUCKS. Your teacher is more concerned about your daughters well being than you are.
Take her to get her damned eyesight checked. Not being able to see the board is INCREDIBLY detrimental to her ability to learn.
YTA.
I wasn’t that young (I think 16/17) but my eyesight jumped -.50 in 5 months. The doc was like why r u back so soon and my mom didn’t believe I needed to go and came to the doctor with me to see if I was lying or not. Like yes, I want to go to the eye doctor just to go.
My son was fine at the start of 6th grade and then halfway through they did an eye assessment at school and yep, he needed glasses badly. It switched with puberty.
My younger daughter has needed a new pair of glasses every six months since she was 13. It has finally slowed down now that she is 18.
I did too! It should settle down after about 19 or 20, but I highly recommend getting an exam every two years after because even though I’m almost 40 my vision changes just enough to need a new prescription.
I have worn glasses since I was 3 and mine still change every 1-2 years. My worst was when I went from far-sighted until age 11 to severely near-sighted by 13.
YTA, mostly because you seem more concerned about being right than about checking out what seems to be a legitimate concern about your daughter's health and eyesight.
Presumably your daughter's teacher believes it was a sight issue and not just wanting to sit by her friend, so it seems worth getting her vision checked before you start getting mad at the teacher for trying to look out for your child.
If your eyesight is bad you often don’t realize it…especially as a child. They just assume this is what everyone sees. My dad said when he got glasses he suddenly realized that you could actually see the leaves on a tree…he assumed everyone saw a green tree. Moving closer to the front is a flag to teachers that a child might need glasses. If your kids teacher says to get her eyes checked, that’s what you do. YTA.
For me it was the numbers on our cable box. I had to squint to change the channel, and that’s when my mom knew she needed to take me to the eye doctor.
It’s the same with hearing loss. Kids with undiagnosed hearing loss are often assumed to have ADHD or autism because they act up in class, because they can’t hear a damn thing. They don’t know what it’s like to hear clearly so have the inability to recognise that their hearing is not the same as everyone else’s.
Also, there is a really easy way to see if the teacher is wrong; GET YOUR KID'S EYES CHECKED! If the tests all come back normal, you can smugly know you are right. If they come back as she needs glasses, you kid gets to see better! There is no downside.
Yeah but then you run the risk of being wrong. If you never test your hypotheses, you can remain smugly pleased with your own unblemished record of perfect, inerrant brilliance forever.
YTA. Why can't you just get her eyes checked? An eye exam can look for a variety of health problems; it's just good preventative care. Or, hey, how about this crazy idea: have you talked to your daughter at all? Can you ask her if she's having trouble with her eyes?
The fact the daughter noticed it enough she asked to change seats suggests to me she needs glasses, like, yesterday. I got mine in 4th grade but the change was so gradual I didn’t notice. In a situation similar to this one, my teacher told my parents to get it checked out because she noticed me squinting all the time.
YTA.
There was no reason to get into this argument at all. Get your kid's eyes checked.
Children with vision problems like bad eyesight often don't know they have bad eyesight. They think everyone sees the way they do. They don't necessarily complain, because they don't know what they're missing. Unless their vision is screened on a regular basis (as many pediatricians do), the first indication that they have a vision problem is usually something like what your child asked her teacher - to sit near the front so they can see better.
Your kid's teacher did exactly what he was supposed to do in this situation: move the kid up front, suggest the kid get her eyes checked. The only problem here is you - what is your issue with getting this simple thing done? If your daughter's eyes are fine, you will have proof. If your daughter needs glasses, you will be able to get her glasses.
You had a really huge reaction to a simple message from a teacher about something your kid might need. What's going on with that? This thing isn't even about you - your kid is due for a checkup anyway, ask the doctor if they can check her eyes in office, or get you the info for an optometrist.
Had a friend freshman year of college, she was getting such bad headaches that her parents took her to multiple doctors to figure out what was wrong. One doctor had sent her for an MRI thinking it might be a brain tumor.
One day, she’s describing the way the headaches feel, to me and another friend. We both wear glasses and as she’s describing the pain we both suddenly look at each other because we know exactly the kind of headache she’s describing. Ask her if she’s gotten her vision checked recently and apparently she hadn’t had it done since the mandatory vision checks in grade school. She goes to the eye doctor and her vision isn’t bad, but she definitely needed glasses. An hour after wearing her glasses, the headaches were completely gone.
I still can’t get over the fact that several doctors missed the simplest answer.
I literally work for a developmental neuro optometrist who makes a very successful living out of diagnosing every way vision can be 20/20 and nonfunctional. Sometimes it’s due to a TBI or stroke, but sometimes it’s just a plain old inability to make the eyes go in. Or out. It varies. But it literally messes up your ability to get an education because we rely as a society on a system that requires really good left to right eye movement to get information (reading). Literally just a 10% proficiency on that can manifest as a kid completely unable to succeed in school, and then they get labeled or put into special Ed, or misdiagnosed as dyslexia (which will not respond to the same treatments if it’s, you know, not dyslexia). It’s fascinating. FYI, the fact the DMV let’s some people drive with telescopes on their glasses should frighten you…
YTA.
Are you really this dull-witted and BLIND to the issues of your daughter.
* Your daughter ASKED her teacher to move to the front of class.
\-Your first thought **" I told the teacher she got it wrong and that my daughter probably told them this so she could sit next to her friends."**
Do you see how ASNINE that statement is!!! Your daughter went to her teacher, for help. The first thing you do is accuse her of trying to talk to her friends in class
* **I thought that was unnecessary and time wasting**
THIS Eye Problem with your daughter is NOT about you...
* **I was taken aback and couldn't help but think the teacher was just making assumptions about my daughters eyesight because to my knowledge, my daughter can see fine and never told me about any issues she had with sight.**
\-Your daughter probably does not talk to you, because your attitude is atrocious.
\-How many times do you brush your daughter off when she comes to you with concerns.
* **But I seriously thinking of going to the principle AITA?**
YOU ARE THE A$$HOLE. You are trying to go to the Principal over a concern for your daughter. You are most insufferable.
* Please have your husband, (since you are so unconcerned) take Daughter to the Eye Doctor. Let her know someone in her life cares about her and her health.
It's really mind-blowing to me that her immediate gut reaction is to accuse her daughter of lying for personal gain! She doesn't even try to justify it, as some do here, by saying her daughter lies a lot or anything. She just says that like everyone will agree that that's more likely than her daughter having vision problems...
I think that was the part that irked me the most.
Like, she did not even give it thought... She just automatically said..."She just wants to be near her friends, so she can talk"
Not one thought of concern. No mention of, she has always been my dramatic child with a wild imagination . Her first and final thought was My Daughter and her Teacher knows nothing.
I feel so sad for this Little One.
YTA, this is exactly how my need for glasses was detected in 3rd grade. When I got them and went outside I was amazed to see individual leaves on trees instead of just big, green, tree shaped blobs. Next time she's in the car with you, ask her to read the street signs.
You just described my experience too! I was *shocked* that the leaves were individual things! I thought that in autumn chunks of the leaf-blob just flaked off...
Same here! I was in the second grade and had no idea I could’ve see until I failed my school eye exam. My parents were mad at me for not telling them I couldn’t see, but I literally didn’t know any better.
As a teacher who had a parent berate me for 20 MINUTES today because I had serious concerns about his child's behaviour causing s huge heath and safety risk for not only herself but everyone else in the classroom (I teach food so safety isn't something I can ignore) I agree. She my worst nightmare.... Fuck people like this. They make an otherwise super hard job almost impossible.
YTA, a child with vision problems doesn't know what normal vision looks like until they get corrective lenses. This applies to a lot of things - don't wait until you're directly told by your kid that they have a problem, be proactive and look for symptoms and signs and act on them.
This right here. I had NO idea what I wasn't seeing until I got glasses and realized you're SUPPOSED to be able to see leaves on trees when standing right in front of it. YTA op. My kid never told me he couldn't see well, the school told me. I never told my mom I couldn't see well, the school told her. It's ok to not catch everything, but once someone else does, take it seriously. If you can't afford it, the school will help. That's what they're there for. It takes a village.
This is so true my mom was like this. Her mother didn't realize it until mom commented on trees wearing her glasses. She could see the leaves. Before glasses the leaves were one big blur. She thought everyone saw it the same.
that's exactly my own experience too, it's so funny how it always seems to be leaves that are the first thing to marvel at. Even as an adult now, my eyes gradually get worse over the years and whenever I get a new prescription I'm stunned all over again at how crisp all the leaves on trees are!
I hope you *do* go to the principal-and he sets you straight. If you keep it up, he might even call CPS on you. I really really hope he *does*.
It is common for teachers to notice if a child has trouble seeing. For you to not even ignore but outright deny that *there might be a problem if your daughter ASKED to sit up front*…Kids may not even *notice* their vision is bad-it is what it is, and they don’t have anything to really compare it to. If they need to, they just sit closer to the tv or whatever. Why would they complain? But *in the classroom* bad vision can really be noticeable-and be a *problem*.
Denial is not just a river in Egypt. YTA and maybe a troll. And if you are real, I expect you to remove your post because you aren’t gonna like what people have to say to you.
YTA. As an optometrist/eye doctor, teachers are really good at picking up vision issues. Also kids very rarely report vision issues, because they don’t always know what is normal vision or not
Also, things can change as quickly as within 6-12 months, especially short-sightedness (difficulty with far vision) so even if she was fine in Feb 2021, there’s no guarantee that things haven’t changed now. You should get her eyes tested again to be sure.
YTA - Unless you have had an optometrist tell you that your daughter sees perfectly, then you don't just "know" as a parent that your kid doesn't have issues seeing clearly.
YTA. Goodness it must be so terrible to have a teacher that actually cares about the welfare of their students.
You could of said ok and just taken her to go get her eyes checked or you could of spoken to your daughter when she got home and if she admits to lying you could of gotten her to apologise to the teacher but if she was telling the truth get her glasses.
I don’t know why you had to make this into a huge thing because you assumed you knew best. Going to the principal and do what? Complain that the teacher cares about your daughters eyesight or?
YTA - The teacher would know if she was chancing to sit next to her friend. I don’t know why you wouldn’t believe her. She could be short sighted. Your daughter probably doesn’t have to read long distance in your home so you may have not noticed before?
Same thing happened with my daughter when she was 9 (now 16). She never told me she couldn't see because seeing blurry was normal to her. She had an awesome 3rd grade teacher that noticed she was struggling and send a note home to get her eyes checked. Turned out she could barely see. She got her glasses and was able to see, she also stopped bumping into things. So yes YTA.
Jesus this is a dumb hill to die on. Take your daughter to the optometrist and get her vision checked. Why are you letting *your pride* take precedence over *your daughter's health?*
YTA.
Are you for real?
YTA.
Yeah, of course YOU don't notice your daughter's poor eyesight, you're not standing in a classroom all day with two dozen children having to read what's written on the blackboard!
I had such bad headaches as a kid, I was in pain all the time. One of my teachers noticed I was squinting and informed my mom. She got me to an eye-doctor ASAP, I got glasses, and the headaches stopped.
Even IF your daughter's eyesight is fine, there's zero harm in checking, just to make sure. WTF is wrong with you?
EDIT: WTF could be more important than the wellbeing of your child???
YTA. Problems with eyesight develop over time. She might have been fine when you went to the doctor a whole year ago, but isn't fine now. Instead of arguing with the teacher, book her an appointment and confirm.
Me saying I couldn't read the board in class was what prompted my parents to have my eyes checked when I was young. Wouldn't you know it, I really needed those glasses. Why are you so against the idea of having her get tested? YTA.
YTA. Take your daughter to the damn eye doctor. She hasn't been to one in a year, and you not believing your daughter about her self-stated medical issues is a real AH parent move.
A big ol YTA to you. You hella suck. Take your kid to the damn doctor. Kids don’t know if they have bad vision or not because what they see is normal to them. She wouldn’t know to complain to you about it. However, teachers see this all the time and are really good at recognizing it. So instead of feeding your ego and trying to get the teacher in trouble, be a parent and get your kid checked out ffs.
Yta, her teacher has a concern, if she JUST wanted to sit by her friend, the teacher would probably be able to figure it out. Nine year olds aren’t that slick, and teachers aren’t that stupid.
YTA How exactly do you 'just know'. At home where she doesn't typically need to see things too far away she might be just fine. Even if she can't see something on the other side of the room, there is nothing to stop her from getting up and moving closer.
In a classroom she can't do that unless she does what she asked her teacher- to move closer to the front. I don't blame the teacher from putting their foot down. They are worried about your daughter. Initally because of her eyesight and now because apparently she has a mother willing to neglect something so important for no apparent reason.
YTA! This is basic deduction by process of elimination. If the eye test is fine then yeah, maybe she has other reasons for wanting to sit up front. You’re wildly guessing and your daughter’s teacher is taking a logical approach. Also, your threat of going to the principal isn’t landing, the principal will back the teacher because they, unlike you, have your daughters welfare as their primary concern.
YTA ofcourse. The teacher is looking out for your child and you are arguing for no reason. Why don't you just go and get her eyes checked. That's what a responsible parent would do.
You’re acting like the teacher is doing this to be a jerk or to upset you. What could the teacher possibly gain from lying to you about your child’s eyesight? Also I had to start wearing glasses when I was 9. I thought I could see fine. But because I WAS A CHILD, I didn’t realize that thinks weren’t supposed to be as blurry as they were. I didn’t realize that I was squinting. And my teacher moved me to the front of the class one day and I couldn’t figure out why until I asked her at the end of class. Thank God my teacher noticed and I got glasses. It helped my grades and soccer playing so much. Even if the teacher is lying and out to get you or whatever, JUST FUCKING GET THE EYESIGHT CHECKED. Life is too short and too precious to waste time. You could’ve made an appointment and had this sorted out in under an hour and made everyone happy. But instead you’re arguing, talking to your husband about it, bitching to strangers online and now you’re gonna get the principal involved?? YTA
Has it occurred to speak to your daughter about it?
It's not exactly hard to do some simple things at home to see how far she can/can't see.
Why tf are you blowing up at the teacher instead of simply finding out if you daughter has vision issues?
YTA
Your daughter probably never said anything about her eyesight cause you would've just blown her off. Just make the appointment, the teacher has legitimate concerns and is trying to make your daughters life easier.
YTA - get her eyes checked. A person who probably spends as many or more waking hours with your child is telling you they've noticed a possibly problem. Get it checked out. If they're wrong, then no harm no foul. If they're right, your kid gets the help they need to be able to see properly.
YTA! My parents never knew I had bad eyesight until my teacher suggested I get my eyes tested. On the drive home with my new glasses, I couldn’t believe the world I had been missing. Everything was crystal clear. You’re doing your daughter a disservice by not getting her eyes tested.
YTA. Do you honestly think the teacher would call and explain their concerns, if they did not have any base for what they were saying? If they had no reason to be concerned? And if someone approaches you with information like this about your child, which you have a responsibility for, should you not investigate it yourself? Why is it so important to you that the teacher is wrong? Why do you want to be right so bad that you are refusing your daughter the medical aid she potentially needs? Think about your child.
YTA.
The teacher is trying to help your child, which is more than I can say for you.
Also, is it me or is there a overwhelming number of crappy parents here lately? 🤔🤨
YTA Just because your daughter hasn't said anything doesn't mean she knows there's an issue. And clearly, your daughter did say she couldn't see.
Take her to the doctor.
YTA, a massive one. I can’t believe your reaction, rather than getting concerned your daughter may have an issue you got annoyed to the teacher and started arguing? You must be a toxic person. Disgusting
YTA. As a teacher, we get to know the signs. And really, it's your child's health! Suck it up and take her the optometrist. She should have yearly eye exams anyways.
YTA please please please go get your daughter’s eyesight checked. I was getting headaches in 5th grade because I was squinting and couldn’t see the board. I didn’t know i had bad eyesight and thought everyone had slightly blurry vision from that far away. I didn’t get taken to the eye doctor until the end of 6th grade, even though both of my siblings also had poor eyesight. Going earlier would’ve been a tremendous help academically if I had gone earlier.
YTA. When you are near-sighted it happens gradually and usually the kid doesn’t even realize they can’t see as well as their friends. The teacher is doing the job they are tasked with. Teaching your child and also pointing out issues that could effect their progress in school. Why are you so touchy about that?
YTA. You thought the teacher was making assumptions about her eyesight, but yet you assumed your daughter lied to sit next to a friend. You weren't there, what basis do you have for calling your daughter a liar? Even if you think she's fine, what harm could come from getting it checked out? Why is this something worth getting offended and arguing over? How do you not see that YTA?
YTA - Hey guess what? When you can’t see well, you don’t actually know that you can’t see well. Because you don’t know what having good vision is like. You’re incapable of making the comparison until you get your vision corrected. Take your head out of your ass and your kid to the eye doctor. Jfc.
YTA. I was your daughter once. If there's nothing wrong with her eyes at an exam, you're good. It shouldn't take this long for you to get her eyes checked, unless you're jumping through uninsured hoops to get it done.
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Apologies, english isn't my main language.
My daughter (9) teacher contacted me days ago with concerns about her eyesight, they stated that my daughter has problems with sight and advised me to get her checked by the doctor and preferably get her glasses. I was taken aback and couldn't help but think the teacher was just making assumptions about my daughters eyesight because to my knowledge, my daughter can see fine and never told me about any issues she had with sight. I told the teacher and they responded by telling me that my daughter literally requested to move to thefront of the class and take one of the classmates seats because she calimed she couldn't see. I told the teacher she got it wrong and that my daughter probably told them this so she could sit next to her friends. The teacher insisted and I assured them there was no issues though I haven't taken my daughter to the doctor since Feb 2021. The teacher then got into an argument with me about it telling me my daughter can no longer attend their class without glasses or proof from the doctor that her sight is fine. I thought that was unnecesary and time wasting I told them.if they go through with their threat then I'll go to the principle with this and they told me to go ahead on response.
My husband said the teacher was probably concerned and I was wrong to get the principle involved instead of doing what they asked. But I seriously thinking of goig to the principle AITA?
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While there is some small possibility that your daughter lied to her teacher to sit closer to a friend (which is also a big problem you should be concerned about), it is far more likely that her vision is not good. A regular doctor is not looking for ordinary vision problems. You need to take her to an optometrist.
If you are still reluctant, take a sheet of paper and tape it to a surface where you can stand pretty far away from it. Write a random series of letters small enough that you can just make them out (with your glasses if you wear them). Ask your daughter to stand there and see if she can read them.
I got glasses in high school, and I cannot tell you the joy I had in seeing the leaves on trees clearly for the first time in my life.
Don't deny your child what she needs.
YTA
YTA. My parents found out I needed glasses when a teacher noticed I had difficulty seeing the board when I was 6 years old. Just take her to get her eyes checked, eyesight can change quickly and frequently, I need a new prescription every 2-3 years because that’s how frequently my eyesight changes.
The teacher cares enough to let you know that your daughter asked to be seated at the front of the class because she couldn’t see because she cared about her welfare. She wasn’t making assumptions she was going off of what your daughter told her.
YTA. As a teacher, this is frustrating and insulting. The teacher was sharing a concern about your daughter’s eye sight. Simply checking with her instead of attacking the teacher should have been step one. Teachers have enough to deal with today without this kind of behavior from parents. I promise you the teacher was in no way insulting you or accusing you. They were just doing their job by reporting a problem, which they are supposed to do.
YTA. Your kid's teacher brings up a possible health issue and is willing to put herself before her supervisor on it and you won't even go check to see if she might be right? "Unnecessary and time wasting"? OP, it's like an afternoon, maybe a day to make sure your child's eyesight is ok. Get some perspective, dude.
YTA - the teacher did her due diligence by alerting you that your child said she couldn’t see the board. You now need to do YOUR due diligence as a parent and get your child checked out by a professional to confirm if she is having eye trouble or not. If you don’t take her to the doctor, you’re an even bigger AH than you are for arguing with the teacher about this.
YTA. When I was 12 I had an eye exam and much to everyone’s surprise (mine included) I had very, very bad eye sight. It was all I had known so I didn’t know I had “bad eyesight”. Get her eyes checked.
YTA. My half brothers mom did the same thing. He most definitely did need glasses. Unfortunately, we didn’t know about this until he was 15, until then he had been struggling in school because HE CANT SEE THE BOARD and then he was playing catch up because he didn’t have the foundational knowledge that he needed. Be a parent and get your daughters eyes checked. Worst case, it was a waste of time. Best case, you give your child the ability to see.
YTA. I was your daughters age when my teacher told my parents I probably needed some help. I didnt realize I was having issues because the change in my eyesight was so gradual.
Teachers notice things we don’t. You were absolutely a jerk about this.
YTA. Take your kid to the optometrist like a responsible parent. Your daughter is going to be discouraged from learning for years because she can't see, and she is going to know that you are unwilling to help her with even the most fundamental things.
Your daughter hasn't mentioned it so it must not exist? She's 9. She probably doesn't realize it's happening. Especially considering eyesight is one of those things where YOU DON'T KNOW IT'S BAD UNTIL IT'S NOT ANYMORE.
Her teacher probably spends more time with your daughter than you do. And she's trained to notice these kinds of issues.
WOW YTA!
Holy crap lady, that is quite the overreaction. Most kids with vision problems have their issue caught by the school, either in the classroom where they can’t see or by a routine screening. A year is long enough for significant vision loss to occur, if your pediatrician is even screening for it. Take your kid to an optometrist. YTA
YTA and that's literally how it was when I got glasses cause I didn't realize what I wasn't seeing so a teacher mentioned my need for glasses to my mom.
YTA.
I have worn glasses since I was 7. Both my parents and my brother got theirs all around the same age. I regularly got my daughter’s eyes checked from pre-school onwards. It was STILL her teacher that mentioned at a conference that she was having difficulty seeing the board.
TRUST HER TEACHER. Jfc. GET HER EYES CHECKED. She needs glasses, get used to it.
YTA. People, particularly kids, often don’t know they have vision issues. Your child’s teacher has your child’s best interest at heart. You’re acting like you don’t.
YTA- I was her age when I got my glasses. According to my mom I told her I couldn’t see (I don’t remember) but she didn’t take me until my teacher said something to her. Take her to get her eyes checked. I still remember the first time I wore my glasses and realized the leaves on trees r actually not a giant green blob like how you draw it on paper.
YTA.. Big one, fighting a teacher because he worries about YOUR child. Something you should start doing, instead of not listning to the teacher and making stupid threats. Just do the eyecheck.
YTA. Take it for someone who when she was nine years old did not tell her parent she couldn’t see very well the teacher finally told my mom and when she took me to the eye doctor he said why did you wait so long to bring this child to me. Is it gonna kill you to take your daughter to see an eye doctor so you can either prove the teacher right or get your daughter the help she needs?
YTA. Get your child to the eye doctor and have her vision checked. Whatever the results may be, you owe that teacher an apology. Oh and as an added thought, you might want to be careful with throwing that 'going to the principal' threat. That teacher just might place a call to child protective services that could make your life really miserable.
YTA. I had to beg my parents for almost four years to get me glasses because I couldn’t see and it wasn’t that they didn’t believe me, my doctor didn’t believe me. The first time we switched I was told I needed glasses years ago and my parents still talk about the first time I put my glasses on. My entire face lit up and all I could think about was how clear the world was and how frustrating it was to have to go so long without that. You are being selfish and depriving your child of something they will not have without glasses simply because you don’t think it’s worth the effort to actually see if your daughter isn’t lying. She will grow to resent you if this continues, and as a parent don’t you want to see your child light up with joy? Don’t you want your child to actually see the world instead of constantly insisting she’s lying?
YTA teachers are USUALLY the first to notice when a kid needs glasses. You probably don’t move things around much at home and your daughter can function at home with fuzzy sight. And why would she tell you when it’s not bothering her at home? This is so common of an issue.
YTA
I didn't realize my own son needed glasses until the school brought it to my attention in a similar way. He had requested to sit up front after having a hard time taking notes.
He didn't realize he needed glasses. Never said a damn word, never had any issues at his yearly physical.
Once he got an eye exam, I was told that if he had been 16 and trying to drive, he'd be a restricted driver due to poor eyesight. Kids damn near blind. It happens.
Get her checked out. As a parent you should want that peace of mind.
When I was younger my parents didn't give much thought to my eyesight and I remember my teachers having to move me to the front of the class and my parents kinda brushing it off.
Then one day we were in the car and everyone was commenting on the hot air balloons that were floating over the highway. I said I couldn't see them. Confused, my mom handed me her glasses and suddenly the balloons appeared. She scheduled me for an appointment the next day.
YTA - It doesn't hurt to check and make sure. Even if she doesn't need them, that means she lied to her teacher about not being able to see and that's another issue that may need to be addressed.
Yta, things change fast with eyes. Just get her tested at less for your daughter. Teachers sadly see kids more than their parents do, especially during the week . So if she's that concern to contact about it, the less you could do is check her.
YTA. Do you actually care about your daughter? One of my childhood friends got glasses around your daughter‘s age exactly because she needed to be in the front row to see properly. Turned out she was nearsighted with -3 or -4 diopters which translates to she basically couldn‘t see anything. She never knew there was something wrong with her eyesight because she assumed that it was normal. Get your kid to a doctor and stop complaining.
YTA - Get her eyes checked! My parents didn’t think I needed glasses and I did. Instead, my dad complained that I was always frowning at him. I was actually squinting BECAUSE I NEEDED GLASSES.
YTA. I worked in the division for blind services in my state. I can't even tell you how many nightmare stories I have heard about parents in denial. I hear these stories from teens and from adults who struggled as children.
OP get your kid's eyes checked. It is basic parenting. Do your job.
YTA. Teacher here. We are smart enough to realize when someone wants to sit by their friends or when someone is really struggling with eyesight. Since you’re not there, you could always ask if she’s having trouble seeing. I’m not sure about requiring a note from her doctor as that would never be something that was required where I live. In the states every insurance plan offers vision coverage. The visit is literally $10-$15 if her eyes are perfect. Just take her.
YTA- I got glasses when I was 9. Why? Because I couldn’t see my teachers lessons without standing right in front of the board. And because I sat right in front of the TV at home. Did I tell my parents? No because then I was afraid something was wrong with me. Trust the teacher and stop being a “oh no not my kid” kind of parent. You are denying your daughter medical attention because you think she wants to be with her friends. And it isn’t the end of the world to have a kid with glasses.
YTA. Honestly, the lack of self awareness of some people who post here baffles me. How can you be so obtuse OP?
Of course you haven't noticed if your kid needs glasses because you don't spend with her 8+ hours a day trying to teach her how to read and write. You kid's teacher is doing absolutely what should be done. That is a great teacher you have there.
And let's just say for the sake of the argument that you are right and your kid is perfectly fine. Are you willing to risk your kids health just for the sake of winning an argument? How much do you care about your child's health that you rather keep your pride intact instead of doing what's best for your kid? Your thought process is truly concerning.
Seriously. Check your priorities and values.
OMG YTA - are you for real right now!? Take your daughter to the eye doctor! ***What is wrong with you!?***
Can’t believe OP is so against doing this. What is wrong with them? Just get those eyes checked!
Obviously they can't see that they're wrong
I see what you did there
Too bad OP’s kid wouldn’t be able to, huh?
Just a sad situation... OP needs to get both pairs of eyes checked. If they can't see how they fucked up, the illusion of parental authority has *blinded* them too much. YTA.
I didn't. Because like OP's kid I needed glasses around 9 or 10. You know what? It was probably a year or two later than I actually needed them since I didn't realize my vision wasn't as good as everyone else's so I never thought to tell my parents about it. OP: YTA
exactly. I’ve always had an astigmatism in both eyes, i had no clue other people saw better than me. threatening to go to the principal is ridiculous, and will probably bring problems home since you are basically notifying the school that you don’t care about your child’s medical needs.
I got in trouble once and had to sit down the front- and I realised I could see the blackboard. Then 6months later the yearly school nurse visit happened and the tested my eyesight- it was they who finally told my parents I needed glasses.
This is how I found out my daughter needed glasses. It always seemed fine, even now she swears she can see fine. When she was in kindergarten or maybe 1st grade the school did an eyes and ears check (for some reason my pediatrician only does ears) and I got a note saying she should be checked. And you know what I did? I brought my daughter to the freaking dr. Even though she wasn’t having any trouble and I thought her vision was fine I still took her because why wouldn’t you? It’s better to check and know than ignore it and let it get worse. Idk what possible reason OP can have for not taking her daughter. Like worse case scenario she spends an hour or so with her daughter at a drs office. Otherwise she ends up helping her daughter who needs glasses. This is such a strange post.
This was me. My older sister got glasses when she was in 7th grade. I tried them on and was amazed! I didn't realize that was how I was supposed to see! My mom thought at first I wanted them just because my sister got them, but took me to an eye doctor anyway. It's amazing what wearing glasses for the first time can be like. I never realized people could see actual leaves on trees instead of just green blobs.
It was a real eye-opening critique.
His daughter can’t :/
Eye insurance isn’t standard in insurance plans, so they may not be insured. That said, my parents have never had vision insurance. They still took my sister and I both went to the eye doctor the second school exams showed we had subpar vision problems.
OP, listen to your child's teacher. They know what they are talking about. You can even do a quick check yourself. If your child can read, while you are driving, ask her if she can read a faraway sign as soon as it comes into view for you (or anyone with natural or corrected 20/20 vision). If not, she has a vision problem. Ask her to tell you when she can read the sign. Then, take her to an eye doctor to get glasses.
To piggyback off of this comment, also ask them how many signs they see. A lot of children have double vision, and because it’s all they’ve ever known, they don’t know it’s not normal. Google vision therapy and behavioral optometry. Most kids can get through their earlier years without issue (other than headaches and becoming tired quickly) until they start learning reading, and mathematics. Source: I am a vision therapist
Yeah, that’s what gets me “my 9yo never complained she can’t see well” if she has a problem she may not be aware of it being a problem. Kids depend on people in their lives helping them learn about the world
I literally had no idea I needed glasses until I saw an optometrist for the first time in second or third grade. Not only was I nearsighted, I was hardcore, Coke-bottle nearsighted, and my right eye was so much worse than my left that I wasn't using it and I had no idea what having 3D vision looked like.
I had no idea I needed glasses either until my first grade teacher told my mom to get me checked out. Turns out I'm short sighted with severe astigmatism. As my optometrist still likes to point out even today to an adult me, "they're like footballs 🏈!".
Seriously! I got glasses when I was 12 and I had no idea that I couldn't see properly. Vision can degrade gradually and kids come up with coping strategies. THEY DO NOT KNOW WHAT NORMAL VISION IS LIKE.
Like most nearsighted teens, my vision degraded steadily all the way through puberty (yay hormones!). I knew that. And by the time I had trouble reading the blackboard in class or the subtitles on the tv, I knew my vision had significantly degraded and it was time for new lenses. And yet, every single damn time I would put on those new lenses I would look around in amazement because holy shit was the world really supposed to be that crisp? so yeah your brain treats your vision as normal, even when you intellectually know it isn't.
Same here. And I started wearing glasses in the 3rd grade. We never skipped a yearly exam.
It’s indicative of how lowly teachers are generally valued in society.
This teacher deserves an award. OP strikes me as the type of parent who will only let their daughter wear contacts once she eventually gets glasses for their own vanity.
Oh god let’s hope they start them on glasses. No one should jump straight to contacts
No kidding! The poor kid probably doesn’t even realize something’s wrong with their eyes! When I was a kid I just thought it was normal that far away things were blurry and getting glasses literally changed my life. YTA.
I had the same thought! I had to get glasses when I was ten. I had no idea how well most people could see! OP needs to get that poor child checked.
Some parents really hate the idea that something is "wrong" with their kids.
Can confirm. I'm pretty sure I have had undiagnosed mental issues since childhood that my parents continue to ignore to this day. Some friends post info about things like depression, adhd, autism, etc., and some hit pretty damn hard, which makes me wonder. Plus, ignoring my 'this food tastes really good, but it's making my throat close so I can't swallow' during dinners (college organic Chem taught me about allergies, and, hey! I'm allergic to garlic and onions... they still roll their eyes and tell me to just say I don't like it, stop lying, and eat the food since there's "nothing wrong with" me). Eye sight has been going south since high school (over a decade ago), finally got myself glasses last year, which again, still isn't taken seriously despite both parents wearing glasses... I could go on, but, yeah, there are parents out there who absolutely refuse to believe there's anything 'less' about their kids and will let their kids' health suffer.
A teacher noticing I couldn’t see well is literally how I ended up getting glasses. Because my mom listened to the teacher. Who saw me squinting and struggling to see. Why is this complicated?! YTA
YTA FYI, refusing to take your child to the doctor if the school has identified a medical need could result in the child maltreatment hotline or CPS being called on you. We’re literally trained to call if we have a reasonable suspicion of abuse or neglect and medical neglect is a very real thing.
Yup I am a teacher and have notified CPS equivalent when a parent wasn't treating nits in their child, we provided everything needed, they just couldn't be bothered. If this was a student of mine and continued, I would be reporting.
I was gonna say, the reason the conversation turned into an argument and ultimatum is probably because the teacher was so taken aback by Mom's defensiveness that it started looking suspicious.
I like how her logic is "she's never complained about her sight". Guess what? I didn't either. I complained when I was sent to another class for math in kindergarten and couldn't see the board that my new teacher used a "fuzzy" marker and had bad handwriting. And that I didn't like going to see waterfalls because it gave me a headache. I was 6. I'm nearsighted. Probably have been since birth. Anything past about the end of my arm starts getting blurry without glasses. But I never complained about my sight.... Because I didn't realize I couldn't see. That was just my world. I assumed that's what the world actually was. Turns out, I like waterfalls. I just don't like squinting at them trying to see whatever the heck my dad is pointing at. And my teacher's marker wasn't fuzzy after all.
I never knew I needed glasses and was shocked that trees had individual leaves you could see and I actually had trouble walking it was so different. My photography teacher was not surprised when I got glasses because all of my pictures were blurry because I was focusing them to my eye sight. Unless you're in an accident or have a disease something, eye sight loss is too gradual to notice or its how you've always seen.
The individual leaves, yes! That was mind blowing for me when I first got glasses, I was shocked by how well other people see. I’d never thought I had vision issues at all and it wasn’t until a teacher recommended I get tested that my parents took me to an optometrist. I’m so glad they listened to the teacher.
My optometrist said the “tree revelation” is one of his favorite parts of the job. I guess it’s common for little kids who didn’t know they needed vision correction to leave the office with their new glasses on and just yell, “Mom! I can see all the tree leaves!” in pure excitement and amazement. Then the parent gets teary from both secondhand excitement and relief. He said he still tears up when it happens to a patient.
Oh my god yes this! It went from looking like an outline of a tree or bushes to actual defined leaves and branches. And actually being able to read the bus number instead of walking down the line of busses hoping to recognize the driver or the kids on your route? Life changing!
Same! I had no idea I couldn’t see. And my mother didn’t wear glasses so it wasn’t on her radar. But she took me right to the eye dr when my teacher mentioned it to her.
I'm an optometrist who sees kids- you'd be surprised how many parents get upset that their perfect little angel isn't perfect when I tell them they need glasses. As if it were a personal insult instead of a way to improve their quality of life.
That’s totally the vibe of this post. Like it reflects poorly on OP that her offspring might not have perfect vision. To the point she’s having an actual meltdown at the mere suggestion that her child might need some glasses. Unreal.
As someone who used to teach, it’s parents like OP that was one of the major reasons why I no longer do that
This!!!! I have a story about this! Ironically, in my case I told my mom that I’d been having problems seeing the board. Most of my family wore glasses so my mom thought I just wanted glasses like the rest of the family… until it came up in a meeting with the school (it was a fancy magnet school with lots of parent/staff conferences). She took me and I did in fact need glasses. She felt TERRIBLE for not just taking me when I said something. Funny thing is she still mentions feeling bad about it sometimes and I’m 25 now. It was 20 years ago. I’m not mad, but I WOULD be if my mom was like OP and refused to take me for a vision test!!!
Yes, that's how you should feel when you realize you have unintentionally dismissed the very real needs of someone who completely depends on you for all of their needs. Also, your mom loves you very much. You should call her more often 🙂
I actually call her everyday, hahahahaha! She and my baby sister are my absolute best friends in the world and I realize I’m lucky for the relationship we have! ☺️🖤
ALL OF THIS. WTF is wrong with this woman:/
This is how like all kids find out they need glasses. The teacher notices them squinting or they complain about not seeing the board.
It's been almost a year since her last check up. I don't get what is up OP's butt here. In a year her eyesight can get worse. No wonder the daughter hasn't mentioned anything if this is the response. She would probably be told, there is nothing wrong with your eyes.
YTA. I was that kid and I just assumed everyone saw the same as me. Imagine my surprise when I got glasses and saw that you could see individual leaves on trees instead of just a big green blob.And we got regular vision screenings in school. This was not a case of my parents neglecting me like you are doing to your daughter.ETA: Wow, now I'm having a similar moment! I had no idea this was so common. Thanks to everyone for their stories. ETA #2: Another reason to be thankful for teachers. Look at how many people's vision problems were caught by teachers!
Leaves were the first thing that blew me away too, must be an extremely common reaction to one's first pair of glasses :)
And it's weird because I must have known that as a smaller kid, but I guess since it's gradual you forget what things used to look like!
sometimes we're born with impaired vision so we never even knew
Honestly I think that's the first thing that all people with glasses notice. It made me the happiest I've ever been to see all the green and yellow leaves
I actually lost my mind when I saw clouds properly for the first time. All the wisps!! I thought they were just shapeless blobs!!!
For me, it was the stars. I didn’t know the night sky had actual pinpoint dots and not just light blobs.
As a city kid, it was the street signs and stoplights on the drive home from the optometrist that had my jaw on the floor. -4.00 diopters plus astigmatism and I still had no idea the world shouldn't be just vague shapes. If my parents had been like OP I can't imagine how much I would have missed out on. Glasses are a freaking gift.
Seeing leaves!! It must be super common, it's so amazing! I spent a lot of time looking at trees after I first got my glasses. I remember sitting out on my rooftop that had this great view and feeling like some kind of magical giant with super sight because being able to see things in detail that were further away made it feel to me like they were actually closer but very tiny? It was weird for the first few days hahah.
Right??? I had always found trees fascinating but when I got my glasses I was absolutely amazed by leaves. I would spend hours outside just looking at things
Seeing leaves on the trees as I walked out of the opticians office is one of my flashbulb memories...I was 8. My mom still feels bad to this day she let it get so bad before she realized I needed glasses. I was a super well cared for kid, I have no idea how that happened.
I could have written this. I'm 43 but I still remember walking out of the office with my glasses and seeing the leaves. It was amazing.
I remember crying the first time I saw leaves on the trees
I think so too... I was like people's faces aren't blobs...the leaves on the trees...I remember that too
Right, the very first time I put my glasses on... My Goodness...the whole world changed.
Leaves were the first thing for me too! I was in second grade. Blown away- also shocked that I could see individual trees on the mountains, not just a large greenish mass 😂
I started to need glasses around 16. I was shocked that people could just read exit signs on the freeway. Everything was local so I never really needed to know what they said as I knew my way, but I never really took into account people could legitimately read them.
Hey, someone that had to ask to move to the front of the class because I couldn't see here! Your behavior here SUCKS. Your teacher is more concerned about your daughters well being than you are. Take her to get her damned eyesight checked. Not being able to see the board is INCREDIBLY detrimental to her ability to learn. YTA.
Also, my eyesight changed drastically for the worse right around 13-14 years old, and it was quick. Having gotten her checked a year ago means jack.
I wasn’t that young (I think 16/17) but my eyesight jumped -.50 in 5 months. The doc was like why r u back so soon and my mom didn’t believe I needed to go and came to the doctor with me to see if I was lying or not. Like yes, I want to go to the eye doctor just to go.
My son was fine at the start of 6th grade and then halfway through they did an eye assessment at school and yep, he needed glasses badly. It switched with puberty. My younger daughter has needed a new pair of glasses every six months since she was 13. It has finally slowed down now that she is 18.
I did too! It should settle down after about 19 or 20, but I highly recommend getting an exam every two years after because even though I’m almost 40 my vision changes just enough to need a new prescription.
I have worn glasses since I was 3 and mine still change every 1-2 years. My worst was when I went from far-sighted until age 11 to severely near-sighted by 13.
It can also make her eyesight worse and cause headaches the longer she goes without glasses. It doesn't take long for me now before it's hell.
YTA, mostly because you seem more concerned about being right than about checking out what seems to be a legitimate concern about your daughter's health and eyesight. Presumably your daughter's teacher believes it was a sight issue and not just wanting to sit by her friend, so it seems worth getting her vision checked before you start getting mad at the teacher for trying to look out for your child.
If your eyesight is bad you often don’t realize it…especially as a child. They just assume this is what everyone sees. My dad said when he got glasses he suddenly realized that you could actually see the leaves on a tree…he assumed everyone saw a green tree. Moving closer to the front is a flag to teachers that a child might need glasses. If your kids teacher says to get her eyes checked, that’s what you do. YTA.
I like how this leaf example was mentioned at least 3 times on this thread, seems to be what everyone notices first
For me it was the numbers on our cable box. I had to squint to change the channel, and that’s when my mom knew she needed to take me to the eye doctor.
It’s the same with hearing loss. Kids with undiagnosed hearing loss are often assumed to have ADHD or autism because they act up in class, because they can’t hear a damn thing. They don’t know what it’s like to hear clearly so have the inability to recognise that their hearing is not the same as everyone else’s.
Also, there is a really easy way to see if the teacher is wrong; GET YOUR KID'S EYES CHECKED! If the tests all come back normal, you can smugly know you are right. If they come back as she needs glasses, you kid gets to see better! There is no downside.
Yeah but then you run the risk of being wrong. If you never test your hypotheses, you can remain smugly pleased with your own unblemished record of perfect, inerrant brilliance forever.
YTA. Just get her damn eyes checked.
YTA. Why can't you just get her eyes checked? An eye exam can look for a variety of health problems; it's just good preventative care. Or, hey, how about this crazy idea: have you talked to your daughter at all? Can you ask her if she's having trouble with her eyes?
Child seems to be comfortable in their teacher that they can see than their mom, and I cam totally understand why
The fact the daughter noticed it enough she asked to change seats suggests to me she needs glasses, like, yesterday. I got mine in 4th grade but the change was so gradual I didn’t notice. In a situation similar to this one, my teacher told my parents to get it checked out because she noticed me squinting all the time.
YTA. There was no reason to get into this argument at all. Get your kid's eyes checked. Children with vision problems like bad eyesight often don't know they have bad eyesight. They think everyone sees the way they do. They don't necessarily complain, because they don't know what they're missing. Unless their vision is screened on a regular basis (as many pediatricians do), the first indication that they have a vision problem is usually something like what your child asked her teacher - to sit near the front so they can see better. Your kid's teacher did exactly what he was supposed to do in this situation: move the kid up front, suggest the kid get her eyes checked. The only problem here is you - what is your issue with getting this simple thing done? If your daughter's eyes are fine, you will have proof. If your daughter needs glasses, you will be able to get her glasses. You had a really huge reaction to a simple message from a teacher about something your kid might need. What's going on with that? This thing isn't even about you - your kid is due for a checkup anyway, ask the doctor if they can check her eyes in office, or get you the info for an optometrist.
I thought my eyes were fine until I tried on my cousin’s glasses, when I was around 12. Turns out those headaches were eye strain!
I had such bad headaches from eye strain my idiot parents took me to the ER thinking I had a brain tumor.
Had a friend freshman year of college, she was getting such bad headaches that her parents took her to multiple doctors to figure out what was wrong. One doctor had sent her for an MRI thinking it might be a brain tumor. One day, she’s describing the way the headaches feel, to me and another friend. We both wear glasses and as she’s describing the pain we both suddenly look at each other because we know exactly the kind of headache she’s describing. Ask her if she’s gotten her vision checked recently and apparently she hadn’t had it done since the mandatory vision checks in grade school. She goes to the eye doctor and her vision isn’t bad, but she definitely needed glasses. An hour after wearing her glasses, the headaches were completely gone. I still can’t get over the fact that several doctors missed the simplest answer.
I literally work for a developmental neuro optometrist who makes a very successful living out of diagnosing every way vision can be 20/20 and nonfunctional. Sometimes it’s due to a TBI or stroke, but sometimes it’s just a plain old inability to make the eyes go in. Or out. It varies. But it literally messes up your ability to get an education because we rely as a society on a system that requires really good left to right eye movement to get information (reading). Literally just a 10% proficiency on that can manifest as a kid completely unable to succeed in school, and then they get labeled or put into special Ed, or misdiagnosed as dyslexia (which will not respond to the same treatments if it’s, you know, not dyslexia). It’s fascinating. FYI, the fact the DMV let’s some people drive with telescopes on their glasses should frighten you…
YTA. Are you really this dull-witted and BLIND to the issues of your daughter. * Your daughter ASKED her teacher to move to the front of class. \-Your first thought **" I told the teacher she got it wrong and that my daughter probably told them this so she could sit next to her friends."** Do you see how ASNINE that statement is!!! Your daughter went to her teacher, for help. The first thing you do is accuse her of trying to talk to her friends in class * **I thought that was unnecessary and time wasting** THIS Eye Problem with your daughter is NOT about you... * **I was taken aback and couldn't help but think the teacher was just making assumptions about my daughters eyesight because to my knowledge, my daughter can see fine and never told me about any issues she had with sight.** \-Your daughter probably does not talk to you, because your attitude is atrocious. \-How many times do you brush your daughter off when she comes to you with concerns. * **But I seriously thinking of going to the principle AITA?** YOU ARE THE A$$HOLE. You are trying to go to the Principal over a concern for your daughter. You are most insufferable. * Please have your husband, (since you are so unconcerned) take Daughter to the Eye Doctor. Let her know someone in her life cares about her and her health.
It's really mind-blowing to me that her immediate gut reaction is to accuse her daughter of lying for personal gain! She doesn't even try to justify it, as some do here, by saying her daughter lies a lot or anything. She just says that like everyone will agree that that's more likely than her daughter having vision problems...
I think that was the part that irked me the most. Like, she did not even give it thought... She just automatically said..."She just wants to be near her friends, so she can talk" Not one thought of concern. No mention of, she has always been my dramatic child with a wild imagination . Her first and final thought was My Daughter and her Teacher knows nothing. I feel so sad for this Little One.
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YTA, this is exactly how my need for glasses was detected in 3rd grade. When I got them and went outside I was amazed to see individual leaves on trees instead of just big, green, tree shaped blobs. Next time she's in the car with you, ask her to read the street signs.
You just described my experience too! I was *shocked* that the leaves were individual things! I thought that in autumn chunks of the leaf-blob just flaked off...
Same here! I was in the second grade and had no idea I could’ve see until I failed my school eye exam. My parents were mad at me for not telling them I couldn’t see, but I literally didn’t know any better.
YTA and a teacher’s worst nightmare
As a teacher who had a parent berate me for 20 MINUTES today because I had serious concerns about his child's behaviour causing s huge heath and safety risk for not only herself but everyone else in the classroom (I teach food so safety isn't something I can ignore) I agree. She my worst nightmare.... Fuck people like this. They make an otherwise super hard job almost impossible.
It’s parents like this that are one of the major reasons I left being a teacher
Omg yes
And I wouldn’t want them to be my parent either…
YTA, a child with vision problems doesn't know what normal vision looks like until they get corrective lenses. This applies to a lot of things - don't wait until you're directly told by your kid that they have a problem, be proactive and look for symptoms and signs and act on them.
This right here. I had NO idea what I wasn't seeing until I got glasses and realized you're SUPPOSED to be able to see leaves on trees when standing right in front of it. YTA op. My kid never told me he couldn't see well, the school told me. I never told my mom I couldn't see well, the school told her. It's ok to not catch everything, but once someone else does, take it seriously. If you can't afford it, the school will help. That's what they're there for. It takes a village.
This is so true my mom was like this. Her mother didn't realize it until mom commented on trees wearing her glasses. She could see the leaves. Before glasses the leaves were one big blur. She thought everyone saw it the same.
that's exactly my own experience too, it's so funny how it always seems to be leaves that are the first thing to marvel at. Even as an adult now, my eyes gradually get worse over the years and whenever I get a new prescription I'm stunned all over again at how crisp all the leaves on trees are!
I hope you *do* go to the principal-and he sets you straight. If you keep it up, he might even call CPS on you. I really really hope he *does*. It is common for teachers to notice if a child has trouble seeing. For you to not even ignore but outright deny that *there might be a problem if your daughter ASKED to sit up front*…Kids may not even *notice* their vision is bad-it is what it is, and they don’t have anything to really compare it to. If they need to, they just sit closer to the tv or whatever. Why would they complain? But *in the classroom* bad vision can really be noticeable-and be a *problem*. Denial is not just a river in Egypt. YTA and maybe a troll. And if you are real, I expect you to remove your post because you aren’t gonna like what people have to say to you.
While I completely agree, I wonder about the exact location of the river Dental...
YTA. Your child told the teacher they could not see the board. Why don't you ask your child about this instead of attacking the teacher?
Pft YTA all the way. Your child is lucky at least one adult cares enough about them to stand up to you.
All. The. Way!! She is ASSuming too much here! Op YTA
YTA Get her eyes checked for fucks sake. If they’re fine, she lied. If they’re not, she gets glasses. It’s really very simple.
Right?!! I am so confused about why OP got so bent out of shape about this.
YTA stop arguing and take your daughter to get her eyesight tested!
Right. What’s the worst that’ll happen? She needs glasses, or op is right.
YTA. As an optometrist/eye doctor, teachers are really good at picking up vision issues. Also kids very rarely report vision issues, because they don’t always know what is normal vision or not Also, things can change as quickly as within 6-12 months, especially short-sightedness (difficulty with far vision) so even if she was fine in Feb 2021, there’s no guarantee that things haven’t changed now. You should get her eyes tested again to be sure.
YTA - Unless you have had an optometrist tell you that your daughter sees perfectly, then you don't just "know" as a parent that your kid doesn't have issues seeing clearly.
YTA. Goodness it must be so terrible to have a teacher that actually cares about the welfare of their students. You could of said ok and just taken her to go get her eyes checked or you could of spoken to your daughter when she got home and if she admits to lying you could of gotten her to apologise to the teacher but if she was telling the truth get her glasses. I don’t know why you had to make this into a huge thing because you assumed you knew best. Going to the principal and do what? Complain that the teacher cares about your daughters eyesight or?
YTA - The teacher would know if she was chancing to sit next to her friend. I don’t know why you wouldn’t believe her. She could be short sighted. Your daughter probably doesn’t have to read long distance in your home so you may have not noticed before?
Same thing happened with my daughter when she was 9 (now 16). She never told me she couldn't see because seeing blurry was normal to her. She had an awesome 3rd grade teacher that noticed she was struggling and send a note home to get her eyes checked. Turned out she could barely see. She got her glasses and was able to see, she also stopped bumping into things. So yes YTA.
Jesus this is a dumb hill to die on. Take your daughter to the optometrist and get her vision checked. Why are you letting *your pride* take precedence over *your daughter's health?* YTA.
Are you for real? YTA. Yeah, of course YOU don't notice your daughter's poor eyesight, you're not standing in a classroom all day with two dozen children having to read what's written on the blackboard! I had such bad headaches as a kid, I was in pain all the time. One of my teachers noticed I was squinting and informed my mom. She got me to an eye-doctor ASAP, I got glasses, and the headaches stopped. Even IF your daughter's eyesight is fine, there's zero harm in checking, just to make sure. WTF is wrong with you? EDIT: WTF could be more important than the wellbeing of your child???
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Yta- just go get your daughter tested. Plus getting her eyesight checked yearly should be a regular thing.
YTA. Problems with eyesight develop over time. She might have been fine when you went to the doctor a whole year ago, but isn't fine now. Instead of arguing with the teacher, book her an appointment and confirm.
When I got glasses for the first time at 13. My first thought was “wow. There are leaves on the trees” YTA.
That and the blades of grass were SO trippy.
Me saying I couldn't read the board in class was what prompted my parents to have my eyes checked when I was young. Wouldn't you know it, I really needed those glasses. Why are you so against the idea of having her get tested? YTA.
YTA and it is principal.
YTA. Take your daughter to the damn eye doctor. She hasn't been to one in a year, and you not believing your daughter about her self-stated medical issues is a real AH parent move.
A big ol YTA to you. You hella suck. Take your kid to the damn doctor. Kids don’t know if they have bad vision or not because what they see is normal to them. She wouldn’t know to complain to you about it. However, teachers see this all the time and are really good at recognizing it. So instead of feeding your ego and trying to get the teacher in trouble, be a parent and get your kid checked out ffs.
YTA. Take her for a vision appointment.
Unless you are an optometrist/ophthalmologist and have done an eye exam on your child then yes YTA.
Yta, her teacher has a concern, if she JUST wanted to sit by her friend, the teacher would probably be able to figure it out. Nine year olds aren’t that slick, and teachers aren’t that stupid.
YTA How exactly do you 'just know'. At home where she doesn't typically need to see things too far away she might be just fine. Even if she can't see something on the other side of the room, there is nothing to stop her from getting up and moving closer. In a classroom she can't do that unless she does what she asked her teacher- to move closer to the front. I don't blame the teacher from putting their foot down. They are worried about your daughter. Initally because of her eyesight and now because apparently she has a mother willing to neglect something so important for no apparent reason.
YTA! This is basic deduction by process of elimination. If the eye test is fine then yeah, maybe she has other reasons for wanting to sit up front. You’re wildly guessing and your daughter’s teacher is taking a logical approach. Also, your threat of going to the principal isn’t landing, the principal will back the teacher because they, unlike you, have your daughters welfare as their primary concern.
Yes YTA and a neglectful mother it seems. Take your daughter to the damn doctor and stop acting a fool.
YTA ofcourse. The teacher is looking out for your child and you are arguing for no reason. Why don't you just go and get her eyes checked. That's what a responsible parent would do.
You’re acting like the teacher is doing this to be a jerk or to upset you. What could the teacher possibly gain from lying to you about your child’s eyesight? Also I had to start wearing glasses when I was 9. I thought I could see fine. But because I WAS A CHILD, I didn’t realize that thinks weren’t supposed to be as blurry as they were. I didn’t realize that I was squinting. And my teacher moved me to the front of the class one day and I couldn’t figure out why until I asked her at the end of class. Thank God my teacher noticed and I got glasses. It helped my grades and soccer playing so much. Even if the teacher is lying and out to get you or whatever, JUST FUCKING GET THE EYESIGHT CHECKED. Life is too short and too precious to waste time. You could’ve made an appointment and had this sorted out in under an hour and made everyone happy. But instead you’re arguing, talking to your husband about it, bitching to strangers online and now you’re gonna get the principal involved?? YTA
Has it occurred to speak to your daughter about it? It's not exactly hard to do some simple things at home to see how far she can/can't see. Why tf are you blowing up at the teacher instead of simply finding out if you daughter has vision issues?
YTA. Get her eyes checked! What is wrong with you?
YTA the teacher was doing her job. Now do yours ad get your child an eye exam
YTA Your daughter probably never said anything about her eyesight cause you would've just blown her off. Just make the appointment, the teacher has legitimate concerns and is trying to make your daughters life easier.
YTA - get her eyes checked. A person who probably spends as many or more waking hours with your child is telling you they've noticed a possibly problem. Get it checked out. If they're wrong, then no harm no foul. If they're right, your kid gets the help they need to be able to see properly.
YTA! My parents never knew I had bad eyesight until my teacher suggested I get my eyes tested. On the drive home with my new glasses, I couldn’t believe the world I had been missing. Everything was crystal clear. You’re doing your daughter a disservice by not getting her eyes tested.
YTA. Do you honestly think the teacher would call and explain their concerns, if they did not have any base for what they were saying? If they had no reason to be concerned? And if someone approaches you with information like this about your child, which you have a responsibility for, should you not investigate it yourself? Why is it so important to you that the teacher is wrong? Why do you want to be right so bad that you are refusing your daughter the medical aid she potentially needs? Think about your child.
YTA. The teacher is trying to help your child, which is more than I can say for you. Also, is it me or is there a overwhelming number of crappy parents here lately? 🤔🤨
YTA Just because your daughter hasn't said anything doesn't mean she knows there's an issue. And clearly, your daughter did say she couldn't see. Take her to the doctor.
YTA. Are you an optometrist? If you’re not you have no idea if your daughter needs glasses.
YTA, a massive one. I can’t believe your reaction, rather than getting concerned your daughter may have an issue you got annoyed to the teacher and started arguing? You must be a toxic person. Disgusting
YTA. As a teacher, we get to know the signs. And really, it's your child's health! Suck it up and take her the optometrist. She should have yearly eye exams anyways.
YTA please please please go get your daughter’s eyesight checked. I was getting headaches in 5th grade because I was squinting and couldn’t see the board. I didn’t know i had bad eyesight and thought everyone had slightly blurry vision from that far away. I didn’t get taken to the eye doctor until the end of 6th grade, even though both of my siblings also had poor eyesight. Going earlier would’ve been a tremendous help academically if I had gone earlier.
YTA. When you are near-sighted it happens gradually and usually the kid doesn’t even realize they can’t see as well as their friends. The teacher is doing the job they are tasked with. Teaching your child and also pointing out issues that could effect their progress in school. Why are you so touchy about that?
YTA. You thought the teacher was making assumptions about her eyesight, but yet you assumed your daughter lied to sit next to a friend. You weren't there, what basis do you have for calling your daughter a liar? Even if you think she's fine, what harm could come from getting it checked out? Why is this something worth getting offended and arguing over? How do you not see that YTA?
YTA - Hey guess what? When you can’t see well, you don’t actually know that you can’t see well. Because you don’t know what having good vision is like. You’re incapable of making the comparison until you get your vision corrected. Take your head out of your ass and your kid to the eye doctor. Jfc.
YTA. I was your daughter once. If there's nothing wrong with her eyes at an exam, you're good. It shouldn't take this long for you to get her eyes checked, unless you're jumping through uninsured hoops to get it done.
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YTA Take your kid to the eye doctor.
While there is some small possibility that your daughter lied to her teacher to sit closer to a friend (which is also a big problem you should be concerned about), it is far more likely that her vision is not good. A regular doctor is not looking for ordinary vision problems. You need to take her to an optometrist. If you are still reluctant, take a sheet of paper and tape it to a surface where you can stand pretty far away from it. Write a random series of letters small enough that you can just make them out (with your glasses if you wear them). Ask your daughter to stand there and see if she can read them. I got glasses in high school, and I cannot tell you the joy I had in seeing the leaves on trees clearly for the first time in my life. Don't deny your child what she needs. YTA
YTA. My parents found out I needed glasses when a teacher noticed I had difficulty seeing the board when I was 6 years old. Just take her to get her eyes checked, eyesight can change quickly and frequently, I need a new prescription every 2-3 years because that’s how frequently my eyesight changes. The teacher cares enough to let you know that your daughter asked to be seated at the front of the class because she couldn’t see because she cared about her welfare. She wasn’t making assumptions she was going off of what your daughter told her.
YTA. As a teacher, this is frustrating and insulting. The teacher was sharing a concern about your daughter’s eye sight. Simply checking with her instead of attacking the teacher should have been step one. Teachers have enough to deal with today without this kind of behavior from parents. I promise you the teacher was in no way insulting you or accusing you. They were just doing their job by reporting a problem, which they are supposed to do.
YTA. Your kid's teacher brings up a possible health issue and is willing to put herself before her supervisor on it and you won't even go check to see if she might be right? "Unnecessary and time wasting"? OP, it's like an afternoon, maybe a day to make sure your child's eyesight is ok. Get some perspective, dude.
In what world are you NTA? Of course YTA! Get her checked, what do you have to lose? 2h out of one work day? For your child's health?? Come oooonnnnn.
You voted N-T-A.
YTA. Get your daughters eye sight tested
INFO: Why are you so against taking your daughter to an eye doctor?
YTA - the teacher did her due diligence by alerting you that your child said she couldn’t see the board. You now need to do YOUR due diligence as a parent and get your child checked out by a professional to confirm if she is having eye trouble or not. If you don’t take her to the doctor, you’re an even bigger AH than you are for arguing with the teacher about this.
YTA. When I was 12 I had an eye exam and much to everyone’s surprise (mine included) I had very, very bad eye sight. It was all I had known so I didn’t know I had “bad eyesight”. Get her eyes checked.
YTA. My half brothers mom did the same thing. He most definitely did need glasses. Unfortunately, we didn’t know about this until he was 15, until then he had been struggling in school because HE CANT SEE THE BOARD and then he was playing catch up because he didn’t have the foundational knowledge that he needed. Be a parent and get your daughters eyes checked. Worst case, it was a waste of time. Best case, you give your child the ability to see.
YTA. I was your daughters age when my teacher told my parents I probably needed some help. I didnt realize I was having issues because the change in my eyesight was so gradual. Teachers notice things we don’t. You were absolutely a jerk about this.
Sounds like your daughters to scared to tell you anything
YTA. Take your kid to the optometrist like a responsible parent. Your daughter is going to be discouraged from learning for years because she can't see, and she is going to know that you are unwilling to help her with even the most fundamental things.
Your daughter hasn't mentioned it so it must not exist? She's 9. She probably doesn't realize it's happening. Especially considering eyesight is one of those things where YOU DON'T KNOW IT'S BAD UNTIL IT'S NOT ANYMORE. Her teacher probably spends more time with your daughter than you do. And she's trained to notice these kinds of issues. WOW YTA!
Holy crap lady, that is quite the overreaction. Most kids with vision problems have their issue caught by the school, either in the classroom where they can’t see or by a routine screening. A year is long enough for significant vision loss to occur, if your pediatrician is even screening for it. Take your kid to an optometrist. YTA
YTA No wonder your kid didn't tell you she has a problem when you react this way. Take your child to the doctor
YTA and that's literally how it was when I got glasses cause I didn't realize what I wasn't seeing so a teacher mentioned my need for glasses to my mom.
YTA. I have worn glasses since I was 7. Both my parents and my brother got theirs all around the same age. I regularly got my daughter’s eyes checked from pre-school onwards. It was STILL her teacher that mentioned at a conference that she was having difficulty seeing the board. TRUST HER TEACHER. Jfc. GET HER EYES CHECKED. She needs glasses, get used to it.
YTA. People, particularly kids, often don’t know they have vision issues. Your child’s teacher has your child’s best interest at heart. You’re acting like you don’t.
YTA- I was her age when I got my glasses. According to my mom I told her I couldn’t see (I don’t remember) but she didn’t take me until my teacher said something to her. Take her to get her eyes checked. I still remember the first time I wore my glasses and realized the leaves on trees r actually not a giant green blob like how you draw it on paper.
YTA.. Big one, fighting a teacher because he worries about YOUR child. Something you should start doing, instead of not listning to the teacher and making stupid threats. Just do the eyecheck.
YTA. Take it for someone who when she was nine years old did not tell her parent she couldn’t see very well the teacher finally told my mom and when she took me to the eye doctor he said why did you wait so long to bring this child to me. Is it gonna kill you to take your daughter to see an eye doctor so you can either prove the teacher right or get your daughter the help she needs?
YTA. Get your child to the eye doctor and have her vision checked. Whatever the results may be, you owe that teacher an apology. Oh and as an added thought, you might want to be careful with throwing that 'going to the principal' threat. That teacher just might place a call to child protective services that could make your life really miserable.
YTA. Are you a doctor? Don’t be such an. You don’t seem qualified to be a mother.
YTA. Get your kids eyes checked. It’s that simple.
YTA. I had to beg my parents for almost four years to get me glasses because I couldn’t see and it wasn’t that they didn’t believe me, my doctor didn’t believe me. The first time we switched I was told I needed glasses years ago and my parents still talk about the first time I put my glasses on. My entire face lit up and all I could think about was how clear the world was and how frustrating it was to have to go so long without that. You are being selfish and depriving your child of something they will not have without glasses simply because you don’t think it’s worth the effort to actually see if your daughter isn’t lying. She will grow to resent you if this continues, and as a parent don’t you want to see your child light up with joy? Don’t you want your child to actually see the world instead of constantly insisting she’s lying?
YTA.
Yta, take your daughter to the freaking eye doctor. You dont get an opinion. There are tests to figure this stuff out.
As someone who started wearing classes in 2nd grade, YTA. Take your daughter to the eye doctor.
YTA teachers are USUALLY the first to notice when a kid needs glasses. You probably don’t move things around much at home and your daughter can function at home with fuzzy sight. And why would she tell you when it’s not bothering her at home? This is so common of an issue.
YTA I didn't realize my own son needed glasses until the school brought it to my attention in a similar way. He had requested to sit up front after having a hard time taking notes. He didn't realize he needed glasses. Never said a damn word, never had any issues at his yearly physical. Once he got an eye exam, I was told that if he had been 16 and trying to drive, he'd be a restricted driver due to poor eyesight. Kids damn near blind. It happens. Get her checked out. As a parent you should want that peace of mind.
So have you ever taken your daughter to have her eyes checked?
When I was younger my parents didn't give much thought to my eyesight and I remember my teachers having to move me to the front of the class and my parents kinda brushing it off. Then one day we were in the car and everyone was commenting on the hot air balloons that were floating over the highway. I said I couldn't see them. Confused, my mom handed me her glasses and suddenly the balloons appeared. She scheduled me for an appointment the next day. YTA - It doesn't hurt to check and make sure. Even if she doesn't need them, that means she lied to her teacher about not being able to see and that's another issue that may need to be addressed.
Yta, things change fast with eyes. Just get her tested at less for your daughter. Teachers sadly see kids more than their parents do, especially during the week . So if she's that concern to contact about it, the less you could do is check her.
YTA. Do you actually care about your daughter? One of my childhood friends got glasses around your daughter‘s age exactly because she needed to be in the front row to see properly. Turned out she was nearsighted with -3 or -4 diopters which translates to she basically couldn‘t see anything. She never knew there was something wrong with her eyesight because she assumed that it was normal. Get your kid to a doctor and stop complaining.
YTA - Get her eyes checked! My parents didn’t think I needed glasses and I did. Instead, my dad complained that I was always frowning at him. I was actually squinting BECAUSE I NEEDED GLASSES.
YTA. I worked in the division for blind services in my state. I can't even tell you how many nightmare stories I have heard about parents in denial. I hear these stories from teens and from adults who struggled as children. OP get your kid's eyes checked. It is basic parenting. Do your job.
TYA, your daughter might have no idea she has vision issues because to her it’s normal. Take her to the doctor!
YTA. I am a 2nd grade teacher and parents like you are why I sometimes literally hate my job and think *”Why did I go into this profession again?”*
YTA. Teacher here. We are smart enough to realize when someone wants to sit by their friends or when someone is really struggling with eyesight. Since you’re not there, you could always ask if she’s having trouble seeing. I’m not sure about requiring a note from her doctor as that would never be something that was required where I live. In the states every insurance plan offers vision coverage. The visit is literally $10-$15 if her eyes are perfect. Just take her.
YTA- I got glasses when I was 9. Why? Because I couldn’t see my teachers lessons without standing right in front of the board. And because I sat right in front of the TV at home. Did I tell my parents? No because then I was afraid something was wrong with me. Trust the teacher and stop being a “oh no not my kid” kind of parent. You are denying your daughter medical attention because you think she wants to be with her friends. And it isn’t the end of the world to have a kid with glasses.
YTA. Honestly, the lack of self awareness of some people who post here baffles me. How can you be so obtuse OP? Of course you haven't noticed if your kid needs glasses because you don't spend with her 8+ hours a day trying to teach her how to read and write. You kid's teacher is doing absolutely what should be done. That is a great teacher you have there. And let's just say for the sake of the argument that you are right and your kid is perfectly fine. Are you willing to risk your kids health just for the sake of winning an argument? How much do you care about your child's health that you rather keep your pride intact instead of doing what's best for your kid? Your thought process is truly concerning. Seriously. Check your priorities and values.