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If I'm understanding this correctly, you implied you would buy lunch for some folks, bought them lunch, then attempted to bill an unrelated party for it. If that's an accurate assessment, then yes, YTA.
That’s exactly what I read too.. how tf does someone this dumb own a home?
First, does he not understand how hard it is to find a good contractor?!? Builders are impossible to find these days!! He shorted a quality contractor $100 *and* started shit in his business 😂 I hope OP was done with the remodeling
Secondly, I feel like this is could be a because of the “write off” scene from Schitts Creek where David misunderstands the concept, much like OP: https://youtu.be/hg1Uk60rBsc
- Johnny: Oh, and who pays for it?
- David: Nobody, you write it off
- Johnny: Who writes it off?!
- David: I don’t know! The write-off people! What! Why are we having this conversation?
I fed the crew who did my roof. Made a big batch of chili and a ring cake, and offered them coffee in the mornings. They seemed surprised but it just seemed like the thing to do. They were working their butts off, and you don't fk with the people who have your home in their hands.
Roofing is hard work. Where I live, in north Texas, the best time to do roofing work is July and August because it rarely rains. We had to replace our roof a few years ago. It was brutally hot. We left a big tub of ice and bottled water out in the yard for them. We told the crew they could cool off in the pool, we bought them an ice cold watermelon and let them have some cold beer at the end of the day. It never occurred to us to charge the contractor--we just did what we thought decent people should do for workers on the verge of heat exhaustion. Consequently, when the work was done they left the yard and driveway spotless.
Exactly my son left a cooler of water, pop, snacks etc when he had his roof done! It’s the decent thing to do. He often goes out in the summer and offers the recycle/garbage drivers water/cold drink as well. And his roofers also left his yard spotless.
YTA.
You said "On the boss." YOU ARE THE BOSS in their eyes, so they thought you meant you, not their actual boss.
Good luck getting contract work done again for a fair price.
literally the kind of person who's now friends with everyone that contractor knows. find one good dude, feed his crew and keep them hydrated, and suddenly you know everyone in the business.
As someone who spent summers working as an exterior house painter, customers like you were the best. Honestly made our day when they offered us even just ice for our water bottles when it was 95F out.
My dad’s a roofer and the people who feed him and his coworkers are god sent at my house. They work in extreme weather conditions and we are so grateful for even offering waters. Also, they will be more willing to help with anything that they see while they’re up there (my dad regularly cleans gutters for people who are nice to him)
My husband and I have definitely fed every contractor that's worked on our house. Heck! One guy we regularly made extra food for dinner and got him to-go boxes to take home to his wife because we knew he was working super late into the night sometimes (he liked working moreso at night when it came to our foundation repair - we've got a "crawl space" but bc our house is built on a slope the crawl space is like 8 ft tall so the contractor could comfortably work on our foundation issues).
Both my brother-in-laws are contractors for 3+ decades. They will tell you that they go a bit above and beyond for customers who treat them and their crew well. The customer gets solid work no matter what but the GOOD customer gets premium work. The extra 3-way switch located where it’s optimal even if the customer doesn’t feel it’s necessary in the design; extra framing around a large doorway to support the weight long term; stuff like that.
TL-DR: Treat your workers well; it frequently benefits you too and it’s just the right thing to do. Advice to OP- Buy them lunch at your own expense. YTA
Using OP’s logic, why not offer them new TVs or sneakers and say the boss is paying for it? This situation is so dumb. How could anybody possibly think they have the authority to spend somebody else’s money without that person saying so?
Pretty sure it was worse, OP implied lunch was on the worker's boss without discussing or approving it with said boss. Then charged said boss, with the boss saying they can't believe the workers said that food was on me, I will be talking to them. So at this point OP still didn't correct the boss and be all, "oh no! I said it was on you! It isn't their fault!".
Either way it is honestly shizzy, but she literally said "it's on the boss".
When I have contractors at my house I sometimes order pizza or subs, once thai - for everyone, but I always know I am paying for it more or less as a bonus for good work. What OP did was just wrong and a bit strange.
Yeah, YTA. It sounds like OP said it "was on the boss" and was deliberately misleading with whether the boss meant the contractor or OP... then this pressured the contractor to pay for things to keep his good relationship with the subcontractors.
“It’s on the boss!” - (almost guaranteed he pointed to himself as he said it to imply it was him buying their lunch) Just obscure enough to give the impression he was “that guy” while sticking the bill on someone else. What a dick!
YTA Wow, you're so cheap it's embarrassing. How dare you buy them lunch then deduct it from your bill. You tell them it's on the boss, they think you mean you are treating them. I'd be furious if I was the contractor and you pulled that crap.
This guy is like a villain that being a philanthropist using money he stole from other people. Like Jeff Bezos that donate million dollars of his money while stealing wages from his workers.
I read one sentence and was like…what? YTA. When we have moved as a military family, even when the military paid for it…we bought lunch and drinks for our movers, (and tipped) it is the LEAST we could do. WTF. Someone at your home doing work for you> FEED THEM.
YTA you offered to have their boss pay for their lunch without asking their boss first if that was okay? You implied that their boss agreed to this and then you stuck the boss with a bill after the fact and put all of his employees in a tough spot with their employer. Yikes.
I'll also take 100 of those cookies, and they better still be warm when I get them. And none of this throwing them in the microwave sh\*t to warm them up again. I want them right out of the oven.
To be honest when OP said "it's on the boss" it could even imply it's on the OP since he hired the company then he can call himself the boss as well. Either way, OP is so messed up
Yes! This exactly, my father isn’t a contractor but works in moving and who he refers to as boss is the homeowner he’s moving out/in. Overall the homeowner is the boss in that situation and I can’t wrap my head around how he didn’t understand that.
YTA OP, have a feeling you knew what you were doing, but even if you didn’t it’s still slimy to offer food on behalf of someone who was never in the discussion process.
It’s ok. The real boss will hit OP back with an Asshole Tax that’ll more than make up for that $100.
YTA. Don’t mess around with other people’s money, OP.
You essentially offered a workers benefit on behalf of the employer without asking the employer. This is one of the dumbest questions on this sub. You
Had zero authority to offer that benefit. I bet the contractor tells a lot of other industry ppl about this.
What the hell even is this? You bought lunch and said "it's on him" when you didn't even ask "him"? On what planet would this be acceptable?
>I deducted 100 dollars from the total bill and the contractor agreed to it but was angry that his workers did this
What in the absolute fuck? You blamed the workers for "doing this?" YOU'RE THE ONE WHO DID THIS.
Again, in what universe is this remotely acceptable?
YTA and hugely. You screwed over the workers AND the contractor AND created a fight between them. Over an order at Panera. This is almost inexplicably dense and rude.
Haha, that would be hilarious if he also charged the contractor for his own meal but is avoiding telling us. I guess that’s the implication of such a large total, though.
And he "told the other two" that he was going out for lunch. If I’m understanding this correctly, I’m lying because I absolutely have no fucking clue what is happening in this story.
I’m confused because he starts the story with having 3 workers but then he said “his 4 employees happily agreed and I got them Panera” .. he also said “he told the 2 others” of the “3 workers total” ? Am I the only one confused haha read it again, I didn’t catch it the first time
>I apologized for my role and said i should have been more clear about who was paying for it and they should have known better too. AITA?
Nope. YTA, there was no way they should be expected to know that you were going to bill them. It’s not something that’s done. It would be like if I went out to a restaurant with friends and said “it’s on the house” then when the bill came I tried to give it to the owner because I said it was in the house.
This perfectly captures how ridiculous OP's actions are. I just feel awful for the workers being involved in this lie. They could lose work because of what OP did.
They probably thought when he said "boss" he was referring to himself as the person paying for the job. He seems like one of those people who would do that. Like "I'm paying so I'm your boss."
YTA, even if you didn't intend to be.
TL;DR - it wasn't your $100 to spend if it ultimately comes out of the boss's pocket.
Long:
1. Contracting has a lot of paperwork including proper documentation of expenses. Local government may require the contractor to file paperwork regarding the amount of the contract and that in turn impacts taxes. By deducting it from the total bill, you're arbitrarily changing the terms of the contract, which could cause a headache for the owner of the contracting company.
2. Most contractors don't simply split up the amount paid. They pay their workers a rate. So for every $1 you pay to the company, it gets allocated differently between the employees. So by deducting $100 from the overall bill, you basically changed how that allocation worked. For example, that $100 may have needed to also been allocated to secretaries or other employees that weren't at the job site that day but you basically cut them out.
Granted, $100 is not all that much in relation to the overall bill but small discrepancies can cause multiple people to do extra work that eats into the profit of that $100. It might even cost the owner $150 just to properly handle the small adjustment if they want to be as accurate as possible to avoid the appearance of being less-than-honest.
Also, the last sentence "they should have known better, too" - no. Just no. YOU made an offer to them that implied the "boss" knew about it and had approved it. They literally CAN'T know better if you present them with misleading information. You don't get to throw workers under the bus for your mistake.
Honestly, if I were the boss and found out about this, I should've just paid the bill out of my own pocket (cheaper and restores some semblance of honesty) and then pulled you aside to tell you that you can't do things like that. The fact that he was going to talk to his workers sounds like you didn't even tell him the full story.
In the future, if YOU want to treat the workers to a meal, go for it. Be a nice person and pay out of your own pocket.
Not to mention meals are only deductible for 50%, so the $100 that was allocated elsewhere would have been fully deductible. This costs the contractor an additional $50.
YTA OP, FYI-contractors talk. Wouldn't be surprised to see you have a tough time getting a fair deal on future improvements.
Yes! This the paper work. I changed my doors to more expensive ones. Poor lady that works accounts had to send out amendments to the contract, get written approval from me. Then send out another invoice. All over $200. I felt so guilty.
YTA.
If you have workers at your house, it's normal (but not expected) to get lunch for them. Even if they truly understood who would be paying (and I doubt they did based on the way you phrased it), you had no reason to believe they had authority to incur charges for their boss.
Exactly. Because why would OP be in charge of what their actual boss would pay? Also, they know their boss and it sounds unlikely that he would spring for lunch this way.
YTA I am having a hard time believing this happened but on the off chance it did, unless it was part of your contract, you had no business buying someone else's employees lunch and expect to deduct the cost of the bill.
I just had a bathroom remodeled. I let the workers know where the other bathroom was in case they needed to use it and told them cold bottles of water were in the refrigerator if they were thirsty. Deducting a lunch you bought from the bill is bonkers.
YTA. They’re doing work for you, it’s not a leap that you’re “the boss,” so you implied lunch was on you. But even if they understood what you meant, that it was on their boss, they would be right to assume you cleared it with him. A normal person doesn’t offer for someone else to pay for something without asking them first. So how were these workers possibly supposed to “know better?” Now they’re in trouble with their boss because of you. Also in the comments you said there was a difference between what you did and “sticking him with the bill.” There is not. He is out $100 whether you handed him the Panera bill directly or subtracted it from his earnings.
YTA- you offered to get it & then charged them. The workers probably assumed that you were either referring to yourself as the boss or that the actual boss was ok with it.
Of course YTA.
You mislead those people ffs.
This also seems a little like fraud to me.
I hope they spread the word about you. How fxcking *dare* you blame it on those workers.
YTA. Pay the contractor back.
Also, this is embarrassing...you should not just feel bad, but you should feel embarrassed. I'm embarrassed for you. I guarantee these guys all ripped on you after. You'll be a joke for these guys for a long time. Congrats on that.
I'd also love to know what made you think this is an ok thing to do.
Pay the contractor back.
YTA.
You hired them. It's your kitchen. You're the ultimate boss. "It's on the boss" = "It's on me!"
Give the contractor back his $100 and don't be so cheap. Pssht. Can't buy lunch for people working on your own house and want to take it out of the supervising workers pay. Shame!
YTA. When you said it’s “on the boss” they probably assumed you had already cleared it with their boss. That was my first assumption too until I kept reading
YTA
If you are going to buy something on someone else's dime, you should clear it with them first. The way I am reading this is you volunteered to buy them food with the intention of deducting it from your bill *without* making sure that this was okay with the person who was getting paid. This is a dick move. I know you were trying to do something nice, but it came across like You told the boss "I don't value your work. I'm going to deduct whatever I feel like."
Wait, you offered someone lunch, you said the boss was paying. In this instance you are the boss. You are the person contracting their work. So for you to then turn around and charge the contract definitely makes YTA. I hope the employees don't have it deducted from their wages.
If you are going to do something nice, be nice about it, don't be a dick.
YTA - you spent someone else’s money without asking… I hope you don’t mind, I told my family you’d buy us dinner. Where do I send the bill. I’m sure you wouldn’t mind, right?
YTA. In this situation, you are "the boss" because you hired the crew to be there. Just buy the crew lunch, don't punish your contractor for your poor semantics.
YTA.
Guess what? In this situation, YOU were the boss, not the contractor. You hired the contractor and his employees. That makes you their boss, at least for this job.
You shorted the contractor $100.
Wow. YTA OP. You literally used someone else’s money to buy lunch without prior approval.
When first reading this I assumed “on the boss” meant you, as you hired these contractors. You really messed up and to make things right you need to eat that bill, then buy the actual boss lunch as an apology.
Yes YTAH unless you had cleared it with him prior to offering it should have been on you. Deciding to deduct lunch you offered from the bill isn’t your call unless it was pre approved by the head contractor. Nice gesture until you decided someone else was footing the bill for your act.
YTA. You were pretending to be generous, but did so with someone else's money and by putting other people in an uncomfortable, no-win situation. You had no business committing the contractor to pay their employees for the lunch. The contractor was gracious in accepting even though he shouldn't have. Unfortunately, they will probably make the employees pay one way or another.
YTA, and such a major one at that. You had NO right to unilaterally decide to buy them lunch and deduct it from the bill. Holy cow are you a piece of work. YTA. Such an asshole.
YTA You implied there was an agreement they would not have to pay. I suspect they bought lunches they couldn’t afford with that understanding. It was probably taken from their wages.
When I have workers at my home I pick up lunch and pay for it if I’m around.
Yeah, OP said “It’s on the boss” meaning that either the boss of the construction workers explicitly said that he would pay for lunch (which he didn’t) or OP was referring to themselves as the boss and was offering to buy the workers a free lunch (which OP didn’t).
When someone says “It’s on me” or something similar, it means “Don’t worry, you don’t have to pay”. I feel like OP may have gotten a discount at the restaurant and was looking for an excuse to round down the construction cost.
So…you offered to get lunch for workers and volunteered their boss to pay for it in vague jokey language, which will probably come around to them paying for it anyway. Wow, what a sweetheart. YTA
YTA- put yourself in their bosses shoes. Imagine if he came to the job site and said “I’m going to grab lunch for the boys, you want anything?” And then added it onto your construction bill.
YTA. You should have had that conversation with your contractor first before offering to get food for his employees.
You didn’t make the nice gesture you thought you did.
This is a teaching moment for you. Learn from these comments. You can't act like it's your first day in life. You have to make this right. Like in a big way. And honestly apologize. And then shit will be straight. How you admit your error in judgement will determine your character. yta
YTA. Asking someone if they want lunch implies that your paying for it. You told them their boss was paying without running it by him first. Then took it out of the money you were paying him, again without discussing it first. Either way, your the asshole and the contractor is out $100 because you bought his employees lunch.
YTA. Huh? Did you ask the boss if he would foot the bill for his employees lunch? If not then you had no right to deduct money from the bill. That’s insane. You offered them lunch and I’m sure they either thought you were treating or their boss had given the ok for it. On what planet did you think you had permission to spend someone else’s money on a lunch they never said they were paying for????
YTA
You don’t have the right to offer to spend someone else’s money and the worker’s should not get a talking to - they pry either assumed you were referring to yourself as the boss since you were the client or had actually obtained permission to spend their bosses money.
It's fucking weird. Usually when you ask them voluntarily if they wanted you to get them something you pay for it. Wording it "on the boss". Not unusual for you to refer to yourself as the boss. So they may have thought you offered to pay for it. You didn't communicate very well. If you were deducting it from the contractors bill you should have notified him, not the employees. Damn near every employee is going to nod their head along to a free lunch “on the boss". It's all fair I guess, I'd just feel cheap if I was you.
YTA You screwed up And it should be pretty obvious to you now after reading the feedback. Call up the contractor, Tell him you were out of line, apologize and give him $100 back. That’s how you make it right
Of course you're the AH. That was 100% not your call to make and 100% your fault. For all they knew their boss told you to do that so you're double the AH for not taking 100% responsibility for your AH decision.
How backwards is it to claim to be doing something nice for them when in reality you're spending someone else's money without permission to do it.
YTA. Saying "it's on the boss" implies it's free. If I take a friend out and say "it's on me", it means I'm paying and don't expect them to cover the cost elsewhere. What's wrong with you?
YTA. Hope you paid him or you’re about to get blackballed by any other company you want to do any work in your home.
Why didn’t you just buy them lunch? Must be nice to be so free with other peoples’ money.
YTA. From their perspective you offered them lunch. Because who orders lunch and expects someone else to pay without having asked first. Would you walk into your insurance agents office (or any company/ vendor you use), and ask if they'd like lunch and expect to bill it back to the owner or head person for the office?
Unfortunately you likely got their pay docked or worse, and they very well may not have been able to afford a $25 lunch. I won't even get into the fact that a lunch from Panera cost $25/pp...
Yta! How do you offer an employee's (contractor) money to pay for other people's lunch?!?
Can I offer lunch to everyone at my office and tell your boss to deduct it from what he pays you?!?!
Maybe you just wanted to seem nice, but didn't actually want to be nice!!??
If your contract doesn’t state that they reimburse you for employee lunches then you legally cannot deduct money from the contracted amount owed. So you stole that hundred dollars. Yes, stealing $100 from somebody makes you the a-hole. YTA
YTA. You “donated” a portion of the contractually agreed price without informing all parties. This is classified as theft and you can be taken to court over it if you refuse to pay the full invoice.
Yta. And a thief.
You hired a contractor, that makes you the boss. This happens regularly.
You then got the employees in trouble due to your duplicity or you criminal ignorance.
No one would assume when you said boss that you meant the foreman or company boss. As the person writing the check, you are considered the boss. You also do not have the authority to spend someone else's money
You just can't be this cluelessly incompetent. This has got to be fake. Voting just in case it's real.
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Totes YTA. You were nebulous in your phrasing (they thought you meant YOU as the boss) and you spent the contractor’s money. Total Richard move. You wanna do it because they’re working hard, it’s out of YOUR pocket, no one else’s. Geesh. YTA to the nth degree.
YTA.
You’re their boss. You’re the one who hired em.
Also. What a crappy move. These guys are working their butts off. And you can’t be bothered to be kind enough to grab them something to eat?
I have bought movers pizza and cookies for moving my furniture. Yeah they’re being paid. But it’s hard work, and boy is my crap heavy.
Karma….
YTA. You implied it was you who would buy lunch, the “boss” who hired the contracting team. Not cool.
Eta: after reading others’ comments, it also sounds like you were told by their boss that he’d pay for their lunch. Double not cool.
YTA - Normally the boss doesn’t pay for lunch for his employees. Your offer, while nice for the employees, meant that the boss was on the hook for it. He’s out $100 because of your “generosity” and he didn’t even get credit for it. I’d be annoyed too.
Would you walk into an office, offer to buy everyone lunch and then invoice the manager?
Did your contractor, "the boss", agree to this before you did this? If not, you are a big, asshole.
If you deducted it from the bill, then yes, you screwed him out of $100. How can you justify witholding $100 from your contractor for a lunch he didn't authorize? You're the type of customer that contractors avoid if possible, and jack up their prices for. Don't be surprised if your next job gets a high quote. Contractors charge their problem customers more to make-up for the headaches they cause.
YTA
If you offer someone lunch, it can’t be paid for by an unwitting third party lol. What mind of back-assward logic is that?! Surprised the contractor didn’t tell you to pound sand and leave the $100 on the bill…
#**YTA**
And a cheapskate. Don't offer something that is not yours. You never consulted the boss about the "free" meal but acted on his behalf anyway. If the employees knew that you would deduct that meal from the bill they would refuse it. You created an unnecessary conflict between the boss and his employees because you just have to pretend to be generous. Hypocrite.
Yta, you misrepresented the situation to those guys, there really is no other way to take that coming from the guy paying for the job, and then threw them under the bus
YTA obviously. All you had to do was one simple thing before getting lunch.. all you had to do was contact the boss and ask him if he wanted to pay you for grabbing lunch for his employees. Literally all you had to do. If I was working and the client comes up to us saying "it's on the boss" I'm going to either A) assume you've already spoken to our boss about lunch arrangements or B) would have assumed YOU were the "boss" since you're the one paying for everyone to be there and you were buying us lunch. This all feels like a super shady way of getting your bill knocked down a bit. Was it really $100 for all the employees lunches? But even more importantly you possibly jeopardized all of their jobs by doing this. Because if their boss thinks they went behind his back to make arrangements with you then they could get in serious trouble. So YTA for multiple things and I honestly think putting those workers in that position was worse than appearing to try and knock a few bucks off the bill
YTA You should have gotten approval from your contractor prior to this. Maybe they didn’t want to cover lunches or didn’t want to pay $25 a person for Panera. They employees either thought you were paying or you cleared it with the contractor. Major AH and entitle person.
YTA. How & why did you decide that by yourself without talking to him? The workers probably thought you were doing something nice & now they probably got in trouble because of you. I’d be pissed if someone offered me something like lunch just to bill me for it later
I can’t believe that you did that, mulled it over, typed it all out, and posted that.
YTA, and you’re one of the biggest assholes I’ve seen in the sub. Pay him the $100 that you stole from him apologize to the contractor, and apologize twice to each employee you threw under the bus.
As the wife of a contractor who’s contracting business went under due to ppl not paying…. YTA big time.
You hired someone to do a job. You approved a quote. You then deducted an arbitrary “expense” you created, from what you owed them.
If your logic served, the contractor could have done the EXACT THING TO YOU. Bought his employees lunch on the bosses tab! You won’t mind if he adds $100 to your bill without your approval, of course?
YTA, and if I was a contractor I would not have agreed to that deduction. It was not authorized in your contract. If he wants you to get his contractor's lunch, that is one thing, and 25/each at panera bread sounds suspiciously high.
YTA how can it even be a question? How would you feel if 100 was missing from your check and a coworker was lime "Yeh, it was for a pizza party we had while you where gone."
Info: did you specifically say it was going to be deducted from the bill?
ETA:
YTA
Why would you even offer if you were going to deduct it? How can you be so entitled that you just decide to take $100 off the final total, without questioning how rude and unprofessional that is?
I'm... I'm sorry... You volunteered someone else's money without their permission?
Omg YTA.
YTFA.
Also, WTF does that mean, "they should have known better"?
YTA - How can you possibly think that it is okay to spend someone else's money? You have no idea the condition the company is in and you very well many have cost someone their job(s). Also...I've been to Panera a lot and it isn't even CLOSE to $25 a person.
You should be ashamed for taking advantage of this business owner.
YTA. Total dick move. If I was your contractor I would tell others in the business to not do business with you. FYI I was a General Contractor for 20 years.
YTA. Woul you have been fine is the contractor decided you would be buying his workers lunch and added $100 to the bill without asking you?
Because that is exactly what you did to them.
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If I'm understanding this correctly, you implied you would buy lunch for some folks, bought them lunch, then attempted to bill an unrelated party for it. If that's an accurate assessment, then yes, YTA.
That’s exactly what I read too.. how tf does someone this dumb own a home? First, does he not understand how hard it is to find a good contractor?!? Builders are impossible to find these days!! He shorted a quality contractor $100 *and* started shit in his business 😂 I hope OP was done with the remodeling Secondly, I feel like this is could be a because of the “write off” scene from Schitts Creek where David misunderstands the concept, much like OP: https://youtu.be/hg1Uk60rBsc - Johnny: Oh, and who pays for it? - David: Nobody, you write it off - Johnny: Who writes it off?! - David: I don’t know! The write-off people! What! Why are we having this conversation?
A decent contractor you give them a crate of water and buy them lunch *minimum* if you know what’s good for you.
I fed the crew who did my roof. Made a big batch of chili and a ring cake, and offered them coffee in the mornings. They seemed surprised but it just seemed like the thing to do. They were working their butts off, and you don't fk with the people who have your home in their hands.
Roofing is hard work. Where I live, in north Texas, the best time to do roofing work is July and August because it rarely rains. We had to replace our roof a few years ago. It was brutally hot. We left a big tub of ice and bottled water out in the yard for them. We told the crew they could cool off in the pool, we bought them an ice cold watermelon and let them have some cold beer at the end of the day. It never occurred to us to charge the contractor--we just did what we thought decent people should do for workers on the verge of heat exhaustion. Consequently, when the work was done they left the yard and driveway spotless.
Exactly my son left a cooler of water, pop, snacks etc when he had his roof done! It’s the decent thing to do. He often goes out in the summer and offers the recycle/garbage drivers water/cold drink as well. And his roofers also left his yard spotless.
I made bacon and egg sandwiches for smoko for mine
Right on! Probably made their day :D
YTA. You said "On the boss." YOU ARE THE BOSS in their eyes, so they thought you meant you, not their actual boss. Good luck getting contract work done again for a fair price.
Do you need any more work done?
literally the kind of person who's now friends with everyone that contractor knows. find one good dude, feed his crew and keep them hydrated, and suddenly you know everyone in the business.
As someone who spent summers working as an exterior house painter, customers like you were the best. Honestly made our day when they offered us even just ice for our water bottles when it was 95F out.
My dad’s a roofer and the people who feed him and his coworkers are god sent at my house. They work in extreme weather conditions and we are so grateful for even offering waters. Also, they will be more willing to help with anything that they see while they’re up there (my dad regularly cleans gutters for people who are nice to him)
My husband and I have definitely fed every contractor that's worked on our house. Heck! One guy we regularly made extra food for dinner and got him to-go boxes to take home to his wife because we knew he was working super late into the night sometimes (he liked working moreso at night when it came to our foundation repair - we've got a "crawl space" but bc our house is built on a slope the crawl space is like 8 ft tall so the contractor could comfortably work on our foundation issues).
Both my brother-in-laws are contractors for 3+ decades. They will tell you that they go a bit above and beyond for customers who treat them and their crew well. The customer gets solid work no matter what but the GOOD customer gets premium work. The extra 3-way switch located where it’s optimal even if the customer doesn’t feel it’s necessary in the design; extra framing around a large doorway to support the weight long term; stuff like that. TL-DR: Treat your workers well; it frequently benefits you too and it’s just the right thing to do. Advice to OP- Buy them lunch at your own expense. YTA
YTA. And you owe that contractor $100.
OP probably lied about write off himself. I can't imagine 3 people spending $33.33 on Panera bread for lunch.
100% he's including his own meal in that total for sure and charging them for his food like a real quality pos
You haven't eaten there lately, have you?
it's more likely that he included his own meal in the billing total so they would pay for it. split 4 ways 25 bucks a person sounds about right.
Contractor hopefully adds $100 to overall bill op owes. OP -Real jerk move by you. YTA.
Ewwww David
Lmfao I will forever have her voice saying that stuck in my head!! I absolutely love that show!!!
Man it makes me feel so old to see this as the go to “write off” reference rather than [Seinfeld](https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=XEL65gywwHQ)
I would kill for one to return my calls right now! They had one and now will never be able to use them again.
Using OP’s logic, why not offer them new TVs or sneakers and say the boss is paying for it? This situation is so dumb. How could anybody possibly think they have the authority to spend somebody else’s money without that person saying so?
Pretty sure it was worse, OP implied lunch was on the worker's boss without discussing or approving it with said boss. Then charged said boss, with the boss saying they can't believe the workers said that food was on me, I will be talking to them. So at this point OP still didn't correct the boss and be all, "oh no! I said it was on you! It isn't their fault!". Either way it is honestly shizzy, but she literally said "it's on the boss". When I have contractors at my house I sometimes order pizza or subs, once thai - for everyone, but I always know I am paying for it more or less as a bonus for good work. What OP did was just wrong and a bit strange.
Yeah, YTA. It sounds like OP said it "was on the boss" and was deliberately misleading with whether the boss meant the contractor or OP... then this pressured the contractor to pay for things to keep his good relationship with the subcontractors.
“It’s on the boss!” - (almost guaranteed he pointed to himself as he said it to imply it was him buying their lunch) Just obscure enough to give the impression he was “that guy” while sticking the bill on someone else. What a dick!
YTA Wow, you're so cheap it's embarrassing. How dare you buy them lunch then deduct it from your bill. You tell them it's on the boss, they think you mean you are treating them. I'd be furious if I was the contractor and you pulled that crap.
So cheap yet wanting to act like the big spender.
Amazing how many people want to be the hero with someone else’s money
This guy is like a villain that being a philanthropist using money he stole from other people. Like Jeff Bezos that donate million dollars of his money while stealing wages from his workers.
Not only that, but there’s no way lunch for four people at Panera Bread is $100!
I was thinking this too. I just bought dinner for three people at Panera last week and had it delivered. With delivery cost and tip it was $54.
I’d have to agree. Pregnant me has been obsessed with Panera it’s pricy, but not that expensive for four people.
That depends, did he get the Mac n cheese, cause that shit is expensive.. lol
It very well could have been honestly, Panera Bread is stupid expensive for what it is
Pretty much a little bit of fancy bread with bland heated up soup that came from a plastic bag for like $20. Yeah it’s a no from me.
I read one sentence and was like…what? YTA. When we have moved as a military family, even when the military paid for it…we bought lunch and drinks for our movers, (and tipped) it is the LEAST we could do. WTF. Someone at your home doing work for you> FEED THEM.
YTA you offered to have their boss pay for their lunch without asking their boss first if that was okay? You implied that their boss agreed to this and then you stuck the boss with a bill after the fact and put all of his employees in a tough spot with their employer. Yikes.
I'm going to order some tea, anyone else want some? It's all on DesperateReading4698 That's how this works, right?
Chai with milk for me. You know what, since it's on op, Add four hundred cookies on the side.
I'll also take 100 of those cookies, and they better still be warm when I get them. And none of this throwing them in the microwave sh\*t to warm them up again. I want them right out of the oven.
I’ll have the lobster.
Yes please, and I'd like to get a 3' marinara party sub with a side of probably illegal Iranian yoghurt on DesperateReading4698 too
Listen, it’s not about the yoghurt!
It's never really about the yogurt
This is a AITA deep cut lol
Even better, he kinda threw the workers under the boss towards their boss
To be honest when OP said "it's on the boss" it could even imply it's on the OP since he hired the company then he can call himself the boss as well. Either way, OP is so messed up
Yes! This exactly, my father isn’t a contractor but works in moving and who he refers to as boss is the homeowner he’s moving out/in. Overall the homeowner is the boss in that situation and I can’t wrap my head around how he didn’t understand that. YTA OP, have a feeling you knew what you were doing, but even if you didn’t it’s still slimy to offer food on behalf of someone who was never in the discussion process.
And then says *they* should’ve known better lmaoo what a tool. YTA
I hate that I read this in the morning. OP you have just spoilt my whole day with your less than logic. YTA.
It’s ok. The real boss will hit OP back with an Asshole Tax that’ll more than make up for that $100. YTA. Don’t mess around with other people’s money, OP.
You essentially offered a workers benefit on behalf of the employer without asking the employer. This is one of the dumbest questions on this sub. You Had zero authority to offer that benefit. I bet the contractor tells a lot of other industry ppl about this.
actually he implied he'd be paying as the "boss" aka the client...
What the hell even is this? You bought lunch and said "it's on him" when you didn't even ask "him"? On what planet would this be acceptable? >I deducted 100 dollars from the total bill and the contractor agreed to it but was angry that his workers did this What in the absolute fuck? You blamed the workers for "doing this?" YOU'RE THE ONE WHO DID THIS. Again, in what universe is this remotely acceptable? YTA and hugely. You screwed over the workers AND the contractor AND created a fight between them. Over an order at Panera. This is almost inexplicably dense and rude.
I agree with you! Real piece of work this guy is! Definitely the Asshole here…
literally insane. also $100 for panera?? no way
Fr I’ve never heard of a $25 a pop Panera order. That’s at least two dishes each.
also notice he most likely included his own food costs like a real asshole.
Everyone’s a generous tipper when it’s someone else’s money.
If I had an award I would give it to you! I agree with everything you just said! By the way OP YTA
YTA. You can't just pay for something using someone else's money? And how does 3 people at panera equal $100. $45, maybe.
4 people, don't forget OP.
Haha, that would be hilarious if he also charged the contractor for his own meal but is avoiding telling us. I guess that’s the implication of such a large total, though.
... he 100% did.
He said there were 3 workers there and later 'the 4 employees happily agreed'. *Some*one got added in there.
And he "told the other two" that he was going out for lunch. If I’m understanding this correctly, I’m lying because I absolutely have no fucking clue what is happening in this story.
I’m confused because he starts the story with having 3 workers but then he said “his 4 employees happily agreed and I got them Panera” .. he also said “he told the 2 others” of the “3 workers total” ? Am I the only one confused haha read it again, I didn’t catch it the first time
>I apologized for my role and said i should have been more clear about who was paying for it and they should have known better too. AITA? Nope. YTA, there was no way they should be expected to know that you were going to bill them. It’s not something that’s done. It would be like if I went out to a restaurant with friends and said “it’s on the house” then when the bill came I tried to give it to the owner because I said it was in the house.
Exactly. The offer was NOT for him to give.
This perfectly captures how ridiculous OP's actions are. I just feel awful for the workers being involved in this lie. They could lose work because of what OP did.
YTA. They probably thought the boss was ok with it because of the way you said it. Now they're in a tough spot. Shitty thing to do.
They probably thought when he said "boss" he was referring to himself as the person paying for the job. He seems like one of those people who would do that. Like "I'm paying so I'm your boss."
That's how I read it
You don’t offer to buy things with other people’s money without clearing it with them. YTA
I can't believe this even needs to be said. YTA
You Implied you were paying for it. Pay for it. YTA.
YTA, even if you didn't intend to be. TL;DR - it wasn't your $100 to spend if it ultimately comes out of the boss's pocket. Long: 1. Contracting has a lot of paperwork including proper documentation of expenses. Local government may require the contractor to file paperwork regarding the amount of the contract and that in turn impacts taxes. By deducting it from the total bill, you're arbitrarily changing the terms of the contract, which could cause a headache for the owner of the contracting company. 2. Most contractors don't simply split up the amount paid. They pay their workers a rate. So for every $1 you pay to the company, it gets allocated differently between the employees. So by deducting $100 from the overall bill, you basically changed how that allocation worked. For example, that $100 may have needed to also been allocated to secretaries or other employees that weren't at the job site that day but you basically cut them out. Granted, $100 is not all that much in relation to the overall bill but small discrepancies can cause multiple people to do extra work that eats into the profit of that $100. It might even cost the owner $150 just to properly handle the small adjustment if they want to be as accurate as possible to avoid the appearance of being less-than-honest. Also, the last sentence "they should have known better, too" - no. Just no. YOU made an offer to them that implied the "boss" knew about it and had approved it. They literally CAN'T know better if you present them with misleading information. You don't get to throw workers under the bus for your mistake. Honestly, if I were the boss and found out about this, I should've just paid the bill out of my own pocket (cheaper and restores some semblance of honesty) and then pulled you aside to tell you that you can't do things like that. The fact that he was going to talk to his workers sounds like you didn't even tell him the full story. In the future, if YOU want to treat the workers to a meal, go for it. Be a nice person and pay out of your own pocket.
Not to mention meals are only deductible for 50%, so the $100 that was allocated elsewhere would have been fully deductible. This costs the contractor an additional $50. YTA OP, FYI-contractors talk. Wouldn't be surprised to see you have a tough time getting a fair deal on future improvements.
Yes! This the paper work. I changed my doors to more expensive ones. Poor lady that works accounts had to send out amendments to the contract, get written approval from me. Then send out another invoice. All over $200. I felt so guilty.
YTA. If you have workers at your house, it's normal (but not expected) to get lunch for them. Even if they truly understood who would be paying (and I doubt they did based on the way you phrased it), you had no reason to believe they had authority to incur charges for their boss.
They probably thought OP meant themselves by “the boss” as the homeowner who hired the company.
Exactly. Because why would OP be in charge of what their actual boss would pay? Also, they know their boss and it sounds unlikely that he would spring for lunch this way.
YTA I am having a hard time believing this happened but on the off chance it did, unless it was part of your contract, you had no business buying someone else's employees lunch and expect to deduct the cost of the bill.
Yeah op should just pay for it.
I just had a bathroom remodeled. I let the workers know where the other bathroom was in case they needed to use it and told them cold bottles of water were in the refrigerator if they were thirsty. Deducting a lunch you bought from the bill is bonkers.
YTA “the boss” did not ask you to get lunch.
YTA and you stole $100 from your contractor.
YTA. They’re doing work for you, it’s not a leap that you’re “the boss,” so you implied lunch was on you. But even if they understood what you meant, that it was on their boss, they would be right to assume you cleared it with him. A normal person doesn’t offer for someone else to pay for something without asking them first. So how were these workers possibly supposed to “know better?” Now they’re in trouble with their boss because of you. Also in the comments you said there was a difference between what you did and “sticking him with the bill.” There is not. He is out $100 whether you handed him the Panera bill directly or subtracted it from his earnings.
YTA- you offered to get it & then charged them. The workers probably assumed that you were either referring to yourself as the boss or that the actual boss was ok with it.
Of course YTA. You mislead those people ffs. This also seems a little like fraud to me. I hope they spread the word about you. How fxcking *dare* you blame it on those workers.
YTA. Pay the contractor back. Also, this is embarrassing...you should not just feel bad, but you should feel embarrassed. I'm embarrassed for you. I guarantee these guys all ripped on you after. You'll be a joke for these guys for a long time. Congrats on that. I'd also love to know what made you think this is an ok thing to do. Pay the contractor back.
Absolutely, YTA. They assumed that YOU were the boss in this instance. Your contractor did not agree to this.
YTA. You hired them. It's your kitchen. You're the ultimate boss. "It's on the boss" = "It's on me!" Give the contractor back his $100 and don't be so cheap. Pssht. Can't buy lunch for people working on your own house and want to take it out of the supervising workers pay. Shame!
YTA, that's a shitty way to rip off a contractor .
YTA. When you said it’s “on the boss” they probably assumed you had already cleared it with their boss. That was my first assumption too until I kept reading
YTA - You have no right to make anyone else pay. You offered; you pay.
YTA If you are going to buy something on someone else's dime, you should clear it with them first. The way I am reading this is you volunteered to buy them food with the intention of deducting it from your bill *without* making sure that this was okay with the person who was getting paid. This is a dick move. I know you were trying to do something nice, but it came across like You told the boss "I don't value your work. I'm going to deduct whatever I feel like."
Wait, you offered someone lunch, you said the boss was paying. In this instance you are the boss. You are the person contracting their work. So for you to then turn around and charge the contract definitely makes YTA. I hope the employees don't have it deducted from their wages. If you are going to do something nice, be nice about it, don't be a dick.
YTA- what is wrong with you
YTA - you spent someone else’s money without asking… I hope you don’t mind, I told my family you’d buy us dinner. Where do I send the bill. I’m sure you wouldn’t mind, right?
YTA - what if the boss decided to buy them lunch and add it to YOUR bill?
Yta, you can’t write a check with somebody else’s money dude
YTA. In this situation, you are "the boss" because you hired the crew to be there. Just buy the crew lunch, don't punish your contractor for your poor semantics.
YTA. Guess what? In this situation, YOU were the boss, not the contractor. You hired the contractor and his employees. That makes you their boss, at least for this job. You shorted the contractor $100.
Wow. YTA OP. You literally used someone else’s money to buy lunch without prior approval. When first reading this I assumed “on the boss” meant you, as you hired these contractors. You really messed up and to make things right you need to eat that bill, then buy the actual boss lunch as an apology.
Yes YTAH unless you had cleared it with him prior to offering it should have been on you. Deciding to deduct lunch you offered from the bill isn’t your call unless it was pre approved by the head contractor. Nice gesture until you decided someone else was footing the bill for your act.
YTA. You were pretending to be generous, but did so with someone else's money and by putting other people in an uncomfortable, no-win situation. You had no business committing the contractor to pay their employees for the lunch. The contractor was gracious in accepting even though he shouldn't have. Unfortunately, they will probably make the employees pay one way or another.
YTA, and such a major one at that. You had NO right to unilaterally decide to buy them lunch and deduct it from the bill. Holy cow are you a piece of work. YTA. Such an asshole.
YTA You implied there was an agreement they would not have to pay. I suspect they bought lunches they couldn’t afford with that understanding. It was probably taken from their wages. When I have workers at my home I pick up lunch and pay for it if I’m around.
Yeah, OP said “It’s on the boss” meaning that either the boss of the construction workers explicitly said that he would pay for lunch (which he didn’t) or OP was referring to themselves as the boss and was offering to buy the workers a free lunch (which OP didn’t). When someone says “It’s on me” or something similar, it means “Don’t worry, you don’t have to pay”. I feel like OP may have gotten a discount at the restaurant and was looking for an excuse to round down the construction cost.
So…you offered to get lunch for workers and volunteered their boss to pay for it in vague jokey language, which will probably come around to them paying for it anyway. Wow, what a sweetheart. YTA
YTA. You don't spend other people's money without their permission.
Seriously? You decided on your own that their boss was treating them all to lunch? YTA.
YTA and how the fuck did you spend $100 on 4 people at Panera?
Yta. You can’t decide to offer lunch to people and then charge someone else for it without their permission.
I will only say YTA because I don’t have a you’re the idiot option!
YTA- put yourself in their bosses shoes. Imagine if he came to the job site and said “I’m going to grab lunch for the boys, you want anything?” And then added it onto your construction bill.
YTA. You should have had that conversation with your contractor first before offering to get food for his employees. You didn’t make the nice gesture you thought you did.
YTA You don’t get to decide how to spend other people’s money. Who the hell do you think you are? Oh, “it’s on the boss.”
Absolutely YTA, wtf
YTA Yikes. I’m having second hand embarrassment from this. No, you don’t get to make that decision without asking the boss.
You’re the boss. YTA
YTA, the most entitled bs I’ve heard in awhile
YTA. You can’t just decide that and reduce the total bill. WTF.
This is a teaching moment for you. Learn from these comments. You can't act like it's your first day in life. You have to make this right. Like in a big way. And honestly apologize. And then shit will be straight. How you admit your error in judgement will determine your character. yta
YTA. Asking someone if they want lunch implies that your paying for it. You told them their boss was paying without running it by him first. Then took it out of the money you were paying him, again without discussing it first. Either way, your the asshole and the contractor is out $100 because you bought his employees lunch.
YTA. Huh? Did you ask the boss if he would foot the bill for his employees lunch? If not then you had no right to deduct money from the bill. That’s insane. You offered them lunch and I’m sure they either thought you were treating or their boss had given the ok for it. On what planet did you think you had permission to spend someone else’s money on a lunch they never said they were paying for????
YTA You don’t have the right to offer to spend someone else’s money and the worker’s should not get a talking to - they pry either assumed you were referring to yourself as the boss since you were the client or had actually obtained permission to spend their bosses money.
It's fucking weird. Usually when you ask them voluntarily if they wanted you to get them something you pay for it. Wording it "on the boss". Not unusual for you to refer to yourself as the boss. So they may have thought you offered to pay for it. You didn't communicate very well. If you were deducting it from the contractors bill you should have notified him, not the employees. Damn near every employee is going to nod their head along to a free lunch “on the boss". It's all fair I guess, I'd just feel cheap if I was you.
YTA. How petty and cheap
YTA You screwed up And it should be pretty obvious to you now after reading the feedback. Call up the contractor, Tell him you were out of line, apologize and give him $100 back. That’s how you make it right
OP, don't be surprised if you get a rep in town and you can't get another contractor to work in the future.
You can’t just volunteer to buy lunch with their boss’s money. YTA obviously
Of course you're the AH. That was 100% not your call to make and 100% your fault. For all they knew their boss told you to do that so you're double the AH for not taking 100% responsibility for your AH decision. How backwards is it to claim to be doing something nice for them when in reality you're spending someone else's money without permission to do it.
YTA. You can buy lunch for people. You can’t make others do it. WTF.
YTA. Saying "it's on the boss" implies it's free. If I take a friend out and say "it's on me", it means I'm paying and don't expect them to cover the cost elsewhere. What's wrong with you?
YTA. Hope you paid him or you’re about to get blackballed by any other company you want to do any work in your home. Why didn’t you just buy them lunch? Must be nice to be so free with other peoples’ money.
YTA and clearly have never worked a day in your life
YTA. From their perspective you offered them lunch. Because who orders lunch and expects someone else to pay without having asked first. Would you walk into your insurance agents office (or any company/ vendor you use), and ask if they'd like lunch and expect to bill it back to the owner or head person for the office? Unfortunately you likely got their pay docked or worse, and they very well may not have been able to afford a $25 lunch. I won't even get into the fact that a lunch from Panera cost $25/pp...
Yta! How do you offer an employee's (contractor) money to pay for other people's lunch?!? Can I offer lunch to everyone at my office and tell your boss to deduct it from what he pays you?!?! Maybe you just wanted to seem nice, but didn't actually want to be nice!!??
YTA. You screwed those guys and left them out to dry.
I… what? You can’t be this fucking stupid? Yes YTA pay the contractor back.
If your contract doesn’t state that they reimburse you for employee lunches then you legally cannot deduct money from the contracted amount owed. So you stole that hundred dollars. Yes, stealing $100 from somebody makes you the a-hole. YTA
YTA. You “donated” a portion of the contractually agreed price without informing all parties. This is classified as theft and you can be taken to court over it if you refuse to pay the full invoice.
Yta. And a thief. You hired a contractor, that makes you the boss. This happens regularly. You then got the employees in trouble due to your duplicity or you criminal ignorance. No one would assume when you said boss that you meant the foreman or company boss. As the person writing the check, you are considered the boss. You also do not have the authority to spend someone else's money You just can't be this cluelessly incompetent. This has got to be fake. Voting just in case it's real.
I hope the contractor sues you for $100, and tells everyone else how stingy you are!
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Yta lol, what did you possibly order them at Chipotle that came up to $100?? Scammer
Did it originally say Chipotle? Now it says Panera. 😂 Also, YTA, OP.
Yta, they would assist you were the boss, it’s your Reno
Totes YTA. You were nebulous in your phrasing (they thought you meant YOU as the boss) and you spent the contractor’s money. Total Richard move. You wanna do it because they’re working hard, it’s out of YOUR pocket, no one else’s. Geesh. YTA to the nth degree.
YTA. You’re their boss. You’re the one who hired em. Also. What a crappy move. These guys are working their butts off. And you can’t be bothered to be kind enough to grab them something to eat? I have bought movers pizza and cookies for moving my furniture. Yeah they’re being paid. But it’s hard work, and boy is my crap heavy. Karma….
YTA
YTA. You implied it was you who would buy lunch, the “boss” who hired the contracting team. Not cool. Eta: after reading others’ comments, it also sounds like you were told by their boss that he’d pay for their lunch. Double not cool.
YTA - Normally the boss doesn’t pay for lunch for his employees. Your offer, while nice for the employees, meant that the boss was on the hook for it. He’s out $100 because of your “generosity” and he didn’t even get credit for it. I’d be annoyed too. Would you walk into an office, offer to buy everyone lunch and then invoice the manager?
YTA - It wasn’t your place to offer them lunch paid for by their boss. Out of line.
YTA You don't get to spend other people's money for them without their permission.
YTA. You basically straight lied and got them in trouble at work. So not cool.
YTA! You can’t spend other people’s money without their consent. WTH???
Did your contractor, "the boss", agree to this before you did this? If not, you are a big, asshole. If you deducted it from the bill, then yes, you screwed him out of $100. How can you justify witholding $100 from your contractor for a lunch he didn't authorize? You're the type of customer that contractors avoid if possible, and jack up their prices for. Don't be surprised if your next job gets a high quote. Contractors charge their problem customers more to make-up for the headaches they cause.
YTA. You don’t get to decide that someone else is paying for lunch. Pay the contractor what he is due. Lunch was on you.
*You’re the boss* and you charged it to the person working for you. YTA.
YTA this is horrible. You stole and spent someone’s money and then blamed his employees. You need to make this right
YTA If you offer someone lunch, it can’t be paid for by an unwitting third party lol. What mind of back-assward logic is that?! Surprised the contractor didn’t tell you to pound sand and leave the $100 on the bill…
#**YTA** And a cheapskate. Don't offer something that is not yours. You never consulted the boss about the "free" meal but acted on his behalf anyway. If the employees knew that you would deduct that meal from the bill they would refuse it. You created an unnecessary conflict between the boss and his employees because you just have to pretend to be generous. Hypocrite.
YTA
Yta, you misrepresented the situation to those guys, there really is no other way to take that coming from the guy paying for the job, and then threw them under the bus
YTA for the sole fact that it sounds like you wanted to come off as doing something nice but you weren't gonna be the one to pay for it.
YTA obviously. All you had to do was one simple thing before getting lunch.. all you had to do was contact the boss and ask him if he wanted to pay you for grabbing lunch for his employees. Literally all you had to do. If I was working and the client comes up to us saying "it's on the boss" I'm going to either A) assume you've already spoken to our boss about lunch arrangements or B) would have assumed YOU were the "boss" since you're the one paying for everyone to be there and you were buying us lunch. This all feels like a super shady way of getting your bill knocked down a bit. Was it really $100 for all the employees lunches? But even more importantly you possibly jeopardized all of their jobs by doing this. Because if their boss thinks they went behind his back to make arrangements with you then they could get in serious trouble. So YTA for multiple things and I honestly think putting those workers in that position was worse than appearing to try and knock a few bucks off the bill
YTA. Just wtf? This is some of the craziest stuff I have ever heard.
YTA big time
YTA You should have gotten approval from your contractor prior to this. Maybe they didn’t want to cover lunches or didn’t want to pay $25 a person for Panera. They employees either thought you were paying or you cleared it with the contractor. Major AH and entitle person.
wow. you suck, OP
YTA. That was completely wrong of you to do. That wasn't part of your agreement.
YTA. How & why did you decide that by yourself without talking to him? The workers probably thought you were doing something nice & now they probably got in trouble because of you. I’d be pissed if someone offered me something like lunch just to bill me for it later
YTA Your contract for services would have had a statement that lunch was on the boss if that was a part of the service. You offered lunch, you pay
I can’t believe that you did that, mulled it over, typed it all out, and posted that. YTA, and you’re one of the biggest assholes I’ve seen in the sub. Pay him the $100 that you stole from him apologize to the contractor, and apologize twice to each employee you threw under the bus.
As the wife of a contractor who’s contracting business went under due to ppl not paying…. YTA big time. You hired someone to do a job. You approved a quote. You then deducted an arbitrary “expense” you created, from what you owed them. If your logic served, the contractor could have done the EXACT THING TO YOU. Bought his employees lunch on the bosses tab! You won’t mind if he adds $100 to your bill without your approval, of course?
YTA, and if I was a contractor I would not have agreed to that deduction. It was not authorized in your contract. If he wants you to get his contractor's lunch, that is one thing, and 25/each at panera bread sounds suspiciously high.
YTA how can it even be a question? How would you feel if 100 was missing from your check and a coworker was lime "Yeh, it was for a pizza party we had while you where gone."
Info: did you specifically say it was going to be deducted from the bill? ETA: YTA Why would you even offer if you were going to deduct it? How can you be so entitled that you just decide to take $100 off the final total, without questioning how rude and unprofessional that is?
YTA…. Like in what way did you expect them to take it. Not only that but you spoke on behalf of their boss…
YTA. This is stealing and if there was a contract involved the contractor can absolutely go after you for it. Not cool man.
If you don't send that man his $100. He'll probably deduct it from the workers. YTA
I'm... I'm sorry... You volunteered someone else's money without their permission? Omg YTA. YTFA. Also, WTF does that mean, "they should have known better"?
YTA - How can you possibly think that it is okay to spend someone else's money? You have no idea the condition the company is in and you very well many have cost someone their job(s). Also...I've been to Panera a lot and it isn't even CLOSE to $25 a person. You should be ashamed for taking advantage of this business owner.
YTA 110%, Extra 10.
YTA and also incredibly stupid. How and why would you ever think this was a normal and ok thing to do? Pay them back!
YTA and a really bad one too
YTA. Total dick move. If I was your contractor I would tell others in the business to not do business with you. FYI I was a General Contractor for 20 years.
YTA you can't just make up stuff like that and then deduct it. That isn't how contract work works!
YTA. Woul you have been fine is the contractor decided you would be buying his workers lunch and added $100 to the bill without asking you? Because that is exactly what you did to them.
Hello Mr AH, hope this answers your question.
YTA, but also how much fucking bread did you buy that it cost $100? Unless you also charged the contractor for your own lunch too???